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By *cotsboy OP Man
over a year ago
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Have we lost the ability to be nice to each other? A couple winked me so as you do i wink back we start messaging and I get asked for a face pic. I never asked for one back as being polite but then you get blocked  what ever happened to a quick message saying sorry you’re not our type. Have noticed it a lot just in general day to day life no one says please or thanks maybe it’s a generation thing |
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"Have we lost the ability to be nice to each other? A couple winked me so as you do i wink back we start messaging and I get asked for a face pic. I never asked for one back as being polite but then you get blocked what ever happened to a quick message saying sorry you’re not our type. Have noticed it a lot just in general day to day life no one says please or thanks maybe it’s a generation thing "
Maybe they thought you were Fugly? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We use the block button a lot.
Mainly for the people that haven’t read our profile or people that just send random friend requests. If we message anyone and ask for face pictures, we will always send ours in return - even if we send a message saying “thanks but no thanks” with it.
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By *cotsboy OP Man
over a year ago
Aberdeen |
"Have we lost the ability to be nice to each other? A couple winked me so as you do i wink back we start messaging and I get asked for a face pic. I never asked for one back as being polite but then you get blocked what ever happened to a quick message saying sorry you’re not our type. Have noticed it a lot just in general day to day life no one says please or thanks maybe it’s a generation thing
Maybe they thought you were Fugly?"
Maybe and as they say beauty is in the eye of the beholder. But you’re probably right enough I’m just minging and got no hope |
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"Have we lost the ability to be nice to each other? A couple winked me so as you do i wink back we start messaging and I get asked for a face pic. I never asked for one back as being polite but then you get blocked what ever happened to a quick message saying sorry you’re not our type. Have noticed it a lot just in general day to day life no one says please or thanks maybe it’s a generation thing
Maybe they thought you were Fugly?
Maybe and as they say beauty is in the eye of the beholder. But you’re probably right enough I’m just minging and got no hope "
I'm just jesting fella! Don't let it get to ya. Someone out there for everyone. |
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By *cotsboy OP Man
over a year ago
Aberdeen |
"We use the block button a lot.
Mainly for the people that haven’t read our profile or people that just send random friend requests. If we message anyone and ask for face pictures, we will always send ours in return - even if we send a message saying “thanks but no thanks” with it.
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Exactly  it’s nice to be nice |
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By *cotsboy OP Man
over a year ago
Aberdeen |
"Have we lost the ability to be nice to each other? A couple winked me so as you do i wink back we start messaging and I get asked for a face pic. I never asked for one back as being polite but then you get blocked what ever happened to a quick message saying sorry you’re not our type. Have noticed it a lot just in general day to day life no one says please or thanks maybe it’s a generation thing
Maybe they thought you were Fugly?
Maybe and as they say beauty is in the eye of the beholder. But you’re probably right enough I’m just minging and got no hope
I'm just jesting fella! Don't let it get to ya. Someone out there for everyone."
Same with my reply if you can’t have a laugh there’s no hope for you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I know this is an old theme and we all know the time tested and trusted responses but....please, I'm English, a Fab "thanks but no thanks" button would go such a long way in promoting harmony and help to dispel uncertainty in those of us who see our unread six month old messages and wonder if we should re- message |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Tbh I do think thats a bit out of order. Like I know everyone says dont take blocks personally but I probs would in that situation.
If you've been talking then its a bit shit to just be blocked after sending a photo. |
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By *cotsboy OP Man
over a year ago
Aberdeen |
"I know this is an old theme and we all know the time tested and trusted responses but....please, I'm English, a Fab "thanks but no thanks" button would go such a long way in promoting harmony and help to dispel uncertainty in those of us who see our unread six month old messages and wonder if we should re- message"
That’s a great idea  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I know this is an old theme and we all know the time tested and trusted responses but....please, I'm English, a Fab "thanks but no thanks" button would go such a long way in promoting harmony and help to dispel uncertainty in those of us who see our unread six month old messages and wonder if we should re- message
That’s a great idea "
I agree xx |
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By *cotsboy OP Man
over a year ago
Aberdeen |
"Tbh I do think thats a bit out of order. Like I know everyone says dont take blocks personally but I probs would in that situation.
If you've been talking then its a bit shit to just be blocked after sending a photo."
