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To the point question and for my own info/knowledge and no other reason than I thought this would have been a good opportunity to reduce STI transmission in the swinging community.
Have you been and had a GUM clinic test/or other reliable test, in person or by post, during lockdown?
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By *ountrylad19Man
over a year ago
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"To the point question and for my own info/knowledge and no other reason than I thought this would have been a good opportunity to reduce STI transmission in the swinging community.
Have you been and had a GUM clinic test/or other reliable test, in person or by post, during lockdown?
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Yep go after every new woman ! |
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"To the point question and for my own info/knowledge and no other reason than I thought this would have been a good opportunity to reduce STI transmission in the swinging community.
Have you been and had a GUM clinic test/or other reliable test, in person or by post, during lockdown?
Yep go after every new woman ! "
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"Last week I got the kit as normal. Not that I’ve met anyone.
Why would you get tested then?"
Suggested not met during lockdown ! Doesn’t mean they haven’t before. Always good to be sure!? Have you? |
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over a year ago
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I did think this a while back, that gonorrhoea should be all but gone in the UK although some that are symptomless like chlamydia and HIV would unlikely reduce. |
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over a year ago
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"Last week I got the kit as normal. Not that I’ve met anyone.
Why would you get tested then?
Suggested not met during lockdown ! Doesn’t mean they haven’t before. Always good to be sure!? Have you?"
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over a year ago
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"To the point question and for my own info/knowledge and no other reason than I thought this would have been a good opportunity to reduce STI transmission in the swinging community.
Have you been and had a GUM clinic test/or other reliable test, in person or by post, during lockdown?
Yep go after every new woman ! "
When I’m meeting and visiting clubs that’d be physically impossible without dramatically reducing my fun  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would never meet someone who I know has tested positive in the past as they’re obviously not careful "
You know you can catch things like Chlamydia and Gonorrhoea from oral?
Very few of us are careful enough to avoid those if we were unlucky enough to meet someone with no symptoms. |
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"I would never meet someone who I know has tested positive in the past as they’re obviously not careful "
Or that they have been carful, but caught out, and are still being careful by making sure they’re treated. Personally, I think, someone with a positive knows they need to be treated and are more likely to be treated.
I understand your reasoning though. |
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"I would never meet someone who I know has tested positive in the past as they’re obviously not careful
Bit harsh Mr M. What if a condom split or an ex partner cheated and infected them? "
On reflection you’re right and it’s unfortunate these things happen but I still wouldn’t risk my own sexual health just for the sake of it. |
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over a year ago
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I’ve started taking the PrEP I’ve been prescribed in the hope that I’ll get over the queasiness by the time we can meet again.
Part of the criteria to get it is to have a regular test so I’ve been tested several times without having any sex now. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just remember that it’s much safter to have sex with someone who is either on PrEP or HIV+undetectable.
As long as they’re medication adherence is good, there is 0% chance of transmission. Whereas someone who gets tested ever three months could show negative on test day and then be infectious for three months. |
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"Just remember that it’s much safter to have sex with someone who is either on PrEP or HIV+undetectable.
As long as they’re medication adherence is good, there is 0% chance of transmission. Whereas someone who gets tested ever three months could show negative on test day and then be infectious for three months. "
Guess who’s hoping for lots of fun once she’s stopped feeling sick and has got the hang of this newly installed foof thing |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just remember that it’s much safter to have sex with someone who is either on PrEP or HIV+undetectable.
As long as they’re medication adherence is good, there is 0% chance of transmission. Whereas someone who gets tested ever three months could show negative on test day and then be infectious for three months.
Guess who’s hoping for lots of fun once she’s stopped feeling sick and has got the hang of this newly installed foof thing "
Nothing with dairy in after 7pm helps. But most people get over the nausea. |
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"I would never meet someone who I know has tested positive in the past as they’re obviously not careful "
Not everything requires bareback for transmission... Nor symptoms... You may carry various STIs without ever knowing... Even with being tested. |
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"I would never meet someone who I know has tested positive in the past as they’re obviously not careful
Bit harsh Mr M. What if a condom split or an ex partner cheated and infected them?
