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The elusive Unicorn ??
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So we have been searching for the elusive unicorn ?? but still no luck
If you are a unicorn please comment so I know you exist x"
Type unicorn into the search bar, there are 10s of threads on it. |
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over a year ago
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"Your best bet is in a club. Our unicorn friends like to see that both of the couple are into her and she’s not just a sideshow to play with the wife or a ‘gift’ to the guy! "
Our unicorn friends say exactly the same. Feel like they are a tick box exercise |
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"Your best bet is in a club. Our unicorn friends like to see that both of the couple are into her and she’s not just a sideshow to play with the wife or a ‘gift’ to the guy!
Our unicorn friends say exactly the same. Feel like they are a tick box exercise "
Exactly. Probably due to this sorta thread.
Once we realised that the ‘unicorn hunt’ attitude didn’t help, we had plenty of fun! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Your best bet is in a club. Our unicorn friends like to see that both of the couple are into her and she’s not just a sideshow to play with the wife or a ‘gift’ to the guy!
Our unicorn friends say exactly the same. Feel like they are a tick box exercise
Exactly. Probably due to this sorta thread.
Once we realised that the ‘unicorn hunt’ attitude didn’t help, we had plenty of fun! "
Not a unicorn just another person the same as anyone else on here. It must be daunting being a single female on fab I guess just being mindful of that would go a long way.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Your best bet is in a club. Our unicorn friends like to see that both of the couple are into her and she’s not just a sideshow to play with the wife or a ‘gift’ to the guy! "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Your best bet is in a club. Our unicorn friends like to see that both of the couple are into her and she’s not just a sideshow to play with the wife or a ‘gift’ to the guy! "
This is true.
it is very daunting on here as a single female at times.
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When I ask a couple what their interests are, generally the reply is always the exact same two scenarios. I totally get that because I used to be a couple too, but those scenarios are entirely about what they want. The couples never ask me why I want to meet with them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't like the term 'unicorn' it makes me think of being used by a couple for their pleasure and not mine.That's one of the problems to may people get offended on the littlest things. "
I'm not offended 
I'm not Karen
I just don't like the word - does that offend you?
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"I don't like the term 'unicorn' it makes me think of being used by a couple for their pleasure and not mine."
if you play this way own the description... it's meant as a great compliment referring to your rarity...it would be a great honour to see a unicorn in magic stories  |
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By *oirinMarkusCouple
over a year ago
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Okay so the issue I'm finding is that couples don't to download
Kik and want my phone number instead... I don't understand why they think I would drop my safety protocols so early in the chat. What's wrong with Kik? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Okay so the issue I'm finding is that couples don't to download
Kik and want my phone number instead... I don't understand why they think I would drop my safety protocols so early in the chat. What's wrong with Kik? "
I think it's a way of proving someone is genuine. Nothing's wrong with Kik, it's just full of blokes pretending to be women  |
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"Okay so the issue I'm finding is that couples don't to download
Kik and want my phone number instead... I don't understand why they think I would drop my safety protocols so early in the chat. What's wrong with Kik?
I think it's a way of proving someone is genuine. Nothing's wrong with Kik, it's just full of blokes pretending to be women "
Bit like Fab then really  |
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By *oirinMarkusCouple
over a year ago
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"Okay so the issue I'm finding is that couples don't to download
Kik and want my phone number instead... I don't understand why they think I would drop my safety protocols so early in the chat. What's wrong with Kik?
I think it's a way of proving someone is genuine. Nothing's wrong with Kik, it's just full of blokes pretending to be women "
But surely verifications are proof?
And then on the day if a bloke turns up instead of a sexy woman, don't have sex with them? |
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"I don't like the term 'unicorn' it makes me think of being used by a couple for their pleasure and not mine."
I think it’s a bit of a daft term, but it’s puzzling why some get offended by it, doesn’t seem to imply anything except rarity. |
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"When I ask a couple what their interests are, generally the reply is always the exact same two scenarios. I totally get that because I used to be a couple too, but those scenarios are entirely about what they want. The couples never ask me why I want to meet with them. "
Maybe because it might sound a bit arrogant if we asked a unicorn why she felt we were so amazing that she wanted to meet us.... |
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"Your best bet is in a club. Our unicorn friends like to see that both of the couple are into her and she’s not just a sideshow to play with the wife or a ‘gift’ to the guy! "
There needs to be a "feeling ill" emoji
To be fair we've seen a few couples profiles where it is the wife looking for a birthday present for the husband. Bet thats attractive to a single female |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm one and let me tell you why I struggle.