Very true but guess that’s the way it’s going now in a world where we can have most things instantly and move on to the next thing when we get bored |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I know this is an old theme and we all know the time tested and trusted responses but....please, I'm English, a Fab "thanks but no thanks" button would go such a long way in promoting harmony and help to dispel uncertainty in those of us who see our unread six month old messages and wonder if we should re- message
That’s a great idea "
I keep banging on, no pun intended, about it but alas it falls on deaf ears!  |
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Don't take it personally OP
People don't behave the same on here,
Its easier to make a decision on being polite Or Not behind a keyboard,
The same people might give up a seat on the train or keep a door open for someone, but once logged in here loose that little bit of classiness. So OP all you can do is not follow suit, Stay Classy OP, someone has 2, right  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Don't take it personally OP
People don't behave the same on here,
Its easier to make a decision on being polite Or Not behind a keyboard,
The same people might give up a seat on the train or keep a door open for someone, but once logged in here loose that little bit of classiness. So OP all you can do is not follow suit, Stay Classy OP, someone has 2, right "
Keyboard warrior types?  |
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By *cotsboy OP Man
over a year ago
Aberdeen |
"Don't take it personally OP
People don't behave the same on here,
Its easier to make a decision on being polite Or Not behind a keyboard,
The same people might give up a seat on the train or keep a door open for someone, but once logged in here loose that little bit of classiness. So OP all you can do is not follow suit, Stay Classy OP, someone has 2, right "
I’m probably far from classy lol but still have manners and try to be polite |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have to say if someone isn't my type I'd probably block as its just easier and saves alot hassle.
Maybe if this sort of thing happens alot it might be worth Not giving photos so easily especially if they ask after 1 or 2 messages and don't send one to you 1st.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I know this is an old theme and we all know the time tested and trusted responses but....please, I'm English, a Fab "thanks but no thanks" button would go such a long way in promoting harmony and help to dispel uncertainty in those of us who see our unread six month old messages and wonder if we should re- message
That’s a great idea "
I don't agree to be honest because what's the point in it.
Unread message, deleted message,unanswered or block is fairly clear.
I don't understand why is important to just have a no thank you because at the end of the day it's still a no regardless. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As many have already said
Don't take it personally it's there ugly attitude not yours.
I've found some people not all are only nice when your useful to them.
I've had lovely messages off men that were not my type.So because there message was nice and polite I've just said-Your not for me sorry but happy fabbing.
Then got nasty replies.
I messaged a woman I sort of knew of on here.all i said was hello.
She told me to f off and called me a stupid little brat and said she was looking women not little girls like me.
Then days later she released the girl she wanted on here was my best friend.
She messaged me a long rant apologising and asked to start again.
Blanked lol.
Just forget the idiots.Dont take it personally and you won't stress over there bitter attitudes  |
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By *cotsboy OP Man
over a year ago
Aberdeen |
"I can never quite get my head around those that get sensitive, about being blocked by someone in profile form Who your never likely to meet..... Why would you even bat an eyelid or give a toss.  "
I’m not being sensitive as I know it happens all the time. I was just using it as an example |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have to be honest I don't understand why people are saying it's an ugly attitude or rude because it isn't.
We all have a choice In who we reply to and who we send pictures to.
There is always a risk that somebody is going to block you after you have sent a photo or that they are gonna say no thank you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have to be honest I don't understand why people are saying it's an ugly attitude or rude because it isn't.
We all have a choice In who we reply to and who we send pictures to.
There is always a risk that somebody is going to block you after you have sent a photo or that they are gonna say no thank you. "
Not replying isn't a ugly attitude.
Replying with nastiness is and so is blocking for nothing.
It's less hurtful to just say sorry your not for me x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have to be honest I don't understand why people are saying it's an ugly attitude or rude because it isn't.
We all have a choice In who we reply to and who we send pictures to.
There is always a risk that somebody is going to block you after you have sent a photo or that they are gonna say no thank you.
Not replying isn't a ugly attitude.
Replying with nastiness is and so is blocking for nothing.
It's less hurtful to just say sorry your not for me x "
The OP didn't say they've been nasty and also blocking is for a reason for that person.
You don't have to know the reason but it's their reason end of story.
How others choose to manage there mail and filter people out is up to them and that is something as a site user we all have to accept. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have to be honest I don't understand why people are saying it's an ugly attitude or rude because it isn't.
We all have a choice In who we reply to and who we send pictures to.
There is always a risk that somebody is going to block you after you have sent a photo or that they are gonna say no thank you.
Not replying isn't a ugly attitude.
Replying with nastiness is and so is blocking for nothing.
It's less hurtful to just say sorry your not for me x
The OP didn't say they've been nasty and also blocking is for a reason for that person.
You don't have to know the reason but it's their reason end of story.
How others choose to manage there mail and filter people out is up to them and that is something as a site user we all have to accept."
