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To kiss or not to kiss?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Chatting to a lovely lady last night, she mentioned kissing was a no for her, each to theyre own etc.
Me; i love a kiss, tongue, bite, pull, nibble. The whole shabang.
Whats everyones preference..
Kiss or no kiss? |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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Kissing would always get a yes from me, but I totally respect the preferences of those that prefer not to and would either take it as a sign of incompatibility between us, or accept that it was their preference depending on the circumstances and dynamic - for example being bisexual a lot of guys don't like kissing other guys and I can accept that. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Kissing would always get a yes from me, but I totally respect the preferences of those that prefer not to and would either take it as a sign of incompatibility between us, or accept that it was their preference depending on the circumstances and dynamic - for example being bisexual a lot of guys don't like kissing other guys and I can accept that."
100% well said! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Absolutely kiss.
We wouldn’t meet anyone that didn’t "
Likewise.
I doubt i would even know where to start without a kiss. Its like the key to the lock really. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Definitely kissing, licking and all that stuff
But the other person don’t like it then
I guess play wouldn’t be the same
So it’s better to find the right partner to play
So in that way you both enjoy each other and sex would be better
Just my opinion |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes lots of kissing but allways be sensible and hygienic. Lips mouth and tongue are nearly allways safe and if your going to explore down there all though tempting never go straight from one hole to the other ( bad bacteria) using oral mouth wash first . |
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Understand that some find it to close to emotional connection but we find it essential. However we are soft swing own partner penetration which some find to restrictive. As you say each to their own. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Understand that some find it to close to emotional connection but we find it essential. However we are soft swing own partner penetration which some find to restrictive. As you say each to their own. "
i think people who say its to personal should have a rethink as a guy with his dick up your mrs pussy is far more personal i think.
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Kiss. 100%. It gets you turned on and is a big part of a connection.
I know some couples would say it's too personal and something they only do with each other but I feel it's a big part of the fun and can be awkward without. |
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"Understand that some find it to close to emotional connection but we find it essential. However we are soft swing own partner penetration which some find to restrictive. As you say each to their own. i think people who say its to personal should have a rethink as a guy with his dick up your mrs pussy is far more personal i think. "
Yep as we said we find kissing essential but all because their boundaries are not ours we do not judge them mere pass on by. So just as we would not allow anyone to penetrant or us them, it a boundry, so for us your comment on dick and pussy isnt an issue we'd simply pass on by. |
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"Chatting to a lovely lady last night, she mentioned kissing was a no for her, each to theyre own etc.
Me; i love a kiss, tongue, bite, pull, nibble. The whole shabang.
Whats everyones preference..
I honestly couldn’t meet anyone that wouldn’t enjoy kissing, it’s essential ! Completely respect people’s preferences xx
Kiss or no kiss?"
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"Understand that some find it to close to emotional connection but we find it essential. However we are soft swing own partner penetration which some find to restrictive. As you say each to their own. i think people who say its to personal should have a rethink as a guy with his dick up your mrs pussy is far more personal i think. "
Why should people rethink because you find something more personal?  |
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For me, it's one of THE most erotic things ever. Sure, all men love blow jobs, but there's nothing quite as erotic an sensual as that moment when your lips and tongue meet those of another to whom you are attracted, and they to you. It isn't just a sensation, it's a quest. If it's done properly, anyway.. |
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"Chatting to a lovely lady last night, she mentioned kissing was a no for her, each to theyre own etc.
Me; i love a kiss, tongue, bite, pull, nibble. The whole shabang.
Whats everyones preference..
Kiss or no kiss?"
No kissing for us. We won't meet anybody who insists on it.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Kissing is a must for me - I am confident it’s a must for the wife too.
It’s the foundation that all connections are formed on - plus I hope lips are making contact with the rest of each other bodies - so why not their lips too?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Chatting to a lovely lady last night, she mentioned kissing was a no for her, each to theyre own etc.
