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Is age really just a number??
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Is there any truth do you think in this phrase?
After all who’s to say a 20 something cannot be as mature as say a 30..40..50 year old. And vice versa I’ve met some incredibly immature middle aged people.
Communication and the gift of the gab is all fair and well to get along with most people but to fuck them would the age put you off??
What’s your thoughts people
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over a year ago
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tbf my age range is stated as 25 - 60, anything under 25 is too young for me! That is a personal choice only but maybe 25 years haven't fully found themselves yet but no doubt there will be exceptions, there always is..... |
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I think age is just a number too.
Plus fab makes you realise that people can be 30 yet look 50 and vice versa.
However, to completely contradict myself, I think most young people would be more open to older people than older people to the younger.
That’s just my two pence. |
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over a year ago
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Life has taught me that you should take everyone on their own merits. As you say OP - there are immature middle aged people and there are those with wise heads on young shoulders. |
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over a year ago
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"Is there any truth do you think in this phrase?
After all who’s to say a 20 something cannot be as mature as say a 30..40..50 year old. And vice versa I’ve met some incredibly immature middle aged people.
Communication and the gift of the gab is all fair and well to get along with most people but to fuck them would the age put you off??
What’s your thoughts people
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I’ve had some of the best chats with guys in their mid 20’s compared to lots of uninspiring ones with guys in their 30’s & 40’s.
I was initially hesitant about younger guys as it seemed a bit of the cougar cliche.
However once lockdown is over I’m all about the younger ones.... |
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over a year ago
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For just sex I would go a lot younger but I’m not looking for just sex so I’d want someone around my age. I’d want them to know some real 80’s bangers, I’d like to have things in common with them. My rule has always been if they aren’t old enough to have watched round the twist then they’re too young. |
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I get this said alot from men here, but no it's really not just a number! To me anyway! When I have a 21 year old grandson and sons of 40 and 46! My moto is if I'm old enough to b their mum/grandmum then it's a no! Mostly!I did make one exception and met a 34 year old  |
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over a year ago
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I think for me it's not an issue, I do have an age range set, but if I'm attracted to and click with a person outside of the range then there isn't an issue there either. |
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"For just sex I would go a lot younger but I’m not looking for just sex so I’d want someone around my age. I’d want them to know some real 80’s bangers, I’d like to have things in common with them. My rule has always been if they aren’t old enough to have watched round the twist then they’re too young. "
I introduced my kids to round the twist and they love it! I like the one when he has to say ‘in my pants’ at the end of every sentence, classic! |
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over a year ago
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I think age for us is mental age especially on here it sometimes appears that on here people don’t act as they should at their age hope this doesn’t offend but if the cap fits
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I must be too old because I don't even know what Round the Twist is; a programme it seems but I've never heard of it.
Perhaps it might have something to do with my not watching much television. |
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We aren’t too fussed on the upper age but I am on the lower. I have a nephew who is 24, I remember holding him in my arms, feeding him changing him. Watching him and my other nieces and nephews grow. I’m an aunt to 12 people and can hand on heart say that even at 21 they are still trying to figure out themselves and navigate life. Do I want to fuck someone the same age as my nephew who still asks me for advice on life matters? The answer is no. There will of course be exceptions but I just couldn’t do it personally. |
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"We aren’t too fussed on the upper age but I am on the lower. I have a nephew who is 24, I remember holding him in my arms, feeding him changing him. Watching him and my other nieces and nephews grow. I’m an aunt to 12 people and can hand on heart say that even at 21 they are still trying to figure out themselves and navigate life. Do I want to fuck someone the same age as my nephew who still asks me for advice on life matters? The answer is no. There will of course be exceptions but I just couldn’t do it personally."
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See I’m 22 but I like to think I’ve got a mental age of mid 30s I’m mature for my age and I prefer mature women, I’m not looking to date one I’m looking for fun with them but only if that’s what they’re looking for. It’s a tough one to get a break as a younger lad into “cougars” |
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over a year ago
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This makes for very interesting reading.
