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What do women genuinely want( any unheard of answer is a good answer)
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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After coming here a second time I have come to find that things are a little preliminary here and I can't blame anybody when you know what you like and you know what you want. However for the sake of understanding and education amongst man and networking better and understanding that education is needed to better any system .. I wanted to ask the question what do women want in general or according to yourself particularly? And I feel like some things speak for themselves.. such as sending and soliciting women for nudes; clearly not warranted but reading is lol. there are those who want somethings but do not want other things. how do we was a man or even women best navigate this mine field full of A variation of different wants and needs without setting off the wrong triggers almost initially. I don't know about other men but I want to know. please educate us. All answers are welcome |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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LMAO a real Cliffhanger with this song. They never quite give you a direct answer.. I want a zigga I want a zigga zagga zow.. What kind of answer is that LOL  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Trouble is telling you what we want sort of preprogrammes the men to tell us what we want to hear and not you being the real you. Then that sort of gives a false impression of who you really are. Just be yourself, be honest and no lies. Jen |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I wanted respect. It’s all I ever wanted. Unfortunately I never got it so my profile is hidden. "
Understand why as it has changed so much on here since i was a single fem in here. So many self entitled people who think because they are on a swinging site they are guaranteed a fuck. Also the way they treat us women on here is disgusting, we are treated like non charging prozzies. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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LOL I think that's the tricky part with this question.. For me personally I would like to believe that I genuinely have at least a basic understanding of what women want.. For some I do know that is used to a bit of a opportunistic advantage but on some level that's also a bit unfair based off of the sortment of what there is to offer and what there is to take. You could be a total gentleman to some women and they'll pass you off as some kind of subdominant Neanderthal and then you could try and play the more dominant role; which doesn't really wet in the whistle without some proper courtship.. which is why I feel like a conversation like this could go on for days which I wouldn't mind but.. But I don't want this to be a conversation that the therapists and couple drinks would have with us.. or a great debate for the Battle of the Sexes LOL;but instead it should be a learning Aid and something that Sparks mind of even the smallest mind of boy.. LOL the answer could be as nice as he went to church with me or as dirty he said he would lick my Cooter from the moment I said hi and knowing what that feeling counts for |
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"Sorry girls
You all deserve respect
But dont become a victim and hide
Use the "block" option
And be strong"
There comes a time when we have no choice but to ‘hide’ but I’m certainly no ‘victim’ and I’m a very strong woman. Your comments are not appreciated by me. I answered OPs question. |
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"Thank you for your contribution yeah. It's a confident one it's a proud one and notes should be taken. it is greatly appreciated"
Asking what do women want is really quite diverse. Some want, like me, respect but some don’t know what respect is.
Me thinks you are wanting women indirectly to help you attract other women. Be yourself OP I’m sure there is a woman out there for you. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Actually it's quite the opposite.. I'm a man wanting to help other men.. Often times when I come in I feel like my experience is ruined because certain men.. Not every men doesn't have the ability to tone themselves. After all this is a public forum.. I don't know how many of my fellow acquaintances are reading this but I know my actions have spoken for themselves. I would just love to alleviate some toxicity if ever possible. Yes it is a diverse question I asked it and a very first place. Really I think the answer is are for those who share the same relativity. That's why I asked for unheard-of answers. I'll tell you where the true trick to my magic is.. a fool can learn from this Forum even if he had a step-by-step guide but a genuine Ernest guy could I believe.. The guy who potentially just isn't getting his foot in the door for whatever reason.. I can't admit I'm guilty of that but I can also live with it.. I like to choose still handle this site as a Learning Growing Experience.. and you can even learn from your failures or the failures of others R the success.. it's not devious as much as it is human nature being applied. I mean after all what are forms for if not to learn |
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"Shorter Paragraphs...thats what i want right now  "
Yes me too. I’ve a very busy life. Fab is now just a way of amusement for me. Reading lengthy forum posts also makes me happy that I’m ‘hiding’..... |
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By *inkySeeKinkyDoWoman
over a year ago
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Ok so in answer to the OP, as a woman on fab, I want:
1. Honesty. Lies are extremely toxic and liars always get caught out eventually.
1. Respect as a fellow human being. Opening messages like "Can I piss on your tits" or "I wanna ram your arse with my massive monster and breed you like a pig" are not respectful.
1. Guys to read my profile. Its all there, everything you need to know
1. Guys not to take my clearly stated 'DO NOT WANTs as a personal challenge to change my mind.
1. Humour, intellect, and the ability to string a sentence together.
1. Theres probably more but its early and ive not had a coffee |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
Thing is OP you're asking a question to which there are as many answers as there are pebbles on a beach - each of them individual to the person concerned.
