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"My confidence comes from the knowledge other people give to me - through questions and experiences  "
You're one I'd say was always questioning and thinking, or at least that's how you come across |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
Have always been bought up to believe that the only "stupid" question is the one you don't ask, so if I have a query I'll usually raise it if it's important enough to me to know the answer.
Then I've always been someone that would rather talk things through generally rather than leave them hanging and unanswered if I can. |
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over a year ago
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"Do you ask enough questions or do you settle for what you know? Are you confident asking questions or feel you might come across as rude? Or are you confident in your own views and opinions? "
Everyday is a school day and the more questions you ask the more chance you have of learning. The question is (ha ha) in what context? Much better to ask questions before rather than during but isn't that just communicating? |
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over a year ago
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"I always ask questions, maybe too many but it’s in my nature. I like to know, rather than guess or assume."
What's the saying to assume is to make an ass of you and me. |
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Incredibly contextual.
There's always more to learn and I'm forever asking questions. I recognise the limitations of my knowledge base and my time and ability to find out more.
But... I have confidence in my critical thinking abilities and ability to locate and vet reliable sources.
And just because my knowledge is limited, doesn't mean that I don't know more than some people and cannot be confident in that context. So, I'm not an expert in Australian constitutional law (I know little bits and pieces), but if someone comes at me talking about the First Amendment... Yeah ok please listen to me I know a thing or two. |
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"Do you ask enough questions or do you settle for what you know? Are you confident asking questions or feel you might come across as rude? Or are you confident in your own views and opinions? "
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
I'm confident in my views and opinions on subjects I have knowledge in. I've an inquisitive mind and always ask questions, particularly if I have doubts. I'm also a skeptic and rarely accept anything at face value just because someone has said so; more so if I have lingering doubts and my instinct says otherwise. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I am confident in my own views and opinions. It depends on what the question would be.
If it's a question about different beliefs/opinions/ideas then I'll research on the web.
If it's a more personal question that I would like to ask someone then I don't always ask it straight away without ruminating on it first. |
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"Have always been bought up to believe that the only "stupid" question is the one you don't ask, so if I have a query I'll usually raise it if it's important enough to me to know the answer.
Then I've always been someone that would rather talk things through generally rather than leave them hanging and unanswered if I can."
I was taught by a former boss that it was only a stupid answer and to think before I spoke 
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"Do you ask enough questions or do you settle for what you know? Are you confident asking questions or feel you might come across as rude? Or are you confident in your own views and opinions?
Everyday is a school day and the more questions you ask the more chance you have of learning. The question is (ha ha) in what context? Much better to ask questions before rather than during but isn't that just communicating?"
Oh gosh I wish I could teach that logic to people in work. Ask the important questions than when your midway through something and then in a panic |
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"God I ask a million questions. I'm generally very nosy. I do sometimes tell people I won't take offence if they tell me to butt out because it's none of my business, but I'm still going to ask."
This could be written about me, tell me to shut up if you want followed by a million and one questions  |
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Where does it stop though, do you question a question? I was taught to question in my line of work as a disruption technique. If someone throws a bomb at you and you can't or don't want to answer, chuck it back at them.... That might steer a conversation to a safe place or make a person appear intelligent but often the answers to the questions are more important than the questions themselves, especially if they're overlooked or ignored because we already think we know better.... |
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Oh gosh, I ask so many questions, I have such an inquisitive mind... and if I'm not asking questions I've probably toddled off to look stuff up (which invariably leads into a kaleidoscope of related stuff that can be seemingly never ending).
Yes, I'm confident in asking questions, especially at work...I'd rather ask something that others may see as a silly question that make incorrect assumptions that potentially lead to mistakes.
I'm confident in my opinions if I know about the subject matter. I dont know everything that there is to know about everything, but I base my opinions on what I do know...and I will ask questions or learn more about something if I feel I don't have enough knowledge to form a coherent opinion. |
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Surely if you ask a question and get a defensive response then it would arouse suspicions as to why they are reacting and not just answering.
