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By *andV OP Couple
over a year ago
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This really winds me up and I apologise now for the rant lol,
but why do some men think it's ok to completely not bother reading any bit of a couples profile whatsoever and just message the Mrs asking to meet up?! (Never put that nicely), If a bloke walked up to most peoples Mrs while the mr was stood there totally didn't acknowledge him and just asked the Mrs if she wanted to go fuck because they happen to be near 99 times out of 100 there getting knocked out, and even on the slim chance that didn't happen they would get an instant rejection from the Mrs lol so why do they think there is a chance of a positive outcome on here? It's a swinging site not a brothel.
We see a billion posts from single guys complaining about they can't understand why they don't get meets and I'm not tarring all with the same brush but this is why couples get fed up and block all single males because they get fed up of the idiots who end up ruining it for the genuine ones who have more than one brain cell and use a bit of common sense.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I agree, read my profile, it illustrates that many will not read it. Many admit they have but 'try their hand anyway' No doubt the same ones who complain that people are rude on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We have a worldwide pandemic going on but top news story tiday is single guys not reading profiles 
This is a swingers website not a political forum. The OPs comments are perfectly reasonable. "
You don’t do sarcasm then. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We have a worldwide pandemic going on but top news story tiday is single guys not reading profiles
No it's single blokes been bellends, but you right it's not that uncommon.  "
Yep all single guys are bellends. You heard it here first  |
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By *andV OP Couple
over a year ago
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"We have a worldwide pandemic going on but top news story tiday is single guys not reading profiles
No it's single blokes been bellends, but you right it's not that uncommon.
Yep all single guys are bellends. You heard it here first "
Not all just some.  |
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By *andV OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Happens. Lots don't read profiles. It is frustrating but it's the way it is. It's an easy filter."
True, just annoying lol this is about the 50 millionth we've had (slight exaggeration lol) so don't know why this one wound me up more than most, think it's just an accumulation, we try to be fair but some people take the p. |
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"Happens. Lots don't read profiles. It is frustrating but it's the way it is. It's an easy filter.
True, just annoying lol this is about the 50 millionth we've had (slight exaggeration lol) so don't know why this one wound me up more than most, think it's just an accumulation, we try to be fair but some people take the p."
Yeah I get it  Me too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maybe because single guys are sick and tired of being blamed for everything wrong in the world.
You tar all with the same brush so even the nice ones who turn up start to question why they bother in the first place.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can relate to this thou op. I’m straight but I’ve had couples message me asking if the mr can suck my cock. If they just took 1min to look at my profile and see I’m straight they wouldn’t end up looking like bellends. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe because single guys are sick and tired of being blamed for everything wrong in the world.
You tar all with the same brush so even the nice ones who turn up start to question why they bother in the first place.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This really winds me up and I apologise now for the rant lol,
but why do some men think it's ok to completely not bother reading any bit of a couples profile whatsoever and just message the Mrs asking to meet up?! (Never put that nicely), If a bloke walked up to most peoples Mrs while the mr was stood there totally didn't acknowledge him and just asked the Mrs if she wanted to go fuck because they happen to be near 99 times out of 100 there getting knocked out, and even on the slim chance that didn't happen they would get an instant rejection from the Mrs lol so why do they think there is a chance of a positive outcome on here? It's a swinging site not a brothel.
We see a billion posts from single guys complaining about they can't understand why they don't get meets and I'm not tarring all with the same brush but this is why couples get fed up and block all single males because they get fed up of the idiots who end up ruining it for the genuine ones who have more than one brain cell and use a bit of common sense.
Rant over lol"
I do understand where you're coming from OP and when it happens time and time again it becomes less tolerable.
If it's any tiny consolation this happens with many people, not just men. I have a couples profile with my boyfriend and people often forget or ignore the fact that it's two people they need to be interacting with even if sex is only going to happen with one of us.
Hope you feel better after a rant, I often do. My advice is to instantly filter out the ones that don't suit for whatever reason and move on until you find the right people.
They are out there and the site has lots of fantastic people, keep an open mind and you will find them... we do and have.
