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It's okay not to be okay

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I've seen a few forum posts recently about people suffering at the moment with their mental health. I posted this on one of them but thought it would be helpful to share to others who might need it right now.

Sorry to hear your struggling. Everyone's waiting lists are getting longer so unfortunately the waiting times are too. However, if you feel like you need to be seen now go back to your GP or call 111 and request to be seen by the crisis team.

If you feel like you can manage without seeing someone, go to Minds website, they have some great coping methods. In terms of daily help, you can do two things; do something creative and do some form of exercise. Doing one of these two things can benefit your mental health in a big way.

Finally, keep a journal, but keep two. One can be a place to put down your feelings/frustrations so they aren't taking over your thoughts. The second keep it positive, write down something good that happened that day and something you are grateful for. Its a way of acknowledging the good things that we all miss sometimes.

Most importantly, keep talking to people, never suffer alone. Reach out to anyone; family, friends, helplines, NHS services and even forums like this.

Hope this helps in anyway and take care of yourself. The world's a scary place right now but we can get through this together

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I agree totally with this.

A few weeks ago, one of my closest friends and colleagues took his own life.

I had been at work with him a few days before, where he seemed his usual self, I spoke to him on the phone at 8pm all seemingly normal. Later that night he, for reasons still unknown, ended his life.

I wish that he had spoken to me or to someone, anyone. It is absolutely devastating to think that he felt there was no other option.

So please, reach out, talk to someone. There’s no problem in the world that is worth ending things over.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I agree totally with this.

A few weeks ago, one of my closest friends and colleagues took his own life.

I had been at work with him a few days before, where he seemed his usual self, I spoke to him on the phone at 8pm all seemingly normal. Later that night he, for reasons still unknown, ended his life.

I wish that he had spoken to me or to someone, anyone. It is absolutely devastating to think that he felt there was no other option.

So please, reach out, talk to someone. There’s no problem in the world that is worth ending things over."

So sorry to hear that. It's so sad when people believe that is the only way out. Unfortunately from experience, a lot of people see it a way of ending their pain. Its so important to talk to each other to prevent this from happening. Hope your okay and thank you for sharing

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Good post OP. Especially in the strange times we are currently living in.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Good post OP. Especially in the strange times we are currently living in.

Thank you and hope your doing okay too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Very kind and thoughtful post OP.

Talking is important and if anyone ever needs a listening ear please message me.

I'm always here for you

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By *cloversCouple over a year ago

Hull

We endorse everything you said OP.

As a society we need to keep pushing against the notion of keeping going despite everything.

Individually we need to listen more & be the people that open up & reflect with others in the hope that others will find the strength to do so too, be the conduit of support where we can, connect people with others who can help.

Our message should be to everyone- we are important, we are loved - we are worthy of time, help.& support - our lives are valued by us all

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Thank you for this post, at a time when I need it too.

Much love to you all xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thank you all. Yes its so important, especially the times we are currently living in. Hope your all ok

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Excellent post... Would also remind people of the Samaritans x

I'm a pretty resilient /positive person ... Also happy for people to reach out privately x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Excellent post... Would also remind people of the Samaritans x

I'm a pretty resilient /positive person ... Also happy for people to reach out privately x"

Yes Samaritans too are a great cause. Kind of you too reach out to people, hope your ok too

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Thank you for this post, at a time when I need it too.

Much love to you all xx"

Glad to be of a little help. Hope your doing okay

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Heartwarming thread..don’t give ‘things’ this Xmas...give care, empathy and a listening ear

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think people are getting more and more selfish, don't talk to their neighbours, or say hello in the street. With lockdown the feeling got even stronger for some, not be able to go out, seat at a cafe and maybe having a chit chat with a stranger. some got too deep into the depression that it became an illness that only professional can help, a conversation online or on the phone could make you feel good for few hours but then days later it hit back again.

most of it come down to so many unit being closed, not enough professional because its not well paid or county don't have the budget for it.

People know got their eyes glued to the phone, not noticing others, maybe someone look could tell they are reaching for someone to talk to in vain.

I am not Mother Teresa but if I see an old woman sat on a wall, or someone looking distress I always stop and ask. Always say hi to anyone walking in my street. I have a couple who live near my street and when passing in my street they never initiate a hello, they have two kids and cant teach them the basic of being polite with your neighbour.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think people are getting more and more selfish, don't talk to their neighbours, or say hello in the street. With lockdown the feeling got even stronger for some, not be able to go out, seat at a cafe and maybe having a chit chat with a stranger. some got too deep into the depression that it became an illness that only professional can help, a conversation online or on the phone could make you feel good for few hours but then days later it hit back again.

most of it come down to so many unit being closed, not enough professional because its not well paid or county don't have the budget for it.

People know got their eyes glued to the phone, not noticing others, maybe someone look could tell they are reaching for someone to talk to in vain.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Been invisible in the furom doesn't help.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Heartwarming thread..don’t give ‘things’ this Xmas...give care, empathy and a listening ear

Absoloutely agree, best things you can give someone this Christmas

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Been invisible in the furom doesn't help."

I see you. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

most of it come down to so many unit being closed, not enough professional because its not well paid or county don't have the budget for it.

People know got their eyes glued to the phone, not noticing others, maybe someone look could tell they are reaching for someone to talk to in vain.

We all just need to do our bit to be a bit more kind. Good that you always try to help people

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Been invisible in the furom doesn't help."

