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However, I'm not asking for any 'older mature MILFS' to come fuck a young toyboy hehe 
I've seen a few posts on threads, describing younger guys in certain ways. Such as being time wasters, or just on here for bragging rights etc.
The age barrier is a separate thing that we can all respect if it's there.
But, I want to know if people think these negative connotations exist?
Would this prevent you from messaging a guy younger than you or showing an interest in a younger guy?? Do you have any bad experiences involving a younger guy? | |||
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"I would comment something sensible. But it's New Year's Eve and it's time to drink and talk about cock and have fun. Sorry "You know what? You're right Cindi! It's NYE so we should be having fun | |||
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"I would comment something sensible. But it's New Year's Eve and it's time to drink and talk about cock and have fun. Sorry "This made me chuckle ! Thank you hahah | |||
"I would comment something sensible. But it's New Year's Eve and it's time to drink and talk about cock and have fun. Sorry
You know what? You're right Cindi!
It's NYE so we should be having fun "Ignore me, I jest of course | |||
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"Our experience has been that younger men make assumptions about us, our relationship and older people in general that simply aren't true. We know that is a huge generalisation but what's to be done!" What sort of assumptions? | |||
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"Our experience has been that younger men make assumptions about us, our relationship and older people in general that simply aren't true. We know that is a huge generalisation but what's to be done! What sort of assumptions? " That we're swinging because my husband is no longer able to have sex or satisfy me, that older women "know what they want and how to get it", that we need a younger man for his stamina. They also assume that we don't understand how the Internet works or phones or computers lol. Each generation has preconceived ideas about the other. We know it isn't always true but its true in enough cases to make us wary | |||
"I haven’t seen those accusations personally, but my experiences with much younger men haven’t been good. These observations are based only on my experiences, and I’m not saying all younger men are like this, but enough of the ones I’ve met/talked to have been like this that it made me raise my lower age limit so they can’t contact me. These are some of the issues I’ve had: Frequently disrespectful in how they speak to me, expecting me to ply them with photos every time they’re horny, speaking to me like I’m an airhead, calling me “babe” constantly. Expecting me to be some kind of professional or something, wanting me to “show them my tricks” (like what tricks? You want me to teach you how to suck someone’s cock?), slagging off younger women as a way to compliment me, assuming I’ll be better in bed and will do all the work, demanding anal, making demands about body hair. (By the way, I’ve been with younger women, they know what they’re doing so I don’t know what these lads are complaining about.) In person - only much younger men have stood me up, men nearer my age never have. They then whine and demand a second chance. They lack skill, are often too rough, too selfish, don’t last long. I’ve rarely had any satisfaction from a meet with a man under 35, and none whatsoever with a man under 30. They seem to learn their moves from porn, and most of them don’t give oral. OP, I’m sorry if this seems overly negative, and I’m sure there are younger men who aren’t like this, but these have been my experiences and are why I am now very careful about meeting younger men. There are a couple who I’m talking to who don’t seem to be like that, but this year being what it’s been, I haven’t met them yet. Even then, we’re talking late 20s or early 30s, not early 20s. Hopefully you or any other younger men reading this won’t take it as an attack, but will look at it as things to avoid - not behaving in the ways I’ve mentioned will make you stand out as that behaviour is so common (in my experience) that it’ll set you apart if you can show you’re not like that." Thanks for posting this! I wouldnt ask anyone to sugar coat anything they feel like they want to say. I like that youre honest. Obviously, it paints a bad picture for 'younger' guys who aren't like this. But then again it's up to us to prove that we're not like this and set ourselves aside. Does this mean you would completely block guys in their early 20s and wouldn't message them? | |||
"Guess it depends on how you are as a person, we've chatted and had a great laugh in one of the other threads where age had no bearing, you're a funny guy.... Cruel evil streak but funny lol xx" Haha you're a great person and a great laugh. Always fun to talk to you. I'm glad you don't take the banter seriously | |||
