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over a year ago
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So, I used to have a single profile. I kept it up until last year purely for chatting shite in here and to existing friends (J always had access, he used to respond to half my mail  ) and since getting rid and just having our couples profile I've noticed a few things....
J gets A LOT more fabs on his pics...and rightly so, he's fucking gorgeous 
I get a lot less fabs on mine...i used to reach 300+ in a day easy from a new pic....now I barely bring in 50  (I should note here, that I couldn't give a shit about that really, merely an observation).
And 90% of the people I used to chat to on fab have simply stopped talking to me. Even some of the guys I used to chat to from the forums just stopped.
It's struck me what a stark contrast it is. Tbh, I much prefer just having our couples profile, less twats in our inbox, and I can post pics of us both 
I find it interesting that our pics bring more/less attention now, even tho we are the same and some of the same pics are being used.
But honestly I find it a little sad that some of my pals avoid chatting to me now...
Has anyone else noticed similar things when switching to a couples account?
Bloody good job I'm not as insecure as I once was or I'd be convinced I'd just become repulsive
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Very interesting post. Is this something you have noticed over a period of time? Or just of late?
I wonder if it would be similar trend the other way about? Did your other half have a single account before hand? |
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"Very interesting post. Is this something you have noticed over a period of time? Or just of late?
I wonder if it would be similar trend the other way about? Did your other half have a single account before hand? "
I've noticed it over the last few months...but never really swelled on it or gave it much thought. We had a couples profile before I deleted my own too.
He had his profile also, he's noticed the opposite. People are much nicer and more open to chat to him now!
It's mostly noticing certain people don't chat anymore (mostly men)...they always knew I wasn't single and conversation was rarely sexual...*shrugs*
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So, I used to have a single profile. I kept it up until last year purely for chatting shite in here and to existing friends (J always had access, he used to respond to half my mail ) and since getting rid and just having our couples profile I've noticed a few things....
J gets A LOT more fabs on his pics...and rightly so, he's fucking gorgeous
I get a lot less fabs on mine...i used to reach 300+ in a day easy from a new pic....now I barely bring in 50 (I should note here, that I couldn't give a shit about that really, merely an observation).
And 90% of the people I used to chat to on fab have simply stopped talking to me. Even some of the guys I used to chat to from the forums just stopped.
It's struck me what a stark contrast it is. Tbh, I much prefer just having our couples profile, less twats in our inbox, and I can post pics of us both
I find it interesting that our pics bring more/less attention now, even tho we are the same and some of the same pics are being used.
But honestly I find it a little sad that some of my pals avoid chatting to me now...
Has anyone else noticed similar things when switching to a couples account?
Bloody good job I'm not as insecure as I once was or I'd be convinced I'd just become repulsive
Lu "
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over a year ago
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I went the other way, I used to have a couples profile and my wife got all the attention - she was beautiful so totally understandable. We had friends who were single and friends who were couples. But when I came back to the site with a singles profile, old friends just didn't want to know - it's bizarre how fickle people can be and for a while it bothered me.
All I can say in your case Lu, you are no less gorgeous than you were before. As for the people that have seemingly shunned you, it's probably an element of guys thinking you're in a couple now so there's no point, and there's probably an element of envy too.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So, I used to have a single profile. I kept it up until last year purely for chatting shite in here and to existing friends (J always had access, he used to respond to half my mail ) and since getting rid and just having our couples profile I've noticed a few things....
J gets A LOT more fabs on his pics...and rightly so, he's fucking gorgeous
I get a lot less fabs on mine...i used to reach 300+ in a day easy from a new pic....now I barely bring in 50 (I should note here, that I couldn't give a shit about that really, merely an observation).
And 90% of the people I used to chat to on fab have simply stopped talking to me. Even some of the guys I used to chat to from the forums just stopped.
It's struck me what a stark contrast it is. Tbh, I much prefer just having our couples profile, less twats in our inbox, and I can post pics of us both
I find it interesting that our pics bring more/less attention now, even tho we are the same and some of the same pics are being used.
But honestly I find it a little sad that some of my pals avoid chatting to me now...
Has anyone else noticed similar things when switching to a couples account?
Bloody good job I'm not as insecure as I once was or I'd be convinced I'd just become repulsive
Lu
You are beautiful. Never think otherwise. Jen xx"
Thank you 
I'm much more confident these days....i don't think I'm owt special but I'm aware others do...my man things I'm pretty nice to look at, that's enough for me
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I went the other way, I used to have a couples profile and my wife got all the attention - she was beautiful so totally understandable. We had friends who were single and friends who were couples. But when I came back to the site with a singles profile, old friends just didn't want to know - it's bizarre how fickle people can be and for a while it bothered me.