Hope your doing okay

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By *bw44DDWoman over a year ago

Nottingham

Amazing post OP XX

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Amazing post OP XX"

Thank you and love to you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Been invisible in the furom doesn't help."

We see you Jan55 x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Been invisible in the furom doesn't help.

We see you Jan55 x"

I second this

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hope this thread keeps going...so needed...keep the kindness flowing everyone

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Kindness starts with yourself too.. Be kind to yourself, forgive yourself, love yourself

Fill your own cup and then it overflows to all around you and you radiate the happiness and love

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By *heRazorsEdgeMan over a year ago

Wales/ All over UK

Can I also add that if you are struggling then please seek help.

I had my own experience of mental health issues earlier this year when traumatic events from last year, combined with loneliness due to lockdown pushed me into a very dark place. I sought help at the recommendation of a friend and can honestly say it probably saved my life.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Been invisible in the furom doesn't help.

I see you. X"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Been invisible in the furom doesn't help.

We see you Jan55 x"

xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Been invisible in the furom doesn't help.

We see you Jan55 x

I second this

xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Hope this thread keeps going...so needed...keep the kindness flowing everyone "

Absoloutely we all need a bit of kindness right now

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Kindness starts with yourself too.. Be kind to yourself, forgive yourself, love yourself

Fill your own cup and then it overflows to all around you and you radiate the happiness and love

100 % agree, some lovely advice to all of us

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Can I also add that if you are struggling then please seek help.

Thank you for sharing and glad you seeked help when you needed it most. Hopefully others follow your lead. Hope your doing okay now and much love to you

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By *heRazorsEdgeMan over a year ago

Wales/ All over UK

"Can I also add that if you are struggling then please seek help.

Thank you for sharing and glad you seeked help when you needed it most. Hopefully others follow your lead. Hope your doing okay now and much love to you

Doing a lot better now thanks

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Also, some very good advice... We all have choices... We can choose to be happy or unhappy

I struggled with this for so long...but when I finally embraced it, it transformed my life

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thank you for this post, at a time when I need it too.

Much love to you all xx

Glad to be of a little help. Hope your doing okay

Ill get there. Thank you for asking xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've seen a few forum posts recently about people suffering at the moment with their mental health. I posted this on one of them but thought it would be helpful to share to others who might need it right now.

Most importantly, keep talking to people, never suffer alone. Reach out to anyone; family, friends, helplines, NHS services and even forums like this.

Hope this helps in anyway and take care of yourself. The world's a scary place right now but we can get through this together

Well said, I have used the Mind website a few times down the years, Sane have a pretty good one also. Yes, keep talking it might just make a difference

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Also, some very good advice... We all have choices... We can choose to be happy or unhappy

I struggled with this for so long...but when I finally embraced it, it transformed my life "

Very true, sometimes this also means eliminating the things or people that make you unhappy from your life. Choices determine our happiness a lot sometimes

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Can I also add that if you are struggling then please seek help.

Thank you for sharing and glad you seeked help when you needed it most. Hopefully others follow your lead. Hope your doing okay now and much love to you

Doing a lot better now thanks"

Glad too hear it

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Thank you for this post, at a time when I need it too.

Much love to you all xx

Glad to be of a little help. Hope your doing okay

Ill get there. Thank you for asking xx"

Stay strong, you got this

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By *ond Jimmy BondMan over a year ago

London

In the last two weeks I’ve either woken up thinking I’m just so happy and positive and over days when I can’t take any more. I try and get through the bad days and look forward to the good days. I’m making plans for 2021 and hoping the good days will massively overtake the bad ones.

Live for the good days. There’s always sunshine after rain...eventually x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Most importantly, keep talking to people, never suffer alone. Reach out to anyone; family, friends, helplines, NHS services and even forums like this.

Hope this helps in anyway and take care of yourself. The world's a scary place right now but we can get through this together

Well said, I have used the Mind website a few times down the years, Sane have a pretty good one also. Yes, keep talking it might just make a difference "

Absoloutely always keep talking. Glad you used Mind to help yourself. Hope your doing okay now

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By *ond Jimmy BondMan over a year ago

London

"In the last two weeks I’ve either woken up thinking I’m just so happy and positive and over days when I can’t take any more. I try and get through the bad days and look forward to the good days. I’m making plans for 2021 and hoping the good days will massively overtake the bad ones.

Live for the good days. There’s always sunshine after rain...eventually x"

**Other days not over days lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Live for the good days. There’s always sunshine after rain...eventually x"

Thats a lovely quote and yes theres always sunshine eventually. Its okay to have bad days as long as you know how to cope to get through them. Hope your okay

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Most importantly, keep talking to people, never suffer alone. Reach out to anyone; family, friends, helplines, NHS services and even forums like this.

Hope this helps in anyway and take care of yourself. The world's a scary place right now but we can get through this together

Well said, I have used the Mind website a few times down the years, Sane have a pretty good one also. Yes, keep talking it might just make a difference

Absoloutely always keep talking. Glad you used Mind to help yourself. Hope your doing okay now

Yes thanks, I manage things much better than I did, mainly due to talking. It is not easy but like anything can become easier if you allow it to

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By *ond Jimmy BondMan over a year ago

London

Live for the good days. There’s always sunshine after rain...eventually x

Thats a lovely quote and yes theres always sunshine eventually. Its okay to have bad days as long as you know how to cope to get through them. Hope your okay

I’ll always be ok because I realise bad days will pass. But I always try and still be there for anyone that’s struggling

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m always happy to chat and I’m confidence. A problem shared and all that

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By *ed VoluptaWoman over a year ago

Wirral.