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"I haven’t seen those accusations personally, but my experiences with much younger men haven’t been good. These observations are based only on my experiences, and I’m not saying all younger men are like this, but enough of the ones I’ve met/talked to have been like this that it made me raise my lower age limit so they can’t contact me. These are some of the issues I’ve had: Frequently disrespectful in how they speak to me, expecting me to ply them with photos every time they’re horny, speaking to me like I’m an airhead, calling me “babe” constantly. Expecting me to be some kind of professional or something, wanting me to “show them my tricks” (like what tricks? You want me to teach you how to suck someone’s cock?), slagging off younger women as a way to compliment me, assuming I’ll be better in bed and will do all the work, demanding anal, making demands about body hair. (By the way, I’ve been with younger women, they know what they’re doing so I don’t know what these lads are complaining about.) In person - only much younger men have stood me up, men nearer my age never have. They then whine and demand a second chance. They lack skill, are often too rough, too selfish, don’t last long. I’ve rarely had any satisfaction from a meet with a man under 35, and none whatsoever with a man under 30. They seem to learn their moves from porn, and most of them don’t give oral. OP, I’m sorry if this seems overly negative, and I’m sure there are younger men who aren’t like this, but these have been my experiences and are why I am now very careful about meeting younger men. There are a couple who I’m talking to who don’t seem to be like that, but this year being what it’s been, I haven’t met them yet. Even then, we’re talking late 20s or early 30s, not early 20s. Hopefully you or any other younger men reading this won’t take it as an attack, but will look at it as things to avoid - not behaving in the ways I’ve mentioned will make you stand out as that behaviour is so common (in my experience) that it’ll set you apart if you can show you’re not like that." I agree with this post, however, "Even then, we’re talking late 20s or early 30s, not early 20s" from my experience I've found this also to be true of men in their 40s and up as well. | |||
"I haven’t seen those accusations personally, but my experiences with much younger men haven’t been good. These observations are based only on my experiences, and I’m not saying all younger men are like this, but enough of the ones I’ve met/talked to have been like this that it made me raise my lower age limit so they can’t contact me. These are some of the issues I’ve had: Frequently disrespectful in how they speak to me, expecting me to ply them with photos every time they’re horny, speaking to me like I’m an airhead, calling me “babe” constantly. Expecting me to be some kind of professional or something, wanting me to “show them my tricks” (like what tricks? You want me to teach you how to suck someone’s cock?), slagging off younger women as a way to compliment me, assuming I’ll be better in bed and will do all the work, demanding anal, making demands about body hair. (By the way, I’ve been with younger women, they know what they’re doing so I don’t know what these lads are complaining about.) In person - only much younger men have stood me up, men nearer my age never have. They then whine and demand a second chance. They lack skill, are often too rough, too selfish, don’t last long. I’ve rarely had any satisfaction from a meet with a man under 35, and none whatsoever with a man under 30. They seem to learn their moves from porn, and most of them don’t give oral. OP, I’m sorry if this seems overly negative, and I’m sure there are younger men who aren’t like this, but these have been my experiences and are why I am now very careful about meeting younger men. There are a couple who I’m talking to who don’t seem to be like that, but this year being what it’s been, I haven’t met them yet. Even then, we’re talking late 20s or early 30s, not early 20s. Hopefully you or any other younger men reading this won’t take it as an attack, but will look at it as things to avoid - not behaving in the ways I’ve mentioned will make you stand out as that behaviour is so common (in my experience) that it’ll set you apart if you can show you’re not like that." Wow I couldn't have actually put that any better. I totally identify with a lot of what you have said there and I can't disagree with any of it because that is pretty much my experience too. | |||
"I haven’t seen those accusations personally, but my experiences with much younger men haven’t been good. These observations are based only on my experiences, and I’m not saying all younger men are like this, but enough of the ones I’ve met/talked to have been like this that it made me raise my lower age limit so they can’t contact me. These are some of the issues I’ve had: Frequently disrespectful in how they speak to me, expecting me to ply them with photos every time they’re horny, speaking to me like I’m an airhead, calling me “babe” constantly. Expecting me to be some kind of professional or something, wanting me to “show them my tricks” (like what tricks? You want me to teach you how to suck someone’s cock?), slagging off younger women as a way to compliment me, assuming I’ll be