All I can say in your case Lu, you are no less gorgeous than you were before. As for the people that have seemingly shunned you, it's probably an element of guys thinking you're in a couple now so there's no point, and there's probably an element of envy too.
Just try not to worry too much about it "
There's not an imbalance...neither of us gets more attention than the other (not that it would matter to us if we did)...ive just noticed a general decline in interest in me since I ditched the single profile.
I certainly don't worry about it tho
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"So, I used to have a single profile. I kept it up until last year purely for chatting shite in here and to existing friends (J always had access, he used to respond to half my mail ) and since getting rid and just having our couples profile I've noticed a few things....
J gets A LOT more fabs on his pics...and rightly so, he's fucking gorgeous
I get a lot less fabs on mine...i used to reach 300+ in a day easy from a new pic....now I barely bring in 50 (I should note here, that I couldn't give a shit about that really, merely an observation).
And 90% of the people I used to chat to on fab have simply stopped talking to me. Even some of the guys I used to chat to from the forums just stopped.
It's struck me what a stark contrast it is. Tbh, I much prefer just having our couples profile, less twats in our inbox, and I can post pics of us both
I find it interesting that our pics bring more/less attention now, even tho we are the same and some of the same pics are being used.
But honestly I find it a little sad that some of my pals avoid chatting to me now...
Has anyone else noticed similar things when switching to a couples account?
Bloody good job I'm not as insecure as I once was or I'd be convinced I'd just become repulsive
Lu "
I think it’s just fab fatigue kicking in Lu and lots of people temporarily missing in action due to current circumstances. It’s a very different site to what it was 12 months ago |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So, I used to have a single profile. I kept it up until last year purely for chatting shite in here and to existing friends (J always had access, he used to respond to half my mail ) and since getting rid and just having our couples profile I've noticed a few things....
J gets A LOT more fabs on his pics...and rightly so, he's fucking gorgeous
I get a lot less fabs on mine...i used to reach 300+ in a day easy from a new pic....now I barely bring in 50 (I should note here, that I couldn't give a shit about that really, merely an observation).
And 90% of the people I used to chat to on fab have simply stopped talking to me. Even some of the guys I used to chat to from the forums just stopped.
It's struck me what a stark contrast it is. Tbh, I much prefer just having our couples profile, less twats in our inbox, and I can post pics of us both
I find it interesting that our pics bring more/less attention now, even tho we are the same and some of the same pics are being used.
But honestly I find it a little sad that some of my pals avoid chatting to me now...
Has anyone else noticed similar things when switching to a couples account?
Bloody good job I'm not as insecure as I once was or I'd be convinced I'd just become repulsive
Lu
I think it’s just fab fatigue kicking in Lu and lots of people temporarily missing in action due to current circumstances. It’s a very different site to what it was 12 months ago "
You think that's why? Definitely agree the site has changed to a degree but...
I just figured I was less appealing to straight men if I come with a man
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Very interesting post. Is this something you have noticed over a period of time? Or just of late?
I wonder if it would be similar trend the other way about? Did your other half have a single account before hand?
I've noticed it over the last few months...but never really swelled on it or gave it much thought. We had a couples profile before I deleted my own too.
He had his profile also, he's noticed the opposite. People are much nicer and more open to chat to him now!
It's mostly noticing certain people don't chat anymore (mostly men)...they always knew I wasn't single and conversation was rarely sexual...*shrugs*
Lu "
It's probably quite common I'd imagine in this situation. Do you think it is better in that not as many unwanted messages etc?
That's great that J is finding people to be more open and friendly.
I wonder if that is due to the profile change or with these strange times and other factors?
(I'm only being nosey as have been toying with idea of couples profile again) |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Very interesting post. Is this something you have noticed over a period of time? Or just of late?
I wonder if it would be similar trend the other way about? Did your other half have a single account before hand?
I've noticed it over the last few months...but never really swelled on it or gave it much thought. We had a couples profile before I deleted my own too.
He had his profile also, he's noticed the opposite. People are much nicer and more open to chat to him now!
It's mostly noticing certain people don't chat anymore (mostly men)...they always knew I wasn't single and conversation was rarely sexual...*shrugs*
Lu
It's probably quite common I'd imagine in this situation. Do you think it is better in that not as many unwanted messages etc?
That's great that J is finding people to be more open and friendly.
I wonder if that is due to the profile change or with these strange times and other factors?
(I'm only being nosey as have been toying with idea of couples profile again) "
I much prefer things this way!
