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Each other nowadays?
Take covid out of the equation. Is it all on line? Does anybody get chatting at a bus stop, sit at the same table in a crowded coffee shop, drop their shopping in the street and a handsome stranger helps them pick it up?
My brother has been married to someone for years who chased after him when he dropped his notebook. Are those days over? Are we going back to the times when formal introductions had to be made even if the role of matchmaker has been usurped by tindr? |
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over a year ago
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This is a really good follow up to a previous thread which got a little heated.
Online is the obvious answer but I’m far from convinced it’s any safer or less free of creeps than meeting people in real life. Unfortunately I think it is harder than ever to meet people in a safe, relaxed environment which is perhaps why so many more people are single ? |
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"Each other nowadays?
Take covid out of the equation. Is it all on line? Does anybody get chatting at a bus stop, sit at the same table in a crowded coffee shop, drop their shopping in the street and a handsome stranger helps them pick it up?
My brother has been married to someone for years who chased after him when he dropped his notebook. Are those days over? Are we going back to the times when formal introductions had to be made even if the role of matchmaker has been usurped by tindr? "
I actually got talking to the man I am with now through our old school site. I messaged him after a post he made about who remembered him from school. We got talking and decided to meet up.. I've barely been without him since x |
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I guess it depends on age. Youngsters will still meet at pubs / clubs, work etc, or through friends of friends. They also think nothing of looking online, there is no sense of embarrassment or shame as there was in the early days.
Oldies like me ? gone are my days of making eye contact and start chatting. Gone are my days of meeting in bars, they are full of couples meeting following online contact.
Sadly, online is the future. |
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"This is a really good follow up to a previous thread which got a little heated.
Online is the obvious answer but I’m far from convinced it’s any safer or less free of creeps than meeting people in real life. Unfortunately I think it is harder than ever to meet people in a safe, relaxed environment which is perhaps why so many more people are single ? "
This is true! Friends and family that know I'm on here say u dont know who u meeting of internet they could b mad men! I say so could someone u meet in a supermarket isle! In fact think the latter is more likely! Working in one lmao! X |
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"Friends of friends, interest groups, work, volunteering, online.
(My parents and grandparents all met as introductions between mutual friends, for what it's worth)"
Hobbies, clubs (not that sort !) definitely. Work maybe less so now, fewer people work in large, mixed environments than before (I think) and there is perhaps less socialising after work? |
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"I do know one thing im bloody glad im passed the dating stage
I don't think anyone is past dating these days, I've met 70 year olds that talk about their girlfriends/boyfriends."
Im in a relationship |
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"Friends of friends, interest groups, work, volunteering, online.
(My parents and grandparents all met as introductions between mutual friends, for what it's worth)
Hobbies, clubs (not that sort !) definitely. Work maybe less so now, fewer people work in large, mixed environments than before (I think) and there is perhaps less socialising after work? "
Sure, but it's possible. It's less weird to get to know someone that way than trying to pick them up in the street  |
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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago
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"I do know one thing im bloody glad im passed the dating stage
I don't think anyone is past dating these days, I've met 70 year olds that talk about their girlfriends/boyfriends.Im in a relationship "
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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago
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I got married in 2003. I met him online... before him, I had a very long relationship with someone I’d also met online.  it was still at that time when people looked at you weirdly when you said you’d met online.
If the online option had not existed, relationships or marriage might have never happened for me. I don’t know why- I made many friends throughout my life, but I was never approached for anything beyond that... |
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Most of my previous relationships came from work or hobbies I had. But now it’s mainly Tinder.
Currently chatting with a woman who lives a few miles away, she seems really cool  and we had a virtual coffee date last week. Obviously COVID has put a block on us meeting in person but hopefully early next year  |
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I'm not against meeting on line. That would be a bit hypocritical of me since I'm on fab .
Even a couple of years ago I didn't think I'd be saying this but I'm beginning to think that on line interaction is making people wary of interacting socially with strangers in the off line world. |
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"I'm not against meeting on line. That would be a bit hypocritical of me since I'm on fab .
Even a couple of years ago I didn't think I'd be saying this but I'm beginning to think that on line interaction is making people wary of interacting socially with strangers in the off line world."