Her x |
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By *andV OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Where’s all the fill up the thread with nonsense crew when you need them  "
Clearly busy trolling mine by the looks of it, I'm guessing you are one of the guys that I'm referring to in the original post by how defensive and offended you seem to find my comments, like others have said if your clearly not interested in the subject matter go find some other thread to troll, there are plenty about the pandemic that you can go comment on so see you later pal. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you walked up to must people in the street and spoke to them politely respectively you showed them your face clearly people wouldn't just turn away and ignore you ignorance is a two way street |
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"This really winds me up and I apologise now for the rant lol,
but why do some men think it's ok to completely not bother reading any bit of a couples profile whatsoever and just message the Mrs asking to meet up?! (Never put that nicely), If a bloke walked up to most peoples Mrs while the mr was stood there totally didn't acknowledge him and just asked the Mrs if she wanted to go fuck because they happen to be near 99 times out of 100 there getting knocked out, and even on the slim chance that didn't happen they would get an instant rejection from the Mrs lol so why do they think there is a chance of a positive outcome on here? It's a swinging site not a brothel.
We see a billion posts from single guys complaining about they can't understand why they don't get meets and I'm not tarring all with the same brush but this is why couples get fed up and block all single males because they get fed up of the idiots who end up ruining it for the genuine ones who have more than one brain cell and use a bit of common sense.
Rant over lol"
Totally agree but rise above it. I get great satisfaction deleting the message, especially when they message back throwing their dummy’s out their prams. I get such a thrill out of it. Diddums  |
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By *andV OP Couple
over a year ago
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"This really winds me up and I apologise now for the rant lol,
but why do some men think it's ok to completely not bother reading any bit of a couples profile whatsoever and just message the Mrs asking to meet up?! (Never put that nicely), If a bloke walked up to most peoples Mrs while the mr was stood there totally didn't acknowledge him and just asked the Mrs if she wanted to go fuck because they happen to be near 99 times out of 100 there getting knocked out, and even on the slim chance that didn't happen they would get an instant rejection from the Mrs lol so why do they think there is a chance of a positive outcome on here? It's a swinging site not a brothel.
We see a billion posts from single guys complaining about they can't understand why they don't get meets and I'm not tarring all with the same brush but this is why couples get fed up and block all single males because they get fed up of the idiots who end up ruining it for the genuine ones who have more than one brain cell and use a bit of common sense.
Rant over lol
I do understand where you're coming from OP and when it happens time and time again it becomes less tolerable.
If it's any tiny consolation this happens with many people, not just men. I have a couples profile with my boyfriend and people often forget or ignore the fact that it's two people they need to be interacting with even if sex is only going to happen with one of us.
Hope you feel better after a rant, I often do. My advice is to instantly filter out the ones that don't suit for whatever reason and move on until you find the right people.
They are out there and the site has lots of fantastic people, keep an open mind and you will find them... we do and have.
Her x"
Tbh as soon as I've got something off my chest I'm all good lol just like to moan every now and again haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Where’s all the fill up the thread with nonsense crew when you need them
Clearly busy trolling mine by the looks of it, I'm guessing you are one of the guys that I'm referring to in the original post by how defensive and offended you seem to find my comments, like others have said if your clearly not interested in the subject matter go find some other thread to troll, there are plenty about the pandemic that you can go comment on so see you later pal."
I’ve added to the thread. And I’ll add to it again when it’s brought up again for the 1million time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m a busy man and I haven’t got time to read profiles and try and find the special word to put as the header, so I simple send out copy and paste messages in bulk and use the heading ‘horny and bored’ it’s early days yet but out of the 15000 messages I’ve sent to woman and couples the results have been disappointing, I shall persist with this method and let you know my findings. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's a site with sex pics, genital pics, pics of sex, descriptions of sex, profiles with tick boxes stating what sex interests they offer, sex TripAdvisor verifications....
That's why the do it. They think all they have to do is ask.
Some people like that approach and just want a shag, so it works great.
For the people who don't like that approach it works well too- because there's no need to continue a conversation with them. You already know from that first message that you're not compatible.
Win win |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Where’s all the fill up the thread with nonsense crew when you need them "
Im here now, just putting a jacket potato in the oven, I like them crispy on the outside and fluffy on the inside |
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By *andV OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Where’s all the fill up the thread with nonsense crew when you need them
Clearly busy trolling mine by the looks of it, I'm guessing you are one of the guys that I'm referring to in the original post by how defensive and offended you seem to find my comments, like others have said if your clearly not interested in the subject matter go find some other thread to troll, there are plenty about the pandemic that you can go comment on so see you later pal.
I’ve added to the thread. And I’ll add to it again when it’s brought up again for the 1million time. "
Lol |
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"This really winds me up and I apologise now for the rant lol,
but why do some men think it's ok to completely not bother reading any bit of a couples profile whatsoever and just message the Mrs asking to meet up?! (Never put that nicely), If a bloke walked up to most peoples Mrs while the mr was stood there totally didn't acknowledge him and just asked the Mrs if she wanted to go fuck because they happen to be near 99 times out of 100 there getting knocked out, and even on the slim chance that didn't happen they would get an instant rejection from the Mrs lol so why do they think there is a chance of a positive outcome on here? It's a swinging site not a brothel.
