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By *alerieCouple
over a year ago
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"Seriously how are you?
These are uncertain and difficult times for many so let's have a chat and check in with each other."
I'd be fine if it wasn't for my whatsap being full of Armageddon type doom and gloom threads .
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm personally good. Had covid but got off very lightly with symptoms. I never thought I'd say I was fortunate to not have extended family but right now I feel like I am. My Christmas isn't affected in the way so many peoples will be.
That said, I'm very concerned for some others around me and difficult decisions that I need to make at work tomorrow. The impact on people's mental health is truly frightening and I'm very worried about them.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm generally struggling a bit, but feel quite upbeat today. How about you? "
I think everybody feels like they are struggling a little bit in one way or another.
I'm the same really had a complete meltdown yesterday but I am much more upbeat today. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Same I had a bit if a meltdown last night,still feeling off it but will get through it,annoys me all those idiots at the train station last night!!! Sheet selfishness.
I know the government aren't helping but surely the conscious should want to feel safe rather than spread it more, there rant over.
Hope everyone else is ok |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Seriously how are you?
These are uncertain and difficult times for many so let's have a chat and check in with each other.
I'd be fine if it wasn't for my whatsap being full of Armageddon type doom and gloom threads .
How about you lovely ? "
Yes I totally understand that and am actually trying to stay off all my social media and message apps at the moment.
I'm OK just I don't cope very well with uncertainty at all or change so it's definitely a challenge. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Seriously how are you?
These are uncertain and difficult times for many so let's have a chat and check in with each other."
I am surviving at the moment.
How are you? |
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By *alerieCouple
over a year ago
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"Seriously how are you?
These are uncertain and difficult times for many so let's have a chat and check in with each other.
I'd be fine if it wasn't for my whatsap being full of Armageddon type doom and gloom threads .
How about you lovely ?
Yes I totally understand that and am actually trying to stay off all my social media and message apps at the moment.
I'm OK just I don't cope very well with uncertainty at all or change so it's definitely a challenge."
Most of us are creatures of habit and very much struggle with changes to routine/normality .
I dare say we will adapt....eventually.
It is essential to support each other in whatever way possible , hence lovely posts like yours do bring some relief to many people .
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Getting annoyed with work telling me how I’m feeling, email sent out, saying how we all must be desperate to get back into the office and see other people/ colleagues. They’re very Tory the top bosses, so if Boris tells us to go back into the office, next day we’re there. I don’t trust the government and if I get COVID from a colleague the bosses are hardly going to accept their responsibility and their insistence on following this useless government guidelines, that can change after a few days or even hours.
Can no fucker plan ahead, or learn from previous cock ups !!!
Thanks that’s off my chest now, apart from that ..Happy as Larry  |
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"Seriously how are you?
These are uncertain and difficult times for many so let's have a chat and check in with each other."
I’m ok my lovely. I’m incredibly lucky that all my family live within a couple of miles of each other - so just be able to get together on Christmas Day - whilst not what we’d hoped for - will be feasible for us.
Obviously I feel for those in tier four who’ve had Christmas effectively cancelled - and really hope people will reach out to each other if they’re feeling low!
As a retail assistant I also worry for workers who are furloughed again and hope they have jobs to return to - as well as all the hospitality workers of course.
Worrying times!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I struggle some days and others I'm fine. On the days I struggle I remind myself I'm having a normal response to abnormal circumstances. "
Stay strong and safe sending virtual hug your way x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m ok about the restrictions but I haven’t finished Christmas shopping so will have no choice but to leave tier 4 area and go to a tier 2 shopping centre to finish it all ! |
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Pretty crappy- recovering from Covid and had a secondary bacterial infection, so coughing and feeling tired.
On the plus side, had my first decent night's sleep in 3 weeks!
At least I don't have to work Christmas Day and Boxing Day, as I'm signed off by the Doctor! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Seriously how are you?
These are uncertain and difficult times for many so let's have a chat and check in with each other."
Great post thank ypu for being so considerate |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I struggle some days and others I'm fine. On the days I struggle I remind myself I'm having a normal response to abnormal circumstances.
Stay strong and safe sending virtual hug your way x "
That's proper kind of you and back at ya |
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By *igman_UKMan
over a year ago
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I was a bit edgy last night having had to cancel a trip to Scotland to see parents. However today feeling much calmer. I was reminded of the story of "The Grinch who stole Christmas" where despite everything he realises there is more to the festival than money and presents.
So with smaller less manic day, it will give a chance to reflect on the true spirit of Christmas. Hang in there everyone, look forward to the New Year, more daylight, and I wish you all a peaceful week. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m ok about the restrictions but I haven’t finished Christmas shopping so will have no choice but to leave tier 4 area and go to a tier 2 shopping centre to finish it all ! "
No choice but to possibly spread covid into another area.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m up and down, struggling to support my youngest son who’s having a bit of a mh crisis. Plus Christmas that stirs up memories of his dad not being around now. But we will get through it.