We still get the idiots sliding into our inbox but now it's maybe 20 a day rather than literally hundreds
And I love that people are finally seeing my man he's always popular at clubs but fab is a different beast and it's nice to see him get the attention he deserves
Lu |
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By (user no longer on site)
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There's lots of decent people on here. They may feel like they are doing something wrong by chatting to you as one half as a couple. It's different chatting to one half of a couple on a single profile. Even though nothing has changed, it can feel a bit like 'cheating' to openly chat to one person via a couple profile, but not including the other person.
Hope that makes sense.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"There's lots of decent people on here. They may feel like they are doing something wrong by chatting to you as one half as a couple. It's different chatting to one half of a couple on a single profile. Even though nothing has changed, it can feel a bit like 'cheating' to openly chat to one person via a couple profile, but not including the other person.
Hope that makes sense.
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Totally!
I hope that's not the case...we have a very open relationship in that there are no secrets...he always knew who I was chatting to and never took issue with it.
If those I used to be chatty with no longer feel they can because he is around, that's sad...he was always around with access to everything anyway.
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It may just be men being respectful of your couples status, perhaps they see it as more "official" now you have a couples profile (the opposite is often true of a male going into a couple, all of a sudden his "market value" increases and the ladies double their efforts to snag him now he's shown he's settling down material). Or maybe they just feel that any chance of meeting you has dwindled somewhat with the switch to a couples profile.
Or it could just be that people realise there's no clear end to this situation in sight and even making connections for when we're allowed to meet again is a bit of a hopeless endeavour when nobody knows when that will be. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It may just be men being respectful of your couples status, perhaps they see it as more "official" now you have a couples profile (the opposite is often true of a male going into a couple, all of a sudden his "market value" increases and the ladies double their efforts to snag him now he's shown he's settling down material). Or maybe they just feel that any chance of meeting you has dwindled somewhat with the switch to a couples profile.
Or it could just be that people realise there's no clear end to this situation in sight and even making connections for when we're allowed to meet again is a bit of a hopeless endeavour when nobody knows when that will be. "
This was basically what my thought process was...
Not much has changed for us in reality tho...we are usually out of the country for most of the year anyway so meets were never easy to arrange.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Very interesting post. Is this something you have noticed over a period of time? Or just of late?
I wonder if it would be similar trend the other way about? Did your other half have a single account before hand?
I've noticed it over the last few months...but never really swelled on it or gave it much thought. We had a couples profile before I deleted my own too.
He had his profile also, he's noticed the opposite. People are much nicer and more open to chat to him now!
It's mostly noticing certain people don't chat anymore (mostly men)...they always knew I wasn't single and conversation was rarely sexual...*shrugs*
Lu
It's probably quite common I'd imagine in this situation. Do you think it is better in that not as many unwanted messages etc?
That's great that J is finding people to be more open and friendly.
I wonder if that is due to the profile change or with these strange times and other factors?
(I'm only being nosey as have been toying with idea of couples profile again)
I much prefer things this way!
We still get the idiots sliding into our inbox but now it's maybe 20 a day rather than literally hundreds
And I love that people are finally seeing my man he's always popular at clubs but fab is a different beast and it's nice to see him get the attention he deserves
Lu "
Haha, sorry about those 18 daily messages
That is brilliant to hear! As a club virgin I couldn't say, but imagine would be a totally different thing. I wouldn't of thought either of you would of been short of attention on here |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Very interesting post. Is this something you have noticed over a period of time? Or just of late?
I wonder if it would be similar trend the other way about? Did your other half have a single account before hand?
I've noticed it over the last few months...but never really swelled on it or gave it much thought. We had a couples profile before I deleted my own too.
He had his profile also, he's noticed the opposite. People are much nicer and more open to chat to him now!
It's mostly noticing certain people don't chat anymore (mostly men)...they always knew I wasn't single and conversation was rarely sexual...*shrugs*
Lu
It's probably quite common I'd imagine in this situation. Do you think it is better in that not as many unwanted messages etc?
That's great that J is finding people to be more open and friendly.
I wonder if that is due to the profile change or with these strange times and other factors?
(I'm only being nosey as have been toying with idea of couples profile again)
I much prefer things this way!
We still get the idiots sliding into our inbox but now it's maybe 20 a day rather than literally hundreds
And I love that people are finally seeing my man he's always popular at clubs but fab is a different beast and it's nice to see him get the attention he deserves
Lu
Haha, sorry about those 18 daily messages
That is brilliant to hear! As a club virgin I couldn't say, but imagine would be a totally different thing. I wouldn't of thought either of you would of been short of attention on here "
We only really use the forums and chatrooms on fab these days...meets for us are at clubs or with existing friends.
Never short of attention tho not always the kind we want
Get yourself to a club post rona! They're so much fun!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So, I used to have a single profile. I kept it up until last year purely for chatting shite in here and to existing friends (J always had access, he used to respond to half my mail ) and since getting rid and just having our couples profile I've noticed a few things....
