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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I just dont get why people do this!
I keep seeing this profile, I know them and I know he is a fair bit older than he says he is.
I get that some don't wanna fall out of people's age ranges, but are some really that bothered that they need to lie?
Someone enlighten me...
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"I just dont get why people do this!
I keep seeing this profile, I know them and I know he is a fair bit older than he says he is.
I get that some don't wanna fall out of people's age ranges, but are some really that bothered that they need to lie?
Someone enlighten me...
Lu "
Define 'a fair bit older' ?
Are you talking a year or two or a decade?
In all the years I've been on here this question has come up frequently.
I've always asked this question. If ages weren't shown on profiles could you be confident that you could accurately guess the age of every profile owner and if not what would you base your decision on as to whether to message, reply or interact with them?
Because I'd be pretty sure it would be down to the words and pictures that you can see and read.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I just dont get why people do this!
I keep seeing this profile, I know them and I know he is a fair bit older than he says he is.
I get that some don't wanna fall out of people's age ranges, but are some really that bothered that they need to lie?
Someone enlighten me...
Lu
Define 'a fair bit older' ?
Are you talking a year or two or a decade?
In all the years I've been on here this question has come up frequently.
I've always asked this question. If ages weren't shown on profiles could you be confident that you could accurately guess the age of every profile owner and if not what would you base your decision on as to whether to message, reply or interact with them?
Because I'd be pretty sure it would be down to the words and pictures that you can see and read.
A"
Well...the person in question was in his 40s when I met him, around 7/8 years ago....apparently he still hasn't passed 45 yet 
Age isn't really a factor for me personally, more of a guideline. So someone's age wouldn't bother me, the fact that they'd been dishonest would.
If your pics show how you look, why lie about your age? Or anything?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For a while I did, for various reasons, and then decided to put my real age in.
It's was like wearing a cloak of invisibility, but I felt it was best to be honest. Yes, my age means a lot of people aren't interested, but the upside is those that are I have a very good connection, and more enjoyable time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just dont get why people do this!
I keep seeing this profile, I know them and I know he is a fair bit older than he says he is.
I get that some don't wanna fall out of people's age ranges, but are some really that bothered that they need to lie?
Someone enlighten me...
Lu "
Hello, think you've answered your own question there!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Me neither
I think I look my age (even if I don't always act it) and my face pics are testament to that
I also want people to meet 'me', not an image of me carefully crafted to fit a series of perceived ideals
This is kinda also why my profile is so long, cos I'm not really your run of the mill male fabber in terms of who and what I seek
It's only fair to allow other fabbers the privilege of taking a peak and deciding if I'm for them |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I just dont get why people do this!
I keep seeing this profile, I know them and I know he is a fair bit older than he says he is.
I get that some don't wanna fall out of people's age ranges, but are some really that bothered that they need to lie?
Someone enlighten me...
Lu
Hello, think you've answered your own question there! "
I mean, there are plenty of people who's age range we don't fall into....we still wouldn't lie...
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just dont get why people do this!
I keep seeing this profile, I know them and I know he is a fair bit older than he says he is.
I get that some don't wanna fall out of people's age ranges, but are some really that bothered that they need to lie?
Someone enlighten me...
Lu
Hello, think you've answered your own question there!
I mean, there are plenty of people who's age range we don't fall into....we still wouldn't lie...
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Well, who do you think is most likely to lie the about their age? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I just dont get why people do this!
I keep seeing this profile, I know them and I know he is a fair bit older than he says he is.
I get that some don't wanna fall out of people's age ranges, but are some really that bothered that they need to lie?
Someone enlighten me...
Lu
Hello, think you've answered your own question there!
I mean, there are plenty of people who's age range we don't fall into....we still wouldn't lie...
Well, who do you think is most likely to lie the about their age?"
I dunno?
I've seen lots of people I wouldn't think needed to do it. The person I'm speaking about in my OP...he was never short of admirers, can't imagine anyone would've been bothered about a few years difference.
This is why I asked...i just don't get it. |
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So....I’ve just turned 47. I am constantly told I look around 10 years younger. But I’m honest and say what I am on here.
As this site is 95% based on looks, I’m sure I could get away with putting 38 on my profile and all the women who I have just slipped out of the age ranges of wouldn’t have a clue...but.
If someone lies about their age, what else will they lie about?
This site is based on trust...or should be it done properly! So where’s the trust if you can’t even be honest about your age? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I pretended to be a year older to be able to contact someone once. Not anymore, though it is a bit sad that I have dropped out of the 18-40 age bracket now  "
Lucky you, I'm on the verge of going over the 55, thought hitting that was bad enough but a little bit of research tends me to start thing about Monastic Orders!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've heard women complain about that. Guys who are in their 50s and 60s saying they are in their 40s. Men really need to do better, because that's just pathetic |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So....I’ve just turned 47. I am constantly told I look around 10 years younger. But I’m honest and say what I am on here.
As this site is 95% based on looks, I’m sure I could get away with putting 38 on my profile and all the women who I have just slipped out of the age ranges of wouldn’t have a clue...but.
If someone lies about their age, what else will they lie about?
This site is based on trust...or should be it done properly! So where’s the trust if you can’t even be honest about your age? "
Exactly this!
I know people who are listed as younger but state in their text their real age...no issue with that. I don't like the dishonesty.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've heard women complain about that. Guys who are in their 50s and 60s saying they are in their 40s. Men really need to do better, because that's just pathetic "
It's definitely not just men...
