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Sensual sex or fucking in a fwb ‘relationship’
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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago
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Good morning Fabbers,
I had a long discussion with a male friend last evening about this (not on Fab) and wondering if sensual sex should only be saved for a proper relationship or does it happen also in fwb relationships? He thinks it’s for a proper relationships only.
Thoughts please as it’s got me thinking.
Do you have a fwb and do you have sensual sex with them?
Please answer in the thread only.
Thank you, Bhubaysi x
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I tend to only have sensual making love sex with grounded hot husbands, that is purely because I trust them not to catch the feels to much. We are friends who celebrate our friendship in making love.
Nothing more nothing less.
Personally I avoid this with singles as the emotional lines have been blurred in the past and possesion drama has occurred
In answer to your question, a fwb relationship would be as important to me as any other relationship. Making love with someone you care about is normal In any type of relationship
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I just go with the flow.
If they want sensual passionate sex that's all good with me.
If they want to pin me down and fuck me ragged I'm not gonna complain about that either  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t have a FWB, but if I met someone here, there’d have to be mutual attraction, and I’d give them my all, sexually.
If, I met someone, wherever, and a real relationship began, then I’d discard everything else. For me it’s all or nothing. |
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It depends on the dynamics. It worked with fb’s in the past where we could be very close and sensual without it causing any issues. Others were more suited to less emotional but no less fun shenanigans. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As long as the feels are kept under control then I believe you can have all types of sex. Surely it’s all about the fun and enjoyment and what eachother want x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends on the moment, I’m happy to stay in fuck filth mode or sensual mind blowing passion and sometimes switch it up, everyone’s capable of both, I think people that have emotional connection problems or fear may be deterred by sensuality unless they feel safe with the other person
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It was the trust factor with my fwb that we could try anything but also just go with what we felt so could turn from mad sex all over the house to another day just gently caressing each other
That was the good thing about a fwb you didn’t have worry about your performance all the time |
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By *host63Man
over a year ago
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"Good morning Fabbers,
I had a long discussion with a male friend last evening about this (not on Fab) and wondering if sensual sex should only be saved for a proper relationship or does it happen also in fwb relationships? He thinks it’s for a proper relationships only.
Thoughts please as it’s got me thinking.
Do you have a fwb and do you have sensual sex with them?
Please answer in the thread only.
Thank you, Bhubaysi x
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Sex without sensuality is pointless.
It's the difference between a proper restaurant and a McDonald's.
The first feds you and yiu feel fullfilled. The other feeds you but you always feel something is missing.
And even.in.a FWB situation yiu need the sensuality.
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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago
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"It was the trust factor with my fwb that we could try anything but also just go with what we felt so could turn from mad sex all over the house to another day just gently caressing each other
That was the good thing about a fwb you didn’t have worry about your performance all the time "
Not sure if I agree with that. Performance is more important especially if both do not meet often. |
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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago
Leeds |
"Good morning Fabbers,
I had a long discussion with a male friend last evening about this (not on Fab) and wondering if sensual sex should only be saved for a proper relationship or does it happen also in fwb relationships? He thinks it’s for a proper relationships only.
Thoughts please as it’s got me thinking.
Do you have a fwb and do you have sensual sex with them?
Please answer in the thread only.
Thank you, Bhubaysi x
Sex without sensuality is pointless.
It's the difference between a proper restaurant and a McDonald's.
The first feds you and yiu feel fullfilled. The other feeds you but you always feel something is missing.
And even.in.a FWB situation yiu need the sensuality.
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This..... |
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Physical sensations to me do not equal some deep emotional romantic connection.
I love my friends. I'm intimate & sexual with some of my friends.
The type/style of sex & physical intimacy varies depending on many factors. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It was the trust factor with my fwb that we could try anything but also just go with what we felt so could turn from mad sex all over the house to another day just gently caressing each other
That was the good thing about a fwb you didn’t have worry about your performance all the time
Not sure if I agree with that. Performance is more important especially if both do not meet often. "
Perhaps performance is more important for you.
I don't think you can claim that for anyone else |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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By nature I’m quite an intimate, sensual, tactile person.
Animalistic fucking is sometimes just what the doctor ordered, but my nature tends to run to sensual sex more often. |
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"Surely soulless fucking all the time is only a tiny bit better than a wank?
For me sensual sex doesn't mean I want a wedding ring."
This... Sensual v mechanical? Surely we are sentient beings, we feed our senses, its sensual? Soulless fucking might as well stick it in a kenwoods wankmate. |
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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago
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"I just go with the flow.
If they want sensual passionate sex that's all good with me.
If they want to pin me down and fuck me ragged I'm not gonna complain about that either "
Interesting this is my approach too Cindi... I wonder if bring Trans puts us on a different trajectory?