On reflection you’re right and it’s unfortunate these things happen but I still wouldn’t risk my own sexual health just for the sake of it. "
You're not necessarily safer with people just because they haven't previously had a positive test that you know of though, they could have caught something since they were last tested or they might just not disclose they have previously caught something. I'd argue that someone who is open enough to disclose a previous positive test and the steps they've taken once treated to prevent it happening again is possibly a safer person. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just remember that it’s much safter to have sex with someone who is either on PrEP or HIV+undetectable.
As long as they’re medication adherence is good, there is 0% chance of transmission. Whereas someone who gets tested ever three months could show negative on test day and then be infectious for three months.
Guess who’s hoping for lots of fun once she’s stopped feeling sick and has got the hang of this newly installed foof thing
Nothing with dairy in after 7pm helps. But most people get over the nausea. "
Oh gawd, really?
I’m 19 days in and this is my second try. First time I felt to ill to work on the house and stopped so I could be on top of my game.  |
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"I would never meet someone who I know has tested positive in the past as they’re obviously not careful
Not everything requires bareback for transmission... Nor symptoms... You may carry various STIs without ever knowing... Even with being tested. "
Also true. Herpes for example is not routinely tested for and most people who have it don't know that they do as they don't have symptoms. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"I would never meet someone who I know has tested positive in the past as they’re obviously not careful
Bit harsh Mr M. What if a condom split or an ex partner cheated and infected them?
On reflection you’re right and it’s unfortunate these things happen but I still wouldn’t risk my own sexual health just for the sake of it.
You're not necessarily safer with people just because they haven't previously had a positive test that you know of though, they could have caught something since they were last tested or they might just not disclose they have previously caught something. I'd argue that someone who is open enough to disclose a previous positive test and the steps they've taken once treated to prevent it happening again is possibly a safer person. "
Spot on - in fact I'd almost go so far as to say that given the choice of two people, one who has previously tested positive for a treatable STI and has taken steps to resolve the issue and someone who has never tested - I'd choose the former every time |
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"To the point question and for my own info/knowledge and no other reason than I thought this would have been a good opportunity to reduce STI transmission in the swinging community.
Have you been and had a GUM clinic test/or other reliable test, in person or by post, during lockdown?
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I get one very 4 months, it doesn't matter to me where I have been sexually active or not.
I may make that more regular if I'm having more sexual activity though.
I also cease sexual activity and go straight away if someone I've recently had sex with has caught something and told me. This has happened 4 times, luckily for me, I've never caught anything myself.
I put that down to being safe really.
Get checked frequently, particularly if your having sex with multiple partners in a close time frame.
Also, its just good practice and brings you peace of mind. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"And of course, any gay guys or people that mostly sleep with men should get the HPV vaccine too as they won’t gain the immunity by sleeping with women. "
Eh? I think I may have just found a gap in my knowledge here  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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So HPV was given to girls at 14-16 (can’t remember exactly when), but boys don’t get it.
So men can pick up the immunity via sex with women and be protected against HPV. Apart from they kinda forget about that section of the community who don’t like sticking their penis in women.
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"So HPV was given to girls at 14-16 (can’t remember exactly when), but boys don’t get it.
So men can pick up the immunity via sex with women and be protected against HPV. Apart from they kinda forget about that section of the community who don’t like sticking their penis in women.
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Our youngest son had the 1st dose of HPV vaccine at school in Sept 19. Waiting for 2nd one
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"So HPV was given to girls at 14-16 (can’t remember exactly when), but boys don’t get it.
So men can pick up the immunity via sex with women and be protected against HPV. Apart from they kinda forget about that section of the community who don’t like sticking their penis in women.
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And there was me thinking they didn’t give the vaccine to boys because they didn’t get cervical cancer. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So HPV was given to girls at 14-16 (can’t remember exactly when), but boys don’t get it.