Fully depends on the question but yeah these days to be the millionth person to ask how are you is at risk of a contempt response which I never understand as most of the time it's a precursor to further conversation. |
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"Do you ask enough questions or do you settle for what you know? Are you confident asking questions or feel you might come across as rude? Or are you confident in your own views and opinions?
Why would you like to know ? "
I'm a nosey cow |
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"Incredibly contextual.
There's always more to learn and I'm forever asking questions. I recognise the limitations of my knowledge base and my time and ability to find out more.
But... I have confidence in my critical thinking abilities and ability to locate and vet reliable sources.
And just because my knowledge is limited, doesn't mean that I don't know more than some people and cannot be confident in that context. So, I'm not an expert in Australian constitutional law (I know little bits and pieces), but if someone comes at me talking about the First Amendment... Yeah ok please listen to me I know a thing or two."
I got you, and yeah it is very contextual, I'm just abstractly thinking as per lol |
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"I'm confident in my views and opinions on subjects I have knowledge in. I've an inquisitive mind and always ask questions, particularly if I have doubts. I'm also a skeptic and rarely accept anything at face value just because someone has said so; more so if I have lingering doubts and my instinct says otherwise."
I'm the same I rarely take things at face value, but do like to have a few different few points on things |
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"I am confident in my own views and opinions. It depends on what the question would be.
If it's a question about different beliefs/opinions/ideas then I'll research on the web.
If it's a more personal question that I would like to ask someone then I don't always ask it straight away without ruminating on it first."
That's a logical way of thinking about it. Do you not ask a personal question straight away in case you cause offense? |
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"Where does it stop though, do you question a question? I was taught to question in my line of work as a disruption technique. If someone throws a bomb at you and you can't or don't want to answer, chuck it back at them.... That might steer a conversation to a safe place or make a person appear intelligent but often the answers to the questions are more important than the questions themselves, especially if they're overlooked or ignored because we already think we know better.... "
I have a colleague who tries this a lot in meetings, it drives me demented so I have to repeat the initial question. Then it becomes a bit of a stand off. But there's a difference between an inquisitive mind and someone using it as diversion technique though isn't there ? |
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"I am confident in my own views and opinions. It depends on what the question would be.
If it's a question about different beliefs/opinions/ideas then I'll research on the web.
If it's a more personal question that I would like to ask someone then I don't always ask it straight away without ruminating on it first.
That's a logical way of thinking about it. Do you not ask a personal question straight away in case you cause offense? "
No, it's more a confidence thing. Should I ask this? What if I get back an answer I don't like? I usually know the answer I want back and I want to clarify what I think might be the situation. But what if I've read things wrong?
It's usually in the context of 'relationship' type questions. |
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"Where does it stop though, do you question a question? I was taught to question in my line of work as a disruption technique. If someone throws a bomb at you and you can't or don't want to answer, chuck it back at them.... That might steer a conversation to a safe place or make a person appear intelligent but often the answers to the questions are more important than the questions themselves, especially if they're overlooked or ignored because we already think we know better....
I have a colleague who tries this a lot in meetings, it drives me demented so I have to repeat the initial question. Then it becomes a bit of a stand off. But there's a difference between an inquisitive mind and someone using it as diversion technique though isn't there ?"
Yes, defo. But many many many people in life will ask you a question with the sole intent of telling you what they know rather than listening and learning from your answer. I think it's super important to listen for the answers and respect them and encourage them, even if they challenge your pride or dent your confidence because you can take something from them and grow.... |
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From client management(and it works in the realm of personal relationships too), I was always taught to keep following up each question with another request for more detail, clarification, or additional information, until it becomes awkward for both; not only does it show attention, but that persistence will usually get past the surface answer to whatever the underlying message really is.
There is a risk of being an utter cock, but that's not exactly uncharted territory, so... |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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This thread is perfectly timed because right now I'm wondering if I do ask too many questions.
