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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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Today remembers the trans people killed for being trans.
Death is rare in the UK but stats show trans people are more likely to experience violence.
Black trans women are the target of choice in the US. The numbers of trans people killed in the US this year has already exceeded previous numbers and the year isn't over yet.
The last few years have been characterised by polarised hatred. I hope we humans can reach a point soon where people can be safe being themselves.
 to our Fab trans community.
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"Today remembers the trans people killed for being trans.
Death is rare in the UK but stats show trans people are more likely to experience violence.
Black trans women are the target of choice in the US. The numbers of trans people killed in the US this year has already exceeded previous numbers and the year isn't over yet.
The last few years have been characterised by polarised hatred. I hope we humans can reach a point soon where people can be safe being themselves.
to our Fab trans community.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I hope so too
I'm not holding my breath though
I feel that, as people, there are too many looking backwards and not forwards
This applies to individuals and the Governments that are supposed to represent them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Today remembers the trans people killed for being trans.
Death is rare in the UK but stats show trans people are more likely to experience violence.
Black trans women are the target of choice in the US. The numbers of trans people killed in the US this year has already exceeded previous numbers and the year isn't over yet.
The last few years have been characterised by polarised hatred. I hope we humans can reach a point soon where people can be safe being themselves.
to our Fab trans community.
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I didn’t know. Thanks for reminding us of it and how much we need to do to include and integrate our trans community. Much love to all today |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Im quite sad that this only garnered 24 posts.
Bump.
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That it did kind of resonates with my initial comment
People should care, people say they do care, but really, there is a disinterest, because it doesn't affect them
Set that against a background of people who are so aggressively against 'difference' and indifference becomes part of the problem x |
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By *rmbtsTV/TS
over a year ago
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Thinking of you all and reflect on what we all go through each day with negative thoughts and feedback from some parts of society
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you have a spare few minutes, please watch this, because today seems like a good day to air it x
https://youtu.be/hIhsv18lrqY"
That was excellent and also deeply saddening. We have much work to do on the interior work of evolving consciousness through education so that LGBTIQ+ differences are fully integrated into being human. I pray for that time when we no longer need to consider systemic homophobia as a pressing issue and campaign for action to address the inequalities. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you have a spare few minutes, please watch this, because today seems like a good day to air it x
https://youtu.be/hIhsv18lrqY
That was excellent and also deeply saddening. We have much work to do on the interior work of evolving consciousness through education so that LGBTIQ+ differences are fully integrated into being human. I pray for that time when we no longer need to consider systemic homophobia as a pressing issue and campaign for action to address the inequalities."
So glad you watched it Doc
I watched it some time ago and it changed me and changed my view of others
Despite living a less than conventional life I was, quite often, homophobic in my outlook and she called me out for it
Moreover, it stopped me apologising (often to myself) for being me, which for a 40 odd year old bloke was no mean feat
I hope a few more get to see it too x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you have a spare few minutes, please watch this, because today seems like a good day to air it x
https://youtu.be/hIhsv18lrqY
That was excellent and also deeply saddening. We have much work to do on the interior work of evolving consciousness through education so that LGBTIQ+ differences are fully integrated into being human. I pray for that time when we no longer need to consider systemic homophobia as a pressing issue and campaign for action to address the inequalities.
So glad you watched it Doc
I watched it some time ago and it changed me and changed my view of others
Despite living a less than conventional life I was, quite often, homophobic in my outlook and she called me out for it
Moreover, it stopped me apologising (often to myself) for being me, which for a 40 odd year old bloke was no mean feat
I hope a few more get to see it too x"
Yes there’s no doubt that my behaviour around my own bisexuality is influenced by deeply engrained homophobic bias in myself. It is why only one person outside of Fab circles knows I am bi. My 40 year denial of my bisexuality was because of my own homophobia. |
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"Im quite sad that this only garnered 24 posts.
Bump.
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That it did kind of resonates with my initial comment
People should care, people say they do care, but really, there is a disinterest, because it doesn't affect them
Set that against a background of people who are so aggressively against 'difference' and indifference becomes part of the problem x"
Agreed |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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"If you have a spare few minutes, please watch this, because today seems like a good day to air it x
https://youtu.be/hIhsv18lrqY"
Thanks for sharing. It is those small things that let you know you are safe, accepted and included.
