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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Do i have a drink problem?
I drink every night. If i miss a night i feel irratable and not in a good mood. Im d*unk 2 or 3 times a week.
My hubby says i have a drink issue, but still encourages me.
Advise please? |
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Can you say no to a drink?
Is part of your life being dictated by alcohol?
If so yes.
I'd also be careful of a partner who encourages drinking.
There's helplines out there, including NHS.
Only you know the answer OP.
Hope that helps.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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All the questions from above ladies and please define "d*unk".
I would say that if you are asking this question, it is a matter that is starting to concern you and you need to seek professional help to nip it in the bud. |
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"Do i have a drink problem?
I drink every night. If i miss a night i feel irratable and not in a good mood. Im d*unk 2 or 3 times a week.
My hubby says i have a drink issue, but still encourages me.
Advise please? "
I’d advise you to seek professional advice on this, but you’re above the guidelines for maximum alcohol intake |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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"How much do you generally drink each night?
Minimum of a bottle of wine. X "
Problem with wine is it’s rude to not finish the bottle once it’s open.
Probably yes, but it depends, is it it affecting your health, work or relationships? Do you feel bad and/or lie about how much you drink to those close to you? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Have you ever made a conscious decision to stop and found that you cannot do so for a sustained period? If so, then you may be alcoholic.
I suspect, the best person to speak to would be a recovered alcoholic.
There are plenty of resources online.
Good luck - it's a killer. |
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By *rAitchMan
over a year ago
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I agree. Go and seek help. You've already made the first step by acknowledging you have a problem. I suspect your hubby encourages you as he prefers to see you d*unk and happy, rather than sober and irritable. He needs to support you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can you say no to a drink?
Is part of your life being dictated by alcohol?
If so yes.
I'd also be careful of a partner who encourages drinking.
There's helplines out there, including NHS.
Only you know the answer OP.
Hope that helps.
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This! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you are worried, why don't you set yourself a goal of having a few dry nights a week? Maybe 50:50 through the week? And try it for a few months to sustain it...
Or even do the dry January challenge, where you'll have lots of support and encouragement from others doing it
Good luck OP, alcoholism is rife in my family and destroyed my childhood + later my marriage too. It's hard to change habits, so it's an amazing step to even stop and look in the mirror and ask the question |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How much do you generally drink each night?
Minimum of a bottle of wine. X
Problem with wine is it’s rude to not finish the bottle once it’s open.
Probably yes, but it depends, is it it affecting your health, work or relationships? Do you feel bad and/or lie about how much you drink to those close to you? "
With many low level d*unks, they are completely unaware of the impact on family and friends and will find similar people who support the habit and encourage the behaviour |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If your husband encourages you then he is the problem."
I don't agree.
He is a problem, but not the problem.The problem and solution lies with the person taking the drink, IMO.
Anyone that loves you would encourage you to seek help, if and when you think you need it. |
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"Do i have a drink problem?
I drink every night. If i miss a night i feel irratable and not in a good mood. Im d*unk 2 or 3 times a week.
My hubby says i have a drink issue, but still encourages me.
Advise please? "
I’m no saint and probably exceed current government guidelines- wherever they are these days?
Not meaning to be rude or harsh but getting d*unk two or three times a week at your age is not good. I suspect you already know that?
Actually, it’s not good at any age. Don’t blame your hubby - only you are responsible for what you put in your body (snigger) only you can make the change. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you are worried, why don't you set yourself a goal of having a few dry nights a week? Maybe 50:50 through the week? And try it for a few months to sustain it...
Or even do the dry January challenge, where you'll have lots of support and encouragement from others doing it
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Agree with this. Doing something like this should help answer your initial question.
If you find you can do it - there may be no problem.
If you find you can't - then it's likely there's a problem. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Most important think is you have noticed it yourself. Your hubby should not be encouraging you though. Now you see yourself you have a problem make changes by not having drink in the house at all. Well done for addressing the issue though as you have realised yourself you are drinking to much.
Jenny&john xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I feel if you say you feel irritable if you miss drinking alcohol for a night then yes, you have a problem but you already know this. Get some professional help now before it gets worse because it will.
Best wishes and good luck x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Cut down slowly xx"
This. It's very important you don't just go dry for January. It can cause serious issues if you are dependent on alcohol. I have unfortunately seen what happens through a work colleague. It was horrific |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We have two "problem drinkers" in our family. My strong advice to you is to contact aa, Google alcoholics anonymous.
Good luck.
Family members can contact al anon for help."
Definitely agree with above there is a aa helpline number can talk to all anonymous and don’t judge seen it closely and know it does work.
Good luck it takes courage to admit too so well done there. X
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"We have two "problem drinkers" in our family. My strong advice to you is to contact aa, Google alcoholics anonymous.
Good luck.
Family members can contact al anon for help.
Definitely agree with above there is a aa helpline number can talk to all anonymous and don’t judge seen it closely and know it does work.
Good luck it takes courage to admit too so well done there. X
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yep. Anybody who's asking for help and advice around this subject needs people who know what they're talking about. A couple of the replies on this thread although well intentioned, really won't help. |
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"If your husband encourages you then he is the problem."
Love the way it’s his fault!
I would recommend accepting that there is a problem. Do a day with no alcohol, then try two etc. Take it one day at a time. If people around you are drinking, maybe go somewhere else. Try and replace the drinking with something constructive.
Alcohol is a slippy slope, you can have a problem long before you realise it.
Be strong and positive. |
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Sounds like you definitely have an issue with alcohol. Sit down with your partner and talk to him about about it, because you need his support and not in the way of his encouragement to have another drink.
Maybe try to not have a drink during the week (starting after the holidays) and if you crack open a bottle of wine on a Friday night it's fine. See how that works for you.
Hope you're ok OP and good luck x |
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Had vanilla friends, a couple, who were regular drinkers like yourself, on suggesting they need to get help they thought you were only alcoholic when living on the streets drinking anything you can get your hands on ... not true.... both dead now, died in their early fifties with drink related liver problems and within 4 months of each other ..... well done for recognizing you may have a problem, that is the first step, next step is to get help, really hope you get this sorted op. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yep if you needed to ask then it’s deffo a problem, and like many have said your not in denial so we all have faith you can curve this your not out of co trip but it is a way of life and effects your mood wishing you the best of luck sweet xx |
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It’s easy to open a bottle and feel like you should finish the whole bottle. I’ve cut down on my alcohol content by buying a bottle of alcohol free Malbec from Marks & Spencer and a normal bottle of Malbec too. I dilute the alcohol version with the non alcohol wine. So I’ve now cut my alcohol content by half. My drinking was never really a problem but it was creeping up during lockdown and some recent tough times |
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"It’s easy to open a bottle and feel like you should finish the whole bottle. I’ve cut down on my alcohol content by buying a bottle of alcohol free Malbec from Marks & Spencer and a normal bottle of Malbec too. I dilute the alcohol version with the non alcohol wine. So I’ve now cut my alcohol content by half. My drinking was never really a problem but it was creeping up during lockdown and some recent tough times"
Drinking alcohol can just become routine sometimes and before you know it you’re drinking a little too much |
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