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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Metal health is taking a battering and it looks as though another full lockdown looms.
It's hard when alone.
Being isolated, depressed, worried, lack of motivation, needing a friend or a chat.
I would like anyone who is suffering to reach out for help on this thread.
Do not suffer in silence.
If you need help, advice, a chat, a listening ear or just some silly jokes etc please say so.
You all know me as being stupid, but I have a very sensible side also, so I'm offering help to those who need it and I hope others offer their services also.
I have active message filters, but I can message you from this thread to break the filter so we can message.
Please ask for help if you need it.
Cindi x
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By *nique_78Woman
over a year ago
Home, somewhere in Norfolk |
Cindi, you're awesome hun!
Very few are willing to acknowledge mental health let alone offer to interact with those whom may be struggling.
 thanks and hugs to you and anyone you may be of help to ?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What a truly kind and wonderful thing to post .
Our mental wellbeing in times like these is such an important thing.
I practice mindfulness, it changed my life from a very dark place 8 years ago .
One thing it teaches you is to be as compassionate with your self as you are with others
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We now have a full stay at home legal requirement order.
I thought this was coming following the Scottish announcement today which is also why I made this thread.
If anyone needs to reach out, I urge you to.
Cindi x
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By *rhugesMan
over a year ago
Cardiff |
My friend who had depression killed herself just before Christmas, the mental health help in the UK is none exisent!!!
I am really struggling to understand why the government is ignoring this huge problem!!! |
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"My friend who had depression killed herself just before Christmas, the mental health help in the UK is none exisent!!!
I am really struggling to understand why the government is ignoring this huge problem!!!"
It's dreadful.
I wish I had some answers I really do.
I'm not a fan of the government but I do think their hands are tied wherever they turn.
Covid is claiming more victims than those who die within 28 days of a positive test, yet still, people have been flouting the rules and here we are once more.
Square one but with a jab that will take years to roll out
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Please remember your not alone. There are many on the end of phone lines. I know that even tik tok has it's own groups doing check ups for mental health reasons.
My inbox is always open and I will always reply when I can.. always have done.
Please remember to be kind and thoughtful.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"My friend who had depression killed herself just before Christmas, the mental health help in the UK is none exisent!!!
I am really struggling to understand why the government is ignoring this huge problem!!!"
I'm sorry you experienced that, my thoughts are with you. A terrible thing to happen.
Ive suffered with mental health all my life and I hope I can help others, as others have helped me.
It's a massive problem.
Prince William has been trying for years to raise more awareness and I'm just as dumfounded as you at the government response to it.
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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago
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I'm not afraid to admit that my anxiety is pretty high again today. I've been working at home since 14th March last year, can't see my family because of their health status's, had to spend my 40th birthday completely alone. I managed to get by without a bubble but I could really feckin do with a buddy right now.
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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago
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"I'm not afraid to admit that my anxiety is pretty high again today. I've been working at home since 14th March last year, can't see my family because of their health status's, had to spend my 40th birthday completely alone. I managed to get by without a bubble but I could really feckin do with a buddy right now.
Just taking each minute at a time right now "
Ooh I forgot to say thanks OP! Feels a little better saying all that out loud  |
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"I'm not afraid to admit that my anxiety is pretty high again today. I've been working at home since 14th March last year, can't see my family because of their health status's, had to spend my 40th birthday completely alone. I managed to get by without a bubble but I could really feckin do with a buddy right now.
Just taking each minute at a time right now
Ooh I forgot to say thanks OP! Feels a little better saying all that out loud "
Talking about anxiety does help sometimes, even if it is something that feels daunting |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm not afraid to admit that my anxiety is pretty high again today. I've been working at home since 14th March last year, can't see my family because of their health status's, had to spend my 40th birthday completely alone. I managed to get by without a bubble but I could really feckin do with a buddy right now.
Just taking each minute at a time right now "
Taking a day at a time is all we can do.
I've been isolated since March also so I know your pain.
I found it helps me not to watch the news, instead I fill my mind with happy thoughts and act a fool on here. Laughter is good medicine.
Do you have a good routine to your day?
Eat at set times, have a little exercise with some fresh air?
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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago
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"I'm not afraid to admit that my anxiety is pretty high again today. I've been working at home since 14th March last year, can't see my family because of their health status's, had to spend my 40th birthday completely alone. I managed to get by without a bubble but I could really feckin do with a buddy right now.