I'm naturally curious, always have been. I'm also aware of my own limitations in knowledge and I like expanding the little knowledge I do have in a subject, if a person is willing to engage with me and answer questions I have I could happily ask questions for a long period of time. I think in part that's because I find others fascinating and enjoy discovering what it is that makes a person tick, their views on the world and how they can differ and also be similar to mine. I'm fairly confident in asking questions in a professional setting or in an academic nature, when it comes to personal I'm slightly more hesitant because I know people don't necessarily want to answer all of my curiosities nor do they necessarily want to talk to me but it would appear rude to not. I'd say overall I am fairly confident in asking a question I would like to find out the answer to but I do caveat them if I'm aware I might cause potential offence, that's the last thing I'd want to do and I know how easily tone and intent can be misconstrued if not clearly described. |
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I’ve stopped calling it nosiness and reclassified it as curiosity.
There’s nothing wrong with being curious, it’s how you learn. Curiosity and learning are really good things.
Hc |
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"Incredibly contextual.
There's always more to learn and I'm forever asking questions. I recognise the limitations of my knowledge base and my time and ability to find out more.
But... I have confidence in my critical thinking abilities and ability to locate and vet reliable sources.
And just because my knowledge is limited, doesn't mean that I don't know more than some people and cannot be confident in that context. So, I'm not an expert in Australian constitutional law (I know little bits and pieces), but if someone comes at me talking about the First Amendment... Yeah ok please listen to me I know a thing or two.
I got you, and yeah it is very contextual, I'm just abstractly thinking as per lol "
For sure! Great topic. |
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"This thread is perfectly timed because right now I'm wondering if I do ask too many questions.
I'm naturally curious, always have been. I'm also aware of my own limitations in knowledge and I like expanding the little knowledge I do have in a subject, if a person is willing to engage with me and answer questions I have I could happily ask questions for a long period of time. I think in part that's because I find others fascinating and enjoy discovering what it is that makes a person tick, their views on the world and how they can differ and also be similar to mine. I'm fairly confident in asking questions in a professional setting or in an academic nature, when it comes to personal I'm slightly more hesitant because I know people don't necessarily want to answer all of my curiosities nor do they necessarily want to talk to me but it would appear rude to not. I'd say overall I am fairly confident in asking a question I would like to find out the answer to but I do caveat them if I'm aware I might cause potential offence, that's the last thing I'd want to do and I know how easily tone and intent can be misconstrued if not clearly described. "
You probably don't ask too many questions.
If someone engages with you answering the questions then I would presume they are enjoying the interaction.
If you ask someone something and they don't answer then I presume you don't keep badgering them with questions. If you did then that might be construed as 'too many questions'. |
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"Surely if you ask a question and get a defensive response then it would arouse suspicions as to why they are reacting and not just answering.
Fully depends on the question but yeah these days to be the millionth person to ask how are you is at risk of a contempt response which I never understand as most of the time it's a precursor to further conversation."
I don't always think that is true, depending on the question some people just aren't comfortable with their thoughts being questioned for example. It's not that they are suspicious just they sometimes feel you think they are stupid for thinking xyz. |
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I ask questions like where you from? (Well actually where your NEAR to?) So we can save each others time, but rarely get a decent answer as it's like women think your being nosey and going jump in your car to stalk the area they've said to look for them!! |
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"I am confident in my own views and opinions. It depends on what the question would be.
If it's a question about different beliefs/opinions/ideas then I'll research on the web.
If it's a more personal question that I would like to ask someone then I don't always ask it straight away without ruminating on it first.
That's a logical way of thinking about it. Do you not ask a personal question straight away in case you cause offense?
No, it's more a confidence thing. Should I ask this? What if I get back an answer I don't like? I usually know the answer I want back and I want to clarify what I think might be the situation. But what if I've read things wrong?
It's usually in the context of 'relationship' type questions."
I got you, I'm probably the most comfortable with these kind of questions. But I'm probably a bit of an idiot truth be known |
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"Where does it stop though, do you question a question? I was taught to question in my line of work as a disruption technique. If someone throws a bomb at you and you can't or don't want to answer, chuck it back at them.... That might steer a conversation to a safe place or make a person appear intelligent but often the answers to the questions are more important than the questions themselves, especially if they're overlooked or ignored because we already think we know better....