J gets A LOT more fabs on his pics...and rightly so, he's fucking gorgeous
I get a lot less fabs on mine...i used to reach 300+ in a day easy from a new pic....now I barely bring in 50 (I should note here, that I couldn't give a shit about that really, merely an observation).
And 90% of the people I used to chat to on fab have simply stopped talking to me. Even some of the guys I used to chat to from the forums just stopped.
It's struck me what a stark contrast it is. Tbh, I much prefer just having our couples profile, less twats in our inbox, and I can post pics of us both
I find it interesting that our pics bring more/less attention now, even tho we are the same and some of the same pics are being used.
But honestly I find it a little sad that some of my pals avoid chatting to me now...
Has anyone else noticed similar things when switching to a couples account?
Bloody good job I'm not as insecure as I once was or I'd be convinced I'd just become repulsive
Lu "
Do you think maybe the men before were viewing you as a single woman and just that. They knew you were in a relationship but in their minds they were just getting your attention. Now it's a couples profile they are not as interested as there is another gentleman in the picture. I know it doesn't seem logical as nothing has changed.
And with regards to the fabs on a photo your single profile was probably on a lot of hotlists which the new profile may have not made it onto as many yet. I know being on hotlists makes a bit impact on how many fabs you get as it will show on their updates. |
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"So, I used to have a single profile. I kept it up until last year purely for chatting shite in here and to existing friends (J always had access, he used to respond to half my mail ) and since getting rid and just having our couples profile I've noticed a few things....
J gets A LOT more fabs on his pics...and rightly so, he's fucking gorgeous
I get a lot less fabs on mine...i used to reach 300+ in a day easy from a new pic....now I barely bring in 50 (I should note here, that I couldn't give a shit about that really, merely an observation).
And 90% of the people I used to chat to on fab have simply stopped talking to me. Even some of the guys I used to chat to from the forums just stopped.
It's struck me what a stark contrast it is. Tbh, I much prefer just having our couples profile, less twats in our inbox, and I can post pics of us both
I find it interesting that our pics bring more/less attention now, even tho we are the same and some of the same pics are being used.
But honestly I find it a little sad that some of my pals avoid chatting to me now...
Has anyone else noticed similar things when switching to a couples account?
Bloody good job I'm not as insecure as I once was or I'd be convinced I'd just become repulsive
Lu "
You're a gorgeous couple you know you are Lu ...
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"So, I used to have a single profile. I kept it up until last year purely for chatting shite in here and to existing friends (J always had access, he used to respond to half my mail ) and since getting rid and just having our couples profile I've noticed a few things....
J gets A LOT more fabs on his pics...and rightly so, he's fucking gorgeous
I get a lot less fabs on mine...i used to reach 300+ in a day easy from a new pic....now I barely bring in 50 (I should note here, that I couldn't give a shit about that really, merely an observation).
And 90% of the people I used to chat to on fab have simply stopped talking to me. Even some of the guys I used to chat to from the forums just stopped.
It's struck me what a stark contrast it is. Tbh, I much prefer just having our couples profile, less twats in our inbox, and I can post pics of us both
I find it interesting that our pics bring more/less attention now, even tho we are the same and some of the same pics are being used.
But honestly I find it a little sad that some of my pals avoid chatting to me now...
Has anyone else noticed similar things when switching to a couples account?
Bloody good job I'm not as insecure as I once was or I'd be convinced I'd just become repulsive
Lu
Do you think maybe the men before were viewing you as a single woman and just that. They knew you were in a relationship but in their minds they were just getting your attention. Now it's a couples profile they are not as interested as there is another gentleman in the picture. I know it doesn't seem logical as nothing has changed.
And with regards to the fabs on a photo your single profile was probably on a lot of hotlists which the new profile may have not made it onto as many yet. I know being on hotlists makes a bit impact on how many fabs you get as it will show on their updates. "
Yep. I think you're spot on!
I'm really not bothered about fabs...sure it's a nice little boost when a photo is popular but it actually means nothing to me. We put pics up for us and our friends to perv...we enjoy erotic photography.
It does make me sad tho that certain people don't chat anymore...I'm no more/less likely to shag anyone now but it's a shame to think they were only chatty to hopefully get into my knickers.
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"So, I used to have a single profile. I kept it up until last year purely for chatting shite in here and to existing friends (J always had access, he used to respond to half my mail ) and since getting rid and just having our couples profile I've noticed a few things....
J gets A LOT more fabs on his pics...and rightly so, he's fucking gorgeous
I get a lot less fabs on mine...i used to reach 300+ in a day easy from a new pic....now I barely bring in 50 (I should note here, that I couldn't give a shit about that really, merely an observation).
