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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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..I'm called or referred to in certain ways:
You're so sweet or
Such a gent or
A lovely person
Because it's normally followed by the inevitable...But!
Why do we say and do that sort of thing, sort of build up before knocking down?
Thoughts, Forumites? |
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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago
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"..I'm called or referred to in certain ways:
You're so sweet or
Such a gent or
A lovely person
Because it's normally followed by the inevitable...But!
Why do we say and do that sort of thing, sort of build up before knocking down?
Thoughts, Forumites?"
They have no taste.. |
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"Something to soften the blow?
Lu  "
This really!
One thing I found really difficult to do when I joined the swinging world is explaining to people that - though I’m happy to chat with pretty much everyone - it doesn’t mean I want to sleep with them.
Seven years later I still feel slightly awkward telling someone I’m not sexually attracted to them! X |
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"Something to soften the blow?
Lu
This really!
One thing I found really difficult to do when I joined the swinging world is explaining to people that - though I’m happy to chat with pretty much everyone - it doesn’t mean I want to sleep with them.
Seven years later I still feel slightly awkward telling someone I’m not sexually attracted to them! X"
This! 100%!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Something to soften the blow?
Lu
This really!
One thing I found really difficult to do when I joined the swinging world is explaining to people that - though I’m happy to chat with pretty much everyone - it doesn’t mean I want to sleep with them.
Seven years later I still feel slightly awkward telling someone I’m not sexually attracted to them! X"
I totally get you. I get messages off gay or bi guys. I’m flattered but not interested, but still feel bad say that too them. Well unless they’re rude then sod them! |
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"Something to soften the blow?
Lu
This really!
One thing I found really difficult to do when I joined the swinging world is explaining to people that - though I’m happy to chat with pretty much everyone - it doesn’t mean I want to sleep with them.
Seven years later I still feel slightly awkward telling someone I’m not sexually attracted to them! X
I totally get you. I get messages off gay or bi guys. I’m flattered but not interested, but still feel bad say that too them. Well unless they’re rude then sod them!"
I have my reply in suggestions above the keyboard,I must say it too often,  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"..I'm called or referred to in certain ways:
You're so sweet or
Such a gent or
A lovely person
Because it's normally followed by the inevitable...But!
Why do we say and do that sort of thing, sort of build up before knocking down?
Thoughts, Forumites?
They have no taste.."
Whom! |
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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago
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"..I'm called or referred to in certain ways:
You're so sweet or
Such a gent or
A lovely person
Because it's normally followed by the inevitable...But!
Why do we say and do that sort of thing, sort of build up before knocking down?
Thoughts, Forumites?
They have no taste..
Whom!"
The 'but' people... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Your skin is a smooth as satin
Poo that's been sat in
Have you considered writing for Hallmark Cards?  "
Yes
I'm currently here on work experience gathering all the back handed insults
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"Your skin is a smooth as satin
Poo that's been sat in
Have you considered writing for Hallmark Cards?
Yes
I'm currently here on work experience gathering all the back handed insults
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Then you’ll do very well! 
I look forward to purchasing your first efforts! |
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By *zQTWoman
over a year ago
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"Something to soften the blow?
Lu
This really!
One thing I found really difficult to do when I joined the swinging world is explaining to people that - though I’m happy to chat with pretty much everyone - it doesn’t mean I want to sleep with them.
Seven years later I still feel slightly awkward telling someone I’m not sexually attracted to them! X"
This 
I feel almost guilty telling someone there is no attraction from my side. Maybe it’s the thought of hurting their feelings?
I mean I have been there myself and it’s not a nice feeling. So I feel trying to sugar coat it a little and beating around the bush and being nice might soften the blow?
Kind of like all the times you have to tell the people you manage they are doing wrong at work, you always throw in some praise too so it’s not all negative and they don’t get demoralised  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have been told in more brutal ways that they didn’t fancy me, albeit that one has been said in similar words a few times.
If it’s any consolation, I still fancy ya "
Awww that’s so sweet... where’s the but? Lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I have been told in more brutal ways that they didn’t fancy me, albeit that one has been said in similar words a few times.
If it’s any consolation, I still fancy ya "
Lamp post pissing, slightly unusual in a woman but there you go!  |
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By *zQTWoman
over a year ago
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"I have been told in more brutal ways that they didn’t fancy me, albeit that one has been said in similar words a few times.
If it’s any consolation, I still fancy ya
Lamp post pissing, slightly unusual in a woman but there you go! "
Haha! That’s the second time I heard that phrase today (luckily I now know what it means). I assure you, it is nothing of the sort. |
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I dont see that any of those should be followed with a but. Those are all good attributes to have.
If they can't appreciate it then move on. Plenty more fish in the sea who will grab something valuable and never let go |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I have been told in more brutal ways that they didn’t fancy me, albeit that one has been said in similar words a few times.
If it’s any consolation, I still fancy ya
Lamp post pissing, slightly unusual in a woman but there you go!
Haha! That’s the second time I heard that phrase today (luckily I now know what it means). I assure you, it is nothing of the sort. "
I believe you |
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"..I'm called or referred to in certain ways:
You're so sweet or
Such a gent or
A lovely person
Because it's normally followed by the inevitable...But!
Why do we say and do that sort of thing, sort of build up before knocking down?
Thoughts, Forumites?"
Its known as the calm before the storm or letting you down gently. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In the 'real' world I just straight up tell someone if I think he's a cunt. Or fat or ugly or whatever the case and prefer if people do the same too me. I especially like doing it if someone is fishing for compliments or social media likes. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Maybe they really feel you are those things OP and are saying it as a nice compliment? I've only been turned down, kind of, once  and if it had been said in that way it would have been less harsh. Like they can see the good in you but you're not compatible. That's okay surely. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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The other option is to toughen up a bit and don't take all the shit people spew out at you to heart. If someone don't like you, like someone said above then ignore everything before the but. |
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