I'm a bit quirky and a bit awkward, I find it hard to come across one person I'm comfortable with let alone two! |
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By *lan157Man
over a year ago
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"When I ask a couple what their interests are, generally the reply is always the exact same two scenarios. I totally get that because I used to be a couple too, but those scenarios are entirely about what they want. The couples never ask me why I want to meet with them.
Maybe because it might sound a bit arrogant if we asked a unicorn why she felt we were so amazing that she wanted to meet us...."
I think perhaps she meant after you had made the initial contact not the single women contacting you ? |
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"When I ask a couple what their interests are, generally the reply is always the exact same two scenarios. I totally get that because I used to be a couple too, but those scenarios are entirely about what they want. The couples never ask me why I want to meet with them.
Maybe because it might sound a bit arrogant if we asked a unicorn why she felt we were so amazing that she wanted to meet us....
I think perhaps she meant after you had made the initial contact not the single women contacting you ? "
I dunno seems a bit of a minefield really. Maybe I’m too English about it, even with people we know well I’m not great at asking for their, er, preferences.
Any unicorns want to enlighten us about why they want to meet a couple? What they’re hoping for, socially or sexually? |
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"This is a really good point. It’s so daunting to put yourself in their trust and most couples I’ve spoken to aren’t really tuned in to the risks or dangers single women put them selves in. "
Its something we have been mega conscious of since we first came on here and spoke to a few people. One woman in particular was lovely but pointed out that D (mr) is pretty big and that can be intimidating.
I guess we were only initially thinking about our nerves etc |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"They definitely exist  you just have to be extremely patient they are very few and far between where we live. Couple that with the fact that you all must first of all find eachother attractive I can be very difficult  "
Second that. I’ve been lucky my couple are amazing and both ridiculously hot and equally pay me just as much attention. We all have amazing fun together. It’s rare but when it works it works I miss them haha bloody lockdown.
Always on the lookout for new couples to play with... |
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"For me personally I need to know im bringing something new to an already loving and established dynamic not just a check list. Only experienced this feeling once with a couple and it was magical. "
What made it different? |
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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago
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"For me personally I need to know im bringing something new to an already loving and established dynamic not just a check list. Only experienced this feeling once with a couple and it was magical.
What made it different? "
They did, they were clearly in love with each other which was adorable and they were both interested in knowing me and my story a bit more before taking it any further and we communicated with each other all the time to ensure we were all comfortable continuing and would stop if any of us wanted to.
I guess we all made each other safe to take that next step and when we did it was about pleasure for all of us, not just singled out on them or me & her. It helped that she ran the account too, too many guys take control of the account and it no longer feels like its a couple you are talking to and that's off putting. |
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"For me personally I need to know im bringing something new to an already loving and established dynamic not just a check list. Only experienced this feeling once with a couple and it was magical.
What made it different?
They did, they were clearly in love with each other which was adorable and they were both interested in knowing me and my story a bit more before taking it any further and we communicated with each other all the time to ensure we were all comfortable continuing and would stop if any of us wanted to.
I guess we all made each other safe to take that next step and when we did it was about pleasure for all of us, not just singled out on them or me & her. It helped that she ran the account too, too many guys take control of the account and it no longer feels like its a couple you are talking to and that's off putting."
That sounds really nice |
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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago
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"For me personally I need to know im bringing something new to an already loving and established dynamic not just a check list. Only experienced this feeling once with a couple and it was magical.
What made it different?
They did, they were clearly in love with each other which was adorable and they were both interested in knowing me and my story a bit more before taking it any further and we communicated with each other all the time to ensure we were all comfortable continuing and would stop if any of us wanted to.
I guess we all made each other safe to take that next step and when we did it was about pleasure for all of us, not just singled out on them or me & her. It helped that she ran the account too, too many guys take control of the account and it no longer feels like its a couple you are talking to and that's off putting.
That sounds really nice"
It was, it'll happen for you guys I'm sure. I'd offer but I think a 6hr trip might be a little too far out of our comfort zones |
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"They're there, no question. Question is, how the hell do you capture one? They're right slippery bastards. "
Haha very true, if there are any willing to be captured by us feel free to get in touch.  |
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"For me personally I need to know im bringing something new to an already loving and established dynamic not just a check list. Only experienced this feeling once with a couple and it was magical.
