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I get this a lot. I don’t find it insulting as such, but it does piss me off as it’s such a double standard on here. Women selling pics are spoken about as if they’re the scum of the earth, but men actually soliciting doesn’t seem to get the same outcry. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I get them on a daily basis.
I find it a insult to me and themselves.Not for all the money in the world would I sell my body and morals for money and they must be really desperate and can't get anyone interested in them to resort to having to pay people to meet them x |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"Feeling really offended now. I've only had two in my whole time here 
I will give you the contents of my handbag in exchange for a date  "
Woo hoo! I'm in!
Or am I meant to negotiate? I just don't know what to do now. I'm all a fluster!  |
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"I get them on a daily basis.
I find it a insult to me and themselves.Not for all the money in the world would I sell my body and morals for money and they must be really desperate and can't get anyone interested in them to resort to having to pay people to meet them x "
to be fair tiny I think your priceless and golden x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I get them on a daily basis.
I find it a insult to me and themselves.Not for all the money in the world would I sell my body and morals for money and they must be really desperate and can't get anyone interested in them to resort to having to pay people to meet them x to be fair tiny I think your priceless and golden x"
Thank you x
It is a insult though isn't it x |
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"Feeling really offended now. I've only had two in my whole time here
I will give you the contents of my handbag in exchange for a date
Woo hoo! I'm in!
Or am I meant to negotiate? I just don't know what to do now. I'm all a fluster! "
I’m not sure on the etiquette, I’ll give you the lot though. Congratulations on being the proud owner of 5 tic tacs, a pocket pack of tissues, 2 old train tickets, a go-outdoors members card, a sad looking lipstick, 56p and one of those tiny umbrellas. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I used to get it a lot because my profile said not meeting so I would get how many £££ to convince you to meet . One offered 2k once which I thought surely he good get better value else where  |
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"I get them on a daily basis.
I find it a insult to me and themselves.Not for all the money in the world would I sell my body and morals for money and they must be really desperate and can't get anyone interested in them to resort to having to pay people to meet them x to be fair tiny I think your priceless and golden x
Thank you x
It is a insult though isn't it x "
definitely and sad for a guy that needs to offer ,never paid and never will . |
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"its degrading"
I agree I tried it once more of trying out a kink it did nothing for me and felt sick afterwords and the guy was a right pig thinking just because he was paying he was able to do what he likes now I just block and report |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"Feeling really offended now. I've only had two in my whole time here
I will give you the contents of my handbag in exchange for a date
Woo hoo! I'm in!
Or am I meant to negotiate? I just don't know what to do now. I'm all a fluster!
I’m not sure on the etiquette, I’ll give you the lot though. Congratulations on being the proud owner of 5 tic tacs, a pocket pack of tissues, 2 old train tickets, a go-outdoors members card, a sad looking lipstick, 56p and one of those tiny umbrellas. "
That's just at least doubled my net worth! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I get them on a daily basis.
I find it a insult to me and themselves.Not for all the money in the world would I sell my body and morals for money and they must be really desperate and can't get anyone interested in them to resort to having to pay people to meet them x to be fair tiny I think your priceless and golden x
Thank you x
It is a insult though isn't it x definitely and sad for a guy that needs to offer ,never paid and never will ."
Sex should be about wanting.it shouldn't come down to a cash exchange with desperate random strangers.That just makes my skin crawl.Vile empty robot feelingless sex so they can get rid of there frustration on you. (Sick) x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I get them on a daily basis.
I find it a insult to me and themselves.Not for all the money in the world would I sell my body and morals for money and they must be really desperate and can't get anyone interested in them to resort to having to pay people to meet them x to be fair tiny I think your priceless and golden x
Thank you x
It is a insult though isn't it x definitely and sad for a guy that needs to offer ,never paid and never will .
Sex should be about wanting.it shouldn't come down to a cash exchange with desperate random strangers.That just makes my skin crawl.Vile empty robot feelingless sex so they can get rid of there frustration on you. (Sick) x "
exactly  |
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"I get them on a daily basis.
