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My wife thinks she has a horrible body, which I disagree with. I think she is lovely. However, being on Fab has helped with the lovely comments she receives (some not so nice) and she is becoming more confident. Has anyone else had the same experience? |
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over a year ago
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Yes.
I've always been self conscious about my face pics.
Since being here for a month now I've only had one idiot message, everyone else has been so complementary.
I'm not bothered about negative comments, but when you get nice ones it does help boost your confidence. |
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Glad she has found the confidence. I think she looks gorgeous
Everytime I think I'm not happy with my size I remember that I'm a 46 year old Mum, not meant to look perfect. And in my experience the guys I met have always loved my curves and that is a confidence boost in itself
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"Yes.
I've always been self conscious about my face pics.
Since being here for a month now I've only had one idiot message, everyone else has been so complementary.
I'm not bothered about negative comments, but when you get nice ones it does help boost your confidence."
You look lovely x |
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"My wife thinks she has a horrible body, which I disagree with. I think she is lovely. However, being on Fab has helped with the lovely comments she receives (some not so nice) and she is becoming more confident. Has anyone else had the same experience?"
Your wife is sooooo hot. You are a lucky gent. Xx |
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"Glad she has found the confidence. I think she looks gorgeous
Everytime I think I'm not happy with my size I remember that I'm a 46 year old Mum, not meant to look perfect. And in my experience the guys I met have always loved my curves and that is a confidence boost in itself
You look wonderful x
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I never gave any thought to body image one way or the other until I hit 40. I never had much self confidence anyway but it took a big hit at that time and I questioned everything including how people looked at me and eventually convinced myself I was invisible so it didn't really matter what I looked like.
Been on and off fab for almost 4 years and it has made a world of difference.
I am no longer invisible unless I want to be. I own my body now
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It really saddens me to hear of folks with low body confidence especially, as in your wifes case, they have a body that many would give their right arm for
She has a lovely figure and I'm sure she's the envy of many a woman |
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"It really saddens me to hear of folks with low body confidence especially, as in your wifes case, they have a body that many would give their right arm for
She has a lovely figure and I'm sure she's the envy of many a woman "
Completely agree. Id swap hers for mine lol..
Im terrible i do major eye rolls when i see slender toned and tanned women who dont have saggy tits etc saying 'i dont like my body'..
Well excuse me while i yawn..
Im a dress size 30/32.. 5ft 3 and have more stretch marks than id like. But its my body and i simply have to own it.
She looks lush and im sure deep down she knows she does. X |
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By *ED00Woman
over a year ago
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Most definitely helped me. I'm a larger lady and I've struggled with my weight all my life which has then had an impact on my confidence. Ive got a massive scar on my tummy and a jelly belly and I was happily married for 22yrs so I never worried about confidence as much as both the scar and the jelly belly evolved during this time. My husband died nearly 9 years ago and I tentatively joined this site coming up 2years ago. I never knew so many men liked big women. I've never had so many compliments about my big arse. I remember one of my very first meets the guy asked me to walk across the room so he could watch my bum... I was shocked, embarrassed, but in the end I rocked it !! I still get a bit caught in my head sometimes but quickly remind myself that these are my hang ups no one elses and I am a Big Beautiful Woman that rocks her big butt and jelly belly lol xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think she looks great.
She has a lovely slim figure.
I completely understand how it feels to have body hang ups - I've always struggled with my weight and am never happy with how I look.
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over a year ago
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Yes actually. I'm not a big fan of my body, but being on fab, embracing my body and seeing that most comments are positive has helped a lot with self confidence.
Your wife looks lovely by the way x |
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Before we joined here I really didn't like much about the way I looked and didn't see myself as at all sexy. Couldn't imagine anyone other than my husband being attracted to me. I would never take a photo of myself as I hated what I saw.
A year later and I feel completely different. Sure I still have parts about me that I don't like and prefer to keep covered up but I can also see some of what other people see now. I've made friends who have shown me that not everyone is attracted to what I viewed as the perfect body. Some people really do love curves and don't care about all the imperfections that I see. It really has been a massive eye opener for me and I feel so much better about myself.
