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Time waster

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Do people think these days on fab there are a lot of time wasters and people who look for attention?

Hope when lockdown ends and covid 19 ends the admin team will have a more look in to Fabswingers and get all the time waster away and make this site fun again!

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

What is your definition of a timewaster?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Do people think these days on fab there are a lot of time wasters and people who look for attention?

Hope when lockdown ends and covid 19 ends the admin team will have a more look in to Fabswingers and get all the time waster away and make this site fun again! "

It still is fun.

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By *rincess peachWoman over a year ago

shits creek

"What is your definition of a timewaster?"

I enjoy this question.

Probably only gets answered in 1 out of 10 time waster threads by the person throwing stones.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There's a pandemic happening OP so people aren't meeting at the moment. Still lots of other things to use the site for.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What is your definition of a timewaster?"

Somebody who agrees to meet but never had any intention of doing so .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What is your definition of a timewaster?

Somebody who agrees to meet but never had any intention of doing so . "

Just agrees to? In a message? Or do you mean more than that?

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By *innie The MinxWoman over a year ago

Under the Duvet

FAB works for me. Not looking for meets during lockdown, but still fun

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Do people think these days on fab there are a lot of time wasters and people who look for attention?

Hope when lockdown ends and covid 19 ends the admin team will have a more look in to Fabswingers and get all the time waster away and make this site fun again! "

Is that because nobody wants to meet you during, say, a world wide virus that's killing people by the 1000s daily??

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By * Plus ECouple over a year ago

The South

"What is your definition of a timewaster?

I enjoy this question.

Probably only gets answered in 1 out of 10 time waster threads by the person throwing stones."

I noticed that too.

Timewasters are usually people who don't want to meet the person calling them timewasters.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What is your definition of a timewaster?

Somebody who agrees to meet but never had any intention of doing so .

Just agrees to? In a message? Or do you mean more than that?"

Arranges it, most of us have encountered profiles like that, all talk then disappear. Each to their own but I think there should be a system on here (after COVID) which helps determine wether people on here are genuinely looking to meet or not .

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By *amissCouple over a year ago

chelmsford

Not had any issues with timewasters

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What is your definition of a timewaster?

I enjoy this question.

Probably only gets answered in 1 out of 10 time waster threads by the person throwing stones.

I noticed that too.

Timewasters are usually people who don't want to meet the person calling them timewasters.

Not really, a time waster is someone who agrees to meet , but doesn’t

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What is your definition of a timewaster?

Somebody who agrees to meet but never had any intention of doing so .

Just agrees to? In a message? Or do you mean more than that?

Thanks - I’d agree with that. You arrange to meet up and they don’t appear without a valid reason or any contact. I’d call that a time waster.

You can report people for this.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What is your definition of a timewaster?

Somebody who agrees to meet but never had any intention of doing so .

Just agrees to? In a message? Or do you mean more than that?

Thanks - I’d agree with that. You arrange to meet up and they don’t appear without a valid reason or any contact. I’d call that a time waster.

You can report people for this."

Yes you can , but it is difficult to prove, your word against theirs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What's a timewaster ? I've never met one.

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

"What is your definition of a timewaster?

Somebody who agrees to meet but never had any intention of doing so .

Just agrees to? In a message? Or do you mean more than that?

So people aren't allowed to change their mind?

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By *imon_hydeMan over a year ago

Stockport

Check veris and block if it happens, no need for anything else.

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By *ljamMan over a year ago

Edinburgh

Guilty. I waste an enormous amount of my time on here, checking out pics and reading the forum. Beats working.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What is your definition of a timewaster?

Somebody who agrees to meet but never had any intention of doing so .

Just agrees to? In a message? Or do you mean more than that?

So people aren't allowed to change their mind? "

Of course they are, time wasters don’t change their mind though as they were never going to meet anyway,

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

"What is your definition of a timewaster?

Somebody who agrees to meet but never had any intention of doing so .

Just agrees to? In a message? Or do you mean more than that?

So people aren't allowed to change their mind?

Of course they are, time wasters don’t change their mind though as they were never going to meet anyway,

How do you know that?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Check veris and block if it happens, no need for anything else."

Good advice,

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By * Plus ECouple over a year ago

The South

"What is your definition of a timewaster?

Somebody who agrees to meet but never had any intention of doing so .

Just agrees to? In a message? Or do you mean more than that?

So people aren't allowed to change their mind?

Of course they are, time wasters don’t change their mind though as they were never going to meet anyway,

How do you know that? "

*puts fingers to forehead......

Unagi

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What is your definition of a timewaster?

Somebody who agrees to meet but never had any intention of doing so .

Just agrees to? In a message? Or do you mean more than that?

So people aren't allowed to change their mind?

Of course they are, time wasters don’t change their mind though as they were never going to meet anyway,

How do you know that? "

Because they did it twice, are you suggesting time wasters don’t exist on here ?

