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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Once in Dublin. Staying at a hotel and a women messaged to see if I wanted drinks. I was feeling adventurous.
She was easy to spot looking very nervous! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nope, I've met without videocalls or a social but had seen pics at least. There've been too many times I've really liked someone to chat to, then not fancied them at all when they've sent a face pice, to risk doing that in person  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes, and I am in love & living with him.
Her x
Ok so how did you recognise each other?
I'm wondering this as well. "
We met in a public place, both had chatted lots on the phone and said what vehicles we were driving, what we are wearing etc.
He recognised me as I drove in to car park and he made his way over to my car to say hello. I recognised his voice and we chatted and the rest is private 
Her x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I've asked because someone I'm chatting to said they met someone without seeing their face pic and I just can't get my head round it.
Face is so important to me.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've asked because someone I'm chatting to said they met someone without seeing their face pic and I just can't get my head round it.
Face is so important to me.
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I am the same. But then just because you are meeting doesn’t mean it is going anywhere? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've asked because someone I'm chatting to said they met someone without seeing their face pic and I just can't get my head round it.
Face is so important to me.
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I've had lots of men ask me for a meet without seeing any pics of me at all.  |
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By *amesB66Man
over a year ago
St Peter Port |
Yes, but only for a coffee social, in a pre arranged venue, both having described what we'd be wearing.
It adds a certain amount of nervous excitement, but on a couple of occasions their face has not been anything like the image I formed in my mind.
They may well have thought the same about me!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Lots of times! And met even more that have never seen a picture of me! The actual biggest disappointments have been not looking like their picture to be honest! But for me aesthetics is the smallest part of attraction ... it really is intelligence, humour and personality (laughter always wins). Obviously physical attraction has to be there but the rest is way more important and much more difficult to find!!! |
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Yes - done this several times but we've always chatted first & got on. My imagination & mind has to be fired - without that, as good-looking as some can be - nothings going to happen.
Or it might be to do with fact that we're not stunners ourselves  Try to impress with our personalities first! |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
Yes I had two well three because ones face pic was always not clear,Funnily enough he was way older than he said. One of them was not what I expected and forgot to mention he chain smoked and had almost no teeth left. The other guy tho was great and definitely made up for the other two.
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By *renzMan
over a year ago
Between Chichester and Havant |
Yes, many times.
Used to happen a lot before the internet took off. If there was a photo, it tended to be a grainy black and white one in a contact magazine. It was never a problem, always met socially first anyway so if someone didn't like someone it never went any further than a social.
I tend to do the same now. It's not always how someone looks, it's about how they interact with me.
Seeing a face pic before a meeting has never bothered me, because of the interaction we would have before meeting, social or otherwise. The only time it could be a problem is not recognising someone when you do meet, but usually we recognise each other. |
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Can't say that I have but then all but one of my meets have been with women I've been chatting to for a couple of months at least so the natural progression at that stage is to exchange face pics if we hadn't already done so.
Even on the one occasion I met someone after just a couple of days we exchanged pics but once she got what she was looking she thanked me and then blocked me the next day apparently out of embarrassment. |
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"Lots of times! And met even more that have never seen a picture of me! The actual biggest disappointments have been not looking like their picture to be honest! But for me aesthetics is the smallest part of attraction ... it really is intelligence, humour and personality (laughter always wins). Obviously physical attraction has to be there but the rest is way more important and much more difficult to find!!! "
I totally agree with you people write a person off sometimes and don't give them a chance to find out about who they are and what kind of personality they have and that is a really sad fact of today because we have so many ways to send a picture, that peoples personality doesn't stand a chance sadly these days, there would be a lot less single people if we learned about someone first, rather than picture drop and block like some of us we tend to do these days.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Almost did once after chatting said his camera didn’t work etc so try to describe what he looked like, well on the day i decided can’t risk no excuse and cancelled it, surprise surprise produces pic and still cancelled so saved a wasted journey  |
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Yes I have not done it for a while as people are more insistent on a face picture than actually wanting to chat and get to know you more first and sadly it's like that these days as sending a face picture is more likely to get you blocked than a meet up for a coffee. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We met up with a couple on holiday (we normally put a status up of where in the UK we’re visiting and check out local profiles beforehand).
Their photos said one thing, reality was somewhat the opposite.  |
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By *batMan
over a year ago
Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales) |
Way back in the days of contact magazines (pre internet for our younger readers!) we had a letter from a couple who were about 15 years older than us. I wrote back asking for pictures before we met and received a second letter full of abuse and demanding to know "who do you think you are!" etc. |
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On CL I used to do it all the time (for a social meet), and did it a handful of times on here when I first joined (for socials).
The percentage of good meets were probably pretty much the same as ones where I'd seen a face pic tbh.