Mrs x |
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"My wife thinks she has a horrible body, which I disagree with. I think she is lovely. However, being on Fab has helped with the lovely comments she receives (some not so nice) and she is becoming more confident. Has anyone else had the same experience?"
I’d say your wife has a cracking body 
I wasn’t particularly confident at 1st but now I like showing my body on here but there’s always some with come back with negative/hurtful comments.. xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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If that’s your wife in your profile pics, I can assure her she has nothing to worry about. She has a gorgeous body. Everything how it should be. Great breasts and a simply beautiful pussy. |
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I like my body, I used to detest my boobs though, I was envious of all my mates and wanted my pre kids boobs back, but it was not to be. Then I met a man on fab who is in love with them and he helped me to overcome the negativity and fall in love with them myself  |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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I don't really have a lot of body confidence I have a belly on me . I know I'm carrying extra weight and need to lose it and I'm definitely happier in myself when slimmer. But I'd never say I have ever been body confident.
Being on here has helped a bit though.
Your wife has an amazing body if she could see it the way others do her confidence would be sky high. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"It really saddens me to hear of folks with low body confidence especially, as in your wifes case, they have a body that many would give their right arm for
She has a lovely figure and I'm sure she's the envy of many a woman
Completely agree. Id swap hers for mine lol..
Im terrible i do major eye rolls when i see slender toned and tanned women who dont have saggy tits etc saying 'i dont like my body'..
Well excuse me while i yawn..
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I don't think women who are above a certain size can have a monopoly on the low self esteem/poor view on their body thing. Body positivity and confidence should be for all shapes and sizes across the board.
Anyway, OP, personally I don't put too much ermm weight behind what
people say on here re my body when they haven't met me. But I have met some incredible people who think I'm attractive tum, bum, boobs and all and I'd by lying if I said it hasn't made me feel more confident. I like my figure 99% of the time.
I hope your wife continues to learn to love her body.
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Im terrible i do major eye rolls when i see slender toned and tanned women who dont have saggy tits etc saying 'i dont like my body'..
Well excuse me while i yawn..
Im a dress size 30/32.. 5ft 3 and have more stretch marks than id like. But its my body and i simply have to own it. "
That's a bit unfair. Every size and shape can have insecurities. I was far more insecure as a dancer with a slim, firm and toned body than I am now and at bigger sizes. |
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I dissociate body types with being attractive or beautiful.
Body types can be objective, based on measurement or ratios or definition.
But beauty and attractiveness depends on so many factors that it gives everybody a fair chance of being one or not.
It's natural to have body confidence issues but it shouldn't stop us from trying to be beautiful or attractive. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Your wife has a lovely figure.
I do get where she is coming from as I feel the same.
Being on here has helped me accept my body more and its nice to receive compliments from genuine people on here.
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Joining the kink and swinging scene and going to clubs has definitely helped my body confidence. Being comfortable naked around others and being around normal bodies rather than mostly exposed to those of celebrities and edited and airbrushed models has been really helpful.
Fab itself however is hit and miss. I'm mostly quite strong in my body confidence but fab has knocked that at times. It can be quite brutal and shallow on here and when you get some people telling everyone they message that they the hottest person on here or calling you beautiful when you don't even have public face pictures, it's hard to take compliments at face value. |
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"It really saddens me to hear of folks with low body confidence especially, as in your wifes case, they have a body that many would give their right arm for
She has a lovely figure and I'm sure she's the envy of many a woman
Completely agree. Id swap hers for mine lol..
Im terrible i do major eye rolls when i see slender toned and tanned women who dont have saggy tits etc saying 'i dont like my body'..
Well excuse me while i yawn..
Im a dress size 30/32.. 5ft 3 and have more stretch marks than id like. But its my body and i simply have to own it.
She looks lush and im sure deep down she knows she does. X"
That's a little unkind. You just don't know what kind of traumas and experiences peole have had in their lives to think the way they do about themselves. People feelings should never be invalidated or dismissed. |
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Fab has definitely helped. When I first joined a couple of years ago I had really poor self esteem and thought (and told) no one would want my body, I’m especially conscious about my mum tum.
