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I've had a few cuck meetings recently, they have been straight with some closeness.
I was not embarrassed or shy, it got me thinking could I take the next step.
I need advice on what I expect to happen, how should I approach others that are bi.
Is there anyone willing to break me in?  |
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A friend of mine asked me this a few years ago, thinking that I would suggest with me I think.
I directed him to the local cruising spots and told him to try oral, either way, first. He did and found that he liked tasting cum.
He is now fully bi, but I still have never been with him. When I dressed he wanted to, but I just never saw him that way. |
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I know for certain that I'm straight so I'm guessing (but not certain) that you can't choose to become bi. You either feel that you'd like to engage sexually with a man or you don't. Are you interested to find out what it would feel like to do certain things with men? |
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"I know for certain that I'm straight so I'm guessing (but not certain) that you can't choose to become bi. You either feel that you'd like to engage sexually with a man or you don't. Are you interested to find out what it would feel like to do certain things with men?"
I didn't realise I was bi until I was an adult, but I suppose I probably always was.
It's definitely not something you can make happen, but there does seem to be a subset of straight men who discover bisexuality later in life. |
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"Are you attracted to men and women?
You're at least bi curious.
Have you played with both men and women and liked it?
You're probably bi."
I suppose when I choose a couple I look at the guy, but it's not often he has pictures.
When I'm fucking his partner I'm wondering what he is doing, what he is thinking, and what would happen if his cock was touching me and how I was supposed to react.
I've never got hold of a guys cock.
Really don't know what to do in this situation. I need a couple willing to be patient with me |
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"I know for certain that I'm straight so I'm guessing (but not certain) that you can't choose to become bi. You either feel that you'd like to engage sexually with a man or you don't. Are you interested to find out what it would feel like to do certain things with men?
I didn't realise I was bi until I was an adult, but I suppose I probably always was.
It's definitely not something you can make happen, but there does seem to be a subset of straight men who discover bisexuality later in life."
And a subset of women who become bi when there husband decides they like it  .
I understand that sexuality can be fluid and straight at 30 doesn't mean straight at 40.
I was having a similar conversation with my dad which ended with me asking how he knew he was straight. |
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over a year ago
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It’s not easy to try your bi side. I am certain that I’m bi, I like looking at cock etc. But because I’ve not experienced a guy, I have to say I’m bi curious. Nobody wants someone who thinks they might be bi.
It’s a never ending circle |
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It entirely depends on what you feel the next step is OP. Bisexuality is being sexually attracted to more than one gender and you don’t have to enjoy any particular activity to qualify as Bi, it’s how you feel.
Personally I am attracted to men and women equally. I have had two serious relationships, one is with my lovely wife and previously I was in a relationship with a man.
If you have the desire to try being with another man whether it is in an MM or MMF situation just make sure that you communicate any limits you have, discuss what it is you want to try. Don’t put any pressure on yourself, sexual encounters don’t need to define you.
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"Are you attracted to men and women?
You're at least bi curious.
Have you played with both men and women and liked it?
You're probably bi.
I suppose when I choose a couple I look at the guy, but it's not often he has pictures.
When I'm fucking his partner I'm wondering what he is doing, what he is thinking, and what would happen if his cock was touching me and how I was supposed to react.
I've never got hold of a guys cock.
Really don't know what to do in this situation. I need a couple willing to be patient with me "
Find a guy you think you might be attracted to.
Have a conversation.
Might go nowhere. Might give you some answers though, dude.
G'luck on it either way, my man  |
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"I know for certain that I'm straight so I'm guessing (but not certain) that you can't choose to become bi. You either feel that you'd like to engage sexually with a man or you don't. Are you interested to find out what it would feel like to do certain things with men?
I didn't realise I was bi until I was an adult, but I suppose I probably always was.
It's definitely not something you can make happen, but there does seem to be a subset of straight men who discover bisexuality later in life.
And a subset of women who become bi when there husband decides they like it .
I understand that sexuality can be fluid and straight at 30 doesn't mean straight at 40.
I was having a similar conversation with my dad which ended with me asking how he knew he was straight. "
Yes, although I wonder if hetero-flexible in women is different again.
Realising I was bi was a big discovery for me. |
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I didn’t enjoy my first bi experience I was dressed sexually charged, but wasn’t really enjoying it. So for quite a few years I remained straight and had heterosexual sex, even dressed on occasion.
It wasn’t until a guy chatted me up in a club and kissed me, that I realised I actually needed to fancy the guy to get something from the experience.