better in bed and will do all the work, demanding anal, making demands about body hair. (By the way, I’ve been with younger women, they know what they’re doing so I don’t know what these lads are complaining about.) In person - only much younger men have stood me up, men nearer my age never have. They then whine and demand a second chance. They lack skill, are often too rough, too selfish, don’t last long. I’ve rarely had any satisfaction from a meet with a man under 35, and none whatsoever with a man under 30. They seem to learn their moves from porn, and most of them don’t give oral. OP, I’m sorry if this seems overly negative, and I’m sure there are younger men who aren’t like this, but these have been my experiences and are why I am now very careful about meeting younger men. There are a couple who I’m talking to who don’t seem to be like that, but this year being what it’s been, I haven’t met them yet. Even then, we’re talking late 20s or early 30s, not early 20s. Hopefully you or any other younger men reading this won’t take it as an attack, but will look at it as things to avoid - not behaving in the ways I’ve mentioned will make you stand out as that behaviour is so common (in my experience) that it’ll set you apart if you can show you’re not like that." I am afraid this has been my experience too. They will rarely talk for longer than a few days then disappear. | |||
I seem to be attracted to younger now rather than older since getting near to 40  | |||
"I haven’t seen those accusations personally, but my experiences with much younger men haven’t been good. These observations are based only on my experiences, and I’m not saying all younger men are like this, but enough of the ones I’ve met/talked to have been like this that it made me raise my lower age limit so they can’t contact me. These are some of the issues I’ve had: Frequently disrespectful in how they speak to me, expecting me to ply them with photos every time they’re horny, speaking to me like I’m an airhead, calling me “babe” constantly. Expecting me to be some kind of professional or something, wanting me to “show them my tricks” (like what tricks? You want me to teach you how to suck someone’s cock?), slagging off younger women as a way to compliment me, assuming I’ll be better in bed and will do all the work, demanding anal, making demands about body hair. (By the way, I’ve been with younger women, they know what they’re doing so I don’t know what these lads are complaining about.) In person - only much younger men have stood me up, men nearer my age never have. They then whine and demand a second chance. They lack skill, are often too rough, too selfish, don’t last long. I’ve rarely had any satisfaction from a meet with a man under 35, and none whatsoever with a man under 30. They seem to learn their moves from porn, and most of them don’t give oral. OP, I’m sorry if this seems overly negative, and I’m sure there are younger men who aren’t like this, but these have been my experiences and are why I am now very careful about meeting younger men. There are a couple who I’m talking to who don’t seem to be like that, but this year being what it’s been, I haven’t met them yet. Even then, we’re talking late 20s or early 30s, not early 20s. Hopefully you or any other younger men reading this won’t take it as an attack, but will look at it as things to avoid - not behaving in the ways I’ve mentioned will make you stand out as that behaviour is so common (in my experience) that it’ll set you apart if you can show you’re not like that. Thanks for posting this! I wouldnt ask anyone to sugar coat anything they feel like they want to say. I like that youre honest. Obviously, it paints a bad picture for 'younger' guys who aren't like this. But then again it's up to us to prove that we're not like this and set ourselves aside. Does this mean you would completely block guys in their early 20s and wouldn't message them? " I have my age range set to 28-45 and my age filter on so no-one outside that range can contact me. It was 25-45 previously, but I had to raise it because of the disrespectful messages. It’s a shame because I’m open to a wider age range when it comes to women, but it’s not possible to set different ranges for different genders. | |||
"I haven’t seen those accusations personally, but my experiences with much younger men haven’t been good. These observations are based only on my experiences, and I’m not saying all younger men are like this, but enough of the ones I’ve met/talked to have been like this that it made me raise my lower age limit so they can’t contact me. These are some of the issues I’ve had: Frequently disrespectful in how they speak to me, expecting me to ply them with photos every time they’re horny, speaking to me like I’m an airhead, calling me “babe” constantly. Expecting me to be some kind of professional or something, wanting me to “show them my tricks” (like what tricks? You want me to teach you how to suck someone’s cock?), slagging off younger women as a way to compliment me, assuming I’ll be better in bed and will do all the work, demanding anal, making demands about body hair. (By the way, I’ve been with younger women, they know what