Being complimented and realising that some men don’t care about the imperfections has helped a lot. Now I go though phases of how body confident I am but it’s a huge improvement on what it was. |
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Lots of women lack body confidence regardless of their shape or size.
Especially if pregnancy changes them with scars, stretch marks and muscle damage.
I'm aware how fortunate I am to have always been comfortable being me.
OP I am pleased that your wife is feeling more confident thanks to Fab. I think she looks great. |
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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago
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"It really saddens me to hear of folks with low body confidence especially, as in your wifes case, they have a body that many would give their right arm for
She has a lovely figure and I'm sure she's the envy of many a woman
Completely agree. Id swap hers for mine lol..
Im terrible i do major eye rolls when i see slender toned and tanned women who dont have saggy tits etc saying 'i dont like my body'..
Well excuse me while i yawn..
Im a dress size 30/32.. 5ft 3 and have more stretch marks than id like. But its my body and i simply have to own it.
She looks lush and im sure deep down she knows she does. X"
i find this rather harsh , size as nothing to do with self esteem , |
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over a year ago
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Think everyone male and female can struggle with body confidence and when mainstream media, magazines etc are constantly showing us the perfect body, bashing celebrities if they gain a few lbs its understandable there's a struggle as we all try to achieve the "perfect/ideal" look.
I've always struggled with body confidence and only last year bought a full length mirror for the first time. If you had told me before i joined here that I would take photos of my body and post them on a swingers site I would have laughed at you.
I'm learning to love my body finally and I know I need to lose weight but ill lose it for me not for anyone else.
And for any ladies struggling with body confidence check out the book Womem don't owe you pretty.
I take the compliments from people I know on here and have chatted too as genuine, the ones I get from random guys I just say thanks and be polite, which I do for the nasty ones too.
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"It really saddens me to hear of folks with low body confidence especially, as in your wifes case, they have a body that many would give their right arm for
She has a lovely figure and I'm sure she's the envy of many a woman
Completely agree. Id swap hers for mine lol..
Im terrible i do major eye rolls when i see slender toned and tanned women who dont have saggy tits etc saying 'i dont like my body'..
Well excuse me while i yawn..
Im a dress size 30/32.. 5ft 3 and have more stretch marks than id like. But its my body and i simply have to own it.
She looks lush and im sure deep down she knows she does. X"
This response from you surprised me. You normally come across as pleasant and understanding. |
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"It really saddens me to hear of folks with low body confidence especially, as in your wifes case, they have a body that many would give their right arm for
She has a lovely figure and I'm sure she's the envy of many a woman
Completely agree. Id swap hers for mine lol..
Im terrible i do major eye rolls when i see slender toned and tanned women who dont have saggy tits etc saying 'i dont like my body'..
Well excuse me while i yawn..
Im a dress size 30/32.. 5ft 3 and have more stretch marks than id like. But its my body and i simply have to own it.
She looks lush and im sure deep down she knows she does. X"
You are beautiful as you are. I know it's blinking hard when someone who has a figure a shape you know you'll unlikely to achieve complain. And in your own mind your like wtf you are stunning, what is wrong with you? And the media etc etc are telling you that's what you are aiming for. But magazines and internet sites will highlight slim celebs cellulite etc etc. It's not just larger women who suffer with low body confidence.
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"Fishing for compliments again
So what if they are? Isn't everyone in some way shape or form??? "
Not everyone posts almost identical messages 4 months apart, originally on swingers chat, so yeah fishing again  |
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Body confidence has far more to do with how you feel on the inside and this can be learned (or unlearned) based on your environment.
I spent many years being far too shy, then many more with someone who tried to break me.
Having positive responses to your attempts at being confident are such a gift.
Fab has been a great place for helping me with that and K looks at me in ways I know my confidence has definitely sky rocketed.
Continue giving her all your support OP. We all deserve freedom from judgement and self judgement can sometimes be the bigger devil.
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"Fishing for compliments again
So what if they are? Isn't everyone in some way shape or form???
Not everyone posts almost identical messages 4 months apart, originally on swingers chat, so yeah fishing again "
Please move on if you've nothing positive to say. Life is a journey. Enjoy it.
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"Fishing for compliments again
So what if they are? Isn't everyone in some way shape or form???