Maybe I'm too young (although for probably the first ten years of me being old enough to date, meeting online was super weird), but I've always found being approached in the street quite strange. Friendly chit chat that ends when we stop being together, fine. More... yeah no. |
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I can’t speak for now days but some years back I met a chap who I had been mates with at university, commenting on last time I had seen him he walked out of a pub and threw up on a girls feet, he owned up that he had now been married to her for some 15 years after going around the next day to replace them.... now there is romance! |
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over a year ago
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Honestly I have no idea and it makes me feel a bit sad.
For me online just feels too false.
I don't work with anyone I'm likely to fancy.
My social life consists mostly of time with other women as do my hobbies.
I'm far too shy to chat up a guy in a bar.
My friends are all coupled up and don't really have any single people they would be keen to introduce me too.
So my place on the shelf seems pretty certain!
I've been single for 13 years. I've been on many dating sites. I must be pretty unappealing.
My hopes are fading at an alarming rate!
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"I do know one thing im bloody glad im passed the dating stage
I don't think anyone is past dating these days, I've met 70 year olds that talk about their girlfriends/boyfriends."
My Dad is 81 and has a girlfriend.... |
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"I do know one thing im bloody glad im passed the dating stage
I don't think anyone is past dating these days, I've met 70 year olds that talk about their girlfriends/boyfriends.
My Dad is 81 and has a girlfriend...."
my partner is 77 and has a girlfriend |
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Speaking from years of online dating it's truly horrible. Loads of fakes, lunatics, trolls etc and I can see why women would get pissed off with guys who lie about being married/attached etc.
I find it much easier to chat to women in person as I probably come across as far less of an annoying twat as I might do online (I can be a tad sarcastic at times  ) The fact is, as a 40+ bloke it's so hard to meet women in real life. All my mates mates are married or settled and my social life isn't half as active as it used to be as a result. If I'm going to approach a woman who is 30+ in a bar (I want kids so can't approach much older women which is a shame) the first thing I assume is that she's taken and I don't want to offend someone who's already spoken for!
I tried Match.com a few years ago with a mate and they had monthly get-together nights which were fun but unfortunately the ratio of men to women was probably 90/10 like Fab is! I'd love to give speed dating a go but I think that's pretty much died out with everyone hooking up online.
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By *ermite12ukMan
over a year ago
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"Honestly I have no idea and it makes me feel a bit sad.
For me online just feels too false.
I don't work with anyone I'm likely to fancy.
My social life consists mostly of time with other women as do my hobbies.
I'm far too shy to chat up a guy in a bar.
My friends are all coupled up and don't really have any single people they would be keen to introduce me too.
So my place on the shelf seems pretty certain!
I've been single for 13 years. I've been on many dating sites. I must be pretty unappealing.
My hopes are fading at an alarming rate!
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You are an incredibly attractive lady. All the guys north of the border, need to go to Specsavers imho.
Ps. Watch out for the elves. They can often be perves. |
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over a year ago
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I'm super chatty and outgoing so I speak to people all the time - meeting people online is one thing, but meeting someone more organically is better I'd say.
As someone said above, for a man approaching a woman in public it can feel as though you're trapped (the woman) which isn't cool so you really have to carefully judge the situation and not be a dick about it, or force yourself on people (yeah on here too guys).
One of the biggest mistakes people make, online and in the flesh is making contact a Q&A session - it shouldn't be that at all, don't just fire dull questions at each other. Conversation makes things work. People on here would do well to heed that. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Those days aren't over, one of my closest uni friends had an adorable meet cute involving an incorrect meal being given to him that was meant for his now fiancée. 
I think things are somewhat different now - societal attitudes to dating have changed as a whole and for understandable reasons internet dating is far more common (geographical limitations are far less, people are far more nomadic, cultural shift in importance placed on marriage and finding the "one", career attitudes... I don't have the energy to go through them all). I do think there's a lot to be said for meeting someone face to face - chemistry is far easier to gauge, conversations flows more easily etc. |
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I met my partner offline. We got chatting at a party, which felt all natural. She reluctantly gave me her phone number, I tried not to overthink the whole how long should I wait to get in touch. Called her the next day to see if she would like to go on a date and the rest is history
I can see the benefits of online dating, as their is possibly more of a chance getting to know someone better in the early stages before committing to a person, although I am unsure as I haven’t a great deal of experience with the whole online shenanigans. I do worry though that as some have said, potentially could cause people all kinds of anxiety about meeting in real life. |
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"I do know one thing im bloody glad im passed the dating stage
I don't think anyone is past dating these days, I've met 70 year olds that talk about their girlfriends/boyfriends.
