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"i was out having a coffee yesterday in bermaw (barmouth. Normally things dont give me a reason to see red and almost say something but there was 2 girls about 22-25 both with kids and was bragging about how the system works for them and how they get help like a flat and support yet they cant be bothered to get a job!!! ( yep one actually said it) the few people who was close by shook their heads in disbelief at that comment like i did and took all my will power to not call them a scrounger. has this society got to the point now that some people are happy not to work and pay there way in society. I work damm hard to get what i earn and i enjoy working and i know the benefits system wouldn't be able to pay me what i am accustomed to (but least i admit that) just wondering about this would u be happy not working and claiming from the government without a care in the world? ( and please dont give me shit about the mothers are looking after the kids) as i have single mothers as friends and they do full time work so its very possible " Drives me up the wall - even more than fuel prices, lousy weather and reality TV. Makes me want to move abroad sometimes where folk have no choice but to work!! | |||
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"its not that im having a go _ummy mummy at all just pissed me off that two women could say that and be so blatant " Oh, I know you weren't...they piss me off as well...the last time I went to the jobcentre for an appointment I made when my boss said she would be able to give me over 16hrs, they gave me an appointment at the local surestart centre and I was sat there waiting with a bunch of teen mums who were having pretty much the same conversation and it took all my being not to comment( especially when one realised that she had forgotten to pack her baby's formula-but had remembered her iphone and to do her ton and a half of makeup and don her uggs..)I was so thrilled to finally be able to move one step closer to independence that I called them to see what it meant would change etc. Sadly due to a bit of bad luck my boss can not give me 16 hrs now...not really any hours now when I really want it and need it as my twins turned 5 last month so the income support stopped. On top of the getting called a scrounger I also get the "damn foreigner" speech about me coming over and scrounger...when I was working within a week of coming here 8 1/2 years ago and worked between having my kids...was just dealt a bad hand when the ex decided to leave when the twins were 4 months old and my son was 2. | |||
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"would be difficult for them to work with babies if theyre single parents but wouldnt be bragging about things " nurseries and creches, working tax credits, part time work etc if someone WANTS to work they will find a way | |||
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"How about single parents rather than single mothers, was a sinlge parent for many a year now kids all grown up, still have one at home, it always poor old single mothers, or mums this, mums that, it just rattles my cage and has done for many a year how women have cried on about this as if its an exclusive club Gets off soap box and off to work" ok i dont like single dads on the dole either | |||
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"i was out having a coffee yesterday in bermaw (barmouth. Normally things dont give me a reason to see red and almost say something but there was 2 girls about 22-25 both with kids and was bragging about how the system works for them and how they get help like a flat and support yet they cant be bothered to get a job!!! ( yep one actually said it) the few people who was close by shook their heads in disbelief at that comment like i did and took all my will power to not call them a scrounger. has this society got to the point now that some people are happy not to work and pay there way in society. I work damm hard to get what i earn and i enjoy working and i know the benefits system wouldn't be able to pay me what i am accustomed to (but least i admit that) just wondering about this would u be happy not working and claiming from the government without a care in the world? ( and please dont give me shit about the mothers are looking after the kids) as i have single mothers as friends and they do full time work so its very possible " Some people will always try and screw the system. They think their pussy is a slot machine and babies and nothing more than £20 notes. Sad really as that's not what parenting is all about. | |||
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"can i just say ive worked from 16 up until my maternity leave back in december 09, ive loved every single minute of being a single parent, and glad i've watched my baby girl grow and develop. " dont think this thread is suggesting that EVERY single parent is bad, just those who use their womb as a money making scheme. There are tonnes of single parents who dont fall into the above category, who work or have worked hard to support their family | |||
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"can i just say ive worked from 16 up until my maternity leave back in december 09, ive loved every single minute of being a single parent, and glad i've watched my baby girl grow and develop. " HERE HERE!!! As it is possible, within our society to have such periods in our lives. xx | |||
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"Threads like these should not be on a swinging site - many of the comments on here - when your not in the same situations as these single parents you speak off!!" why I have a family member who is a single mum of 2 wee ones aged 5 and 3, I can see her struggle daily with them, I have nothing but complete respect for what she does.... I bloody couldn't do it. The dad is no where to be seen, pays nothing, she gets the appropriate benefit following full consideration of her salary for 2 days work in a contact centre 60 miles round trip away. she doesn't have a minute to herself... | |||
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"Most people on here have or is still claiming benefits. Think before u answer no I'm not claiming benefits . " wish at times we are on benefits, we might be better off lol | |||
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"Threads like these should not be on a swinging site - many of the comments on here - when your not in the same situations as these single parents you speak off!! why I have a family member who is a single mum of 2 wee ones aged 5 and 3, I can see her struggle daily with them, I have nothing but complete respect for what she does.... I bloody couldn't do it. The dad is no where to be seen, pays nothing, she gets the appropriate benefit following full consideration of her salary for 2 days work in a contact centre 60 miles round trip away. she doesn't have a minute to herself..." I am in a similar situ - u must have missed my huge spread above lol... x | |||
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"there are lots of single parents out there that maybe not by choice are now classed and tarnished with that image,quite a few have been left in that situation by there so called BF/ Husbands who think the grass is greener on the other side. don't judge a book by its cover spring to mind" Exactly! I had a five bedroom architect designed house, a thriving architects practice a lovely man and happy family. A careless driver wiped all that away in one deft stroke. My partner killed, I had to fold the business, eventually sell the house and move to a smaller place. But for the grace of God go others. | |||
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"Threads like these should not be on a swinging site - many of the comments on here - when your not in the same situations as these single parents you speak off!!" Can I suggest that you read the OP again. the thread was started in response to an overheard conversation, not as a general downer on single parents. | |||
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"Most people on here have or is still claiming benefits. Think before u answer no I'm not claiming benefits . wish at times we are on benefits, we might be better off lol" uhave kids? If u did u had benifits , if u r over 60 u get benifits all of us have had benifits over the years, y the government have no money is simple let to many scrounges in who have six to eight kids can't speak English won't work but then again we can't talk about them can we? That's why. I'm saving my money to send my kids to Australia better life for them there to late for us but not for them | |||
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"While i applaud all the single, working mothers on here, who haven't taken a penny in benefits but would rather get back to work asap, bravo!!! BUT....aren't you missing out on the bigger picture here?? These are your kids most informative years, when they and you bond together! If you choose to go straight back to work and drop your kids off at the nursery/childminders thats your choice! Other mothers may choose to take time off work and bond with/bring up their kids instead of handing them over and then complaining they don't get enough child tax to cover the cost of a rtranger looking after them! Each to their own i say!! " Are you feeling and having a stir? | |||
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"While i applaud all the single, working mothers on here, who haven't taken a penny in benefits but would rather get back to work asap, bravo!!! BUT....aren't you missing out on the bigger picture here?? These are your kids most informative years, when they and you bond together! If you choose to go straight back to work and drop your kids off at the nursery/childminders thats your choice! Other mothers may choose to take time off work and bond with/bring up their kids instead of handing them over and then complaining they don't get enough child tax to cover the cost of a rtranger looking after them! Each to their own i say!! " so u saying these mothers who work don't take benifits ? | |||