What I mean is some guys see us as women, which is right and how we operate. These men are much more sensual, lots of kissing and passion.
Others seem a bit more sexually confused and maybe see us as men, or worse, a moist hole... So kissing and passion definitely out...
And then there's dark rooms and glory holes... What are they about??? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What kind of sex does your friend think should happen in a fwb relationship?
He thinks it’s ‘fucking’ only with a fwb and sensual is for a proper relationship only. "
'Fucking only' sounds like nsa or fb to me.
I wouldn't want him as a fwb.  |
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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago
Leeds |
"It was the trust factor with my fwb that we could try anything but also just go with what we felt so could turn from mad sex all over the house to another day just gently caressing each other
That was the good thing about a fwb you didn’t have worry about your performance all the time
Not sure if I agree with that. Performance is more important especially if both do not meet often.
Perhaps performance is more important for you.
I don't think you can claim that for anyone else"
You’re claiming for others it isn’t or do you mean you? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It was the trust factor with my fwb that we could try anything but also just go with what we felt so could turn from mad sex all over the house to another day just gently caressing each other
That was the good thing about a fwb you didn’t have worry about your performance all the time
Not sure if I agree with that. Performance is more important especially if both do not meet often.
Perhaps performance is more important for you.
I don't think you can claim that for anyone else
You’re claiming for others it isn’t or do you mean you? "
I can only make claims for me |
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It's that old dilemma isn't it. How do you separate love and sex? My opinion is that if that's how he feels he won't change and neither should he. Nearly everyone on the forum says they need a connection with the people they meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t have two different types of sex. WhenI have had the rare opportunity, I just do what comes naturally and it certainly engages all the senses. I don’t think I’ve ever engaged in soulless fucking although sometimes it has been less intimate than others. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like sensual sex, however sometimes the intimacy and connection created can lead to feelings, especially if the person is regular and also a good friend. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I agree, I've often found the best sex I've ever had has been passionate and sensual, although often if both parties have a real connection which allows you to fully let go and immerse yourselves in each other, feelings are a risk x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's that old dilemma isn't it. How do you separate love and sex? My opinion is that if that's how he feels he won't change and neither should he. Nearly everyone on the forum says they need a connection with the people they meet. "
I think there must be some fibbing going on about needing a connection from some  |
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"I like sensual sex, however sometimes the intimacy and connection created can lead to feelings, especially if the person is regular and also a good friend. "
Can lead to feelings? Is having feelings for someone a bad thing? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I like sensual sex, however sometimes the intimacy and connection created can lead to feelings, especially if the person is regular and also a good friend.
Can lead to feelings? Is having feelings for someone a bad thing? "
If you're in a swinging couple or are playing away behind your partners back then the feels are probably a no no
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"I don’t have two different types of sex. WhenI have had the rare opportunity, I just do what comes naturally and it certainly engages all the senses. I don’t think I’ve ever engaged in soulless fucking although sometimes it has been less intimate than others."
Agreed Doc, it's the intimacy that counts and intimacy means different things to different people I think. |
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"It's that old dilemma isn't it. How do you separate love and sex? My opinion is that if that's how he feels he won't change and neither should he. Nearly everyone on the forum says they need a connection with the people they meet.
I think there must be some fibbing going on about needing a connection from some "
. I think you're probably right |
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"It's that old dilemma isn't it. How do you separate love and sex? My opinion is that if that's how he feels he won't change and neither should he. Nearly everyone on the forum says they need a connection with the people they meet.
I think there must be some fibbing going on about needing a connection from some
. I think you're probably right "
Fibbing on fabs? Surely not |
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"It was the trust factor with my fwb that we could try anything but also just go with what we felt so could turn from mad sex all over the house to another day just gently caressing each other
That was the good thing about a fwb you didn’t have worry about your performance all the time
Not sure if I agree with that. Performance is more important especially if both do not meet often.
Perhaps performance is more important for you.
I don't think you can claim that for anyone else
You’re claiming for others it isn’t or do you mean you?
I can only make claims for me"
I think it’s all down to how often you meet ? We met pretty much on a weekly basis and had meets with others as well so for us it was just how we felt on the day but there was never any pressure!
Like the pressure you feel meeting new people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I love sex....When you love something that much, one can only make the best experience everytime, even if it only happens once. No time for crap shallow or meaningless events in my life.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Different people like different kinds of sex. There are people who like only the sensual type. Does that mean they shouldn't have fwb at all?
It's a completely subjective matter. To each, his/her own. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I like sensual sex, however sometimes the intimacy and connection created can lead to feelings, especially if the person is regular and also a good friend.