Not everyone posts almost identical messages 4 months apart, originally on swingers chat, so yeah fishing again "
4 months apart! Wow! Even if they were posting 4 days apart I wouldn't say they were fishing. 4 hours maybe not 4 months 
Would you post that on threads that have multiple parts? I think we are on part 10 now of a particular theme? Same could be said for that no?
Here is a thing, If I don't like a thread I usually won't comment. |
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I'm the same.
Had such bad body confidence that I even avoided looking in a mirror for years.
A couple of changes in my life gave me a more positive outlook on life and gave me the initial boost I needed to post here. Since then, the Fabs and nice comments have really helped raise my confidence.
For those saying the OP is fishing for complements... so what?
Low body confidence can be crippling, and if looking for some compliments helps, then that's fine.
No one is forcing anyone to give a compliment. |
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"My wife thinks she has a horrible body, which I disagree with. I think she is lovely. However, being on Fab has helped with the lovely comments she receives (some not so nice) and she is becoming more confident. Has anyone else had the same experience?"
She’s gorgeous  |
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Always suffered body confidence issues. The Mrs saying she loves me just as I am doesn't always help though, your partner does have a certain degree of biaise naturally. But a fwb saying the same things or a stranger is oddly different?
Trying to not put yourself down is the best step I was ever encouraged to take as a defence mechanism. |
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"Fishing for compliments again
So what if they are? Isn't everyone in some way shape or form???
Not everyone posts almost identical messages 4 months apart, originally on swingers chat, so yeah fishing again
4 months apart! Wow! Even if they were posting 4 days apart I wouldn't say they were fishing. 4 hours maybe not 4 months
Would you post that on threads that have multiple parts? I think we are on part 10 now of a particular theme? Same could be said for that no?
Here is a thing, If I don't like a thread I usually won't comment. "
But happy to comment on comments you don’t like |
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I have parts of my body I dislike, wish were better. But in the whole I like my body
I guess it’s due to my upbringing, if I mentioned I didn’t like my lack of boobs, my arse my knees, legs, my eyes etc my parents, grandparents would tell me not to worry/fret over it.
Was also told my boobs will come... I was a AA as a teen... then hit 38 and the boobs appeared!! So glad I didn’t get a boob job in my 20s like I was going to do
As for the eyes, only 2% of the worlds population have green eyes, I’ve grown to like them... even though everyone else has blue/brown eyes and there are no songs about green eyes |
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"My wife thinks she has a horrible body, which I disagree with. I think she is lovely. However, being on Fab has helped with the lovely comments she receives (some not so nice) and she is becoming more confident. Has anyone else had the same experience?"
I definitely would 
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"I have parts of my body I dislike, wish were better. But in the whole I like my body
I guess it’s due to my upbringing, if I mentioned I didn’t like my lack of boobs, my arse my knees, legs, my eyes etc my parents, grandparents would tell me not to worry/fret over it.
Was also told my boobs will come... I was a AA as a teen... then hit 38 and the boobs appeared!! So glad I didn’t get a boob job in my 20s like I was going to do
As for the eyes, only 2% of the worlds population have green eyes, I’ve grown to like them... even though everyone else has blue/brown eyes and there are no songs about green eyes "
Pretty Green Eyes by Ultrabeat |
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"Fishing for compliments again
So what if they are? Isn't everyone in some way shape or form???
Not everyone posts almost identical messages 4 months apart, originally on swingers chat, so yeah fishing again
4 months apart! Wow! Even if they were posting 4 days apart I wouldn't say they were fishing. 4 hours maybe not 4 months
Would you post that on threads that have multiple parts? I think we are on part 10 now of a particular theme? Same could be said for that no?
Here is a thing, If I don't like a thread I usually won't comment.
But happy to comment on comments you don’t like "
Yep because I feel some comments are unnecessary and will (with respect) call it as I see it |
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"Fishing for compliments again
So what if they are? Isn't everyone in some way shape or form???
Not everyone posts almost identical messages 4 months apart, originally on swingers chat, so yeah fishing again
4 months apart! Wow! Even if they were posting 4 days apart I wouldn't say they were fishing. 4 hours maybe not 4 months
Would you post that on threads that have multiple parts? I think we are on part 10 now of a particular theme? Same could be said for that no?