What made it different?
They did, they were clearly in love with each other which was adorable and they were both interested in knowing me and my story a bit more before taking it any further and we communicated with each other all the time to ensure we were all comfortable continuing and would stop if any of us wanted to.
I guess we all made each other safe to take that next step and when we did it was about pleasure for all of us, not just singled out on them or me & her. It helped that she ran the account too, too many guys take control of the account and it no longer feels like its a couple you are talking to and that's off putting.
That sounds really nice
It was, it'll happen for you guys I'm sure. I'd offer but I think a 6hr trip might be a little too far out of our comfort zones "
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There’s lots of ladies that like to play with couples, we have a few friends that we play with regularly. It’s always lovely to see them, and above everything they’re friends. Looking forward to lockdown ending so we can really catch up! |
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We exist, but it’s hard to find the right couple. I don’t think I’m alone in not wanting to be used as a sex toy, which unfortunately is how a lot of couple profiles come across.
The couples I’ve met have been FWB couples, which I find a lot more straightforward personally. Too many real couples are inexperienced and haven’t really thought through what they want, what they can offer, how they’ll deal with the feelings raised, etc etc. Either that or they have experience, but have a very fixed idea of what they want which the woman is expected to fit in with.
Examples of things I’ve seen on couple profiles that put me off include: wanting a woman to play with the woman while the man watches, which feels more like putting on a show than anything else; wanting a woman to play with the man as a “treat”; saying she is bicurious and wants a woman to pleasure her but she won’t be returning the favour as she isn’t comfortable with that; anything that makes it sound like I’d be just an experiment, that my pleasure is unimportant, or that makes me think she might not be fully onboard and is only doing it to please him.
You have photos of both of you on your profile which is great and a lot better than many couples, it will hopefully help you. I’d suggest really thinking about what you want, who any woman who joins you will be expected to play with (her/him/both), and (importantly) what you can offer her. |
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"When I ask a couple what their interests are, generally the reply is always the exact same two scenarios. I totally get that because I used to be a couple too, but those scenarios are entirely about what they want. The couples never ask me why I want to meet with them.
Maybe because it might sound a bit arrogant if we asked a unicorn why she felt we were so amazing that she wanted to meet us...."
I don’t understand your reply, which I think is because you’ve misunderstood my point, so I’ll rephrase it in case it wasn’t clear. I’d like a couple to ask me what play I’d like to engage in when I meet with them. Rather than just telling me every which way that I can fulfil their desires. |
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"When I ask a couple what their interests are, generally the reply is always the exact same two scenarios. I totally get that because I used to be a couple too, but those scenarios are entirely about what they want. The couples never ask me why I want to meet with them.
Maybe because it might sound a bit arrogant if we asked a unicorn why she felt we were so amazing that she wanted to meet us....
I think perhaps she meant after you had made the initial contact not the single women contacting you ?
I dunno seems a bit of a minefield really. Maybe I’m too English about it, even with people we know well I’m not great at asking for their, er, preferences.
Any unicorns want to enlighten us about why they want to meet a couple? What they’re hoping for, socially or sexually? "
I love to hear people’s preferences. I want to get straight to the point to see if we’re on the same page.
Sexually, the fun of meeting a couple is the same as being with any one single person. If you have the same interests and the sex is as equals, then brilliant. But if the expectation is that I please the female for the males sake, or I’m a ‘gift’ for the male, then I’m not interested. Messages from couples are rarely about engaging in a shared goal, they’re all about how I can fulfil all the expectations of the couple.
Even a Dom/sub relationship is a shared experience as equals because ultimately, they both want to please each other. Couples can often want to be pleased, rather than please someone else. Not all, but some.
So if I’m asked what I’d like to do with them, then it indicates to me that I’m about to share an experience rather than be subjected to one.
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"When I ask a couple what their interests are, generally the reply is always the exact same two scenarios. I totally get that because I used to be a couple too, but those scenarios are entirely about what they want. The couples never ask me why I want to meet with them.
Maybe because it might sound a bit arrogant if we asked a unicorn why she felt we were so amazing that she wanted to meet us....
I think perhaps she meant after you had made the initial contact not the single women contacting you ?
I dunno seems a bit of a minefield really. Maybe I’m too English about it, even with people we know well I’m not great at asking for their, er, preferences.