My Dad is 81 and has a girlfriend....my partner is 77 and has a girlfriend "
Do you know about his partner?  |
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"Those days aren't over, one of my closest uni friends had an adorable meet cute involving an incorrect meal being given to him that was meant for his now fiancée.
I think things are somewhat different now - societal attitudes to dating have changed as a whole and for understandable reasons internet dating is far more common (geographical limitations are far less, people are far more nomadic, cultural shift in importance placed on marriage and finding the "one", career attitudes... I don't have the energy to go through them all). I do think there's a lot to be said for meeting someone face to face - chemistry is far easier to gauge, conversations flows more easily etc."
Good points - I've also noticed this. Especially having lived in different parts of the country, and the world. Attitudes are different in different regions. The UK for example, I lived a large part of my adult life in London but currently in Norfolk, and the difference in attitude here is startling compared to London living.
People here have a very idealistic view of love & what a relationship should be. Very much into 'the one' type stuff, as opposed to London where people are way less into that weird one-person-partner thing.
I blame religion and the patriarchy. |
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"I met my ex husband when i was going to a friends party she had gone of in front so i turned and asked the nearest person if i could walk with them. And then we got married "
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"Check the other thread about meeting people. Seems women think men are weirdos if they approach a woman nowadays "
*some women! We don’t all think like that. It very much depends on the approach and how well they take a polite brush off.
I’m glad I’m out of the daring scene but if I was single I’d be disappointed if men didn’t approach me on a night out.
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"Check the other thread about meeting people. Seems women think men are weirdos if they approach a woman nowadays
*some women! We don’t all think like that. It very much depends on the approach and how well they take a polite brush off.
I’m glad I’m out of the daring scene but if I was single I’d be disappointed if men didn’t approach me on a night out.
Lou x "
I might think differently if my experiences hadn't been basically... universally weird |
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I met my husband through mutual friends at a house party .I was still in school and he had just left ,there were no mobile phones around so we had to do it the old fashioned way and have a conversation.
He gave me a cheesy chat up line which made me laugh and not in a good way and we’ve been together ever since . |
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I don’t think I’ve ever ventured out for the day or a night out and not talked to a stranger.
People that know me are used to my random chats with unknowns, they are always in good nature and you never know you could be the only person they talk to that day.
I’ve only had one relationship from meeting online, every other one was from the old fashioned way of talking in person, pub, event, wedding to name a few, everyone is a stranger until someone says hi. |
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I miss those days when strangers would strike up random conversations and nobody batted an eyelid, yet nowadays every body seems so wary now and I fear we are more disconncted from each other more than ever despite being so connected with technology.
How sad that someone felt the need to ask if approaching others was ok and immediately people were defensive and wary of it.
I like the old ways, the eye contact. The smiles which lead to chatting
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think we should go back to caveman days where you could just hit a woman with your club and drag her back to your cave. Times were much easier then "
This still happens in some corners of the country |
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I think I'm so used to doing everything online now, I'd expect someone in person to come with a resume I can check in lieu of being able to peruse their social media/assess their conversational skills at my leisure . I can't even buy a can opener now without reading 100 reviews online. |
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Our eyes met across the frozen food aisle of the local sainsbury. I tried to sidle up to her but she moved away quickly, so I bought a bunch of flowers and followed her out of the shop. She crossed the street and walked more purposefully. I was struggling to keep up.... When she took her heels off and started jogging I had to really burst my lungs to keep up.... Somehow I lost visibility of her... Never to see her again.
When I got home I was pleasantly surprised when a sexy WPC rang my doorbell. Our eyes met across the door step..... |
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Been together as a couple for 25 plus years met in a club.
Never had any experience with online dating/ interaction till now.
Finding chatting to people on the net quite difficult as the time delay with messages back and forth.
Looking forward to going to social events and clubs much easier to see if you click with someone.
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"Our eyes met across the frozen food aisle of the local sainsbury. I tried to sidle up to her but she moved away quickly, so I bought a bunch of flowers and followed her out of the shop. She crossed the street and walked more purposefully. I was struggling to keep up.... When she took her heels off and started jogging I had to really burst my lungs to keep up.... Somehow I lost visibility of her... Never to see her again.