And 90% of the people I used to chat to on fab have simply stopped talking to me. Even some of the guys I used to chat to from the forums just stopped.
It's struck me what a stark contrast it is. Tbh, I much prefer just having our couples profile, less twats in our inbox, and I can post pics of us both
I find it interesting that our pics bring more/less attention now, even tho we are the same and some of the same pics are being used.
But honestly I find it a little sad that some of my pals avoid chatting to me now...
Has anyone else noticed similar things when switching to a couples account?
Bloody good job I'm not as insecure as I once was or I'd be convinced I'd just become repulsive
Lu
You're a gorgeous couple you know you are Lu ...
And as for the question, maybe we'll know soon "
Oh we're awesome! I know that
So are my friends tho 
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"So, I used to have a single profile. I kept it up until last year purely for chatting shite in here and to existing friends (J always had access, he used to respond to half my mail ) and since getting rid and just having our couples profile I've noticed a few things....
J gets A LOT more fabs on his pics...and rightly so, he's fucking gorgeous
I get a lot less fabs on mine...i used to reach 300+ in a day easy from a new pic....now I barely bring in 50 (I should note here, that I couldn't give a shit about that really, merely an observation).
And 90% of the people I used to chat to on fab have simply stopped talking to me. Even some of the guys I used to chat to from the forums just stopped.
It's struck me what a stark contrast it is. Tbh, I much prefer just having our couples profile, less twats in our inbox, and I can post pics of us both
I find it interesting that our pics bring more/less attention now, even tho we are the same and some of the same pics are being used.
But honestly I find it a little sad that some of my pals avoid chatting to me now...
Has anyone else noticed similar things when switching to a couples account?
Bloody good job I'm not as insecure as I once was or I'd be convinced I'd just become repulsive
Lu
You're a gorgeous couple you know you are Lu ...
And as for the question, maybe we'll know soon
Oh we're awesome! I know that
So are my friends tho
Lu "
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I'm happy you know you're not repulsive, far from it Lu.
I do think that your sexual value currency might appear to have plummeted a bit on the fab market to some single men; it's now explicitly clear you're in a relationship with another and as much as they did like engaging with you, at the heart of it, the potential of sex was important to them.
Personally speaking I do find it a bit awkward talking on a couple's profile when I only really want to talk to one of them about a particular thing. Or even when I'm only really interested in one of them (yes I'm an awful person). I think it's because you know they are both going to be reading it so perhaps you can't talk as openly as previously - what's said between two might be quite funny but add a third and that person might think 'what on earth is Meli talking about, why do you talk to that crazy woman?'.
Lockdown has had an effect as well, people on the whole are quieter, not using fab as much.
Men maybe are seen as more attractive when they are in a couple by women? That's a shoddy weak stereotype that's unfair to women but I want to nap. |
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"I'm happy you know you're not repulsive, far from it Lu.
I do think that your sexual value currency might appear to have plummeted a bit on the fab market to some single men; it's now explicitly clear you're in a relationship with another and as much as they did like engaging with you, at the heart of it, the potential of sex was important to them.
Personally speaking I do find it a bit awkward talking on a couple's profile when I only really want to talk to one of them about a particular thing. Or even when I'm only really interested in one of them (yes I'm an awful person). I think it's because you know they are both going to be reading it so perhaps you can't talk as openly as previously - what's said between two might be quite funny but add a third and that person might think 'what on earth is Meli talking about, why do you talk to that crazy woman?'.
Lockdown has had an effect as well, people on the whole are quieter, not using fab as much.
Men maybe are seen as more attractive when they are in a couple by women? That's a shoddy weak stereotype that's unfair to women but I want to nap. "
As usual, I think you're spot on...
You need someone to stoke your hair whilst you fall asleepy?
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"I'm happy you know you're not repulsive, far from it Lu.
I do think that your sexual value currency might appear to have plummeted a bit on the fab market to some single men; it's now explicitly clear you're in a relationship with another and as much as they did like engaging with you, at the heart of it, the potential of sex was important to them.
Personally speaking I do find it a bit awkward talking on a couple's profile when I only really want to talk to one of them about a particular thing. Or even when I'm only really interested in one of them (yes I'm an awful person). I think it's because you know they are both going to be reading it so perhaps you can't talk as openly as previously - what's said between two might be quite funny but add a third and that person might think 'what on earth is Meli talking about, why do you talk to that crazy woman?'.
Lockdown has had an effect as well, people on the whole are quieter, not using fab as much.
Men maybe are seen as more attractive when they are in a couple by women? That's a shoddy weak stereotype that's unfair to women but I want to nap.
As usual, I think you're spot on...
You need someone to stoke your hair whilst you fall asleepy?