Just taking each minute at a time right now
Ooh I forgot to say thanks OP! Feels a little better saying all that out loud
Talking about anxiety does help sometimes, even if it is something that feels daunting "
It took me a mental health breakdown in 2019 to be brave enough to admit to people how I'm feeling but now I know when I need to say something to someone. Thank you x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Such nice words , two years ago I was sat on a bridge waiting for a lorry to drive past ,was pulled back by the police , do you know the help I got ? A web site to join , I’ve not seen or heard from any one , no wonder our country has such a high suicide rate , remember it’s good to talk even to a stranger, just a hello helps |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Lovely thread, I’m struggling to keep my sons going and be strong for them. But I’m so bad at asking for help myself. A hug would be wonderful x "
Sending a massive hug and some cake also 
Don't feel bad about asking for help, once you've done it once it's easier there on.
It's a good community here.
We will all help eachother in these dark times
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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago
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"I'm not afraid to admit that my anxiety is pretty high again today. I've been working at home since 14th March last year, can't see my family because of their health status's, had to spend my 40th birthday completely alone. I managed to get by without a bubble but I could really feckin do with a buddy right now.
Just taking each minute at a time right now
Taking a day at a time is all we can do.
I've been isolated since March also so I know your pain.
I found it helps me not to watch the news, instead I fill my mind with happy thoughts and act a fool on here. Laughter is good medicine.
Do you have a good routine to your day?
Eat at set times, have a little exercise with some fresh air?
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Oh yes I didn't watch the news for many years before this but all day the negative feelings gave been swirling about. I'll be ok, I just appreciated your lovely open door post
And Mondays are always my busiest work days so find it helps to browse the forums sometimes to distract myself before sleep
Thank you xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Such nice words , two years ago I was sat on a bridge waiting for a lorry to drive past ,was pulled back by the police , do you know the help I got ? A web site to join , I’ve not seen or heard from any one , no wonder our country has such a high suicide rate , remember it’s good to talk even to a stranger, just a hello helps"
I've had 3 failed suicide attempts.
It's not something I speak of much, but I say it now to show you are not alone.
But we are here now, chatting and saying hello
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By *aveed74Man
over a year ago
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"Metal health is taking a battering and it looks as though another full lockdown looms.
It's hard when alone.
Being isolated, depressed, worried, lack of motivation, needing a friend or a chat.
I would like anyone who is suffering to reach out for help on this thread.
Do not suffer in silence.
If you need help, advice, a chat, a listening ear or just some silly jokes etc please say so.
You all know me as being stupid, but I have a very sensible side also, so I'm offering help to those who need it and I hope others offer their services also.
I have active message filters, but I can message you from this thread to break the filter so we can message.
Please ask for help if you need it.
Cindi x
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What an awesome example of humanity! Respect to you x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm not afraid to admit that my anxiety is pretty high again today. I've been working at home since 14th March last year, can't see my family because of their health status's, had to spend my 40th birthday completely alone. I managed to get by without a bubble but I could really feckin do with a buddy right now.
Just taking each minute at a time right now
Taking a day at a time is all we can do.
I've been isolated since March also so I know your pain.
I found it helps me not to watch the news, instead I fill my mind with happy thoughts and act a fool on here. Laughter is good medicine.
Do you have a good routine to your day?
Eat at set times, have a little exercise with some fresh air?
Oh yes I didn't watch the news for many years before this but all day the negative feelings gave been swirling about. I'll be ok, I just appreciated your lovely open door post
And Mondays are always my busiest work days so find it helps to browse the forums sometimes to distract myself before sleep
Thank you xx"
That's good
I hope you have a good sleep and dream lots of weird and wonderful things
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Lovely thread, I’m struggling to keep my sons going and be strong for them. But I’m so bad at asking for help myself. A hug would be wonderful x
Sending a massive hug and some cake also
Don't feel bad about asking for help, once you've done it once it's easier there on.
It's a good community here.
We will all help eachother in these dark times
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Thanks Cindi |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My psychosis is bad. Need a medication review but that means making a bunch of phone calls that I really struggle with due to having a telephone phobia.
I really miss being able to go online and book a face to face appointment with my doctor and just go and sit and talk to him. I need that connection.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"My psychosis is bad. Need a medication review but that means making a bunch of phone calls that I really struggle with due to having a telephone phobia.