Yes there are some very high level generic "givens" (respect, honesty, consideration etc),but on an individual level what works for one person will not work for another, and even may vary as to whether it works or not depending on mood, the day of the week and multiple other factors - so for all of us (men, women, couples, TVs etc) it's about finding our own "what works" along with an acceptance that it won't always do so.
P.S. if you use the "reply and quote" button it will help us know who you're replying to  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"After coming here a second time I have come to find that things are a little preliminary here and I can't blame anybody when you know what you like and you know what you want. However for the sake of understanding and education amongst man and networking better and understanding that education is needed to better any system .. I wanted to ask the question what do women want in general or according to yourself particularly? And I feel like some things speak for themselves.. such as sending and soliciting women for nudes; clearly not warranted but reading is lol. there are those who want somethings but do not want other things. how do we was a man or even women best navigate this mine field full of A variation of different wants and needs without setting off the wrong triggers almost initially. I don't know about other men but I want to know. please educate us. All answers are welcome"
A very good question and one which requires an intelligent question.
I guess Fab is a release, a chance for people who would normally be quite reserved a chance to show a wilder side
Fab has certainly given me confidence not only sexually but personally too. I have explored experiences I would not have otherwise considered and pushed my own boundaries.
As for what I want, it has evolved and grown with me through the age.
I no longer want that quick fix, but something solidified on a deeper understanding, mutually beneficial. I want a guy to deliver what he says he can...actually don't even tell me: show me what you can do.
Not saying I want the next best love story but fwb founded on friendship.
I have met some amazing people through Fab, people who have given me that and more and remained in my life as people I value and who value me. That sets a high barr but one I refuse to deviate from |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"After coming here a second time I have come to find that things are a little preliminary here and I can't blame anybody when you know what you like and you know what you want. However for the sake of understanding and education amongst man and networking better and understanding that education is needed to better any system .. I wanted to ask the question what do women want in general or according to yourself particularly? And I feel like some things speak for themselves.. such as sending and soliciting women for nudes; clearly not warranted but reading is lol. there are those who want somethings but do not want other things. how do we was a man or even women best navigate this mine field full of A variation of different wants and needs without setting off the wrong triggers almost initially. I don't know about other men but I want to know. please educate us. All answers are welcome
A very good question and one which requires an intelligent question*.
I guess Fab is a release, a chance for people who would normally be quite reserved a chance to show a wilder side
Fab has certainly given me confidence not only sexually but personally too. I have explored experiences I would not have otherwise considered and pushed my own boundaries.
As for what I want, it has evolved and grown with me through the age.
I no longer want that quick fix, but something solidified on a deeper understanding, mutually beneficial. I want a guy to deliver what he says he can...actually don't even tell me: show me what you can do.
Not saying I want the next best love story but fwb founded on friendship.
I have met some amazing people through Fab, people who have given me that and more and remained in my life as people I value and who value me. That sets a high barr but one I refuse to deviate from"
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"Ok so in answer to the OP, as a woman on fab, I want:
1. Honesty. Lies are extremely toxic and liars always get caught out eventually.
1. Respect as a fellow human being. Opening messages like "Can I piss on your tits" or "I wanna ram your arse with my massive monster and breed you like a pig" are not respectful.
1. Guys to read my profile. Its all there, everything you need to know
1. Guys not to take my clearly stated 'DO NOT WANTs as a personal challenge to change my mind.
1. Humour, intellect, and the ability to string a sentence together.
1. Theres probably more but its early and ive not had a coffee"
This in a nutshell xxx |
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OP, do you need a set of instructions on how to behave towards people in everyday life? No? Then you don't need one on how to behave with people on here - we're people, not living breathing sex toys, treat us as such. If you wouldn't say/do it to our face in public, it's probably preferable that you don't say/do it in your opening message. |
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"Most women want men to realise that they are human beings, just like they are.
Why is this myth perpetuated that women are somehow impossible for men to understand?"
Unfortunately my experiences on Fab have made me feel I’ve not been treated as a human being hence why I’m only here for the forums. |
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"Most women want men to realise that they are human beings, just like they are.
Why is this myth perpetuated that women are somehow impossible for men to understand?
Unfortunately my experiences on Fab have made me feel I’ve not been treated as a human being hence why I’m only here for the forums."
You've probably just proved my point then.
I've seen a lot of men claim that they just don't understand women and a lot of women agree with them that it's impossible to. I really despair when I read things like that and wonder how grown adults can genuinely not know that to understand an individual all you need to do is talk to them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Trouble is telling you what we want sort of preprogrammes the men to tell us what we want to hear and not you being the real you. Then that sort of gives a false impression of who you really are. Just be yourself, be honest and no lies. Jen"
Well said |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I should add that if after chatting you find yourself unable to understand someone it means you're not compatible or they're playing games with you."
Being straightforward doesn't seem to be something that's all that common on here |
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"Most women want men to realise that they are human beings, just like they are.
Why is this myth perpetuated that women are somehow impossible for men to understand?