Also how is saying no thank you any less hurtful to being blocked the outcome is still the same. |
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By *cotsboy OP Man
over a year ago
Aberdeen |
"I have to be honest I don't understand why people are saying it's an ugly attitude or rude because it isn't.
We all have a choice In who we reply to and who we send pictures to.
There is always a risk that somebody is going to block you after you have sent a photo or that they are gonna say no thank you. "
I’d disagree to a certain extent as I go by treat people how you would like to be treated. If you were asked to hold the door open and when they had got through and just walked on without saying thank you would you still be saying it’s not rude?? |
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"I can never quite get my head around those that get sensitive, about being blocked by someone in profile form Who your never likely to meet..... Why would you even bat an eyelid or give a toss.
I’m not being sensitive as I know it happens all the time. I was just using it as an example "
I'd agree that manners cost nothing but I'd also hazard a guess that people's manners get tested to the limit in this type of environment |
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"I have to be honest I don't understand why people are saying it's an ugly attitude or rude because it isn't.
We all have a choice In who we reply to and who we send pictures to.
There is always a risk that somebody is going to block you after you have sent a photo or that they are gonna say no thank you.
Not replying isn't a ugly attitude.
Replying with nastiness is and so is blocking for nothing.
It's less hurtful to just say sorry your not for me x "
what she said, |
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This is just a minority of society who are just rude and unpleasant. And these types of folk will pass this on to their kids. Rude, badly behaved, no please or thank you.
I always try and be helpful and courteous and never rude. Try and be the better person and let's spread the love and goodwill among us. |
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"I have to be honest I don't understand why people are saying it's an ugly attitude or rude because it isn't.
We all have a choice In who we reply to and who we send pictures to.
There is always a risk that somebody is going to block you after you have sent a photo or that they are gonna say no thank you.
I’d disagree to a certain extent as I go by treat people how you would like to be treated. If you were asked to hold the door open and when they had got through and just walked on without saying thank you would you still be saying it’s not rude??"
If I was asked to hold the door open and I do it the other person is not obliged to say thank you to me, if The only reason I agree to hold the door open is to get a thank you but that's my problem not theirs because I can always say no to holding that door open.
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"Have we lost the ability to be nice to each other? A couple winked me so as you do i wink back we start messaging and I get asked for a face pic. I never asked for one back as being polite but then you get blocked what ever happened to a quick message saying sorry you’re not our type. Have noticed it a lot just in general day to day life no one says please or thanks maybe it’s a generation thing
Maybe they thought you were Fugly?
Maybe and as they say beauty is in the eye of the beholder. But you’re probably right enough I’m just minging and got no hope "
I'm sure yr not x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had more messages deleted than I have answered
I've been blocked and ignored on receipt of pictures
By contrast, I have deleted and not replied to hundreds of messages more
Rightly or wrongly, it's the way of internet hook ups and it certainty isn't peculiar to Fab
I don't need to know their reasoning for deleting or not responding, something wasn't right for them
Why would I want to go out of my way to meet someone who was 50/50 about the meet?
It can be miffing for a few minutes, but I've managed to get over it and I say that someone who has never been 100% confident in my looks |
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"Have we lost the ability to be nice to each other? A couple winked me so as you do i wink back we start messaging and I get asked for a face pic. I never asked for one back as being polite but then you get blocked what ever happened to a quick message saying sorry you’re not our type. Have noticed it a lot just in general day to day life no one says please or thanks maybe it’s a generation thing
Maybe they thought you were Fugly?
Maybe and as they say beauty is in the eye of the beholder. But you’re probably right enough I’m just minging and got no hope
I'm sure yr not x"
This just because somebody rejects you after seeing a face picture does not mean that you are ugly at all it just means You are not their type and that's OK.
Also people block for so many reasons, it could even be that they knew or recognise you. |
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By *cotsboy OP Man
over a year ago
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"Have we lost the ability to be nice to each other? A couple winked me so as you do i wink back we start messaging and I get asked for a face pic. I never asked for one back as being polite but then you get blocked what ever happened to a quick message saying sorry you’re not our type. Have noticed it a lot just in general day to day life no one says please or thanks maybe it’s a generation thing
Maybe they thought you were Fugly?
Maybe and as they say beauty is in the eye of the beholder. But you’re probably right enough I’m just minging and got no hope
I'm sure yr not x
This just because somebody rejects you after seeing a face picture does not mean that you are ugly at all it just means You are not their type and that's OK.
