When you're on fab, just trying to put the best you out there and still get no interest, what's the right way and what's wrong? There's the brave ones, the shy ones and those who are past caring. When you're not blessed with the looks and are perceived as a certain type, how do you cope? why do you stay on here? If there was no covid, I would still be in the same situation. How can the success rate be improved for all? Or are some just doomed? Sorry for sounding a bit negative |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
It ultimately comes down to how you view the site - if you view it with an eye on a "success rate" I'd suggest you may well find it frustrating - if you take a more laid back and relaxed approach, treat the site as more a social media platform that you "may" be in a position to meet someone through and the frustration dwindles.
Is all about approach, expectations and attitude really - get those right and couple them with a decent profile and pics and you won't be guaranteed a thing but you also won't find the site as frustrating. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Know your worth more pal.
You have just as much chance of being successful as anyone else on here.
I would recommend attending group socials when they can happen again, keep an eye on the meets and events section of the forum.
Maybe have a look at the profiles of other guys that are well verified and take inspiration from there.
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By (user no longer on site)
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All I would say is don't take too much to heart. Fabs the same as everyday life, some people will want you, some people won't. It doesn't mean your not worthy. To get through on fab id say don't bust your ass to be something someone else wants you to be. Be you, have a sense of humour and you'll meet the right people in the end  |
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I agree with Mr S Tender with regard to organised socials.
Fab alone will likely find you feeling ignored and no more than a pin prick in a mountain of pins and pricks. So, that's where the effort bit comes in.
If you want to meet people in person, go to where the people in person actually are  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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While group socials are a great idea for some, they are unlikely to be happening for a good while yet. I have never been to one, so don’t know how much it would have impacted my experience here. However I do know that finding ways to express who you are and convey your personality on the site does work.
Like Sam said you have as much chance of being ‘successful’ on the site as anyone else, but it does depend how you define success. For me success has been being able to bring more of me to this site than I can to the world outside it due to the social mores and conditioning of the world outside Fab. As a result my 11 years on the site have been successful. I have learned more about me and my authentic expression on here than I imagined, I reframed what I wanted from the site on a number of occasions as I grew and I have made some online friends, a few of whom I met in the flesh so to speak, that I adore and others that challenge me continually so I don’t disappear up my own arse.
In the end getting the most out of the community here is down to me and what I choose to make of it. You’ll find people on your wavelength if you take the time to tune in at an appropriate frequency. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When you're on fab, just trying to put the best you out there and still get no interest, what's the right way and what's wrong? There's the brave ones, the shy ones and those who are past caring. When you're not blessed with the looks and are perceived as a certain type, how do you cope? why do you stay on here? If there was no covid, I would still be in the same situation. How can the success rate be improved for all? Or are some just doomed? Sorry for sounding a bit negative "
What do you mean not blessed with the looks? You're hot!
Most single men struggle on here. There isn't a right way to do it. I agree about the socials. Good way to meet friendly people. Still no guarantee of a meet but good fun.
Good luck.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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You seem to have convinced yourself that only 'good looking' guys get meets
Trust me, that's not the case
Go to a social
It's like walking in the Star Wars bar |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You seem to have convinced yourself that only 'good looking' guys get meets
Trust me, that's not the case
Go to a social
It's like walking in the Star Wars bar"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You seem to have convinced yourself that only 'good looking' guys get meets
Trust me, that's not the case
Go to a social
It's like walking in the Star Wars bar"
These are not the droids you are looking for |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"You seem to have convinced yourself that only 'good looking' guys get meets
Trust me, that's not the case
Go to a social
It's like walking in the Star Wars bar"
 If anyone ever asks me what a social is like again, tells me they are worried about attending, they might not have anyone talk to them etc, I shall use this line. Thanks Bussy. |
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"When you're on fab, just trying to put the best you out there and still get no interest, what's the right way and what's wrong? There's the brave ones, the shy ones and those who are past caring. When you're not blessed with the looks and are perceived as a certain type, how do you cope? why do you stay on here? If there was no covid, I would still be in the same situation. How can the success rate be improved for all? Or are some just doomed? Sorry for sounding a bit negative
What do you mean not blessed with the looks? You're hot!
Most single men struggle on here. There isn't a right way to do it. I agree about the socials. Good way to meet friendly people. Still no guarantee of a meet but good fun.
Good luck. "
Aww thanks, never been told I'm Hot before haha |
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