they’re doing so I don’t know what these lads are complaining about.) In person - only much younger men have stood me up, men nearer my age never have. They then whine and demand a second chance. They lack skill, are often too rough, too selfish, don’t last long. I’ve rarely had any satisfaction from a meet with a man under 35, and none whatsoever with a man under 30. They seem to learn their moves from porn, and most of them don’t give oral. OP, I’m sorry if this seems overly negative, and I’m sure there are younger men who aren’t like this, but these have been my experiences and are why I am now very careful about meeting younger men. There are a couple who I’m talking to who don’t seem to be like that, but this year being what it’s been, I haven’t met them yet. Even then, we’re talking late 20s or early 30s, not early 20s. Hopefully you or any other younger men reading this won’t take it as an attack, but will look at it as things to avoid - not behaving in the ways I’ve mentioned will make you stand out as that behaviour is so common (in my experience) that it’ll set you apart if you can show you’re not like that. I agree with this post, however, "Even then, we’re talking late 20s or early 30s, not early 20s" from my experience I've found this also to be true of men in their 40s and up as well. " I’m not for a minute saying older men don’t behave badly, some of the worst abuse I’ve had (before I put my age filter on) was from men in their 60s and 70s. But I meant specifically the younger men I’m actually talking to, who are in their late 20s or early 30s, I was trying to say that the ones I’m getting on well with are that age, rather than really young. | |||
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"Yet again another thread with the word 'younger' in it
However, I'm not asking for any 'older mature MILFS' to come fuck a young toyboy hehe
I've seen a few posts on threads, describing younger guys in certain ways. Such as being time wasters, or just on here for bragging rights etc.
The age barrier is a separate thing that we can all respect if it's there.
But, I want to know if people think these negative connotations exist?
Would this prevent you from messaging a guy younger than you or showing an interest in a younger guy?? Do you have any bad experiences involving a younger guy? "Nope, Fab offers a parallel universe Half of what is said is for dramatic effect and to 'fit in' Some of the other half say things because the parent kicks in I'm not a parent so have no issue in meeting younger people My other half is 26, I'm 50 I've never had a relationship where I have so much in common, both in and out of the bedroom Thing was, he was outside of my age range, but we got chatting, I opened my mind and well, here we are  | |||
"I haven’t seen those accusations personally, but my experiences with much younger men haven’t been good. These observations are based only on my experiences, and I’m not saying all younger men are like this, but enough of the ones I’ve met/talked to have been like this that it made me raise my lower age limit so they can’t contact me. These are some of the issues I’ve had: Frequently disrespectful in how they speak to me, expecting me to ply them with photos every time they’re horny, speaking to me like I’m an airhead, calling me “babe” constantly. Expecting me to be some kind of professional or something, wanting me to “show them my tricks” (like what tricks? You want me to teach you how to suck someone’s cock?), slagging off younger women as a way to compliment me, assuming I’ll be better in bed and will do all the work, demanding anal, making demands about body hair. (By the way, I’ve been with younger women, they know what they’re doing so I don’t know what these lads are complaining about.) In person - only much younger men have stood me up, men nearer my age never have. They then whine and demand a second chance. They lack skill, are often too rough, too selfish, don’t last long. I’ve rarely had any satisfaction from a meet with a man under 35, and none whatsoever with a man under 30. They seem to learn their moves from porn, and most of them don’t give oral. OP, I’m sorry if this seems overly negative, and I’m sure there are younger men who aren’t like this, but these have been my experiences and are why I am now very careful about meeting younger men. There are a couple who I’m talking to who don’t seem to be like that, but this year being what it’s been, I haven’t met them yet. Even then, we’re talking late 20s or early 30s, not early 20s. Hopefully you or any other younger men reading this won’t take it as an attack, but will look at it as things to avoid - not behaving in the ways I’ve mentioned will make you stand out as that behaviour is so common (in my experience) that it’ll set you apart if you can show you’re not like that. I am afraid this has been my experience too. They will rarely talk for longer than a few days then disappear." I had one who literally talked to me constantly pre-covid, then as soon as he realised I wouldn’t be meeting him any time soon, vanished. At that point I had to just shrug and think if he was only pretending to be interested in me as a person because he thought it would get him sex, then he was no great loss. | |||