When I got home I was pleasantly surprised when a sexy WPC rang my doorbell. Our eyes met across the door step..... "
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"Each other nowadays?
Take covid out of the equation. Is it all on line? Does anybody get chatting at a bus stop, sit at the same table in a crowded coffee shop, drop their shopping in the street and a handsome stranger helps them pick it up?
My brother has been married to someone for years who chased after him when he dropped his notebook. Are those days over? Are we going back to the times when formal introductions had to be made even if the role of matchmaker has been usurped by tindr? I actually got talking to the man I am with now through our old school site. I messaged him after a post he made about who remembered him from school. We got talking and decided to meet up.. I've barely been without him since x "
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"I'm not against meeting on line. That would be a bit hypocritical of me since I'm on fab .
Even a couple of years ago I didn't think I'd be saying this but I'm beginning to think that on line interaction is making people wary of interacting socially with strangers in the off line world."
I agree with this.
It seems to be a very tick box era. Because so many people are online they seem to forget there's a real person behind the profile/ Insta/FB page etc.
So much focus on pics and text. But behind every profile is a human being.
I used to think people chat to each other when they meet in a cafe or when puking on someone's feet. But maybe they just ask for their Instagram tag then decide if that tick box entity is worth their time... or whether just they swipe past onto another quick fix.  |
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"I'm not against meeting on line. That would be a bit hypocritical of me since I'm on fab .
Even a couple of years ago I didn't think I'd be saying this but I'm beginning to think that on line interaction is making people wary of interacting socially with strangers in the off line world.
I agree with this.
It seems to be a very tick box era. Because so many people are online they seem to forget there's a real person behind the profile/ Insta/FB page etc.
So much focus on pics and text. But behind every profile is a human being.
I used to think people chat to each other when they meet in a cafe or when puking on someone's feet. But maybe they just ask for their Instagram tag then decide if that tick box entity is worth their time... or whether just they swipe past onto another quick fix. "
We were just discussing this. We both think what you say is right but we also think that the Internet has made women much more wary of men's motives when they're approached. The number of "a woman is friendly to me I think she wants sex" and similar comments are bound to have that effect I think. Pre Internet it wasn't expressed for people to see. |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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My first serious relationship we met via a blind date. We were together 9 years.
My second serious relationship we met on an online dating site. We were together 6 years.
I’d much prefer to meet someone offline as it feels more relaxed and like you’re not just a number in a queue. |
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"I'm not against meeting on line. That would be a bit hypocritical of me since I'm on fab .
Even a couple of years ago I didn't think I'd be saying this but I'm beginning to think that on line interaction is making people wary of interacting socially with strangers in the off line world.
I agree with this.
It seems to be a very tick box era. Because so many people are online they seem to forget there's a real person behind the profile/ Insta/FB page etc.
So much focus on pics and text. But behind every profile is a human being.
I used to think people chat to each other when they meet in a cafe or when puking on someone's feet. But maybe they just ask for their Instagram tag then decide if that tick box entity is worth their time... or whether just they swipe past onto another quick fix.
We were just discussing this. We both think what you say is right but we also think that the Internet has made women much more wary of men's motives when they're approached. The number of "a woman is friendly to me I think she wants sex" and similar comments are bound to have that effect I think. Pre Internet it wasn't expressed for people to see. "
Yeah...I can't deny that I can feel a bit jaded when I see the contents of some men's minds typed out |
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"I'm not against meeting on line. That would be a bit hypocritical of me since I'm on fab .
Even a couple of years ago I didn't think I'd be saying this but I'm beginning to think that on line interaction is making people wary of interacting socially with strangers in the off line world.
I agree with this.
It seems to be a very tick box era. Because so many people are online they seem to forget there's a real person behind the profile/ Insta/FB page etc.
So much focus on pics and text. But behind every profile is a human being.
I used to think people chat to each other when they meet in a cafe or when puking on someone's feet. But maybe they just ask for their Instagram tag then decide if that tick box entity is worth their time... or whether just they swipe past onto another quick fix.
We were just discussing this. We both think what you say is right but we also think that the Internet has made women much more wary of men's motives when they're approached. The number of "a woman is friendly to me I think she wants sex" and similar comments are bound to have that effect I think. Pre Internet it wasn't expressed for people to see.
