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What have you been doing to make the most of the time?
We so often moan we have no time to spend with our children due to work, think of the things you've wanted to previously try or do "if I only had the time" and put them into practise now.
I'm sure the kids are happy to have you at home and will remember this time as quality. |
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Try get some free time for yourself. Even if its a few hours a week. Can you get after school activities/ childcare centre or a childminder for them so yo have time to recharge, relax a bit and go back to them with a possitive attitude. I hope you manage to get that for the sake of both sides health.  |
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"We often look back to when our kids were little (and not so little) and wonder how we survived the stress. It must be even more difficult in lock down.
Do you have people you can talk to?"
Not really its just me
I feel sad sometimes |
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"We often look back to when our kids were little (and not so little) and wonder how we survived the stress. It must be even more difficult in lock down.
Do you have people you can talk to?
Not really its just me
I feel sad sometimes "
 you can talk on here. People are most understanding.
Are your children very young? |
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"Try get some free time for yourself. Even if its a few hours a week. Can you get after school activities/ childcare centre or a childminder for them so yo have time to recharge, relax a bit and go back to them with a possitive attitude. I hope you manage to get that for the sake of both sides health. "
No after school clubs
I spend most of my days cleaning up washing
Sometimes I try to work on a car I have |
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"We often look back to when our kids were little (and not so little) and wonder how we survived the stress. It must be even more difficult in lock down.
Do you have people you can talk to?
Not really its just me
I feel sad sometimes
you can talk on here. People are most understanding.
Are your children very young?"
9 and 8 |
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"We often look back to when our kids were little (and not so little) and wonder how we survived the stress. It must be even more difficult in lock down.
Do you have people you can talk to?
Not really its just me
I feel sad sometimes
you can talk on here. People are most understanding.
Are your children very young?
9 and 8"
Are they at school during the day then, or school closed? |
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"We often look back to when our kids were little (and not so little) and wonder how we survived the stress. It must be even more difficult in lock down.
Do you have people you can talk to?
Not really its just me
I feel sad sometimes
you can talk on here. People are most understanding.
Are your children very young?
9 and 8"
So both in school.
Must be lonely once they're in bed |
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"What have you been doing to make the most of the time?
We so often moan we have no time to spend with our children due to work, think of the things you've wanted to previously try or do "if I only had the time" and put them into practise now.
I'm sure the kids are happy to have you at home and will remember this time as quality."
It was ok in the beginning now it's just getting boring |
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"We often look back to when our kids were little (and not so little) and wonder how we survived the stress. It must be even more difficult in lock down.
Do you have people you can talk to?
Not really its just me
I feel sad sometimes
you can talk on here. People are most understanding.
Are your children very young?
9 and 8
So both in school.
Must be lonely once they're in bed"
Yes it is
Last time I had sex was march |
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"We often look back to when our kids were little (and not so little) and wonder how we survived the stress. It must be even more difficult in lock down.
Do you have people you can talk to?
Not really its just me
I feel sad sometimes
you can talk on here. People are most understanding.
Are your children very young?
9 and 8
Are they at school during the day then, or school closed? "
In school |
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"Try get some free time for yourself. Even if its a few hours a week. Can you get after school activities/ childcare centre or a childminder for them so yo have time to recharge, relax a bit and go back to them with a possitive attitude. I hope you manage to get that for the sake of both sides health.
No after school clubs
I spend most of my days cleaning up washing
Sometimes I try to work on a car I have "
Could you do any home improvement projects? If you have a garden, do some prep for the spring? Our house has tons of jobs for a willing worker  |
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"What have you been doing to make the most of the time?
We so often moan we have no time to spend with our children due to work, think of the things you've wanted to previously try or do "if I only had the time" and put them into practise now.
I'm sure the kids are happy to have you at home and will remember this time as quality.
It was ok in the beginning now it's just getting boring "
Do you have a garden?
Might sound daft at first but what about building/making a bird feeding table type thing?
Will give you something to focus on, engage your brain and be good for the environment/nature. You could get the kids to help you make bird food like fat balls etc and you never know, they might feel proud of it. |
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"We often look back to when our kids were little (and not so little) and wonder how we survived the stress. It must be even more difficult in lock down.
Do you have people you can talk to?
Not really its just me
I feel sad sometimes
you can talk on here. People are most understanding.
Are your children very young?
9 and 8
So both in school.
Must be lonely once they're in bed
Yes it is
Last time I had sex was march "
Odd thing to say.
