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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maybe people are too scared their thread will nose dive and don't have the confidence to post.
It's also hard to come up with something that hasn't been done to death already in the forums. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe people are too scared their thread will nose dive and don't have the confidence to post.
It's also hard to come up with something that hasn't been done to death already in the forums. "
Doesn’t stop a lot of folk  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe people are too scared their thread will nose dive and don't have the confidence to post.
It's also hard to come up with something that hasn't been done to death already in the forums.
Doesn’t stop a lot of folk "
A lot of folk don't care what comes out of their mouths, as long as they can hear themselves talk. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It’s all just dots on a screen. Launch your thread and be proud. Someone will reply somewhere "
And if no one replies it will still be read. And there are some who will bump it at a later time  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It’s all just dots on a screen. Launch your thread and be proud. Someone will reply somewhere
But not always in a good way."
That’s on them - you are never likely to meet them and don’t need to give them the time of day. Don’t be afraid to start threads people |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Almost total lack of imagination.
^ Yep this. I also don't want to post my inane ramblings/thoughts. Sometimes I do but very very rarely."
Aren't all threads someones inane ramblings/thoughts? |
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"It’s all just dots on a screen. Launch your thread and be proud. Someone will reply somewhere
But not always in a good way.
That’s on them - you are never likely to meet them and don’t need to give them the time of day. Don’t be afraid to start threads people "
Some result in people sending their vileness into your inbox, easier to post on someone else's ramblings  |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"Almost total lack of imagination.
^ Yep this. I also don't want to post my inane ramblings/thoughts. Sometimes I do but very very rarely.
Aren't all threads someones inane ramblings/thoughts?"
Nah, some are less inane/rambling. I don't mind reading others, the ones I don't just ignore. I doubt that there would be an ermmm... audience for mine and sometimes it's easier to just post on other's threads. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Because the couple of times I have, I’ve been ignored.
More of a lurker. Suits me better. "
I think even regular thread contributors have had a few ignored threads at some point. Just need to keep doing it and sometimes it boils down to posting a thread at a quiet time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I do very occasionally. They aren't terribly popular 
Does thread popularity matter?"
Well no I suppose not, I much prefer smaller more intimate ones anyway  |
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"I do very occasionally. They aren't terribly popular
Does thread popularity matter?"
Of course it does, nobody likes being ignored and seeing the same bunch of regular posters take over a thread and reply to each other making it their own. |
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Anything I have to say/muse over I do with family and friends. If I'm stuck on something, if himself doesn't know Google is my friend.
I pop on for distraction etc, just the same as when I pick up a book instead of writing one. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It’s all just dots on a screen. Launch your thread and be proud. Someone will reply somewhere
But not always in a good way."
I used to get a lot of shit when I posted threads because many people don't understand what a debate is. They assumed if I asked a question that was what I thought.
It didn't bother me at all, they are entitled to their opinion. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It’s all just dots on a screen. Launch your thread and be proud. Someone will reply somewhere
But not always in a good way.
I used to get a lot of shit when I posted threads because many people don't understand what a debate is. They assumed if I asked a question that was what I thought.
It didn't bother me at all, they are entitled to their opinion. "
Opinions are like arseholes. Everyone has one but not all of them smell nice |
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"It’s all just dots on a screen. Launch your thread and be proud. Someone will reply somewhere
And if no one replies it will still be read. And there are some who will bump it at a later time "
Usually Jim when he's bored at about 4 o'clock in the morning  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have done a couple but generally I'm too busy reading the posts and someone has already said something similar to what I was thinking added to that i assume people aren't really interested. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have done a couple but generally I'm too busy reading the posts and someone has already said something similar to what I was thinking added to that i assume people aren't really interested."
I'm interested. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I have done a couple but generally I'm too busy reading the posts and someone has already said something similar to what I was thinking added to that i assume people aren't really interested."
But you don't know if people would be interested unless you start one. |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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I prefer to just flit on, say my bit and flit off. It’s a bit too much like trying to start a conversation in real life, and I’m not very good at that.
Saying that, I have started two threads (I think) about EBay queries I had.
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By *obajxMan
over a year ago
Cheshire |
Becsuse I don't have anything of interest to discuss
I do think though that some people start threads with the first thought that comes into their heads, or that they believe thread starting is a popularity contest |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Becsuse I don't have anything of interest to discuss
I do think though that some people start threads with the first thought that comes into their heads, or that they believe thread starting is a popularity contest"
Guilty of putting a thread up of something that has just popped into my head. Sometimes they fly and sometimes they don't |
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By *andVCouple
over a year ago
Doncaster |
I posted a thread after this one as it gave me the confidence to do it, about the horniest random swinging experience we had, think it got lost in the sea of others quickly, think we were beaten by the best way to blow your nose or something ;p (not bitter at all haha), you win some you lose some  |
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By *andVCouple
over a year ago
Doncaster |
"I posted a thread after this one as it gave me the confidence to do it, about the horniest random swinging experience we had, think it got lost in the sea of others quickly, think we were beaten by the best way to blow your nose or something ;p (not bitter at all haha), you win some you lose some
I read it and enjoyed it. And you've already put up an idea for another thread (best way to blow your nose)."