Can lead to feelings? Is having feelings for someone a bad thing? "
It can be when they only develop on one side |
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I obviously don’t know how he personally defines “sensual” and “just fucking”, but I prefer to have some degree of sensuality even in very casual arrangements. I don’t think I’d be able to call someone a FWB if there wasn’t sensuality, connection, and intimacy. Are they really a FWB if it’s just fuck and go every time? I don’t think so personally. |
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I think the term FWB is misleading or at least can lead to misunderstanding. It's a relationship, there's no getting away from that to my mind,if you just see the person as a masturbation aid then the word "friend" shouldn't be included |
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"I think the term FWB is misleading or at least can lead to misunderstanding. It's a relationship, there's no getting away from that to my mind,if you just see the person as a masturbation aid then the word "friend" shouldn't be included"
That’s exactly my thinking, if you are friends then there’s a relationship even if it’s not a traditional couple relationship. |
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"I think the term FWB is misleading or at least can lead to misunderstanding. It's a relationship, there's no getting away from that to my mind,if you just see the person as a masturbation aid then the word "friend" shouldn't be included
That’s exactly my thinking, if you are friends then there’s a relationship even if it’s not a traditional couple relationship."
I do know that the term "in a relationship" has changed in meaning since Facebook statuses became the accepted way of proclaiming your relationship status.
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You can have some amazingly tender and passionate moments with people you have only just met, that’s just how some people are, being tactile with passion and sensuality is a very enjoyable thing to experience, not everyone just wants a fuck n go  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think the term FWB is misleading or at least can lead to misunderstanding. It's a relationship, there's no getting away from that to my mind,if you just see the person as a masturbation aid then the word "friend" shouldn't be included
That’s exactly my thinking, if you are friends then there’s a relationship even if it’s not a traditional couple relationship."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Good morning Fabbers,
I had a long discussion with a male friend last evening about this (not on Fab) and wondering if sensual sex should only be saved for a proper relationship or does it happen also in fwb relationships? He thinks it’s for a proper relationships only.
Thoughts please as it’s got me thinking.
Do you have a fwb and do you have sensual sex with them?
Please answer in the thread only.
Thank you, Bhubaysi x
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I like the full mix, but really love a good sensual session. Even if it’s only a one off. I find it far more intense and hot than just going at it for sex sake. |
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"Do you have a fwb and do you have sensual sex with them?
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Yes and yes. Because physically speaking, it's what works between us when together.
And that changes with our other... fwb's? Is that apostrophe right, doesn't look right, come on Monday coffee, kick in, good grief  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think the term FWB is misleading or at least can lead to misunderstanding. It's a relationship, there's no getting away from that to my mind,if you just see the person as a masturbation aid then the word "friend" shouldn't be included"
My thought as well. For me the “friend” part is important. I’ve talked to guys (not on fab) who think the “friend” part of FWB means you might have a conversation before you fuck, but to me a friend is someone you do things with, go out for dinner or a museum or whatever you do with friends, plus shagging.
As for the original question, I’m not really sure what counts as “sensual” sex but I can have both with the same person. I have to have kissing with sex, I don’t know if that counts as sensual vs fucking (I think it can be either!) so I wouldn’t ever have a meet without kissing. |
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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago
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What really caught me with my fwb was how sensual he was from the very first meet. I loved it.
Probably also why I’ve fallen in love with him too. 
But I enjoy sensual play more than anything. I was reading the thread about “bad meets” and I still cringe about the very few NSA cum-and-go meets I’ve had. I couldn’t do them again! |
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I don't think it should be for "proper" relationships only - I'm very affectionate with my non-sexual friends, so it would feel completely alien to me to not be affectionate with a sexual friend.
And other like a mixture of sensual and animalistic sex, just as I do when in a relationship. |
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For me sensuality is a big part of sex wether it’s with a FWB or somebody I’m in a relationship with. I struggle to get going with any form of sensual activity the animalistic sex usually follows I find |
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I’m not sure why some people are assuming that sensual sex = losing control and ‘catching’ intense feelings
The mist sensual sex I’ve had in the last few years was with an fwb from here and it was like that from the get go. That was just how it worked. Even more so than with guys I’ve actually been dating. It was just how it worked out in the bedroom and nothing beyond that |
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Interesting, I think the sexual chemistry will vary from person to person of course, I generally like sensuous sex, sometimes feel like more animalistic sex and catching feels is normal human behaviour, I just acknowledge that this or that particular person has a little extra something, then I try to forget about it and just be a gd lil swing partner, don't like feeling loved up lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Fuck me like you love me! We can both run in opposite directions once we're done, but I want sensual. Hard and pounding can be sensual too not just all the kissing and writhing  |
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