"I haven’t seen those accusations personally, but my experiences with much younger men haven’t been good. These observations are based only on my experiences, and I’m not saying all younger men are like this, but enough of the ones I’ve met/talked to have been like this that it made me raise my lower age limit so they can’t contact me. These are some of the issues I’ve had: Frequently disrespectful in how they speak to me, expecting me to ply them with photos every time they’re horny, speaking to me like I’m an airhead, calling me “babe” constantly. Expecting me to be some kind of professional or something, wanting me to “show them my tricks” (like what tricks? You want me to teach you how to suck someone’s cock?), slagging off younger women as a way to compliment me, assuming I’ll be better in bed and will do all the work, demanding anal, making demands about body hair. (By the way, I’ve been with younger women, they know what they’re doing so I don’t know what these lads are complaining about.) In person - only much younger men have stood me up, men nearer my age never have. They then whine and demand a second chance. They lack skill, are often too rough, too selfish, don’t last long. I’ve rarely had any satisfaction from a meet with a man under 35, and none whatsoever with a man under 30. They seem to learn their moves from porn, and most of them don’t give oral. OP, I’m sorry if this seems overly negative, and I’m sure there are younger men who aren’t like this, but these have been my experiences and are why I am now very careful about meeting younger men. There are a couple who I’m talking to who don’t seem to be like that, but this year being what it’s been, I haven’t met them yet. Even then, we’re talking late 20s or early 30s, not early 20s. Hopefully you or any other younger men reading this won’t take it as an attack, but will look at it as things to avoid - not behaving in the ways I’ve mentioned will make you stand out as that behaviour is so common (in my experience) that it’ll set you apart if you can show you’re not like that. I agree with this post, however, "Even then, we’re talking late 20s or early 30s, not early 20s" from my experience I've found this also to be true of men in their 40s and up as well. I’m not for a minute saying older men don’t behave badly, some of the worst abuse I’ve had (before I put my age filter on) was from men in their 60s and 70s. But I meant specifically the younger men I’m actually talking to, who are in their late 20s or early 30s, I was trying to say that the ones I’m getting on well with are that age, rather than really young." I did understand what you meant. Xx | |||
"So you're experiences with younger guys made you change your age preferences. A lot of you on this thread have age ranges to block guys in their early 20's. Does that mean you're entirely not interested in them? Do certain guys ruin our chances to be able message you "I guess you could say that, in the sense that the vast majority who have contacted me have been so disrespectful that I’m no longer willing to take the chance. So maybe there’s a 23-year-old near me, who is absolutely gorgeous, a lovely person, and great in bed who I’m missing out on because of it. But I can live with that if it spares me the rest. (Besides, I have a 43-year-old who’s all those things so I’m fine )
There’s also the issue that I feel a bit wrong about the though of having sex with anyone young enough to be my offspring, and there’s not much anyone could do about that.
My understanding is that organised socials were a good way for men of any age to make a good impression on people without filters getting in the way, so that’s probably a good way forward when they start again. | |||
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"So you're experiences with younger guys made you change your age preferences. A lot of you on this thread have age ranges to block guys in their early 20's. Does that mean you're entirely not interested in them? Do certain guys ruin our chances to be able message you "When I joined fab my age filters where 21 to 40 but after some negative experiences I upped them. In a club or party setting I would have interacted with younger men though. | |||
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The worst sex I ever had was with a 25yo too, that with the milf and cougar comments is enough to put me off anyone younger. | |||
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"Is their a specific age when one is called a Milf or cougar?" Well, at 33 I don’t appreciate it... especially cougar! | |||
"Is their a specific age when one is called a Milf or cougar? Well, at 33 I don’t appreciate it... especially cougar!" Yes completely understand I wouldn't think at 33 be a cougar is more so 50+ | |||
"So you're experiences with younger guys made you change your age preferences. A lot of you on this thread have age ranges to block guys in their early 20's. Does that mean you're entirely not interested in them? Do certain guys ruin our chances to be able message you
When I joined fab my age filters where 21 to 40 but after some negative experiences I upped them.