Lovely post, OP.

I've made wonderful friends on here during lockdown which have alleviated a lot of the loneliness associated with working from home.

I have suffered with depression for years, so without you all, I'm sure I'd have been in a worse place.

Keep talking, laughing & caring. It truly helps

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Lovely post, OP.

I've made wonderful friends on here during lockdown which have alleviated a lot of the loneliness associated with working from home.

I have suffered with depression for years, so without you all, I'm sure I'd have been in a worse place.

Keep talking, laughing & caring. It truly helps

BIG HUG.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Most importantly, keep talking to people, never suffer alone. Reach out to anyone; family, friends, helplines, NHS services and even forums like this.

Hope this helps in anyway and take care of yourself. The world's a scary place right now but we can get through this together

Excellent post and a reminder that we all need I think

Nobody ever knows what is going on in each others lives, kindness really does cost nothing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I lost my dog recently. Put a thread up and had some kind words of comfort on that thread.

It’s little things that help people get through these times.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Lovely post, OP.

I've made wonderful friends on here during lockdown which have alleviated a lot of the loneliness associated with working from home.

I have suffered with depression for years, so without you all, I'm sure I'd have been in a worse place.

Agreed...the sun will rise again...try to hold on to that when feeling so sad and hopeless

Keep talking, laughing & caring. It truly helps

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Most importantly, keep talking to people, never suffer alone. Reach out to anyone; family, friends, helplines, NHS services and even forums like this.

Hope this helps in anyway and take care of yourself. The world's a scary place right now but we can get through this together

Well said, I have used the Mind website a few times down the years, Sane have a pretty good one also. Yes, keep talking it might just make a difference

Absoloutely always keep talking. Glad you used Mind to help yourself. Hope your doing okay now

Yes thanks, I manage things much better than I did, mainly due to talking. It is not easy but like anything can become easier if you allow it to "

Glad your okay and always keep talking

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Live for the good days. There’s always sunshine after rain...eventually x

Thats a lovely quote and yes theres always sunshine eventually. Its okay to have bad days as long as you know how to cope to get through them. Hope your okay

I’ll always be ok because I realise bad days will pass. But I always try and still be there for anyone that’s struggling"

Positivity is the key and always a good thing trying to be there for others

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I’m always happy to chat and I’m confidence. A problem shared and all that

Thank you for reaching out, always keep talking

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Lovely post, OP.

I've made wonderful friends on here during lockdown which have alleviated a lot of the loneliness associated with working from home.

I have suffered with depression for years, so without you all, I'm sure I'd have been in a worse place.

Keep talking, laughing & caring. It truly helps

Absolutely talking, laughing and caring, what great advice. Hope your doing okay now and always keep talking

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Most importantly, keep talking to people, never suffer alone. Reach out to anyone; family, friends, helplines, NHS services and even forums like this.

Hope this helps in anyway and take care of yourself. The world's a scary place right now but we can get through this together

Excellent post and a reminder that we all need I think

Nobody ever knows what is going on in each others lives, kindness really does cost nothing. "

Thats very true, no one knows what we are going through so be kind always. Hope your okay

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I lost my dog recently. Put a thread up and had some kind words of comfort on that thread.

It’s little things that help people get through these times. "

Kind words is all you need sometimes. Love to you and hope your feeling better

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Live for the good days. There’s always sunshine after rain...eventually x

Thats a lovely quote and yes theres always sunshine eventually. Its okay to have bad days as long as you know how to cope to get through them. Hope your okay

I’ll always be ok because I realise bad days will pass. But I always try and still be there for anyone that’s struggling"

Wishing you love + much happiness in your journey F

AS x

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By *owithflow321Man over a year ago

Molesey

Most importantly, keep talking to people, never suffer alone. Reach out to anyone; family, friends, helplines, NHS services and even forums like this.

Hope this helps in anyway and take care of yourself. The world's a scary place right now but we can get through this together

I couldn’t agree more. Ihave been through it for 18 months, there is light at the end, you will find some amazing things that were not thought about. Tomorrow is the best day and yesterday’s has already happened

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By *alcon43Woman over a year ago

Paisley

I’ve started a kik group for those who want to just have a chat and if close enough maybe a coffee.

It’s not for meet ups or swapping pics. It’s to support each other especially those on their own and struggling.

PM your kik address and I’ll add you. Fx

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Most importantly, keep talking to people, never suffer alone. Reach out to anyone; family, friends, helplines, NHS services and even forums like this.

Hope this helps in anyway and take care of yourself. The world's a scary place right now but we can get through this together

Love that quote and glad you've come through the other side. Love to you

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I’ve started a kik group for those who want to just have a chat and if close enough maybe a coffee.

It’s not for meet ups or swapping pics. It’s to support each other especially those on their own and struggling.