Here is a thing, If I don't like a thread I usually won't comment.
But happy to comment on comments you don’t like
Yep because I feel some comments are unnecessary and will (with respect) call it as I see it "
And with such effort too, I’m impressed |
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"My wife thinks she has a horrible body, which I disagree with. I think she is lovely. However, being on Fab has helped with the lovely comments she receives (some not so nice) and she is becoming more confident. Has anyone else had the same experience?"
She’s gorgeous!
I was bullied a lot growing up, because of my thighs.
Fab has taught me to love myself in some ways..
But there’s always that little nag of insecurity.
Think a lot get that on here.
Just try to push it to the back of your mind. |
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My wife hates her body,she's a BBW,and I hate mine so we're a good match. That's why we like to talk first to people cos there always comes that big moment of face pics and body pics to see if there's an attraction. She is very pretty and never known a guy not to fancy her on fab or real world |
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"I have parts of my body I dislike, wish were better. But in the whole I like my body
I guess it’s due to my upbringing, if I mentioned I didn’t like my lack of boobs, my arse my knees, legs, my eyes etc my parents, grandparents would tell me not to worry/fret over it.
Was also told my boobs will come... I was a AA as a teen... then hit 38 and the boobs appeared!! So glad I didn’t get a boob job in my 20s like I was going to do
As for the eyes, only 2% of the worlds population have green eyes, I’ve grown to like them... even though everyone else has blue/brown eyes and there are no songs about green eyes
Pretty Green Eyes by Ultrabeat "
Well I never knew that! Thank you, I like my green eyes even more now |
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"I have parts of my body I dislike, wish were better. But in the whole I like my body
I guess it’s due to my upbringing, if I mentioned I didn’t like my lack of boobs, my arse my knees, legs, my eyes etc my parents, grandparents would tell me not to worry/fret over it.
Was also told my boobs will come... I was a AA as a teen... then hit 38 and the boobs appeared!! So glad I didn’t get a boob job in my 20s like I was going to do
As for the eyes, only 2% of the worlds population have green eyes, I’ve grown to like them... even though everyone else has blue/brown eyes and there are no songs about green eyes
Pretty Green Eyes by Ultrabeat
Well I never knew that! Thank you, I like my green eyes even more now "
You are most welcome . My dad has green eyes and ginger hair. I imagine he's incredibly rare!  |
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"Fishing for compliments again
So what if they are? Isn't everyone in some way shape or form???
Not everyone posts almost identical messages 4 months apart, originally on swingers chat, so yeah fishing again
4 months apart! Wow! Even if they were posting 4 days apart I wouldn't say they were fishing. 4 hours maybe not 4 months
Would you post that on threads that have multiple parts? I think we are on part 10 now of a particular theme? Same could be said for that no?
Here is a thing, If I don't like a thread I usually won't comment.
But happy to comment on comments you don’t like
Yep because I feel some comments are unnecessary and will (with respect) call it as I see it
And with such effort too, I’m impressed "
Glad you think so. Super bappy with myself |
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"I have parts of my body I dislike, wish were better. But in the whole I like my body
I guess it’s due to my upbringing, if I mentioned I didn’t like my lack of boobs, my arse my knees, legs, my eyes etc my parents, grandparents would tell me not to worry/fret over it.
Was also told my boobs will come... I was a AA as a teen... then hit 38 and the boobs appeared!! So glad I didn’t get a boob job in my 20s like I was going to do
As for the eyes, only 2% of the worlds population have green eyes, I’ve grown to like them... even though everyone else has blue/brown eyes and there are no songs about green eyes
Pretty Green Eyes by Ultrabeat
Well I never knew that! Thank you, I like my green eyes even more now
You are most welcome . My dad has green eyes and ginger hair. I imagine he's incredibly rare! "
My hair is auburn, and my eyes are bright greeny blue. Can change to grey/blue depending on my mood.
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"Fishing for compliments again
So what if they are? Isn't everyone in some way shape or form???