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The other thing is...
Someone is gonna take a look at me and decide if they're gonna jump in bed with me or not (OK, it's no that simplistic, but you get the drift)
I don't think me saying 47 or 53 would change that
All I can imagine is that people alter their age to get round filters |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Try being 64 on here ..I'm tempted ..but stick to my actual age...it just a shame not being able to chat to a hottie sometimes...but they've got to draw the line somewhere..it's their choice  "
This is what I love about going to clubs....people are a lot less ageist when they get chatting in person, and those who they would normally consider out of their age range for play, get to show their worth. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"I just dont get why people do this!
I keep seeing this profile, I know them and I know he is a fair bit older than he says he is.
I get that some don't wanna fall out of people's age ranges, but are some really that bothered that they need to lie?
Someone enlighten me...
Lu
Define 'a fair bit older' ?
Are you talking a year or two or a decade?
In all the years I've been on here this question has come up frequently.
I've always asked this question. If ages weren't shown on profiles could you be confident that you could accurately guess the age of every profile owner and if not what would you base your decision on as to whether to message, reply or interact with them?
Because I'd be pretty sure it would be down to the words and pictures that you can see and read.
A
Well...the person in question was in his 40s when I met him, around 7/8 years ago....apparently he still hasn't passed 45 yet
Age isn't really a factor for me personally, more of a guideline. So someone's age wouldn't bother me, the fact that they'd been dishonest would.
If your pics show how you look, why lie about your age? Or anything?
Lu "
Kind of brings me back to my point about if people were honest could they guess someone's age.
Why do people do it? Loads of reasons.
To hide their identity and maintain a bit more discretion.
To avoid getting filtered out if they're a year or so outside someone's filters.
Because they can easily get away with it due to looking younger (I doubt many would add years even if they look older than they are!).
Maybe because they're under the assumption that nobody they ever meet is going to ask for a passport or proof of ID to confirm their age before play commences.
How often does anyone ask someone's age when chat commences at a club or social?
I'm not going to play the 'age is just a number' card but the fact remains if you couldn't see it on a profile you'd still make a decision about someone based on visuals and conversation.
I'm sure plenty of people have met and played with people outside of what they state as preferred age ranges in their profiles before without actually knowing.
Provided people aren't knocking off decades and blatantly attempting to dupe people is it really a big deal?
Just an opinion of course. I'm sure to some it's a bigger issue.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I used to be good at guessing ages until fab. Now, there are people I would have guessed were 60 but are apparently 45 and have been for 5 years!
I would much rather honesty and being able to appreciate someone carrying their age well. There is nothing attractive about someone looking 15 years older than their actual age. |
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My age is what it is, but there is no doubt crossing the boundary from my 60s to being over 70 attracted much less interest despite many profiles (perhaps lazily) having an upper age on the profiles of 99! |
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I don’t really get it either we met a couple once for a social and we walked straight past them as there pics were at least 10 years out of date and so were there ages.
We didn’t meet them again due to the lying as we have met people in there late fifties/early sixties and have had a great time with them we just don’t understand the need to lie. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just dont get why people do this!
I keep seeing this profile, I know them and I know he is a fair bit older than he says he is.
I get that some don't wanna fall out of people's age ranges, but are some really that bothered that they need to lie?
Someone enlighten me...
Lu
Hello, think you've answered your own question there!
I mean, there are plenty of people who's age range we don't fall into....we still wouldn't lie...
Well, who do you think is most likely to lie the about their age?
I dunno?
I've seen lots of people I wouldn't think needed to do it. The person I'm speaking about in my OP...he was never short of admirers, can't imagine anyone would've been bothered about a few years difference.
This is why I asked...i just don't get it."
Seems to me, erroneously, that people think one day makes a person completely different. By that I mean reaching having a birthday! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I just dont get why people do this!
I keep seeing this profile, I know them and I know he is a fair bit older than he says he is.
I get that some don't wanna fall out of people's age ranges, but are some really that bothered that they need to lie?
Someone enlighten me...
Lu
Define 'a fair bit older' ?
Are you talking a year or two or a decade?
In all the years I've been on here this question has come up frequently.
I've always asked this question. If ages weren't shown on profiles could you be confident that you could accurately guess the age of every profile owner and if not what would you base your decision on as to whether to message, reply or interact with them?
Because I'd be pretty sure it would be down to the words and pictures that you can see and read.
A
Well...the person in question was in his 40s when I met him, around 7/8 years ago....apparently he still hasn't passed 45 yet
Age isn't really a factor for me personally, more of a guideline. So someone's age wouldn't bother me, the fact that they'd been dishonest would.
If your pics show how you look, why lie about your age? Or anything?
Lu
Kind of brings me back to my point about if people were honest could they guess someone's age.
Why do people do it? Loads of reasons.
To hide their identity and maintain a bit more discretion.
To avoid getting filtered out if they're a year or so outside someone's filters.
Because they can easily get away with it due to looking younger (I doubt many would add years even if they look older than they are!).
Maybe because they're under the assumption that nobody they ever meet is going to ask for a passport or proof of ID to confirm their age before play commences.
How often does anyone ask someone's age when chat commences at a club or social?
I'm not going to play the 'age is just a number' card but the fact remains if you couldn't see it on a profile you'd still make a decision about someone based on visuals and conversation.