I really miss being able to go online and book a face to face appointment with my doctor and just go and sit and talk to him. I need that connection. "
I agree. I find a face to face easier also as I tend to talk more openly.
Are they able to do a video call facility to make it a bit more personal so you can see him on the screen, rather than a phone call?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Such nice words , two years ago I was sat on a bridge waiting for a lorry to drive past ,was pulled back by the police , do you know the help I got ? A web site to join , I’ve not seen or heard from any one , no wonder our country has such a high suicide rate , remember it’s good to talk even to a stranger, just a hello helps"
U feel like saying im a name, not just a number. Its accessing the right ppl at the right time - elusive in my experience.
Big hugs to u (heart) |
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By *oxesMan
over a year ago
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"Metal health is taking a battering and it looks as though another full lockdown looms.
It's hard when alone.
Being isolated, depressed, worried, lack of motivation, needing a friend or a chat.
I would like anyone who is suffering to reach out for help on this thread.
Do not suffer in silence.
If you need help, advice, a chat, a listening ear or just some silly jokes etc please say so.
You all know me as being stupid, but I have a very sensible side also, so I'm offering help to those who need it and I hope others offer their services also.
I have active message filters, but I can message you from this thread to break the filter so we can message.
Please ask for help if you need it.
Cindi x
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I fully support this thread, if you are in desperate need of help do not be afraid to talk to a psychologist they are not just there to fix you that is a minority thing they do they are there to help with your general wellbeing, performance etc. |
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"I'm not afraid to admit that my anxiety is pretty high again today. I've been working at home since 14th March last year, can't see my family because of their health status's, had to spend my 40th birthday completely alone. I managed to get by without a bubble but I could really feckin do with a buddy right now.
Just taking each minute at a time right now "
I'm in the same boat so feel free to pm me. |
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"Such nice words , two years ago I was sat on a bridge waiting for a lorry to drive past ,was pulled back by the police , do you know the help I got ? A web site to join , I’ve not seen or heard from any one , no wonder our country has such a high suicide rate , remember it’s good to talk even to a stranger, just a hello helps"
Oh, gosh. So sorry to read this. So very glad you're still here. Talk to us anytime. Never feel that way again. Xx |
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See and this why this community is fantastic.
Those that are able to and are struggling with feeling alone...volunteer... your local area will have loads of people needing help.
Also right now they are desperately seeking people to train to do the vaccinations. You don't need as much as you think to do it...
But please remember to reach out to at least one person daily.
I also found during the first lockdown that just a socially distanced chat in a queue could make a difference if not to you then someone else.
There are lots of things you can volunteer or do to lift moods...
Xx |
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Cindy, you're a doll!
I'm like you, laughing & being silly is a distraction to the anxiety & the worries in my head.
You've certainly helped me over the last few months.
Even if just one person reaches out with a "Hi, how are you today?" It helps.
You're all lovely people x |
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"See and this why this community is fantastic.
Those that are able to and are struggling with feeling alone...volunteer... your local area will have loads of people needing help.
Also right now they are desperately seeking people to train to do the vaccinations. You don't need as much as you think to do it...
But please remember to reach out to at least one person daily.
I also found during the first lockdown that just a socially distanced chat in a queue could make a difference if not to you then someone else.
There are lots of things you can volunteer or do to lift moods...
Xx"
This x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Thankyou for this post, taking a lot of strength from it. Been out of work over 20 months now, havn't seen daughter for a year and often feel low.
Getting strength form this forum though xx"
I'm sorry for your situation.
I'm pleased the forum is helping you, and I'm happy others have said their message doors are open also.
Please feel free to call for help as and when you need it, in any way.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Such nice words , two years ago I was sat on a bridge waiting for a lorry to drive past ,was pulled back by the police , do you know the help I got ? A web site to join , I’ve not seen or heard from any one , no wonder our country has such a high suicide rate , remember it’s good to talk even to a stranger, just a hello helps"
Horrible to read that J, hope you’ve got some help since although I know mental health services vary a lot depending where you live. It’s clear there’s a lot of good souls on this forum who’d lend you their ears and you can add me to that list. |
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"Such nice words , two years ago I was sat on a bridge waiting for a lorry to drive past ,was pulled back by the police , do you know the help I got ? A web site to join , I’ve not seen or heard from any one , no wonder our country has such a high suicide rate , remember it’s good to talk even to a stranger, just a hello helps
I've had 3 failed suicide attempts.
