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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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It's clear that some singles feel this way but I've never
fully understood why ?
Especially younger people who have many years to find what they're looking for.
I'm mature have kids, grandchildren and although single feel quite content.
I'm only possibly seeking something specific and will remain single for life, if that doesn't happen.
So do you feel a failure if single and do you know why ? |
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Not at all...if anything I'm proud of the fact that I'm quite adept at doing this adulting thing on my own.
That said, if someone happened to come along that complemented and enhanced my life then I'm fully open to not being single any more...but that would have to be someone pretty special  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Facebook, Instagram etc. People posting happy pics of their perfect lives and they think they need to keep up with the same stuff. Same as pics, posts and veris on here. Pretending to be happy but hiding a different story.
Keeping up with the neighbours has always been a 'thing'.
I don't feel like a failure, I can't compete so I just don't. On here or anywhere.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was single for quite some time and it never bothered me. I think it worried my kids more things. I did try and explain that I was and still am comfortable in my own company. I had actually had a discussion with a friend and said I was perfectly happy to carry on as I was and would probably never meet anyone that I felt I wanted to get into a relationship with . It didn't bother me in the slightest. I was happy to continue meeting with friends I'd met on fab and it was all good. Literally 3 weeks later I met a guy for a social and 5 months later got married. You never know where life will take you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't feel a failure. But I do feel lonely.
I think COVID for me has brought a lot of reflection of what is important- friends, family. All the superficial stuff I did to distract myself from loneliness has gone. Before I was able to convince myself I enjoyed being single (and 80% of the time I did), but now I just feel like something is missing.
I do wonder why I can't seem to find someone - I think I'm quite a decent person. I think being fat doesn't help, especially when online dating etc. So I don't feel a failure, but do often feel like I am not good enough.
Urgh. |
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