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"While i applaud all the single, working mothers on here, who haven't taken a penny in benefits but would rather get back to work asap, bravo!!! BUT....aren't you missing out on the bigger picture here?? These are your kids most informative years, when they and you bond together! If you choose to go straight back to work and drop your kids off at the nursery/childminders thats your choice! Other mothers may choose to take time off work and bond with/bring up their kids instead of handing them over and then complaining they don't get enough child tax to cover the cost of a rtranger looking after them! Each to their own i say!! " in an ideal world i would agree, but in the real world most parents can not afford to to take time off or not work at all, the day's of 1 wage in a family was enough to live on has well gone | |||
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"While i applaud all the single, working mothers on here, who haven't taken a penny in benefits but would rather get back to work asap, bravo!!! BUT....aren't you missing out on the bigger picture here?? These are your kids most informative years, when they and you bond together! If you choose to go straight back to work and drop your kids off at the nursery/childminders thats your choice! Other mothers may choose to take time off work and bond with/bring up their kids instead of handing them over and then complaining they don't get enough child tax to cover the cost of a rtranger looking after them! Each to their own i say!! so u saying these mothers who work don't take benifits ? " nope! I'm saying each to their own! Some choose to work and make money to bring up their kids, some chose to take time off and spend time with their kids!! Its pretty self explanatory really!! | |||
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""What is happening to our young people? They disrespect their elders, they disobey their parents. They ignore the law. They riot in the streets inflamed with wild notions. Their morals are decaying. What is to become of them?" - Plato 423-347 BC" blame the parents | |||
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"What's it got to do with u? If that's there life sod all to do with" That's where you are wrong! The money they get is paid for by the taxpayer, in other words you and me. Fine if they want to live that life if they can afford to pay for it themselves. I am not talking about the genuine people who can't work, or the mothers who want to stay at home with their children, I have no problem with that at all. | |||
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"Threads like these should not be on a swinging site - many of the comments on here - when your not in the same situations as these single parents you speak off!! Can I suggest that you read the OP again. the thread was started in response to an overheard conversation, not as a general downer on single parents." ''just wondering about this would u be happy not working and claiming from the government without a care in the world? ( and please dont give me shit about the mothers are looking after the kids) as i have single mothers as friends and they do full time work so its very possible'' This does infact suggest that what i have spoken off - is indeedy her _iew over all.... If you read the spec again... | |||
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"i was out having a coffee yesterday in bermaw (barmouth. Normally things dont give me a reason to see red and almost say something but there was 2 girls about 22-25 both with kids and was bragging about how the system works for them and how they get help like a flat and support yet they cant be bothered to get a job!!! ( yep one actually said it) the few people who was close by shook their heads in disbelief at that comment like i did and took all my will power to not call them a scrounger. has this society got to the point now that some people are happy not to work and pay there way in society. I work damm hard to get what i earn and i enjoy working and i know the benefits system wouldn't be able to pay me what i am accustomed to (but least i admit that) just wondering about this would u be happy not working and claiming from the government without a care in the world? ( and please dont give me shit about the mothers are looking after the kids) as i have single mothers as friends and they do full time work so its very possible " you sound like a tory lol If some people live on benefits and enjoy then that is sad,and maybe there are a lot of issues i.e. ignorance to what education and work can do for a person.Personally I'm more concerned about the people at the top robbing us,tax dodgers and bankers etc. | |||
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"What's it got to do with u? If that's there life sod all to do with That's where you are wrong! The money they get is paid for by the taxpayer, in other words you and me. Fine if they want to live that life if they can afford to pay for it themselves. I am not talking about the genuine people who can't work, or the mothers who want to stay at home with their children, I have no problem with that at all." i do if you have kids you should work for them I would have sooner stayed at home with my kids but i gave birth to them so i worked to privide for them What would happen if all mums decided not to work and stay home to look after their kids for 18 years I work hard to provide for my kids why should i provide for theirs too | |||
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"While i applaud all the single, working mothers on here, who haven't taken a penny in benefits but would rather get back to work asap, bravo!!! BUT....aren't you missing out on the bigger picture here?? These are your kids most informative years, when they and you bond together! If you choose to go straight back to work and drop your kids off at the nursery/childminders thats your choice! Other mothers may choose to take time off work and bond with/bring up their kids instead of handing them over and then complaining they don't get enough child tax to cover the cost of a rtranger looking after them! Each to their own i say!! " | |||
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"Mums have to return to work by a childs 7th birthday" U better return to me bed | |||
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"love how so many people are missing the point of the OP and geting all defensive about raising their children. no one has said you dont have the right to raise your child. what has been argued is that SOME single parents use their children as paycheques with no intention of paying back into the system. To al those single parents who have returned to work and managed to look after their children, you are a credit and a great role model to your children." (still wearing my had hat) agreed | |||
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"love how so many people are missing the point of the OP and geting all defensive about raising their children. no one has said you dont have the right to raise your child. what has been argued is that SOME single parents use their children as paycheques with no intention of paying back into the system. To al those single parents who have returned to work and managed to look after their children, you are a credit and a great role model to your children." | |||
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"What's it got to do with u? If that's there life sod all to do with That's where you are wrong! The money they get is paid for by the taxpayer, in other words you and me. Fine if they want to live that life if they can afford to pay for it themselves. I am not talking about the genuine people who can't work, or the mothers who want to stay at home with their children, I have no problem with that at all. i do if you have kids you should work for them I would have sooner stayed at home with my kids but i gave birth to them so i worked to privide for them What would happen if all mums decided not to work and stay home to look after their kids for 18 years I work hard to provide for my kids why should i provide for theirs too " Ok, that came out wrong, I agree with you, after the first year they should at least try to support themselves and not rely on the taxpayer. My wife stayed at home with the children because I could afford it, she got heavily involved with the NCT, PTA etc. so she wasn't sitting on her butt and didn't claim a penny. | |||
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"What's it got to do with u? If that's there life sod all to do with That's where you are wrong! The money they get is paid for by the taxpayer, in other words you and me. Fine if they want to live that life if they can afford to pay for it themselves. I am not talking about the genuine people who can't work, or the mothers who want to stay at home with their children, I have no problem with that at all. i do if you have kids you should work for them I would have sooner stayed at home with my kids but i gave birth to them so i worked to privide for them What would happen if all mums decided not to work and stay home to look after their kids for 18 years I work hard to provide for my kids why should i provide for theirs too Ok, that came out wrong, I agree with you, after the first year they should at least try to support themselves and not rely on the taxpayer. My wife stayed at home with the children because I could afford it, she got heavily involved with the NCT, PTA etc. so she wasn't sitting on her butt and didn't claim a penny." Thats different tho, there are lots of families where the mum stays at home and looks after the kids while dad goes out to work, thats not classed as being unemplyed to me because as a family unit they are still earning their own living | |||
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""What is happening to our young people? They disrespect their elders, they disobey their parents. They ignore the law. They riot in the streets inflamed with wild notions. Their morals are decaying. What is to become of them?" - Plato 423-347 BC" I suppose I fall into this group due to my age? I'm guessing when you were in you late teens early 20s your elders prob said the same. It's nothing to do with the youth it's to do with the up bringing you get in life. A lot of young people don't respect their parents because their parents didn't respect them enough to teach them manners and discipline. | |||