We see a billion posts from single guys complaining about they can't understand why they don't get meets and I'm not tarring all with the same brush but this is why couples get fed up and block all single males because they get fed up of the idiots who end up ruining it for the genuine ones who have more than one brain cell and use a bit of common sense.
Rant over lol
I do understand where you're coming from OP and when it happens time and time again it becomes less tolerable.
If it's any tiny consolation this happens with many people, not just men. I have a couples profile with my boyfriend and people often forget or ignore the fact that it's two people they need to be interacting with even if sex is only going to happen with one of us.
Hope you feel better after a rant, I often do. My advice is to instantly filter out the ones that don't suit for whatever reason and move on until you find the right people.
They are out there and the site has lots of fantastic people, keep an open mind and you will find them... we do and have.
Her x
Tbh as soon as I've got something off my chest I'm all good lol just like to moan every now and again haha "
Same
Sometimes it's good to be heard. I hear you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Where’s all the fill up the thread with nonsense crew when you need them
Im here now, just putting a jacket potato in the oven, I like them crispy on the outside and fluffy on the inside "
Love a nice fluffy jacket potato.
Gotta be done in the oven thou. Not the same in the microwave |
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By *andV OP Couple
over a year ago
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"I’m a busy man and I haven’t got time to read profiles and try and find the special word to put as the header, so I simple send out copy and paste messages in bulk and use the heading ‘horny and bored’ it’s early days yet but out of the 15000 messages I’ve sent to woman and couples the results have been disappointing, I shall persist with this method and let you know my findings."
Copy and paste messages are fine as long as there not stupid or offensive, if I was a single bloke I would use them and then go from once I got a response, I'm not referring to reading a full profile although anybody with
a genuine interest should read them, I'm on about the bit were it says "Man", "Woman", "COUPLE" as soon as it says couple you know your not (or shouldn't be lol) dealing with just one person so anybody with common sense would address both. In my opinion anyway, others might disagree. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Where’s all the fill up the thread with nonsense crew when you need them
If you don't like the thread why post in it?"
I’ve said I receive messages from couples asking to suck my cock when I’m straight. All they have to do is read my profile to know I ain’t bi or gay.
Hopefully you will add to the thread instead of looking for drama |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Where’s all the fill up the thread with nonsense crew when you need them
If you don't like the thread why post in it?"
Also anyone that reads the forums knows it happens on certain threads. The usual suspects aswell 
I was just pointing it out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This really winds me up and I apologise now for the rant lol,
but why do some men think it's ok to completely not bother reading any bit of a couples profile whatsoever and just message the Mrs asking to meet up?! (Never put that nicely), If a bloke walked up to most peoples Mrs while the mr was stood there totally didn't acknowledge him and just asked the Mrs if she wanted to go fuck because they happen to be near 99 times out of 100 there getting knocked out, and even on the slim chance that didn't happen they would get an instant rejection from the Mrs lol so why do they think there is a chance of a positive outcome on here? It's a swinging site not a brothel.
We see a billion posts from single guys complaining about they can't understand why they don't get meets and I'm not tarring all with the same brush but this is why couples get fed up and block all single males because they get fed up of the idiots who end up ruining it for the genuine ones who have more than one brain cell and use a bit of common sense.
Rant over lol"
Because they don’t understand swinging and believe it’s just a tool for them to chuck their muck.
Just block and move on.
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Some Men in relationship are just as bad,
Take a visit to the chat rooms and watch some Males of the couples chatting up the Females of other couples without acknowledging the other half, Then you go on their profile and it says things like We are a couple don't just talk to my wife/partner, |
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By *andV OP Couple
over a year ago
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"This really winds me up and I apologise now for the rant lol,
but why do some men think it's ok to completely not bother reading any bit of a couples profile whatsoever and just message the Mrs asking to meet up?! (Never put that nicely), If a bloke walked up to most peoples Mrs while the mr was stood there totally didn't acknowledge him and just asked the Mrs if she wanted to go fuck because they happen to be near 99 times out of 100 there getting knocked out, and even on the slim chance that didn't happen they would get an instant rejection from the Mrs lol so why do they think there is a chance of a positive outcome on here? It's a swinging site not a brothel.
We see a billion posts from single guys complaining about they can't understand why they don't get meets and I'm not tarring all with the same brush but this is why couples get fed up and block all single males because they get fed up of the idiots who end up ruining it for the genuine ones who have more than one brain cell and use a bit of common sense.