Lu "
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over a year ago
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I had a couples account on here with my OH as we both enjoy playing together
We both found it really frustrating
- people trying to get us to meet separately
- people wanting us to lie to each other
- people who just didn't fit what we were looking for
- people that just don't understand the dynamic
It just didn't work for us - and that's what's important, hence the single profile
Being here as a single male is a far friendlier experience than being here as a couple seeking singles |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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As usual, I think you're spot on...
You need someone to stoke your hair whilst you fall asleepy?
Lu
Or stroke it?
Yes please. Do you know Soft Kitty? "
Of course...come rest your head on my norks and have a little nap |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I had a couples account on here with my OH as we both enjoy playing together
We both found it really frustrating
- people trying to get us to meet separately
- people wanting us to lie to each other
- people who just didn't fit what we were looking for
- people that just don't understand the dynamic
It just didn't work for us - and that's what's important, hence the single profile
Being here as a single male is a far friendlier experience than being here as a couple seeking singles"
It's about finding what's right for you isn't it?
We both definitely prefer things now, having just this profile works best for us, I'm glad you've found your way too
Lu |
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Honestly I think the fabs thing is just more people are looking for couples than single men but then more people are looking for single women than couples.
As for people you used to chat to now not speaking to you on the couples profile even though you were still in a couple when using the single profile, that's just weird but then it’s fab and you get a lot of weird on here. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Your profile makes it sound that you're not very open to contact from single guys.
Maybe some of them do read profiles after all"
Not at all! Our profile is clear about how I have little interest in fucking other guys and that we're mainly looking for BI guys...
Seems some ladies don't read them very thoroughly either |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"People are preoccupied, or stressed and times are strange.
I wouldn't take it personally.
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It was just something I'd noticed...nothing that's upset me or anything
I prefer it this way. Just think it's a shame if some people feel they can't chat anymore.
Lu |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Your profile makes it sound that you're not very open to contact from single guys.
Maybe some of them do read profiles after all
Not at all! Our profile is clear about how I have little interest in fucking other guys and that we're mainly looking for BI guys...
Seems some ladies don't read them very thoroughly either "
Yeah, so maybe that's why some of your previous guy pals don't chat anymore- there's no end goal |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"Your profile makes it sound that you're not very open to contact from single guys.
Maybe some of them do read profiles after all
Not at all! Our profile is clear about how I have little interest in fucking other guys and that we're mainly looking for BI guys...
Seems some ladies don't read them very thoroughly either
Yeah, so maybe that's why some of your previous guy pals don't chat anymore- there's no end goal "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Your profile makes it sound that you're not very open to contact from single guys.
Maybe some of them do read profiles after all
Not at all! Our profile is clear about how I have little interest in fucking other guys and that we're mainly looking for BI guys...
Seems some ladies don't read them very thoroughly either
Yeah, so maybe that's why some of your previous guy pals don't chat anymore- there's no end goal "
My single profile had "Not looking for men" all over it.
So if anything, they were less likely to get laid then |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Your profile makes it sound that you're not very open to contact from single guys.
Maybe some of them do read profiles after all
Not at all! Our profile is clear about how I have little interest in fucking other guys and that we're mainly looking for BI guys...
Seems some ladies don't read them very thoroughly either
Yeah, so maybe that's why some of your previous guy pals don't chat anymore- there's no end goal
My single profile had "Not looking for men" all over it.
So if anything, they were less likely to get laid then "
But you knew they'd take a chance anyway, right? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Your profile makes it sound that you're not very open to contact from single guys.
Maybe some of them do read profiles after all
Not at all! Our profile is clear about how I have little interest in fucking other guys and that we're mainly looking for BI guys...
Seems some ladies don't read them very thoroughly either
Yeah, so maybe that's why some of your previous guy pals don't chat anymore- there's no end goal
My single profile had "Not looking for men" all over it.
So if anything, they were less likely to get laid then
But you knew they'd take a chance anyway, right?"
Of course...many still do.
Tickles me tho...Everyone I was chatting to knew that's as far as it would ever go and that J could access all my messages.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had a single profile where I could be top (or near the top) of Irish pics regularly and was inundated with messages. Switched to couple profile only and it's totally diff, haha, wayyyyy less attention. Doesn't bother me though. I gave Fab friends my new username so they could message me here and we still chat away. Pity some of yours have fallen away. Gorgeous couple btw. Mrs x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I always said, speaking as a man. Not my viewpoint obviously, I'm not single for a start.
If theres no end goal. What's the point?. As soon as your object of desire is part of a couple, the chances are greatly reduced of getting laid.
Throw in all the covid shite etc also.