I find it a insult to me and themselves.Not for all the money in the world would I sell my body and morals for money and they must be really desperate and can't get anyone interested in them to resort to having to pay people to meet them x to be fair tiny I think your priceless and golden x
Thank you x
It is a insult though isn't it x definitely and sad for a guy that needs to offer ,never paid and never will .
Sex should be about wanting.it shouldn't come down to a cash exchange with desperate random strangers.That just makes my skin crawl.Vile empty robot feelingless sex so they can get rid of there frustration on you. (Sick) x "
I’m falling in love for you that is my gift lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not sex.........but if any one want to buy me I'm 240+vat per day based on 8 hours, i come with a digger, delivery is charged extra at 57 pence per mile,fuel is included. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Just to check... Saying to a girl 'Heres 10p, go call your mum and tell her you won't be home tonight'.
That's Def not paying for sex right?
Asking for a friend..."
guess not |
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"yes we have reported them its the insult that gets to us
Take it as a compliment. They really want to meet you. "
I don't think it's a compliment. In my view, people offering money like that would fuck anyone that agreed to it.
We've been offered money a few times - report, block, delete and move on |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Haven’t been offered money for sex yet, but people have offered money to do some other very strange things that I’m not sure would bring them much happiness or joy.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"yes we have reported them its the insult that gets to us
Take it as a compliment. They really want to meet you.
I don't think it's a compliment. In my view, people offering money like that would fuck anyone that agreed to it.
We've been offered money a few times - report, block, delete and move on "
I don't think it's a compliment either, but feeling shit isn't good. Changing how you feel about something makes life easier/ happier. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I get them on a daily basis.
I find it a insult to me and themselves.Not for all the money in the world would I sell my body and morals for money and they must be really desperate and can't get anyone interested in them to resort to having to pay people to meet them x to be fair tiny I think your priceless and golden x
Thank you x
It is a insult though isn't it x definitely and sad for a guy that needs to offer ,never paid and never will .
Sex should be about wanting.it shouldn't come down to a cash exchange with desperate random strangers.That just makes my skin crawl.Vile empty robot feelingless sex so they can get rid of there frustration on you. (Sick) x I’m falling in love for you that is my gift lol "
Wow lol x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Depressing how much sex worker shaming is going on here."
I don't think its about sex worker shaming.
As theres a difference between those offering money for sex and those offering sex for money.
It's a matter of personal opinion not shaming just someone's opinion on it x |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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"had many such offers recently what the hell is going on"
Christmas bonus and either a perception that money motivates everyone or that money helps to skip the “boring getting to know you parts” and instead jump right into the “sexy sexy part”. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Depressing how much sex worker shaming is going on here."
No shaming of sex workers at all people are discussing their personal experiences of being offered monetary incentives for sexual favours on this site and how it makes them feel. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Depressing how much sex worker shaming is going on here."
I agree. Sex work is legitimate for some people, and there’s nothing wrong with that.
I wouldn’t accept money for sex either, but that doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with people that do. |
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By *ruebameMan
over a year ago
from the womb and tryout to get back |
Really I'm sorry to you all if I'd known it would offend I'd have offered chocolate instead  seriously though why if there that despite there's plenty of people on the streets that want your money this site is getting worse should be reported |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"And yet everyone with a site supporter badge has paid there fiver in there quest for the search of something sexually related....oh the irony... "
we pay to say we are real not wannabes or freeloaders and can upload more pics more cam access etc and help support a site that in most parts is free |
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I’ve thought about paying for it with escorts as I’d really like a threesome with two women, as the chance to get it any other way are very slim at best.
Don’t know if I would pay for it though.
Certainly never been offered money for it ?????? |
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"I’ve thought about paying for it with escorts as I’d really like a threesome with two women, as the chance to get it any other way are very slim at best.
Don’t know if I would pay for it though.
Certainly never been offered money for it ??????"
?? Where supposed to be laughing faces!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How much is the going rate for a shag nowadays anyway ."
The never say it's usually a message with £££ attached.