Me; i love a kiss, tongue, bite, pull, nibble. The whole shabang.
Whats everyones preference..
Kiss or no kiss?"
Deffo kissing and not just in one place if you know what I mean  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The no kissing thing is usually a couples rule - so they have something that's just between them.
I get it but it's not for me.
I think it's an illusion to think that a sex act is less intimate than a kiss - but everyone to their own. |
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"The no kissing thing is usually a couples rule - so they have something that's just between them.
I get it but it's not for me.
I think it's an illusion to think that a sex act is less intimate than a kiss - but everyone to their own."
I think that entirely depends on how you think of intimacy. I think holding hands is way more intimate than sex acts. I'd never hold hands with a casual partner. It could be an illusion but it feels pretty real to me. Turning that round I think any intimacy during casual encounters is illusory by their very nature.
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"The no kissing thing is usually a couples rule - so they have something that's just between them.
I get it but it's not for me.
I think it's an illusion to think that a sex act is less intimate than a kiss - but everyone to their own.
I think that entirely depends on how you think of intimacy. I think holding hands is way more intimate than sex acts. I'd never hold hands with a casual partner. It could be an illusion but it feels pretty real to me. Turning that round I think any intimacy during casual encounters is illusory by their very nature.
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By *ensualbicockMan
over a year ago
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"The no kissing thing is usually a couples rule - so they have something that's just between them.
I get it but it's not for me.
I think it's an illusion to think that a sex act is less intimate than a kiss - but everyone to their own.
I think that entirely depends on how you think of intimacy. I think holding hands is way more intimate than sex acts. I'd never hold hands with a casual partner. It could be an illusion but it feels pretty real to me. Turning that round I think any intimacy during casual encounters is illusory by their very nature.
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Kiss |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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Kissing, as much as I love it, to me is way more intimate than penetrative sex. As such I will only kiss those with whom I am really comfortable, definitely not "casual" encounters. But then casual as is not really what I like.
I agree that holding hands can be more intimate than sex, too - I would only do that with an established partner. |
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"When we started swinging kissing was a big no, something for just us. However now that we’re more settled it’s something we really enjoy including "
Suspect we may end up here. But for now it just feels like a big fat no thanks |
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"Kissing, as much as I love it, to me is way more intimate than penetrative sex. As such I will only kiss those with whom I am really comfortable, definitely not "casual" encounters. But then casual as is not really what I like.
I agree that holding hands can be more intimate than sex, too - I would only do that with an established partner."
I think we all have different levels at which we're comfortable and to an extent that depends on what we're looking to get from swinging. While we like to be friends with the people we meet we'll never be able to offer a relationship based on deeper intimacy. I think it's a case of accepting all the various ways people do this stuff and embracing difference |
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"The no kissing thing is usually a couples rule - so they have something that's just between them.
I get it but it's not for me.
I think it's an illusion to think that a sex act is less intimate than a kiss - but everyone to their own.
I think that entirely depends on how you think of intimacy. I think holding hands is way more intimate than sex acts. I'd never hold hands with a casual partner. It could be an illusion but it feels pretty real to me. Turning that round I think any intimacy during casual encounters is illusory by their very nature.
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Hand holding means so much more to me. It can be a held hand walking down the street. There's a reason why we all go awww when the 80 year old couple walk down the street together. But it can mean so much, such as I'm here for you in a totally non sexual way. I only hold hands with my partner or family members. It's a family thing to me it's about who is in my tribe so to me that's more sacred. |
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"The no kissing thing is usually a couples rule - so they have something that's just between them.
I get it but it's not for me.
I think it's an illusion to think that a sex act is less intimate than a kiss - but everyone to their own.
I think that entirely depends on how you think of intimacy. I think holding hands is way more intimate than sex acts. I'd never hold hands with a casual partner. It could be an illusion but it feels pretty real to me. Turning that round I think any intimacy during casual encounters is illusory by their very nature.