Not everyone posts almost identical messages 4 months apart, originally on swingers chat, so yeah fishing again
4 months apart! Wow! Even if they were posting 4 days apart I wouldn't say they were fishing. 4 hours maybe not 4 months
Would you post that on threads that have multiple parts? I think we are on part 10 now of a particular theme? Same could be said for that no?
Here is a thing, If I don't like a thread I usually won't comment.
But happy to comment on comments you don’t like
Yep because I feel some comments are unnecessary and will (with respect) call it as I see it
And with such effort too, I’m impressed
Glad you think so. Super bappy with myself "
See, I’ve boosted your confidence, my work here is complete |
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"Fishing for compliments again
So what if they are? Isn't everyone in some way shape or form???
Not everyone posts almost identical messages 4 months apart, originally on swingers chat, so yeah fishing again
4 months apart! Wow! Even if they were posting 4 days apart I wouldn't say they were fishing. 4 hours maybe not 4 months
Would you post that on threads that have multiple parts? I think we are on part 10 now of a particular theme? Same could be said for that no?
Here is a thing, If I don't like a thread I usually won't comment.
But happy to comment on comments you don’t like
Yep because I feel some comments are unnecessary and will (with respect) call it as I see it
And with such effort too, I’m impressed
Glad you think so. Super bappy with myself
See, I’ve boosted your confidence, my work here is complete "
My confidence never needs boosting because I own it  |
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"My wife thinks she has a horrible body, which I disagree with. I think she is lovely. However, being on Fab has helped with the lovely comments she receives (some not so nice) and she is becoming more confident. Has anyone else had the same experience?"
She has a fab body! I agree though,my confidence is huge now. I wouldn’t even get naked before other than needing too, now I struggle keeping my clothes on! |
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"I have parts of my body I dislike, wish were better. But in the whole I like my body
I guess it’s due to my upbringing, if I mentioned I didn’t like my lack of boobs, my arse my knees, legs, my eyes etc my parents, grandparents would tell me not to worry/fret over it.
Was also told my boobs will come... I was a AA as a teen... then hit 38 and the boobs appeared!! So glad I didn’t get a boob job in my 20s like I was going to do
As for the eyes, only 2% of the worlds population have green eyes, I’ve grown to like them... even though everyone else has blue/brown eyes and there are no songs about green eyes
Pretty Green Eyes by Ultrabeat
Well I never knew that! Thank you, I like my green eyes even more now
You are most welcome . My dad has green eyes and ginger hair. I imagine he's incredibly rare! "
That is rare! My dad was pure ginger, brown eyes though
I’m off to google how rare that is I am intrigued |
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"Fishing for compliments again
So what if they are? Isn't everyone in some way shape or form???
Not everyone posts almost identical messages 4 months apart, originally on swingers chat, so yeah fishing again
4 months apart! Wow! Even if they were posting 4 days apart I wouldn't say they were fishing. 4 hours maybe not 4 months
Would you post that on threads that have multiple parts? I think we are on part 10 now of a particular theme? Same could be said for that no?
Here is a thing, If I don't like a thread I usually won't comment.
But happy to comment on comments you don’t like
Yep because I feel some comments are unnecessary and will (with respect) call it as I see it
And with such effort too, I’m impressed
Glad you think so. Super bappy with myself
See, I’ve boosted your confidence, my work here is complete
My confidence never needs boosting because I own it "
And here you are trying to convince me |
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"Fishing for compliments again
So what if they are? Isn't everyone in some way shape or form???
Not everyone posts almost identical messages 4 months apart, originally on swingers chat, so yeah fishing again
4 months apart! Wow! Even if they were posting 4 days apart I wouldn't say they were fishing. 4 hours maybe not 4 months
Would you post that on threads that have multiple parts? I think we are on part 10 now of a particular theme? Same could be said for that no?
Here is a thing, If I don't like a thread I usually won't comment.
But happy to comment on comments you don’t like
Yep because I feel some comments are unnecessary and will (with respect) call it as I see it
And with such effort too, I’m impressed
Glad you think so. Super bappy with myself
See, I’ve boosted your confidence, my work here is complete
My confidence never needs boosting because I own it
And here you are trying to convince me "
Why would I try to convince you of anything when your opinion matters not |
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"It really saddens me to hear of folks with low body confidence especially, as in your wifes case, they have a body that many would give their right arm for
She has a lovely figure and I'm sure she's the envy of many a woman
Completely agree. Id swap hers for mine lol..