Yeah...I can't deny that I can feel a bit jaded when I see the contents of some men's minds typed out "
I just said to Mr N that I'm more wary of men now than I ever was and that's absolutely due to some of the things I've read on here. |
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"I'm not against meeting on line. That would be a bit hypocritical of me since I'm on fab .
Even a couple of years ago I didn't think I'd be saying this but I'm beginning to think that on line interaction is making people wary of interacting socially with strangers in the off line world.
I agree with this.
It seems to be a very tick box era. Because so many people are online they seem to forget there's a real person behind the profile/ Insta/FB page etc.
So much focus on pics and text. But behind every profile is a human being.
I used to think people chat to each other when they meet in a cafe or when puking on someone's feet. But maybe they just ask for their Instagram tag then decide if that tick box entity is worth their time... or whether just they swipe past onto another quick fix.
We were just discussing this. We both think what you say is right but we also think that the Internet has made women much more wary of men's motives when they're approached. The number of "a woman is friendly to me I think she wants sex" and similar comments are bound to have that effect I think. Pre Internet it wasn't expressed for people to see.
Yeah...I can't deny that I can feel a bit jaded when I see the contents of some men's minds typed out. "
I've been wary of men for about 10 years due to this. No wonder I'm a shrunken grumpy dried up prune. |
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Met previous partners via school, parties, pubs + nightclubs and hobbies
Friends also found their partners via the above plus work /work nights out /work travel |
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over a year ago
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"Put the technology down and go out and talk/flirt with people you deem attractive..when the Covid has gone of course "
Please remember us unattractive people also like someone to talk to ! |
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I was DJing you n a club In Barnsley, packed bar and dance floor. Then I looked to the bar and saw Rhiannon. She was talking to another member of staff (she worked there) then she smiled. For the first time in over 20 years of DJing I missed a cue. That smile took my breath away and hit me like a hammer. I was married at the time and rhi was so stunning she was waaaaay out of my league.
Fast forward 2 years. My marriage had fallen apart and I was DJing at a different club. One of my friends came in on a quiet Sunday night for a chat with her friend. It was rhi. We chatted and my friend went off to get drinks. Some of the dancers kept walking past and smiling as I'd been on my own quite a while by then and they liked seeing me smiling . Rhi was confused by all the grins and asked me why. I told her, she smiled and said "let's give them something to smile about" then kissed me. I haven't looked back since that night. That was 12 years ago. She still takes my breath away and us still waaaaaaaaaaay out of my league |
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I met all of my previous longterm partners organically - my first relationship was through a friend, second was in a nightclub and 3rd was while travelling.
They were all before internet dating was a big thing.
The only people I've met online were for sex or truly awful dates when I thought I was looking for a relationship
If I was looking for a relationship now large amount of liars would crush my soul!
Large numbers of people over 40 are single because the majority create a fake persona online and rarely meet anyone genuine.
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"Check the other thread about meeting people. Seems women think men are weirdos if they approach a woman nowadays "
That's what "some" women & 1 very angry man thought  I am more than happy to be approached, politely, in person.
Meeting people on line - there's just too many variables that can be hidden. Yes, I know people you meet down the pub, etc can hide things/lie about themselves, but at least you know they're real/what they look & sound like. It's a good basis to build on. |
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"I miss those days when strangers would strike up random conversations and nobody batted an eyelid, yet nowadays every body seems so wary now and I fear we are more disconncted from each other more than ever despite being so connected with technology.
How sad that someone felt the need to ask if approaching others was ok and immediately people were defensive and wary of it.
I like the old ways, the eye contact. The smiles which lead to chatting
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Call me cynical but with Tinder etc I doubt more than 5% bother with reading a bio (both men and women). As I've got older I've put a bit (ok a lot ) of timber on and that doesn't go well with being photogenic. I can bang on all I want about being a nice guy, having interesting hobbies etc but no matter what anyone says (yes I know there are exceptions) the chiselled fella with the six pack and the million dollar smile is gonna get all the "right swipes"!
Personality unfortunately can't balance that out on today's "insta shag" apps.
Oh for the halcyon days of midweek "salsa nights" where you could take advantage of half price cocktails and flirt outrageously with 20/30 something women! |
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"I miss those days when strangers would strike up random conversations and nobody batted an eyelid, yet nowadays every body seems so wary now and I fear we are more disconncted from each other more than ever despite being so connected with technology.