PM your kik address and I’ll add you. Fx"

That's a lovely idea and thank you for reaching out to people

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

It's been a tough old week so just to say to anyone who's struggling, you got this and you can be stronger than you ever thought possible. Hugs to you all

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"It's been a tough old week so just to say to anyone who's struggling, you got this and you can be stronger than you ever thought possible. Hugs to you all

Xxx

Well done for starting this thread xx people are not coping xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"It's been a tough old week so just to say to anyone who's struggling, you got this and you can be stronger than you ever thought possible. Hugs to you all

Xxx

Well done for starting this thread xx people are not coping xx"

We are all struggling in someway right now, just hoping for that light at the end of the tunnel

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"It's been a tough old week so just to say to anyone who's struggling, you got this and you can be stronger than you ever thought possible. Hugs to you all

Xxx

Well done for starting this thread xx people are not coping xx

We are all struggling in someway right now, just hoping for that light at the end of the tunnel

Xxxx

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By *rHotNottsMan over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Lots of people are struggling right now and that’s very normal with what’s going on , but generally people reach out to friends, dig in, maybe have a cry but carry on because they are resilient, have people who need them and believe things will get better.

We need to look out for people who withdraw though, mental health disorders change how people think , they can often seem fine on the surface but carry it all internally and feel all the help available and being offered from friends is worthless because they are broken and literally can’t carry on. It’s very different from feeling bad because of COVID , lack of money, etc, it’s about their view of them self.

Look out for signs like becoming distant from friends, not taking about feelings, not taking care of hygiene / physical health, covering up arms stomach or legs , try to check in regularly; even daily and make sure they are getting professional help like meds or counselling. Don’t expect them to respond to the kinds of things and offers of help that you would , if they have an illness , they won’t.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Most importantly, keep talking to people, never suffer alone. Reach out to anyone; family, friends, helplines, NHS services and even forums like this.

Hope this helps in anyway and take care of yourself. The world's a scary place right now but we can get through this together

Some really thoughtful points there; would definitely help people who are struggling.

In these fairly uncertain times, one thing within our controls is the support to each other. I coach mental resilience in my current job so happy to talk to anyone.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Lots of people are struggling right now and that’s very normal with what’s going on , but generally people reach out to friends, dig in, maybe have a cry but carry on because they are resilient, have people who need them and believe things will get better.

Great tips there

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

100% agree, some great advice

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Most importantly, keep talking to people, never suffer alone. Reach out to anyone; family, friends, helplines, NHS services and even forums like this.

Hope this helps in anyway and take care of yourself. The world's a scary place right now but we can get through this together

Some really thoughtful points there; would definitely help people who are struggling.

In these fairly uncertain times, one thing within our controls is the support to each other. I coach mental resilience in my current job so happy to talk to anyone. "

Absolutely support is key and thank you for reaching out to people

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My mental health is full on high to low.

My mer memory exercise routine is helped by the forum though as they did try to get me to read boring books that sent me to sleep lol

So if reading is my thing to gain back what I lost then why not add fun to it like in here.

What I'm trying to say is a lot of us are suffering with mental health issues and we do need to find our way of coping and help from friends and encouragement and knowing your not alone as others are dealing with it and trying to fight the same battle helps a lot.

For me giggles and pushing myself to look at the good things in life as been more beneficial that any therapy x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"My mental health is full on high to low.

My mer memory exercise routine is helped by the forum though as they did try to get me to read boring books that sent me to sleep lol

So if reading is my thing to gain back what I lost then why not add fun to it like in here.

For me giggles and pushing myself to look at the good things in life as been more beneficial that any therapy x"

Absolutely, we all have our ways to release. Therapys not for everyone, important to find other ways to fight it too. Hope your okay

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I can identify with the feelings of depression. I thout of ending it at 13 ehen i had a terrible time at school. , also in later life for being unemployed a lot and feeling a failure for not having my own housw, car etc..

I feel awful at times especially signing back onto the dole when temp job ends.

And the thoughts of ending it returns. I put a cheerful front on when talking to people but inside I'm dying. , just existing to suffer defeat, humiliation of not being successful, I see it in the eyes of the homeless and i think of ending it, possibly tomorrow, possibly next week, year etc.. but for now I kep going, i am embarrassed when people ask if im working, i am cheerful to their faces but inside im dying another death.

Bit of a bastard feeling but i bottle it up and try to live

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Meditation apps also help, headspace and calm are very useful x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I can identify with the feelings of depression. I thout of ending it at 13 ehen i had a terrible time at school. , also in later life for being unemployed a lot and feeling a failure for not having my own housw, car etc..

I feel awful at times especially signing back onto the dole when temp job ends.

Bit of a bastard feeling but i bottle it up and try to live

Sorry your feeling this way but your still here which shows you are stronger than you think you are. Never bottle up your feelings and always keep talking, reach out to anyone. Also, don't compare yourself to others where they are in there life. Everyones circumstances change, we all take our own paths, it doesn't mean we are worth less than them and it certainly doesn't make you a failure. See everyday you make it through as a positive thing and focus on the here and now. Sometimes the biggest battle is in our minds but once we learn methods to cope, they become a little bit easier. Hope your okay and please continue talking to people

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Meditation apps also help, headspace and calm are very useful x"

Yes absolutely, they can help a lot

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Great post, OP

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's so nice to see more people sharing there thoughts and feelings on the matter of mental health.

I've been through some real tough times with my own mental health, knowing more people are spreading there thoughts and love on matter gives people like me a Ray of hope.

I have anxiety, depression and borderline personality disorder. It's never easy feeling like I can speak out and seek help or even fellow companionship. This site appealed to me due to the fact my mental health doesn't always allow me to meet people the "normal" way.