Have to keep going, as I’m trying to keep my moms spirits up as she’s got to make a decision on her next cancer op in the new year. Hope you’re ok too x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Surprisingly well all things considered thanks Lorna! Missing people, worried about stuff but we're together and very grateful to be! 
Hope you're doing ok lovely...and everyone else too 
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Last night I felt hugely angry, upset, disappointed,anxious, stressed and sad.
I was considering some behaviours that wouldnt have been particularly beneficial.
Today I still feel anxious as I've got a heavy week ahead, but less spiralling.
Keeping on keeping on I guess.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm mostly up, but certain things have the power to spiral me down very fast... I generally know the triggers ... I just have to stop picking at them, much like a child picking a scab on their knee |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I'm glad to on the whole people seem to be doing OK.
Like I said in the opening post it's just a tricky situation and we all need to remember its ok to not be ok. X |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Last night I felt hugely angry, upset, disappointed,anxious, stressed and sad.
I was considering some behaviours that wouldnt have been particularly beneficial.
Today I still feel anxious as I've got a heavy week ahead, but less spiralling.
Keeping on keeping on I guess.
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I'm really glad that you were able to control any urges that would have caused issues.
I do understand how you are feeling and I think that's where I'm at, Just trying to manage in the moment because that's tricky enough.x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Actually reading through some of the comments, realise how petty mine can appear, compared to some on this thread.
Hope everyone gets through this challenging time of year as best as you can "
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Hi all,
I'm off work with a bad ankle so can't do much at the moment. Same as everyone else I'm having goodish days and bad days, but I'm thankful everyone I know is safe and well and I'm thankful for the technology we have to communicate with friends and family, it's not the same as being face to face and having a hug that we would all love but it's better than just having to write a letter and wait days for a reply. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Hi all,
I'm off work with a bad ankle so can't do much at the moment. Same as everyone else I'm having goodish days and bad days, but I'm thankful everyone I know is safe and well and I'm thankful for the technology we have to communicate with friends and family, it's not the same as being face to face and having a hug that we would all love but it's better than just having to write a letter and wait days for a reply. "
I hope your ankle gets better and I'm glad you're able to see the positives in this crappy time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There will be a Spring and a Summer I keep telling myself.
Then I come on here see no views winks or messages and any messages I've sent are either unread or deleted.
There will be a Spring |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"There will be a Spring and a Summer I keep telling myself.
Then I come on here see no views winks or messages and any messages I've sent are either unread or deleted.
There will be a Spring"
Don't be disheartened by the lack of inbox activity it's a tricky time and people aren't meeting or not that invested in making new connections. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Christmas will be crap this year. Cannot see my older kids, young kids nor my grandaughter. Mrs is working for most of it so not going to be a good christmas at all. Think lots of people in a simular situation to myself will feel the same this year. John |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There will be a Spring and a Summer I keep telling myself.
Then I come on here see no views winks or messages and any messages I've sent are either unread or deleted.
There will be a Spring"
But you still have your mrs for company! Others out there wont even have that. You are more fortunate than you realise. John. |
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By *amish SMan
over a year ago
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All well here, fed up with bonkers Boris and his lap dogs. It will not get me down. I do not worry about the things I can't influence, but I do concentrate on the things I can and make decisions about them accordingly. This protects my physical and mental health, and ensures that I am responsible for my own actions. Generally, I consider if an event / issue can affect me, if it does, can I influence how it affects me, if I can't then I don't worry about it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"There will be a Spring and a Summer I keep telling myself.
Then I come on here see no views winks or messages and any messages I've sent are either unread or deleted.
There will be a Spring
But you still have your mrs for company! Others out there wont even have that. You are more fortunate than you realise. John. "
This thread is simply for people to talk about whatever they want and how they are feeling and I think we should just leave any judgements out of it.
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
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"I'm generally struggling a bit, but feel quite upbeat today. How about you?
I think everybody feels like they are struggling a little bit in one way or another.
I'm the same really had a complete meltdown yesterday but I am much more upbeat today."
I'm pleased to hear that, lovely lady x |
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By *ruebameMan
over a year ago
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Hi Lornajo83 I'm not to bad myself as I've got Xmas covered and never stopped working that really was a big help for me through this awful time hope whatever or whoever we are with at this time of year we are all safe and healthy as that's the main thing |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There will be a Spring and a Summer I keep telling myself.
Then I come on here see no views winks or messages and any messages I've sent are either unread or deleted.
There will be a Spring
But you still have your mrs for company! Others out there wont even have that. You are more fortunate than you realise. John.