I'm sure they could get a cheaper sex worker - I'll take no less than £1000 |
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I been offered sex for cash so many times, i still get that odd msg , when i ask why sex for money they always say because they have read my profile lol
They can't understand i just mean i like privacy because professional reason and my daily life |
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My eldest daughter she is 46 so we more like sisters knows I'm on here and jokingly says when I tell her people offer money well if u gonna do it for free u might as well get a bit of money lmfao! X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Depressing how much sex worker shaming is going on here."
Everyone loves a bit of judgey behaviour on Fab
Personally I think working in a minimum wage job for a soulless corporation, for a minimum of 40hrs a week that barely covers your outgoings, with managers not even bothering to learn your name and being crippled at the end of a shift because you've been on your feet all day - is much more degrading than being a sex worker.
They probably earn more in an hour than the poor bastards on £8 per hour get in a day. |
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"Depressing how much sex worker shaming is going on here.
Everyone loves a bit of judgey behaviour on Fab
Personally I think working in a minimum wage job for a soulless corporation, for a minimum of 40hrs a week that barely covers your outgoings, with managers not even bothering to learn your name and being crippled at the end of a shift because you've been on your feet all day - is much more degrading than being a sex worker.
They probably earn more in an hour than the poor bastards on £8 per hour get in a day."
Very true and b doing something enjoyable! X |
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By *mmixtapeCouple
over a year ago
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"Depressing how much sex worker shaming is going on here.
Everyone loves a bit of judgey behaviour on Fab
Personally I think working in a minimum wage job for a soulless corporation, for a minimum of 40hrs a week that barely covers your outgoings, with managers not even bothering to learn your name and being crippled at the end of a shift because you've been on your feet all day - is much more degrading than being a sex worker.
They probably earn more in an hour than the poor bastards on £8 per hour get in a day."
^^this
I don't think any job is more or less degrading than another, everyone chooses their own path, and sex work really shouldn't be seen as a bad thing |
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"And yet everyone with a site supporter badge has paid there fiver in there quest for the search of something sexually related....oh the irony... we pay to say we are real not wannabes or freeloaders and can upload more pics more cam access etc and help support a site that in most parts is free "
true in part,but having a site badge dosn't guarantee the profile and person is real,i digress.. |
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"Depressing how much sex worker shaming is going on here.
Everyone loves a bit of judgey behaviour on Fab
Personally I think working in a minimum wage job for a soulless corporation, for a minimum of 40hrs a week that barely covers your outgoings, with managers not even bothering to learn your name and being crippled at the end of a shift because you've been on your feet all day - is much more degrading than being a sex worker.
They probably earn more in an hour than the poor bastards on £8 per hour get in a day."
God yes, I’ve done my share of those jobs and I don’t see how sex work (that is done of a person’s own free will) could be more dehumanising than that. |
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To those who are saying there’s no sex worker shaming going on, please understand that the many, many comments about how disgusting, insulting, degrading etc it is to be mistaken for or treated like a sex worker, is actually shaming because it heavily implies that you believe sex work is disgusting, insulting, degrading etc.
I get (or did before my profile got screwed up) roughly one offer of payment every two weeks or so. I report and move on - I don’t get insulted unless they mention a figure which is well below the going rate. |
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"Depressing how much sex worker shaming is going on here.
Everyone loves a bit of judgey behaviour on Fab
Personally I think working in a minimum wage job for a soulless corporation, for a minimum of 40hrs a week that barely covers your outgoings, with managers not even bothering to learn your name and being crippled at the end of a shift because you've been on your feet all day - is much more degrading than being a sex worker.
They probably earn more in an hour than the poor bastards on £8 per hour get in a day.
God yes, I’ve done my share of those jobs and I don’t see how sex work (that is done of a person’s own free will) could be more dehumanising than that."
A very high proportion of sex workers certainly don’t do it of their own free will.
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"Depressing how much sex worker shaming is going on here.
Everyone loves a bit of judgey behaviour on Fab
Personally I think working in a minimum wage job for a soulless corporation, for a minimum of 40hrs a week that barely covers your outgoings, with managers not even bothering to learn your name and being crippled at the end of a shift because you've been on your feet all day - is much more degrading than being a sex worker.