Any unicorns want to enlighten us about why they want to meet a couple? What they’re hoping for, socially or sexually? "
I think I’m a little long in the tooth to be named after a mythical creature. However - on the occasions (which are relatively rare) that I meet and play with a couple - it’s because not only do I find both of them attractive (and vice versa of course) but think they’re great (safe) company and good fun - with giggles and conversation galore!
When the time is right to move to the bedroom/playroom I think a natural flow rather than a pre-discussed set-up is better - as long as everyone is considered and no-one feels like a prop!
I’m not remotely shy so I enjoy being a facilitator. In one group I asked everyone what their fantasies were and we managed to fulfill many of them (a guy had never had a bj from 2 women at once - a woman had never had her clit licked and sucked whilst being fucked be her husband - both were enabled) On another mff the guy was made to sit on a chair and set the timer on his phone for 10 mins (not long enough - next time it’ll be 15 I think) whilst the fem and I played and I fucked her with a strap-on.
Only when the alarm went was he permitted to leave the chair and Jon in.
What I don’t like though is soft swing - but that’s my preference. I love a woman’s soft lips and I adore boobies - I also massively get off on making a woman cum - but as I tend to orgasm mostly via penetrative sex - there has to be a willy involved - though I’m quite happy to keep the lady happy whilst her chap keeps me happy!
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"When I ask a couple what their interests are, generally the reply is always the exact same two scenarios. I totally get that because I used to be a couple too, but those scenarios are entirely about what they want. The couples never ask me why I want to meet with them.
Maybe because it might sound a bit arrogant if we asked a unicorn why she felt we were so amazing that she wanted to meet us....
I think perhaps she meant after you had made the initial contact not the single women contacting you ?
I dunno seems a bit of a minefield really. Maybe I’m too English about it, even with people we know well I’m not great at asking for their, er, preferences.
Any unicorns want to enlighten us about why they want to meet a couple? What they’re hoping for, socially or sexually?
I think I’m a little long in the tooth to be named after a mythical creature. However - on the occasions (which are relatively rare) that I meet and play with a couple - it’s because not only do I find both of them attractive (and vice versa of course) but think they’re great (safe) company and good fun - with giggles and conversation galore!
When the time is right to move to the bedroom/playroom I think a natural flow rather than a pre-discussed set-up is better - as long as everyone is considered and no-one feels like a prop!
I’m not remotely shy so I enjoy being a facilitator. In one group I asked everyone what their fantasies were and we managed to fulfill many of them (a guy had never had a bj from 2 women at once - a woman had never had her clit licked and sucked whilst being fucked be her husband - both were enabled) On another mff the guy was made to sit on a chair and set the timer on his phone for 10 mins (not long enough - next time it’ll be 15 I think) whilst the fem and I played and I fucked her with a strap-on.
Only when the alarm went was he permitted to leave the chair and Jon in.
What I don’t like though is soft swing - but that’s my preference. I love a woman’s soft lips and I adore boobies - I also massively get off on making a woman cum - but as I tend to orgasm mostly via penetrative sex - there has to be a willy involved - though I’m quite happy to keep the lady happy whilst her chap keeps me happy!
Apologies for the overly long response op! "
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"When I ask a couple what their interests are, generally the reply is always the exact same two scenarios. I totally get that because I used to be a couple too, but those scenarios are entirely about what they want. The couples never ask me why I want to meet with them.
Maybe because it might sound a bit arrogant if we asked a unicorn why she felt we were so amazing that she wanted to meet us....
I think perhaps she meant after you had made the initial contact not the single women contacting you ?
I dunno seems a bit of a minefield really. Maybe I’m too English about it, even with people we know well I’m not great at asking for their, er, preferences.
Any unicorns want to enlighten us about why they want to meet a couple? What they’re hoping for, socially or sexually?
I think I’m a little long in the tooth to be named after a mythical creature. However - on the occasions (which are relatively rare) that I meet and play with a couple - it’s because not only do I find both of them attractive (and vice versa of course) but think they’re great (safe) company and good fun - with giggles and conversation galore!
When the time is right to move to the bedroom/playroom I think a natural flow rather than a pre-discussed set-up is better - as long as everyone is considered and no-one feels like a prop!
I’m not remotely shy so I enjoy being a facilitator. In one group I asked everyone what their fantasies were and we managed to fulfill many of them (a guy had never had a bj from 2 women at once - a woman had never had her clit licked and sucked whilst being fucked be her husband - both were enabled) On another mff the guy was made to sit on a chair and set the timer on his phone for 10 mins (not long enough - next time it’ll be 15 I think) whilst the fem and I played and I fucked her with a strap-on.
