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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So I’ve had a few instances of having good convo with people then being randomly blocked or not receiving a reply when trying to organise something, any way of being able to prevent this? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OK, so slightly more serious answer now...
Really look at the messaging style of those you are interacting with
I have a feeling you are talking (some of the time) to guys pertaining to be women
Once the wank is finished, you're good to block
Secondly, patience really is everything
You have to understand that many on here have active lives away from the site (kids, jobs, family commitments etc) and don't always have time to commit, either in messages or in terms of having the free time to meet
Also understand that despite what their profile says, there are some who have very little intention of meeting - the idea is lovely, but the reality is daunting
Look at how much you are messaging and the quickness of response
Take time between messages, don't feel compelled to answer immediately
To the recipient, constant messaging can feel like an attack rather than a pleasant flow
Think about what you're saying
Those who want to meet you will probably want to know about you, the guy, as opposed to just the sexual you
Manage your expectations - a good deal of conversation won't lead anywhere
Manage your expectations of swinging - for many, it isn't a 'fuck for all' and is as much about the social as the sexual
Don't be pushy
Don't make anyone a priority when you are just an option to them
Treat people with respect and charm and wit, with a smile and an arm round the back as opposed to just a cock to ride
Remember the times we're in - they will and do alter peoples perspectives and outlooks and interest level
Overall, take your foot off the pedal, take it easy, this isn't a race, it's not a competition, it's a chance to get to know people
Some of them you might end up fucking
I think that's enough for now
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Set your expectations appropriately.
Most people just will not be compatible with most other people.
It will typically take a few messages to work out who the majority of people are that are not a match.
Chat stops. Blocks activated.
Accept it. Improve your skills at finding people who will find you a match. It's life. |
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