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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Please read carefully
What's the first compliment you'd prefer to get one for your looks or one for your personality.
For me it would be my looks as the first compliment however I would want someone as they got to know me better value personality over my looks |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Please read carefully
What's the first compliment you'd prefer to get one for your looks or one for your personality.
For me it would be my looks as the first compliment however I would want someone as they got to know me better value personality over my looks "
How carefully do we have to read this, I’ve read it 5 times, really, really slowly ?! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Please read carefully
What's the first compliment you'd prefer to get one for your looks or one for your personality.
For me it would be my looks as the first compliment however I would want someone as they got to know me better value personality over my looks "
Same with me |
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In real meet, neither.
I will observe a person reactions/ facial expression when he first sees me and I will make my own conclusion.
For first meet, I take it as a compliment to my physical appearance for him to agree to meet.
For regulars/repeat meets, I take that as a compliment to my personality.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Please read carefully
What's the first compliment you'd prefer to get one for your looks or one for your personality.
For me it would be my looks as the first compliment however I would want someone as they got to know me better value personality over my looks
How carefully do we have to read this, I’ve read it 5 times, really, really slowly ?!"
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On fab I can't imagine how anyone would know my personality really except one or two fairly perceptive people.
I actively enjoy being genuinely complimented on my looks but then I'm shallow and vain  .
I also enjoy being genuinely being complimented on my personality by people who actually know me. |
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Compliments are always nice, and it's taken me til this age to be able to accept them graciously.
I don't take compliments on here too seriously, though. "Nice tits" etc. But if I meet someone and they appear to mean it, it's nice to be complimented on "Me" - my humour, personality, etc x |
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"On fab I can't imagine how anyone would know my personality really except one or two fairly perceptive people.
I actively enjoy being genuinely complimented on my looks but then I'm shallow and vain .
I also enjoy being genuinely being complimented on my personality by people who actually know me. "
You mean dry, perceptive, feather rufflingly blunt with a hint of sarcasm, secrecy, humour and the ability to get people to think? |
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"On fab I can't imagine how anyone would know my personality really except one or two fairly perceptive people.
I actively enjoy being genuinely complimented on my looks but then I'm shallow and vain .
I also enjoy being genuinely being complimented on my personality by people who actually know me.
You mean dry, perceptive, feather rufflingly blunt with a hint of sarcasm, secrecy, humour and the ability to get people to think? "
 . Yeah, that sort of thing  |
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I'm not in the market for verbal compliments. The greatest compliment anybody can give me is wanting to be around me. They don't need to verbalise it. Somebody's actions mean more to me than saying something they think is good about me. Luke |
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"On fab I can't imagine how anyone would know my personality really except one or two fairly perceptive people.
I actively enjoy being genuinely complimented on my looks but then I'm shallow and vain .
I also enjoy being genuinely being complimented on my personality by people who actually know me.
You mean dry, perceptive, feather rufflingly blunt with a hint of sarcasm, secrecy, humour and the ability to get people to think?
. Yeah, that sort of thing "
I'd not noticed |
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By *renzMan
over a year ago
Between Chichester and Havant |
It is all about personality for me, but there does have to be a physical attraction in the first place. I'm guessing we're talking online, ie fab?
Online, you can't judge personality until you start messaging, so there has to be something that attracts you in the first place to that profile.
In the 'real' world it would most definitely be personality as it's far easier to see. |
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"I'm not in the market for verbal compliments. The greatest compliment anybody can give me is wanting to be around me. They don't need to verbalise it. Somebody's actions mean more to me than saying something they think is good about me. Luke "
I agree with that to an extent but the many threads there have been recently saying how unkind words and insults have had a lifelong effect on people's self esteem and opinion of themselves makes me think that actually telling people the genuinely good things you see about them is a very valuable thing.
My mum could be quite critical of me but she also praised me in equal measure. I can remember her saying within my hearing how much she enjoyed having us kids home in the holidays and she often pointed out to her friends how nice looking she thought I was (I bet the friends were rolling their eyes ). I think those small things have gone a long way to underpinning my opinion of myself. |
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"On fab I can't imagine how anyone would know my personality really except one or two fairly perceptive people.
I actively enjoy being genuinely complimented on my looks but then I'm shallow and vain .
I also enjoy being genuinely being complimented on my personality by people who actually know me.
You mean dry, perceptive, feather rufflingly blunt with a hint of sarcasm, secrecy, humour and the ability to get people to think?
. Yeah, that sort of thing
I'd not noticed "
Lol. I think it's a fair assessment which shows how perceptive you are or how unaware I am .