I'm sure plenty of people have met and played with people outside of what they state as preferred age ranges in their profiles before without actually knowing.
Provided people aren't knocking off decades and blatantly attempting to dupe people is it really a big deal?
Just an opinion of course. I'm sure to some it's a bigger issue.
A"
Yeah...I get your points, but dishonesty is a big deal to me.
I don't like being lied to, about anything.
The guy I mentioned in my OP was "single" when I met him...only found out later that he was lying about that too...
So seems to me, chances are if they can't be honest about their age, they prolly struggle with honesty in general.
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By *ornLordMan
over a year ago
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"My age is what it is, but there is no doubt crossing the boundary from my 60s to being over 70 attracted much less interest despite many profiles (perhaps lazily) having an upper age on the profiles of 99!"
Yes, this 18-99 thing gets me. If people really are interested in that age range, they could change 99 to 98 to show it - sorry to those who genuinely are after 99-ers, but I’d suggest this isn’t really the site for them. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I just dont get why people do this!
I keep seeing this profile, I know them and I know he is a fair bit older than he says he is.
I get that some don't wanna fall out of people's age ranges, but are some really that bothered that they need to lie?
Someone enlighten me...
Lu
Hello, think you've answered your own question there!
I mean, there are plenty of people who's age range we don't fall into....we still wouldn't lie...
Well, who do you think is most likely to lie the about their age?
I dunno?
I've seen lots of people I wouldn't think needed to do it. The person I'm speaking about in my OP...he was never short of admirers, can't imagine anyone would've been bothered about a few years difference.
This is why I asked...i just don't get it.
Seems to me, erroneously, that people think one day makes a person completely different. By that I mean reaching having a birthday! "
The age isn't what bothers me. It's the lie.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My age is what it is, but there is no doubt crossing the boundary from my 60s to being over 70 attracted much less interest despite many profiles (perhaps lazily) having an upper age on the profiles of 99!
Yes, this 18-99 thing gets me. If people really are interested in that age range, they could change 99 to 98 to show it - sorry to those who genuinely are after 99-ers, but I’d suggest this isn’t really the site for them."
Fully agree with you, how long does it take to change a preference?  |
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People don't like getting older.
Some people think age is arbitrary so they don't care.
I get told I look younger all the time, so maybe then put the age they think they look.
By the way, I am my age on here apart from 1 week of the year, as I have my internet birthday that I enter into sites and my real birthday, but they're only a week apart. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just dont get why people do this!
I keep seeing this profile, I know them and I know he is a fair bit older than he says he is.
I get that some don't wanna fall out of people's age ranges, but are some really that bothered that they need to lie?
Someone enlighten me...
Lu
Hello, think you've answered your own question there!
I mean, there are plenty of people who's age range we don't fall into....we still wouldn't lie...
Well, who do you think is most likely to lie the about their age?
I dunno?
I've seen lots of people I wouldn't think needed to do it. The person I'm speaking about in my OP...he was never short of admirers, can't imagine anyone would've been bothered about a few years difference.
This is why I asked...i just don't get it.
Seems to me, erroneously, that people think one day makes a person completely different. By that I mean reaching having a birthday!
The age isn't what bothers me. It's the lie.
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With all due respect to your good self, you don't seem to grasp why, I'd say mainly single men, lie about their age?
I don't and haven't lied about my age but it is certainly tempting because, although I won't change one iota at the end of the month, I'll drop out of a lot more people's preferred age range because I'll be 56! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In my experience of online dating, the overwhelming majority of women are ‘creative’ on their age. They tend to come clean on the first date and don’t even regard it as lying."
But on here they don't need to because of the ratio! |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"I just dont get why people do this!
I keep seeing this profile, I know them and I know he is a fair bit older than he says he is.
I get that some don't wanna fall out of people's age ranges, but are some really that bothered that they need to lie?
Someone enlighten me...
Lu
Define 'a fair bit older' ?
Are you talking a year or two or a decade?
In all the years I've been on here this question has come up frequently.
I've always asked this question. If ages weren't shown on profiles could you be confident that you could accurately guess the age of every profile owner and if not what would you base your decision on as to whether to message, reply or interact with them?
Because I'd be pretty sure it would be down to the words and pictures that you can see and read.
A
Well...the person in question was in his 40s when I met him, around 7/8 years ago....apparently he still hasn't passed 45 yet
Age isn't really a factor for me personally, more of a guideline. So someone's age wouldn't bother me, the fact that they'd been dishonest would.
If your pics show how you look, why lie about your age? Or anything?
Lu
Kind of brings me back to my point about if people were honest could they guess someone's age.
Why do people do it? Loads of reasons.
To hide their identity and maintain a bit more discretion.
To avoid getting filtered out if they're a year or so outside someone's filters.
Because they can easily get away with it due to looking younger (I doubt many would add years even if they look older than they are!).
Maybe because they're under the assumption that nobody they ever meet is going to ask for a passport or proof of ID to confirm their age before play commences.
How often does anyone ask someone's age when chat commences at a club or social?
I'm not going to play the 'age is just a number' card but the fact remains if you couldn't see it on a profile you'd still make a decision about someone based on visuals and conversation.
I'm sure plenty of people have met and played with people outside of what they state as preferred age ranges in their profiles before without actually knowing.
Provided people aren't knocking off decades and blatantly attempting to dupe people is it really a big deal?
Just an opinion of course. I'm sure to some it's a bigger issue.