It helped boost my confidence a little through the people I have spoke to in forums and through cams. Have so much respect and admire more people speaking up about it too.

All the best op x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"It's so nice to see more people sharing there thoughts and feelings on the matter of mental health.

I've been through some real tough times with my own mental health, knowing more people are spreading there thoughts and love on matter gives people like me a Ray of hope.

It helped boost my confidence a little through the people I have spoke to in forums and through cams. Have so much respect and admire more people speaking up about it too.

All the best op x"

Thank you for sharing and never feel like you can't open up about it. The more we encourage people to keep talking, the easy it becomes to fight these battles. Hope your okay and love to you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I feel awful at times especially signing back onto the dole when temp job ends.

Bit of a bastard feeling but i bottle it up and try to live

Change the subject if they ask you things you don't want to talk about. None of their business if you are working, unless they are offering you a job.

Ask them something about themselves. People love to talk about that. Xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I feel awful at times especially signing back onto the dole when temp job ends.

Bit of a bastard feeling but i bottle it up and try to live

Change the subject if they ask you things you don't want to talk about. None of their business if you are working, unless they are offering you a job.

Ask them something about themselves. People love to talk about that. Xx"

Absolutely if it helps to distract yourself you can do this. Just don't ever feel like a failure when listening to them

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By *rispyDuckMan over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

Most importantly, keep talking to people, never suffer alone. Reach out to anyone; family, friends, helplines, NHS services and even forums like this.

Hope this helps in anyway and take care of yourself. The world's a scary place right now but we can get through this together

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

For anyone that needs this right now, we got you

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Anxiety UK

Calm

Mind

Samaritans

Sane

If you can't reach out to someone you know, let them help you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anxiety UK

Calm

Mind

Samaritans

Sane

If you can't reach out to someone you know, let them help you

This, I went to Samaritans about 18 months ago, was in a very, very dark place and just having someone to talk to who knew nothing about me or my situation helped as I could mentally unload....talking is the best way!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Anxiety UK

Calm

Mind

Samaritans

Sane

If you can't reach out to someone you know, let them help you

Absolutely, talking is the best way to overcome this. Glad you got the help when you needed it. Hope your okay now

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Week 2 in lockdown, anyone struggling, you got this

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By *nabelle21Woman over a year ago

B38

Good morning OP

This is a great post and I definitely echo this sentiment x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Morning all....there’s lots of lovely ppl on here if you need someone to talk to

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Needed this this morning

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By *nabelle21Woman over a year ago

B38

"Needed this this morning "

Good morning my lovely..I hope the day gets much better for you x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Needed this this morning

Good morning my lovely..I hope the day gets much better for you x"

Thank you I hope so too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If anyone needs to talk mail me. Am a good listener

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Great Post OP

It’s been tough on a lot of people including myself.

Am available to talk if anyone feeling low.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If anyone needs to talk mail me. Am a good listener"

Respect

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thank you for all reaching out lovely people, hopefully people will reach out if they need too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This is a really lovely thread.

My partner works away a lot & I won’t see her till end of March. Feeling a little cracked at the thought, not to mention the sameness of the days, the cold and the dark.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"This is a really lovely thread.

My partner works away a lot & I won’t see her till end of March. Feeling a little cracked at the thought, not to mention the sameness of the days, the cold and the dark. "

We have been through this also and it sucks, the nights are the worst. We made sure we had a catch up every night so try and keep in contact with each other. Also, the days go quicker when your busy so try and keep occupied a little. Hang in there sweet, be March before we know it

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Needed this this morning "

Hope your doing okay

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A wonderful and throughtful tread diolch thank you x

I regularly practice mindfulness i find its really helped me

My in box is always open if you need just some one to talk too

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"A wonderful and throughtful tread diolch thank you x

I regularly practice mindfulness i find its really helped me

My in box is always open if you need just some one to talk too

Thank you lovely and yes mindfulness is a great helpful tool

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Week 3 of lockdown.. anyone who's feeling down, you got this

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By *heGateKeeperMan over a year ago

Stratford

This thread is all the feels *group hug*

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I love to see forums like this absolutely amazing people taking time to help others, if it helps just 1 or 101 people its a job well done I take my hat off to anyone that dose this.

I try and help as many people as I can and the sad thing is not many of them ask how I'm doing.. don't get me wrong im fine still working my health is good and the feeling of helping someone give me joy at the end of the day.

If anyone ever needs to chat my door is open and probably everyone's in this forum is you are not alone

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"This thread is all the feels *group hug*"

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I love to see forums like this absolutely amazing people taking time to help others, if it helps just 1 or 101 people its a job well done I take my hat off to anyone that dose this.

If anyone ever needs to chat my door is open and probably everyone's in this forum is you are not alone

Absolutely always best to check in on everyone and I hope your doing okay. Thank you for reaching out to people

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Great post OP. It is so important for us to feel we are not alone in our struggles and feel we can reach out and someone will be there willing to listen and empathise.

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By *essica FlabbitWoman over a year ago

west midlands/shropshire

Lovely post. It's nice to see people caring...

I say this as someone who's hit a low and who's now back on prozac.. Big hugs to everyone

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Lovely post. It's nice to see people caring...

I say this as someone who's hit a low and who's now back on prozac.. Big hugs to everyone "

Hoping that is helping and you are feeling better

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Lovely post. It's nice to see people caring...