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"Scenario!! A single girl of 21 has a child, she decides to spend the childs formative years at home and BOND with her child!! I.E. The first 5-7 years! Now, according to all you (i work so should she) people out there, she is a scrounger!!! Haha, get a grip of real life folks, she chose to have a baby, to love and nurture said baby, not hand it into a childminders crib at the drop of a hat!!! Plus, how many of you working, single mothers get subsidised to work? Child tax credits?? Childcare tax credits?? " That is true, Tax credit are a subsidy and they do cost the state a lot of money, but there is an ideological reason behind that. A it's easier to get into work if you are working. Also if you are working you are contributing to the countries productivity (ie, adding to the total amount of work done). Tax credits were put in place to make work pay. When kids go to school I don't see any problem with women being able to go to work, incidentaly, I don't see any problem with kids going into a nursery or 'Childminders crib' as you call it....... | |||
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"Im not really inteterested in what others do but nothin gives me greater pleasure than seeing the kids opening their presents on xmas day and knowing the smiles on their faces are because we worked bloody hard to pay for it. The one thing that fooks me off , around here anyway, is a lot of the mothers who dont work for whatever reason refer to themselves as " full time mums" as if to imply that working mothers are only "part time" mothers " THAT'S what annoys me too. I wouldn't mind working and supporting women dumb and slack enough to be nothing but breeders if they shut the fuck up about being full time mums etc. These simpletons usually have the audacity to look down their noses of those of us supporting their life style choices. Those that have become single parents by death/divorce and end up on benefits seldom show disdain towards working mothers. | |||
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"Im not really inteterested in what others do but nothin gives me greater pleasure than seeing the kids opening their presents on xmas day and knowing the smiles on their faces are because we worked bloody hard to pay for it. The one thing that fooks me off , around here anyway, is a lot of the mothers who dont work for whatever reason refer to themselves as " full time mums" as if to imply that working mothers are only "part time" mothers THAT'S what annoys me too. I wouldn't mind working and supporting women dumb and slack enough to be nothing but breeders if they shut the fuck up about being full time mums etc. These simpletons usually have the audacity to look down their noses of those of us supporting their life style choices. Those that have become single parents by death/divorce and end up on benefits seldom show disdain towards working mothers. " | |||
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"Bring back national service when teenagers leave school. They will learn respect and a trade.. Then we might teach the next generation of adults to work.... " I agree now that I am too old for it.. | |||
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"so in order to be a great role model to a child you have to work? " no but have an intent to, circumstances may be that: you may be financially secure you don't need to or trying to get work to no avail but instilling a work ethic to your offspring or illness means you are unable to. I posted in the Scottish Forum on a similar thread asking how many deferred having a child since 2007 and the onset of one of the worst recessions in history... or is it ' I must have ' culture | |||
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"so in order to be a great role model to a child you have to work? no but have an intent to, circumstances may be that: you may be financially secure you don't need to or trying to get work to no avail but instilling a work ethic to your offspring or illness means you are unable to. I posted in the Scottish Forum on a similar thread asking how many deferred having a child since 2007 and the onset of one of the worst recessions in history... or is it ' I must have ' culture " I have some friends who's mum hasn't worked but they treat her with masses amount of respect and love her dearly. They idolize her almost. Her 3 children all work and 2 are doing apprentiships so i do not think its down to the mother not working, but her skills as a parent to provide what that child needs | |||
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"so in order to be a great role model to a child you have to work? no but have an intent to, circumstances may be that: you may be financially secure you don't need to or trying to get work to no avail but instilling a work ethic to your offspring or illness means you are unable to. I posted in the Scottish Forum on a similar thread asking how many deferred having a child since 2007 and the onset of one of the worst recessions in history... or is it ' I must have ' culture I have some friends who's mum hasn't worked but they treat her with masses amount of respect and love her dearly. They idolize her almost. Her 3 children all work and 2 are doing apprentiships so i do not think its down to the mother not working, but her skills as a parent to provide what that child needs" why didnt she work? | |||
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"so in order to be a great role model to a child you have to work? " I don't think you have to work, but having a work based ethic rather than a benefits based ethic and allowing the child to see that has surely got to be a good thing ? From posts I have seen in the past from you Sassy, I cannot fail to appreciate that you do what you feel is best for both your little' un and yourself, so I am not being personal at all. I feel that by adopting an approach that makes the child realise that to work and add value to society is correct behaviour and working the benefits system to your personal benefit is not can only be a good thing. Abuse of the benefits system and an acceptance that it is normal to milk it for all you can, is quickly becoming a generational issue in the UK. | |||
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" why didnt she work?" Ive no idea why she didnt, never something i asked. | |||
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" why didnt she work? Ive no idea why she didnt, never something i asked." well as I mentioned it may be she had her own financial means or an illness that prevented her and her kids appreciated that | |||
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"To be a role model to a child you should be responsible for your actions and those that decide to breed should look after their responsibilty not expect other Tax payers to keep you in comfort. It takes two to make a child therefore two as parents should keep the child not the nation if you cannot afford a child do not have one, there are no excuses." Maybe we should be like China and have a limit on how many children we can have !! | |||
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"i was out having a coffee yesterday in bermaw (barmouth. Normally things dont give me a reason to see red and almost say something but there was 2 girls about 22-25 both with kids and was bragging about how the system works for them and how they get help like a flat and support yet they cant be bothered to get a job!!! ( yep one actually said it) the few people who was close by shook their heads in disbelief at that comment like i did and took all my will power to not call them a scrounger. has this society got to the point now that some people are happy not to work and pay there way in society. I work damm hard to get what i earn and i enjoy working and i know the benefits system wouldn't be able to pay me what i am accustomed to (but least i admit that) just wondering about this would u be happy not working and claiming from the government without a care in the world? ( and please dont give me shit about the mothers are looking after the kids) as i have single mothers as friends and they do full time work so its very possible " i became a single mother a while ago now and i currently have three jobs sometimes four to keep everything paid yes it is bloody hard. but no and i do believe while people get more on the system they will play it even here on job threads people say they will get more on benefits than paid work not sure what happened to pride. i want my children to know u work hard u get a reward for it also its your job to support the kids u have not other peoples not a popular _iew. not sure i would have been able to keep my mouth shut if i had heard them x | |||
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"i was out having a coffee yesterday in bermaw (barmouth. Normally things dont give me a reason to see red and almost say something but there was 2 girls about 22-25 both with kids and was bragging about how the system works for them and how they get help like a flat and support yet they cant be bothered to get a job!!! ( yep one actually said it) the few people who was close by shook their heads in disbelief at that comment like i did and took all my will power to not call them a scrounger. has this society got to the point now that some people are happy not to work and pay there way in society. I work damm hard to get what i earn and i enjoy working and i know the benefits system wouldn't be able to pay me what i am accustomed to (but least i admit that) just wondering about this would u be happy not working and claiming from the government without a care in the world? ( and please dont give me shit about the mothers are looking after the kids) as i have single mothers as friends and they do full time work so its very possible i became a single mother a while ago now and i currently have three jobs sometimes four to keep everything paid yes it is bloody hard. but no and i do believe while people get more on the system they will play it even here on job threads people say they will get more on benefits than paid work not sure what happened to pride. i want my children to know u work hard u get a reward for it also its your job to support the kids u have not other peoples not a popular _iew. not sure i would have been able to keep my mouth shut if i had heard them x" I agree 100% | |||
