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I would never just go up to someone and shout fab straight away, if I were to recognise them. If it's someone I fancy I might try the old fashioned flirting, bit of eye contact and a smile can work miracles.
Would I mind if someone comes up to me? If he looks like Chris Hemsworth or Karl Urban probably not, but even then it depends where I am and who I'm with.
Discretion's the name of the game here really, so don't think it's ever a smart move to go straight up to people and mention fab x |
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"I would never just go up to someone and shout fab straight away, if I were to recognise them. If it's someone I fancy I might try the old fashioned flirting, bit of eye contact and a smile can work miracles.
Would I mind if someone comes up to me? If he looks like Chris Hemsworth or Karl Urban probably not, but even then it depends where I am and who I'm with.
Discretion's the name of the game here really, so don't think it's ever a smart move to go straight up to people and mention fab x"
And I'd most likely pretend I never heard of fab as well, if someone were to do that to me x |
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over a year ago
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"If someone you never met before come up to you and said I've seen you on fab what would you do. "
I saw a lady that I recognised, out in public , having chatted with her at Kestrels. We both noticed each other, and there was just a brief look between us, but that was all |
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When my profile was open i had face photos on. I was recognised a lot by people messaging me and telling me they had seen me out and about. Only once was i approached and that was a guy who messaged me and said he saw me all the time and i gave my consent for him to come up and chat the next time he saw me which he did. Oddly ive not seen him since or he thought i was to boring to chat too  |
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"When my profile was open i had face photos on. I was recognised a lot by people messaging me and telling me they had seen me out and about. Only once was i approached and that was a guy who messaged me and said he saw me all the time and i gave my consent for him to come up and chat the next time he saw me which he did. Oddly ive not seen him since or he thought i was to boring to chat too "
I always hide my photos during the day I don’t keep them up for long at night I only show them while on the forums |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had this on my fb just last wk. I commented on a post an the guy said oh ive seen u before, you look fab then sent me a wink, he did it 3 times. Once is weird enough. Screenshot his details n blocked him. From the next town across too.
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"When my profile was open i had face photos on. I was recognised a lot by people messaging me and telling me they had seen me out and about. Only once was i approached and that was a guy who messaged me and said he saw me all the time and i gave my consent for him to come up and chat the next time he saw me which he did. Oddly ive not seen him since or he thought i was to boring to chat too
I always hide my photos during the day I don’t keep them up for long at night I only show them while on the forums "
But you dont know who can see you in that time |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"  no idea but there’s this dude who keeps seeing me in Tesco and sends me a message afterwards what iv been wearing  "
That's horrible!! At least show himself or leave you the hell alone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Literally had this happen to me in the gym with a women coming up and saying I think I’ve seen you on fab, worst thing was I was mid set. So rude and yeah creepy haha |
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I have a friend on here i know socially, it wouldnt be a surprise therefore to find there are others , ive spent far too long fretting over the opinions of others, they either have something interesting to add value to their ability to see, or they may as well leave me to carry on dancing. |
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I know a couple of people from their fab profiles. I live in a small town, I’ve no doubt they know me too.
So far I’ve not been recognised, I wouldn’t approach anybody in an inappropriate place (school playground at drop off for instance)
I’d send them a fab message if I was tempted to do anything, but that would only be if I actually wanted to meet them not because I knew them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I first started up on fab, one of our customers at work recognised me on here because of what I was wearing. He was very polite about it when he messaged me. Been perfectly discrete when I’ve seen him at work too. |
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Wouldn't happen, I don't show face pics or my tattoos for that reason.
I have been approached on here by a family friend and that was dealt with a quick block. Its amusing when we are chatting in real life that I know and he doesn't though  |
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"Wouldn't happen, I don't show face pics or my tattoos for that reason.
I have been approached on here by a family friend and that was dealt with a quick block. Its amusing when we are chatting in real life that I know and he doesn't though "
In my early fab days, I got a message from a guy I worked with. Back then I didnt have any face pics, be got quickly blocked. Don't think he was able to recognise me, and nothing was ever said.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I couldn't care less really this is a public site not the freemasons.
If they're polite and discreet I would tell them to message me on here then go about my business, no drama required. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If someone you never met before come up to you and said I've seen you on fab what would you do. "
I’d say “why didn’t you try and hook up with me, mum?”
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I had someone recognise me on here when first joined . Wouldn't say who they were- I eventually figured out what a work colleagues wife ( now divorced). I didnt say anything to either- mot my business what they got upto |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have recognised a few people from Fab, but would never tell them, unless they approached the subject.
I have not been recognised as far as I am aware!
I don’t have a problem with it as long as they are discreet
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We've been recognised from fab before when we were together in a bar.
We were only wearing towels and the bar was Chams.... 