I have a colleague who tries this a lot in meetings, it drives me demented so I have to repeat the initial question. Then it becomes a bit of a stand off. But there's a difference between an inquisitive mind and someone using it as diversion technique though isn't there ?
Yes, defo. But many many many people in life will ask you a question with the sole intent of telling you what they know rather than listening and learning from your answer. I think it's super important to listen for the answers and respect them and encourage them, even if they challenge your pride or dent your confidence because you can take something from them and grow.... "
Oh gosh I'm a bugger when people ask me a work related question. Of asking them what they think the answer should be before I answer it. Find they often know the answer just don't have the confidence. |
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"This thread is perfectly timed because right now I'm wondering if I do ask too many questions.
I'm naturally curious, always have been. I'm also aware of my own limitations in knowledge and I like expanding the little knowledge I do have in a subject, if a person is willing to engage with me and answer questions I have I could happily ask questions for a long period of time. I think in part that's because I find others fascinating and enjoy discovering what it is that makes a person tick, their views on the world and how they can differ and also be similar to mine. I'm fairly confident in asking questions in a professional setting or in an academic nature, when it comes to personal I'm slightly more hesitant because I know people don't necessarily want to answer all of my curiosities nor do they necessarily want to talk to me but it would appear rude to not. I'd say overall I am fairly confident in asking a question I would like to find out the answer to but I do caveat them if I'm aware I might cause potential offence, that's the last thing I'd want to do and I know how easily tone and intent can be misconstrued if not clearly described. "
You've written how I am far more eloquently than I could. I do sometimes hold back with people I don't know very well. Once they do though I go with they know what I'm like and they'll tell me shut up once they've had enough |
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"Do you ask enough questions or do you settle for what you know? Are you confident asking questions or feel you might come across as rude? Or are you confident in your own views and opinions?
Why would you like to know ?
I'm a nosey cow "
Is that because of nature or nurture do you think ? |
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"I’ve stopped calling it nosiness and reclassified it as curiosity.
There’s nothing wrong with being curious, it’s how you learn. Curiosity and learning are really good things.
Hc "
They are really positive traits I agree. Else you become static do you not? |
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"Do you ask enough questions or do you settle for what you know? Are you confident asking questions or feel you might come across as rude? Or are you confident in your own views and opinions?
Why would you like to know ?
I'm a nosey cow
Is that because of nature or nurture do you think ? "
Not sure but some bloke called my boobs udders the other day, so I'll let you decide |
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"I ask questions like where you from? (Well actually where your NEAR to?) So we can save each others time, but rarely get a decent answer as it's like women think your being nosey and going jump in your car to stalk the area they've said to look for them!! "
Maybe it's because they've had messages in the past like I have. Saying I'm sure I saw you walking down x st last week. Then you freak out wondering if they saw you with the kids or walking into your home.  |
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"Are we talking about life in general or on here OP?
Both I'm being very vague today "
I real life, I ask many questions, as with working with all sorts of people, information is key.
While on training and compliance courses, I am terrible, as usually that annoying person asking awkward and at times conflicting questions.
On here, if chatting with someone, I will admit, I ask rather forward questions of people, but usually followed by "tell me to piss/bugger off if I'm being too nosey". |
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"I really wish I'd asked my parents more questions about things ! I say to my kids ask me things about past as it will b to late when I'm gone they laugh and say we not interested in that stuff!  x"
I've got a like digital scrapbook, with pictures of me as a kid with my grandparents etc and like stories about them. They won't want it now but one day they may. Me and my sister are doing it between us x |
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"Do you ask enough questions or do you settle for what you know? Are you confident asking questions or feel you might come across as rude? Or are you confident in your own views and opinions?
Why would you like to know ?
I'm a nosey cow
Is that because of nature or nurture do you think ?
Not sure but some bloke called my boobs udders the other day, so I'll let you decide "
Was his name Jim? |
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I used to ask a lot of questions on here (as threads) because I like to consider different viewpoints and possibly have my opinion changed. Unfortunately people tended to assume that because I asked a question a certain way, that I held the same beliefs.