It's not something I speak of much, but I say it now to show you are not alone.
But we are here now, chatting and saying hello
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Wow takes a big person to just come out with that.
Hat off to you and respect where respect is due.
I did ask for a mental health foram but now think admin was right the Lounge is probably the best place am also happy to chat to any one how needs it.
thinking of spring it's not that long look forward not back. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Great to see posts like this. Great timing Cindi.
Fab is also a wonderful caring community and I just love it when we support each other like this.
Her x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Such nice words , two years ago I was sat on a bridge waiting for a lorry to drive past ,was pulled back by the police , do you know the help I got ? A web site to join , I’ve not seen or heard from any one , no wonder our country has such a high suicide rate , remember it’s good to talk even to a stranger, just a hello helps
I've had 3 failed suicide attempts.
It's not something I speak of much, but I say it now to show you are not alone.
But we are here now, chatting and saying hello
Wow takes a big person to just come out with that.
Hat off to you and respect where respect is due.
I did ask for a mental health foram but now think admin was right the Lounge is probably the best place am also happy to chat to any one how needs it.
thinking of spring it's not that long look forward not back."
Exactly, that's a great attitude to have.
It's hard now, but we have hope.
As mentioned the vaccine is being rolled out.
It will get better, keep the faith and in the meantime we have eachother here
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Great post...
Not reached the suicide line yet but so much has happened in the past 6 months ....it has pushed my anxiety to the limit.
The person I relied on in the real world has disappeared and I cant fill that damn void...doesn't help that I've started to hate my job....line manager is a micro manager, shoots first and then asks questions...wont let go of the smallest of issues.
Logging on tomorrow after the Christmas holidays and I've spent today and yesterday dreading tomorrow...this is not how I expected my life to be like...fell like a complete failure... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think about killing myself all the time, theres no help thats any good help for people who live on the edge all the time.. 1 day im just going to give up |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Great post...
Not reached the suicide line yet but so much has happened in the past 6 months ....it has pushed my anxiety to the limit.
The person I relied on in the real world has disappeared and I cant fill that damn void...doesn't help that I've started to hate my job....line manager is a micro manager, shoots first and then asks questions...wont let go of the smallest of issues.
Logging on tomorrow after the Christmas holidays and I've spent today and yesterday dreading tomorrow...this is not how I expected my life to be like...fell like a complete failure..."
It doesn't sound like your a failure to me.
Some unfortunate experiences with other people and I'm sorry you lost your confident who was there for you.
Anxiety is really tough to live with and I used to over analyse everything. It make you worry and panic, always thinking the worst.
Do you have family you can talk to? |
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"Great post...
Not reached the suicide line yet but so much has happened in the past 6 months ....it has pushed my anxiety to the limit.
The person I relied on in the real world has disappeared and I cant fill that damn void...doesn't help that I've started to hate my job....line manager is a micro manager, shoots first and then asks questions...wont let go of the smallest of issues.
Logging on tomorrow after the Christmas holidays and I've spent today and yesterday dreading tomorrow...this is not how I expected my life to be like...fell like a complete failure...
It doesn't sound like your a failure to me.
Some unfortunate experiences with other people and I'm sorry you lost your confident who was there for you.
Anxiety is really tough to live with and I used to over analyse everything. It make you worry and panic, always thinking the worst.
Do you have family you can talk to?"
Also, can you speak to HR in confidence? I've been there with a tw@t of a boss more than once.
Don't accept it. They're in the wrong. Please speak up xxx |
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"We now have a full stay at home legal requirement order.
I thought this was coming following the Scottish announcement today which is also why I made this thread.
If anyone needs to reach out, I urge you to.
Cindi x
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Very thoughtful message Cindi x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think about killing myself all the time, theres no help thats any good help for people who live on the edge all the time.. 1 day im just going to give up"
The professional help is sometimes lacking.
But I'm pleased you commented here. You have reached out and shared your feelings which is an important step.
Would you like to talk via message? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Metal health is taking a battering and it looks as though another full lockdown looms.
It's hard when alone.
Being isolated, depressed, worried, lack of motivation, needing a friend or a chat.
I would like anyone who is suffering to reach out for help on this thread.
Do not suffer in silence.