Spotted a few from sites many years ago. Would never say anything without confirmation through the site to be allowed. They could be with family, a different partner, friends, colleagues etc. To put somebody in that spot to make them having to think up a lie of who you might be, or where you knew them from. It's not very considerate.
However, a greeting through the site would and put the choice back in their hands to reply, take things further, ignore, block etc.
Many have swinging as a completely separate life. Merging their worlds can get messy. Especially when you've forced that conversation without consent (albeit by accident, but it could be bad for them). |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t know what I’d do personally but my lovers cousin and her husband are on here and even worse his brother so I don’t know what he’s going do about that lol xx |
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"Plead ignorance probably and ask what fab was
Whats fab?
Exactly"
I agree, I’d play the dumb blonde. We don’t have public face pics though so they’d have to be doing some good detective work.
Lou x |
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Me and my husband have seen people we have met through group socials etc while we have been out and about shopping.A nice polite smile does no harm at all but I would be creeped out if they started walking towards me to chat while I’m out with my family. |
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If someone recognised me, I'd be very shocked as I do not show my face or any defining features like tattoes.
If they can identify me from my indecent photos, chances are they've seen me naked already lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was recognised in the supermarket when I was first on here 5 years ago, all naive and clueless. I won't be doing face pic friday so enthusiastically again... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I was recognised in the supermarket when I was first on here 5 years ago, all naive and clueless. I won't be doing face pic friday so enthusiastically again..."
Welcome back Nell |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I was recognised in the supermarket when I was first on here 5 years ago, all naive and clueless. I won't be doing face pic friday so enthusiastically again...
Welcome back Nell "
Hey Doc! (waves manically) |
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I was chatting to someone on here a while back I showed my face pic but she said I can wait until I see her because she is discreet and all that and when we decided to meet at a hotel she lived on my street but she knew all along who I was cz she had seen my face pic I nearly started crying lol but then we just ended up getting it on haha |
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I had someone come up to me in the breakfast lounge of a hotel in Texas during a work trip. I didn’t know who they were but because they followed me on social media, they knew all about me. It was a lovely conversation and I met up for drinks in the evening. |
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"I had someone come up to me in the breakfast lounge of a hotel in Texas during a work trip. I didn’t know who they were but because they followed me on social media, they knew all about me. It was a lovely conversation and I met up for drinks in the evening. "
just drinks or more lol x
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"I had someone come up to me in the breakfast lounge of a hotel in Texas during a work trip. I didn’t know who they were but because they followed me on social media, they knew all about me. It was a lovely conversation and I met up for drinks in the evening. just drinks or more lol x"
Just drinks lol I was in my boy mode not fabs mode lol |
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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago
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Not had anyone come up to me irl but I've had messages sent to me asking do you work in ####### Basically my place of work, which makes me chuckle as I don't show a lot of my face on here and I'm currently in ppe all day so all you literally see of me is my eyes |
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Only ever happened to me once, I was recognised and she spoke to me, but it was discreet and funny.
A very pretty young lady in her 20s walked up to me in the store where i worked and said to me
'are you a Lord of the rings fan
i looked and said
'not really why'
she giggled and said
'oh okay sorry, have a fab day and then walked off'
i have still no idea who she is or if she is still on fab !
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"I had someone come up to me in the breakfast lounge of a hotel in Texas during a work trip. I didn’t know who they were but because they followed me on social media, they knew all about me. It was a lovely conversation and I met up for drinks in the evening. just drinks or more lol x
Just drinks lol I was in my boy mode not fabs mode lol "
oh ok lol you look stunning in your pics you are a hot desi kuri x |
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By *ankie303Woman
over a year ago
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"If someone you never met before come up to you and said I've seen you on fab what would you do. "
This has happened many times at work. I always say "good for you" and leave it at that these days as before when i did attempt dialogue they be the pic less or the 1 dick pic profile that will fill in later. I'm not gonna interact with someone face to face that I wouldn't do on here. |
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By *rsPricklePantsWoman
over a year ago
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"Plead ignorance probably and ask what fab was
Whats fab?
Exactly
I agree, I’d play the dumb blonde. We don’t have public face pics though so they’d have to be doing some good detective work.
Lou x "
I don't have a full face pic anywhere even friends only and keep my tattoos out of my pictures too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If someone recognised me I would prefer they message through fab than approach me in person. I did have one person from my village recognise me, couldn’t message on here so messaged on fb, then turned up at my door, escalated quite quickly (not in a good way  ) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I logged in the other day to a load of messages from someone claiming to be my neighbour and telling me to go look out my kitchen window etc. I don't know if he did actually think I was someone else, or if that's just what he messages everyone to try creep them out/prompt a reply but seemed like a weird tactic either way
I wouldn't want anyone to approach me outside, unless we were really quite friendly by that point but just hadn't had the chance to meet yet. Even then it'd probably freak me out in most circumstances. |
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"If someone recognised me I would prefer they message through fab than approach me in person. I did have one person from my village recognise me, couldn’t message on here so messaged on fb, then turned up at my door, escalated quite quickly (not in a good way )"
There are some real arseholes on here, I hope you managed to sort it out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If someone you never met before come up to you and said I've seen you on fab what would you do. "
It’s happened to me. I just smiled and laughed and sent them on their way.
