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Should your partner compliment you more than other women?
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Just wondering.Should not saying anything to your partner become a norm because you have been together for a while or should they still notice effort you make are eg when putting on a sexy dress or lingerie. And should it bother you if they notice other people and compliment them before they compliment you or not at all. |
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To me it's part and parcel of keeping the desire going.
Not a flippant comment because they think it's what you want to hear, but a genuine look you in the eye and pay you a compliment.
When they compliment others and leave you out, brushing it off as "well you should know", I don't like that. Can easily lead to feelings of inadequacy and lost desire.
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Mr N compliments me all the time. He sometimes buys me sexy outfits and sometimes buys me normal clothes he thinks I'll look good in. If he did that to other women more than me I'd see it as a sign that he's stopped seeing "me" as a woman or was taking me for granted. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I don't think they should compliment you because they feel they should and it's almost required for them to do so but I do think naturally they should want to, more so than other women yes. People like compliments, they still want to feel desirable to their partner and like they hold sexual value, regardless of time passed. It's important to me, previously I was told it was because I'm needy but it's not quite that, it's more I want to feel like I'm special to those I love and I'm still fuckable.
I've probably rehashed what Nicecouple and Princess Peach have said somewhat, apologies if so.
If it's happening to you OP, talk to your partner. You should be able to communicate openly with each other. |
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I’d be upset if my husband was to compliment other women and not me. I’ve no problem with him making nice comments to people but it would be a bit slimy and desperate if he was complimenting other women all the time.
Likewise, I don’t expect him to compliment me all the time as it would become habit and meaningless but he usually praises me when I’ve made the effort, and often when I haven’t and he just wants to get lucky. 
Lou x
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Sometimes we all need a nudge in the right direction so if you’ve noticed it and it annoys you, definitely say something.
There’s an interesting bit of research about love language that might be worth looking up. If one person wants to be complimented on how good they look but the other person compliments by saying how intelligent they are or by making dinner, it’s like the compliments go unnoticed |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To me it's part and parcel of keeping the desire going.
Not a flippant comment because they think it's what you want to hear, but a genuine look you in the eye and pay you a compliment.
When they compliment others and leave you out, brushing it off as "well you should know", I don't like that. Can easily lead to feelings of inadequacy and lost desire.
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Its not just compliments. You should look in to her eyes with the same lust, desire and love you did from day 1. Jenny knows i love and still lust after her just by my looking at her. Having sex with other women is just fun. Loving and lusting after your women is a totally natural thing if you are in love. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Also men like to hear that they look good too.
Makes note to self "
I always praise her but do myself down. Am just an average very kinky&naughty guy i guess. But i do praise jen often. Not just when she makes an effort either. Even with shagging bed hair the next morning i praise my girl. |
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A compliment should be a natural reaction and not necessarily words, it can be a look, a growing smile, a change in the eyes, I take them as more sincere than some words said. But that’s me, I don’t do well with compliments and quickly change the subject or make a joke of it.
As for complimenting others, is it to their face or is it more a passing comment “that dress looks good”?
If it’s making you uncomfortable OP, try talking to your partner, they might not even realise they are doing something wrong. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've got to say from personal experience, a lack of compliments from the one you love does in fact have an an impact male or female. Combine that with compliments from other males or females and it starts to make the brain turn. Slippery slope from there, other things included mind you x |
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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago
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Absolutely keep the appreciation and compliments genuinely flowing. It is so important to speak out loud what you appreciate in your partner.. Give them fully and receive them deeply. Hearts will stay full and intimacy will flourish. |
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"Partners should make an effort with each other. "
This exactly. Used to tell my ex shocked amazing all the time because she genuinely did, not once did she ever compliment me on how I looked or anything. I'm not amazing but scrub up reasonably well. Should be mutual or you actually think why do I bother paying you any attention. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think it depends on the person. I've had some partners give more random compliments than others just due to their nature. "
Yeah but I'd be pissed if they were giving all those compliments elsewhere and I'd be questioning too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I mentioned to my ex that he never complimented me to which he said he’d put a note on the calendar to remind himself to now and then. 
I often complimented him......
I did say he’s now an ex  |
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By *rhugesMan
over a year ago
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"Mr N compliments me all the time. He sometimes buys me sexy outfits and sometimes buys me normal clothes he thinks I'll look good in. If he did that to other women more than me I'd see it as a sign that he's stopped seeing "me" as a woman or was taking me for granted. "
Of course he does you're gorgeous lol |
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"I think it depends on the person. I've had some partners give more random compliments than others just due to their nature.
Yeah but I'd be pissed if they were giving all those compliments elsewhere and I'd be questioning too. "
Yeah that's true. I might have misinterpreted the question. I thought it was about getting complimented more by other people than your partner. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Mr N compliments me all the time. He sometimes buys me sexy outfits and sometimes buys me normal clothes he thinks I'll look good in. If he did that to other women more than me I'd see it as a sign that he's stopped seeing "me" as a woman or was taking me for granted.
Of course he does you're gorgeous lol"
And anyone who doesn't get complimented by their partner isn't gorgeous. |
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