Rant over lol
Because they don’t understand swinging and believe it’s just a tool for them to chuck their muck.
Just block and move on.
T"
We blocked him straight away, the moving on bit came after posting this thread |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Some Men in relationship are just as bad,
Take a visit to the chat rooms and watch some Males of the couples chatting up the Females of other couples without acknowledging the other half, Then you go on their profile and it says things like We are a couple don't just talk to my wife/partner, "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We have a worldwide pandemic going on but top news story tiday is single guys not reading profiles "
And if you go to virus forum it's full of single guys moaning about the virus and they can't get meets. As a group 99% of us single guys are absolute fuckwits, even the ones that hold their shit together for one message and get a reply often do something mental like send a cock pic second message. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have this issue.
We have a couples profile and so many messages are aimed at 'her'.
M has set our filters tighter than a badgers arsehole and still they get through. Honey x |
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By *andV OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Some Men in relationship are just as bad,
Take a visit to the chat rooms and watch some Males of the couples chatting up the Females of other couples without acknowledging the other half, Then you go on their profile and it says things like We are a couple don't just talk to my wife/partner, "
I don't doubt that, I'm far from perfect like we all probably our but as far as I was aware manners and decency were still a thing, and If I was single and wanted to meet up with a couple or a woman the minimum I'd expect to do is have a quick read of there profile to see if we are compatible enough to even send them that first message, in the same way that as a couple we both read other couples profiles first, takes two minutes, maybe longer if there like ours lol
But if somebody can't put that tiny bit of effort in, it shows that there probably messaging everybody on the site and aren't fussed who responds, and what effort are they going to put in on anything else lol |
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By *andV OP Couple
over a year ago
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"We have this issue.
We have a couples profile and so many messages are aimed at 'her'.
M has set our filters tighter than a badgers arsehole and still they get through. Honey x "
Haha I like that, like I said I'm normally not that bothered, find it flattering that people do find my wife as hot as I do
But some people just cross a line were there just disrespectful. |
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"Same reason couples ask me to meet even though my profile says I've no interest in couple or married men. It's not just single men doing this. "
Yes, having that one, balls in your court now OP, good luck |
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I really don't know how these people function in society. It's like they are on day-release from somewhere.
They don't start messages with "Hello" like normal people, or "My name is...". They think the first thing to say to somebody is "Can I fuck your wife?" That's the first line. The opener. WTF?!
I wonder if they go to the ticket office at the station, and instead of saying "Hello" or "A second-class return to Nottingham please", they start off with "I want to fuck your slut wife up the arse like the whore that she is". |
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By *andV OP Couple
over a year ago
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If you WANT men to ask if it's okay then put that FIRST on your profile.
Save yourself the rant. "
What would be the point if they don't read them. If they can't see that it says couple they are not going to see any sentence in the profile no matter where it is placed. |
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By *andV OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Same reason couples ask me to meet even though my profile says I've no interest in couple or married men. It's not just single men doing this. "
What so people message you and don't acknowledge you?! Were not talking about the same thing here. but I can see your trying to defend single men because you think this post was aimed at Every single male on fab even though it says why do "SOME MEN" and I also in the opening post said I wasn't "Tarring all single men with the same brush" but I agree with what I think your referring to?! and no it's not only men who ignore requirements and profiles although again like I said that isn't my issue as we do meet single men and a lot that we've spoke to on fab are really nice and friendly people. |
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By *andV OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Same reason couples ask me to meet even though my profile says I've no interest in couple or married men. It's not just single men doing this.
Yes, having that one, balls in your court now OP, good luck"
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"I really don't know how these people function in society. It's like they are on day-release from somewhere.
They don't start messages with "Hello" like normal people, or "My name is...". They think the first thing to say to somebody is "Can I fuck your wife?" That's the first line. The opener. WTF?!
I wonder if they go to the ticket office at the station, and instead of saying "Hello" or "A second-class return to Nottingham please", they start off with "I want to fuck your slut wife up the arse like the whore that she is". "
I once got "will you marry me" as the first words out of a stranger's mouth.
I've had "you have blue eyes" many times. No. Really. I've never noticed |
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By *andV OP Couple
over a year ago
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"I really don't know how these people function in society. It's like they are on day-release from somewhere.
They don't start messages with "Hello" like normal people, or "My name is...". They think the first thing to say to somebody is "Can I fuck your wife?" That's the first line. The opener. WTF?!