Also people block for so many reasons, it could even be that they knew or recognise you. "
That is also very true |
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"Have we lost the ability to be nice to each other? A couple winked me so as you do i wink back we start messaging and I get asked for a face pic. I never asked for one back as being polite but then you get blocked what ever happened to a quick message saying sorry you’re not our type. Have noticed it a lot just in general day to day life no one says please or thanks maybe it’s a generation thing
Maybe they thought you were Fugly?
Maybe and as they say beauty is in the eye of the beholder. But you’re probably right enough I’m just minging and got no hope
I'm sure yr not x
This just because somebody rejects you after seeing a face picture does not mean that you are ugly at all it just means You are not their type and that's OK.
Also people block for so many reasons, it could even be that they knew or recognise you.
That is also very true "
That's always worth considering especially if they are local but seriously don't take it to heart because it may feel personal but I'm almost certain it wasn't. |
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"I have to say if someone isn't my type I'd probably block as its just easier and saves alot hassle.
Maybe if this sort of thing happens alot it might be worth Not giving photos so easily especially if they ask after 1 or 2 messages and don't send one to you 1st.
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I can't disagree with you and day you are wrong but how nicer to press that message return "button" prior to blocking? |
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"It’s just crap I always say not out type but thank you"
A reply like yours puts faith in people at some point a match will come along. An instant block or no reply just dampers peoples mood. Even like someone said a reply no thanks and block is fine |
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Ordinarily I'm of the opinion that no reply or block is perfectly fine on here. I do it, and others do it to me. No biggie.
There's just something that doesn't sit right with me about having a conversation, asking for photos and then not acknowledging them, just blocking.
It's not worth dwelling on (people will do as they will, whatever their reasons), but it's a situation where I would have sent a final message before blocking. |
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"Ordinarily I'm of the opinion that no reply or block is perfectly fine on here. I do it, and others do it to me. No biggie.
There's just something that doesn't sit right with me about having a conversation, asking for photos and then not acknowledging them, just blocking.
It's not worth dwelling on (people will do as they will, whatever their reasons), but it's a situation where I would have sent a final message before blocking."
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We both believe in manners but sometimes on here it can get a little to much when you get the same thing over and over and have the fakes liars and pushy people I guess that’s why most use the block button as an easier way to stop that x |
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"Ordinarily I'm of the opinion that no reply or block is perfectly fine on here. I do it, and others do it to me. No biggie.
There's just something that doesn't sit right with me about having a conversation, asking for photos and then not acknowledging them, just blocking.
It's not worth dwelling on (people will do as they will, whatever their reasons), but it's a situation where I would have sent a final message before blocking."
Totally agree with this. Politeness should be normalized. It doesn't cost a thing and only adds value to the profile. |
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"Ordinarily I'm of the opinion that no reply or block is perfectly fine on here. I do it, and others do it to me. No biggie.
There's just something that doesn't sit right with me about having a conversation, asking for photos and then not acknowledging them, just blocking.
It's not worth dwelling on (people will do as they will, whatever their reasons), but it's a situation where I would have sent a final message before blocking.
Totally agree with this. Politeness should be normalized. It doesn't cost a thing and only adds value to the profile."
Welll said.
I know the ladies get bombarded with messages completely understand a short reply won't even take 10 seconds and if you do get more messages quite rightly block |
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"Ordinarily I'm of the opinion that no reply or block is perfectly fine on here. I do it, and others do it to me. No biggie.
There's just something that doesn't sit right with me about having a conversation, asking for photos and then not acknowledging them, just blocking.
It's not worth dwelling on (people will do as they will, whatever their reasons), but it's a situation where I would have sent a final message before blocking.
Totally agree with this. Politeness should be normalized. It doesn't cost a thing and only adds value to the profile."
Exactly as manners honestly cost nothing I do also find it’s a generational thing as well from my experience |
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"Ordinarily I'm of the opinion that no reply or block is perfectly fine on here. I do it, and others do it to me. No biggie.
There's just something that doesn't sit right with me about having a conversation, asking for photos and then not acknowledging them, just blocking.
It's not worth dwelling on (people will do as they will, whatever their reasons), but it's a situation where I would have sent a final message before blocking.
Totally agree with this. Politeness should be normalized. It doesn't cost a thing and only adds value to the profile.
Welll said.
I know the ladies get bombarded with messages completely understand a short reply won't even take 10 seconds and if you do get more messages quite rightly block "
People are forgetting there are many reasons why people block and they shouldn't have to justify themselves. I have said before if after 1 or 2 messages someone asks for a face picture but doesn't send one themself is up to the individual whether they send one.