What I'm learning is that it's mostly the close, personal attachment to family that prevents older people going for those quite a bit younger than themseleves and would take something exceptional for them to see otherwise even if you claim to be mature for your age. |
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I'm another one of those who would never consider anyone even remotely close in age to my own daughters regardless of how exceptional they are. I won't even engage with them on the forums as I've I have no wish to encourage them at all.
In regard to age in general though I posted a thread on the Irish forums a few months ago about expectations.
There seems to a general consensus that age means experience but in many cases including my own there are people in their 20's and 30's with more sexual experience than some of us in our 50's regardless of maturity.
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"This makes for very interesting reading.
What I'm learning is that it's mostly the close, personal attachment to family that prevents older people going for those quite a bit younger than themseleves and would take something exceptional for them to see otherwise even if you claim to be mature for your age."
I'm almost 43 and only feel now that I'm reaching some level of emotional maturity.
Sure I've been mature in many ways, but life experience and going through the ringer really does give you a depth.
I consider what knock on effects could come from meeting or differing scenarios and ok, someone else's emotions may not be *my* problem, but I can't help looking from different angles. We all know that our experiences from the past impact how we view the world/kinks we have and everything in between. Our actions regardless of how innocent they may seem at the time will, in some way or another impact that other person.
I also consider how I would feel as a mother, if my son (20) was shagging someone my age. In truth, I'd wonder what the fuck was wrong with her and probably knock her into next week. I point blank refuse to put someone else's mum in that position. |
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"This makes for very interesting reading.
What I'm learning is that it's mostly the close, personal attachment to family that prevents older people going for those quite a bit younger than themseleves and would take something exceptional for them to see otherwise even if you claim to be mature for your age."
I got fed up of young guys messaging me saying they prefer an older woman so i should meet them !!!! Also many young guys tell me they are mature for their age but then proceed to bombard me with demanding messages to meet which proves to me that they are very imature. Similar with guys older than my preference. So i use message filters to prevent younger or older guys from messaging me lol. I wish there was a filter to prevent straight guys messaging me too !
Nothing exceptional would/could alter my preferences nowadays  |
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"I must be too old because I don't even know what Round the Twist is; a programme it seems but I've never heard of it.
Perhaps it might have something to do with my not watching much television."
Maybe it has something to do with Logie Baird not having invented it yet Pops. 
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Other than the odd exception age isn't just a number for me.
20 somethings speak a different language I do not understand 
I have nothing in common with them and they mostly look like kids to me.
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It's a constant balancing act
I prefer the look of younger bodies, but older minds are just as sexy
So, it really is a case of someone lighting my fire and sometimes that's a younger person and sometimes it's someone in my own age group |
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"This makes for very interesting reading.
What I'm learning is that it's mostly the close, personal attachment to family that prevents older people going for those quite a bit younger than themseleves and would take something exceptional for them to see otherwise even if you claim to be mature for your age.
I'm almost 43 and only feel now that I'm reaching some level of emotional maturity.
Sure I've been mature in many ways, but life experience and going through the ringer really does give you a depth.
I consider what knock on effects could come from meeting or differing scenarios and ok, someone else's emotions may not be *my* problem, but I can't help looking from different angles. We all know that our experiences from the past impact how we view the world/kinks we have and everything in between. Our actions regardless of how innocent they may seem at the time will, in some way or another impact that other person.
I also consider how I would feel as a mother, if my son (20) was shagging someone my age. In truth, I'd wonder what the fuck was wrong with her and probably knock her into next week. I point blank refuse to put someone else's mum in that position."
I can definitely understand that position. Younger guys may not have the life experience to view things from the angles that an older woman would which could explain why something like a flippant comment from a younger guy can be seen as immaturity to an older woman and we might not know what we've done wrong.
It's why I'm very cautious when messaging older women because I don't want to enforce that stereotype and certainly don't do it intentionally.
Do you think there's a preconceived cynicism of younger guys by older women, out of curiosity? |
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"This makes for very interesting reading.
What I'm learning is that it's mostly the close, personal attachment to family that prevents older people going for those quite a bit younger than themseleves and would take something exceptional for them to see otherwise even if you claim to be mature for your age.
I'm almost 43 and only feel now that I'm reaching some level of emotional maturity.
Sure I've been mature in many ways, but life experience and going through the ringer really does give you a depth.