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"To be a role model to a child you should be responsible for your actions and those that decide to breed should look after their responsibilty not expect other Tax payers to keep you in comfort. It takes two to make a child therefore two as parents should keep the child not the nation if you cannot afford a child do not have one, there are no excuses." I think i'm amazingly fortunate and never forgotten that. If it wasn't for my daughter i would have been living at home with my grandparents still. I took precautions against falling pregnant and discovered i was so at 33 weeks. I wasn't in a secure loving relationship so ended up alone. It was too late to terminate and if i decided to have her adopted then surely that would cost the system more money too. I kept her, love her more than my own life. I stand by my choice to stay at home and raise my own child rather than pay someone else to do so. I have records of all of her firsts and those are moments i treasure greatly. Hats off to parents who go out to work and juggle both. Children grow up so fast and i just wanted to stick around for the first 2 and half years. I will return to work (applying for jobs as we speak) as we are both ready, she enjoys nursery and now needs additional educational support and independence with her new friends away from me. Its also important for me to regain some adult time and to have something other than '5 little ducks' on my mind. I wouldn't put others down who choose to stay at home til the child is aged 7 though. It just might be the right choice for them | |||
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"As a single working mother of a 16 year old who's already got an 18.5 a week permanent job which she's been doing since before christmas whilst in her final year at school and doing her gcse's...prior to this she sold avon in an account in my name, i can only say that I am so proud that ive taught my kids that working and earning is the way to go...even my 10 year old keeps asking why she cant work at MacDonalds lol! So glad my kids wont be such a burden on society!" | |||
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"As a single working mother of a 16 year old who's already got an 18.5 a week permanent job which she's been doing since before christmas whilst in her final year at school and doing her gcse's...prior to this she sold avon in an account in my name, i can only say that I am so proud that ive taught my kids that working and earning is the way to go...even my 10 year old keeps asking why she cant work at MacDonalds lol! So glad my kids wont be such a burden on society!" fair play to you and your girl i only hope i can instill the same values in my girls | |||
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"ok so what do people suggest you do with all these young mums who don't give a damm and abuse the system? take their kids off them? cut money given too them? abort babies of single women under a certain age to prevent this from all happening? " no we support them and in return they spend every moment we pay them for playing,stimulating, teaching, loving, guiding and raising them to be the best they can. | |||
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"Officially 2 and a half Million unemployed. half a million jobs in economy. Unofficially 4 million unemployed, half a million jobs in economy. Nobody bothered that this thread reads like a hate filled manifesto cooked up by Thatcher in her senile dementia?" I have balanced my _iews with a thumbs up to all single mums and dads who role model the best for their kids. I have said to instil a work ethic to their kids is a great thing I have said we support the single mums and dads who are in this situation to give to their kids the best start in life and sow the seeds for aspirations in life greater than 'opening their legs to succeed' To spend the maximum time they have with their kids rather than plomping them down in front of the telly most of the day whilst I am on facebook or on a sex site telling folks 'i am flicking my clitty' or 'rubbing my cock' to stimulate attention. | |||
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"Scenario!! A single girl of 21 has a child, she decides to spend the childs formative years at home and BOND with her child!! I.E. The first 5-7 years! Now, according to all you (i work so should she) people out there, she is a scrounger!!! Haha, get a grip of real life folks, she chose to have a baby, to love and nurture said baby, not hand it into a childminders crib at the drop of a hat!!! Plus, how many of you working, single mothers get subsidised to work? Child tax credits?? Childcare tax credits?? " | |||
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"Bring back national service when teenagers leave school. They will learn respect and a trade.. Then we might teach the next generation of adults to work.... I agree now that I am too old for it.." why should my son do national service ? He has respect it's ok for to say do n/ s ur a age that has missed bet u wouldn't want it if r was 15. Just coz so many teenagers are little shits mine ent | |||
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"Bring back national service when teenagers leave school. They will learn respect and a trade.. Then we might teach the next generation of adults to work.... I agree now that I am too old for it.. why should my son do national service ? He has respect it's ok for to say do n/ s ur a age that has missed bet u wouldn't want it if r was 15. Just coz so many teenagers are little shits mine ent" Ye teach em respect like all those soldiers living on the streets, in mental health care, maimed etc. Ruin another generation of people in the name of a shit idea called wars | |||
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"so in order to be a great role model to a child you have to work? " No, neither does sitting at home 24/7 on others people money while some sneer make for perfect role mothers either! | |||
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"so in order to be a great role model to a child you have to work? No, neither does sitting at home 24/7 on others people money while some sneer make for perfect role mothers either!" It is that cocept of 'other peoples money' that really gates doesn't it. News for you. It isn't your money, it is the states. Do I moan when the obese/smokers/drinkers take hundreds if thousands of pounds of care out of the NHS? Bit more than a single mother or ten. I'll do a deal with all the Daily Mailers on here, you stop smoking, drinking, eating garbage, take care of your bodies, get fit etc and I'll agree single mums and their kids should be locked up/starved or whatever else you ghouls have in mind. How much does it cost to treat someone who has made themselves diabetic?? anyone know for long term care? | |||
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"Bring back national service when teenagers leave school. They will learn respect and a trade.. Then we might teach the next generation of adults to work.... I agree now that I am too old for it.. why should my son do national service ? He has respect it's ok for to say do n/ s ur a age that has missed bet u wouldn't want it if r was 15. Just coz so many teenagers are little shits mine ent" ask the guy who suggested it | |||
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"Scenario!! A single girl of 21 has a child, she decides to spend the childs formative years at home and BOND with her child!! I.E. The first 5-7 years! Now, according to all you (i work so should she) people out there, she is a scrounger!!! Haha, get a grip of real life folks, she chose to have a baby, to love and nurture said baby, not hand it into a childminders crib at the drop of a hat!!! Plus, how many of you working, single mothers get subsidised to work? Child tax credits?? Childcare tax credits?? " As I read it, this thread had less to do with mothering, love and nurturing and more to do with a number of people who use a child as a means to an end. I have a close relation who does exactly that, so can confirm that it does happen. Now, OK, so she didn't plan the child, but I have no doubt that she mothers, loves and nufrtures her. That said, the child is most definately used as an excuse not to work and to maximise benefits. She has a long term partner who does not live with her full time despite being in a relationship for 5 years - in order to get single mothers allowances, housing benefits etc Now the child is 7, there is suddenly talk of a second child. Coincidence ? or a way of being able to claim for the next 8 years once child number 1 reaches the age where benefits drop ? | |||
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"I chose to stay at home with my son, however no benefits where claimed except child allowance that every one gets. But when he was about 10 months old i went to college and had a partime job. I have nothing against single parents that are working or staying at home, either is fine in my book if you can afford to look after your child and not have a child and live on benefits. What i would do with the parents mentioned would be to put them on training courses ready to get back to work and i think most colleges or places you study have brilliant creches. As i said i have nothing against single parents except those that are happy to sit back and take benefits because they decide they are special and dont need to work. If you want to stay at home with a child great, if you have enough of your own finances to look after them" OK, well you should only have kids when you have enough money to pay for their education then also? shall we keep extending it?? health, pay for that before you have kids. Nobody outside the rich can afford to 'look after their own kids', it would be prohibitively expensive, hence why we have developed socialised care, education and health. Single Mums are single because dads have been appalling in many cases, so perhaps the mothers should be allowed to look after their children, supported by the state and the father being forced to work in a job provided by the state, paying a decent wage with a _iew to ingraining responsibilty. Woamn not punished, children not punished, men made better by compulsion. There's an idea. or will people moan it will cost money to create jobs? | |||