It is not rude at all it may not sit right with people but it certainly isn't rude. Also you say it takes nothing to say no thank you but actually when I 1st joined fab and didn't know about filters I was getting 200 plus messages a day sometimes so yes Sometimes it takes lots of effort. |
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"Ordinarily I'm of the opinion that no reply or block is perfectly fine on here. I do it, and others do it to me. No biggie.
There's just something that doesn't sit right with me about having a conversation, asking for photos and then not acknowledging them, just blocking.
It's not worth dwelling on (people will do as they will, whatever their reasons), but it's a situation where I would have sent a final message before blocking.
Totally agree with this. Politeness should be normalized. It doesn't cost a thing and only adds value to the profile.
Welll said.
I know the ladies get bombarded with messages completely understand a short reply won't even take 10 seconds and if you do get more messages quite rightly block
People are forgetting there are many reasons why people block and they shouldn't have to justify themselves. I have said before if after 1 or 2 messages someone asks for a face picture but doesn't send one themself is up to the individual whether they send one.
It is not rude at all it may not sit right with people but it certainly isn't rude. Also you say it takes nothing to say no thank you but actually when I 1st joined fab and didn't know about filters I was getting 200 plus messages a day sometimes so yes Sometimes it takes lots of effort."
Yeah but when you are chatting then get a face pic but don't like what you see...how much does it cost to say "not interested", "Not my type", "Thanks but no thanks" Blocking in that case is just rude.
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"Ordinarily I'm of the opinion that no reply or block is perfectly fine on here. I do it, and others do it to me. No biggie.
There's just something that doesn't sit right with me about having a conversation, asking for photos and then not acknowledging them, just blocking.
It's not worth dwelling on (people will do as they will, whatever their reasons), but it's a situation where I would have sent a final message before blocking.
Totally agree with this. Politeness should be normalized. It doesn't cost a thing and only adds value to the profile.
Welll said.
I know the ladies get bombarded with messages completely understand a short reply won't even take 10 seconds and if you do get more messages quite rightly block
People are forgetting there are many reasons why people block and they shouldn't have to justify themselves. I have said before if after 1 or 2 messages someone asks for a face picture but doesn't send one themself is up to the individual whether they send one.
It is not rude at all it may not sit right with people but it certainly isn't rude. Also you say it takes nothing to say no thank you but actually when I 1st joined fab and didn't know about filters I was getting 200 plus messages a day sometimes so yes Sometimes it takes lots of effort.
Yeah but when you are chatting then get a face pic but don't like what you see...how much does it cost to say "not interested", "Not my type", "Thanks but no thanks" Blocking in that case is just rude.
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The fab FAQ's are very clear on this subject and if people read them it would save a lot upset. |
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"Ordinarily I'm of the opinion that no reply or block is perfectly fine on here. I do it, and others do it to me. No biggie.
There's just something that doesn't sit right with me about having a conversation, asking for photos and then not acknowledging them, just blocking.
It's not worth dwelling on (people will do as they will, whatever their reasons), but it's a situation where I would have sent a final message before blocking.
Totally agree with this. Politeness should be normalized. It doesn't cost a thing and only adds value to the profile.
Welll said.
I know the ladies get bombarded with messages completely understand a short reply won't even take 10 seconds and if you do get more messages quite rightly block
People are forgetting there are many reasons why people block and they shouldn't have to justify themselves. I have said before if after 1 or 2 messages someone asks for a face picture but doesn't send one themself is up to the individual whether they send one.
It is not rude at all it may not sit right with people but it certainly isn't rude. Also you say it takes nothing to say no thank you but actually when I 1st joined fab and didn't know about filters I was getting 200 plus messages a day sometimes so yes Sometimes it takes lots of effort.
Yeah but when you are chatting then get a face pic but don't like what you see...how much does it cost to say "not interested", "Not my type", "Thanks but no thanks" Blocking in that case is just rude.
The fab FAQ's are very clear on this subject and if people read them it would save a lot upset."
Ok I get that but what about twisting the "conventional" settings by adding/offering nicer ways. Not possible at all? Maybe it's the case that I and the few others are on the minority who are up for this, but that doesn't mean it's not possible.  |
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"Ordinarily I'm of the opinion that no reply or block is perfectly fine on here. I do it, and others do it to me. No biggie.
There's just something that doesn't sit right with me about having a conversation, asking for photos and then not acknowledging them, just blocking.
It's not worth dwelling on (people will do as they will, whatever their reasons), but it's a situation where I would have sent a final message before blocking.
