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Body positivity

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I have issues with my body hence why most of my pics are friends only but I got to thinking, surely I'm not the only person who suffers with this? So I thought I would post this forum topic to see if there's any other fabbers who feel like me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’ve had major issues in the past as a plus size girl but I don’t know something has changed for me. I’ll repeat what I said on a thread the other day, try to think what your body can do rather than what it can’t.

For me I have a body that’s capable of doing wonderful things. I have a face that’s got a huge friendly smile that helps makes others feel comfortable and I have a mind that makes me good at my job.

We should be complementary about ourselves and look for the positives about ourselves too.

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By *luebellRacerCouple over a year ago

Shropshire

My issue has been making sure my body is how I want it, not others.

Yeah, I like being strong and fit, but I also like food... so I've settled with toned yet soft.

Also... the pubes are back! Sick of waxing and shaving and stubble. Plus, I've decided sex is just more comfortable with pubes.

I think you do get to and age where you just think "if you don't like it, you can leave it!"

What they say about self love is so true. As long as you're happy with you, does anyone else's opinion really matter?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have always been very body conscious and was overweight at school i could never be a slim guy as it is not my build , I am now not in a good way pretty much addicted to the gym I am never happy or satisfied it a slippery slope every one says to be happy with what you have I do get that other people are in alot worse of with health issues but you mind can be a dangerous thing

Wish I could say something to help bet its hard to get out a depressive hole

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By *etcplCouple over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

For me a lot of body positivity issues (not all) came from a fear of rejection or ridicule.

I learned to accept myself a long time ago, so no one has any power over me.

Im an old, fat, balding, average cock size ugly male. If I can accept that, no one can say or do anything that will cause me harm.

Its also important to note those attributes do not define who I am, and if someone is not attracted/interested in me because of my physical attributes then fair play. We all have our own preferences.

I know what I have to offer and its simply a case of looking for those people who are into what I like.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Can't stand my body, but I do give fantastic cuddles.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I'd like to thank everyone who posted, you've all given me things to think about. I really should be more positive about myself, I have lost a lot of weight in the last 6 years, going from a 35 stone bloke with a 56 inch waist to a 20 stone bloke with a 44 inch waist but I still look in the mirror and see the lovechild of stone cold steve austin and shrek.

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By * Lexi xWoman over a year ago

stockport

I hate my body, I try to do the best with what I have but never happy.

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By * Lexi xWoman over a year ago

stockport

"I'd like to thank everyone who posted, you've all given me things to think about. I really should be more positive about myself, I have lost a lot of weight in the last 6 years, going from a 35 stone bloke with a 56 inch waist to a 20 stone bloke with a 44 inch waist but I still look in the mirror and see the lovechild of stone cold steve austin and shrek. "

Wow! That’s amazing, well done you!

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By *ockosaurusMan over a year ago

Warwick

Yep, I suffer from this too.

I went a few years avoiding looking in mirrors as I hate what I saw.

It turns out that over those years I was suffering from depression and just in denial.

Since then, and since talking to someone, I made some changes to my life and reprogrammed my head (using NLP) and I'm now enjoying life again.

I find now, since looking after my mind, I'm now looking after my body more and I'm happier with my own image. Still not confident or 100% happy with it, but I have sensible goals that I'm working on to improve myself.

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

"I think you do get to and age where you just think "if you don't like it, you can leave it!"

What they say about self love is so true. As long as you're happy with you, does anyone else's opinion really matter?

Well maybe not an age, more a point in your life when you think fuck it. Op, your body has achieved and can achieve so much more. Sometimes I have the odd wobble but I've got to a point where yes, I'm chubby but that's okay. I love myself most of the time because disliking who I am, what I look like is draining and I don't need that negative energy in my life. Nor do you OP. Find peace with who you are and what you look like, do things that you enjoy and be as kind to yourself as you would to a friend who has the thoughts you do. x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've pretty much always been fat, sometimes unhealthily so, but ya know what, I suit it

On the few times I have been thinner, it doesn't look right on me, my head doesn't shrink so I tend to look like a lollipop

Having some tub on me balances the head out

Now I am of an age, if I lose weight, the elasticity in my skin just isn't there so I get the sag

That, to me, is more of a mental issue than being fat and my confidence in being naked drops when I am thinner than when I've got my 'winter layer' on

I also seem to get more interest when I am bigger - maybe because my confidence in how I look shines through?