At work I'm always asking questions. I need to understand what I'm dealing with/ being asked to work on. I really don't care if they think I'm stupid. If I don't understand what I'm being asked to do then I will likely do it wrong. And that is stupid.
I am known for asking dumb questions at work. People often say thank you because they didn't dare to ask. If I can see them looking quietly confused in a meeting I'll ask the question so they don't have to 'own up' to not understanding. |
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"Are we talking about life in general or on here OP?
Both I'm being very vague today
I real life, I ask many questions, as with working with all sorts of people, information is key.
While on training and compliance courses, I am terrible, as usually that annoying person asking awkward and at times conflicting questions.
On here, if chatting with someone, I will admit, I ask rather forward questions of people, but usually followed by "tell me to piss/bugger off if I'm being too nosey". "
I like people being forward, especially if it's a two way thing.
Think in work it's critical to ask questions, communication is key to running an effective team |
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"I used to ask a lot of questions on here (as threads) because I like to consider different viewpoints and possibly have my opinion changed. Unfortunately people tended to assume that because I asked a question a certain way, that I held the same beliefs.
At work I'm always asking questions. I need to understand what I'm dealing with/ being asked to work on. I really don't care if they think I'm stupid. If I don't understand what I'm being asked to do then I will likely do it wrong. And that is stupid.
I am known for asking dumb questions at work. People often say thank you because they didn't dare to ask. If I can see them looking quietly confused in a meeting I'll ask the question so they don't have to 'own up' to not understanding. "
That's really sad, questions in my opinion are different to beliefs.
If you have to ask that "stupid" question I always presume it's because I haven't explained myself clearly enough. |
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"I really wish I'd asked my parents more questions about things ! I say to my kids ask me things about past as it will b to late when I'm gone they laugh and say we not interested in that stuff! x
I've got a like digital scrapbook, with pictures of me as a kid with my grandparents etc and like stories about them. They won't want it now but one day they may. Me and my sister are doing it between us x"
Good idea ! X |
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"I love asking questions and I'm very nosy when I'm bored so that will generate a I'm curious to know thread
Also because I enjoy people and learning about different views to myself x"
Think that's how you grow as a person, by questioning your own views or just by understanding others have ones different to you |
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I tend to hold my views lightly as I know they are at best partial truths. I ask plenty of questions, as I believe they are the primary good in a good life. I think everything else that is good springs from a good question. However I am conscious that questions need framing well and need to be balanced with advocacy and illustrations of evidence for my perspective. Bald inquiries - questions without framing and disclosure - can be experienced as weapons, and are frequently used as such. That is not what I mean by a good question. A good question fosters dialogue. |
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"I tend to hold my views lightly as I know they are at best partial truths. I ask plenty of questions, as I believe they are the primary good in a good life. I think everything else that is good springs from a good question. However I am conscious that questions need framing well and need to be balanced with advocacy and illustrations of evidence for my perspective. Bald inquiries - questions without framing and disclosure - can be experienced as weapons, and are frequently used as such. That is not what I mean by a good question. A good question fosters dialogue."
I get you now, should have actually asked what you were on about earlier lol. There are such a thing as a good question and a bad one of course. Bad questions can put me on edge, especially shitty rhetorical ones, which just make me panic. |
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‘Ask lots of questions don’t eat the bullshit’ - G. Wildheart
I used to be a prolific asker of ‘why?’
Then I had a kid and realised how bloody annoying it is
I still ask questions but in the form of research to be less of an annoyance.
When I meet someone new I’m very inquisitive. Mostly to ensure conversation flows but also because I’m nosey. |
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"Is there a particular context?
No just in general, was talking to a mate who said I questioned everything, where she is the complete opposite doesn't like to ask in case it comes across as rude "
I’m very inquisitive, but I don’t make a habit of literally questioning everything someone is saying face to face. If someone comes out with an interesting left field opinion, even on fab, I might question it just enough to go away and establish some facts.