They probably earn more in an hour than the poor bastards on £8 per hour get in a day.
God yes, I’ve done my share of those jobs and I don’t see how sex work (that is done of a person’s own free will) could be more dehumanising than that.
A very high proportion of sex workers certainly don’t do it of their own free will.
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Which is why I specifically stated when it is done of their own free will |
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"Depressing how much sex worker shaming is going on here.
Everyone loves a bit of judgey behaviour on Fab
Personally I think working in a minimum wage job for a soulless corporation, for a minimum of 40hrs a week that barely covers your outgoings, with managers not even bothering to learn your name and being crippled at the end of a shift because you've been on your feet all day - is much more degrading than being a sex worker.
They probably earn more in an hour than the poor bastards on £8 per hour get in a day.
God yes, I’ve done my share of those jobs and I don’t see how sex work (that is done of a person’s own free will) could be more dehumanising than that."
Yep I've done those jobs too.
Painful, humiliating and soul destroying for pennies.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Depressing how much sex worker shaming is going on here.
Everyone loves a bit of judgey behaviour on Fab
Personally I think working in a minimum wage job for a soulless corporation, for a minimum of 40hrs a week that barely covers your outgoings, with managers not even bothering to learn your name and being crippled at the end of a shift because you've been on your feet all day - is much more degrading than being a sex worker.
They probably earn more in an hour than the poor bastards on £8 per hour get in a day."
But in your job you are safe. Sex workers have been r*ped, murdered and at the least beaten badly by punters. Yoyr job maybe crap money wise but you are not risking your life. John. |
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"Depressing how much sex worker shaming is going on here.
Everyone loves a bit of judgey behaviour on Fab
Personally I think working in a minimum wage job for a soulless corporation, for a minimum of 40hrs a week that barely covers your outgoings, with managers not even bothering to learn your name and being crippled at the end of a shift because you've been on your feet all day - is much more degrading than being a sex worker.
They probably earn more in an hour than the poor bastards on £8 per hour get in a day.
God yes, I’ve done my share of those jobs and I don’t see how sex work (that is done of a person’s own free will) could be more dehumanising than that.
A very high proportion of sex workers certainly don’t do it of their own free will.
Which is why I specifically stated when it is done of their own free will "
Well done you! |
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By *imjohnCouple
over a year ago
Clacton on sea, Essex |
We don't think twice about paying to go to swingers clubs for sex yet the majority think its disgusting doing sex work, we don't think twice about having sex with someone we've just met yet act like we have high morals compared to sex workers lol.
Both the adult and swinging industry are a big money earner these days so who is morally right or wrong when profiting from sex, private swinging parties are regarded as living of immoral earnings and are technically illegal yet no one raises an eyebrow over these.
People shouldn't be allowed to ask for money for sex on FAB but equally we think payment for private parties shouldn't be advertised on here too.
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"We don't think twice about paying to go to swingers clubs for sex yet the majority think its disgusting doing sex work, we don't think twice about having sex with someone we've just met yet act like we have high morals compared to sex workers lol.
Both the adult and swinging industry are a big money earner these days so who is morally right or wrong when profiting from sex, private swinging parties are regarded as living of immoral earnings and are technically illegal yet no one raises an eyebrow over these.
People shouldn't be allowed to ask for money for sex on FAB but equally we think payment for private parties shouldn't be advertised on here too.
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Agreed. There are lots of gb parties where single fellas are charged to go. Usually organised by a sex worker. |
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"Depressing how much sex worker shaming is going on here.
Everyone loves a bit of judgey behaviour on Fab
Personally I think working in a minimum wage job for a soulless corporation, for a minimum of 40hrs a week that barely covers your outgoings, with managers not even bothering to learn your name and being crippled at the end of a shift because you've been on your feet all day - is much more degrading than being a sex worker.
They probably earn more in an hour than the poor bastards on £8 per hour get in a day."