I wonder if they go to the ticket office at the station, and instead of saying "Hello" or "A second-class return to Nottingham please", they start off with "I want to fuck your slut wife up the arse like the whore that she is". "
Funny thing is, as annoying, rude and pointless as those messages are at least they have acknowledged it's your wife ??
The ones we were getting were like "hey sexy, your tits are fucking amazing, would love to spunk all over them, I'm staying in a hotel next to you, come meet me".
Think the only thing that is misquoted there is I've not made as many spelling mistakes lol
Now I'm assuming that particular one wasn't aimed at me ;p, but if it had of been then I'd be pissed off that they hadn't acknowledged vicki , although tbf the acknowledgement is only one part of it with this one person, Shakespeare incarnate. |
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By *andV OP Couple
over a year ago
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"I really don't know how these people function in society. It's like they are on day-release from somewhere.
They don't start messages with "Hello" like normal people, or "My name is...". They think the first thing to say to somebody is "Can I fuck your wife?" That's the first line. The opener. WTF?!
I wonder if they go to the ticket office at the station, and instead of saying "Hello" or "A second-class return to Nottingham please", they start off with "I want to fuck your slut wife up the arse like the whore that she is".
I once got "will you marry me" as the first words out of a stranger's mouth.
I've had "you have blue eyes" many times. No. Really. I've never noticed "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This really winds me up and I apologise now for the rant lol,
but why do some men think it's ok to completely not bother reading any bit of a couples profile whatsoever and just message the Mrs asking to meet up?! (Never put that nicely), If a bloke walked up to most peoples Mrs while the mr was stood there totally didn't acknowledge him and just asked the Mrs if she wanted to go fuck because they happen to be near 99 times out of 100 there getting knocked out, and even on the slim chance that didn't happen they would get an instant rejection from the Mrs lol so why do they think there is a chance of a positive outcome on here? It's a swinging site not a brothel.
We see a billion posts from single guys complaining about they can't understand why they don't get meets and I'm not tarring all with the same brush but this is why couples get fed up and block all single males because they get fed up of the idiots who end up ruining it for the genuine ones who have more than one brain cell and use a bit of common sense.
Rant over lol"
Based on this rant, I can guess your profile is long, boring and predictable like a marvel movie. I wouldn’t read it either |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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A couple of things that might help you help yourselves OP - firstly you don't actually say in your profile what you are looking for other than the generic thing at the top, or how your own dynamic works e.g. You don't say something like "only meet as a couple" which could give rise to people reading it as you may meet separately and taking that tack.
Then your profile text does say "if you put in your message who you want to speak to then it will be passed on to either vicki or myself." suggesting you might be open to talking separately or as individuals.
Not by any means a criticism and I know that some guys can be over the top and pay no attention to profile text, but little things like that may not help you either.
Likewise you could use your filters to filter out messages from those you don't want to meet, or if direct contact from guys is getting to you - block single guys from messaging you and go looking yourselves. |
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By *andV OP Couple
over a year ago
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"This really winds me up and I apologise now for the rant lol,
but why do some men think it's ok to completely not bother reading any bit of a couples profile whatsoever and just message the Mrs asking to meet up?! (Never put that nicely), If a bloke walked up to most peoples Mrs while the mr was stood there totally didn't acknowledge him and just asked the Mrs if she wanted to go fuck because they happen to be near 99 times out of 100 there getting knocked out, and even on the slim chance that didn't happen they would get an instant rejection from the Mrs lol so why do they think there is a chance of a positive outcome on here? It's a swinging site not a brothel.
We see a billion posts from single guys complaining about they can't understand why they don't get meets and I'm not tarring all with the same brush but this is why couples get fed up and block all single males because they get fed up of the idiots who end up ruining it for the genuine ones who have more than one brain cell and use a bit of common sense.
Rant over lol
Based on this rant, I can guess your profile is long, boring and predictable like a marvel movie. I wouldn’t read it either "
Devastated. Was hoping some random guy from 100's of miles away from where we live would take an interest, ah well our loss. |
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"Where’s all the fill up the thread with nonsense crew when you need them
Im here now, just putting a jacket potato in the oven, I like them crispy on the outside and fluffy on the inside "
I cook mine in the microwave for about 6-10 mins first and then put them in a hot oven to crisp up - I love the crispy outside more than the inside, unless there is lots of butter and cheese stuffed in the cut afterwards.
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"Same reason couples ask me to meet even though my profile says I've no interest in couple or married men. It's not just single men doing this.