Unfortunately my experiences on Fab have made me feel I’ve not been treated as a human being hence why I’m only here for the forums.
You've probably just proved my point then.
I've seen a lot of men claim that they just don't understand women and a lot of women agree with them that it's impossible to. I really despair when I read things like that and wonder how grown adults can genuinely not know that to understand an individual all you need to do is talk to them."
Another poster got it right saying if we are treated on here as we would be face to face then men really can’t go far wrong, however the nature of how men understand Fab is the problem. |
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"I should add that if after chatting you find yourself unable to understand someone it means you're not compatible or they're playing games with you.
Being straightforward doesn't seem to be something that's all that common on here "
Or in life. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"LMAO a real Cliffhanger with this song. They never quite give you a direct answer.. I want a zigga I want a zigga zagga zow.. What kind of answer is that LOL
Reply and quote "
The man is new to the forum, this and your previous comment is not very friendly or civil.
Please avoid threads rather than do this please |
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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago
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"LMAO a real Cliffhanger with this song. They never quite give you a direct answer.. I want a zigga I want a zigga zagga zow.. What kind of answer is that LOL
Reply and quote
The man is new to the forum, this and your previous comment is not very friendly or civil.
Please avoid threads rather than do this please"
Then I apologise to the Op |
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As you say read. Read the profile properly. Don't try to circumnavigate absolutes. Local only doent't include you if you are in my area from time to time.
Also if you want an interesting and intelligent partner, have an interesting and intelligent profile.
If you just want a quickie look for scant profiles.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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LOL I feel like I walked into a firing squad this morning. I do appreciate all the contributions of the conversation. all very interesting. I was just curious what's on people's minds in a place like this; How they construct their habits, not to attack them. It wasn't for my own interest but the general public. I always say the best conversation is one had. LOL I do want the conversation to continue but not at the expense of me. learning is fundamental but LMAO if I keep this up Im sure next I'm going to be accused of working at the University of Sydney jk. LOL it's just a open-minded conversation ladies and gent I personally I don't got nothing to prove or defend. |
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"I do like that.. Don't try to circumnavigate absolutes. That's an original answer"
Can you use reply and quote please OP so we know who you are replying to.
I would add that just communicate with women here as you would if they were in front of you in person then you won’t go far wrong. Good luck and I hope you have gleaned something about women from this thread |
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I think the question that should be asked is how can we educate people on FAB to respect others?
As a society we are being given the means to reach out to people on so many different platforms that a lot of people seem to have forgotten how to treat people with respect and dignity. Technology has in a way made people forget what humanity is and how to be a person.
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"Most women want men to realise that they are human beings, just like they are.
Why is this myth perpetuated that women are somehow impossible for men to understand?
Unfortunately my experiences on Fab have made me feel I’ve not been treated as a human being hence why I’m only here for the forums.
You've probably just proved my point then.
I've seen a lot of men claim that they just don't understand women and a lot of women agree with them that it's impossible to. I really despair when I read things like that and wonder how grown adults can genuinely not know that to understand an individual all you need to do is talk to them."
That's a good point, probably the point. "all you need to do is talk to them"...and I guess by definition they would "talk to you and listen"... That's the challenge. I don't send emails any more, just here to window shop for now. But I guess the largest challenge is trying to strike up a civil conversation with people in an environment which is sceptical and judgemental and untrusting possibly on both sides.. Is quite a struggle. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I want everything and I want it now  .
Makes a change, it's normally yesterday!
2 days ago. You know me Doc "
Thought it'd be why did I have to ask in the first place! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It will sound like a moan but I really do not want to be thought of as just a plaything. Disposable. I do not want to be just a dirty thought/secret in someones mind (outside of the roleplay) as they then keep choosing to be with a person who wont do the things they really want, because it soothes their guilt at being a person who has those wicked thoughts. Us fab ladies are the guilty desires and the wonderful partners/ mothers/people thrown into one, we can be given the respect that you do profess to have, but you seem to struggle to believe when it comes to the crunch. We are more than just the sex and sometimes we want to be picked and made to feel important. And not even to be picked with all that bollocks, but for you to understand that you are the sort of person that craves the sex and the lifestyle you do and to face up to it and realise we ladies here are actually bloody wonderful!
And im aware not all blah blah and there are wonderful couples/men here that do get it, but sometimes I wish more of you would but then that could create a divorce crisis/boom as people freed themselves from things that dont serve them.
And not everyone will feel the same as me or even care and therein lies the problem. We are all different and unique but all essentially human first.
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By (user no longer on site)
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So basically to embrace your base thoughts and dark desires that no amount of tea with the vicar will negate. Know you are as much of a dirty bastard as the rest of us and ocassionally, just maybe, go with us to the pictures or tea with Auntie. Now distill all that into a first message and your away,send a dick pic if you like.  |
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