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Thank you all.
The first couple of years i was on fab, i posted threads giving information about TDoR. Although many responses were positive, these threads also received some quite vicious responses along the lines of how dare i disrespect "normal" people by "demanding" that there be a day to think about transgender deaths, that i was evil because i was trying to ignore and exclude "real" people. That "all lives matter". That more "ordinary" people are murdered than "trannies", and that i should only be allowed to remember "all" not just those like me.
This is why last year and this year i stayed completely silent about TDoR. This country has become more and more transphobic over the last few years, there has been an onslaught by almost all mainstream and not so mainstream media. The government, the BBC, a high profile billionaire author, an award winning comedy writer, a cabal of academics - even the Guardian newspaper - have openly attacked trans people. The current minister for equalities has shown herself to be openly transphobic.
This was going to be just a few words to say thank you for the nice comments; many apologies that it has turned into a diatribe, i know that I'm addressing mainly the wrong people. It's just very hard at the moment for any trans person to not feel depressed and anxious, and yes, sometimes even very scared for the future. |
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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago
Maidstone |
"It's just very hard at the moment for any trans person to not feel depressed and anxious, and yes, sometimes even very scared for the future."
Hey Polly... BIG {{hugs}} to you girlfriend...!
I agree with all you say and it can be so soul destroying. Having people stare or scowl at you for being you. Happens often on my everyday outings.
However while it can be draining to be a card-carrying Trans person, sometimes I find moving in "normal" circles easier to manage.
For example, why not be a normal volunteer (i.e. not with a LGBTQ+ charity) but, say, as a committee member of your local GP PPG (Patients Participation Group).
This way, not only are you normalising Trans visibility but you might find it feels a lot less intense as Transphobia is on the rise.
You need to look after your own mental health as the world is just so very abnormal just now... |
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By * Plus ECouple
over a year ago
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"Thank you all.
The first couple of years i was on fab, i posted threads giving information about TDoR. Although many responses were positive, these threads also received some quite vicious responses along the lines of how dare i disrespect "normal" people by "demanding" that there be a day to think about transgender deaths, that i was evil because i was trying to ignore and exclude "real" people. That "all lives matter". That more "ordinary" people are murdered than "trannies", and that i should only be allowed to remember "all" not just those like me.
This is why last year and this year i stayed completely silent about TDoR. This country has become more and more transphobic over the last few years, there has been an onslaught by almost all mainstream and not so mainstream media. The government, the BBC, a high profile billionaire author, an award winning comedy writer, a cabal of academics - even the Guardian newspaper - have openly attacked trans people. The current minister for equalities has shown herself to be openly transphobic.
This was going to be just a few words to say thank you for the nice comments; many apologies that it has turned into a diatribe, i know that I'm addressing mainly the wrong people. It's just very hard at the moment for any trans person to not feel depressed and anxious, and yes, sometimes even very scared for the future."
You said it more eloquently than I ever could.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thank you all.
The first couple of years i was on fab, i posted threads giving information about TDoR. Although many responses were positive, these threads also received some quite vicious responses along the lines of how dare i disrespect "normal" people by "demanding" that there be a day to think about transgender deaths, that i was evil because i was trying to ignore and exclude "real" people. That "all lives matter". That more "ordinary" people are murdered than "trannies", and that i should only be allowed to remember "all" not just those like me.
This is why last year and this year i stayed completely silent about TDoR. This country has become more and more transphobic over the last few years, there has been an onslaught by almost all mainstream and not so mainstream media. The government, the BBC, a high profile billionaire author, an award winning comedy writer, a cabal of academics - even the Guardian newspaper - have openly attacked trans people. The current minister for equalities has shown herself to be openly transphobic.
This was going to be just a few words to say thank you for the nice comments; many apologies that it has turned into a diatribe, i know that I'm addressing mainly the wrong people. It's just very hard at the moment for any trans person to not feel depressed and anxious, and yes, sometimes even very scared for the future."
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"It's just very hard at the moment for any trans person to not feel depressed and anxious, and yes, sometimes even very scared for the future.
Hey Polly... BIG {{hugs}} to you girlfriend...!