A
Yeah...I get your points, but dishonesty is a big deal to me.
I don't like being lied to, about anything.
The guy I mentioned in my OP was "single" when I met him...only found out later that he was lying about that too...
So seems to me, chances are if they can't be honest about their age, they prolly struggle with honesty in general.
Lu "
Expecting honesty about everything from complete strangers interacting on an online site designed to facilitate casual sex between couples and singles is hopeful at best and delusional at worst.
People lie. Whether big whoppers or little white ones.
Whether it's age, relationship status, weight, height, knob size, previous experience, job or anything else. Some will say anything to get naked with another. Some will exaggerate to sell themselves better. Some will deny previous activities.
Tis the joy of the Internet. Has been since day 1 and always will be.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just dont get why people do this!
I keep seeing this profile, I know them and I know he is a fair bit older than he says he is.
I get that some don't wanna fall out of people's age ranges, but are some really that bothered that they need to lie?
Someone enlighten me...
Lu "
My ex is on here, same age as me, still saying he is late 30's  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just dont get why people do this!
I keep seeing this profile, I know them and I know he is a fair bit older than he says he is.
I get that some don't wanna fall out of people's age ranges, but are some really that bothered that they need to lie?
Someone enlighten me...
Lu
Define 'a fair bit older' ?
Are you talking a year or two or a decade?
In all the years I've been on here this question has come up frequently.
I've always asked this question. If ages weren't shown on profiles could you be confident that you could accurately guess the age of every profile owner and if not what would you base your decision on as to whether to message, reply or interact with them?
Because I'd be pretty sure it would be down to the words and pictures that you can see and read.
A
Well...the person in question was in his 40s when I met him, around 7/8 years ago....apparently he still hasn't passed 45 yet
Age isn't really a factor for me personally, more of a guideline. So someone's age wouldn't bother me, the fact that they'd been dishonest would.
If your pics show how you look, why lie about your age? Or anything?
Lu
Kind of brings me back to my point about if people were honest could they guess someone's age.
Why do people do it? Loads of reasons.
To hide their identity and maintain a bit more discretion.
To avoid getting filtered out if they're a year or so outside someone's filters.
Because they can easily get away with it due to looking younger (I doubt many would add years even if they look older than they are!).
Maybe because they're under the assumption that nobody they ever meet is going to ask for a passport or proof of ID to confirm their age before play commences.
How often does anyone ask someone's age when chat commences at a club or social?
I'm not going to play the 'age is just a number' card but the fact remains if you couldn't see it on a profile you'd still make a decision about someone based on visuals and conversation.
I'm sure plenty of people have met and played with people outside of what they state as preferred age ranges in their profiles before without actually knowing.
Provided people aren't knocking off decades and blatantly attempting to dupe people is it really a big deal?
Just an opinion of course. I'm sure to some it's a bigger issue.
A
Yeah...I get your points, but dishonesty is a big deal to me.
I don't like being lied to, about anything.
The guy I mentioned in my OP was "single" when I met him...only found out later that he was lying about that too...
So seems to me, chances are if they can't be honest about their age, they prolly struggle with honesty in general.
Lu
Expecting honesty about everything from complete strangers interacting on an online site designed to facilitate casual sex between couples and singles is hopeful at best and delusional at worst.
People lie. Whether big whoppers or little white ones.
Whether it's age, relationship status, weight, height, knob size, previous experience, job or anything else. Some will say anything to get naked with another. Some will exaggerate to sell themselves better. Some will deny previous activities.
Tis the joy of the Internet. Has been since day 1 and always will be.
A"
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I just dont get why people do this!
I keep seeing this profile, I know them and I know he is a fair bit older than he says he is.
I get that some don't wanna fall out of people's age ranges, but are some really that bothered that they need to lie?
Someone enlighten me...
Lu
Define 'a fair bit older' ?
Are you talking a year or two or a decade?
In all the years I've been on here this question has come up frequently.
I've always asked this question. If ages weren't shown on profiles could you be confident that you could accurately guess the age of every profile owner and if not what would you base your decision on as to whether to message, reply or interact with them?
Because I'd be pretty sure it would be down to the words and pictures that you can see and read.
A
Well...the person in question was in his 40s when I met him, around 7/8 years ago....apparently he still hasn't passed 45 yet
Age isn't really a factor for me personally, more of a guideline. So someone's age wouldn't bother me, the fact that they'd been dishonest would.
If your pics show how you look, why lie about your age? Or anything?
Lu
Kind of brings me back to my point about if people were honest could they guess someone's age.
Why do people do it? Loads of reasons.
To hide their identity and maintain a bit more discretion.
To avoid getting filtered out if they're a year or so outside someone's filters.
Because they can easily get away with it due to looking younger (I doubt many would add years even if they look older than they are!).
Maybe because they're under the assumption that nobody they ever meet is going to ask for a passport or proof of ID to confirm their age before play commences.
How often does anyone ask someone's age when chat commences at a club or social?
I'm not going to play the 'age is just a number' card but the fact remains if you couldn't see it on a profile you'd still make a decision about someone based on visuals and conversation.
I'm sure plenty of people have met and played with people outside of what they state as preferred age ranges in their profiles before without actually knowing.
Provided people aren't knocking off decades and blatantly attempting to dupe people is it really a big deal?
Just an opinion of course. I'm sure to some it's a bigger issue.