How sad that someone felt the need to ask if approaching others was ok and immediately people were defensive and wary of it.
I like the old ways, the eye contact. The smiles which lead to chatting
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"Call me cynical but with Tinder etc I doubt more than 5% bother with reading a bio (both men and women). As I've got older I've put a bit (ok a lot ) of timber on and that doesn't go well with being photogenic. I can bang on all I want about being a nice guy, having interesting hobbies etc but no matter what anyone says (yes I know there are exceptions) the chiselled fella with the six pack and the million dollar smile is gonna get all the "right swipes"!
Personality unfortunately can't balance that out on today's "insta shag" apps.
Oh for the halcyon days of midweek "salsa nights" where you could take advantage of half price cocktails and flirt outrageously with 20/30 something women! "
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"I met my husband at a karate lesson. All of my casual sex partners have been off here and Tinder mainly but other hook-up apps and sex sites too xx"
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"Call me cynical but with Tinder etc I doubt more than 5% bother with reading a bio (both men and women). As I've got older I've put a bit (ok a lot ) of timber on and that doesn't go well with being photogenic. I can bang on all I want about being a nice guy, having interesting hobbies etc but no matter what anyone says (yes I know there are exceptions) the chiselled fella with the six pack and the million dollar smile is gonna get all the "right swipes"!
Personality unfortunately can't balance that out on today's "insta shag" apps.
Oh for the halcyon days of midweek "salsa nights" where you could take advantage of half price cocktails and flirt outrageously with 20/30 something women!
I miss salsa nights for a different reason "
Henry J Beans, just off Deansgate? As a Manc that was THE place to be back in the early noughties for midweek fun! |
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I've met lots of people I count as friends through just getting chatting to them somewhere. Be it at a club back in the day... ( sorry lol ) a race track... car/ bike meet... one of my best mates I met in a queue for paying for parking. She couldn't get her card to work. So I randomly paid it for her.. 5 years later we are still friends.
I'm one of those that can talk to anyone anywhere.
I met my partner originally in the band room while waiting for the music teacher at school |
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Simply by being out and about, be it work, socialising, pursuing hobbies etc.
People's experiences vary, websites & forums used to be great back in the day but mobile apps have stolen the li_elight when it come to casual meets and dating.
TBH, I feel online stuff has increasing become an outlet to fantasise or show people what you want to show them, as opposed to the person you actually are or or your true intentions .... no matter how much discretion you want.
Imagine being out at a bar or what ever, and there are 500 men hitting on one woman or a couple, that's what online ratios are like these days. I would rather take my chances in the outside world where I actually have a chance to interact. On the flipside, it you are a couple, single woman, or TV/TS the chances are more stacked in your favour, hence why I say experiences may vary. |
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"Call me cynical but with Tinder etc I doubt more than 5% bother with reading a bio (both men and women). As I've got older I've put a bit (ok a lot ) of timber on and that doesn't go well with being photogenic. I can bang on all I want about being a nice guy, having interesting hobbies etc but no matter what anyone says (yes I know there are exceptions) the chiselled fella with the six pack and the million dollar smile is gonna get all the "right swipes"!
Personality unfortunately can't balance that out on today's "insta shag" apps.
Oh for the halcyon days of midweek "salsa nights" where you could take advantage of half price cocktails and flirt outrageously with 20/30 something women!
I miss salsa nights for a different reason
Henry J Beans, just off Deansgate? As a Manc that was THE place to be back in the early noughties for midweek fun! "
Erm no. I used to go salsa dancing at Copacabana in the Northern Quarter. It's been gone a while now, but so has my ability to dance... |
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"I can’t speak for now days but some years back I met a chap who I had been mates with at university, commenting on last time I had seen him he walked out of a pub and threw up on a girls feet, he owned up that he had now been married to her for some 15 years after going around the next day to replace them.... now there is romance! "
Friends of mine got married after she ran his foot over with her car outside a pub ... she was actually engaged to someone else at the time! |
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Online dating doesn't work for me all! So now I'm might be interested in meeting someone for life adventures, think I'll actually stick to meeting in the real world just meeting people through my adventures ... |
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"Each other nowadays?
Take covid out of the equation. Is it all on line? Does anybody get chatting at a bus stop, sit at the same table in a crowded coffee shop, drop their shopping in the street and a handsome stranger helps them pick it up?