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"Lots of times! And met even more that have never seen a picture of me! The actual biggest disappointments have been not looking like their picture to be honest! But for me aesthetics is the smallest part of attraction ... it really is intelligence, humour and personality (laughter always wins). Obviously physical attraction has to be there but the rest is way more important and much more difficult to find!!! I totally agree with you people write a person off sometimes and don't give them a chance to find out about who they are and what kind of personality they have and that is a really sad fact of today because we have so many ways to send a picture, that peoples personality doesn't stand a chance sadly these days, there would be a lot less single people if we learned about someone first, rather than picture drop and block like some of us we tend to do these days. "
Thing is, for most of us this is just a casual/one off encounter. Scintillating conversation, sparkling wit, kind to animals is not a prerequisite to meeting.
Do they meet my individual definition of phoar? Are they able to say "hi" without their eyes coming out on stalks when they see my cleavage? They're not surrounded by a swarm of bluebottles: pretty much it for me.
Partners and friends are "judged" differently.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes... done it like 3-4 times. Was only pleasantly surprised like twice (but then again they sent me body pics only and they were fit)
One even asked to keep a mask on so I never got to see his face but had a ripped body and big cock so.
the other two times I was repulsed. But I didn’t see any pic or maybe just a dick pic...
One was even quite fat and greasy looking. Had to leave
Reason why I don’t do these type of meets anymore
(Sometimes I do consider if I just see the body and it’s a good looking body then i might say yes without seeing the face . But it’s the only option now) |
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I’ve never met anyone without seeing their pics. Since joining FAB I’ve learned that I’m not attracted to very many people though. Even if someone looks nice in their picture, their walk might put me off. Or their hands, or how they talk. Or any number of other things (I wish it wasn’t like this, I annoy myself) So when I was meeting, pre Covid I used to just go to a party and see if there was anyone there I took a shine to. Saved any awkwardness. |
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By * Plus ECouple
over a year ago
The South |
"Yes, and I am in love & living with him.
Her x
Ok so how did you recognise each other?"
M's very first meet neither had seen a face picture of each other.
They agreed a place and a time to meet and let each other know what they'd be wearing.
Simple.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes, lots, in fact most my meets are without seeing a pic/face pic first.
I always exchange lots of messages first and then have a non playing social first. It works well for me |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I've met where I didn't have a social first and was blindfolded from the get go. But had seen a fair few face pics.
I can't imagine bot seeing someone's face before meeting.
I've also chatted to some for weeks or months and not seen their face or had them seen mine. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Lots of times! And met even more that have never seen a picture of me! The actual biggest disappointments have been not looking like their picture to be honest! But for me aesthetics is the smallest part of attraction ... it really is intelligence, humour and personality (laughter always wins). Obviously physical attraction has to be there but the rest is way more important and much more difficult to find!!! "
Have to add all for socials only ... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd like to have a pic beforehand but if not then social only so no worry about being attracted to each other.
As a single male I am asked always for a pic beforehand even if they have none themselves in which case I don't send one either, if I miss out on a meet then so be it |
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"I'd like to have a pic beforehand but if not then social only so no worry about being attracted to each other.
As a single male I am asked always for a pic beforehand even if they have none themselves in which case I don't send one either, if I miss out on a meet then so be it "
even for a social need to see a pic as otherwise awkward x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Once, but we had been emailing eack other and spoke on the phone several times for over a week before meeting.
I wouldn't do it again, got lucky that time. |
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Yes. We'd been chatting a good while and got along really well, and it didn't occur to me that I hadn't seen a photo until I was sitting in Costa and realised I had no way of recognising him.
A very quick selfie later and we had a great time, we got on every bit as well in person as we did via message and over the phone and were FWB for a couple of years. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I will add that many years ago i had a social meet with a guy who's 10 years younger than me, neither of us saw a pic of the other, it worked extremely well as we have been together since then, lived together since 2007, been married for almost 8 years, a fantastic life, still swinging, together and alone. |
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"You didn't see a face pic of them beforehand? "
We did once, we had chatted on here for a while and arranged to meet. It wasn't until we were sat in the pub car park that realised that we hadn't seen their face pics. We managed to find each other and had a lovely evening. We met them several more times and always had a great time.
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"No, but had one where the face was definitely not the person turning up. Bye bye! "
Oh I’ve had that!! Sat for nearly 45mins waiting for them to show only to find they were already there, looking nothing like their pictures... and i mean “literally no resemblance!” |
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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago
Near Wells |
Yes often and still do. If the conversation has gone well and they come across as a decent person that's fine by me.
I find it adds to the tension if it's a blind date and I wonder what they'll like.
Never really been disappointed. |
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