Haha would not surprise me, and thanks |
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By *obajxMan
over a year ago
Cheshire |
"I posted a thread after this one as it gave me the confidence to do it, about the horniest random swinging experience we had, think it got lost in the sea of others quickly, think we were beaten by the best way to blow your nose or something ;p (not bitter at all haha), you win some you lose some "
And it's a real loss to the forum that something interesting is lost in a sea of utter drivel |
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I’ve posted a few over the years, the majority just end up getting a few comments, then go to page 2 to never be seen again. You can often see a similar thread created later and as a woman has posted it, then it will find its legs on here.
But that’s the nature of the beast on the forums, so I’d rather contribute than create. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I posted a thread after this one as it gave me the confidence to do it, about the horniest random swinging experience we had, think it got lost in the sea of others quickly, think we were beaten by the best way to blow your nose or something ;p (not bitter at all haha), you win some you lose some
And it's a real loss to the forum that something interesting is lost in a sea of utter drivel"
'Horniest Random Swinging Experience' thread is in Swingers Chat
https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/swingers/1092221 |
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I've started lots of threads in the Irish forum.
I don't like repetitive stuff so most are just for fun while others as serious fab questions if I see something I believe to be wrong.
Some get numerous replies but some get very few and go to fab hell but I've never bumped one ever. |
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By *ogloomMan
over a year ago
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That's the challenge. Getting zero responses is the hardest thread to do. I currently have one running which given it's topic is a good thing as it suggests nobody wants to argue with my view, vis a vis I'm right |
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By *andVCouple
over a year ago
Doncaster |
"I posted a thread after this one as it gave me the confidence to do it, about the horniest random swinging experience we had, think it got lost in the sea of others quickly, think we were beaten by the best way to blow your nose or something ;p (not bitter at all haha), you win some you lose some
And it's a real loss to the forum that something interesting is lost in a sea of utter drivel
'Horniest Random Swinging Experience' thread is in Swingers Chat
https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/swingers/1092221"
Thanks x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I never think anyone is interested in anything I say.
I do like random though. Best thread I ever started was when I wanted to find out what people did when waiting for the kettle to boil, good that was.
Maybe we should make a pact, if we notice that someone on this thread has started a thread we should rescue it....
Be nice to have different content rather than the ranty and repetitive.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mainly time
I feel if you start a thread, you should allow yourself time to join in if it takes off
Quite often, I just don't have that time
It's far less time restrictive to follow the threads of those who do have time and chip in with a comment every so often
Yesterday, for example, I did have time, so started 3 or 4 threads
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The other thing is, I get bored by seeing the same types of threads repeated time and again
I don't want to be that guy that adds to that frustration for others, so I try and think of new angles and slants or perhaps touch on a subject I haven't seen posted about recently |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I never think anyone is interested in anything I say.
I do like random though. Best thread I ever started was when I wanted to find out what people did when waiting for the kettle to boil, good that was.
Maybe we should make a pact, if we notice that someone on this thread has started a thread we should rescue it....
Be nice to have different content rather than the ranty and repetitive.
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Your kettle thread sounds funny.
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By *am450Man
over a year ago
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"I do very occasionally. They aren't terribly popular
Does thread popularity matter?
Of course it does, nobody likes being ignored and seeing the same bunch of regular posters take over a thread and reply to each other making it their own."
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I never think anyone is interested in anything I say.
I do like random though. Best thread I ever started was when I wanted to find out what people did when waiting for the kettle to boil, good that was.
Maybe we should make a pact, if we notice that someone on this thread has started a thread we should rescue it....
Be nice to have different content rather than the ranty and repetitive.
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I promoted the random horniest thing thread. And I found your kettle thread |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I never think anyone is interested in anything I say.
I do like random though. Best thread I ever started was when I wanted to find out what people did when waiting for the kettle to boil, good that was.
Maybe we should make a pact, if we notice that someone on this thread has started a thread we should rescue it....
Be nice to have different content rather than the ranty and repetitive.
Your kettle thread sounds funny.
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It was a good thread! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I never think anyone is interested in anything I say.
I do like random though. Best thread I ever started was when I wanted to find out what people did when waiting for the kettle to boil, good that was.
Maybe we should make a pact, if we notice that someone on this thread has started a thread we should rescue it....
Be nice to have different content rather than the ranty and repetitive.
I promoted the random horniest thing thread. And I found your kettle thread "
Oooh yay!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's hard work managing a thread, especially if you decide to try to acknowledge everyone "
Occasionally I like to start one, then log out straight away and leave them to it |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's hard work managing a thread, especially if you decide to try to acknowledge everyone "
It can be. Sometimes I do and sometimes I don't comment back on my threads |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's hard work managing a thread, especially if you decide to try to acknowledge everyone
Occasionally I like to start one, then log out straight away and leave them to it"
You start hundreds
Which has been your favourite? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's hard work managing a thread, especially if you decide to try to acknowledge everyone
It can be. Sometimes I do and sometimes I don't comment back on my threads "
But then how do you choose who to ignore  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's hard work managing a thread, especially if you decide to try to acknowledge everyone "
I don't like doing that. My threads were like a conversation in a pub. My OP would be to get people talking amongst themselves, not all stood in a circle just replying back to me. If that makes sense.