In a club or party setting I would have interacted with younger men though. "Hmm that's fair enough. Even if someone in their 20s couldn't message you, would you think to message them if you found them attractive? | |||
"So you're experiences with younger guys made you change your age preferences. A lot of you on this thread have age ranges to block guys in their early 20's. Does that mean you're entirely not interested in them? Do certain guys ruin our chances to be able message you
When I joined fab my age filters where 21 to 40 but after some negative experiences I upped them.
In a club or party setting I would have interacted with younger men though.
Hmm that's fair enough. Even if someone in their 20s couldn't message you, would you think to message them if you found them attractive? "Probably not to be honest. But don't let the comments on here put you off as there are plenty that are looking for men in their 20's. You come across well on the forums so that will help. | |||
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I don't have any experience of men younger than 25. Even when I was that age I seemed to attract older men.
I've had men under 30 mail me saying they like old women but I've never put any of them through the horror of meeting me. | |||
"Yet again another thread with the word 'younger' in it
However, I'm not asking for any 'older mature MILFS' to come fuck a young toyboy hehe
I've seen a few posts on threads, describing younger guys in certain ways. Such as being time wasters, or just on here for bragging rights etc.
The age barrier is a separate thing that we can all respect if it's there.
But, I want to know if people think these negative connotations exist?
Would this prevent you from messaging a guy younger than you or showing an interest in a younger guy?? Do you have any bad experiences involving a younger guy? "What id say about your profile is you have not got loads of dick pics like the usual idiots do. You sound a respectful young man so good on you for having a lovely profile for a change. | |||
 but not being a women myself I bet you do find a fair few that are not! | |||
"Yet again another thread with the word 'younger' in it
However, I'm not asking for any 'older mature MILFS' to come fuck a young toyboy hehe
I've seen a few posts on threads, describing younger guys in certain ways. Such as being time wasters, or just on here for bragging rights etc.
The age barrier is a separate thing that we can all respect if it's there.
But, I want to know if people think these negative connotations exist?
Would this prevent you from messaging a guy younger than you or showing an interest in a younger guy?? Do you have any bad experiences involving a younger guy?
What id say about your profile is you have not got loads of dick pics like the usual idiots do. You sound a respectful young man so good on you for having a lovely profile for a change. "That's nice of you to say. Thank you | |||
"Younger men tend to refer to me as a milf or a cougar. That’s enough to put me off
The worst sex I ever had was with a 25yo too, that with the milf and cougar comments is enough to put me off anyone younger."I can’t believe I forgot that one, I hate those. Milf especially because I don’t have children, but cougar only really applies to women who actively seek young men so I hate that one as well because I don’t seek them. | |||
"So you're experiences with younger guys made you change your age preferences. A lot of you on this thread have age ranges to block guys in their early 20's. Does that mean you're entirely not interested in them? Do certain guys ruin our chances to be able message you "For me it really depends what kind of a connection we have and what I’m looking for at that time and ultimately how I’m feeling about myself These fluctuate and also on here it’s different to a chance encounter where you can feel the attraction / chemistry regardless of age restrictions I am interested in what it is that causes some people who have specific age gap preferences though and I have to admit that in the past I have found that hot | |||
"Yet again another thread with the word 'younger' in it
However, I'm not asking for any 'older mature MILFS' to come fuck a young toyboy hehe
I've seen a few posts on threads, describing younger guys in certain ways. Such as being time wasters, or just on here for bragging rights etc.
The age barrier is a separate thing that we can all respect if it's there.
But, I want to know if people think these negative connotations exist?
Would this prevent you from messaging a guy younger than you or showing an interest in a younger guy?? Do you have any bad experiences involving a younger guy?
What id say about your profile is you have not got loads of dick pics like the usual idiots do. You sound a respectful young man so good on you for having a lovely profile for a change.
That's nice of you to say. Thank you "You're welcome. | |||
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"I am simply not attracted to the 'younger men' so tend not to go far below my own age. Maybe a few years but thats about it." So I've been told | |||
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It's too much like hard work.
They also either live in shared houses or with their parents 
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"I find most under 30yr olds speak an entirely different language to me
It's too much like hard work.
They also either live in shared houses or with their parents
"I can't argue with that but it depends on the person. | |||