My brother has been married to someone for years who chased after him when he dropped his notebook. Are those days over? Are we going back to the times when formal introductions had to be made even if the role of matchmaker has been usurped by tindr? "
The post earlier where a huge % of people were saying that it was creepy to chat and approach people out and about (none covid) was quite sad.
We're not talking creepy,stalking, making a porn movie, sex or even trying to chat when it's obvious they're not interested.
It's a sad day when a man or woman can't smile and say hi to someone they like the look of.
Better to try than to never see them again and forever think what if I'd taken a chance.
Maybe it's an age thing as we didn't have mobiles and social media so fall back on so chatting was our way of asking a girl if she'd like to meet up for a drink |
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"Each other nowadays?
Take covid out of the equation. Is it all on line? Does anybody get chatting at a bus stop, sit at the same table in a crowded coffee shop, drop their shopping in the street and a handsome stranger helps them pick it up?
My brother has been married to someone for years who chased after him when he dropped his notebook. Are those days over? Are we going back to the times when formal introductions had to be made even if the role of matchmaker has been usurped by tindr?
The post earlier where a huge % of people were saying that it was creepy to chat and approach people out and about (none covid) was quite sad.
We're not talking creepy,stalking, making a porn movie, sex or even trying to chat when it's obvious they're not interested.
It's a sad day when a man or woman can't smile and say hi to someone they like the look of.
Better to try than to never see them again and forever think what if I'd taken a chance.
Maybe it's an age thing as we didn't have mobiles and social media so fall back on so chatting was our way of asking a girl if she'd like to meet up for a drink"
Even back in my day this never happened in the street? At discos etc yes so yes it's nice and fine to smile say hiya in street but yes it b weird to b chated up in street x |
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"Each other nowadays?
Take covid out of the equation. Is it all on line? Does anybody get chatting at a bus stop, sit at the same table in a crowded coffee shop, drop their shopping in the street and a handsome stranger helps them pick it up?
My brother has been married to someone for years who chased after him when he dropped his notebook. Are those days over? Are we going back to the times when formal introductions had to be made even if the role of matchmaker has been usurped by tindr? "
agreed tinder is a joke all the apps now are controlled so my theory and this is just a theory is that the apps are now not connecting us because they want to limit the infection numbers so the apps I think are purposely holding back matches either that or I’m butt ugly cuz the apps are ghost towns atm |
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Think I even put a note with my number on a girls car window thanking her for lending me a lighter and if she fancied a drink to give me a shout lol FYI I never got the call back lol |
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"Think I even put a note with my number on a girls car window thanking her for lending me a lighter and if she fancied a drink to give me a shout lol FYI I never got the call back lol "
You took a chance though and that's all that matters,
There should be less hate and more of this type of gesture in the world |
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I woke up with my ex girlfreind of 7 years we hadn't slept together as we're both fully dressed neither of us remembers meeting the other or how we ended up back at hers freinds have since filled us in on bits saying we wouldn't leave each other alone. When we woke up together I had the best morning of my life still no sex but was love at first site.....reminder to every one don't work to much it really isnt worth it and it will fuck even the best relationship up!!. |
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"Each other nowadays?
Take covid out of the equation. Is it all on line? Does anybody get chatting at a bus stop, sit at the same table in a crowded coffee shop, drop their shopping in the street and a handsome stranger helps them pick it up?
My brother has been married to someone for years who chased after him when he dropped his notebook. Are those days over? Are we going back to the times when formal introductions had to be made even if the role of matchmaker has been usurped by tindr? "
Seeing as I’m so desperately lonely I’d say; I haven’t a frickin clue |
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"Each other nowadays?
Take covid out of the equation. Is it all on line? Does anybody get chatting at a bus stop, sit at the same table in a crowded coffee shop, drop their shopping in the street and a handsome stranger helps them pick it up?
My brother has been married to someone for years who chased after him when he dropped his notebook. Are those days over? Are we going back to the times when formal introductions had to be made even if the role of matchmaker has been usurped by tindr?
Seeing as I’m so desperately lonely I’d say; I haven’t a frickin clue "
think we’re all in that boat chin up things will get better for ya just like it will for everyone don’t look to the past look to the future happy newyears everyone worst newyears ever but hopefully a better 2021 for everyone |
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