“SLUT” or other words to describe a women who enjoys multiple sexual partners!, How do you personally feel about this word?! to do you feed it is derogatory or degrading to women, do you feel should not be used? or do you see as a badge of honour or something to be celebrated! please discuss And let me know your feelings can be quite an incendiary word but bear in mind the context of where we are using it!, on a swingers site!
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over a year ago
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It’s only hot if the woman likes being called it and it turns her on, obviously you need dialogue first, you just can’t just say it without testing the water first. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I’m not keen on it. I had a partner who kept calling me filthy slut and in the end I had to go nope we need to negotiate something else as I roll my eyes every time he said it. We have a Ds dynamic. I told him to call me fuck toy... I weirdly like that  |
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over a year ago
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"It’s only hot if the woman likes being called it and it turns her on, obviously you need dialogue first, you just can’t just say it without testing the water first."
This 
Again as with other kinks we shouldn't judge those who like it.
I like to be called a slut whilst in bed as it's naughty.
But it doesn't mean I'm a 'slut' in real life |
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"It’s only hot if the woman likes being called it and it turns her on, obviously you need dialogue first, you just can’t just say it without testing the water first.
This
Again as with other kinks we shouldn't judge those who like it.
I like to be called a slut whilst in bed as it's naughty.
But it doesn't mean I'm a 'slut' in real life "
Like this one here, she's my slut!! |
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over a year ago
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"Its just a label, different people will take it different ways and use it in different contexts.
I have sex with a variety of men and am happy to label myself as a slut  "
Did you have your slut t-shirt on for the boiler repair man |
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"Its just a label, different people will take it different ways and use it in different contexts.
I have sex with a variety of men and am happy to label myself as a slut
Did you have your slut t-shirt on for the boiler repair man"
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"Its just a label, different people will take it different ways and use it in different contexts.
I have sex with a variety of men and am happy to label myself as a slut
Did you have your slut t-shirt on for the boiler repair man"
No I was definitely unaroused by him
But the locksmith 2 doors down was ooft  |
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"Its just a label, different people will take it different ways and use it in different contexts.
I have sex with a variety of men and am happy to label myself as a slut
Did you have your slut t-shirt on for the boiler repair man
No I was definitely unaroused by him
But the locksmith 2 doors down was ooft "
Slut!
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"Its just a label, different people will take it different ways and use it in different contexts.
I have sex with a variety of men and am happy to label myself as a slut
Did you have your slut t-shirt on for the boiler repair man
No I was definitely unaroused by him
But the locksmith 2 doors down was ooft "
Could he read the t-shirt from there? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I see it a lot in people's statuses, "Where the sluts at?" and it makes me cringe. But I don't like terms like "cougar" or "milf" which get banded around older females. I just like sex and don't know why I have to fit into a category or wear a label because of that. |
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Again this falls down to interpretation and how different words have different meanings in the sex world.
It's a bit like the Daddy thread the other day.
A slut can be someone who shags 3 different people each day.
But for me, when I'm called a slut I interpret it as I'm a kinky fukka in bed who does dirty stuff. |
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"“SLUT” or other words to describe a women who enjoys multiple sexual partners!, How do you personally feel about this word?! to do you feed it is derogatory or degrading to women, do you feel should not be used? or do you see as a badge of honour or something to be celebrated! please discuss And let me know your feelings can be quite an incendiary word but bear in mind the context of where we are using it!, on a swingers site!
Ben x"
Hey! We men can be sluts too...my mother called me one all the time after she caught me with a couple in her home when I was a young man  |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I like it in the right situation with the right person saying it - context is important. It's a bit, erm... freeing? Not the sort of language someone would use to describe me nor the way I act day to day so it's kind of sexy to me. |
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I once attended a funeral in a work capacity
The two ladies stood in front of me were both wearing black bomber jackets with 'Sluts on tour' embroidered across the back
I did have a  moment
I assume it was an 'in joke' amongst the guys friends
I hope so anyway |
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"I once attended a funeral in a work capacity
The two ladies stood in front of me were both wearing black bomber jackets with 'Sluts on tour' embroidered across the back
I did have a moment
I assume it was an 'in joke' amongst the guys friends
I hope so anyway "
And we’re they or not the time and place to find out
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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"I once attended a funeral in a work capacity
The two ladies stood in front of me were both wearing black bomber jackets with 'Sluts on tour' embroidered across the back
I did have a moment
I assume it was an 'in joke' amongst the guys friends
I hope so anyway "
Ah you know what it’s like.
Funeral. Nothing black to wear. You go through your wardrobe and find that black jacket from Suzies hen party in Scotland in 2006.
“Nobody will notice” you tell yourself ......
We’ve all been there |
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slut = an untidy woman or a woman who does not clean the home, someone who is 'dirty'.
The 'dirty' has become associated with sex.
Do I like the word NO.
It's not that I mind about it being derogatory , there's a place for it in some people's sex lives.