So men can pick up the immunity via sex with women and be protected against HPV. Apart from they kinda forget about that section of the community who don’t like sticking their penis in women.
Our youngest son had the 1st dose of HPV vaccine at school in Sept 19. Waiting for 2nd one
J x"
I remember reading that they’d extended the vaccination program. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would never meet someone who I know has tested positive in the past as they’re obviously not careful "
Crestfallen, I guess my dose of chlamydia and NSU back in 1984 rules me out then. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m still amazed I didn’t know girls immunised boys with their vaginas. "
Isnt it the boys that give the girl the hpv in the first place, seems the wrong way round to me, although boys get the jab now |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m still amazed I didn’t know girls immunised boys with their vaginas.
Which also meant they assumed that sex would be bare. "
True.
It was the fact that vaccinations were contagious that threw me |
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"I would never meet someone who I know has tested positive in the past as they’re obviously not careful
Bit harsh Mr M. What if a condom split or an ex partner cheated and infected them?
On reflection you’re right and it’s unfortunate these things happen but I still wouldn’t risk my own sexual health just for the sake of it.
You're not necessarily safer with people just because they haven't previously had a positive test that you know of though, they could have caught something since they were last tested or they might just not disclose they have previously caught something. I'd argue that someone who is open enough to disclose a previous positive test and the steps they've taken once treated to prevent it happening again is possibly a safer person.
Spot on - in fact I'd almost go so far as to say that given the choice of two people, one who has previously tested positive for a treatable STI and has taken steps to resolve the issue and someone who has never tested - I'd choose the former every time"
Correct. I’d never meet someone who has never tested as well. It enables me to protect my own sexual health with the choices I make. |
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It’s great to see a lot of people do take it seriously and get tested. I know you can get a free test at the GUM clinics but you can also pay for the private route too if you’re worried about going to see the practice.
I’ve done both.
I think,potentially, it would be good idea to have an affiliation via Fabswingers to an online pharmacy so the cost could be reduced maybe?!
The more that get tested the better everyone’s health will hopefully be.
Thanks everyone for the interaction. |
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"It’s great to see a lot of people do take it seriously and get tested. I know you can get a free test at the GUM clinics but you can also pay for the private route too if you’re worried about going to see the practice.
I’ve done both.
I think,potentially, it would be good idea to have an affiliation via Fabswingers to an online pharmacy so the cost could be reduced maybe?!
The more that get tested the better everyone’s health will hopefully be.
Thanks everyone for the interaction. "
In most places you can get home kits delivered foc. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would never meet someone who I know has tested positive in the past as they’re obviously not careful "
I would be more wary of those that don’t get tested as if they have tested positive in the past I guess they get tested regular now. Those that have been shagging round for 20 years and never test are the once that concern me. Like Lacey says there are many reasons such as condom breakages, oral diseases as well as being cheated on
And in answer to your question OP I was tested early September all fine as usual. |
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"So HPV was given to girls at 14-16 (can’t remember exactly when), but boys don’t get it.
So men can pick up the immunity via sex with women and be protected against HPV. Apart from they kinda forget about that section of the community who don’t like sticking their penis in women.
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Men who have sex with men get offered HPV vaccines as well as hepatitis vaccines for free |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I get tested regular just in case.. I even get tested after a club meet if I don't have sex but have used the toilets or jacuzzi.. better safe than sorry..."
Yep. Cant be too careful with those sti riddled toilet seats |
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"So HPV was given to girls at 14-16 (can’t remember exactly when), but boys don’t get it.
So men can pick up the immunity via sex with women and be protected against HPV. Apart from they kinda forget about that section of the community who don’t like sticking their penis in women.
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They don't gain immunity. Just if they're only having sex with vaccinated partners their risk will be incredibly low. |
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"I’m still amazed I didn’t know girls immunised boys with their vaginas.
