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I have a question for all of you who's inbox is overflowing.
Sometimes I will read a profile and think that I would really get along with someone. I will construct a personal message and include a nice photo or two but it never even gets opened!
What makes a message stand out? What makes you pick one from the pile?
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"They look, they just press unread again so blokes don’t message saying you read but never replied and get abusive. "
I would prefer to know they weren't interested rather than that they never even looked! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"They look, they just press unread again so blokes don’t message saying you read but never replied and get abusive. "
Rejection is horrible but to follow with abuse is disturbing. Get a grip fellas |
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"They look, they just press unread again so blokes don’t message saying you read but never replied and get abusive.
Rejection is horrible but to follow with abuse is disturbing. Get a grip fellas"
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By *dhollieTV/TS
over a year ago
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I get lots of abuse in my inbox especially from all the “straight” fellas messaging I try to be polite by pointing out they aren’t actually looking for my type just women and couples , usually ends up with them giving me some abuse . |
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over a year ago
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I don’t read every message. If I see it consists of “how r u” then it gets deleted, same with “let’s fuck” or similar.
If I can see they have read my profile I’m more likely to open it.
I also usually check out their profiles before opening a message. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don’t read every message. If I see it consists of “how r u” then it gets deleted, same with “let’s fuck” or similar.
If I can see they have read my profile I’m more likely to open it.
I also usually check out their profiles before opening a message."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If the message says "how are you" or "hi" or "nice c**t" I just move on.
I'm more likely to open it if:
*He's local
*He's got a sexy profile pic
*He's articulate (even from the first line you can tell lol)
*He hasn't sent it when I've got a photo at the top of hot pics. It's pointless messaging me then, I'm swamped. Better to message the next day lol. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"It's interesting that your title can be so crucial! I bet there are lots of people who miss people they would get on with. The needle gets lost in the haystack. "
But that's life generally - if it wasn't we'd have all found our perfect partners and be happily living our lives - life is a series of sliding doors moments and Fab is no different, and whilst you might think you're the perfect match for that person who didn't read or reply to your message, they may have a very different view and not feel the same. |
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"It's interesting that your title can be so crucial! I bet there are lots of people who miss people they would get on with. The needle gets lost in the haystack.
But that's life generally - if it wasn't we'd have all found our perfect partners and be happily living our lives - life is a series of sliding doors moments and Fab is no different, and whilst you might think you're the perfect match for that person who didn't read or reply to your message, they may have a very different view and not feel the same."
I'm sure I am not perfect for people but just find it interesting that they would never know. They probably sneak a peak and make up their mind from the profile picture. Oh well! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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People that say they don't read messages are telling fibs.
Even with 50 messages it only takes minutes to read as most of them say
"Hi howz you "
So it's easy to quickly delete the ones you aren't going to reply to and click the ones you might reply to as unread.
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"It's interesting that your title can be so crucial! I bet there are lots of people who miss people they would get on with. The needle gets lost in the haystack.
But that's life generally - if it wasn't we'd have all found our perfect partners and be happily living our lives - life is a series of sliding doors moments and Fab is no different, and whilst you might think you're the perfect match for that person who didn't read or reply to your message, they may have a very different view and not feel the same.
I'm sure I am not perfect for people but just find it interesting that they would never know. They probably sneak a peak and make up their mind from the profile picture. Oh well! "
It's the same for girls messaging men or other girls as well... I contacted cucumber girl the other day and agonised for ages over what to put so that she'd see it in the sea of mail and then open and reply |
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"I have a question for all of you who's inbox is overflowing.
Sometimes I will read a profile and think that I would really get along with someone. I will construct a personal message and include a nice photo or two but it never even gets opened!
What makes a message stand out? What makes you pick one from the pile?
Thanks. "
I have a look at the profile first , if it's not what I'm looking for ... I delete without reading .
I also glance a the location and if's a 3 hour trip , it's just not going to happen so I delete . |
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"They look, they just press unread again so blokes don’t message saying you read but never replied and get abusive.
I would prefer to know they weren't interested rather than that they never even looked! "
They probably looked at your profile and decided that whatever the messages says is irrelevant as your profile shows you are not right for them. For whatever reason that may be.
Message just gets deleted.
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"People that say they don't read messages are telling fibs.
Even with 50 messages it only takes minutes to read as most of them say
"Hi howz you "
So it's easy to quickly delete the ones you aren't going to reply to and click the ones you might reply to as unread.
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If it says hi howz u I can read it without opening it  |
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"It's interesting that your title can be so crucial! I bet there are lots of people who miss people they would get on with. The needle gets lost in the haystack.
But that's life generally - if it wasn't we'd have all found our perfect partners and be happily living our lives - life is a series of sliding doors moments and Fab is no different, and whilst you might think you're the perfect match for that person who didn't read or reply to your message, they may have a very different view and not feel the same.
I'm sure I am not perfect for people but just find it interesting that they would never know. They probably sneak a peak and make up their mind from the profile picture. Oh well!
It's the same for girls messaging men or other girls as well... I contacted cucumber girl the other day and agonised for ages over what to put so that she'd see it in the sea of mail and then open and reply "
Did you get a response? X |
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"People that say they don't read messages are telling fibs.
Even with 50 messages it only takes minutes to read as most of them say
"Hi howz you "
So it's easy to quickly delete the ones you aren't going to reply to and click the ones you might reply to as unread.
If it says hi howz u I can read it without opening it "
Of course
But that means you've already read it and can delete it  |
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"I have a question for all of you who's inbox is overflowing.
Sometimes I will read a profile and think that I would really get along with someone. I will construct a personal message and include a nice photo or two but it never even gets opened!
What makes a message stand out? What makes you pick one from the pile?
Thanks.
I have a look at the profile first , if it's not what I'm looking for ... I delete without reading .
I also glance a the location and if's a 3 hour trip , it's just not going to happen so I delete ."
At least if it is deleted that gives an idea even if it hasn't achieved the desired outcome. It shows as deleted. |
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"It's interesting that your title can be so crucial! I bet there are lots of people who miss people they would get on with. The needle gets lost in the haystack.
But that's life generally - if it wasn't we'd have all found our perfect partners and be happily living our lives - life is a series of sliding doors moments and Fab is no different, and whilst you might think you're the perfect match for that person who didn't read or reply to your message, they may have a very different view and not feel the same.
I'm sure I am not perfect for people but just find it interesting that they would never know. They probably sneak a peak and make up their mind from the profile picture. Oh well!
It's the same for girls messaging men or other girls as well... I contacted cucumber girl the other day and agonised for ages over what to put so that she'd see it in the sea of mail and then open and reply
Did you get a response? X"
I did! I was very excited  |
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