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What things has Fab made you see differently?
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Are there any things or situations that you’d never seen as sexual but now because of Fab you know that lots of people do sexualise them.
For me there are a few, but a big one is delivery drivers. I see so many threads of delivery drivers fantasising about fucking someone on their round, or people wanting to seduce delivery drivers, that now when I go to the door for a delivery I feel almost awkward and always make sure I’m completely covered up and preferably looking rough so no-one gets any ideas! |
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Ohhh good question.
Well I would say it's the way I/we look at other people.
One thing we have learned from swinging is that people from all walks of life participate.
So when we are out in a vanilla setting we look around and we play spot the swinger, some are obvious and others not so much.
But our swingdar had developed over the years.
Also we have learned to be inclusive club's parties or wherever we try not to judge, even if it's not someone who we want to play with we have found talking with others out of your comfort zone can be very educational and fun.
So we have learned to go out as a blank canvas, don't expect anything but also expect that anything is possible. |
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"Your safe. Their route is timed so they don't even have time for a lunchtime wank these days "
They now have to have it back in the depot in 3-5 working days. |
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"Your safe. Their route is timed so they don't even have time for a lunchtime wank these days
They now have to have it back in the depot in 3-5 working days. "
na we have tacho breaks for at least a hour can always make time up by taking parcels back as not in  |
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"Ohhh good question.
Well I would say it's the way I/we look at other people.
One thing we have learned from swinging is that people from all walks of life participate.
So when we are out in a vanilla setting we look around and we play spot the swinger, some are obvious and others not so much.
But our swingdar had developed over the years.
Also we have learned to be inclusive club's parties or wherever we try not to judge, even if it's not someone who we want to play with we have found talking with others out of your comfort zone can be very educational and fun.
So we have learned to go out as a blank canvas, don't expect anything but also expect that anything is possible."
Amazing outlook on swinging. Thanks for the tips. |
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"Your safe. Their route is timed so they don't even have time for a lunchtime wank these days "
Oh I know, it’s more the thought of being perved over in my own home that bothers me a bit - but I figure no makeup and unwashed hair will take care of that lol. |
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"Ohhh good question.
Well I would say it's the way I/we look at other people.
One thing we have learned from swinging is that people from all walks of life participate.
So when we are out in a vanilla setting we look around and we play spot the swinger, some are obvious and others not so much.
But our swingdar had developed over the years.
Also we have learned to be inclusive club's parties or wherever we try not to judge, even if it's not someone who we want to play with we have found talking with others out of your comfort zone can be very educational and fun.
So we have learned to go out as a blank canvas, don't expect anything but also expect that anything is possible."
I feel slightly ashamed of my own somewhat flippant post now! Love your answer. |
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"Yep I see my sexuality differently, I see myself differently and I have much broader tastes in people and sexual interests "
Most of that is true for me too, not my sexuality so much as I’ve always been very aware of and comfortable with that, but the rest is. |
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"Taxi drivers is a nother one see a lot states over the years for taxi driver ooo a for got my purse need to pay with sex type thing "
I’ve always been wary of taxi drivers so I’m not sure if that’s changed much for me, maybe got a little worse. |
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"Taxi drivers is a nother one see a lot states over the years for taxi driver ooo a for got my purse need to pay with sex type thing
I’ve always been wary of taxi drivers so I’m not sure if that’s changed much for me, maybe got a little worse."
Yes definitely got to be wary off them for shour herd a couple off story’s over the years from vanilla friends over the years about taxi drivers and come out clubs |
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It often seems to me to be an interesting insight into human psychology, how behaviour is influenced by group and/ or environmental norms. I know I've been guilty of it, and it's interesting to observe myself and others. |
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I used to think couples who were swingers has issues in their relationship, but now we do it, it just enhances our sex life and the level of trust between us. I know now not to judge people for exploring this lifestyle. |
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For me with my partner and our fab journey. A true understanding of sexuality in a loving relationship. A freedom to be who we are, share in all, and explore for each other x |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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The thing about delivery/taxi drivers and other tradesmen (plumbers being a prime example) is those fantasies have all been driven by porn to a certain extent - so that's not really been a surprise to me.
I've always been open minded sexually so most "kinks/fantasies" certainly don't shock me nor do they surprise me.
Probably the biggest surprise I've taken away from Fab is the naivety and attitude that some have towards sex and sexuality - whilst I certainly don't expect everyone to be as informed/aware as others might be, some of the basics that are overlooked at times raise an eyebrow |
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"The thing about delivery/taxi drivers and other tradesmen (plumbers being a prime example) is those fantasies have all been driven by porn to a certain extent - so that's not really been a surprise to me.
