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I (Luke) started in swinging by going to clubs on my own. It was very welcoming and I had a success rate far beyond what I had imagined.
The trick is to be friendly and chatty. You will fail if you are creepy, pushy or entitled. Just talk to people like they are people and not sex objects. If you can build up a rapport with people then doors may open, but until you have that connection you are unlikely to get anything. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Why would it be unwelcoming?
Have a chat to some of the peeps on the swinging club discussion page if you are unsure "
Thank you ?? sorry still exploring this site and didn't realise how many forums there were. It's brilliant! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"There are *some* single men that touch without asking: that's unwelcoming, but in my experience that's been few and far between. "
Oh good lord!? Really? Yeah that's a big no no in my books |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I (Luke) started in swinging by going to clubs on my own. It was very welcoming and I had a success rate far beyond what I had imagined.
The trick is to be friendly and chatty. You will fail if you are creepy, pushy or entitled. Just talk to people like they are people and not sex objects. If you can build up a rapport with people then doors may open, but until you have that connection you are unlikely to get anything. "
Appreciate the advice I think connecting with people in general is soimportant whether you're looking for something or not. ?? |
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"It’s not single males that are unwelcome (it’s the reason why plenty of women go there!), it’s shitty behaviour that’s unwelcome."
Exactly, when we go to club's ( Ahh the good old days when club's where open) we nearly always went on a Friday night for the reason that single guys will be there.
Unfortunately almost every time we went the guy's there for the most part do or are the following in no particular order ( play's the old chart countdown music in head alright pop pickers, not half)
Creepy, stand and stare with no intention in talking.
Even more creepy, as above but with the addition of following Mrs round like a puppy with still no intention of talking.
Even even more creepy, do all of the above and start wanking just because with the added creepiness of doing so with a bunch of other weirdos doing the same thing whilst not saying a word to each other.
These guys are topped by.
Guy's who assume that sex is guaranteed because they have payed an entrance fee and have zero ideas of etiquette.
Now at least with the creepy guys they generally just observed, these guys act like a swinger's club is a brothel and every woman is up for it , they can touch and do whatever they want usually without asking and don't take no for an answer.
Look the simple thing is.
Go to a club ( when possible)
Act like a normal human,dress nice,smell nice ,be polite ,talk to people engage in conversation but don't assume that because they talked to you it's game on chances are they are probably as nervous as you are, and here's the thing engage with other guy's there chat create a relaxed atmosphere if women and couples see you being relaxed and sociable they are more likely to be open to talking and possibly more.
Also don't forget to talk with husband if you chat with couples there's no quicker way to get the cold shoulder than blanking the husband. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would love to visit a club once current circumstances are safe however I feel like going as a single male would be un-welcoming?"
While some clubs have couples only night or even couples only rooms there's no need to be shy about going. Go along and see what happens. Like anything else in life there's no guarantee you will have action but of you don't go you definitely won't. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would love to visit a club once current circumstances are safe however I feel like going as a single male would be un-welcoming?"
obviously alot of these swinger couples are stuck up cunts
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Another thought..find a club that has a Greedy Girl night... You won't be alone as a single guy and you will know that the ladies there want lots of cock. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"We go to club looking for single males,, as said disrespect unwelcome not the guys.. And this goes both ways.. Couples should give respect as well  "
Love your positivity on this! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would love to visit a club once current circumstances are safe however I feel like going as a single male would be un-welcoming?obviously alot of these swinger couples are stuck up cunts"
That’s really unnecessary  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I would love to visit a club once current circumstances are safe however I feel like going as a single male would be un-welcoming?obviously alot of these swinger couples are stuck up cunts
That’s really unnecessary "
Yeah I have to agree, positive vibes only here. Not everyone is negative on this site |
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"We go to club looking for single males,, as said disrespect unwelcome not the guys.. And this goes both ways.. Couples should give respect as well "
100% when we go we try to be polite unfortunately we have fallen foul of this as there's many guy's who just don't understand the difference between polite chit chat and genuine interest.
When you talk to a guy realise he's not for you, say as much politely and respectfully then we usually say we are going for a walk around see what's happening and bid him goodbye.
He then proceeds to follow us around all evening a few steps behind.
Which has happened a few times, so unfortunately it's meant that unfortunately we may now come across as aloof or rude this is not us we don't like being this way.
In my opinion club's need to be more proactive in explaining basic etiquette and set out simple guidance for everyone.
Some clubs once they have your money seem to not care less.
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