Nobody can tell you what to do or how you’ll feel during or after. But life’s for living so don’t hold back if you want to try. |
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I think I I should add further expansion.
I'm not looking to be bi with just another guy. I want to see if I'm ok with sexual contact with a guy at the same time his partner is playing. So we can have fun as a 3some.
It's not full 1on1 male contact, more being comfortable with male, female, male. I've done a spit roast but not DP. You see where I'm going with this? |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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OP serious question - are you genuinely curious in sex with another man? Or is this perhaps a means to an end to meet couples?
The simple answer to your thread title is you can't "become" bi unless it's what you want, and if it's what you want you shouldn't need help to achieve it, you simply seek out people that are looking for the same things as you.
As for people "willing to break you in" - there will be I am sure people who would be happy to overlook your inexperience IF they find you to be someone they'd want to meet - no different from anyone else that might want to meet you, regardless of sexuality.
If you're serious about exploring that side of your sexuality, when they're open again I'd suggest visiting a club on a bi night - there's no pressure to play but it will enable you to see comfortable you are in that environment, and decide for yourself if it is for you. |
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"I've had a few cuck meetings recently, they have been straight with some closeness.
I was not embarrassed or shy, it got me thinking could I take the next step.
I need advice on what I expect to happen, how should I approach others that are bi.
Is there anyone willing to break me in? "
I'd be careful banding the term 'break me in' about on here
You could end up with more than you'd bargained for  |
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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago
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"I think I I should add further expansion.
I'm not looking to be bi with just another guy. I want to see if I'm ok with sexual contact with a guy at the same time his partner is playing. So we can have fun as a 3some.
It's not full 1on1 male contact, more being comfortable with male, female, male. I've done a spit roast but not DP. You see where I'm going with this?"
So is this about being comfortable 'crossing swords' during play?
Or do you enjoy the contact during dvp? |
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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago
Chippenham Malmesbury area |
"I think I I should add further expansion.
I'm not looking to be bi with just another guy. I want to see if I'm ok with sexual contact with a guy at the same time his partner is playing. So we can have fun as a 3some.
It's not full 1on1 male contact, more being comfortable with male, female, male. I've done a spit roast but not DP. You see where I'm going with this?"
I'm confused OP. Is it just the "crossing of swords" aspect of a three some that you're referring to? In which case having close cock contact due to the nature of DP/DAP/DVP doesn't require you to be Bi not does it make you Bi. |
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I'm confused OP. Is it just the "crossing of swords" aspect of a three some that you're referring to? In which case having close cock contact due to the nature of DP/DAP/DVP doesn't require you to be Bi not does it make you Bi."
I think you have probably hit the nail.
Maybe I'm getting the wrong end of the stick .
I'm not looking to be fucked or want to fuck another guy. A bit of handling and sward crossing would be ok. So that's not being bi or needs to be bi? That's just part of the sexual activities? |
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There are no real boxes to tick if you feel ok around men then that is ok if you want to go further then try it , at that point you will know what your feelings and limits are and be comfortble knowing hiw you feel after all curiosity in all of us
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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I'm confused OP. Is it just the "crossing of swords" aspect of a three some that you're referring to? In which case having close cock contact due to the nature of DP/DAP/DVP doesn't require you to be Bi not does it make you Bi.
I think you have probably hit the nail.
Maybe I'm getting the wrong end of the stick .
I'm not looking to be fucked or want to fuck another guy. A bit of handling and sward crossing would be ok. So that's not being bi or needs to be bi? That's just part of the sexual activities?"
Close contact with another cock during DP/DVP wouldn't make you bi no, handling another cock for sexual gratification of him or you however would.
Touching one to "re-position" wouldn't necessarily make you bi though.
It doesn't actually sound me like you're even curious, just confused by the thought of potential contact with another during essentially a hetero act |
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It doesn't actually sound me like you're even curious, just confused by the thought of potential contact with another during essentially a hetero act "
I think that's it. As this hasn't happened so far, I should just take this in my stride and not think of it as a bi sexual necessity.
I've never thought of myself as bi, you would think at 73 I would know, I'm sure I do, I'm not bi. Strange that I'm interested in what it's like to hold another's hard cock, even if it is, as you say, to reposition it. |
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You can’t “become” bi, you’re either attracted to more than one gender or you’re not. If you’re not, that doesn’t mean you can’t play with people of the same gender if you and they want to, for example in a threesome situation. But I don’t think you’ll magically become attracted to them if you’re not. |
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Easy and harder ways to try something. Explore the easier ways, once you have thought which specific things you may enjoy.