I agree Poppins. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've never been offered money for sex. But anyone with a spare couple of quid, I'm yours
I’m fresh out of cash but I have a few quids worth of Christmas stamps if you’re interested. "
I do need some stamps... |
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By *imjohnCouple
over a year ago
Clacton on sea, Essex |
"We don't think twice about paying to go to swingers clubs for sex yet the majority think its disgusting doing sex work, we don't think twice about having sex with someone we've just met yet act like we have high morals compared to sex workers lol.
Both the adult and swinging industry are a big money earner these days so who is morally right or wrong when profiting from sex, private swinging parties are regarded as living of immoral earnings and are technically illegal yet no one raises an eyebrow over these.
People shouldn't be allowed to ask for money for sex on FAB but equally we think payment for private parties shouldn't be advertised on here too.
Agreed. There are lots of gb parties where single fellas are charged to go. Usually organised by a sex worker."
Yes GB parties and swinging parties exploiting guys for big bucks we know and people go on about sex workers... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"makes us feel dirty as they think its prostitution"
That's because you are seeing you as a person
These people see your faceless fanny shots and the 'you' that you see becomes de-humanised and de-valued
You become a receptacle, a commodity and available
Commodities can be bought
I don't think you are right to feel insulted or dirty however, because their offers aren't directed at you the person, they are directed at a series of candid images on a Swingers site
The person behind images them doesn't really exist |
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"We don't think twice about paying to go to swingers clubs for sex yet the majority think its disgusting doing sex work, we don't think twice about having sex with someone we've just met yet act like we have high morals compared to sex workers lol.
Both the adult and swinging industry are a big money earner these days so who is morally right or wrong when profiting from sex, private swinging parties are regarded as living of immoral earnings and are technically illegal yet no one raises an eyebrow over these.
People shouldn't be allowed to ask for money for sex on FAB but equally we think payment for private parties shouldn't be advertised on here too.
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"makes us feel dirty as they think its prostitution
That's because you are seeing you as a person
These people see your faceless fanny shots and the 'you' that you see becomes de-humanised and de-valued
You become a receptacle, a commodity and available
Commodities can be bought
I don't think you are right to feel insulted or dirty however, because their offers aren't directed at you the person, they are directed at a series of candid images on a Swingers site
The person behind images them doesn't really exist"
I don't know why more people don't understand this. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Never had to offer cash really,
When I get turned down I usually get told "Go fuck yourself"...
So, once I'm done doing that I'm usually not horny any more...
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"makes us feel dirty as they think its prostitution
That's because you are seeing you as a person
These people see your faceless fanny shots and the 'you' that you see becomes de-humanised and de-valued
You become a receptacle, a commodity and available
Commodities can be bought
I don't think you are right to feel insulted or dirty however, because their offers aren't directed at you the person, they are directed at a series of candid images on a Swingers site
The person behind images them doesn't really exist"
That's so depressing 
But probably true.
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"makes us feel dirty as they think its prostitution
That's because you are seeing you as a person
These people see your faceless fanny shots and the 'you' that you see becomes de-humanised and de-valued
You become a receptacle, a commodity and available
Commodities can be bought
I don't think you are right to feel insulted or dirty however, because their offers aren't directed at you the person, they are directed at a series of candid images on a Swingers site
The person behind images them doesn't really exist"
Totally agree. Sadly much like most criminal activities too otherwise we wouldn't experience as much of it. |
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"We don't think twice about paying to go to swingers clubs for sex yet the majority think its disgusting doing sex work, we don't think twice about having sex with someone we've just met yet act like we have high morals compared to sex workers lol.
Both the adult and swinging industry are a big money earner these days so who is morally right or wrong when profiting from sex, private swinging parties are regarded as living of immoral earnings and are technically illegal yet no one raises an eyebrow over these.
People shouldn't be allowed to ask for money for sex on FAB but equally we think payment for private parties shouldn't be advertised on here too.
Agreed. There are lots of gb parties where single fellas are charged to go. Usually organised by a sex worker.
Yes GB parties and swinging parties exploiting guys for big bucks we know and people go on about sex workers..."
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