Only when the alarm went was he permitted to leave the chair and Jon in.
What I don’t like though is soft swing - but that’s my preference. I love a woman’s soft lips and I adore boobies - I also massively get off on making a woman cum - but as I tend to orgasm mostly via penetrative sex - there has to be a willy involved - though I’m quite happy to keep the lady happy whilst her chap keeps me happy!
Apologies for the overly long response op!
Have you considered teaching a course
Distance learning of course, given the current situation "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You can't catch me I'm the gingerbread man
didn't he get eaten in end thou
Hey guys!! "
was just askin a question thought it was a good post bit of a mine field it seems when we joined thought it was the common phrase accepted as not swinger's never need in scene b4 & looking for a female to explore but alas with no fem experience by Mrs that's a factor too, no offence ment tryin to find our feet, & as far as m in control Mrs does message we both do but I add few comments/ laughs to the forum |
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"You can't catch me I'm the gingerbread man
didn't he get eaten in end thou
Hey guys!! was just askin a question thought it was a good post bit of a mine field it seems when we joined thought it was the common phrase accepted as not swinger's never need in scene b4 & looking for a female to explore but alas with no fem experience by Mrs that's a factor too, no offence ment tryin to find our feet, & as far as m in control Mrs does message we both do but I add few comments/ laughs to the forum "
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"When I ask a couple what their interests are, generally the reply is always the exact same two scenarios. I totally get that because I used to be a couple too, but those scenarios are entirely about what they want. The couples never ask me why I want to meet with them.
Maybe because it might sound a bit arrogant if we asked a unicorn why she felt we were so amazing that she wanted to meet us....
I think perhaps she meant after you had made the initial contact not the single women contacting you ?
I dunno seems a bit of a minefield really. Maybe I’m too English about it, even with people we know well I’m not great at asking for their, er, preferences.
Any unicorns want to enlighten us about why they want to meet a couple? What they’re hoping for, socially or sexually?
I think I’m a little long in the tooth to be named after a mythical creature. However - on the occasions (which are relatively rare) that I meet and play with a couple - it’s because not only do I find both of them attractive (and vice versa of course) but think they’re great (safe) company and good fun - with giggles and conversation galore!
When the time is right to move to the bedroom/playroom I think a natural flow rather than a pre-discussed set-up is better - as long as everyone is considered and no-one feels like a prop!
I’m not remotely shy so I enjoy being a facilitator. In one group I asked everyone what their fantasies were and we managed to fulfill many of them (a guy had never had a bj from 2 women at once - a woman had never had her clit licked and sucked whilst being fucked be her husband - both were enabled) On another mff the guy was made to sit on a chair and set the timer on his phone for 10 mins (not long enough - next time it’ll be 15 I think) whilst the fem and I played and I fucked her with a strap-on.
Only when the alarm went was he permitted to leave the chair and Jon in.
What I don’t like though is soft swing - but that’s my preference. I love a woman’s soft lips and I adore boobies - I also massively get off on making a woman cum - but as I tend to orgasm mostly via penetrative sex - there has to be a willy involved - though I’m quite happy to keep the lady happy whilst her chap keeps me happy!
Apologies for the overly long response op!
Have you considered teaching a course
Distance learning of course, given the current situation
Sorry. Did I come across as a know it all? "
I'm 100% serious! That sounds perfect |
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By *osweet69Couple
over a year ago
portsmouth |
"Okay so the issue I'm finding is that couples don't to download
Kik and want my phone number instead... I don't understand why they think I would drop my safety protocols so early in the chat. What's wrong with Kik?
I think it's a way of proving someone is genuine. Nothing's wrong with Kik, it's just full of blokes pretending to be women
But surely verifications are proof?
And then on the day if a bloke turns up instead of a sexy woman, don't have sex with them? "
Verification are no way proof. Think others wise at your peril.
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I hate the thought of being on a couples ‘to do list’
I’ve had messages where I’m told ‘I want to do this for my man’, ‘I won’t go down on you - only you please me’ etc, - well yeah it’s not exactly enticing.
Threesome is exactly that - all three having naughty fun.
Plus everyone has to fancy each other.
I’m in if there’s mutual attraction all around, and mutual pleasure.
Not putting on a show.