Totally agree with this. Politeness should be normalized. It doesn't cost a thing and only adds value to the profile.
Welll said.
I know the ladies get bombarded with messages completely understand a short reply won't even take 10 seconds and if you do get more messages quite rightly block
People are forgetting there are many reasons why people block and they shouldn't have to justify themselves. I have said before if after 1 or 2 messages someone asks for a face picture but doesn't send one themself is up to the individual whether they send one.
It is not rude at all it may not sit right with people but it certainly isn't rude. Also you say it takes nothing to say no thank you but actually when I 1st joined fab and didn't know about filters I was getting 200 plus messages a day sometimes so yes Sometimes it takes lots of effort.
Yeah but when you are chatting then get a face pic but don't like what you see...how much does it cost to say "not interested", "Not my type", "Thanks but no thanks" Blocking in that case is just rude.
The fab FAQ's are very clear on this subject and if people read them it would save a lot upset.
Ok I get that but what about twisting the "conventional" settings by adding/offering nicer ways. Not possible at all? Maybe it's the case that I and the few others are on the minority who are up for this, but that doesn't mean it's not possible. "
People have been asking for that button for years so there must be a reason why fab have decided it is not a good option. |
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"Ordinarily I'm of the opinion that no reply or block is perfectly fine on here. I do it, and others do it to me. No biggie.
There's just something that doesn't sit right with me about having a conversation, asking for photos and then not acknowledging them, just blocking.
It's not worth dwelling on (people will do as they will, whatever their reasons), but it's a situation where I would have sent a final message before blocking.
Totally agree with this. Politeness should be normalized. It doesn't cost a thing and only adds value to the profile.
Welll said.
I know the ladies get bombarded with messages completely understand a short reply won't even take 10 seconds and if you do get more messages quite rightly block
People are forgetting there are many reasons why people block and they shouldn't have to justify themselves. I have said before if after 1 or 2 messages someone asks for a face picture but doesn't send one themself is up to the individual whether they send one.
It is not rude at all it may not sit right with people but it certainly isn't rude. Also you say it takes nothing to say no thank you but actually when I 1st joined fab and didn't know about filters I was getting 200 plus messages a day sometimes so yes Sometimes it takes lots of effort.
Yeah but when you are chatting then get a face pic but don't like what you see...how much does it cost to say "not interested", "Not my type", "Thanks but no thanks" Blocking in that case is just rude.
The fab FAQ's are very clear on this subject and if people read them it would save a lot upset.
Ok I get that but what about twisting the "conventional" settings by adding/offering nicer ways. Not possible at all? Maybe it's the case that I and the few others are on the minority who are up for this, but that doesn't mean it's not possible.
People have been asking for that button for years so there must be a reason why fab have decided it is not a good option."
Well it's up to people really. So people, if you are reading this be the change we all need to see on fab  |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"Yeah but when you are chatting then get a face pic but don't like what you see...how much does it cost to say "not interested", "Not my type", "Thanks but no thanks" Blocking in that case is just rude.
The fab FAQ's are very clear on this subject and if people read them it would save a lot upset."
Ordinarily where it relates to a random first message sent blind I'd agree with you.
However in the instance the OP gives, where a conversation has been had over a number of messages, just killing the conversation dead mid-flow, and especially after a face pic has been requested and sent I *do* think in that instance a little politeness by way of a "thanks but no thanks" response is merited, rather than simply blocking which is effectively "ghosting" by any other name and arguably rude. |
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"Yeah but when you are chatting then get a face pic but don't like what you see...how much does it cost to say "not interested", "Not my type", "Thanks but no thanks" Blocking in that case is just rude.
The fab FAQ's are very clear on this subject and if people read them it would save a lot upset.
Ordinarily where it relates to a random first message sent blind I'd agree with you.
However in the instance the OP gives, where a conversation has been had over a number of messages, just killing the conversation dead mid-flow, and especially after a face pic has been requested and sent I *do* think in that instance a little politeness by way of a "thanks but no thanks" response is merited, rather than simply blocking which is effectively "ghosting" by any other name and arguably rude."
As you very well know there are a lots of reasons why somebody would block after seeing a face photo without a reply so no it is not arguably rude because we don't know the full situation. |
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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago
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"Yeah but when you are chatting then get a face pic but don't like what you see...how much does it cost to say "not interested", "Not my type", "Thanks but no thanks" Blocking in that case is just rude.
The fab FAQ's are very clear on this subject and if people read them it would save a lot upset.
Ordinarily where it relates to a random first message sent blind I'd agree with you.