I say this as someone who's hit a low and who's now back on prozac.. Big hugs to everyone "

Hope your doing okay and big hugs to you too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Thank you for a lovely thread

I’m really struggling too, isolation is so hard when you’re on your own.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Lovely thread OP. I've had my moments, more frustration and loss of motivation than anything else but I've definitely had some shitty days. Today I don't like anyone or anything so I'm hiding from it all and hopefully tomorrow will be better.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thank you for a lovely thread

I’m really struggling too, isolation is so hard when you’re on your own. "

Believe me the grass isn’t always greener. It’s just as hard when you’re used to having alone time and you get absolutely no time alone. I think whichever situation people are in it’s very challenging xxx

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By *imon_hydeMan over a year ago

Stockport

Good thread: I'm finding things difficult at the moment, too introspective and I can't seem to change that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Thank you for a lovely thread

I’m really struggling too, isolation is so hard when you’re on your own. "

I can imagine it's so tough being alone right now. As long as you keep reaching out to people, you'll never feel alone. Big hugs to you

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Lovely thread OP. I've had my moments, more frustration and loss of motivation than anything else but I've definitely had some shitty days. Today I don't like anyone or anything so I'm hiding from it all and hopefully tomorrow will be better. "

We all have them days and that's okay. Sometimes you've just got to stick two fingers up to the world and look after yourself. Tomorrow will be a better day

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thank you for a lovely thread

I’m really struggling too, isolation is so hard when you’re on your own.

I can understand that, and I’m sure you’re right. The situation is shit however you look at it isn’t it

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Thank you for a lovely thread

I’m really struggling too, isolation is so hard when you’re on your own.

I've struggled with this too as I like my own space. Even if its 10 minutes in the bathroom, finding that time alone helps alot

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thank you for a lovely thread

I’m really struggling too, isolation is so hard when you’re on your own.

I can imagine it's so tough being alone right now. As long as you keep reaching out to people, you'll never feel alone. Big hugs to you

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Good thread: I'm finding things difficult at the moment, too introspective and I can't seem to change that."

Don't worry too much about changing things, its okay to struggle. As long as you get back up afterwards you will be okay. Hugs to you

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By *S2004Man over a year ago

Bromsgrove

Most importantly, keep talking to people, never suffer alone. Reach out to anyone; family, friends, helplines, NHS services and even forums like this.

Hope this helps in anyway and take care of yourself. The world's a scary place right now but we can get through this together

Great advice and we all have days where we don’t feel so good.x

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By *innie The MinxWoman over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Thanks OP.

Challenging times, made worse ,I think, because there seems to be no end in sight.

I've just put in a requst to access CBT training via the NHS.

I know there's usually a lengthy wait but hoping as this seems to be online access will be quicker.

Hug of support to anyone else who needs one .

Keep on keeping on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Most importantly, keep talking to people, never suffer alone. Reach out to anyone; family, friends, helplines, NHS services and even forums like this.

Hope this helps in anyway and take care of yourself. The world's a scary place right now but we can get through this together

Great advice and we all have days where we don’t feel so good.x"

Absolutely a lot of those days lately but we will come through it in the end

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thank you for a lovely thread

I’m really struggling too, isolation is so hard when you’re on your own.

I can understand that, and I’m sure you’re right. The situation is shit however you look at it isn’t it

It sure is. I really do think there is light at the end of the tunnel now though. We just all need to get to that light xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Thanks OP.

Challenging times, made worse ,I think, because there seems to be no end in sight.

I've just put in a requst to access CBT training via the NHS.

I know there's usually a lengthy wait but hoping as this seems to be online access will be quicker.

Hug of support to anyone else who needs one .

Keep on keeping on.

Good for you getting that help, I've done it myself and it can be very helpful. There's always a long wait but there's a lot of CBT activity books that might be worth a look at too. Hope your okay

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thank you for a lovely thread

I’m really struggling too, isolation is so hard when you’re on your own.

I've struggled with this too as I like my own space. Even if its 10 minutes in the bathroom, finding that time alone helps alot

Yes. I rarely had baths. Always a quick shower! I’m having one most days now. Sometimes I even get away with not one person banging on the door!

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By *ookie46Woman over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru

I’m the biggest over thinker and have struggled at times of late. I’ve found putting my thoughts or how I’m feeling to paper really beneficial alongside with getting out for some walks

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thank you for a lovely thread

I’m really struggling too, isolation is so hard when you’re on your own.

I can understand that, and I’m sure you’re right. The situation is shit however you look at it isn’t it

It sure is. I really do think there is light at the end of the tunnel now though. We just all need to get to that light xxx"

We do. I hope it’s not too long.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I’m the biggest over thinker and have struggled at times of late. I’ve found putting my thoughts or how I’m feeling to paper really beneficial alongside with getting out for some walks "

That's great advice, keeping a diary and talking walks can be helpful. I use to overthink alot too, but now I don't worry about the things I can't control, your mind calms down a little that way. Hope your doing okay

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Week 4 of lockdown.. hope your all doing okay

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By *ficouldMan over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?

A very good friend sent me this more than a few years ago.