A
Yeah...I get your points, but dishonesty is a big deal to me.
I don't like being lied to, about anything.
The guy I mentioned in my OP was "single" when I met him...only found out later that he was lying about that too...
So seems to me, chances are if they can't be honest about their age, they prolly struggle with honesty in general.
Lu
Expecting honesty about everything from complete strangers interacting on an online site designed to facilitate casual sex between couples and singles is hopeful at best and delusional at worst.
People lie. Whether big whoppers or little white ones.
Whether it's age, relationship status, weight, height, knob size, previous experience, job or anything else. Some will say anything to get naked with another. Some will exaggerate to sell themselves better. Some will deny previous activities.
Tis the joy of the Internet. Has been since day 1 and always will be.
A"
I've been here 13 years, I'm not new to the site, swinging or life. I'm well aware people lie. And I don't expect anything from total strangers online.
I do however expect honesty from someone I invite into my home, whether that be for a shag or otherwise.
I think you have to be a bit of a shit to lie to people in order to get laid. Doesn't sit well with me. Hardly delusional.
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over a year ago
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It puts me off because they're lying from the get go. There are waaay more 39/40 yr olds on site than 41-44, as often a few yrs get shaved off so they show up in more searches, not so bad if they look the age the claim, rather than using old pics and turning out to look waaaay older than advertised. |
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"I just dont get why people do this!
I keep seeing this profile, I know them and I know he is a fair bit older than he says he is.
I get that some don't wanna fall out of people's age ranges, but are some really that bothered that they need to lie?
Someone enlighten me...
Lu
My ex is on here, same age as me, still saying he is late 30's "
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"It puts me off because they're lying from the get go. There are waaay more 39/40 yr olds on site than 41-44, as often a few yrs get shaved off so they show up in more searches, not so bad if they look the age the claim, rather than using old pics and turning out to look waaaay older than advertised. "
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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I wont add to my previous comments as was getting to be a long post with all the responses to quotes.
But to make my point again - it only seems to be an issue when someone who claims to be a certain age 'appears' older and short of asking for photo ID you'll never know. If they look the age they claim you'll probably never doubt them, have any reason to even debate their age or in reality give a shit!
Fergie doesn't look her 45 years. I suspect Matthew Mcconaughey could get away with knocking a couple off his 51. Brad Pitt? 56. Jennifer Aniston? 51.
Pretty sure anyone on here with age prefences capped at 45 may well let those excess years slide for the right person. But with online filters you'd probably not get the chance. As useful a tool as they are to help minimise unwanted contact they're always going to be open to abuse by some.
How many of you would be willing to provide the site with photo ID on setting up a profile to guarantee all details are accurate?
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"I wont add to my previous comments as was getting to be a long post with all the responses to quotes.
But to make my point again - it only seems to be an issue when someone who claims to be a certain age 'appears' older and short of asking for photo ID you'll never know. If they look the age they claim you'll probably never doubt them, have any reason to even debate their age or in reality give a shit!
Fergie doesn't look her 45 years. I suspect Matthew Mcconaughey could get away with knocking a couple off his 51. Brad Pitt? 56. Jennifer Aniston? 51.
Pretty sure anyone on here with age prefences capped at 45 may well let those excess years slide for the right person. But with online filters you'd probably not get the chance. As useful a tool as they are to help minimise unwanted contact they're always going to be open to abuse by some.
How many of you would be willing to provide the site with photo ID on setting up a profile to guarantee all details are accurate?
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I don't see too much of an issue if they're still being honest with the people they meet tbh.
It's the dishonesty I don't like. Couldn't actually give a shit how old they are. |
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"I wont add to my previous comments as was getting to be a long post with all the responses to quotes.
But to make my point again - it only seems to be an issue when someone who claims to be a certain age 'appears' older and short of asking for photo ID you'll never know. If they look the age they claim you'll probably never doubt them, have any reason to even debate their age or in reality give a shit!
Fergie doesn't look her 45 years. I suspect Matthew Mcconaughey could get away with knocking a couple off his 51. Brad Pitt? 56. Jennifer Aniston? 51.
Pretty sure anyone on here with age prefences capped at 45 may well let those excess years slide for the right person. But with online filters you'd probably not get the chance. As useful a tool as they are to help minimise unwanted contact they're always going to be open to abuse by some.
How many of you would be willing to provide the site with photo ID on setting up a profile to guarantee all details are accurate?
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I don't see too much of an issue if they're still being honest with the people they meet tbh.
It's the dishonesty I don't like. Couldn't actually give a shit how old they are."
Fully understand that you don't liked being lied to but how can say that you don't give a "sh*t" about someone's age but have a preference age range, sorry but I find that confusing, no offense meant, just confusing. |
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From my point of view, there's no point wishing I could be older because before I know it, I'll be wishing I was the age I am now.
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"I wont add to my previous comments as was getting to be a long post with all the responses to quotes.
But to make my point again - it only seems to be an issue when someone who claims to be a certain age 'appears' older and short of asking for photo ID you'll never know. If they look the age they claim you'll probably never doubt them, have any reason to even debate their age or in reality give a shit!
Fergie doesn't look her 45 years. I suspect Matthew Mcconaughey could get away with knocking a couple off his 51. Brad Pitt? 56. Jennifer Aniston? 51.
Pretty sure anyone on here with age prefences capped at 45 may well let those excess years slide for the right person. But with online filters you'd probably not get the chance. As useful a tool as they are to help minimise unwanted contact they're always going to be open to abuse by some.