I agree with all you say and it can be so soul destroying. Having people stare or scowl at you for being you. Happens often on my everyday outings.
However while it can be draining to be a card-carrying Trans person, sometimes I find moving in "normal" circles easier to manage.
For example, why not be a normal volunteer (i.e. not with a LGBTQ+ charity) but, say, as a committee member of your local GP PPG (Patients Participation Group).
This way, not only are you normalising Trans visibility but you might find it feels a lot less intense as Transphobia is on the rise.
You need to look after your own mental health as the world is just so very abnormal just now..."
Yes, i did spend several years very active in church circles in Manchester (not for everyone i know, and i would never push my beliefs onto anybody else). I feel that i did do a lot of good though merely by being openly present in the congregation and regularly conversing with the clergy. The last couple of years I've been more looking after myself and those close to me rather than trying to improve the wider world; maybe after covid passes i might feel capable of doing a bit of heavy lifting once more. |
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"I don't really have the eloquence or the experience to say much on this thread but Polly, your voice and you matters. As does all trans voices and all trans people.
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Same.. can't believe this shit still goes on, there should be no hate in this world |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"Thank you all.
The first couple of years i was on fab, i posted threads giving information about TDoR. Although many responses were positive, these threads also received some quite vicious responses along the lines of how dare i disrespect "normal" people by "demanding" that there be a day to think about transgender deaths, that i was evil because i was trying to ignore and exclude "real" people. That "all lives matter". That more "ordinary" people are murdered than "trannies", and that i should only be allowed to remember "all" not just those like me.
This is why last year and this year i stayed completely silent about TDoR. This country has become more and more transphobic over the last few years, there has been an onslaught by almost all mainstream and not so mainstream media. The government, the BBC, a high profile billionaire author, an award winning comedy writer, a cabal of academics - even the Guardian newspaper - have openly attacked trans people. The current minister for equalities has shown herself to be openly transphobic.
This was going to be just a few words to say thank you for the nice comments; many apologies that it has turned into a diatribe, i know that I'm addressing mainly the wrong people. It's just very hard at the moment for any trans person to not feel depressed and anxious, and yes, sometimes even very scared for the future."
Thanks for sharing.
One of the reasons I posted the thread is that I don't think people realise the emotional burden felt by always having to represent. It opens you up to attack, which is rarely balanced by the support and praise.
It shouldn't have to be your responsibility to educate us but it is our responsibility not to harm you and other transgender people.
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"Thank you all.
The first couple of years i was on fab, i posted threads giving information about TDoR. Although many responses were positive, these threads also received some quite vicious responses along the lines of how dare i disrespect "normal" people by "demanding" that there be a day to think about transgender deaths, that i was evil because i was trying to ignore and exclude "real" people. That "all lives matter". That more "ordinary" people are murdered than "trannies", and that i should only be allowed to remember "all" not just those like me.
This is why last year and this year i stayed completely silent about TDoR. This country has become more and more transphobic over the last few years, there has been an onslaught by almost all mainstream and not so mainstream media. The government, the BBC, a high profile billionaire author, an award winning comedy writer, a cabal of academics - even the Guardian newspaper - have openly attacked trans people. The current minister for equalities has shown herself to be openly transphobic.
This was going to be just a few words to say thank you for the nice comments; many apologies that it has turned into a diatribe, i know that I'm addressing mainly the wrong people. It's just very hard at the moment for any trans person to not feel depressed and anxious, and yes, sometimes even very scared for the future.
Thanks for sharing.
One of the reasons I posted the thread is that I don't think people realise the emotional burden felt by always having to represent. It opens you up to attack, which is rarely balanced by the support and praise.
It shouldn't have to be your responsibility to educate us but it is our responsibility not to harm you and other transgender people.
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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago
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"Yes, i did spend several years very active in church circles in Manchester (not for everyone i know, and i would never push my beliefs onto anybody else). I feel that i did do a lot of good though merely by being openly present in the congregation and regularly conversing with the clergy. The last couple of years I've been more looking after myself and those close to me rather than trying to improve the wider world; maybe after covid passes i might feel capable of doing a bit of heavy lifting once more."
I am like you... There are times when I feel strong, other times when a quiet life feels more sustainable...
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