I consider what knock on effects could come from meeting or differing scenarios and ok, someone else's emotions may not be *my* problem, but I can't help looking from different angles. We all know that our experiences from the past impact how we view the world/kinks we have and everything in between. Our actions regardless of how innocent they may seem at the time will, in some way or another impact that other person.
I also consider how I would feel as a mother, if my son (20) was shagging someone my age. In truth, I'd wonder what the fuck was wrong with her and probably knock her into next week. I point blank refuse to put someone else's mum in that position.
I can definitely understand that position. Younger guys may not have the life experience to view things from the angles that an older woman would which could explain why something like a flippant comment from a younger guy can be seen as immaturity to an older woman and we might not know what we've done wrong.
It's why I'm very cautious when messaging older women because I don't want to enforce that stereotype and certainly don't do it intentionally.
Do you think there's a preconceived cynicism of younger guys by older women, out of curiosity?"
I don't think it's preconceived at all. I think for the most part experience tells us so and that's seen by something as simple as eating out at a restaurant and hearing the difference in conversation between the 2 age groups.
To use my post as an example and I'm not picking, just being truthful, and it could have been that I didn't explain things clearly.
I meant that my behaviour could impact the younger persons behaviour and view of the world, shape their kinks etc from that point forward rather than them say something I deemed inappropriate or offensive.
How many guys to you hear say they want an older woman? Loads. A lot of the time it stemmed from something like a teacher at school or a mates mum they believed to be flirting with them.
Even if I did like younger guys, my conscience wouldn't allow me to possibly be the person that encouraged those desires. I'm not suggesting those that do are bad people, not by a long shot, but I'd be happier in the knowledge that the guys were meeting those not necessarily their own age, but ones they could build a future with, wanted the same things as so to speak if things took that route. Being older and already having lived a huge part of my life as far as "family" goes, it would be unfair of me to embark on a journey knowing we would end up walking different roads.
I'd not want to be that older woman they think about when they're shagging their girlfriend.
Plus I want to be seen as a person, not an older woman or a milf. I'm not a fetish I'm a human, and vice versa.
I dunno, I've gone through a huge period of self reflection, analysing and general consideration of how our behaviour shapes other peoples experiences. That's mainly because I've been on the end of getting hurt and confused by the actions of others.
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" I don't think it's preconceived at all. I think for the most part experience tells us so and that's seen by something as simple as eating out at a restaurant and hearing the difference in conversation between the 2 age groups.
To use my post as an example and I'm not picking, just being truthful, and it could have been that I didn't explain things clearly.
I meant that my behaviour could impact the younger persons behaviour and view of the world, shape their kinks etc from that point forward rather than them say something I deemed inappropriate or offensive.
How many guys to you hear say they want an older woman? Loads. A lot of the time it stemmed from something like a teacher at school or a mates mum they believed to be flirting with them.
Even if I did like younger guys, my conscience wouldn't allow me to possibly be the person that encouraged those desires. I'm not suggesting those that do are bad people, not by a long shot, but I'd be happier in the knowledge that the guys were meeting those not necessarily their own age, but ones they could build a future with, wanted the same things as so to speak if things took that route. Being older and already having lived a huge part of my life as far as "family" goes, it would be unfair of me to embark on a journey knowing we would end up walking different roads.
I'd not want to be that older woman they think about when they're shagging their girlfriend.
Plus I want to be seen as a person, not an older woman or a milf. I'm not a fetish I'm a human, and vice versa.
I dunno, I've gone through a huge period of self reflection, analysing and general consideration of how our behaviour shapes other peoples experiences. That's mainly because I've been on the end of getting hurt and confused by the actions of others.
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Ahhh apologies for the misunderstanding. I think think the thing that reasonated with me was talking about being a guy's fetish and while younger men may see it as that, you are right about not wanting to be the one to set those sexual expectations for the younger men going forward.
While there may be younger men and older women who see it as harmless fun, I can see why it's better for men to be with someone their own age so they go through those experiences together.
One thing that applies to me is that I don't like to show that I'm doing something wrong so would rather have that with a woman who has been through those experiences. As immature young men can be, young women,I find, aren't as forgiving or as open. |
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