Trying something once gives an indication but we can all have better pr less matched partners for everything.
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"I think I I should add further expansion.
I'm not looking to be bi with just another guy. I want to see if I'm ok with sexual contact with a guy at the same time his partner is playing. So we can have fun as a 3some.
It's not full 1on1 male contact, more being comfortable with male, female, male. I've done a spit roast but not DP. You see where I'm going with this?"
When I commented yesterday, I didn’t have time to read the whole thread so just gave my initial thoughts, so I hadn’t seen this addition. It seems to me that you aren’t (and don’t need to be) bi or even curious for what you describe. Obviously I’m not straight, so can’t answer for straight people, but I think what you (and the other man in this scenario) need is just to be comfortable and secure in yourself.
Many men are uncomfortable in such situations because they think “if our dicks touch it’ll make me gay”, but incidental physical contact with a man when you’re both having sex with the same woman isn’t gay or even bi, it’s just contact and means nothing. Of course, you don’t know how you’ll feel until it happens, but I don’t think you have anything to worry about. Just be upfront with the couple and say you want to try things like DP/DVP but you haven’t done it yet and don’t yet know how you’ll feel about incidental contact. Don’t worry about trying to be bi though, it isn’t necessary and I’m sure you’ll feel better if you’re not trying to force yourself to be something you’re not. Just be confident in yourself and you’ll be fine. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"I think I I should add further expansion.
I'm not looking to be bi with just another guy. I want to see if I'm ok with sexual contact with a guy at the same time his partner is playing. So we can have fun as a 3some.
It's not full 1on1 male contact, more being comfortable with male, female, male. I've done a spit roast but not DP. You see where I'm going with this?
When I commented yesterday, I didn’t have time to read the whole thread so just gave my initial thoughts, so I hadn’t seen this addition. It seems to me that you aren’t (and don’t need to be) bi or even curious for what you describe. Obviously I’m not straight, so can’t answer for straight people, but I think what you (and the other man in this scenario) need is just to be comfortable and secure in yourself.
Many men are uncomfortable in such situations because they think “if our dicks touch it’ll make me gay”, but incidental physical contact with a man when you’re both having sex with the same woman isn’t gay or even bi, it’s just contact and means nothing. Of course, you don’t know how you’ll feel until it happens, but I don’t think you have anything to worry about. Just be upfront with the couple and say you want to try things like DP/DVP but you haven’t done it yet and don’t yet know how you’ll feel about incidental contact. Don’t worry about trying to be bi though, it isn’t necessary and I’m sure you’ll feel better if you’re not trying to force yourself to be something you’re not. Just be confident in yourself and you’ll be fine."
Spot on as usual, the only slight caveat I'd add is suggesting it might be best not to raise the idea of wanting to try DP/DVP with any couple, rather wait for them to suggest it if it's something they're open to - raising it as a single guy with people you don't know may well lead to raised eyebrows and possibly rejection. |
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When I commented yesterday, I didn’t have time to read the whole thread so just gave my initial thoughts, so I hadn’t seen this addition. It seems to me that you aren’t (and don’t need to be) bi or even curious for what you describe. Obviously I’m not straight, so can’t answer for straight people, but I think what you (and the other man in this scenario) need is just to be comfortable and secure in yourself.
Many men are uncomfortable in such situations because they think “if our dicks touch it’ll make me gay”, but incidental physical contact with a man when you’re both having sex with the same woman isn’t gay or even bi, it’s just contact and means nothing. Of course, you don’t know how you’ll feel until it happens, but I don’t think you have anything to worry about. Just be upfront with the couple and say you want to try things like DP/DVP but you haven’t done it yet and don’t yet know how you’ll feel about incidental contact. Don’t worry about trying to be bi though, it isn’t necessary and I’m sure you’ll feel better if you’re not trying to force yourself to be something you’re not. Just be confident in yourself and you’ll be fine.
Spot on as usual, the only slight caveat I'd add is suggesting it might be best not to raise the idea of wanting to try DP/DVP with any couple, rather wait for them to suggest it if it's something they're open to - raising it as a single guy with people you don't know may well lead to raised eyebrows and possibly rejection."
Fair point, I was just thinking in terms of being open about a lack of experience, but of course DP and DVP aren’t what everyone wants by any means. |
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I am always thankful for comments about the posts I put on the forum.
Thank you all for resolving a problem I have been conjuring with for a while.
I am not bi, not going to become bi. Just going to take any male sexual contact in my stride
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