How many of you would be willing to provide the site with photo ID on setting up a profile to guarantee all details are accurate?
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I don't see too much of an issue if they're still being honest with the people they meet tbh.
It's the dishonesty I don't like. Couldn't actually give a shit how old they are.
Fully understand that you don't liked being lied to but how can say that you don't give a "sh*t" about someone's age but have a preference age range, sorry but I find that confusing, no offense meant, just confusing. "
Our age range is more of a guideline. It's rare we are attracted to those outside it but there are exceptions.
Jeff was 5 years outside my age ranges when I met him 5 years ago...that worked out ok...he also has knocked 4 years of his age on his profile to get around age ranges...but he was honest with people he was meeting/chatting to. That's the difference.
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"I wont add to my previous comments as was getting to be a long post with all the responses to quotes.
But to make my point again - it only seems to be an issue when someone who claims to be a certain age 'appears' older and short of asking for photo ID you'll never know. If they look the age they claim you'll probably never doubt them, have any reason to even debate their age or in reality give a shit!
Fergie doesn't look her 45 years. I suspect Matthew Mcconaughey could get away with knocking a couple off his 51. Brad Pitt? 56. Jennifer Aniston? 51.
Pretty sure anyone on here with age prefences capped at 45 may well let those excess years slide for the right person. But with online filters you'd probably not get the chance. As useful a tool as they are to help minimise unwanted contact they're always going to be open to abuse by some.
How many of you would be willing to provide the site with photo ID on setting up a profile to guarantee all details are accurate?
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I don't see too much of an issue if they're still being honest with the people they meet tbh.
It's the dishonesty I don't like. Couldn't actually give a shit how old they are.
Fully understand that you don't liked being lied to but how can say that you don't give a "sh*t" about someone's age but have a preference age range, sorry but I find that confusing, no offense meant, just confusing.
Our age range is more of a guideline. It's rare we are attracted to those outside it but there are exceptions.
Jeff was 5 years outside my age ranges when I met him 5 years ago...that worked out ok...he also has knocked 4 years of his age on his profile to get around age ranges...but he was honest with people he was meeting/chatting to. That's the difference.
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over a year ago
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"I wont add to my previous comments as was getting to be a long post with all the responses to quotes.
But to make my point again - it only seems to be an issue when someone who claims to be a certain age 'appears' older and short of asking for photo ID you'll never know. If they look the age they claim you'll probably never doubt them, have any reason to even debate their age or in reality give a shit!
Fergie doesn't look her 45 years. I suspect Matthew Mcconaughey could get away with knocking a couple off his 51. Brad Pitt? 56. Jennifer Aniston? 51.
Pretty sure anyone on here with age prefences capped at 45 may well let those excess years slide for the right person. But with online filters you'd probably not get the chance. As useful a tool as they are to help minimise unwanted contact they're always going to be open to abuse by some.
How many of you would be willing to provide the site with photo ID on setting up a profile to guarantee all details are accurate?
A
I don't see too much of an issue if they're still being honest with the people they meet tbh.
It's the dishonesty I don't like. Couldn't actually give a shit how old they are.
Fully understand that you don't liked being lied to but how can say that you don't give a "sh*t" about someone's age but have a preference age range, sorry but I find that confusing, no offense meant, just confusing.
Our age range is more of a guideline. It's rare we are attracted to those outside it but there are exceptions.
Jeff was 5 years outside my age ranges when I met him 5 years ago...that worked out ok...he also has knocked 4 years of his age on his profile to get around age ranges...but he was honest with people he was meeting/chatting to. That's the difference.
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So it's ok to have a fake age on your profile if you tell people the truth after you've met or started messaging them?
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"I wont add to my previous comments as was getting to be a long post with all the responses to quotes.
But to make my point again - it only seems to be an issue when someone who claims to be a certain age 'appears' older and short of asking for photo ID you'll never know. If they look the age they claim you'll probably never doubt them, have any reason to even debate their age or in reality give a shit!
Fergie doesn't look her 45 years. I suspect Matthew Mcconaughey could get away with knocking a couple off his 51. Brad Pitt? 56. Jennifer Aniston? 51.
Pretty sure anyone on here with age prefences capped at 45 may well let those excess years slide for the right person. But with online filters you'd probably not get the chance. As useful a tool as they are to help minimise unwanted contact they're always going to be open to abuse by some.
How many of you would be willing to provide the site with photo ID on setting up a profile to guarantee all details are accurate?
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I don't see too much of an issue if they're still being honest with the people they meet tbh.
It's the dishonesty I don't like. Couldn't actually give a shit how old they are.
Fully understand that you don't liked being lied to but how can say that you don't give a "sh*t" about someone's age but have a preference age range, sorry but I find that confusing, no offense meant, just confusing.
Our age range is more of a guideline. It's rare we are attracted to those outside it but there are exceptions.
Jeff was 5 years outside my age ranges when I met him 5 years ago...that worked out ok...he also has knocked 4 years of his age on his profile to get around age ranges...but he was honest with people he was meeting/chatting to. That's the difference.
So it's ok to have a fake age on your profile if you tell people the truth after you've met or started messaging them?
A"
I mean, I personally wouldn't use anything other than my real age.
But yeah, so long as they're honest with those they interact with, it's not an issue for me.
