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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If anyone I am in any kind of relationship with shows any type of jealousy, that is where I enc things... The same if I ever feel anything like it too "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think there are 2 types of jealousy, the first makes encourages you to work harder at things, the other eats you from the inside out. The second is a killer. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It kills a relationship if you aren't open and honest to the other person. Tell them why and work together to get over it, fight it together, don't fight each other over it.
I hope you get it sorted xx |
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Talk to the people involved. Try to understand each other, where you're all coming from.
Then look to yourself. Where are these feelings coming from?
Take a step back, distract yourself and rebuild yourself. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I accused someone of sleeping with someone else when they wasn’t  "
Mostly our jealousies come from within. However they are a signal that things aren’t right and we need to pay attention to it. It’s a complex cocktail of other emotions such as fear, anxiety, anger and self doubt, that is often due to low self-esteem, over-attachment and feeling possessive. It can also be a sign of an erosion of mutual trust in the relationship due to other problems.
Recognising it and owning it is the first step to resolving it though. |
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Jealousy?
Sounds more like suspicion and insecurity probably stemming from being cheated on or lied to in the past.
That's what I took from "accusing someone of sleeping with someone else even though they told you they were at work".
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Jealousy?
Sounds more like suspicion and insecurity probably stemming from being cheated on or lied to in the past.
That's what I took from "accusing someone of sleeping with someone else even though they told you they were at work".
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So it’s the guys fault for her jealousy  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"That’s what I’m trying to do and I want to get over this "
just take some time to reflect on what might be underlying it. Remember that if you are having unfounded feelings of jealousy then it is unfinished business from your past that is coming into the present and affecting how you are thinking about your relationship. Bring some conclusion to those earlier events and letting go of any feelings that are residual from those will help.
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"Jealousy?
Sounds more like suspicion and insecurity probably stemming from being cheated on or lied to in the past.
That's what I took from "accusing someone of sleeping with someone else even though they told you they were at work".
So it’s the guys fault for her jealousy "
Where in the blue fuck did I say that and how you've taken that from what I said I have no idea.
I was saying I don't think she's jealous from what I read, I think it's probably something else. So no, you didn't read what I wrote at all. |
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By *aCaiMan
over a year ago
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"Jealousy?
Sounds more like suspicion and insecurity probably stemming from being cheated on or lied to in the past.
That's what I took from "accusing someone of sleeping with someone else even though they told you they were at work".
So it’s the guys fault for her jealousy "
It’s always the guys fault in some way or another  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Jealousy?
Sounds more like suspicion and insecurity probably stemming from being cheated on or lied to in the past.
That's what I took from "accusing someone of sleeping with someone else even though they told you they were at work".
So it’s the guys fault for her jealousy
It’s always the guys fault in some way or another "
Sounds like both you and James may have some unfinished business from the past too. |
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"Jealousy?
Sounds more like suspicion and insecurity probably stemming from being cheated on or lied to in the past.
That's what I took from "accusing someone of sleeping with someone else even though they told you they were at work".
So it’s the guys fault for her jealousy "
Not this guy... but possibly a previous relationship... Having been cheated on it makes you question yourself, your attractiveness and your self worth... and if you don’t feel worthy of someone it’s easy to make yourself believe that they’re looking elsewhere |
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"Jealousy?
Sounds more like suspicion and insecurity probably stemming from being cheated on or lied to in the past.
That's what I took from "accusing someone of sleeping with someone else even though they told you they were at work".
So it’s the guys fault for her jealousy
Not this guy... but possibly a previous relationship... Having been cheated on it makes you question yourself, your attractiveness and your self worth... and if you don’t feel worthy of someone it’s easy to make yourself believe that they’re looking elsewhere "
Spoken from someone with empathy and an understanding that things aren't always as they may look from the outside |
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"Jealousy?
Sounds more like suspicion and insecurity probably stemming from being cheated on or lied to in the past.
That's what I took from "accusing someone of sleeping with someone else even though they told you they were at work".
So it’s the guys fault for her jealousy
Not this guy... but possibly a previous relationship... Having been cheated on it makes you question yourself, your attractiveness and your self worth... and if you don’t feel worthy of someone it’s easy to make yourself believe that they’re looking elsewhere
Spoken from someone with empathy and an understanding that things aren't always as they may look from the outside "
Thank you, it was a hard lesson learned personally.
It’s hard to trust even the most loyal and caring of people if a previous partner has utterly destroyed your trust out of the blue |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have a very attractive black female partner who I love to bits. We tried cuckold with a white bull the other day. We both loved it as it was what we wanted but I got jealous over it. Ft she was enjoying it to much. Both denied me any physical contact. Both wore fetish gear.Dark music playing. The dom was very experienced at what he did and I think she lived it more then me. Is it a natural reaction to be jealous over something that both turns us on.? |
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"Jealousy?