This thread is simply for people to talk about whatever they want and how they are feeling and I think we should just leave any judgements out of it.
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True. I appologise. John |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
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"Had a bit of a cry this morning but I keep telling myself there's people worse off than me xx"
Hello lovely Kat! I would think we've all had a few tears , during these difficult times. There is always someone worse off than us, but it doesn't always make us feel any better..I hope you are ok now. Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi Lornajo83 I'm not to bad myself as I've got Xmas covered and never stopped working that really was a big help for me through this awful time hope whatever or whoever we are with at this time of year we are all safe and healthy as that's the main thing "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Had a bit of a cry this morning but I keep telling myself there's people worse off than me xx
Hello lovely Kat! I would think we've all had a few tears , during these difficult times. There is always someone worse off than us, but it doesn't always make us feel any better..I hope you are ok now. Xx"
Thank you lovely and yes that's true I'll muddle along. How are you keeping xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"really struggling the upset had caused a migraine, and I just feel like wantto burst into tears, not very sexy I know Polly xx"
I'm so sorry it really is a rubbish time.
I'm on the verge of tears all the time at the moment
I really hope your migraine improves and you can have some peace and joy. Xx |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
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"Had a bit of a cry this morning but I keep telling myself there's people worse off than me xx
Hello lovely Kat! I would think we've all had a few tears , during these difficult times. There is always someone worse off than us, but it doesn't always make us feel any better..I hope you are ok now. Xx
Thank you lovely and yes that's true I'll muddle along. How are you keeping xx"
Bless you x we are quite well, thank you Kat xxx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I would like to apologise if I haven't replied to you personally.
I have read every post I just feel it would be silly to try to reply to everybody because it would just be me filling up the thread and I want people to have space to chat.
It's great but so many are able to see some positives even though they are struggling.
Xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm struggling with the isolation I can go days without talking to anyone. My future at work is very uncertain and financially I'm fucked. Anyhoo ...."
I'm really sorry my lovely and I know it's not quite the same but my inbox is always open to you if you ever fancy a natter. X |
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"Hi all,
I'm off work with a bad ankle so can't do much at the moment. Same as everyone else I'm having goodish days and bad days, but I'm thankful everyone I know is safe and well and I'm thankful for the technology we have to communicate with friends and family, it's not the same as being face to face and having a hug that we would all love but it's better than just having to write a letter and wait days for a reply.
I hope your ankle gets better and I'm glad you're able to see the positives in this crappy time. "
Thank you ?? xx |
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I admit to struggling with this but there's a lady acrosd from us who was widowed in the summer. She's now looking at her first Christmas without her husband alone. It's very sad. This doesn't diminish other people's pain at a time like this though and I'm not keen on the "always someone worse off" school of thought but she must be devastated the poor woman |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It's a great thread for people to get things off their chest
I'm a very positive person on the whole so haven't been affected personally but I do worry about peoples inability to let present buying go, tell your loved ones that we'll give gifts when it's safe to meet again rather than travel out of a tier 4 area because your shops are closed, this is only prolonging this aweful pandemic.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Had a bit of a cry this morning but I keep telling myself there's people worse off than me xx
Hello lovely Kat! I would think we've all had a few tears , during these difficult times. There is always someone worse off than us, but it doesn't always make us feel any better..I hope you are ok now. Xx
Thank you lovely and yes that's true I'll muddle along. How are you keeping xx
Bless you x we are quite well, thank you Kat xxx"
That's good to hear lovely sending you massive hugs xx |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
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"Had a bit of a cry this morning but I keep telling myself there's people worse off than me xx
Hello lovely Kat! I would think we've all had a few tears , during these difficult times. There is always someone worse off than us, but it doesn't always make us feel any better..I hope you are ok now. Xx
Thank you lovely and yes that's true I'll muddle along. How are you keeping xx
Bless you x we are quite well, thank you Kat xxx
That's good to hear lovely sending you massive hugs xx"
Mahoosive {{{hugs}}} to you too.. xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would like to apologise if I haven't replied to you personally.
I have read every post I just feel it would be silly to try to reply to everybody because it would just be me filling up the thread and I want people to have space to chat.
It's great but so many are able to see some positives even though they are struggling.
Xx"
I think the governments cack handed handling if the whole affair has made the mental health of us all harder. None of them agree abd out do each other. Shutting us all down before christmas when people have struggled with money worries and had to leave buying presents until last miniute has now tipped people over the edge. With shops closed how are parents now going to explain to their kids santa has not come to them. No advanced warning caused more gatherings to buy food than people shopping for presents for their little ones. I feel sorry for the stressed and upset parents on christmas day as they try to pacify upset kids. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Dick got the all clear yesterday so he's officially cancer free so extatic on that front but pretty meh about Christmas though. "
This is fantastic news! Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I see the Christmas messages and people being sad that it's sort of cancelled are these people true Christians ?