I’ve met a few lovely couples, in particular my favourites are a genuine laid back couple, who you can have a chat and a laugh with too, makes everything more chilled.
Plus the fact we all give each other equal pleasure, can’t ask for more! |
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"This is a really good point. It’s so daunting to put yourself in their trust and most couples I’ve spoken to aren’t really tuned in to the risks or dangers single women put them selves in. "
When I'm considering offers I definitely stay clear of any couples that profiles give a vibe of either of them being in to control dynamics, bondage, pain etc.... any red flags that would put me in an even more vulnerable position, given I'm already out numbered too.
My saftey is always the main consideration. Are they thinking about making me feel comfortable or are they only thinking of their own desires for the encounter. If they are not concerned with how I feel during a message exchange about potential arrangements then I very much doubt how I feel will be important to them in the moment either!
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By *osweet69Couple
over a year ago
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"I hate the thought of being on a couples ‘to do list’
I’ve had messages where I’m told ‘I want to do this for my man’, ‘I won’t go down on you - only you please me’ etc, - well yeah it’s not exactly enticing.
Threesome is exactly that - all three having naughty fun.
Plus everyone has to fancy each other.
I’m in if there’s mutual attraction all around, and mutual pleasure.
Not putting on a show.
I’ve met a few lovely couples, in particular my favourites are a genuine laid back couple, who you can have a chat and a laugh with too, makes everything more chilled.
Plus the fact we all give each other equal pleasure, can’t ask for more! "
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"When I ask a couple what their interests are, generally the reply is always the exact same two scenarios. I totally get that because I used to be a couple too, but those scenarios are entirely about what they want. The couples never ask me why I want to meet with them.
Maybe because it might sound a bit arrogant if we asked a unicorn why she felt we were so amazing that she wanted to meet us....
I think perhaps she meant after you had made the initial contact not the single women contacting you ?
I dunno seems a bit of a minefield really. Maybe I’m too English about it, even with people we know well I’m not great at asking for their, er, preferences.
Any unicorns want to enlighten us about why they want to meet a couple? What they’re hoping for, socially or sexually?
I love to hear people’s preferences. I want to get straight to the point to see if we’re on the same page.
Sexually, the fun of meeting a couple is the same as being with any one single person. If you have the same interests and the sex is as equals, then brilliant. But if the expectation is that I please the female for the males sake, or I’m a ‘gift’ for the male, then I’m not interested. Messages from couples are rarely about engaging in a shared goal, they’re all about how I can fulfil all the expectations of the couple.
Even a Dom/sub relationship is a shared experience as equals because ultimately, they both want to please each other. Couples can often want to be pleased, rather than please someone else. Not all, but some.
So if I’m asked what I’d like to do with them, then it indicates to me that I’m about to share an experience rather than be subjected to one.
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Ok that’s clear, think I’m just saying that when Julia and I play with a unicorn, it’s kind of a given that we are all three playing as equals, it wouldn’t cross our minds that the unicorn was a plaything for one or the other.
We’d still feel a bit awkward if we felt in a “social first” meet that we were being asked to describe exactly how the threesome was going to go sexually, who was going to do what etc |
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"This is a really good point. It’s so daunting to put yourself in their trust and most couples I’ve spoken to aren’t really tuned in to the risks or dangers single women put them selves in.
When I'm considering offers I definitely stay clear of any couples that profiles give a vibe of either of them being in to control dynamics, bondage, pain etc.... any red flags that would put me in an even more vulnerable position, given I'm already out numbered too.
My saftey is always the main consideration. Are they thinking about making me feel comfortable or are they only thinking of their own desires for the encounter. If they are not concerned with how I feel during a message exchange about potential arrangements then I very much doubt how I feel will be important to them in the moment either!
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Each to their own, and I am by no means discounting your opinion or preferences. However as a couple into power dynamics I feel we are more in tune with the risks associated with everything we do than before we started our journey.
We ensure they know who we are, speak to them on the phone, socials, allow them to make any safety calls they need to, make sure they are aware of what we will be doing and how etc. Its one of the reasons we will not restrain someone on a first meet as they have no ability to remove themselves from the situation.
Trust is earned and built up over time, which can lead to different activities taking place.
I can understand someone not wanting to meet us because they are not into what we do, but I would be concerned if someone felt the reason they couldn’t meet us was because we didn't take into account their safety. |
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We have come into contact with plenty of potential unicorns. If it wasn't for the virus I'm pretty sure something would have happened by now.