You know I think you're great. Funny, vulnerable and very sweary. |
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"On fab I can't imagine how anyone would know my personality really except one or two fairly perceptive people.
I actively enjoy being genuinely complimented on my looks but then I'm shallow and vain .
I also enjoy being genuinely being complimented on my personality by people who actually know me.
You mean dry, perceptive, feather rufflingly blunt with a hint of sarcasm, secrecy, humour and the ability to get people to think?
. Yeah, that sort of thing
I'd not noticed
Lol. I think it's a fair assessment which shows how perceptive you are or how unaware I am .
You know I think you're great. Funny, vulnerable and very sweary. "
I feel like I've just been bigged up by my best mates mum like. 
I like it when you swipe in with a genius one liner from out of nowhere. The unexpected ones that make me blow a snot bubble coz I was so unprepared for the burst of laughter!
I don't think you're as aloof as maybe you think you are, but I am reasonably perceptive.
*takes notes about being rumbled for taking notes* |
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"Please read carefully
What's the first compliment you'd prefer to get one for your looks or one for your personality.
For me it would be my looks as the first compliment however I would want someone as they got to know me better value personality over my looks "
99% of my compliments are regarding my looks, such as my fabulous outfits, gorgeous legs and high heels (their words), which then leads to them meeting me, to which I then get compliments about my personality, so my looks gets me my meeting with admirers, if I'm out at a club or venue, admirers approach me because of what I look like and then get to know me. |
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"On fab I can't imagine how anyone would know my personality really except one or two fairly perceptive people.
I actively enjoy being genuinely complimented on my looks but then I'm shallow and vain .
I also enjoy being genuinely being complimented on my personality by people who actually know me.
You mean dry, perceptive, feather rufflingly blunt with a hint of sarcasm, secrecy, humour and the ability to get people to think?
. Yeah, that sort of thing
I'd not noticed
Lol. I think it's a fair assessment which shows how perceptive you are or how unaware I am .
You know I think you're great. Funny, vulnerable and very sweary.
I feel like I've just been bigged up by my best mates mum like.
I like it when you swipe in with a genius one liner from out of nowhere. The unexpected ones that make me blow a snot bubble coz I was so unprepared for the burst of laughter!
I don't think you're as aloof as maybe you think you are, but I am reasonably perceptive.
*takes notes about being rumbled for taking notes*"
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"What's the first compliment you'd prefer to get one for your looks or one for your personality."
When limited to this choice, I would like to be complimented on my looks.
I get plenty of compliments about my personality and they all feel like consolation prizes for the fat kid who trails in last. |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
Gapping Fanny |
As others have said context matters, however if someone compliments me on my looks I would do a double take. ,I don’t consider myself ugly but I also know I am not a classically handsome man.
Someone cannot comment on my personality without knowing me, only their perception of me. |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
I know what I look like and I am ok with it.
I do not know, however, how somebody perceives me so somebody saying they like my extrovert nature is more important to me, if that makes sense? |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"Looks often opens the door.
Personality stops it from closing.
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You're on fire today
Was that a compliment? 
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Yes it was a compliment. Not a threat.  "
And there was me off to check the smoke detector batteries...... 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I really don’t mind. However I value compliments about things I really value.
For instance I like compliments like ‘what you said really helped me sort my problem out.’
However I’m not so keen on ‘I was really impressed how you shut that cunt up.’
Compliments about my looks are rare and there’s very little I can do about most of them really, except those related to health and beauty routines. |
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By *abonWoman
over a year ago
L’boro/Ashby & Cheltenham |
"I am shit at accepting physical compliments
I'd much sooner folk recognised me as being genuine, pleasant, witty and warm "
Well I think your profile rocks, so definitely all of the above in my book! |
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Genuine compliments are always lovely, but my favourite compliments are for my clothes, shoes, hair, makeup - anything where I’ve made a conscious choice to look a certain way and have control over whatever is being complimented. That’s because they’re not just saying “x” thing looks nice, they’re also complimenting my taste or my skills, so I love those compliments more than most others.
Physical compliments - that depends on who and what I suppose. I don’t really pay attention to the Fab messages saying things like “the most beautiful woman on here” because that’s so obviously bullshit - and he’s probably just sent it to 20 other women as well. I’m also not that keen on any variation on “nice tits” unless it comes from someone I like. It’s nicer to get a genuine compliment on a less obvious feature - the first time someone on here told me I have beautiful eyes, I melted, because that’s not something I’ve heard often.
Compliments on my personality only come from people who know me well and usually who I’m close to. Those are nice because they’re real, and they’re from people whose opinions I care about. I wouldn’t expect compliments of that sort on here where no-one really knows me. |
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