I wouldn’t be talking about being lonely cos I’m off work and my child in school and in the next breath say the last time I had sex was March.
Doesn’t seem relevant to the topic. |
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"We often look back to when our kids were little (and not so little) and wonder how we survived the stress. It must be even more difficult in lock down.
Do you have people you can talk to?
Not really its just me
I feel sad sometimes
you can talk on here. People are most understanding.
Are your children very young?
9 and 8
So both in school.
Must be lonely once they're in bed
Yes it is
Last time I had sex was march "
More to life then sex. I wish my kids was that young again. Time soon fly’s by.
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"We often look back to when our kids were little (and not so little) and wonder how we survived the stress. It must be even more difficult in lock down.
Do you have people you can talk to?
Not really its just me
I feel sad sometimes
you can talk on here. People are most understanding.
Are your children very young?
9 and 8
So both in school.
Must be lonely once they're in bed
Yes it is
Last time I had sex was march
Odd thing to say.
I wouldn’t be talking about being lonely cos I’m off work and my child in school and in the next breath say the last time I had sex was March.
Doesn’t seem relevant to the topic. "
It's just getting boring now |
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"We often look back to when our kids were little (and not so little) and wonder how we survived the stress. It must be even more difficult in lock down.
Do you have people you can talk to?
Not really its just me
I feel sad sometimes
you can talk on here. People are most understanding.
Are your children very young?
9 and 8
So both in school.
Must be lonely once they're in bed
Yes it is
Last time I had sex was march
Odd thing to say.
I wouldn’t be talking about being lonely cos I’m off work and my child in school and in the next breath say the last time I had sex was March.
Doesn’t seem relevant to the topic.
It's just getting boring now"
Because you haven’t had sex or you’re lonely? I don’t know why sex has to come into the conversation. |
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"We often look back to when our kids were little (and not so little) and wonder how we survived the stress. It must be even more difficult in lock down.
Do you have people you can talk to?
Not really its just me
I feel sad sometimes
you can talk on here. People are most understanding.
Are your children very young?
9 and 8
So both in school.
Must be lonely once they're in bed
Yes it is
Last time I had sex was march
Odd thing to say.
I wouldn’t be talking about being lonely cos I’m off work and my child in school and in the next breath say the last time I had sex was March.
Doesn’t seem relevant to the topic.
It's just getting boring now"
Well yes, life in general is pretty boring for a lot of people. I also haven't had sex since March, haven't been out, have very little money, been working my arse off.
Sex is off the cards, simple as that. Once you accept that and find something constructive to focus your attention on you may very well find things easier to deal with.
It may sound quite harsh, but you really are in a very fortunate position to be able to spend the time with your children (although I don't doubt they do your nut in at times and can be very testing)
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"We often look back to when our kids were little (and not so little) and wonder how we survived the stress. It must be even more difficult in lock down.
Do you have people you can talk to?
Not really its just me
I feel sad sometimes
you can talk on here. People are most understanding.
Are your children very young?
9 and 8
So both in school.
Must be lonely once they're in bed
Yes it is
Last time I had sex was march
Odd thing to say.
I wouldn’t be talking about being lonely cos I’m off work and my child in school and in the next breath say the last time I had sex was March.
Doesn’t seem relevant to the topic.
It's just getting boring now
Because you haven’t had sex or you’re lonely? I don’t know why sex has to come into the conversation. "
It can be a combination of everything, leading to the OP feeling down.
OP, you're not on your own with the way that you're feeling, its a very hard time for the vast majority of people.
Try and be active through the day, spend time with your children on an evening and weekend, and try and talk to friends, read etc when they've gone to bed.
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"We often look back to when our kids were little (and not so little) and wonder how we survived the stress. It must be even more difficult in lock down.
Do you have people you can talk to?
Not really its just me
I feel sad sometimes
you can talk on here. People are most understanding.
Are your children very young?
9 and 8
So both in school.
Must be lonely once they're in bed
Yes it is
Last time I had sex was march
Odd thing to say.
I wouldn’t be talking about being lonely cos I’m off work and my child in school and in the next breath say the last time I had sex was March.
Doesn’t seem relevant to the topic.
It's just getting boring now
Well yes, life in general is pretty boring for a lot of people. I also haven't had sex since March, haven't been out, have very little money, been working my arse off.
Sex is off the cards, simple as that. Once you accept that and find something constructive to focus your attention on you may very well find things easier to deal with.