The reason I do not like it is the connotation that women who enjoy sex are deviant and dirty and that it's okay to mistreat 'sluts' or even that sex itself is dirty.
Labels like 'slut' give an excuse to the men who think it's okay to harm sex workers or put down women who openly admit to enjoying sex, especially if the man is rejected. |
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"I once attended a funeral in a work capacity
The two ladies stood in front of me were both wearing black bomber jackets with 'Sluts on tour' embroidered across the back
I did have a moment
I assume it was an 'in joke' amongst the guys friends
I hope so anyway
Ah you know what it’s like.
Funeral. Nothing black to wear. You go through your wardrobe and find that black jacket from Suzies hen party in Scotland in 2006.
“Nobody will notice” you tell yourself ......
We’ve all been there "
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By * Plus ECouple
over a year ago
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"“SLUT” or other words to describe a women who enjoys multiple sexual partners!, How do you personally feel about this word?! to do you feed it is derogatory or degrading to women, do you feel should not be used? or do you see as a badge of honour or something to be celebrated! please discuss And let me know your feelings can be quite an incendiary word but bear in mind the context of where we are using it!, on a swingers site!
Ben x"
Context is everything.
There's a time and a place and there's an intent.
My first message from M every morning is "Good morning my lovely sexy slut" In this context it's fine.
If a first message from a total stranger was along the lines of "I'd love to f*ck a slut like you", it's not fine.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hate the word
Why call a woman that just because she like a lot of sex
If is ok for men it’s ok for women too
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See my reply earlier, it's about interpretation |
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"We like the word if used in a nice way. "
That made me smile....... What is the 'nice' way?
Oh Granny you funny old slut you!
Granny you lovely little old slut!
You are such a slut sitting there in your armchair slutting away like a sluttity slut........
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"“SLUT” or other words to describe a women who enjoys multiple sexual partners!, How do you personally feel about this word?! to do you feed it is derogatory or degrading to women, do you feel should not be used? or do you see as a badge of honour or something to be celebrated! please discuss And let me know your feelings can be quite an incendiary word but bear in mind the context of where we are using it!, on a swingers site!
Ben x"
Does being on a swingers site mean I have to feel differently about a word than if I was on a cookery site?
With anything like this I always think a person should ask themselves "would I be ok with someone calling a much loved female relative a "slut", in any context?"
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I'm a slut and don't mind admitting it. But people should be careful if and how they say it to me, it can be quite offensive, but fine in some contexts xx |
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Slut is a perfectly acceptable word to use in certain circles. Language evolves and slut is one of the words that's been reclaimed over the years.
Much like 'queer' which used to be a derogatory term, but has been reclaimed by the gay community - slut is slowly becoming the same.
If you use a term enough as a positive, it will become just that. It's not even gender-specific anymore, and can and is used to describe men as well as women or anyone non-binary as well.
Fabswingers is full of people using these words as negative terms of abuse, but we have a responsibility to use them positively. |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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I don't like the word doesn't matter if I am on a swingers site or not.I personally find it derogatory and always find it ironic that guys think it's okay to call a woman it because they are on here but seem to conviently forget that they are on here as well so have no right to take the moral high ground. |
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Depends who says it and in what context. A stranger in a random message, no way. Not acceptable
Behind closed doors in an intimate situation with someone I know well, trust and have a connection with hell yes.
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I really don't like it at all.
Its derogatory and to me its used to belittle a woman who enjoys multiple partners and doesn't have an equivalent word for men who are never looked at in a bad way comparably.
I don’t like it when its used to described one's self either as a friend found out when she used it to describe herself to me once....she won't be doing it again thats for sure |
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"“SLUT” or other words to describe a women who enjoys multiple sexual partners!, How do you personally feel about this word?! to do you feed it is derogatory or degrading to women, do you feel should not be used? or do you see as a badge of honour or something to be celebrated! please discuss And let me know your feelings can be quite an incendiary word but bear in mind the context of where we are using it!, on a swingers site!
Ben x"
The “context” of using it on a swinging site makes no difference. I absolutely hate it. Men often message me calling me a slut, I report them for abuse and block them. Are men who enjoy multiple partners referred to in such derogatory terms? No. So why should we be? |
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"I once attended a funeral in a work capacity
The two ladies stood in front of me were both wearing black bomber jackets with 'Sluts on tour' embroidered across the back
I did have a moment
I assume it was an 'in joke' amongst the guys friends
I hope so anyway "
I am updating my funeral requirements to make it mandatory for people to wear tshirts with that on. |
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"Slut is a perfectly acceptable word to use in certain circles. Language evolves and slut is one of the words that's been reclaimed over the years.
Much like 'queer' which used to be a derogatory term, but has been reclaimed by the gay community - slut is slowly becoming the same.
If you use a term enough as a positive, it will become just that. It's not even gender-specific anymore, and can and is used to describe men as well as women or anyone non-binary as well.
Fabswingers is full of people using these words as negative terms of abuse, but we have a responsibility to use them positively."
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