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"‘Ask lots of questions don’t eat the bullshit’ - G. Wildheart
I used to be a prolific asker of ‘why?’
Then I had a kid and realised how bloody annoying it is
I still ask questions but in the form of research to be less of an annoyance.
When I meet someone new I’m very inquisitive. Mostly to ensure conversation flows but also because I’m nosey. "
I drove my parents demented, why is the moon red? Why is the colour green green? All before the internet. I just got told I had to wait until my uncle came back from England for an answer.
I do think questions helps start a conversation and helps to get to know someone |
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"I tend to hold my views lightly as I know they are at best partial truths. I ask plenty of questions, as I believe they are the primary good in a good life. I think everything else that is good springs from a good question. However I am conscious that questions need framing well and need to be balanced with advocacy and illustrations of evidence for my perspective. Bald inquiries - questions without framing and disclosure - can be experienced as weapons, and are frequently used as such. That is not what I mean by a good question. A good question fosters dialogue.
I get you now, should have actually asked what you were on about earlier lol. There are such a thing as a good question and a bad one of course. Bad questions can put me on edge, especially shitty rhetorical ones, which just make me panic. "
Asking questions without framing is often intended to cause discomfort, however it is also frequently inadvertent as well. Many people don’t realise they need to frame a question for it to be understood the way they want it to be, and leads to guessing their motives, and assuming their views and perspective based on the wording of the question alone. Unfortunately that means it can lead to misunderstanding and conflict.
The art of humble inquiry is sadly not as common as it might be. |
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"I tend to hold my views lightly as I know they are at best partial truths. I ask plenty of questions, as I believe they are the primary good in a good life. I think everything else that is good springs from a good question. However I am conscious that questions need framing well and need to be balanced with advocacy and illustrations of evidence for my perspective. Bald inquiries - questions without framing and disclosure - can be experienced as weapons, and are frequently used as such. That is not what I mean by a good question. A good question fosters dialogue.
I get you now, should have actually asked what you were on about earlier lol. There are such a thing as a good question and a bad one of course. Bad questions can put me on edge, especially shitty rhetorical ones, which just make me panic.
Asking questions without framing is often intended to cause discomfort, however it is also frequently inadvertent as well. Many people don’t realise they need to frame a question for it to be understood the way they want it to be, and leads to guessing their motives, and assuming their views and perspective based on the wording of the question alone. Unfortunately that means it can lead to misunderstanding and conflict.
The art of humble inquiry is sadly not as common as it might be. "
So agree with how a question is asked and framed is important. I find some posters on here way of asking a question rather confrontatioal, which is why I didn't used to reply to them. Have learnt that it's their style by now. Sometimes think text speak has made people shorten their questions to the detriment of the question they are trying to pose
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"I tend to hold my views lightly as I know they are at best partial truths. I ask plenty of questions, as I believe they are the primary good in a good life. I think everything else that is good springs from a good question. However I am conscious that questions need framing well and need to be balanced with advocacy and illustrations of evidence for my perspective. Bald inquiries - questions without framing and disclosure - can be experienced as weapons, and are frequently used as such. That is not what I mean by a good question. A good question fosters dialogue.
I get you now, should have actually asked what you were on about earlier lol. There are such a thing as a good question and a bad one of course. Bad questions can put me on edge, especially shitty rhetorical ones, which just make me panic.
Asking questions without framing is often intended to cause discomfort, however it is also frequently inadvertent as well. Many people don’t realise they need to frame a question for it to be understood the way they want it to be, and leads to guessing their motives, and assuming their views and perspective based on the wording of the question alone. Unfortunately that means it can lead to misunderstanding and conflict.
The art of humble inquiry is sadly not as common as it might be.
So agree with how a question is asked and framed is important. I find some posters on here way of asking a question rather confrontatioal, which is why I didn't used to reply to them. Have learnt that it's their style by now. Sometimes think text speak has made people shorten their questions to the detriment of the question they are trying to pose
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To be honest I don’t think the art of dialogue and inquiry is taught, so our abilities with it are limited to what we pick up along the way, unless we get opportunities to study it later in life. |
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