It may sound quite harsh, but you really are in a very fortunate position to be able to spend the time with your children (although I don't doubt they do your nut in at times and can be very testing)
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"We often look back to when our kids were little (and not so little) and wonder how we survived the stress. It must be even more difficult in lock down.
Do you have people you can talk to?
Not really its just me
I feel sad sometimes
you can talk on here. People are most understanding.
Are your children very young?
9 and 8
So both in school.
Must be lonely once they're in bed
Yes it is
Last time I had sex was march
Odd thing to say.
I wouldn’t be talking about being lonely cos I’m off work and my child in school and in the next breath say the last time I had sex was March.
Doesn’t seem relevant to the topic.
It's just getting boring now"
I genuinely dont think I know what boredom is
I chose not to have kids but my friends seem to borrow me to keep theirs entertained
To my mind if one has initiative imagination a positive outlook and health there simply is not enough time to be bored
Whilst there is stuff to learn understand build and dissect boredom does not exist
This seems like a
I'm fed up with my children and just want sex thread ??? |
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"We often look back to when our kids were little (and not so little) and wonder how we survived the stress. It must be even more difficult in lock down.
Do you have people you can talk to?
Not really its just me
I feel sad sometimes
you can talk on here. People are most understanding.
Are your children very young?
9 and 8
So both in school.
Must be lonely once they're in bed
Yes it is
Last time I had sex was march "
I think lots of people are missing sex and adult company. |
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"We often look back to when our kids were little (and not so little) and wonder how we survived the stress. It must be even more difficult in lock down.
Do you have people you can talk to?
Not really its just me
I feel sad sometimes
you can talk on here. People are most understanding.
Are your children very young?
9 and 8
So both in school.
Must be lonely once they're in bed
Yes it is
Last time I had sex was march
Odd thing to say.
I wouldn’t be talking about being lonely cos I’m off work and my child in school and in the next breath say the last time I had sex was March.
Doesn’t seem relevant to the topic.
It's just getting boring now
Because you haven’t had sex or you’re lonely? I don’t know why sex has to come into the conversation.
It can be a combination of everything, leading to the OP feeling down.
OP, you're not on your own with the way that you're feeling, its a very hard time for the vast majority of people.
Try and be active through the day, spend time with your children on an evening and weekend, and try and talk to friends, read etc when they've gone to bed.
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Most of my friends are at work
I try to keep myself busy in the day
I'm stripping a car down
But getting to the end of that
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"We often look back to when our kids were little (and not so little) and wonder how we survived the stress. It must be even more difficult in lock down.
Do you have people you can talk to?
Not really its just me
I feel sad sometimes
you can talk on here. People are most understanding.
Are your children very young?
9 and 8
So both in school.
Must be lonely once they're in bed
Yes it is
Last time I had sex was march
I think lots of people are missing sex and adult company. "
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Yep getting bored talking to myself |
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"We often look back to when our kids were little (and not so little) and wonder how we survived the stress. It must be even more difficult in lock down.
Do you have people you can talk to?
Not really its just me
I feel sad sometimes
you can talk on here. People are most understanding.
Are your children very young?
9 and 8
So both in school.
Must be lonely once they're in bed
Yes it is
Last time I had sex was march
Odd thing to say.
I wouldn’t be talking about being lonely cos I’m off work and my child in school and in the next breath say the last time I had sex was March.
Doesn’t seem relevant to the topic.
It's just getting boring now
I genuinely dont think I know what boredom is
I chose not to have kids but my friends seem to borrow me to keep theirs entertained
To my mind if one has initiative imagination a positive outlook and health there simply is not enough time to be bored
Whilst there is stuff to learn understand build and dissect boredom does not exist
This seems like a
I'm fed up with my children and just want sex thread ???"
I'm not fed up of my children
I never will be
It just stressful when there is only you
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I totally have empathy for someone feeling bored and lonely cos they’re off work but it just seemed like an odd time to bring up sex.
Like I assume he works in the day during school hours if he’s a single parent that doesn’t have anyone around him to look after his children so being off work whilst the children are in school are the times he would be alone. After school hours it would be normal again as it’s when he would normally be at home with his children.
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"We often look back to when our kids were little (and not so little) and wonder how we survived the stress. It must be even more difficult in lock down.
Do you have people you can talk to?
Not really its just me
I feel sad sometimes
you can talk on here. People are most understanding.
Are your children very young?
9 and 8
So both in school.