Sounds more like suspicion and insecurity probably stemming from being cheated on or lied to in the past.
That's what I took from "accusing someone of sleeping with someone else even though they told you they were at work".
So it’s the guys fault for her jealousy
Not this guy... but possibly a previous relationship... Having been cheated on it makes you question yourself, your attractiveness and your self worth... and if you don’t feel worthy of someone it’s easy to make yourself believe that they’re looking elsewhere
Spoken from someone with empathy and an understanding that things aren't always as they may look from the outside
Thank you, it was a hard lesson learned personally.
It’s hard to trust even the most loyal and caring of people if a previous partner has utterly destroyed your trust out of the blue"
Those that know .... know
Only takes a few words sometimes to recognise it. I'm sorry you were subjected to the hell that comes with it
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you're jealous- you're jealous.
You'll get over it.
There is no secret way not to feel something.
You can only learn from it and do things differently next time in a similar situation. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Jealousy?
Sounds more like suspicion and insecurity probably stemming from being cheated on or lied to in the past.
That's what I took from "accusing someone of sleeping with someone else even though they told you they were at work".
So it’s the guys fault for her jealousy
Not this guy... but possibly a previous relationship... Having been cheated on it makes you question yourself, your attractiveness and your self worth... and if you don’t feel worthy of someone it’s easy to make yourself believe that they’re looking elsewhere
Spoken from someone with empathy and an understanding that things aren't always as they may look from the outside "
So it is some guys fault in the past then |
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"I have a very attractive black female partner who I love to bits. We tried cuckold with a white bull the other day. We both loved it as it was what we wanted but I got jealous over it. Ft she was enjoying it to much. Both denied me any physical contact. Both wore fetish gear.Dark music playing. The dom was very experienced at what he did and I think she lived it more then me. Is it a natural reaction to be jealous over something that both turns us on.? "
Thats the cuck fantasy really, knowing she's desired and enjoys a good seeing to be in front of you or not.
That once the wheels have been put in motion she's going to go through with it whether you get cold feet or not. Its the cold adrenalin burn that's the turn on. In my experience anyway  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have a very attractive black female partner who I love to bits. We tried cuckold with a white bull the other day. We both loved it as it was what we wanted but I got jealous over it. Ft she was enjoying it to much. Both denied me any physical contact. Both wore fetish gear.Dark music playing. The dom was very experienced at what he did and I think she lived it more then me. Is it a natural reaction to be jealous over something that both turns us on.? "
From some friends who enjoy cuckold those emotions can be part of the enjoyment of it. Only you can know if those feelings are detrimental to your relationship or contribute to your pleasure. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That's a very good point. I do enjoy it but she really does encourage it more. She knows I like to watch and I have all sorts of fantasy ideas of them just being together but he gets off by fucking her in front of me and her being his trainee mistress. Both giving me verbal all the time |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have a very attractive black female partner who I love to bits. We tried cuckold with a white bull the other day. We both loved it as it was what we wanted but I got jealous over it. Ft she was enjoying it to much. Both denied me any physical contact. Both wore fetish gear.Dark music playing. The dom was very experienced at what he did and I think she lived it more then me. Is it a natural reaction to be jealous over something that both turns us on.?
Thats the cuck fantasy really, knowing she's desired and enjoys a good seeing to be in front of you or not.
That once the wheels have been put in motion she's going to go through with it whether you get cold feet or not. Its the cold adrenalin burn that's the turn on. In my experience anyway "
.. That's a very good point. The burn is massive. I have never felt so horny and turned on |
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"I have a very attractive black female partner who I love to bits. We tried cuckold with a white bull the other day. We both loved it as it was what we wanted but I got jealous over it. Ft she was enjoying it to much. Both denied me any physical contact. Both wore fetish gear.Dark music playing. The dom was very experienced at what he did and I think she lived it more then me. Is it a natural reaction to be jealous over something that both turns us on.?
Thats the cuck fantasy really, knowing she's desired and enjoys a good seeing to be in front of you or not.
That once the wheels have been put in motion she's going to go through with it whether you get cold feet or not. Its the cold adrenalin burn that's the turn on. In my experience anyway .. That's a very good point. The burn is massive. I have never felt so horny and turned on "
I know how you feel, I've experienced it too. Enjoy it   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its part of being human, just like all our other emotions. It may be irrational, might even be bound up in some particular life experience.