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"so in order to be a great role model to a child you have to work? No, neither does sitting at home 24/7 on others people money while some sneer make for perfect role mothers either! It is that cocept of 'other peoples money' that really gates doesn't it. News for you. It isn't your money, it is the states. Do I moan when the obese/smokers/drinkers take hundreds if thousands of pounds of care out of the NHS? Bit more than a single mother or ten. I'll do a deal with all the Daily Mailers on here, you stop smoking, drinking, eating garbage, take care of your bodies, get fit etc and I'll agree single mums and their kids should be locked up/starved or whatever else you ghouls have in mind. How much does it cost to treat someone who has made themselves diabetic?? anyone know for long term care? and swingers whose increased partners runs a higher than it would be risk if they weren't and attendance at sexual health clinics... it is all cost after all. and includes US ALL on here rather than popping at groups than we are not in" truly ridiculous point. | |||
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"I chose to stay at home with my son, however no benefits where claimed except child allowance that every one gets. But when he was about 10 months old i went to college and had a partime job. I have nothing against single parents that are working or staying at home, either is fine in my book if you can afford to look after your child and not have a child and live on benefits. What i would do with the parents mentioned would be to put them on training courses ready to get back to work and i think most colleges or places you study have brilliant creches. As i said i have nothing against single parents except those that are happy to sit back and take benefits because they decide they are special and dont need to work. If you want to stay at home with a child great, if you have enough of your own finances to look after them OK, well you should only have kids when you have enough money to pay for their education then also? shall we keep extending it?? health, pay for that before you have kids. Nobody outside the rich can afford to 'look after their own kids', it would be prohibitively expensive, hence why we have developed socialised care, education and health. Single Mums are single because dads have been appalling in many cases, so perhaps the mothers should be allowed to look after their children, supported by the state and the father being forced to work in a job provided by the state, paying a decent wage with a _iew to ingraining responsibilty. Woamn not punished, children not punished, men made better by compulsion. There's an idea. or will people moan it will cost money to create jobs?" My post wasnt directed at all single mums, there is lots of reasons people have to claim benefits. My responce was about the op over hearing two women boasting about it. Not single mothers/or fathers in general | |||
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"I am a single dad, always worked and provided all that a parent needs too, shelter, food, love and understanding. I still do it now and are registered disabled, so if I can I cannot understand why everyone else shouldn't try. Stop handouts and give a hand up " im fortunate to live in a country that allows me the chance to stay at home for the first few years. its a choice given to me by the government | |||
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"so in order to be a great role model to a child you have to work? No, neither does sitting at home 24/7 on others people money while some sneer make for perfect role mothers either! It is that cocept of 'other peoples money' that really gates doesn't it. News for you. It isn't your money, it is the states. Do I moan when the obese/smokers/drinkers take hundreds if thousands of pounds of care out of the NHS? Bit more than a single mother or ten. I'll do a deal with all the Daily Mailers on here, you stop smoking, drinking, eating garbage, take care of your bodies, get fit etc and I'll agree single mums and their kids should be locked up/starved or whatever else you ghouls have in mind. How much does it cost to treat someone who has made themselves diabetic?? anyone know for long term care? and swingers whose increased partners runs a higher than it would be risk if they weren't and attendance at sexual health clinics... it is all cost after all. and includes US ALL on here rather than popping at groups than we are not in truly ridiculous point." in your opinion and that is perfectly fine. if I had an inkling of respect for you and/or your posts, I may give it a nano second of reconsideration. I don't. enjoy your day | |||
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"so in order to be a great role model to a child you have to work? No, neither does sitting at home 24/7 on others people money while some sneer make for perfect role mothers either! It is that cocept of 'other peoples money' that really gates doesn't it. News for you. It isn't your money, it is the states. Do I moan when the obese/smokers/drinkers take hundreds if thousands of pounds of care out of the NHS? Bit more than a single mother or ten. I'll do a deal with all the Daily Mailers on here, you stop smoking, drinking, eating garbage, take care of your bodies, get fit etc and I'll agree single mums and their kids should be locked up/starved or whatever else you ghouls have in mind. How much does it cost to treat someone who has made themselves diabetic?? anyone know for long term care?" You are missing the point! I could care less how many kids some illiterate wants to dump into the world. I could care less if they stay at home watching Jeremy Kyle while I work to support them. What annoys me is the sneering, that they are "good mums" because they stay at home whilst those of us that use nurseries are some how lesser mothers. | |||
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"I chose to stay at home with my son, however no benefits where claimed except child allowance that every one gets. But when he was about 10 months old i went to college and had a partime job. I have nothing against single parents that are working or staying at home, either is fine in my book if you can afford to look after your child and not have a child and live on benefits. What i would do with the parents mentioned would be to put them on training courses ready to get back to work and i think most colleges or places you study have brilliant creches. As i said i have nothing against single parents except those that are happy to sit back and take benefits because they decide they are special and dont need to work. If you want to stay at home with a child great, if you have enough of your own finances to look after them" Personally, I don't even mind supporting them, it's the sneering attitude that gets my goat! | |||
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"Scenario!! A single girl of 21 has a child, she decides to spend the childs formative years at home and BOND with her child!! I.E. The first 5-7 years! Now, according to all you (i work so should she) people out there, she is a scrounger!!! Haha, get a grip of real life folks, she chose to have a baby, to love and nurture said baby, not hand it into a childminders crib at the drop of a hat!!! Plus, how many of you working, single mothers get subsidised to work? Child tax credits?? Childcare tax credits?? As I read it, this thread had less to do with mothering, love and nurturing and more to do with a number of people who use a child as a means to an end. I have a close relation who does exactly that, so can confirm that it does happen. Now, OK, so she didn't plan the child, but I have no doubt that she mothers, loves and nufrtures her. That said, the child is most definately used as an excuse not to work and to maximise benefits. She has a long term partner who does not live with her full time despite being in a relationship for 5 years - in order to get single mothers allowances, housing benefits etc Now the child is 7, there is suddenly talk of a second child. Coincidence ? or a way of being able to claim for the next 8 years once child number 1 reaches the age where benefits drop ?" Not once in the above scenario did i mention a long term partner! Or any type of partner!! I was trying to put over the point that the single mother is ENTITLED to stay at home for the first few years if she so chooses! And my other point was, all those single mothers who go out to work to provide for their kids, aren't we subsidising them too! With child tax credits and childcare tax credits? | |||
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"so in order to be a great role model to a child you have to work? No, neither does sitting at home 24/7 on others people money while some sneer make for perfect role mothers either! It is that cocept of 'other peoples money' that really gates doesn't it. News for you. It isn't your money, it is the states. Do I moan when the obese/smokers/drinkers take hundreds if thousands of pounds of care out of the NHS? Bit more than a single mother or ten. I'll do a deal with all the Daily Mailers on here, you stop smoking, drinking, eating garbage, take care of your bodies, get fit etc and I'll agree single mums and their kids should be locked up/starved or whatever else you ghouls have in mind. How much does it cost to treat someone who has made themselves diabetic?? anyone know for long term care? and swingers whose increased partners runs a higher than it would be risk if they weren't and attendance at sexual health clinics... it is all cost after all. and includes US ALL on here rather than popping at groups than we are not in" | |||
