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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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It depends how you define those roles and the context you're applying them to - from a BDSM perspective though I'm submissive by nature, but equally happy indulging in what would normally be considered more dominant activities if on a level playing field with a partner.
I'd add though that I don't indulge in either activity lightly or without there being mutual trust, respect and a whole heap of communication beforehand. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've tried being sub but it doesn't really work for me. I'm fine with giving up control as such but I don't get intense enjoyment from the typical sub things and I certainly couldn't find 'subspace'
Dom comes naturally to me in the right situations. As a rule I don't go for either but find I can switch in to Dom mode very easily with the right person. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Only ever met one dom, a femdom, that could actually fuck with my mind and that's exactly what dom/sub is about. It's mind's space, attitude, behaviour long before touch begins. For me it starts as soon as my collar is fitted, total personality change with it. I've seen posts about abusing etc and they know nothing. So picking your position is not that black and white, it happens and you don't know what mentally hits you. It's a total gifting of power exchange..... |
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Lifestyle Domme. Husband permanently caged (6 years) and more often collared than not.
Saying that, I'm on fab for hot sex as I have never fucked my husband! I'm not interested in D/s on here, as long as you have a great cock and know what to do with it!! |
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By *ensualMan
over a year ago
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My experience is that everyone defines D/S in their own terms and on here people seem unwilling to accept any other definition, or that D/S is a broad church.
I suspect most have not heard of a power slave or understand the view that if D/S involves power exchange the person with the power is the dominant. Therefore the submissive could be the one performing the acts normally identified as dominant but actually is submissive and at the control of the dominant whose role which may look submissive for those who don't understand their dynamic. The classic examples would be pegging or fisting.
Topping from the bottom is a different behaviour.
Very few on this site distinguish between topping and bottoming.
Although I said earlier people have different definitions, unless the person defining is aware of the labels and definitions available, and the subtleties of those definitions; I would suggest they are not defining themselves and others properly.
Finally labels are only relevant if you are describing what you do. Within a negotiated relationship it is behaviours that count not labels.
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