If you need help, advice, a chat, a listening ear or just some silly jokes etc please say so.
You all know me as being stupid, but I have a very sensible side also, so I'm offering help to those who need it and I hope others offer their services also.
I have active message filters, but I can message you from this thread to break the filter so we can message.
Please ask for help if you need it.
Cindi x
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I too will offer an ear or a shoulder to lean on.
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That's so nice...we all need a little help from time to time...I live alone and have family/friends but don't see them due to covid...on here is like a social hub to chat even if not in a sexual context...Nice one Cindy  it's good to talk!! x |
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"Great post...
Not reached the suicide line yet but so much has happened in the past 6 months ....it has pushed my anxiety to the limit.
The person I relied on in the real world has disappeared and I cant fill that damn void...doesn't help that I've started to hate my job....line manager is a micro manager, shoots first and then asks questions...wont let go of the smallest of issues.
Logging on tomorrow after the Christmas holidays and I've spent today and yesterday dreading tomorrow...this is not how I expected my life to be like...fell like a complete failure...
It doesn't sound like your a failure to me.
Some unfortunate experiences with other people and I'm sorry you lost your confident who was there for you.
Anxiety is really tough to live with and I used to over analyse everything. It make you worry and panic, always thinking the worst.
Do you have family you can talk to?"
Yeah, I have family I can speak with about this...parents are understanding about it all but they have their own issues and I really dont want to burden them with my crap.
Snap about anxiety-how did you deal with it? I was going to buy herbal tablets but really dont to rely on them 100%... |
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"Great post...
Not reached the suicide line yet but so much has happened in the past 6 months ....it has pushed my anxiety to the limit.
The person I relied on in the real world has disappeared and I cant fill that damn void...doesn't help that I've started to hate my job....line manager is a micro manager, shoots first and then asks questions...wont let go of the smallest of issues.
Logging on tomorrow after the Christmas holidays and I've spent today and yesterday dreading tomorrow...this is not how I expected my life to be like...fell like a complete failure...
It doesn't sound like your a failure to me.
Some unfortunate experiences with other people and I'm sorry you lost your confident who was there for you.
Anxiety is really tough to live with and I used to over analyse everything. It make you worry and panic, always thinking the worst.
Do you have family you can talk to?
Also, can you speak to HR in confidence? I've been there with a tw@t of a boss more than once.
Don't accept it. They're in the wrong. Please speak up xxx"
They are as useful as a handbrake on a ship. A colleague of mine voiced his opinion and the senior manager was all over him like a rash. |
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"I think about killing myself all the time, theres no help thats any good help for people who live on the edge all the time.. 1 day im just going to give up
The professional help is sometimes lacking.
But I'm pleased you commented here. You have reached out and shared your feelings which is an important step.
Would you like to talk via message?"
I know face to face is best but these are phone support services which should be 24hr
Samaritans 116 123
CALM (for men) 0800 585858
Hopeline UK 0800 0684141
AssistLine 0800 6895652
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"Great post...
Not reached the suicide line yet but so much has happened in the past 6 months ....it has pushed my anxiety to the limit.
The person I relied on in the real world has disappeared and I cant fill that damn void...doesn't help that I've started to hate my job....line manager is a micro manager, shoots first and then asks questions...wont let go of the smallest of issues.
Logging on tomorrow after the Christmas holidays and I've spent today and yesterday dreading tomorrow...this is not how I expected my life to be like...fell like a complete failure...
It doesn't sound like your a failure to me.
Some unfortunate experiences with other people and I'm sorry you lost your confident who was there for you.
Anxiety is really tough to live with and I used to over analyse everything. It make you worry and panic, always thinking the worst.
Do you have family you can talk to?
Also, can you speak to HR in confidence? I've been there with a tw@t of a boss more than once.
Don't accept it. They're in the wrong. Please speak up xxx
They are as useful as a handbrake on a ship. A colleague of mine voiced his opinion and the senior manager was all over him like a rash."
Oh, crap. I guess it depends where you work. It can be so soul destroying. I hope you can come to some resolution xxx |
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"Great post...
Not reached the suicide line yet but so much has happened in the past 6 months ....it has pushed my anxiety to the limit.
The person I relied on in the real world has disappeared and I cant fill that damn void...doesn't help that I've started to hate my job....line manager is a micro manager, shoots first and then asks questions...wont let go of the smallest of issues.