J |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I had a couples account on here with my OH as we both enjoy playing together
We both found it really frustrating
- people trying to get us to meet separately
- people wanting us to lie to each other
- people who just didn't fit what we were looking for
- people that just don't understand the dynamic
It just didn't work for us - and that's what's important, hence the single profile
Being here as a single male is a far friendlier experience than being here as a couple seeking singles"
Have you ever had a MF couple profile on here?
I never found any of that on our couple profile. Apart from one woman wanting to meet him and not me.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Your profile makes it sound that you're not very open to contact from single guys.
Maybe some of them do read profiles after all"
People definitely do read profiles. I get lots of people looking at my profile but they never mail me. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I had a single profile where I could be top (or near the top) of Irish pics regularly and was inundated with messages. Switched to couple profile only and it's totally diff, haha, wayyyyy less attention. Doesn't bother me though. I gave Fab friends my new username so they could message me here and we still chat away. Pity some of yours have fallen away. Gorgeous couple btw. Mrs x"
The only part that remotely bothers me is that some people I considered pals no longer speak to me...that's just a shame.
Thank you lovely!
Lu |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I always said, speaking as a man. Not my viewpoint obviously, I'm not single for a start.
If theres no end goal. What's the point?. As soon as your object of desire is part of a couple, the chances are greatly reduced of getting laid.
Throw in all the covid shite etc also.
J "
Well they're all silly stupid butt heads then...i was never interested in shagging any of them except the women...and they'd all still get it
Lucky I have you innit sexy arse 
Lu |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"I went the other way, I used to have a couples profile and my wife got all the attention - she was beautiful so totally understandable. We had friends who were single and friends who were couples. But when I came back to the site with a singles profile, old friends just didn't want to know - it's bizarre how fickle people can be and for a while it bothered me.
All I can say in your case Lu, you are no less gorgeous than you were before. As for the people that have seemingly shunned you, it's probably an element of guys thinking you're in a couple now so there's no point, and there's probably an element of envy too.
Just try not to worry too much about it
There's not an imbalance...neither of us gets more attention than the other (not that it would matter to us if we did)...ive just noticed a general decline in interest in me since I ditched the single profile.
I certainly don't worry about it tho
Lu "
Reading between the lines I think it has bothered you to some extent. You're clearly very happy as a couple as numerous prior posts have illustrated and I think that's great, but I think you miss the attention you used to get as a single female; be it fabbed pictures, messages or conversations with multiple men. That you've mentioned specifically that you no longer have the fabs you used to, and lament men don't engage with you as before hints at this. You seem to want all the benefits of a couples and single female profile rolled into one. There's nothing wrong with that, but often life is full of compromises. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I went the other way, I used to have a couples profile and my wife got all the attention - she was beautiful so totally understandable. We had friends who were single and friends who were couples. But when I came back to the site with a singles profile, old friends just didn't want to know - it's bizarre how fickle people can be and for a while it bothered me.
All I can say in your case Lu, you are no less gorgeous than you were before. As for the people that have seemingly shunned you, it's probably an element of guys thinking you're in a couple now so there's no point, and there's probably an element of envy too.
Just try not to worry too much about it
There's not an imbalance...neither of us gets more attention than the other (not that it would matter to us if we did)...ive just noticed a general decline in interest in me since I ditched the single profile.
I certainly don't worry about it tho
Lu
Reading between the lines I think it has bothered you to some extent. You're clearly very happy as a couple as numerous prior posts have illustrated and I think that's great, but I think you miss the attention you used to get as a single female; be it fabbed pictures, messages or conversations with multiple men. That you've mentioned specifically that you no longer have the fabs you used to, and lament men don't engage with you as before hints at this. You seem to want all the benefits of a couples and single female profile rolled into one. There's nothing wrong with that, but often life is full of compromises. "
To be perfectly clear, the only change that has bothered me remotely is that certain people I was friendly with no longer chat. And I simply think it's a shame. I'm not losing any sleep over it.
If I wanted a both I'd still have both, as I did for the first 4 years of our relationship.
Having one profile isn't a compromise. It's a choice we've both made, together and are both quite happy with |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"If nothing else, this highlights the oft fickle nature of fab friendships "
They are indeed oft fickle and also transient - a shinier object catches someone's eye, or things just fizzle naturally - is the way of Fab and to an extent the world at large - fortunately there are also those friendships that can grow that are built on something a little more solid than a passing whimsy - and they're the ones to be truly valued and that last. |
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It's certainly interesting. I can't speak to a couple's profile, but I'm curious for my own profile how metrics change depending on my activity.
At the moment sometimes I get 100 views (all my filters up, so I think MF couples and TV/TS show up?): holy fuck what did I do  that's a lot |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That’s interesting. I don’t think it would matter to me if a friend changed from a single to a couple profile but I suppose that depends on where you saw the friendship going.