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"Scenario!! A single girl of 21 has a child, she decides to spend the childs formative years at home and BOND with her child!! I.E. The first 5-7 years! Now, according to all you (i work so should she) people out there, she is a scrounger!!! Haha, get a grip of real life folks, she chose to have a baby, to love and nurture said baby, not hand it into a childminders crib at the drop of a hat!!! Plus, how many of you working, single mothers get subsidised to work? Child tax credits?? Childcare tax credits?? As I read it, this thread had less to do with mothering, love and nurturing and more to do with a number of people who use a child as a means to an end. I have a close relation who does exactly that, so can confirm that it does happen. Now, OK, so she didn't plan the child, but I have no doubt that she mothers, loves and nufrtures her. That said, the child is most definately used as an excuse not to work and to maximise benefits. She has a long term partner who does not live with her full time despite being in a relationship for 5 years - in order to get single mothers allowances, housing benefits etc Now the child is 7, there is suddenly talk of a second child. Coincidence ? or a way of being able to claim for the next 8 years once child number 1 reaches the age where benefits drop ? Not once in the above scenario did i mention a long term partner! Or any type of partner!! I was trying to put over the point that the single mother is ENTITLED to stay at home for the first few years if she so chooses! And my other point was, all those single mothers who go out to work to provide for their kids, aren't we subsidising them too! With child tax credits and childcare tax credits? " All very well and good, BUT, in this case the single mother isn't single and is considering having another child so she can stay at home and not because she does indeed want another child. There is a distinct difference ! As for tax credits etc. I do see your point but in essence, by being working parents at least the mothers putting into the welfare state rather than just taking from it. There are exceptions here, but a good deal of the people who are being called to question here have never worked a day in their life - and have contributed zero to the system that they benefit from. That last statement is not directed at any of the contributors here I hasten to add, but as a scenario it is not one that can be denied. | |||
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"Scenario!! A single girl of 21 has a child, she decides to spend the childs formative years at home and BOND with her child!! I.E. The first 5-7 years! Now, according to all you (i work so should she) people out there, she is a scrounger!!! Haha, get a grip of real life folks, she chose to have a baby, to love and nurture said baby, not hand it into a childminders crib at the drop of a hat!!! Plus, how many of you working, single mothers get subsidised to work? Child tax credits?? Childcare tax credits?? As I read it, this thread had less to do with mothering, love and nurturing and more to do with a number of people who use a child as a means to an end. I have a close relation who does exactly that, so can confirm that it does happen. Now, OK, so she didn't plan the child, but I have no doubt that she mothers, loves and nufrtures her. That said, the child is most definately used as an excuse not to work and to maximise benefits. She has a long term partner who does not live with her full time despite being in a relationship for 5 years - in order to get single mothers allowances, housing benefits etc Now the child is 7, there is suddenly talk of a second child. Coincidence ? or a way of being able to claim for the next 8 years once child number 1 reaches the age where benefits drop ? Not once in the above scenario did i mention a long term partner! Or any type of partner!! I was trying to put over the point that the single mother is ENTITLED to stay at home for the first few years if she so chooses! And my other point was, all those single mothers who go out to work to provide for their kids, aren't we subsidising them too! With child tax credits and childcare tax credits? All very well and good, BUT, in this case the single mother isn't single and is considering having another child so she can stay at home and not because she does indeed want another child. There is a distinct difference ! As for tax credits etc. I do see your point but in essence, by being working parents at least the mothers putting into the welfare state rather than just taking from it. There are exceptions here, but a good deal of the people who are being called to question here have never worked a day in their life - and have contributed zero to the system that they benefit from. That last statement is not directed at any of the contributors here I hasten to add, but as a scenario it is not one that can be denied." i agree with your point about people taking advantage of the system and that should be looked into and dealt with by our elected officials!! BUT....not EVERY single parent wants to 'take advantage'!! Some, (if not most) just want to spend the first few years of their childs life nurturing and loving their child! Isn't that THEIR choice? Aren't they ENTITLED to that choice? | |||
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"i agree with your point about people taking advantage of the system and that should be looked into and dealt with by our elected officials!! BUT....not EVERY single parent wants to 'take advantage'!! Some, (if not most) just want to spend the first few years of their childs life nurturing and loving their child! Isn't that THEIR choice? Aren't they ENTITLED to that choice? " Yes, it is their choice. And yes, they are entitled to make that choice. I think the salient point is, do we (as a nation), make that choice too easy ? By too easy, I mean that part of the nurturing process is to provide for the child, but in doing so, we (the state) at the moment must also provide for the parent who has made that choice. In doing so are we facilitating the childs needs or that of the parent ? or both ? That is where the system falls down, because we cannot provide for one without providing for the other and that is the point where those who do wish to milk the system seize the opportunity to do so. Don't think for one minute I am bemoaning all single parents, that is most certainly not the case. I think the issue is both societal and within certain peer groups cultural, with tips and ideas being passed between generations. I spent the majority of my childhood in a one parent family situation, but despite the fact that my mum worked the whole time, never once did I not feel loved or nurtured or cared for or provided for. It is possible to do it all if the parent wishes to do so. It is also possible (and rightly so) that other parents may not wish to, but then again, whilst the system contains flaws that can, in essence, be abused and manipulated by all, we have to expect (and accept) that some will indeed, do just that. | |||
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"I am a single dad, always worked and provided all that a parent needs too, shelter, food, love and understanding. I still do it now and are registered disabled, so if I can I cannot understand why everyone else shouldn't try. Stop handouts and give a hand up im fortunate to live in a country that allows me the chance to stay at home for the first few years. its a choice given to me by the government " Cute that it is and in some ways the system is great but the other side of the coin is that the government is getting the money from somewhere. It's great that you are bothered about your child and I'm sure you try to do the best for them. | |||
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"A five year old report I was reading stated that there was 1.9 million lone parent families in the UK of which less than half were out of work. In 2007 they cost £3.9 billion in income support. Another report done a couple years ago by the Green New Deal Group estimates that more than £100 billion A YEAR is lost because of abuse of loopholes in the tax system, unpaid tax and fraud. Even if the figures have changed a bit, which is the biggest problem to our society? Of the circa 900,000 single parent families out of work what is a fair guess at the number who are so called 'workshy' as opposed to those with a work ethic - 5, 10 or 20%? I may be way out, I'm guessing, but I'd be surprised if more than one in ten had consciously made the career decision to be on benefits. For the sake of this debate lets just say it's 1 in 4 or 25%. 25% of the £3.9bn is £1bn. In the grand scheme of things if out of work single parent families who WANT to be on benefits are costing us less than £1bn, should this really be a priority in the list of things that need sorting out? What saddens me about these debates is that they often end up pitching the most vulnerable in society against each other. People who have a bit of pride end up trying to explain and justify why they are in the position they find themselves in. I say there but for the grace of god go us. " 'I say there but the grace of god go us' is a truly valid statement... but for me it is more about the 'love' for the child always, than the cost. There is no saying that there will less or more love in a home with one or two parents in attendance or if they work or not. But, the thought of having children as an possible income makes me shudder... | |||
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""Yes but what if you get sick through a choice to smoke,eat fatty foods,drink alcohol??" We all have a choice in how we live our lives, smoking is very much on the way out, eating fatty foods lets shut the fast food shops and get people taking responsibility for the food intake, charge these fat people double on buses/planes anywhere where they require two seats. Alcohol is I believe being addressed as it is to easy and cheap to buy. You forgot to mention the illegal use of drugs. Overall the welfare state seems to be funding all the wrong things these days but is stopping funding those who need help. Seems about right for this country in todays world of golden handshakes for failure etc etc The thread was about single mums why deviate? to easy" you said having kids is a choice and getting old isn't but you can live a healthy life to prevent sickness thats all i was getting at not going of subject | |||