But it doesn’t bother me. X |
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Not in person but on POF. Some woman messaged me and said she'd seen me on here and always fancied me. I've never ever seen her on here ever and I replied saying as much. She never replied hahaha. I see a lot of women on here that are on Tinder and POF but I'd never say anything to them in real life if I saw them out and about. Thats just odd lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It wouldn't be well received if some stranger approached me in public to point out they'd seen me on here. One guy did it once when I was out shopping with my Mum. He got a rather frosty response 
Most drop me a message on here if they've seen me out and about.
Just because someone has their face on here, doesn't mean it's acceptable to approach them when they're out. I recognise people from clubs/parties all the time. I wouldn't dream of letting on to them in public. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think messaging someone on here to say ‘did I see you in Asda last night’ is acceptable. Approaching someone in Asda to say I’ve seen you on Fab probably isn’t.
I know not everyone would mind that but I think it’s best to air on the Sadie of caution. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We were approached outside a pub by a guy who said he recognised us from fab.
We used to have our face pics on public and naughty pics on private, he's the reason it's now the other way round. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We were approached outside a pub by a guy who said he recognised us from fab.
We used to have our face pics on public and naughty pics on private, he's the reason it's now the other way round."
I'd like to thank him for getting him to share your naughty pics..
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Seen a few people i recognised, i just block them, i wouldn't trust them to be discrete.
I also nearly met a random local when a planned meet disappeared into the ether with the line - i'll be right back.
I'd been chatting to the meet for weeks, he'd been pressing all the right buttons, so when i finally got some free time i waited until i had few hours left and little options.
The local was still online at two in the morning on a sunday and said he could accom. I never meet locally i want this side of my life to stay private. But i was so horny by this point i threw caution to the wind.
He couldn't accom that night so nothing came of it.
Week later, he uploaded a face picture onto public by mistake.
I worked with him.
He had actually used his initials and last name. (Can't believe i never noticed that)
He deleted it later in the day, but damage was done.
Two months later his wife found about all of this, outed him all over facebook, most of the work knew, he dragged a few surprises down with him as well.
Two weeks later, his mrs took him back, it's all forgotten. One of his surprises now divorced, no access to kid, major issues..
Yes, i know, don't play around etc. But most single men on here aren't single, don't kid yourself.
But that re-inforced my policy of no local meets.
I'm also very careful not to give anything away on a photo.
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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Depends on their approach. If they come across as being creepy, indiscreet and pestery I wouldn't be too happy. If they are polite and discreet then fine. However, I would not discuss fab with them at the time as I feel that is inappropriate. What I really dislike are those that don't say anything at the time then send you a creepy message saying they have seen me at work or one Asda, Tesco, town etc and not saying or describing who they were. Also, never approach people if they are with family or friends, that definitely is a step too far.
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By *imeyeMan
over a year ago
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"Someone messaged on here to say they’d seen me out walking bare in mind I was with a friend and our daughters.. Then asked what did I order we went to a lil pub for lunch after the walk"
Isn’t too cold to go out walking naked? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Scary stuff being approached should just mail first, show respect to others"
If you are being respectful you wouldn’t message at all and just let them get on with their life |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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One of my old bosses made a comment about recognising me on here by one of my tattoos trying to put me on a back footer in a conversation we were having. Made a comment that meant he must be a member too, to have searched me out and basically owned and took pride in my being on here. He didn’t know how to reply to that and just stormed off. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"One of my old bosses made a comment about recognising me on here by one of my tattoos trying to put me on a back footer in a conversation we were having. Made a comment that meant he must be a member too, to have searched me out and basically owned and took pride in my being on here. He didn’t know how to reply to that and just stormed off. "
Nice one. I've always said that to 'out' me, means 'outing yourself' |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"One of my old bosses made a comment about recognising me on here by one of my tattoos trying to put me on a back footer in a conversation we were having. Made a comment that meant he must be a member too, to have searched me out and basically owned and took pride in my being on here. He didn’t know how to reply to that and just stormed off.
Nice one. I've always said that to 'out' me, means 'outing yourself' "
Exactly this |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Id innocently ask what it was..
However..my ex did message me on here not realising it was me.. probably the nicest message he ever sent to me actually!! |
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