We are all walking around with these glossy eyes. "I'm just tired," we say. But you know what? It's bullshit. Yes, we are tired, but it's not all from lack of sleep. We are tired of waking up with nothing to look forward to, tired of going to bed exhausted after doing a million things we find no enjoyment in doing. We are tired of this void, this emptiness that looms over us even though our days are packed. We are tired of this loneliness that presses down on us even though we're surrounded by dozens of people. So why can't we just say it? Humans are so afraid to look into each others' eyes and say "I am unhappy, I am broken, I am hopeless and fallible." We have been conditioned to associate pain with weakness, sadness with coldness, loneliness with unworthiness, difference with disease, as if these feelings are contagious. As if ambivalence is something not to be felt but to be feared. Well, I say screw all of that. Screw forced smiles and polite handshakes and I'm fine, thank yous. Screw the fear of crying in a public place, screw the fake chipper voice, the lies we spit out to cover up our problems. We are humans. We are meant to feel. To feel everything and to feel it all openly. We are not metal - we are flesh and bone. Our boiled blood courses through our cold, clammy hands. We are intricate and beautiful .We should never hide our human parts, because if we do, then what's left of us?

Hugs to one and all.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"A very good friend sent me this more than a few years ago.

Hugs to one and all."

Thanks for sharing, lovely message

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By *tephanjMan over a year ago

Kettering

I have been trying very hard not to let all this pandemic stuff effect me, but I have worked all through it. With not real help from the company I work for. Whenever I suggest something it's always no you don't need that but now several months later they started to introduce some of my suggestion but they helping me. I'm coming face to face with foreign drivers half of them won't wear masks. So I'm constantly worried are they going to give me the infection. My bosses just are not interested, I'm 66 and have a couple of health issues

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I haven't seen my MH worker in 4 months just phone calls and that's really taking a toll.

The waiting times for other services are getting crazy.

Hope everyone gets the help they need.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have been trying very hard not to let all this pandemic stuff effect me, but I have worked all through it. With not real help from the company I work for. Whenever I suggest something it's always no you don't need that but now several months later they started to introduce some of my suggestion but they helping me. I'm coming face to face with foreign drivers half of them won't wear masks. So I'm constantly worried are they going to give me the infection. My bosses just are not interested, I'm 66 and have a couple of health issues

Google reporting a company that is non compliant Covid

You will find lots of places you can report them to.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

You really need to look after yourself lovely. If you feel unsafe, you need to report it. No company can make you work if you are exposed to the virus. Hope it gets sorted soon

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I haven't seen my MH worker in 4 months just phone calls and that's really taking a toll.

The waiting times for other services are getting crazy.

Hope everyone gets the help they need.

I can imagine it's tough, sometimes you need that face to face interaction. Try and make the most of the phone calls and hopefully you can see someone soon. Hope you are okay

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By *tephanjMan over a year ago

Kettering

You really need to look after yourself lovely. If you feel unsafe, you need to report it. No company can make you work if you are exposed to the virus. Hope it gets sorted soon

I would report them but....I need the job and they would find away to get rid of me( it's a very large company)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I haven't seen my MH worker in 4 months just phone calls and that's really taking a toll.

The waiting times for other services are getting crazy.

Hope everyone gets the help they need.

I can imagine it's tough, sometimes you need that face to face interaction. Try and make the most of the phone calls and hopefully you can see someone soon. Hope you are okay

Thank you. I try to make the most of the phone calls and all the info given to me so I can try and reduce my triggers and rituals.

But I'm ok. I hope you're all ok too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

You really need to look after yourself lovely. If you feel unsafe, you need to report it. No company can make you work if you are exposed to the virus. Hope it gets sorted soon

I would report them but....I need the job and they would find away to get rid of me( it's a very large company) "

Don't your company have a union or an annoymous speak up service. That might be a way around it if you don't want the backlash!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I haven't seen my MH worker in 4 months just phone calls and that's really taking a toll.

The waiting times for other services are getting crazy.

Hope everyone gets the help they need.

I can imagine it's tough, sometimes you need that face to face interaction. Try and make the most of the phone calls and hopefully you can see someone soon. Hope you are okay

Thank you. I try to make the most of the phone calls and all the info given to me so I can try and reduce my triggers and rituals.

But I'm ok. I hope you're all ok too."

Glad your okay. Don't forget there are lots of apps/online tools that can help too. I find mindfulness is very helpful

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I haven't seen my MH worker in 4 months just phone calls and that's really taking a toll.

The waiting times for other services are getting crazy.

Hope everyone gets the help they need.

I can imagine it's tough, sometimes you need that face to face interaction. Try and make the most of the phone calls and hopefully you can see someone soon. Hope you are okay

Thank you. I try to make the most of the phone calls and all the info given to me so I can try and reduce my triggers and rituals.

But I'm ok. I hope you're all ok too.

Glad your okay. Don't forget there are lots of apps/online tools that can help too. I find mindfulness is very helpful

Mindfulness is great. Very helpful

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You really need to look after yourself lovely. If you feel unsafe, you need to report it. No company can make you work if you are exposed to the virus. Hope it gets sorted soon

I would report them but....I need the job and they would find away to get rid of me( it's a very large company)

Don't your company have a union or an annoymous speak up service. That might be a way around it if you don't want the backlash! "

Yes, this. I’m sure there’s a way?

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Xx"

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Xx

Xxxxx

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By *arker secrets 321Man over a year ago

West Bromwich

Upmost love and respect 2 u 4 this post x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Upmost love and respect 2 u 4 this post x "

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Xx

Xxxxx"

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Never a truer word spoken. Recently a friend of mine took their own life. Its devastating to think of the struggles they were going through on their own. Lock down I not I would have been there for them. My inbox is always open xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've got tears in my eyes after reading that piece from _ficould. I am on my own,totally on my own. I have no motivation to do anything. This site reminds me that there are people out there. If anyone asks how i am i just say that i get out of bed every morning.