Don't get me wrong, some days I would love to inhabit a different build, but there are things about me that I can't change - age, height, face etc - and having a more 'in shape' body wouldn't guarantee people would want to meet me

As I've got older, I have owned 'me' and am quite unashamed about it

I am certainly over how others on a swingers site judge me on my body alone

It's how I judge it, how I react to it and how I manage it that is important

So, if you're not happy with your body, change it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've pretty much always been fat, sometimes unhealthily so, but ya know what, I suit it

On the few times I have been thinner, it doesn't look right on me, my head doesn't shrink so I tend to look like a lollipop

Having some tub on me balances the head out

Now I am of an age, if I lose weight, the elasticity in my skin just isn't there so I get the sag

That, to me, is more of a mental issue than being fat and my confidence in being naked drops when I am thinner than when I've got my 'winter layer' on

I also seem to get more interest when I am bigger - maybe because my confidence in how I look shines through?

As I've got older, I have owned 'me' and am quite unashamed about it

I am certainly over how others on a swingers site judge me on my body alone

It's how I judge it, how I react to it and how I manage it that is important

So, if you're not happy with your body, change it

I can relate to loads of that. I've spent years wishing I was super slim and boobless, only to do a complete 180 and decide that the opposite is what works for me. I could def do with losing a bit just now but if drop too much I just look gaunt and all out of proportion.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There ya go OP

I've uploaded a full body naked pic

See that, I can do some things with it - I can tone up certain areas, lose a bit of the moobage

I know that, it's up to me to do something about it

But see the middle bit, the saggy tum at the bottom, that's gonna be there forever unless I fill it with more fat or until I pay for surgery

Neither of those are really an option, so I'm kinda stuck with it, so I need to own it

Change what you can, learn to accept what you can't

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"There ya go OP

I've uploaded a full body naked pic

See that, I can do some things with it - I can tone up certain areas, lose a bit of the moobage

I know that, it's up to me to do something about it

But see the middle bit, the saggy tum at the bottom, that's gonna be there forever unless I fill it with more fat or until I pay for surgery

Neither of those are really an option, so I'm kinda stuck with it, so I need to own it

Change what you can, learn to accept what you can't

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I've made some more of my photos public, I'm unsure if that's a good idea but "He who dares" As delboy would say

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By *ntrigued32Couple over a year ago

Nottingham

"There ya go OP

I've uploaded a full body naked pic

See that, I can do some things with it - I can tone up certain areas, lose a bit of the moobage

I know that, it's up to me to do something about it

But see the middle bit, the saggy tum at the bottom, that's gonna be there forever unless I fill it with more fat or until I pay for surgery

Neither of those are really an option, so I'm kinda stuck with it, so I need to own it

Change what you can, learn to accept what you can't

Absolutely love this.

Jo.Xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ah, I didn't see this post

I was always the 'fat kid' at school and lacked self confidence well into my adult life

As an adult, I've been anywhere between 11 & 20 stone, which as a 5ft6 bloke is not healthy

I think once you have been the 'fat kid' and battled with weight all your life, in your head you are always fat, no matter what the scales say or people tell you

It isn't easy to lose weight for everyone, no matter how many fitness 'experts' tell you otherwise, but it is possible

What, in my case, was harder (and still is some days) was shaking the mental effects of being big, learning to accept your body and how you adapt and live with it (even if you can't 'love' it)

I am far from ashamed of my body, but I am conscious of it and pretty much check myself daily

That's OK though, cos it's when I don't that the pounds start creeping back on

I don't want to be huge again - but that comes from a health POV as opposed to aesthetics or the need to be seen as attractive by a group of strangers on an online platform

Sorry, for going on btw

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I always been skiny

Now in my late 30th I got a annoying men belly

I got in to a strick program I exercise everyday and I don't have any carbs

I really want to build some muscles

Any advise. What to eat or type of exercise I should do

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

You get to an age where you just think "if you don't like it, you can leave it!" As long as you're happy with you, does anyone else's opinion really matter? "