Perhaps though it would be better OP that you ask why its happening and whats driving that feeling. It part of you, not part of another, so maybe refraining your feelings and a little logical analysis may help. Or perhaps actually talking with another who's actions have made you feel that way may help bring some perspective to whatever is the underlying cause... |
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"Who’s impressive "
Use reply+quote under the post you're replying to them we'll know who you're answering.
I don't know your situation but you probably need to talk things over with someone. If your feelings and actions are a result of your past it will help you understand that. If your feelings and actions are designed to control your partner it will help you overcome that too.
As I said I don't know your situation but I wager that if a man had posted what you have he would have been accused of controlling behaviour at least once by now. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Who’s impressive
Use reply+quote under the post you're replying to them we'll know who you're answering.
I don't know your situation but you probably need to talk things over with someone. If your feelings and actions are a result of your past it will help you understand that. If your feelings and actions are designed to control your partner it will help you overcome that too.
As I said I don't know your situation but I wager that if a man had posted what you have he would have been accused of controlling behaviour at least once by now. "
I accused him of sleeping with someone else when he wasn’t he was at work  |
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"Who’s impressive
Use reply+quote under the post you're replying to them we'll know who you're answering.
I don't know your situation but you probably need to talk things over with someone. If your feelings and actions are a result of your past it will help you understand that. If your feelings and actions are designed to control your partner it will help you overcome that too.
As I said I don't know your situation but I wager that if a man had posted what you have he would have been accused of controlling behaviour at least once by now. I accused him of sleeping with someone else when he wasn’t he was at work "
Yeah I know.
The question really is, why? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The poor bloke should run for the hills. I don’t know about chatting about it  harsh without knowing why "
Op as already said in this thread it’s not he’s fault.
My once best mate is 6ft under because of a jealous women |
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"The poor bloke should run for the hills. I don’t know about chatting about it harsh without knowing why "
None of us know why but it's been implied it's due to something he's done or another man has done. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The poor bloke should run for the hills. I don’t know about chatting about it harsh without knowing why
None of us know why but it's been implied it's due to something he's done or another man has done. "
He went to work |
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"The poor bloke should run for the hills. I don’t know about chatting about it harsh without knowing why
None of us know why but it's been implied it's due to something he's done or another man has done.
He went to work "
Yeah, that is really all we know. That's my point. We have no idea what has lead up to this situation so can't blame her, him or both of them. It has been strongly implied though that it's either his or other men's actions that have caused the op to act this way and I can't find anything in the information we have to support that. |
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"The poor bloke should run for the hills. I don’t know about chatting about it harsh without knowing why
None of us know why but it's been implied it's due to something he's done or another man has done.
He went to work
Yeah, that is really all we know. That's my point. We have no idea what has lead up to this situation so can't blame her, him or both of them. It has been strongly implied though that it's either his or other men's actions that have caused the op to act this way and I can't find anything in the information we have to support that. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The poor bloke should run for the hills. I don’t know about chatting about it harsh without knowing why
None of us know why but it's been implied it's due to something he's done or another man has done.
He went to work
Yeah, that is really all we know. That's my point. We have no idea what has lead up to this situation so can't blame her, him or both of them. It has been strongly implied though that it's either his or other men's actions that have caused the op to act this way and I can't find anything in the information we have to support that. "
Yes I got told off for coming to that conclusion 
Think one of the lady’s was told the full story via pm. Hope they all get the best outcome from it all. It would of been interesting if a man had posted this thou  |
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"The poor bloke should run for the hills. I don’t know about chatting about it harsh without knowing why
None of us know why but it's been implied it's due to something he's done or another man has done.
He went to work
Yeah, that is really all we know. That's my point. We have no idea what has lead up to this situation so can't blame her, him or both of them. It has been strongly implied though that it's either his or other men's actions that have caused the op to act this way and I can't find anything in the information we have to support that.
Yes I got told off for coming to that conclusion
Think one of the lady’s was told the full story via pm. Hope they all get the best outcome from it all. It would of been interesting if a man had posted this thou "
I hope they get the best outcome too.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"The poor bloke should run for the hills. I don’t know about chatting about it harsh without knowing why
None of us know why but it's been implied it's due to something he's done or another man has done.
He went to work
Yeah, that is really all we know. That's my point. We have no idea what has lead up to this situation so can't blame her, him or both of them. It has been strongly implied though that it's either his or other men's actions that have caused the op to act this way and I can't find anything in the information we have to support that. "
it’s to do with past relationships and I know it’s not his fault and I understand that I was at fault here as I knew where he was but my thoughts got the better of me and now I’ve reflected on it and learning how to control my jealousy |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Don't waste your time on it.
In the infamous words of Baz Luhrman:
Sometimes you're in front,
Sometimes you're behind,
The race is long,
And in the end, it's only with yourself! "
waste my time on what? |
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