Must be lonely once they're in bed
Yes it is
Last time I had sex was march
I think lots of people are missing sex and adult company. :-
Yep getting bored talking to myself "
Have a look at the chat rooms on here or maybe some of the forum threads. |
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"We often look back to when our kids were little (and not so little) and wonder how we survived the stress. It must be even more difficult in lock down.
Do you have people you can talk to?
Not really its just me
I feel sad sometimes
you can talk on here. People are most understanding.
Are your children very young?
9 and 8
So both in school.
Must be lonely once they're in bed
Yes it is
Last time I had sex was march
I think lots of people are missing sex and adult company. :-
Yep getting bored talking to myself "
Just think about what you are declaring there 
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Main thing is you find a way to stay focused on the benefits of YOU being healthy phisically and mentally for the sake of the children and yourself of course. Try to find other activities that will entertain yourself until having sex is possible in safe conditions.
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"We often look back to when our kids were little (and not so little) and wonder how we survived the stress. It must be even more difficult in lock down.
Do you have people you can talk to?
Not really its just me
I feel sad sometimes
you can talk on here. People are most understanding.
Are your children very young?
9 and 8
So both in school.
Must be lonely once they're in bed
Yes it is
Last time I had sex was march
I think lots of people are missing sex and adult company. :-
Yep getting bored talking to myself "
OK, so what do you want to do?
What will benefit both you and your kids wellbeing?
Have you started thinking about Xmas?
Do you do any home fitness?
What would you like to work on and improve on about yourself?
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"We often look back to when our kids were little (and not so little) and wonder how we survived the stress. It must be even more difficult in lock down.
Do you have people you can talk to?
Not really its just me
I feel sad sometimes
you can talk on here. People are most understanding.
Are your children very young?
9 and 8
So both in school.
Must be lonely once they're in bed
Yes it is
Last time I had sex was march
I think lots of people are missing sex and adult company. :-
Yep getting bored talking to myself
Just think about what you are declaring there
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"I totally have empathy for someone feeling bored and lonely cos they’re off work but it just seemed like an odd time to bring up sex.
Like I assume he works in the day during school hours if he’s a single parent that doesn’t have anyone around him to look after his children so being off work whilst the children are in school are the times he would be alone. After school hours it would be normal again as it’s when he would normally be at home with his children.
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Sex could just pass the boredom for a few hours |
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"Im a single dad of two children
I need a outlet in my life
I'm so stressed and bored because I'm furloughed
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I'm a single dad with 5 children I run my own landscaping business and have literally no time to.myself fab can be a fun outlet and a way to talk to people. Stay positive OP |
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"I totally have empathy for someone feeling bored and lonely cos they’re off work but it just seemed like an odd time to bring up sex.
Like I assume he works in the day during school hours if he’s a single parent that doesn’t have anyone around him to look after his children so being off work whilst the children are in school are the times he would be alone. After school hours it would be normal again as it’s when he would normally be at home with his children.
Sex could just pass the boredom for a few hours "
And sex can also leave you feeling more lonely than you are now.
Unless you're in a position to bubble up with someone, you need to accept that for now, sex is out of the equation, as it is for a lot of people currently.
It can be hard to keep a positive mindset when everything feels like its getting too much, but there's been some good suggestions here of ways to fill your time, and if you're feeling it goes beyond being a bit lonely, there are lots of professional bodies to talk to, including your GP |
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"We often look back to when our kids were little (and not so little) and wonder how we survived the stress. It must be even more difficult in lock down.
Do you have people you can talk to?
Not really its just me
I feel sad sometimes
you can talk on here. People are most understanding.
Are your children very young?
9 and 8
So both in school.
Must be lonely once they're in bed
Yes it is
Last time I had sex was march
I think lots of people are missing sex and adult company. :-
Yep getting bored talking to myself
Just think about what you are declaring there
What's he declaring? "
I personally would not like to suggest I dont find my internal conversation compelling listening
I have zero issues with others thinking I'm tediously uninteresting but I would not wish to think that about myself nor implicitly suggest that on a website where I may wish to capture the imagination of a like mind
I would at least in my delusions like to project i can captivate and entertain and not that I'm so dull i cant even keep my brain happy and need someone to do it for me ?
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"Im a single dad of two children
I need a outlet in my life
I'm so stressed and bored because I'm furloughed
I'm a single dad with 5 children I run my own landscaping business and have literally no time to.myself fab can be a fun outlet and a way to talk to people. Stay positive OP"
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No need to be bored, make the most of the gift of time you've been given by being furloughed to learn a new skill, get all those jobs done that you've put off.
Time with children is precious (even though it doesn't always seem like it at the time)
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