Im terrible i do major eye rolls when i see slender toned and tanned women who dont have saggy tits etc saying 'i dont like my body'..
Well excuse me while i yawn..
Im a dress size 30/32.. 5ft 3 and have more stretch marks than id like. But its my body and i simply have to own it.
She looks lush and im sure deep down she knows she does. X"
Excuse you while you yawn? Kinda the same as slimmer ladies feel when the whole BBW are better, more fun in bed, big tits are best nonsense.
People can be body conscious at all shapes and sizes, fat people don't have the monopoly on it
OP I think she looks great. I'm sure if she reads all the nice supportive complimentary posts on here it will give her a boost |
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I'd pay good money to have a tummy like your wife, OP. I don't especially like my body, especially my tummy, but in terms of its outward appearance, I've kind of stopped being as obsessed with that. I more hate my body now because it doesn't function normally. Bits are broken, irreparably. Bits do not work anymore and probably never will again. I've had to accept that to make my body do what I want it to do, that I needed to add on artificial aids in the form of crutches or a wheelchair.
So, even though I'd still have a tummy tuck and I'd still like my boobs to pass the pencil test, I personally have found bigger fish to fry.
Hopefully your wife can grow in her body confidence or at least come to accept what she looks like.
Body confidence etc has got bugger all to do with dress size and I find comments that suggest otherwise to be unpleasant. |
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Body confidence is tough. In one way or another I think it's something everyone has. My late girlfriend who unfortunately passed at the beginning of last year was incredibly conscious about her body, there was always something she didnt like about it or that she wanted to change.
She worked as a lingerie model since she was 18 (almost 14 years), I never asked but she was probably 8st wet through. To date I've never seen a more perfect body yet her being so critical of herself lead to self loathing, especially when she achieved her goal but then found another, that she ended up with depression.
In a nut shell, I really wouldnt know what to say. All you can really do is be comforting on the subject and hope that one day she sees herself in even a fraction of the light that you see her in. |
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What turned me round being self conscious was my first ever visit to a gay sauna...naked day. There were others bugger than me and as an obvious newbie loads were great with me and made me feel so welcome. I think nothing now being naked as soon as i meet new people.i am comfortable with my tubby tum etc |
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"Fishing for compliments again
So what if they are? Isn't everyone in some way shape or form???
Not everyone posts almost identical messages 4 months apart, originally on swingers chat, so yeah fishing again
4 months apart! Wow! Even if they were posting 4 days apart I wouldn't say they were fishing. 4 hours maybe not 4 months
Would you post that on threads that have multiple parts? I think we are on part 10 now of a particular theme? Same could be said for that no?
Here is a thing, If I don't like a thread I usually won't comment.
But happy to comment on comments you don’t like
Yep because I feel some comments are unnecessary and will (with respect) call it as I see it
And with such effort too, I’m impressed
Glad you think so. Super bappy with myself
See, I’ve boosted your confidence, my work here is complete
My confidence never needs boosting because I own it
And here you are trying to convince me
Why would I try to convince you of anything when your opinion matters not "
Obviously does to you otherwise you wouldn’t keep replying |
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"My wife thinks she has a horrible body, which I disagree with. I think she is lovely. However, being on Fab has helped with the lovely comments she receives (some not so nice) and she is becoming more confident. Has anyone else had the same experience?"
Being on here had the opposite effect for me. I'm more self conscious and less confident because of all the body pics. All shapes and sizes from both 'extremes'.
But I understand that people of all sizes can have body issues. Many years ago I read an article on 'supermodels' as they were called back then. Even in their supermodel role they had body issues, things they didn't like. |
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"Fishing for compliments again
So what if they are? Isn't everyone in some way shape or form???
Not everyone posts almost identical messages 4 months apart, originally on swingers chat, so yeah fishing again
4 months apart! Wow! Even if they were posting 4 days apart I wouldn't say they were fishing. 4 hours maybe not 4 months
Would you post that on threads that have multiple parts? I think we are on part 10 now of a particular theme? Same could be said for that no?