Logging on tomorrow after the Christmas holidays and I've spent today and yesterday dreading tomorrow...this is not how I expected my life to be like...fell like a complete failure...
It doesn't sound like your a failure to me.
Some unfortunate experiences with other people and I'm sorry you lost your confident who was there for you.
Anxiety is really tough to live with and I used to over analyse everything. It make you worry and panic, always thinking the worst.
Do you have family you can talk to?
Also, can you speak to HR in confidence? I've been there with a tw@t of a boss more than once.
Don't accept it. They're in the wrong. Please speak up xxx
They are as useful as a handbrake on a ship. A colleague of mine voiced his opinion and the senior manager was all over him like a rash.
Oh, crap. I guess it depends where you work. It can be so soul destroying. I hope you can come to some resolution xxx"
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Yeah, I have family I can speak with about this...parents are understanding about it all but they have their own issues and I really dont want to burden them with my crap.
Snap about anxiety-how did you deal with it? I was going to buy herbal tablets but really dont to rely on them 100%..."
We sound very similar.
My sister lives in Canada, my 2yr old niece is about to go in for surgery to remove a brain tumor and she may lose mobility.
I too can't speak to my parents as I feel my issues are insignificant compared to what they are going through.
My coping mechanism is strange and it may not work for all, nor is it recommended. It's just that it works for me personally and the professionals haven't helped me, nor has any medication. This is just how I deal with my problems at the moment.
I pretend the problem doesn't exist. I bottle it up, distract myself, act silly on the forum, always laughing, silliness, as a counter balance.
Then about once a week I have a good cry and get all the emotion out of me. It's like a cleansing process. And I continue to be silly etc.
As I said, bottling up problems isn't good, I just find it works for me at present till I know how things work out with my niece, then I can pester my parents with it all.
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"That's so nice...we all need a little help from time to time...I live alone and have family/friends but don't see them due to covid...on here is like a social hub to chat even if not in a sexual context...Nice one Cindy it's good to talk!! x"
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Yeah, I have family I can speak with about this...parents are understanding about it all but they have their own issues and I really dont want to burden them with my crap.
Snap about anxiety-how did you deal with it? I was going to buy herbal tablets but really dont to rely on them 100%...
We sound very similar.
My sister lives in Canada, my 2yr old niece is about to go in for surgery to remove a brain tumor and she may lose mobility.
I too can't speak to my parents as I feel my issues are insignificant compared to what they are going through.
My coping mechanism is strange and it may not work for all, nor is it recommended. It's just that it works for me personally and the professionals haven't helped me, nor has any medication. This is just how I deal with my problems at the moment.
I pretend the problem doesn't exist. I bottle it up, distract myself, act silly on the forum, always laughing, silliness, as a counter balance.
Then about once a week I have a good cry and get all the emotion out of me. It's like a cleansing process. And I continue to be silly etc.
As I said, bottling up problems isn't good, I just find it works for me at present till I know how things work out with my niece, then I can pester my parents with it all.
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Fingers crossed for your niece-I hope it all goes well for her.
When is the op? X |
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Yeah, I have family I can speak with about this...parents are understanding about it all but they have their own issues and I really dont want to burden them with my crap.
Snap about anxiety-how did you deal with it? I was going to buy herbal tablets but really dont to rely on them 100%...
We sound very similar.
My sister lives in Canada, my 2yr old niece is about to go in for surgery to remove a brain tumor and she may lose mobility.
I too can't speak to my parents as I feel my issues are insignificant compared to what they are going through.
My coping mechanism is strange and it may not work for all, nor is it recommended. It's just that it works for me personally and the professionals haven't helped me, nor has any medication. This is just how I deal with my problems at the moment.
I pretend the problem doesn't exist. I bottle it up, distract myself, act silly on the forum, always laughing, silliness, as a counter balance.
Then about once a week I have a good cry and get all the emotion out of me. It's like a cleansing process. And I continue to be silly etc.
As I said, bottling up problems isn't good, I just find it works for me at present till I know how things work out with my niece, then I can pester my parents with it all.
Fingers crossed for your niece-I hope it all goes well for her.
When is the op? X"
Sometime this month. So it's fingers crossed time.
Life is shit at times, but talking helps, which is why I did this thread.
But it's not about me
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Yeah, I have family I can speak with about this...parents are understanding about it all but they have their own issues and I really dont want to burden them with my crap.