Isnt it the boys that give the girl the hpv in the first place, seems the wrong way round to me, although boys get the jab now"
It's a chicken and egg thing. It's passed both ways. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would never meet someone who I know has tested positive in the past as they’re obviously not careful "
I only shag people who don't get tested. What idiot would be honest and open enough to admit they'd had a test and found out they'd caught something.
The very fact that they've been for a test shows they're not careful right. |
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"I would never meet someone who I know has tested positive in the past as they’re obviously not careful
I only shag people who don't get tested. What idiot would be honest and open enough to admit they'd had a test and found out they'd caught something.
The very fact that they've been for a test shows they're not careful right. "
Not necessarily.
Having sex with a condom isn’t 100% safe.
Having sex isn’t being careful. Not having sex is. |
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"I would never meet someone who I know has tested positive in the past as they’re obviously not careful
I only shag people who don't get tested. What idiot would be honest and open enough to admit they'd had a test and found out they'd caught something.
The very fact that they've been for a test shows they're not careful right.
Not necessarily.
Having sex with a condom isn’t 100% safe.
Having sex isn’t being careful. Not having sex is. "
I think it was sarcasm  |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"I would never meet someone who I know has tested positive in the past as they’re obviously not careful
I only shag people who don't get tested. What idiot would be honest and open enough to admit they'd had a test and found out they'd caught something.
The very fact that they've been for a test shows they're not careful right. "
The irony and sarcasm is strong in this one  |
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"I would never meet someone who I know has tested positive in the past as they’re obviously not careful
I only shag people who don't get tested. What idiot would be honest and open enough to admit they'd had a test and found out they'd caught something.
The very fact that they've been for a test shows they're not careful right.
Not necessarily.
Having sex with a condom isn’t 100% safe.
Having sex isn’t being careful. Not having sex is.
I think it was sarcasm "
Ah. Missed that. Bloody written words. So confusing |
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"I would never meet someone who I know has tested positive in the past as they’re obviously not careful
I only shag people who don't get tested. What idiot would be honest and open enough to admit they'd had a test and found out they'd caught something.
The very fact that they've been for a test shows they're not careful right.
The irony and sarcasm is strong in this one "
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"I would never meet someone who I know has tested positive in the past as they’re obviously not careful
I only shag people who don't get tested. What idiot would be honest and open enough to admit they'd had a test and found out they'd caught something.
The very fact that they've been for a test shows they're not careful right.
Not necessarily.
Having sex with a condom isn’t 100% safe.
Having sex isn’t being careful. Not having sex is.
I think it was sarcasm
Ah. Missed that. Bloody written words. So confusing "
Sorry Rachael x |
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"I would never meet someone who I know has tested positive in the past as they’re obviously not careful
I only shag people who don't get tested. What idiot would be honest and open enough to admit they'd had a test and found out they'd caught something.
The very fact that they've been for a test shows they're not careful right.
Not necessarily.
Having sex with a condom isn’t 100% safe.
Having sex isn’t being careful. Not having sex is.
I think it was sarcasm
Ah. Missed that. Bloody written words. So confusing
Sorry Rachael x"
I’m in black and white mode recently. |
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"I would never meet someone who I know has tested positive in the past as they’re obviously not careful
I only shag people who don't get tested. What idiot would be honest and open enough to admit they'd had a test and found out they'd caught something.
The very fact that they've been for a test shows they're not careful right.
Not necessarily.
Having sex with a condom isn’t 100% safe.
Having sex isn’t being careful. Not having sex is.
I think it was sarcasm
Ah. Missed that. Bloody written words. So confusing "
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"I would never meet someone who I know has tested positive in the past as they’re obviously not careful
You know you can catch things like Chlamydia and Gonorrhoea from oral?
Very few of us are careful enough to avoid those if we were unlucky enough to meet someone with no symptoms. "
Guess if you meet people how have not been tested then they have it tested positive  |
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"I would never meet someone who I know has tested positive in the past as they’re obviously not careful
You know you can catch things like Chlamydia and Gonorrhoea from oral?
Very few of us are careful enough to avoid those if we were unlucky enough to meet someone with no symptoms. "
This |
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