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over a year ago
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"I wont add to my previous comments as was getting to be a long post with all the responses to quotes.
But to make my point again - it only seems to be an issue when someone who claims to be a certain age 'appears' older and short of asking for photo ID you'll never know. If they look the age they claim you'll probably never doubt them, have any reason to even debate their age or in reality give a shit!
Fergie doesn't look her 45 years. I suspect Matthew Mcconaughey could get away with knocking a couple off his 51. Brad Pitt? 56. Jennifer Aniston? 51.
Pretty sure anyone on here with age prefences capped at 45 may well let those excess years slide for the right person. But with online filters you'd probably not get the chance. As useful a tool as they are to help minimise unwanted contact they're always going to be open to abuse by some.
How many of you would be willing to provide the site with photo ID on setting up a profile to guarantee all details are accurate?
A
I don't see too much of an issue if they're still being honest with the people they meet tbh.
It's the dishonesty I don't like. Couldn't actually give a shit how old they are.
Fully understand that you don't liked being lied to but how can say that you don't give a "sh*t" about someone's age but have a preference age range, sorry but I find that confusing, no offense meant, just confusing.
Our age range is more of a guideline. It's rare we are attracted to those outside it but there are exceptions.
Jeff was 5 years outside my age ranges when I met him 5 years ago...that worked out ok...he also has knocked 4 years of his age on his profile to get around age ranges...but he was honest with people he was meeting/chatting to. That's the difference.
So it's ok to have a fake age on your profile if you tell people the truth after you've met or started messaging them?
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I mean, I personally wouldn't use anything other than my real age.
But yeah, so long as they're honest with those they interact with, it's not an issue for me.
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Kind of contradicts your original post but thats fine.
Also backs up those that have said people do it to get around filters.
So I guess that's the question answered.
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"I wont add to my previous comments as was getting to be a long post with all the responses to quotes.
But to make my point again - it only seems to be an issue when someone who claims to be a certain age 'appears' older and short of asking for photo ID you'll never know. If they look the age they claim you'll probably never doubt them, have any reason to even debate their age or in reality give a shit!
Fergie doesn't look her 45 years. I suspect Matthew Mcconaughey could get away with knocking a couple off his 51. Brad Pitt? 56. Jennifer Aniston? 51.
Pretty sure anyone on here with age prefences capped at 45 may well let those excess years slide for the right person. But with online filters you'd probably not get the chance. As useful a tool as they are to help minimise unwanted contact they're always going to be open to abuse by some.
How many of you would be willing to provide the site with photo ID on setting up a profile to guarantee all details are accurate?
A
I don't see too much of an issue if they're still being honest with the people they meet tbh.
It's the dishonesty I don't like. Couldn't actually give a shit how old they are.
Fully understand that you don't liked being lied to but how can say that you don't give a "sh*t" about someone's age but have a preference age range, sorry but I find that confusing, no offense meant, just confusing.
Our age range is more of a guideline. It's rare we are attracted to those outside it but there are exceptions.
Jeff was 5 years outside my age ranges when I met him 5 years ago...that worked out ok...he also has knocked 4 years of his age on his profile to get around age ranges...but he was honest with people he was meeting/chatting to. That's the difference.
So it's ok to have a fake age on your profile if you tell people the truth after you've met or started messaging them?
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I mean, I personally wouldn't use anything other than my real age.
But yeah, so long as they're honest with those they interact with, it's not an issue for me.
Kind of contradicts your original post but thats fine.
Also backs up those that have said people do it to get around filters.
So I guess that's the question answered.
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Guess so...
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So in everyday life do we walk around wearing age badges? Of course not. Do we discriminate between who we wish to talk to based on their physical age ? I have come across 20 year olds who are remarkably mature in their outlook and 55 year olds who are incredibly childish. I know plenty of couples who have a strong loving relationship but the age gap between them is over 10 years. Restricting the basis of any relationship, however tenuous it may, to a physical age range is inviting disappointment.
That said, we all have our own views and judging from the vast majority of profiles, most appear to believe that age is a key selection criteria. So here’s the question, assume that you are a 40 year old, but have listed your age preference as being 25-35. In doing so, not only are you restricting who can contact you, you are also limiting the people who will contact you to those 25-35 year olds who are looking for a hookup with an older person. When you then discard the mad, bad and the fakers (yup, the ones who lied about their age), you wind up with a remarkably small subset. Remove those who would require a half day travelling just for a first meeting, the ones who are not as unencumbered as they made out and the number of prospects is further reduced. So was that decision to only look at a fairly tight age range a good one? |
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"Isn’t this similar to women that filter and angle and whatever else they do to their pictures so much they are unrecognisable..
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Yeah...not a fan of that either myself...I'm all for a flattering angle/filter but show the reality aswell... |
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It's likely to be for mail filters. Online, people are just a list of attributes. Tick boxes.
I laugh at the people who have said they are X age on their profile but then in the text they say oh actually I'm Y age.
They are openly admitting they have lied and assume that makes it ok. |
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I get asked daily if I'm really 63 as I dont look it they say told in real life 2 I did consider when I was job searching putting 10 years younger to help me get 1 lol but of course I wouldn't have done x |
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"So....I’ve just turned 47. I am constantly told I look around 10 years younger. But I’m honest and say what I am on here.