Hand holding means so much more to me. It can be a held hand walking down the street. There's a reason why we all go awww when the 80 year old couple walk down the street together. But it can mean so much, such as I'm here for you in a totally non sexual way. I only hold hands with my partner or family members. It's a family thing to me it's about who is in my tribe so to me that's more sacred. "
Agreed. To some people kissing is similar but specific to one person, I think you either understand that or you don't. (General you not you personally ) |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"Kissing, as much as I love it, to me is way more intimate than penetrative sex. As such I will only kiss those with whom I am really comfortable, definitely not "casual" encounters. But then casual as is not really what I like.
I agree that holding hands can be more intimate than sex, too - I would only do that with an established partner.
I think we all have different levels at which we're comfortable and to an extent that depends on what we're looking to get from swinging. While we like to be friends with the people we meet we'll never be able to offer a relationship based on deeper intimacy. I think it's a case of accepting all the various ways people do this stuff and embracing difference "
Absolutely The world would not be half as interesting if we all liked and disliked the same things. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The no kissing thing is usually a couples rule - so they have something that's just between them.
I get it but it's not for me.
I think it's an illusion to think that a sex act is less intimate than a kiss - but everyone to their own.
I think that entirely depends on how you think of intimacy. I think holding hands is way more intimate than sex acts. I'd never hold hands with a casual partner. It could be an illusion but it feels pretty real to me. Turning that round I think any intimacy during casual encounters is illusory by their very nature.
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It's ALL an illusion
But seriously - everyone to their own.
It's not up to any of us to judge how others live their lives - especially their sex lives.
A DDLG dynamic is something I wouldn't be into but I'm not judging anyone that is.
We're all different and that's what makes fucking different people fun
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"The no kissing thing is usually a couples rule - so they have something that's just between them.
I get it but it's not for me.
I think it's an illusion to think that a sex act is less intimate than a kiss - but everyone to their own.
I think that entirely depends on how you think of intimacy. I think holding hands is way more intimate than sex acts. I'd never hold hands with a casual partner. It could be an illusion but it feels pretty real to me. Turning that round I think any intimacy during casual encounters is illusory by their very nature.
It's ALL an illusion
But seriously - everyone to their own.
It's not up to any of us to judge how others live their lives - especially their sex lives.
A DDLG dynamic is something I wouldn't be into but I'm not judging anyone that is.
We're all different and that's what makes fucking different people fun
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To use a phrase I've never used in my life, amen to that sister!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The no kissing thing is usually a couples rule - so they have something that's just between them.
I get it but it's not for me.
I think it's an illusion to think that a sex act is less intimate than a kiss - but everyone to their own.
I think that entirely depends on how you think of intimacy. I think holding hands is way more intimate than sex acts. I'd never hold hands with a casual partner. It could be an illusion but it feels pretty real to me. Turning that round I think any intimacy during casual encounters is illusory by their very nature.
It's ALL an illusion
But seriously - everyone to their own.
It's not up to any of us to judge how others live their lives - especially their sex lives.
A DDLG dynamic is something I wouldn't be into but I'm not judging anyone that is.
We're all different and that's what makes fucking different people fun
To use a phrase I've never used in my life, amen to that sister! "
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"The no kissing thing is usually a couples rule - so they have something that's just between them.
I get it but it's not for me.
I think it's an illusion to think that a sex act is less intimate than a kiss - but everyone to their own.
I think that entirely depends on how you think of intimacy. I think holding hands is way more intimate than sex acts. I'd never hold hands with a casual partner. It could be an illusion but it feels pretty real to me. Turning that round I think any intimacy during casual encounters is illusory by their very nature.
It's ALL an illusion
But seriously - everyone to their own.
It's not up to any of us to judge how others live their lives - especially their sex lives.
A DDLG dynamic is something I wouldn't be into but I'm not judging anyone that is.
We're all different and that's what makes fucking different people fun
To use a phrase I've never used in my life, amen to that sister!
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I think I'm channeling Micky Flanagan  |
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