However in the instance the OP gives, where a conversation has been had over a number of messages, just killing the conversation dead mid-flow, and especially after a face pic has been requested and sent I *do* think in that instance a little politeness by way of a "thanks but no thanks" response is merited, rather than simply blocking which is effectively "ghosting" by any other name and arguably rude."
Maybe they just got bored with the conversation. Are they obliged to say “thanks but no thanks”? |
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I should think being a man on here is pretty disheartning, if you're not used to it being blocked mid convo is quite a shock. I've had it a few times, and always convince myself they must have pressed block by accident. Just assume they have fat accidental fingers and carry on elsewhere  |
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"I should think being a man on here is pretty disheartning, if you're not used to it being blocked mid convo is quite a shock. I've had it a few times, and always convince myself they must have pressed block by accident. Just assume they have fat accidental fingers and carry on elsewhere "
I can tell you now that being a crossdresser (still just a bloke in a dress) is a hell of a lot easier. Ive been both and tried speaking to the same women and the success rate as a guybis shockingly bad. Either that or I look better as a crossdresser than I do as a guy |
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"I should think being a man on here is pretty disheartning, if you're not used to it being blocked mid convo is quite a shock. I've had it a few times, and always convince myself they must have pressed block by accident. Just assume they have fat accidental fingers and carry on elsewhere
I can tell you now that being a crossdresser (still just a bloke in a dress) is a hell of a lot easier. Ive been both and tried speaking to the same women and the success rate as a guybis shockingly bad. Either that or I look better as a crossdresser than I do as a guy "
You do look rather gorgeous |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"Yeah but when you are chatting then get a face pic but don't like what you see...how much does it cost to say "not interested", "Not my type", "Thanks but no thanks" Blocking in that case is just rude.
The fab FAQ's are very clear on this subject and if people read them it would save a lot upset.
Ordinarily where it relates to a random first message sent blind I'd agree with you.
However in the instance the OP gives, where a conversation has been had over a number of messages, just killing the conversation dead mid-flow, and especially after a face pic has been requested and sent I *do* think in that instance a little politeness by way of a "thanks but no thanks" response is merited, rather than simply blocking which is effectively "ghosting" by any other name and arguably rude.
Maybe they just got bored with the conversation. Are they obliged to say “thanks but no thanks”?"
And this is one reason threads like this are fairly pointless - because they're subjective based on hypothetical situations or without knowing both sides of the story - yes conversations fizzle out for all kinds of reasons - boredom, the kids knocked a paint pot over, hubby/wife came in from work any a myriad of other possible reasons.
My comment was based on the OP and how it was described by him - indicating that a conversation had been flowing back and forth, the other person had asked for a face pic, that was sent and immediately upon being read the OP was blocked - in *that* instance boredom doesn't appear to be a factor (otherwise why ask for a face pic) and in that instance *as described* I think it is arguably rude to not send a response even if it's a simple "thanks for chatting but I don't think you're for me" and then blocking. |
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"I should think being a man on here is pretty disheartning, if you're not used to it being blocked mid convo is quite a shock. I've had it a few times, and always convince myself they must have pressed block by accident. Just assume they have fat accidental fingers and carry on elsewhere
I can tell you now that being a crossdresser (still just a bloke in a dress) is a hell of a lot easier. Ive been both and tried speaking to the same women and the success rate as a guybis shockingly bad. Either that or I look better as a crossdresser than I do as a guy
You do look rather gorgeous "
Ooooh I'll take that compliment thankyou very much
What i can see of you looks rather delightful too |
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"Yeah but when you are chatting then get a face pic but don't like what you see...how much does it cost to say "not interested", "Not my type", "Thanks but no thanks" Blocking in that case is just rude.
The fab FAQ's are very clear on this subject and if people read them it would save a lot upset.
Ordinarily where it relates to a random first message sent blind I'd agree with you.
However in the instance the OP gives, where a conversation has been had over a number of messages, just killing the conversation dead mid-flow, and especially after a face pic has been requested and sent I *do* think in that instance a little politeness by way of a "thanks but no thanks" response is merited, rather than simply blocking which is effectively "ghosting" by any other name and arguably rude.
Maybe they just got bored with the conversation. Are they obliged to say “thanks but no thanks”?
And this is one reason threads like this are fairly pointless - because they're subjective based on hypothetical situations or without knowing both sides of the story - yes conversations fizzle out for all kinds of reasons - boredom, the kids knocked a paint pot over, hubby/wife came in from work any a myriad of other possible reasons.