As this site is 95% based on looks, I’m sure I could get away with putting 38 on my profile and all the women who I have just slipped out of the age ranges of wouldn’t have a clue...but "
Oh, lucky you! I'm the same age and could probably pass for ten older 
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over a year ago
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"I get asked daily if I'm really 63 as I dont look it they say told in real life 2 I did consider when I was job searching putting 10 years younger to help me get 1 lol but of course I wouldn't have done x"
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"I think I may lie and say I'm 10 years older, someone will eventually say I look good for my age then "
I do this, my profile age is older than my real age.
They think I'm lying and I'm much older. |
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"I get asked daily if I'm really 63 as I dont look it they say told in real life 2 I did consider when I was job searching putting 10 years younger to help me get 1 lol but of course I wouldn't have done x
Isn’t discrimination on grounds of age illegal?"
Yes it is but they not going to say nah u to old! But actually I got job anyway i was worried being this age and having 3 working years left x |
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"I get asked daily if I'm really 63 as I dont look it they say told in real life 2 I did consider when I was job searching putting 10 years younger to help me get 1 lol but of course I wouldn't have done x
Isn’t discrimination on grounds of age illegal?
Yes it is but they not going to say nah u to old! But actually I got job anyway i was worried being this age and having 3 working years left x"
you must be good at it..or live just round the corner |
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As the saying goes, age is but a number...
As mentioned previously, I had an incorrect age range on my profile previously. One reason was for security, the other was filters. I put my real age in (out by days for security) as I felt not doing so was dishonest, and people would be fair in thinking that if I lied about my age, what else is bullshit?
Going past 50 takes you out of a huge amount of peoples preferences. But, I'm in good company. Liz Hurley, Jennifer Anniston, George Clooney and Brad Pitt meet up regularly and bemoan the fact that so many people no longer show interest because of our age. (You see the ridiculousness of filters now, right?)
But once I became the invisible man, I accepted it with good grace. I'm me, and the me I show the world is the real me, not a fabricated plastic attempt. So I can sit quite comfortably knowing that when I meet people (and being 54 hasn't stopped me meeting some amazing people) it's all good... actually it's fantastic as we have a real connection.
I have a wide age range on my profile. In reality, I am most likely to connect with those a similar age to myself, but I wouldn't exclude somebody older or younger. For me, age is not the defining attribute. Attraction and interest is based on so much more. |
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"I get asked daily if I'm really 63 as I dont look it they say told in real life 2 I did consider when I was job searching putting 10 years younger to help me get 1 lol but of course I wouldn't have done x
Isn’t discrimination on grounds of age illegal?
Yes it is but they not going to say nah u to old! But actually I got job anyway i was worried being this age and having 3 working years left xyou must be good at it..or live just round the corner "
No lol my sister works there didnt even have to have interview just rack up and start ha ha x |
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By *ornLordMan
over a year ago
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"I get asked daily if I'm really 63 as I dont look it they say told in real life 2 I did consider when I was job searching putting 10 years younger to help me get 1 lol but of course I wouldn't have done x
Isn’t discrimination on grounds of age illegal?
Yes it is but they not going to say nah u to old! But actually I got job anyway i was worried being this age and having 3 working years left x"
Well done you. Getting a job by misrepresenting your age would likely have just stored up problems later on anyway. |
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"I get asked daily if I'm really 63 as I dont look it they say told in real life 2 I did consider when I was job searching putting 10 years younger to help me get 1 lol but of course I wouldn't have done x
Isn’t discrimination on grounds of age illegal?
Yes it is but they not going to say nah u to old! But actually I got job anyway i was worried being this age and having 3 working years left x
Well done you. Getting a job by misrepresenting your age would likely have just stored up problems later on anyway."
For sure! I wouldn't have done that though x |
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Of the 2 guys I’ve met who admitted it, it was to get around filters (one was older and one was younger than their profile). They were both substantial fwbs so I I’m glad they did really. But in a dating context it’d have been a red flag
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By *ewrocksWoman
over a year ago
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"It puts me off because they're lying from the get go. There are waaay more 39/40 yr olds on site than 41-44, as often a few yrs get shaved off so they show up in more searches, not so bad if they look the age the claim, rather than using old pics and turning out to look waaaay older than advertised.
So it's a beauty competition! "
No. Its about honesty. Lol. Have they tweaked the books or cooked them |
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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago
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Mine is my true age, yes I could probably get away with putting younger so I fell into a lot more people's desired range but I don't see the point. My age has nothing to do with me as a person it literally is just a number x |
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I've seen this quite often and never understood it. Yes I know that at times it's done to get around age filters but a lot of the time it's pure vanity.
I know of someone who was 55 in fab 2 years ago but admitted to a friend that he was closer to 58.
He left and came back with a shiny new profile and obviously had some work done or travelled in the TARDIS for a while as he is now only 50. |
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Mines exactly as it is although I know a lot change theirs by a year or two- people are often telling me I should put early 30s as look way younger but I’m like why? What difference does it make. |
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It's never occured to me to fib about my age. I am a 46 year old woman, what you see is what you get. I see no need to alter my age as there are more than enough lovely, gorgeous sexual partners for me to enjoy who want to be with someone of my age.
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"Yes i am guilty of this .
But only by 4 months to disguise my birthday "
Us too, we never give our actual date of birth on the net unless necessary. We really are the age we say we just celebrate our birthday on a different day.
It's always possible to tell when someone has knocked off or in some cases added on more than a year or two anyway. Very few people look that much younger than they actually are when you're up close. |
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