Where as I see someone having the all clear from cancer as a true celebration |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
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Today is a particularly bad day. Despite being in my bubble with two amazing people I've been close to tears for two days. And I think I've given myself a minor concussion by falling down the stairs.
But hey. It'll soon be Christmas. And it could be so much worse. 
Sending a hug to anyone who needs one and my inbox is open to anyone struggling in any way |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Had a bit of a cry this morning but I keep telling myself there's people worse off than me xx
Hello lovely Kat! I would think we've all had a few tears , during these difficult times. There is always someone worse off than us, but it doesn't always make us feel any better..I hope you are ok now. Xx
Thank you lovely and yes that's true I'll muddle along. How are you keeping xx
Bless you x we are quite well, thank you Kat xxx
That's good to hear lovely sending you massive hugs xx
Mahoosive {{{hugs}}} to you too.. xxx"
Thank you xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ah it's been a pretty crap year. Can't wait for 2021 and hope for normality. From Ireland we are wishing the best to our friends in UK as you face into a tough lockdown over Xmas. Take care all |
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I'm great actually, all things considered.
I have 2 weeks off work, haven't lost anyone to COVID and those who I know personally that have had it have recovered well.
My job is secure, my mental health good and I am generally fit and healthy.
Although I won't be able to see my family at Christmas as usual, that's been the case for large parts of the year anyway.
We can still exchange gifts and speak to each other.
I count myself lucky. |
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By * Plus ECouple
over a year ago
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"Seriously how are you?
These are uncertain and difficult times for many so let's have a chat and check in with each other."
I'm not too bad, fortunately I don't live alone and I can visit the grandchildren, although I can't get any closer than the garden gate. But we can chat and wave and blow kisses.
M isn't doing so well though. No work or any sign of a job, in any case he's signed off with depression. He lives alone, so pretty tough for him right now.
So, how are you OP, this is a lovely idea, I hope you're ok too.
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"Today is a particularly bad day. Despite being in my bubble with two amazing people I've been close to tears for two days. And I think I've given myself a minor concussion by falling down the stairs.
But hey. It'll soon be Christmas. And it could be so much worse.
Sending a hug to anyone who needs one and my inbox is open to anyone struggling in any way "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Dick got the all clear yesterday so he's officially cancer free so extatic on that front but pretty meh about Christmas though. "
Yayyyyy that's fantastic news xx |
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"Dick got the all clear yesterday so he's officially cancer free so extatic on that front but pretty meh about Christmas though. "
Sod Christmas. You have something to really celebrate. It's good to know that in the worst of years, good things can still happen. |
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"Last night I felt hugely angry, upset, disappointed,anxious, stressed and sad.
I was considering some behaviours that wouldnt have been particularly beneficial.
Today I still feel anxious as I've got a heavy week ahead, but less spiralling.
Keeping on keeping on I guess.
I'm really glad that you were able to control any urges that would have caused issues.
I do understand how you are feeling and I think that's where I'm at, Just trying to manage in the moment because that's tricky enough.x"
Thanks for starting this thread OP.
I think it's healthy to be able to vent, and also helpful to see other people feel the same or similar.
Hugs of support to all. |
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Im having a good week. Very tired but ive got my christmas bits done. Just got to wrap and im having an outdoor meet with my son and grandson on the 27th plus find out the sex of the new baby on thursday so ive got things to look forward to. Will be on my own most of christmas day and boxing day so will put a who wants to chat thread up |
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This is a great thread op. It’s good to talk and express how you feel. Cry if you want you will feel much better for it and that goes for the men aswell. Even though we are in this crazy time and nobody knows how to think correctly remember that nothing lasts for ever and this will pass and we will all get back to some sort of normality. Think of the good times past and make plans for the future so you have something to concentrate on and look forward to. Tomorrow is the shortest day of the year and I hate it but then we are heading into brighter days. So stay safe everyone and make the most of the different Christmas we will all have. We are all in this together so help and support who you can. Stay positive. Thanks for sharing |
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Thanks for this Lorna.
Woke up just feeling sad. Think it's uncertainty, lack of festivities and general seasonal affective disorder.
Been at work today though, and customers were festive and jolly, so that perked me up a little.
Last day tomorrow, then I'm going to mull myself  |
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By *DW1983Man
over a year ago
Blackpool, Aberdeen, Leeds, Sheffield |
"Seriously how are you?
These are uncertain and difficult times for many so let's have a chat and check in with each other."
I'm wonderful
...ly amazing
...ly brilliant
...ly averagely OK thanks. And yourself? |
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between enjoying the quieter pace of life and then it's sometimes so depressing, just can't see it ending. 