Here is a thing, If I don't like a thread I usually won't comment.
But happy to comment on comments you don’t like
Yep because I feel some comments are unnecessary and will (with respect) call it as I see it
And with such effort too, I’m impressed
Glad you think so. Super bappy with myself
See, I’ve boosted your confidence, my work here is complete
My confidence never needs boosting because I own it
And here you are trying to convince me
Why would I try to convince you of anything when your opinion matters not
Obviously does to you otherwise you wouldn’t keep replying "
Obviously it doesn't well no worries. This is my last response to you |
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"My wife thinks she has a horrible body, which I disagree with. I think she is lovely. However, being on Fab has helped with the lovely comments she receives (some not so nice) and she is becoming more confident. Has anyone else had the same experience?
Being on here had the opposite effect for me. I'm more self conscious and less confident because of all the body pics. All shapes and sizes from both 'extremes'.
But I understand that people of all sizes can have body issues. Many years ago I read an article on 'supermodels' as they were called back then. Even in their supermodel role they had body issues, things they didn't like. "
My friend is a professional model, she has a beautiful figure and a stunning face yet they tell her she is too fat, she can't be seen eating inbetween shoots. She can be on set for 12 hours and not eat
She is starting to really doubt her looks now, and her confidence is going. I don't think it is a positive environment for her or anyone for that matter  |
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I've been between sizes 8 and 18 with a big chest gg now h I use to hate my body in reality it was nice I used to go gym most days swim was in good shape but still not happy with it only after having my son having a C-section scar and stretch marks I was more content prob just cared less I don't know but I'm comfortable with it now I don't give it a second thought when getting naked if someone doesn't like it that's there issue not mine embrace these rolls lol |
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"Your wife has a lovely figure xx
I’ve piled on so much weight through medication & really hate my body. I wish I could see me through T’s eyes xx
J x"
I've looked through your pictures and seriously stunning. The 27th of May collection especially |
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"Fishing for compliments again
So what if they are? Isn't everyone in some way shape or form???
Not everyone posts almost identical messages 4 months apart, originally on swingers chat, so yeah fishing again
4 months apart! Wow! Even if they were posting 4 days apart I wouldn't say they were fishing. 4 hours maybe not 4 months
Would you post that on threads that have multiple parts? I think we are on part 10 now of a particular theme? Same could be said for that no?
Here is a thing, If I don't like a thread I usually won't comment.
But happy to comment on comments you don’t like
Yep because I feel some comments are unnecessary and will (with respect) call it as I see it
And with such effort too, I’m impressed
Glad you think so. Super bappy with myself
See, I’ve boosted your confidence, my work here is complete
My confidence never needs boosting because I own it
And here you are trying to convince me
Why would I try to convince you of anything when your opinion matters not
Obviously does to you otherwise you wouldn’t keep replying
Obviously it doesn't well no worries. This is my last response to you "
And there I was thinking you just wanted the last word |
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"Your wife has a lovely figure xx
I’ve piled on so much weight through medication & really hate my body. I wish I could see me through T’s eyes xx
J x
I've looked through your pictures and seriously stunning. The 27th of May collection especially "
Thank you - they are old photos now. We’re trying to do some more but lockdown & kids being at home are my helping!! |
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"Your wife has a lovely figure xx
I’ve piled on so much weight through medication & really hate my body. I wish I could see me through T’s eyes xx
J x
I've looked through your pictures and seriously stunning. The 27th of May collection especially
Thank you - they are old photos now. We’re trying to do some more but lockdown & kids being at home are my helping!! "
No I can imagine! It is tough. I want to update my gallery too but my adult son is home while his offices are closed
Oh well, be fun when it does happen |
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"My wife thinks she has a horrible body, which I disagree with. I think she is lovely. However, being on Fab has helped with the lovely comments she receives (some not so nice) and she is becoming more confident. Has anyone else had the same experience?"
I personally think your wife is absolutely stunning! She has a body of a queen! We’re all fighting our own battles, but hopefully this message should bring some confidence into her because she really is gorgeous. |
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