I've always been open minded sexually so most "kinks/fantasies" certainly don't shock me nor do they surprise me.
Probably the biggest surprise I've taken away from Fab is the naivety and attitude that some have towards sex and sexuality - whilst I certainly don't expect everyone to be as informed/aware as others might be, some of the basics that are overlooked at times raise an eyebrow "
I’m not a fan of mainstream porn, so I’ve never watched any of those kind of things, and it did come as a surprise to me.
Sort of related to what you’ve said, I’ve been surprised by the lack of open-mindedness here sometimes. Also sometimes some questions show a worrying lack of knowledge around consent. |
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"For me with my partner and our fab journey. A true understanding of sexuality in a loving relationship. A freedom to be who we are, share in all, and explore for each other x "
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"Truthfully ... how many men are cheating - kind of killed my faith in men tbh"
I'd have to agree with you on this, it makes you very aware just how much of it goes on  |
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"I had a delivery driver text me to say that he has only seen me once, and that was through the bedroom window, and that if I ever needed anything, anything at all, I just had to ask.
Creep."
That’s horrendous |
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"I had a delivery driver text me to say that he has only seen me once, and that was through the bedroom window, and that if I ever needed anything, anything at all, I just had to ask.
Creep."
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"I had a delivery driver text me to say that he has only seen me once, and that was through the bedroom window, and that if I ever needed anything, anything at all, I just had to ask.
Creep.
That’s horrendous"
Yep. I didn't reply to his text and thankfully he didn't text again. |
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"I had a delivery driver text me to say that he has only seen me once, and that was through the bedroom window, and that if I ever needed anything, anything at all, I just had to ask.
Creep.
Oh god "
.heyyyyy Mrs, good to see you back |
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"I had a delivery driver text me to say that he has only seen me once, and that was through the bedroom window, and that if I ever needed anything, anything at all, I just had to ask.
Creep.
Oh god .heyyyyy Mrs, good to see you back "
Thank you. I pop in every now and then. Hotel California and all that!
Happy new year to you both xxx |
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Men, its made me see men differently and not in a good way. I'm much more wary of men now than I used to be after some of the stuff I've seen on here, when it's challenged the person genuinely can't see a problem and almost as bad other men back them up.  |
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"Men, its made me see men differently and not in a good way. I'm much more wary of men now than I used to be after some of the stuff I've seen on here, when it's challenged the person genuinely can't see a problem and almost as bad other men back them up. "
In that sense it’s confirmed my existing fears. I’ve known many men in my vanilla life who don’t know how to behave or don’t care, so the things I’ve seen here have just confirmed it. It’s made me take a harder line when it comes to deciding who to talk to, and I’ll drop anyone at the first hint of a red flag, because I feel like I have to be incredibly careful for my own safety. |
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"Men, its made me see men differently and not in a good way. I'm much more wary of men now than I used to be after some of the stuff I've seen on here, when it's challenged the person genuinely can't see a problem and almost as bad other men back them up. "
Hell yes!!! Some of the awful things I read in forums that many many men are all behind is just vile and very very scary |
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"Men, its made me see men differently and not in a good way. I'm much more wary of men now than I used to be after some of the stuff I've seen on here, when it's challenged the person genuinely can't see a problem and almost as bad other men back them up.
In that sense it’s confirmed my existing fears. I’ve known many men in my vanilla life who don’t know how to behave or don’t care, so the things I’ve seen here have just confirmed it. It’s made me take a harder line when it comes to deciding who to talk to, and I’ll drop anyone at the first hint of a red flag, because I feel like I have to be incredibly careful for my own safety."
I've almost always dropped people at the first hint of a red flag but I just didn't realise that certain attitudes and behaviours were so normalised.
I am very well aware that the majority of men are decent human beings, I just didn't realise how large the minority was. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"Men, its made me see men differently and not in a good way. I'm much more wary of men now than I used to be after some of the stuff I've seen on here, when it's challenged the person genuinely can't see a problem and almost as bad other men back them up.
Hell yes!!! Some of the awful things I read in forums that many many men are all behind is just vile and very very scary "
To be fair, and I'm not just saying this to undo a very valid point - but what has surprised me more is the (admittedly minority compared to the men that do it) women that can be just as vile at times - not that it *should* be but you almost expect to get it from *some* men, but less so from women, so when you see it from women, and it does happen, it seems more surprising |
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"Men, its made me see men differently and not in a good way. I'm much more wary of men now than I used to be after some of the stuff I've seen on here, when it's challenged the person genuinely can't see a problem and almost as bad other men back them up.
