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over a year ago
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Hi Just wondering what the concensus is on being married and being on fab without partners consent ? I’m happy but miss excitement . Is fab the right place for me ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally, discuss it with your partner. Makes for a better experience, I would imagine but I have ZERO experience with swinging, so what would I know. I just know what I would do. |
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over a year ago
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I'm personally against ppl who come on any dating site without their partner knowing and having their consent, otherwise it's simply cheating.
Not being too harsh just being honest. |
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My profile is currently hidden due to various reasons.
I've taken an excerpt from it for you.
I'm 5 months out of a relationship with a guy I met on here who I thought was the one, the love of my life, the ying to my yang.... you get the drift. Well, that's gone tits up and I'm a single pringle again. Whoop de fucking doo.
It's left it's mark as you can probably already tell, so I won't be emotionally investing in people again. I'm not apologising for that. My heart has been busted like a fly hitting a windshield by a formula 1 car at top speed and I'm not prepared to open myself up to that kind of torture again.
Well, this is a swinging site so let's talk a bit about that.
Trust. The single most important thing someone can give you, their trust.
There are many ways it can be broken or abused but know this....
When someones trust gets abused it strips their confidence. A part of them dies. They question why they were so stupid, they question their worth, because surely if they had any worth whatsoever then they wouldn't have been taken for a cunt right? Sure they will "get over it" but it won't leave them completely. It will impact them in the future, they will remain guarded, they may never properly trust again.
How would you feel if you broke someones hope, spirit and realised that your actions will probably change their future and how they experience life from that point forward. Think about it. Cruel really isn't it.
Whether it's from saying you're a non smoker when really you ticked that box with a fag in your mouth to saying you're single when you're not, they all amount to the same thing, breaking someones faith in humanity.
Don't be that person. And just because you know people do it and get away with it doesn't make it fucking right. Be proud to be a good human, not proud you got away with something that could hurt someones soul.
Respect peoples wishes and personal choices. Lying takes those choices away and that's unfair.
You made it to the "thank fuck that's over with" bit.... go you! I promise it ain't all doom n gloom from this bit onwards.
The only men I will meet are those that are single. I'm not talking "fab single" I'm talking properly fucking single. I ain't a pawn in a game, that game is twisted, sick and utterly fucked up.
Separated doesn't cut it either, it's no different from "fab single" when you're answering to your wife and having to sneak about. I don't do liars and I'm not prepared to be complicit in someone else's web of deception.
How would you feel if your wife was the fly who got busted up and broken? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi Just wondering what the concensus is on being married and being on fab without partners consent ? I’m happy but miss excitement . Is fab the right place for me ?"
Counselling is probably a better place  |
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"My profile is currently hidden due to various reasons.
I've taken an excerpt from it for you.
I'm 5 months out of a relationship with a guy I met on here who I thought was the one, the love of my life, the ying to my yang.... you get the drift. Well, that's gone tits up and I'm a single pringle again. Whoop de fucking doo.
It's left it's mark as you can probably already tell, so I won't be emotionally investing in people again. I'm not apologising for that. My heart has been busted like a fly hitting a windshield by a formula 1 car at top speed and I'm not prepared to open myself up to that kind of torture again.
Well, this is a swinging site so let's talk a bit about that.
Trust. The single most important thing someone can give you, their trust.
There are many ways it can be broken or abused but know this....
When someones trust gets abused it strips their confidence. A part of them dies. They question why they were so stupid, they question their worth, because surely if they had any worth whatsoever then they wouldn't have been taken for a cunt right? Sure they will "get over it" but it won't leave them completely. It will impact them in the future, they will remain guarded, they may never properly trust again.
How would you feel if you broke someones hope, spirit and realised that your actions will probably change their future and how they experience life from that point forward. Think about it. Cruel really isn't it.
Whether it's from saying you're a non smoker when really you ticked that box with a fag in your mouth to saying you're single when you're not, they all amount to the same thing, breaking someones faith in humanity.
Don't be that person. And just because you know people do it and get away with it doesn't make it fucking right. Be proud to be a good human, not proud you got away with something that could hurt someones soul.
Respect peoples wishes and personal choices. Lying takes those choices away and that's unfair.