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By *arker secrets 321Man over a year ago

West Bromwich

Love /hate this thread ...makes u realise ur not alone u can talk post on here people listen but makes u cry buckets as I am now as life smacks u hard day after day ..my love 2 u all x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Love /hate this thread ...makes u realise ur not alone u can talk post on here people listen but makes u cry buckets as I am now as life smacks u hard day after day ..my love 2 u all x "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Once the storm is over, you won't remember how you made it through, how you managed to survive. You won't even be sure whether the storm is really over. But one thing is certain. When you come out of the storm, you won't be the same person that walked in. That's what this storm's all about.

- Haruki Marakami

Love to you all

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Never a truer word spoken. Recently a friend of mine took their own life. Its devastating to think of the struggles they were going through on their own. Lock down I not I would have been there for them. My inbox is always open xx"

So sorry to hear about your friend. We never know whats really going on in people's minds, its devastating when they struggle alone. Hope your okay and thank you for sharing

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I've got tears in my eyes after reading that piece from _ficould. I am on my own,totally on my own. I have no motivation to do anything. This site reminds me that there are people out there. If anyone asks how i am i just say that i get out of bed every morning. "

They is always people out there, please always reach out to someone if your struggling. You are not alone

Much love and hugs to you

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Love /hate this thread ...makes u realise ur not alone u can talk post on here people listen but makes u cry buckets as I am now as life smacks u hard day after day ..my love 2 u all x "

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Once the storm is over, you won't remember how you made it through, how you managed to survive. You won't even be sure whether the storm is really over. But one thing is certain. When you come out of the storm, you won't be the same person that walked in. That's what this storm's all about.

- Haruki Marakami

Love to you all

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By *ucka39Man over a year ago

Newcastle

I find it very difficult to understand why people think it may be so easy to talk to anyone it's never is straight forward because people can be broken far too much to even consider talking to even the professional people and when have even experienced this it still lacks in support I myself can say this but also by knowledge of others who have attempted suicide or sadly..... It's easier to think level headed when you don't feel like another who struggles

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I find it very difficult to understand why people think it may be so easy to talk to anyone it's never is straight forward because people can be broken far too much to even consider talking to even the professional people and when have even experienced this it still lacks in support I myself can say this but also by knowledge of others who have attempted suicide or sadly..... It's easier to think level headed when you don't feel like another who struggles

Its not easy by any means that's why all we can do is let people know we are there and encourage them to ask for help if needed. I was completely broken before I asked for help, its difficult for anyone to admit their struggling. I just hope posts like this help even if only in a small way

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Most importantly, keep talking to people, never suffer alone. Reach out to anyone; family, friends, helplines, NHS services and even forums like this.

Hope this helps in anyway and take care of yourself. The world's a scary place right now but we can get through this together

Lovely thing to say x

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Most importantly, keep talking to people, never suffer alone. Reach out to anyone; family, friends, helplines, NHS services and even forums like this.

Hope this helps in anyway and take care of yourself. The world's a scary place right now but we can get through this together

Lovely thing to say x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Most importantly, keep talking to people, never suffer alone. Reach out to anyone; family, friends, helplines, NHS services and even forums like this.

Hope this helps in anyway and take care of yourself. The world's a scary place right now but we can get through this together

Lovely thing to say x

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By *tephanjMan over a year ago

Kettering

You really need to look after yourself lovely. If you feel unsafe, you need to report it. No company can make you work if you are exposed to the virus. Hope it gets sorted soon

I would report them but....I need the job and they would find away to get rid of me( it's a very large company)

Don't your company have a union or an annoymous speak up service. That might be a way around it if you don't want the backlash! "

No union or anything else,they just don't care about their staff everyone can be replaced

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

You really need to look after yourself lovely. If you feel unsafe, you need to report it. No company can make you work if you are exposed to the virus. Hope it gets sorted soon

I would report them but....I need the job and they would find away to get rid of me( it's a very large company)

Don't your company have a union or an annoymous speak up service. That might be a way around it if you don't want the backlash!

No union or anything else,they just don't care about their staff everyone can be replaced"

That's terrible, hope it gets sorted soon. Look after yourself

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I wish that I had this place when I had my breakdown, a while ago. It was due to personal reasons and not Lockdown, but I 'Kept things to myself' and thought I was coping with the things that were going on. Until one day it all came down on me in a huge way and I ended up having a breakdown. I have since learned that 'keeping it in' or 'being a man about it..' does not work one bit!!

What does work is talking to close friends that you trust about what is going on, but also you need to reach out to others and do not be afraid to ask for help.

Since my breakdown I have been on antidepressants, which I have decided to come off, due to a number of reasons, the main ones being that I have become soo blase about pretty much everything, nothing and I mean nothing bothers me. The other main reason is that at the moment it takes me forever to achieve an erection that half the time, my penis just gives up!!

At the end of the day the main lesson I have learned through all this is, for gods talk to someone, don't bottle it up and f@@k the stiff upper lip attitude!!

One last thing I would also like to say is that my DM box is always open, for a chat!! or if it isn't fgs find a way to get hold of me and I am here for you!

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