What so people message you and don't acknowledge you?! Were not talking about the same thing here. but I can see your trying to defend single men because you think this post was aimed at Every single male on fab even though it says why do "SOME MEN" and I also in the opening post said I wasn't "Tarring all single men with the same brush" but I agree with what I think your referring to?! and no it's not only men who ignore requirements and profiles although again like I said that isn't my issue as we do meet single men and a lot that we've spoke to on fab are really nice and friendly people. "
No actually this is what I was referring to "but why do some men think it's ok to completely not bother reading any bit of a couples profile whatsoever" and your thread is called 'ignorance' to which again I was responding to. I made no reference to you tarring all men and I don't feel the need to defend men they are more than able, my point being its not only men who are ignorant or don't read profiles.... |
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By *andV OP Couple
over a year ago
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"A couple of things that might help you help yourselves OP - firstly you don't actually say in your profile what you are looking for other than the generic thing at the top, or how your own dynamic works e.g. You don't say something like "only meet as a couple" which could give rise to people reading it as you may meet separately and taking that tack.
Then your profile text does say "if you put in your message who you want to speak to then it will be passed on to either vicki or myself." suggesting you might be open to talking separately or as individuals.
Not by any means a criticism and I know that some guys can be over the top and pay no attention to profile text, but little things like that may not help you either.
Likewise you could use your filters to filter out messages from those you don't want to meet, or if direct contact from guys is getting to you - block single guys from messaging you and go looking yourselves."
I'm not going to try to give a smart ass response because I do appreciate that however backhandedly you have tried to make what too you are valid points. You've read our profile and you think the way to improve it, is to rule out every single scenario we don't want or do? As the couples looking to meet other couples doesn't state we don't want to meet separately. The reason that we say message who the question is aimed too is so that It isn't just answered by me once we have started to talk to somebody were interested in. I struggle to understand how that could be misconstrued as please message the Mrs separately and ask if she'd like you to "Spunk" on her tits at a local hotel. Although I now see your point, if we put as one of our bullet points as we don't need the "generic" bit at the top, we don't want you to message us asking to spunk on vicki's tits in a local hotel then we won't get that particular request lol I'll add it too the please don't ask if we want piss or poo in our mouths.
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By *andV OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Same reason couples ask me to meet even though my profile says I've no interest in couple or married men. It's not just single men doing this.
What so people message you and don't acknowledge you?! Were not talking about the same thing here. but I can see your trying to defend single men because you think this post was aimed at Every single male on fab even though it says why do "SOME MEN" and I also in the opening post said I wasn't "Tarring all single men with the same brush" but I agree with what I think your referring to?! and no it's not only men who ignore requirements and profiles although again like I said that isn't my issue as we do meet single men and a lot that we've spoke to on fab are really nice and friendly people.
No actually this is what I was referring to "but why do some men think it's ok to completely not bother reading any bit of a couples profile whatsoever" and your thread is called 'ignorance' to which again I was responding to. I made no reference to you tarring all men and I don't feel the need to defend men they are more than able, my point being its not only men who are ignorant or don't read profiles...."
I know you made no reference too it that is why I pointed it out, to show it wasn't aimed at all single men, but yeah I agree with what your are saying, It's not just men who are ignorant or ignore reading profiles. |
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"Same reason couples ask me to meet even though my profile says I've no interest in couple or married men. It's not just single men doing this.
What so people message you and don't acknowledge you?! Were not talking about the same thing here. but I can see your trying to defend single men because you think this post was aimed at Every single male on fab even though it says why do "SOME MEN" and I also in the opening post said I wasn't "Tarring all single men with the same brush" but I agree with what I think your referring to?! and no it's not only men who ignore requirements and profiles although again like I said that isn't my issue as we do meet single men and a lot that we've spoke to on fab are really nice and friendly people.
No actually this is what I was referring to "but why do some men think it's ok to completely not bother reading any bit of a couples profile whatsoever" and your thread is called 'ignorance' to which again I was responding to. I made no reference to you tarring all men and I don't feel the need to defend men they are more than able, my point being its not only men who are ignorant or don't read profiles....
I know you made no reference too it that is why I pointed it out, to show it wasn't aimed at all single men, but yeah I agree with what your are saying, It's not just men who are ignorant or ignore reading profiles."
I think it's best just to ignore what pisses you off cause its not worth getting bothered about it. If it does get to you take a break. You're never going to stop the random 'charmers' lol.
I wonder if guys respond to your wife more cause its mainly her in the pics, maybe couples with all photos of both of them could enlighten if they still get that maybe?