My comment was based on the OP and how it was described by him - indicating that a conversation had been flowing back and forth, the other person had asked for a face pic, that was sent and immediately upon being read the OP was blocked - in *that* instance boredom doesn't appear to be a factor (otherwise why ask for a face pic) and in that instance *as described* I think it is arguably rude to not send a response even if it's a simple "thanks for chatting but I don't think you're for me" and then blocking."
I think thats fair enough yes if the other person had asked for it to be sent, they solicited it so it would be fair to expect a response either way back. |
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"Have we lost the ability to be nice to each other? A couple winked me so as you do i wink back we start messaging and I get asked for a face pic. I never asked for one back as being polite but then you get blocked what ever happened to a quick message saying sorry you’re not our type. Have noticed it a lot just in general day to day life no one says please or thanks maybe it’s a generation thing "
Could it be that they may have recognized you? Inverness is a small place. Jess recognized a friend's son who had sent us a face photo in a message, immediate block was the best solution for all concerned. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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You send a genuine message, nice photos face and tasteful others, bi requirements met, accom met! Pretty much on point only to be ignored! Some rude peasants with zero manners on here! Such a shame for nice people!
Peasants no breeding or manners! I give up but agree how much nicer to be nice xoxo |
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"Have we lost the ability to be nice to each other? A couple winked me so as you do i wink back we start messaging and I get asked for a face pic. I never asked for one back as being polite but then you get blocked what ever happened to a quick message saying sorry you’re not our type. Have noticed it a lot just in general day to day life no one says please or thanks maybe it’s a generation thing
Could it be that they may have recognized you? Inverness is a small place. Jess recognized a friend's son who had sent us a face photo in a message, immediate block was the best solution for all concerned."
Perhaps you are him! |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"Yeah but when you are chatting then get a face pic but don't like what you see...how much does it cost to say "not interested", "Not my type", "Thanks but no thanks" Blocking in that case is just rude.
The fab FAQ's are very clear on this subject and if people read them it would save a lot upset.
Ordinarily where it relates to a random first message sent blind I'd agree with you.
However in the instance the OP gives, where a conversation has been had over a number of messages, just killing the conversation dead mid-flow, and especially after a face pic has been requested and sent I *do* think in that instance a little politeness by way of a "thanks but no thanks" response is merited, rather than simply blocking which is effectively "ghosting" by any other name and arguably rude.
As you very well know there are a lots of reasons why somebody would block after seeing a face photo without a reply so no it is not arguably rude because we don't know the full situation."
In the instance described by the OP it's somewhat different - and would take no time at all to respond with "Thanks for chatting but I don't think you're for me" and then blocking.
Yes, site rules doesn't place any obligation on replying at *any* time - but common decency and courtesy in that particular instance would suggest it would be the right thing to do.
There doesn't need to be a reason given, doesn't need to be a big drawn out thing but it is tantamount to "ghosting" if you've been chatting to someone and then blank them completely having seen their face pic. |
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I have been blocked after sending a face picture quite frequently. I joke about having the face that launched a thousand blocks. I think it’s possible that the reason it happens is because it is difficult to say “I don’t like your face and don’t find you attractive”, which is effectively what the action means. I understand why it happens so just a case of moving on. |
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I've been blocked just because I wasn't meeting anyone, ive met guys off here for a social meeting and got 6 guys turn up with the guy calling me a slag and calling me a whore so I dont meet anyone off here unless its in a club and ive been blocked by guys for being too attractive, I dont let it bother me,but I only block people who don't read my profile or try adding me |
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By *cotsboy OP Man
over a year ago
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"I've been blocked just because I wasn't meeting anyone, ive met guys off here for a social meeting and got 6 guys turn up with the guy calling me a slag and calling me a whore so I dont meet anyone off here unless its in a club and ive been blocked by guys for being too attractive, I dont let it bother me,but I only block people who don't read my profile or try adding me "
That’s sad to read as there’s no need at all for it especially arranging something that you’ve not agreed to. Was good to read people’s opinions and didn’t think it would generate as mush chat as it did |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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I try and send the worst photos of us, that way if they still continue talking its likely to be genuine interest.
You have to appreciate people use this site for a variety of different reasons and as such expect to get blocked or the conversation to die for what you may feel is no valid reason. |
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By *cotsboy OP Man
over a year ago
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"I try and send the worst photos of us, that way if they still continue talking its likely to be genuine interest.
You have to appreciate people use this site for a variety of different reasons and as such expect to get blocked or the conversation to die for what you may feel is no valid reason."
From what photos I can see on your profile you look fantastic so feel free to send me any you like |
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