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"I dont even no how much money lone parents get with a child, plus they get family allowance that every gets and they would also get housing benefit, so my wild guess would around £200 a week with no tax to pay" im sure the info is out there on the net if people really wanted to find it, but i dont mind saying as its fact and across the board so to speak for others in my situation Child Ben - £20.30 - everyone gets it with children Child Tax - £61 - for my daughters needs Income Support £65 - for me to live on a week Housing ben and tax varies from district | |||
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"this is the male half having read through the posts can anyone Honestly say people claiming handouts is affecting there life cos it doesn't mine i go to work earn my wage it doesn't affect me " it will affect that bit of your wage slip that says 'tax deducted' | |||
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"A five year old report I was reading stated that there was 1.9 million lone parent families in the UK of which less than half were out of work. In 2007 they cost £3.9 billion in income support. Another report done a couple years ago by the Green New Deal Group estimates that more than £100 billion A YEAR is lost because of abuse of loopholes in the tax system, unpaid tax and fraud. Even if the figures have changed a bit, which is the biggest problem to our society? Of the circa 900,000 single parent families out of work what is a fair guess at the number who are so called 'workshy' as opposed to those with a work ethic - 5, 10 or 20%? I may be way out, I'm guessing, but I'd be surprised if more than one in ten had consciously made the career decision to be on benefits. For the sake of this debate lets just say it's 1 in 4 or 25%. 25% of the £3.9bn is £1bn. In the grand scheme of things if out of work single parent families who WANT to be on benefits are costing us less than £1bn, should this really be a priority in the list of things that need sorting out? What saddens me about these debates is that they often end up pitching the most vulnerable in society against each other. People who have a bit of pride end up trying to explain and justify why they are in the position they find themselves in. I say there but for the grace of god go us. " as usual, eloquently put.. some will never see the 'bigger picture', be that through choice or lack of accurate information.. some just love to snipe and pick on others, twas ever thus.. | |||
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"this is the male half having read through the posts can anyone Honestly say people claiming handouts is affecting there life cos it doesn't mine i go to work earn my wage it doesn't affect me it will affect that bit of your wage slip that says 'tax deducted'" i know that but i would rather pay for the British single mothers more than the illegal immigrants milking the state | |||
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"id love to see how many of these single mothers who chose to have kids so they haven't got to work to be told you have the kids u support them no help etc this isnt aimed at anyone on here it was a observation that made me see red yesterday thats all " but what about the fathers why dont they man up and pay for there children | |||
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"this is the male half having read through the posts can anyone Honestly say people claiming handouts is affecting there life cos it doesn't mine i go to work earn my wage it doesn't affect me it will affect that bit of your wage slip that says 'tax deducted' i know that but i would rather pay for the British single mothers more than the illegal immigrants milking the state " that's a whole different thread save that one for next thursday | |||
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"so in order to be a great role model to a child you have to work? No, neither does sitting at home 24/7 on others people money while some sneer make for perfect role mothers either! It is that cocept of 'other peoples money' that really gates doesn't it. News for you. It isn't your money, it is the states. Do I moan when the obese/smokers/drinkers take hundreds if thousands of pounds of care out of the NHS? Bit more than a single mother or ten. I'll do a deal with all the Daily Mailers on here, you stop smoking, drinking, eating garbage, take care of your bodies, get fit etc and I'll agree single mums and their kids should be locked up/starved or whatever else you ghouls have in mind. How much does it cost to treat someone who has made themselves diabetic?? anyone know for long term care?" You can't really complain about how the government spends taxes etc if you aren't contributing to them. If you are paying income tax you have every right to complain | |||
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"I dont even no how much money lone parents get with a child, plus they get family allowance that every gets and they would also get housing benefit, so my wild guess would around £200 a week with no tax to pay im sure the info is out there on the net if people really wanted to find it, but i dont mind saying as its fact and across the board so to speak for others in my situation Child Ben - £20.30 - everyone gets it with children Child Tax - £61 - for my daughters needs Income Support £65 - for me to live on a week Housing ben and tax varies from district " so thats £145 not including housing benefit so i was roughly right with my guess | |||
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"I dont even no how much money lone parents get with a child, plus they get family allowance that every gets and they would also get housing benefit, so my wild guess would around £200 a week with no tax to pay im sure the info is out there on the net if people really wanted to find it, but i dont mind saying as its fact and across the board so to speak for others in my situation Child Ben - £20.30 - everyone gets it with children Child Tax - £61 - for my daughters needs Income Support £65 - for me to live on a week Housing ben and tax varies from district so thats £145 not including housing benefit so i was roughly right with my guess" can we really take into account child Ben when everyone gets that regardless of income? | |||
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"I dont even no how much money lone parents get with a child, plus they get family allowance that every gets and they would also get housing benefit, so my wild guess would around £200 a week with no tax to pay im sure the info is out there on the net if people really wanted to find it, but i dont mind saying as its fact and across the board so to speak for others in my situation Child Ben - £20.30 - everyone gets it with children Child Tax - £61 - for my daughters needs Income Support £65 - for me to live on a week Housing ben and tax varies from district so thats £145 not including housing benefit so i was roughly right with my guess" You'd need to include Council Tax benefit as well. | |||
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"I dont even no how much money lone parents get with a child, plus they get family allowance that every gets and they would also get housing benefit, so my wild guess would around £200 a week with no tax to pay im sure the info is out there on the net if people really wanted to find it, but i dont mind saying as its fact and across the board so to speak for others in my situation Child Ben - £20.30 - everyone gets it with children Child Tax - £61 - for my daughters needs Income Support £65 - for me to live on a week Housing ben and tax varies from district so thats £145 not including housing benefit so i was roughly right with my guess can we really take into account child Ben when everyone gets that regardless of income? " I would say yes for this purpose because although everyone gets it, its what they get as part of there income. Although i think they never take it in to account when claiming but thats how much they have in there pocket | |||
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"I dont even no how much money lone parents get with a child, plus they get family allowance that every gets and they would also get housing benefit, so my wild guess would around £200 a week with no tax to pay im sure the info is out there on the net if people really wanted to find it, but i dont mind saying as its fact and across the board so to speak for others in my situation Child Ben - £20.30 - everyone gets it with children Child Tax - £61 - for my daughters needs Income Support £65 - for me to live on a week Housing ben and tax varies from district so thats £145 not including housing benefit so i was roughly right with my guess You'd need to include Council Tax benefit as well." Yes thats why isaid roughly £200 a week, its £145 with out. I would guess that most rent is over £60 a week | |||
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"I dont even no how much money lone parents get with a child, plus they get family allowance that every gets and they would also get housing benefit, so my wild guess would around £200 a week with no tax to pay im sure the info is out there on the net if people really wanted to find it, but i dont mind saying as its fact and across the board so to speak for others in my situation Child Ben - £20.30 - everyone gets it with children Child Tax - £61 - for my daughters needs Income Support £65 - for me to live on a week Housing ben and tax varies from district so thats £145 not including housing benefit so i was roughly right with my guess You'd need to include Council Tax benefit as well. Yes thats why isaid roughly £200 a week, its £145 with out. I would guess that most rent is over £60 a week" No, it'll be more than that. Council Tax Benefit and Housing Benefit are 2 separate things. | |||