In that sense it’s confirmed my existing fears. I’ve known many men in my vanilla life who don’t know how to behave or don’t care, so the things I’ve seen here have just confirmed it. It’s made me take a harder line when it comes to deciding who to talk to, and I’ll drop anyone at the first hint of a red flag, because I feel like I have to be incredibly careful for my own safety."
Agreed. It’s pretty depressing really |
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"Men, its made me see men differently and not in a good way. I'm much more wary of men now than I used to be after some of the stuff I've seen on here, when it's challenged the person genuinely can't see a problem and almost as bad other men back them up.
Hell yes!!! Some of the awful things I read in forums that many many men are all behind is just vile and very very scary
To be fair, and I'm not just saying this to undo a very valid point - but what has surprised me more is the (admittedly minority compared to the men that do it) women that can be just as vile at times - not that it *should* be but you almost expect to get it from *some* men, but less so from women, so when you see it from women, and it does happen, it seems more surprising "
Women can in fact be worse than men. Over the years on here I've seen some extremely disgusting behaviour from women. Really bitchy callous hurtful stuff going on. |
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"Men, its made me see men differently and not in a good way. I'm much more wary of men now than I used to be after some of the stuff I've seen on here, when it's challenged the person genuinely can't see a problem and almost as bad other men back them up.
Hell yes!!! Some of the awful things I read in forums that many many men are all behind is just vile and very very scary
To be fair, and I'm not just saying this to undo a very valid point - but what has surprised me more is the (admittedly minority compared to the men that do it) women that can be just as vile at times - not that it *should* be but you almost expect to get it from *some* men, but less so from women, so when you see it from women, and it does happen, it seems more surprising "
I agree women can be vile.
I'm thinking of the "I want a guy to text my wife to see how far he can get" and the number of men who reply that the would be happy to help! . Then there are the men who want to share pictures of their wife from a single profile and the ones who want to give their wife's location to a complete stranger so he can approach her on a night out. It saddens me that these men value their partners safety so little and that other men are happy to collude with them. |
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I think it was surprising to see just how many different walks of life/backgrounds/different personal situations find their way to this scene.
It’s broader and more inclusive than I probably would have thought it to be if I’d been asked prior to joining here.... and definitely no bad thing. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"Men, its made me see men differently and not in a good way. I'm much more wary of men now than I used to be after some of the stuff I've seen on here, when it's challenged the person genuinely can't see a problem and almost as bad other men back them up.
Hell yes!!! Some of the awful things I read in forums that many many men are all behind is just vile and very very scary
To be fair, and I'm not just saying this to undo a very valid point - but what has surprised me more is the (admittedly minority compared to the men that do it) women that can be just as vile at times - not that it *should* be but you almost expect to get it from *some* men, but less so from women, so when you see it from women, and it does happen, it seems more surprising
I agree women can be vile.
I'm thinking of the "I want a guy to text my wife to see how far he can get" and the number of men who reply that the would be happy to help! . Then there are the men who want to share pictures of their wife from a single profile and the ones who want to give their wife's location to a complete stranger so he can approach her on a night out. It saddens me that these men value their partners safety so little and that other men are happy to collude with them."
And all of those examples are reprehensible and beyond my personal comprehension - as I said no intention to undo your very valid point and apologies if it appeared I was doing so.
Not that it excuses that kind of behaviour in any way but I often wonder with posts/threads like that how genuine it is too, or just a means to get some form of sex chat (which is just as vile in itself if it is). |
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"Men, its made me see men differently and not in a good way. I'm much more wary of men now than I used to be after some of the stuff I've seen on here, when it's challenged the person genuinely can't see a problem and almost as bad other men back them up.
Hell yes!!! Some of the awful things I read in forums that many many men are all behind is just vile and very very scary
To be fair, and I'm not just saying this to undo a very valid point - but what has surprised me more is the (admittedly minority compared to the men that do it) women that can be just as vile at times - not that it *should* be but you almost expect to get it from *some* men, but less so from women, so when you see it from women, and it does happen, it seems more surprising
I agree women can be vile.
I'm thinking of the "I want a guy to text my wife to see how far he can get" and the number of men who reply that the would be happy to help! . Then there are the men who want to share pictures of their wife from a single profile and the ones who want to give their wife's location to a complete stranger so he can approach her on a night out. It saddens me that these men value their partners safety so little and that other men are happy to collude with them.
And all of those examples are reprehensible and beyond my personal comprehension - as I said no intention to undo your very valid point and apologies if it appeared I was doing so.