You made it to the "thank fuck that's over with" bit.... go you! I promise it ain't all doom n gloom from this bit onwards.
The only men I will meet are those that are single. I'm not talking "fab single" I'm talking properly fucking single. I ain't a pawn in a game, that game is twisted, sick and utterly fucked up.
Separated doesn't cut it either, it's no different from "fab single" when you're answering to your wife and having to sneak about. I don't do liars and I'm not prepared to be complicit in someone else's web of deception.
How would you feel if your wife was the fly who got busted up and broken?"
Exactly how i feel too well put and thank you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had the talk with the wife, agreed what was acceptable and what was not etc. Agonised over it for a year ..... then I joined just as Covid hit. I have met some wonderful people on here, and I have had good days and bad days. You may meet that prefect FWB that I imagined would be here, but remember no one should be meeting up at the moment and it is a buyer’s market on here and single males are 10 a penny ....
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"My profile is currently hidden due to various reasons.
I've taken an excerpt from it for you.
I'm 5 months out of a relationship with a guy I met on here who I thought was the one, the love of my life, the ying to my yang.... you get the drift. Well, that's gone tits up and I'm a single pringle again. Whoop de fucking doo.
It's left it's mark as you can probably already tell, so I won't be emotionally investing in people again. I'm not apologising for that. My heart has been busted like a fly hitting a windshield by a formula 1 car at top speed and I'm not prepared to open myself up to that kind of torture again.
Well, this is a swinging site so let's talk a bit about that.
Trust. The single most important thing someone can give you, their trust.
There are many ways it can be broken or abused but know this....
When someones trust gets abused it strips their confidence. A part of them dies. They question why they were so stupid, they question their worth, because surely if they had any worth whatsoever then they wouldn't have been taken for a cunt right? Sure they will "get over it" but it won't leave them completely. It will impact them in the future, they will remain guarded, they may never properly trust again.
How would you feel if you broke someones hope, spirit and realised that your actions will probably change their future and how they experience life from that point forward. Think about it. Cruel really isn't it.
Whether it's from saying you're a non smoker when really you ticked that box with a fag in your mouth to saying you're single when you're not, they all amount to the same thing, breaking someones faith in humanity.
Don't be that person. And just because you know people do it and get away with it doesn't make it fucking right. Be proud to be a good human, not proud you got away with something that could hurt someones soul.
Respect peoples wishes and personal choices. Lying takes those choices away and that's unfair.
You made it to the "thank fuck that's over with" bit.... go you! I promise it ain't all doom n gloom from this bit onwards.
The only men I will meet are those that are single. I'm not talking "fab single" I'm talking properly fucking single. I ain't a pawn in a game, that game is twisted, sick and utterly fucked up.
Separated doesn't cut it either, it's no different from "fab single" when you're answering to your wife and having to sneak about. I don't do liars and I'm not prepared to be complicit in someone else's web of deception.
How would you feel if your wife was the fly who got busted up and broken?Exactly how i feel too well put and thank you"
Unfortunately I'm writing from the heart and experience.
The ex before I arrived here was not only abusive but a cheat and a liar. I'd have rather taken the punches than the cheating and lying.
The guy I met from here and had a relationship with for almost 2 years had assured me he was separated, alas, as far as his wife was concerned, they were not.
I'm done now as far as relationships go, my view of the world is now one where I cannot trust others with my heart, I simply won't allow myself. I don't have another let down in me, it would be too much to bare.
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By (user no longer on site)
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In answer to your question yes I’d say fab is probably the right place for you. There’s hundreds of married men and women on here. Just be upfront about it like you are, not necessarily to everyone (but you’ve already done that) but to people who you chat privately to and who you are potentially are going to meet. I think that’s the most important thing. As for everyone else on the site it’s not really their business. Just be honest with people you meet then they can decide whether to meet you or not  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It would be an absolute no for me. I'm married but here with my husbands full knowledge, consent and encouragement.
I couldn't be a part of hurting someone by helping their partner cheat, I've been on the other side of that and it's terrible.
Also, if a person can't be honest with their partner who they're supposed to care for, it makes me question how they could be trusted to be honest with me. STI status etc.
Nope, nope, nope. |
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