Personally I have been from a single profile to a couples profile and back to a single one. There is a big difference from the amount of attention a single guys profile gets to a couples profile though. Although I think 90% of the messages we got on the couples profile were aimed directly at my girl. She still had friends she spoke to on our profile that she knew from before though. |
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"I went the other way, I used to have a couples profile and my wife got all the attention - she was beautiful so totally understandable. We had friends who were single and friends who were couples. But when I came back to the site with a singles profile, old friends just didn't want to know - it's bizarre how fickle people can be and for a while it bothered me.
All I can say in your case Lu, you are no less gorgeous than you were before. As for the people that have seemingly shunned you, it's probably an element of guys thinking you're in a couple now so there's no point, and there's probably an element of envy too.
Just try not to worry too much about it
There's not an imbalance...neither of us gets more attention than the other (not that it would matter to us if we did)...ive just noticed a general decline in interest in me since I ditched the single profile.
I certainly don't worry about it tho
Lu
Reading between the lines I think it has bothered you to some extent. You're clearly very happy as a couple as numerous prior posts have illustrated and I think that's great, but I think you miss the attention you used to get as a single female; be it fabbed pictures, messages or conversations with multiple men. That you've mentioned specifically that you no longer have the fabs you used to, and lament men don't engage with you as before hints at this. You seem to want all the benefits of a couples and single female profile rolled into one. There's nothing wrong with that, but often life is full of compromises. "
I’d disagree here... she states pretty clearly that she’s sorry about a lost friendship rather than any lost attention... people can be friends after all |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I went the other way, I used to have a couples profile and my wife got all the attention - she was beautiful so totally understandable. We had friends who were single and friends who were couples. But when I came back to the site with a singles profile, old friends just didn't want to know - it's bizarre how fickle people can be and for a while it bothered me.
All I can say in your case Lu, you are no less gorgeous than you were before. As for the people that have seemingly shunned you, it's probably an element of guys thinking you're in a couple now so there's no point, and there's probably an element of envy too.
Just try not to worry too much about it
There's not an imbalance...neither of us gets more attention than the other (not that it would matter to us if we did)...ive just noticed a general decline in interest in me since I ditched the single profile.
I certainly don't worry about it tho
Lu
Reading between the lines I think it has bothered you to some extent. You're clearly very happy as a couple as numerous prior posts have illustrated and I think that's great, but I think you miss the attention you used to get as a single female; be it fabbed pictures, messages or conversations with multiple men. That you've mentioned specifically that you no longer have the fabs you used to, and lament men don't engage with you as before hints at this. You seem to want all the benefits of a couples and single female profile rolled into one. There's nothing wrong with that, but often life is full of compromises.
I’d disagree here... she states pretty clearly that she’s sorry about a lost friendship rather than any lost attention... people can be friends after all"
Thank you! I'm glad that was clear to some. |
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"I went the other way, I used to have a couples profile and my wife got all the attention - she was beautiful so totally understandable. We had friends who were single and friends who were couples. But when I came back to the site with a singles profile, old friends just didn't want to know - it's bizarre how fickle people can be and for a while it bothered me.
All I can say in your case Lu, you are no less gorgeous than you were before. As for the people that have seemingly shunned you, it's probably an element of guys thinking you're in a couple now so there's no point, and there's probably an element of envy too.
Just try not to worry too much about it
There's not an imbalance...neither of us gets more attention than the other (not that it would matter to us if we did)...ive just noticed a general decline in interest in me since I ditched the single profile.
I certainly don't worry about it tho
Lu
Reading between the lines I think it has bothered you to some extent. You're clearly very happy as a couple as numerous prior posts have illustrated and I think that's great, but I think you miss the attention you used to get as a single female; be it fabbed pictures, messages or conversations with multiple men. That you've mentioned specifically that you no longer have the fabs you used to, and lament men don't engage with you as before hints at this. You seem to want all the benefits of a couples and single female profile rolled into one. There's nothing wrong with that, but often life is full of compromises.
I’d disagree here... she states pretty clearly that she’s sorry about a lost friendship rather than any lost attention... people can be friends after all"
It seems clear and repeatedly emphasised. And yet. |
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I'm sure some fab friendships can be fickle, transient and fleeting. Speaking personally, I have a particular friendship on fab that is as strong, if not stronger than any of my non-fab friendships. There is more that friendship than mind-blowing and amazing sex, and we have a comfort with each other that transcends such things. Sure, I'd miss the sex, but the connection between us would hurt more if lost.
I've not had a couples profile, so cannot comment personally, but if I were to approach a couple, I'd be very aware that I was speaking with two people rather than just one. Perhaps OP, the issue is that as it's a couples profile they don't want to cross a line? |
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