Some folk just have little respect I guess but to me, it says more bout them than anything. I'd imagine even if the guy had asked you, your Mrs still wouldn't have wanted him messing on her boobs lol I mean, hard as would be to resist lolol |
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By *andV OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Same reason couples ask me to meet even though my profile says I've no interest in couple or married men. It's not just single men doing this.
What so people message you and don't acknowledge you?! Were not talking about the same thing here. but I can see your trying to defend single men because you think this post was aimed at Every single male on fab even though it says why do "SOME MEN" and I also in the opening post said I wasn't "Tarring all single men with the same brush" but I agree with what I think your referring to?! and no it's not only men who ignore requirements and profiles although again like I said that isn't my issue as we do meet single men and a lot that we've spoke to on fab are really nice and friendly people.
No actually this is what I was referring to "but why do some men think it's ok to completely not bother reading any bit of a couples profile whatsoever" and your thread is called 'ignorance' to which again I was responding to. I made no reference to you tarring all men and I don't feel the need to defend men they are more than able, my point being its not only men who are ignorant or don't read profiles....
I know you made no reference too it that is why I pointed it out, to show it wasn't aimed at all single men, but yeah I agree with what your are saying, It's not just men who are ignorant or ignore reading profiles.
I think it's best just to ignore what pisses you off cause its not worth getting bothered about it. If it does get to you take a break. You're never going to stop the random 'charmers' lol.
I wonder if guys respond to your wife more cause its mainly her in the pics, maybe couples with all photos of both of them could enlighten if they still get that maybe?
Some folk just have little respect I guess but to me, it says more bout them than anything. I'd imagine even if the guy had asked you, your Mrs still wouldn't have wanted him messing on her boobs lol I mean, hard as would be to resist lolol"
Haha who could, yeah tbf I genuinely don't take many pics of myself, in very few in general not just fab pics, but I have started popping some in public, there's always been a few in friend pics.
And not in a bragging way far from it but we get loads of those type of messages as I'm sure most couples and definitely women receive and normally it's water of a ducks back, don't even think as there insta-blocked there and then but having one of those days today lol |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"A couple of things that might help you help yourselves OP - firstly you don't actually say in your profile what you are looking for other than the generic thing at the top, or how your own dynamic works e.g. You don't say something like "only meet as a couple" which could give rise to people reading it as you may meet separately and taking that tack.
Then your profile text does say "if you put in your message who you want to speak to then it will be passed on to either vicki or myself." suggesting you might be open to talking separately or as individuals.
Not by any means a criticism and I know that some guys can be over the top and pay no attention to profile text, but little things like that may not help you either.
Likewise you could use your filters to filter out messages from those you don't want to meet, or if direct contact from guys is getting to you - block single guys from messaging you and go looking yourselves.
I'm not going to try to give a smart ass response because I do appreciate that however backhandedly you have tried to make what too you are valid points. You've read our profile and you think the way to improve it, is to rule out every single scenario we don't want or do? As the couples looking to meet other couples doesn't state we don't want to meet separately. The reason that we say message who the question is aimed too is so that It isn't just answered by me once we have started to talk to somebody were interested in. I struggle to understand how that could be misconstrued as please message the Mrs separately and ask if she'd like you to "Spunk" on her tits at a local hotel. Although I now see your point, if we put as one of our bullet points as we don't need the "generic" bit at the top, we don't want you to message us asking to spunk on vicki's tits in a local hotel then we won't get that particular request lol I'll add it too the please don't ask if we want piss or poo in our mouths.
I didn't try. "
Think you've totally missed my point and if you think anything I said was a backhanded attempt at making my points then you are mistaken.
Where in what I have said have I suggested you should provide a list of "every single scenario etc"?
All I have pointed out is two areas where you could very simply and easily help yourselves minimise the kind of messages you are bemoaning, because regardless of what you might think there is room for things being misconstrued in the ways I have suggested and two very simple changes would address that.
It's really no skin off my nose whether you choose to make those changes or not - as I made very clear, my comments were *not* a criticism just observations as to how you could help yourselves - take them or leave them as you see fit. |
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over a year ago
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"A couple of things that might help you help yourselves OP - firstly you don't actually say in your profile what you are looking for other than the generic thing at the top, or how your own dynamic works e.g. You don't say something like "only meet as a couple" which could give rise to people reading it as you may meet separately and taking that tack.
Then your profile text does say "if you put in your message who you want to speak to then it will be passed on to either vicki or myself." suggesting you might be open to talking separately or as individuals.
Not by any means a criticism and I know that some guys can be over the top and pay no attention to profile text, but little things like that may not help you either.