Snap about anxiety-how did you deal with it? I was going to buy herbal tablets but really dont to rely on them 100%...
We sound very similar.
My sister lives in Canada, my 2yr old niece is about to go in for surgery to remove a brain tumor and she may lose mobility.
I too can't speak to my parents as I feel my issues are insignificant compared to what they are going through.
My coping mechanism is strange and it may not work for all, nor is it recommended. It's just that it works for me personally and the professionals haven't helped me, nor has any medication. This is just how I deal with my problems at the moment.
I pretend the problem doesn't exist. I bottle it up, distract myself, act silly on the forum, always laughing, silliness, as a counter balance.
Then about once a week I have a good cry and get all the emotion out of me. It's like a cleansing process. And I continue to be silly etc.
As I said, bottling up problems isn't good, I just find it works for me at present till I know how things work out with my niece, then I can pester my parents with it all.
Fingers crossed for your niece-I hope it all goes well for her.
When is the op? X
Sometime this month. So it's fingers crossed time.
Life is shit at times, but talking helps, which is why I did this thread.
But it's not about me
I'm offering my services (not in that way haha)"
It's been a very very dry season for me...might consider myself as "fab straight " and accept your service offer...  |
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It's been a very very dry season for me...might consider myself as "fab straight " and accept your service offer... "
There's a bit of a queue forming, I may be a while  |
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It's been a very very dry season for me...might consider myself as "fab straight " and accept your service offer...
There's a bit of a queue forming, I may be a while "
Hey, I've waited this long, no harm in waiting that bit more. Not got anyone on my "to do" list, the potential playmate buggered off and masturbation is overrated these days. |
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Just wanted to bump this thread which I'll do periodically.
There are fellow forum members on this thread as well as myself who have offered their help through messages or other means.
You are not alone.
We are here for you.
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"Just wanted to bump this thread which I'll do periodically.
There are fellow forum members on this thread as well as myself who have offered their help through messages or other means.
You are not alone.
We are here for you.
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Aww this is so lovely and soo needed definitely.
I try to do myself be there listening and know helping others helps ourselves too, Truthfully yesterday floored me still has wanted to disappear but know reach out talk we are not alone definitely x  |
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"Metal health is taking a battering and it looks as though another full lockdown looms.
It's hard when alone.
Being isolated, depressed, worried, lack of motivation, needing a friend or a chat.
I would like anyone who is suffering to reach out for help on this thread.
Do not suffer in silence.
If you need help, advice, a chat, a listening ear or just some silly jokes etc please say so.
You all know me as being stupid, but I have a very sensible side also, so I'm offering help to those who need it and I hope others offer their services also.
I have active message filters, but I can message you from this thread to break the filter so we can message.
Please ask for help if you need it.
Cindi x
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I’ve suffered with MH problems since I was 12 and was stable on meds for 14 years, the first lockdown messed my head up and it’s so hard to reach out for help . Seeing your post reminds me there are still good people in this world xx much love xx |
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"Just wanted to bump this thread which I'll do periodically.
There are fellow forum members on this thread as well as myself who have offered their help through messages or other means.
You are not alone.
We are here for you.
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Such a great offer of support and keeping alive a very important topic.
I'll admit that I'm not the biggest forum user and I consider myself to be quite lucky over the last 12 months. That in comparison, I've managed to keep a regular (but slightly changed) routine.
This doesn't mean that I don't get off periods or feeling low. With there being a lot of difference to well-being due to to the winter dark lonely months, compared to the spring and summer where it was bright and you could get outside easier.
So having a community of 'strangers' (as such), that we might know but aren't necessarily directly part of our day to day lives. Can make this a great place to share and support.
As highlighted above, some important numbers and contact for professional services.
But having a safe landing area or people to drop the occasional "I'm having a shitty low couple of days" message can be a good way to just accept we aren't robots and life (specifically this ongoing 12 months that no-one has ever dealt with before) can be a challenge that we don't have to deal with all the feelings alone.
Sometimes it's not the need for an answer / response! Just giving people the opportunity to 'rant and release' as an early escape can make all the difference.
I've not got answers and I'm not trained in any way but do feel free to message and rant away if it helps contacting a random stranger who's not connected to your day to day life.
Just make use of this thread and ongoing versions, as the support we all give each other is always important. More so now with such challenging times.
Stay safe everyone.
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