I'd comment now and then the same as I would in real life, but not reply to every person as that felt like I was hogging the conversation.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's hard work managing a thread, especially if you decide to try to acknowledge everyone
I don't like doing that. My threads were like a conversation in a pub. My OP would be to get people talking amongst themselves, not all stood in a circle just replying back to me. If that makes sense.
I'd comment now and then the same as I would in real life, but not reply to every person as that felt like I was hogging the conversation.
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Yeah i get that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's hard work managing a thread, especially if you decide to try to acknowledge everyone
Occasionally I like to start one, then log out straight away and leave them to it
You start hundreds
Which has been your favourite? "
If I had a pound for every thread I started I could get that jumper I wanted, probably the one about next doors cat, I think I even started a part two! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I rarely start threads because they are exhausting if I give them the attention I like. I tend to start threads in sensitive topics, with significant meaning for me, that deserve mutual inquiry into a subject that can generate polarised opinion and emotional responses. I like to facilitate the thread so it goes smoothly and we generate good dialogue which isn’t easy on here at times. So it is incredibly time consuming for me, so I comment when I feel moved to do so on other threads, lurk or just blow off a bit of emotional steam with my usual brand of self disclosure, self-deprecation and vain attempts to be funny. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's hard work managing a thread, especially if you decide to try to acknowledge everyone
It can be. Sometimes I do and sometimes I don't comment back on my threads
But then how do you choose who to ignore "
I have an algorithm |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's hard work managing a thread, especially if you decide to try to acknowledge everyone
I don't like doing that. My threads were like a conversation in a pub. My OP would be to get people talking amongst themselves, not all stood in a circle just replying back to me. If that makes sense.
I'd comment now and then the same as I would in real life, but not reply to every person as that felt like I was hogging the conversation.
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My reasoning is similar. Plus I don't like to have a load of my comments in a row. And sometimes I won't reply to everyone so I can reply later if I want to bump the thread. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
In my almost 5 years here I've not started many, mostly because I rarely think of anything I'm moved enough to post about either serious or silly - some people are thread starters (twisted thread starters ) and others are commenters, I'm generally the latter.
I don't always think threads need to be "facilitated" though, and think that can at times lead to the perception that it's just a group of friends filling a thread and a non-inclusive feel that is potentially the opposite of what facilitating can set out to do e.g. when you log onto a 100 post thread and 30 or more of the posts are the OP and 30 or so more are obviously people the OP knows it *can* diminish the inclusiveness.
I don't think a thread needs to have a high response count to be considered relevant or even popular though - they're not (or shouldn't be) popularity contests or about whether they're "completed" - my gauge of a thread being good is the level of interest I have in it, not how many responses it generates. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My threads are just me I don’t do it to get 175 or to try and be popular or attract attention I enjoy myself and if anybody wants to comment on them that’s fine and if not then hey ho |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My threads are just me I don’t do it to get 175 or to try and be popular or attract attention I enjoy myself and if anybody wants to comment on them that’s fine and if not then hey ho"
Ooooooooooo look at you being all serious and that |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My threads are just me I don’t do it to get 175 or to try and be popular or attract attention I enjoy myself and if anybody wants to comment on them that’s fine and if not then hey ho
Ooooooooooo look at you being all serious and that "
Haha I have my moments don’t worry normal service will be resumed later |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My threads are just me I don’t do it to get 175 or to try and be popular or attract attention I enjoy myself and if anybody wants to comment on them that’s fine and if not then hey ho
Ooooooooooo look at you being all serious and that
Haha I have my moments don’t worry normal service will be resumed later "
Hope so |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If I've nothing to say, why would I waste anyone's time by saying it?"
I'm mot sure I have anything interesting to say (or maybe I'm just scared of being shot down in flames lol.) |
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"Some people just comment and some just lurk but why don't you start a thread? "
I very rarely start threads. This is mainly because - particularly during lockdown - I tend to come online for a few minutes and then disappear again.
I feel that when you start a thread there’s an expectation that you stay online to ‘nurture’ it and respond to comments etc - particularly if it’s not a ‘fluffy’ topic!
Also - nobody has actually been able to do much this year - so there isn’t exactly much opportunity for originality, is there?
I’m loathe to start a thread that we’ve had a million times already. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe people are too scared their thread will nose dive and don't have the confidence to post.
It's also hard to come up with something that hasn't been done to death already in the forums. "
My threads always nose dive. I'm fine with that. I usually post out of boredom then wander off anyway  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Because all my threads get me banned.
If they're not about 'fabbing' each other, or some sort of poll about 'who likes...' then they're redundant on this forum. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I tend not to as I am terrible at responding to posts, I know it isn't necessarily needed, but I feel bad if someone takes time to respond and dor whatever reason I don't reply. |
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I tend to ask questions that others might find stupid so for all my stupid needs I use google or ask my husband as he’s used to my stupidness ..I think others might get put off by seeing the sarcastic reply’s some people get when they post.. |
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