Likewise you could use your filters to filter out messages from those you don't want to meet, or if direct contact from guys is getting to you - block single guys from messaging you and go looking yourselves.
I'm not going to try to give a smart ass response because I do appreciate that however backhandedly you have tried to make what too you are valid points. You've read our profile and you think the way to improve it, is to rule out every single scenario we don't want or do? As the couples looking to meet other couples doesn't state we don't want to meet separately. The reason that we say message who the question is aimed too is so that It isn't just answered by me once we have started to talk to somebody were interested in. I struggle to understand how that could be misconstrued as please message the Mrs separately and ask if she'd like you to "Spunk" on her tits at a local hotel. Although I now see your point, if we put as one of our bullet points as we don't need the "generic" bit at the top, we don't want you to message us asking to spunk on vicki's tits in a local hotel then we won't get that particular request lol I'll add it too the please don't ask if we want piss or poo in our mouths.
I didn't try.
Think you've totally missed my point and if you think anything I said was a backhanded attempt at making my points then you are mistaken.
Where in what I have said have I suggested you should provide a list of "every single scenario etc"?
All I have pointed out is two areas where you could very simply and easily help yourselves minimise the kind of messages you are bemoaning, because regardless of what you might think there is room for things being misconstrued in the ways I have suggested and two very simple changes would address that.
It's really no skin off my nose whether you choose to make those changes or not - as I made very clear, my comments were *not* a criticism just observations as to how you could help yourselves - take them or leave them as you see fit."
I'm in no position to question your level of intelligence having never met you or known you, but at what point in our profile is there any indication that we meet separately? Virtually every other word is we or both, the last bit even states we won't reply until both of us have read the message (granted some bits need updating lol) but anybody with a brain cell can tell It's not a couple who meet separately, do you know the biggest and easiest way to tell, it literally doesn't say it anywhere on the profile. If we were a couple who met separately, firstly we would have solo profiles which we don't but more importantly it would be the first thing we put.
The funny thing is I genuinely don't believe that you are trying to wind me up, but how can you not see that your trying to defend the indefensible with feeble excuses trying to blame us for others being idiots.
The issue isn't what we have written down or not written down on our profile, do you honestly think these people who are sending shakesperian love sonnets in the form of " I would love to spunk on your tits" were somehow confused by our profile because it doesn't specifically say don't send messages to just one of us with one of the messages we have already said don't send in our profile?!
We also didn't put please don't send us pics of you wanking into 12 day old skid marked boxers while looking at a picture of your nan, so is it going to be our fault if somebody does do that because we don't specifically say don't do it?! Or would it be down down to them to not be a dirty scrote? |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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Like I said no skin off my nose what you think or decide to do or don't - just gave a perspective that you may not have considered which may, in part, address the problem you raised - I've not said anywhere in what I have said that *I* believe you meet as anything other than a couple but have suggested how it *could* be taken by some how you might, and how you could potentially, and simply, close that.
I've also made it very clear I wasn't criticising nor suggesting it's your "fault" somehow - yes people of all categories here *should* do things better and not take things for granted *but* sadly, not all do, so you either accept it or find ways to minimise it where you can.
It's obvious you don't value that opinion and that is of course absolutely fine and your prerogative - like I said, no skin off my nose whatsoever - I'll leave you to it
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"Like I said no skin off my nose what you think or decide to do or don't - just gave a perspective that you may not have considered which may, in part, address the problem you raised - I've not said anywhere in what I have said that *I* believe you meet as anything other than a couple but have suggested how it *could* be taken by some how you might, and how you could potentially, and simply, close that.
I've also made it very clear I wasn't criticising nor suggesting it's your "fault" somehow - yes people of all categories here *should* do things better and not take things for granted *but* sadly, not all do, so you either accept it or find ways to minimise it where you can.
It's obvious you don't value that opinion and that is of course absolutely fine and your prerogative - like I said, no skin off my nose whatsoever - I'll leave you to it
Bonne chance "
Ok, your being reasonable and I might just have took what you said the wrong way, (It's possible I am human lol), so we will leave it at that.
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By *andV OP Couple
over a year ago
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"It’s because a virtual punch in the nose doesn’t hurt as much as a real punch in the nose.
They’re chancers. If you don’t ask you don’t get sort of thing.
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Haha that is a great description |
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I have had lots of the idiot 'dont ask you dont get' contingent. If you ask despite being told no several times, ask when its obvious you are not interested indicates that the person is a moron so even if they ask stupid questions rather than try a respectful game they get the FO treatment. I have tried a few times to explain to the morons that they simply damage themselves, didnt work |
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