Not that it excuses that kind of behaviour in any way but I often wonder with posts/threads like that how genuine it is too, or just a means to get some form of sex chat (which is just as vile in itself if it is)."
Who knows. I'd guess a good proportion of the guys giving out their wife's numbers are actually giving out their own 
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"Men, its made me see men differently and not in a good way. I'm much more wary of men now than I used to be after some of the stuff I've seen on here, when it's challenged the person genuinely can't see a problem and almost as bad other men back them up.
In that sense it’s confirmed my existing fears. I’ve known many men in my vanilla life who don’t know how to behave or don’t care, so the things I’ve seen here have just confirmed it. It’s made me take a harder line when it comes to deciding who to talk to, and I’ll drop anyone at the first hint of a red flag, because I feel like I have to be incredibly careful for my own safety.
Agreed. It’s pretty depressing really"
Can’t disagree with any of this but in my experience all forms on social media/online engagement are a magnet for the worst kind of abusive, aggressive and hurtful behaviour. All societies have a dark side (a shadow side as Jung called it) but this is hugely over represented online compared to the real world, IMO, just as online porn now completely distorts many people’s view of sex. |
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Not that it excuses that kind of behaviour in any way but I often wonder with posts/threads like that how genuine it is too, or just a means to get some form of sex chat (which is just as vile in itself if it is).
Who knows. I'd guess a good proportion of the guys giving out their wife's numbers are actually giving out their own
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Not that it excuses that kind of behaviour in any way but I often wonder with posts/threads like that how genuine it is too, or just a means to get some form of sex chat (which is just as vile in itself if it is).
Who knows. I'd guess a good proportion of the guys giving out their wife's numbers are actually giving out their own
Complete with high pitched Pantomime dame voice when they answer "
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By *emini ManMan
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Not that it excuses that kind of behaviour in any way but I often wonder with posts/threads like that how genuine it is too, or just a means to get some form of sex chat (which is just as vile in itself if it is).
Who knows. I'd guess a good proportion of the guys giving out their wife's numbers are actually giving out their own
Complete with high pitched Pantomime dame voice when they answer
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Mind you that would bring a whole new angle to "he's behind you"!! |
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It’s made me see men in a different light as pervy and thinking about us sexually constantly. Like when accepting deliveries at work or men saying hello to me in the street. Sex is on their brain constantly. |
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"Truthfully ... how many men are cheating - kind of killed my faith in men tbh
I'd have to agree with you on this, it makes you very aware just how much of it goes on "
Plenty of married women cheating on their partner as well! |
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"Truthfully ... how many men are cheating - kind of killed my faith in men tbh
I'd have to agree with you on this, it makes you very aware just how much of it goes on
Plenty of married women cheating on their partner as well! "
Agreed but the question was, what fab has made me see differently and as it's married men contacting me and not married women, that's the reason for my response. |
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"Truthfully ... how many men are cheating - kind of killed my faith in men tbh
I'd have to agree with you on this, it makes you very aware just how much of it goes on
Plenty of married women cheating on their partner as well!
Agreed but the question was, what fab has made me see differently and as it's married men contacting me and not married women, that's the reason for my response. "
I wasn't questioning you! But it has surprised me how many cheaters there are.. |
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"Truthfully ... how many men are cheating - kind of killed my faith in men tbh
I'd have to agree with you on this, it makes you very aware just how much of it goes on
Plenty of married women cheating on their partner as well!
Agreed but the question was, what fab has made me see differently and as it's married men contacting me and not married women, that's the reason for my response.
I wasn't questioning you! But it has surprised me how many cheaters there are.. "
Lots of cheaters on here both female and male! |
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For me ... I think that it's got to be the fact that before fab, I didn't realise how much people were open minded with sex and in general just so horny in life.
I understand being horny is part of the process of procreation ... but it's something you don't tend to draw attention to when not indulging in the world of sex and playing. |
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"Truthfully ... how many men are cheating - kind of killed my faith in men tbh
I'd have to agree with you on this, it makes you very aware just how much of it goes on
Plenty of married women cheating on their partner as well!
Agreed but the question was, what fab has made me see differently and as it's married men contacting me and not married women, that's the reason for my response.
I wasn't questioning you! But it has surprised me how many cheaters there are.. "
My apologies, it appeared you were. |
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I learnt a lot about TVs, cross dressers etc
Realised that I prefer a guy in overalls, work boots, manual/hands on rather than suited and booted.
Oh and spend a lot of time getting jealous over the insanely hot women on here! |
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