The irony is that we haven't been trying to find sexual partners. We look for people we get on well with regardless of whether they are interested in us sexually. It doesn't matter to us if they don't want to go to bed with us if we all get on well. It's still good to know all sorts of people on Fab.
When you get to know people just because you like them and not because you have an agenda, women often feel much safer, less under pressure, and not hunted. When you have formed genuine friendships, doors can open, especially in this community. If you make it all about sex and fulfilling your fantasies, doors can stay pretty firmly shut. |
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There's one other factor that hasn't been mentioned in the unicorn/couple dynamic.
That's trusting in her.
I've always maintained that if one part of the couple contacted me to meet on the sly that my relationship with both of them is done and dusted. I cut ties with a couple because of this and it was with a heavy heart as everything was awesome. We all got on amazingly, we laughed so fucking much. I'd go round theirs at 7pm on a Friday and leave lunchtime Sunday. Even the cats would go nuts when I arrived and one would shout at me as I was getting my shoes on to go home. It didn't matter if there was sex or not, there was never any pressure, it was organic.
As much for a woman it's finding a couple that respects you as a human, it's also about finding the right woman that respects your relationship enough to do the right thing.
Get to know me, learn what makes me tick, learn about the person I am. Do we have the same values? Are we morally on the same page? Those things are vital for an ongoing sexual friendship that's respectful and build on trust.
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"This is a really good point. It’s so daunting to put yourself in their trust and most couples I’ve spoken to aren’t really tuned in to the risks or dangers single women put them selves in.
When I'm considering offers I definitely stay clear of any couples that profiles give a vibe of either of them being in to control dynamics, bondage, pain etc.... any red flags that would put me in an even more vulnerable position, given I'm already out numbered too.
My saftey is always the main consideration. Are they thinking about making me feel comfortable or are they only thinking of their own desires for the encounter. If they are not concerned with how I feel during a message exchange about potential arrangements then I very much doubt how I feel will be important to them in the moment either!
Each to their own, and I am by no means discounting your opinion or preferences. However as a couple into power dynamics I feel we are more in tune with the risks associated with everything we do than before we started our journey.
We ensure they know who we are, speak to them on the phone, socials, allow them to make any safety calls they need to, make sure they are aware of what we will be doing and how etc. Its one of the reasons we will not restrain someone on a first meet as they have no ability to remove themselves from the situation.
Trust is earned and built up over time, which can lead to different activities taking place.
I can understand someone not wanting to meet us because they are not into what we do, but I would be concerned if someone felt the reason they couldn’t meet us was because we didn't take into account their safety."
Which sounds like exactly how you should go about a meet like that but I would be foolish to assume everyone would make the same considerations.... like you say, trust is earned |
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We don’t know any unicorns. We do however have some single women that we are friends with, and have lots of naughty fun together.
First and foremost they’re our friends, we can have good conversation, some drinks and the sex is just a natural progression of the attraction between us all. Thing to remember is that anybody joining you as a couple is doing it for their enjoyment, not yours, it has to be an equal relationship all ways. Except for one lady we know where it most definitely isn’t equal, she beats the hell out of us and tells us we like it! |
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"Your best bet is in a club. Our unicorn friends like to see that both of the couple are into her and she’s not just a sideshow to play with the wife or a ‘gift’ to the guy!
Our unicorn friends say exactly the same. Feel like they are a tick box exercise "
Or you feel like a toy, being used to amuse. |
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I have been amazingly blessed and lucky to find a fantastic couple on here who have let me into their relationship fairly regularly for the past few months (around lockdowns etc) we’ve been playing for a while. I’m totally respectful of their relationship and we always have an amazing time. I know how rare this set up is so I don’t take it for granted and nor do they. We are also really good friends outside of the bedroom too which helps. I go to theirs for dinner drinks and fuckery it’s great and not awkward at all.  |
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"I have been amazingly blessed and lucky to find a fantastic couple on here who have let me into their relationship fairly regularly for the past few months (around lockdowns etc) we’ve been playing for a while. I’m totally respectful of their relationship and we always have an amazing time. I know how rare this set up is so I don’t take it for granted and nor do they. We are also really good friends outside of the bedroom too which helps. I go to theirs for dinner drinks and fuckery it’s great and not awkward at all. "
Thanks for sharing. Unicorn exists. |
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We have been blessed to meet a few.
Keep looking OP, don't give up. Good luck. 