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"I dont even no how much money lone parents get with a child, plus they get family allowance that every gets and they would also get housing benefit, so my wild guess would around £200 a week with no tax to pay im sure the info is out there on the net if people really wanted to find it, but i dont mind saying as its fact and across the board so to speak for others in my situation Child Ben - £20.30 - everyone gets it with children Child Tax - £61 - for my daughters needs Income Support £65 - for me to live on a week Housing ben and tax varies from district so thats £145 not including housing benefit so i was roughly right with my guess You'd need to include Council Tax benefit as well. Yes thats why isaid roughly £200 a week, its £145 with out. I would guess that most rent is over £60 a week No, it'll be more than that. Council Tax Benefit and Housing Benefit are 2 separate things." so it would be nearer to £250 then | |||
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"Bring back national service when teenagers leave school. They will learn respect and a trade.. Then we might teach the next generation of adults to work.... " To do what, why should the armed forces do what parents failed to? There are huge pay offs going on in the forces so where exactly do you expect these teenagers to go? When they come out with their 'trade' what they gonna do? There is a huge decrease in employment in manual trades/construction etc so .....how is your idea going to work? | |||
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"closer to £275 actually " so really they need to earn £300 a week to come of all benefits(except famil allowance) So with tax and national insurance they would have to grossing £400 a week | |||
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"when a lone parent returns to work, they receive a £250 grant (as a pat on the back) and also £40 a week for the first year of employment from the government. Income Support (£65 PW) is replaced by Working Tax Credits of £72 per week. For every £1 of income a lone parent will loose 75p of Housing Benefit. (its actually the combined value of your rent and council tax) Child Care element of the Working Tax Credit is also allowed providing 70% of child care costs. Just thought id add more info for all you number crunchers out there " whose a number cruncher, i asked a valid question as i had no idea what a lone parent gets | |||
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"Bring back national service when teenagers leave school. They will learn respect and a trade.. Then we might teach the next generation of adults to work.... To do what, why should the armed forces do what parents failed to? There are huge pay offs going on in the forces so where exactly do you expect these teenagers to go? When they come out with their 'trade' what they gonna do? There is a huge decrease in employment in manual trades/construction etc so .....how is your idea going to work?" . Guessing ur kids have grown up? Let's send ur kids off to do national service , my sons are fine where they are won't be saving ur arse | |||
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"Just meant that if people wanted to work out if it is viable for a person financially to return to (or start) work. Financially i could no way have afforded to move out and live on my own if it wasn't for my daughter. Always deep down felt guilty about it and can understand why others get angered by those who just do not give a damm. I used to work hard in full time employment (50 - 60 hours a week as a community care worker) and i too used to curse single mothers, since becoming one i appreciate the system. " Im not cursing all single parents only the ones like the op mentioned the ones that mock it. Bet they have all got posh phones and drive cars. | |||
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"Bring back national service when teenagers leave school. They will learn respect and a trade.. Then we might teach the next generation of adults to work.... To do what, why should the armed forces do what parents failed to? There are huge pay offs going on in the forces so where exactly do you expect these teenagers to go? When they come out with their 'trade' what they gonna do? There is a huge decrease in employment in manual trades/construction etc so .....how is your idea going to work?. Guessing ur kids have grown up? Let's send ur kids off to do national service , my sons are fine where they are won't be saving ur arse" | |||
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"I'm not cursing all single parents only the ones like the op mentioned the ones that mock it. Bet they have all got posh phones and drive cars. " I sold my car as i couldn't afford to run it. I bought it on finance when i was working. Think the majority of the population have a mobile phone even children do. Id see that as an essential in case anything should go wrong or id need help in an emergency. £584 is basically what a person with a child has to live on (rent excluded) That is the amount of money the government has decided is a decent amount of money. I don't know how much everyone else's bills are but its not some massive life of luxury. How people choose to spend that is up to them I do not smoke, drink, do drugs, not been on a holiday abroad. My little luxuries are a landline, broadband, mobile phone, gas, electricity, tv licence, water rates and food shopping | |||
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"Just meant that if people wanted to work out if it is viable for a person financially to return to (or start) work. Financially i could no way have afforded to move out and live on my own if it wasn't for my daughter. Always deep down felt guilty about it and can understand why others get angered by those who just do not give a damm. I used to work hard in full time employment (50 - 60 hours a week as a community care worker) and i too used to curse single mothers, since becoming one i appreciate the system. Im not cursing all single parents only the ones like the op mentioned the ones that mock it. Bet they have all got posh phones and drive cars. " The majority do have phones from what I have seen and many cars although with the fuel, insurance and tax costs I struggle to see how someone who is getting the minimum manages to scrape together the money to legally run a car. If they can the the benefit system is totally broken. | |||
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"You should congratulate Labour on creating a social underclass that will vote them in time and time again. " Err I am not sure how long you have been since you read the front pages but they didn't we have a Tory government. | |||
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" it will affect that bit of your wage slip that says 'tax deducted'" no it dont, do you seriousily think if the goverment cut the benfifit bill down by even half that they would reduce tax to accomodate? i bet not, they would spend it elsewhere or come up with excuses that other elements have risen and taken the money gotta remember always the people who abuse the system are the minority not the majority. sure it sucks if someones so blatent at bragging and your someone who takes pride at working. for me i dont really care, im glad we have systems where you can claim benifits if you dont work, after all most people need it at one point or another, it dont achieve nothing getting wound up about people claiming, its not worth the energy, if you got a problem with them then tell them or report them instead of moaning behind peoples backs, its not worth the energy for me, just get on with your life and let them claim what they want, after all be realistic you wont ever notice the difference to your wage packet and you will probally need to claim someday yourself. im sure even people who not on the dole and work, im sure alot still get stuff like tax credits or money for their kids when you have jobs so not like most people aint getting some help for being working mothers either! but benifit fraud dont bother me, seems pointless getting upset over something you cant change! benifit fraud or people not wanting jobs isnt ever going to stop | |||
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"You should congratulate Labour on creating a social underclass that will vote them in time and time again. Like the vast immigrant population. And yet a lot of people blame the Torys for the ills this country is going through. Simply hilarious! " I think I'll stick to some politics and greed being any cause of ills-pretty much a woldwide phenomenon | |||
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" it will affect that bit of your wage slip that says 'tax deducted' no it dont, do you seriousily think if the goverment cut the benfifit bill down by even half that they would reduce tax to accomodate? i bet not, they would spend it elsewhere or come up with excuses that other elements have risen and taken the money gotta remember always the people who abuse the system are the minority not the majority. sure it sucks if someones so blatent at bragging and your someone who takes pride at working. for me i dont really care, im glad we have systems where you can claim benifits if you dont work, after all most people need it at one point or another, it dont achieve nothing getting wound up about people claiming, its not worth the energy, if you got a problem with them then tell them or report them instead of moaning behind peoples backs, its not worth the energy for me, just get on with your life and let them claim what they want, after all be realistic you wont ever notice the difference to your wage packet and you will probally need to claim someday yourself. im sure even people who not on the dole and work, im sure alot still get stuff like tax credits or money for their kids when you have jobs so not like most people aint getting some help for being working mothers either! but benifit fraud dont bother me, seems pointless getting upset over something you cant change! benifit fraud or people not wanting jobs isnt ever going to stop" don't confuse what i know is reality with what i write in here they can be (and often are) two very different things | |||
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