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By *andyfloss2000Woman over a year ago

ashford

How on earth will admin police that? Yes we have all had people say they will meet then change their mind! Couple weeks ago b 4 this lockdown I've had 3 who arranged to meet for a coffee (on different days lol!) But all 3 cancelled but it's just how it is! Never take things serious here! If it happens just take with a big pinch of salt and move on! X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How on earth will admin police that? Yes we have all had people say they will meet then change their mind! Couple weeks ago b 4 this lockdown I've had 3 who arranged to meet for a coffee (on different days lol!) But all 3 cancelled but it's just how it is! Never take things serious here! If it happens just take with a big pinch of salt and move on! X"

That’s what I did, you can’t stop it, it’s all part of fab

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By *ervent_fervourMan over a year ago

Halifax

"Do people think these days on fab there are a lot of time wasters and people who look for attention?

Hope when lockdown ends and covid 19 ends the admin team will have a more look in to Fabswingers and get all the time waster away and make this site fun again! "

Yep.

Does this come from personal experience?

God yep.

It can get irritating, but live and let live OP!

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

Changing your mind about meeting someone is not my definition of timewasting. In fact they have not wasted my time at all by telling me

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

"What is your definition of a timewaster?

Somebody who agrees to meet but never had any intention of doing so .

Just agrees to? In a message? Or do you mean more than that?

So people aren't allowed to change their mind?

Of course they are, time wasters don’t change their mind though as they were never going to meet anyway,

How do you know that?

Because they did it twice, are you suggesting time wasters don’t exist on here ? "

You said they dissappeared.

No I'm saying it's impossible to police.

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

"Do people think these days on fab there are a lot of time wasters and people who look for attention?

Hope when lockdown ends and covid 19 ends the admin team will have a more look in to Fabswingers and get all the time waster away and make this site fun again! "

Looking for attention is not timewasting, but if someone doesn't suit what you are looking for stop talking to them as you are wasting your own time

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What is your definition of a timewaster?

Somebody who agrees to meet but never had any intention of doing so .

Just agrees to? In a message? Or do you mean more than that?

So people aren't allowed to change their mind?

Of course they are, time wasters don’t change their mind though as they were never going to meet anyway,

How do you know that?

Because they did it twice, are you suggesting time wasters don’t exist on here ?

You said they dissappeared.

No I'm saying it's impossible to police. "

I agree, it is impossible to prevent, when you have been on here a while you learn who is genuine and who isn’t

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What is your definition of a timewaster?

Somebody who agrees to meet but never had any intention of doing so .

Just agrees to? In a message? Or do you mean more than that?

So people aren't allowed to change their mind?

Of course they are, time wasters don’t change their mind though as they were never going to meet anyway,

How do you know that?

*puts fingers to forehead......

Unagi

I'd never actually Googled that until today. Nice one Ross!

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By * Plus ECouple over a year ago

The South

"What is your definition of a timewaster?

Somebody who agrees to meet but never had any intention of doing so .

Just agrees to? In a message? Or do you mean more than that?

So people aren't allowed to change their mind?

Of course they are, time wasters don’t change their mind though as they were never going to meet anyway,

How do you know that?

*puts fingers to forehead......

Unagi

I'd never actually Googled that until today. Nice one Ross!

One of many great scenes from that series.

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By *ang bang bangity bangCouple over a year ago

Sunderland

I think people are on here for different reasons. Many are on for the social aspect and like interaction with like minded people whereas others are here for meets - whether that be one offs or regular.

I do understand what you mean by "time wasters" though. Many people will chat to us and say they have the same fantasy or want the same things but they actually don't. I think for many it's the excitement of talking about a fantasy that appeals and not actually acting it out which is fine if they are honest from the start. Although if people change their mind they shouldn't be labelled time wasters and they shouldn't feel obliged to do anything just because they've had a conversation with someone.

We understand your frustration it can be annoying when it happens time after time and I'm sure at the moment most people won't/ shouldn't be meeting anyway.

I like being on here with all the different people though and seeing things from others point of views.

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By *rincess peachWoman over a year ago

shits creek

For me a time waster is a no-show.

Tell me you ain't coming and ok, I may be disappointed but I know where I stand. That ain't a time waster unless it happens multiple times with very little notice. By very little notice, I'm talking I'm already ready.

I've been called into work and let people know I can't make it, I don't feel I've wasted someone's time. Inconvenienced them yes, but not intentionally wasted their time.

I've changed my mind before now. I've realised that something has felt a wee bit off, or maybe I'm really not feeling it and let them know I've changed my mind.

People are humans, they have emotions and life can impact your headspace. Would you prefer I met anyway even though I didn't want to be there and it showed? Barrel of laughs that would be.

Women sometimes have a period sprung on them by good ole mother nature. Would you rather they still came and no nookie was gonna happen or gave you enough notice to arrange something else?

Leaving me hanging and having no contact to tell me you've changed your mind so I'm sat there like a dick clock watching, then realising I've been stood up - that in my book is a tike waster.

There is a no show button so you can report. I would imagine if someone is a repeat no-show being reported by different profiles then admin would take action.

Don't forget admin can view messages, so they'll be able to see if arrangements have been made and not stuck to.

Please correct me if I'm wrong.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Wouldn't mind someone wasting my time!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What is your definition of a timewaster?"

Is it all of us that are on the forums when we should be getting on with our work?

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By *rincess peachWoman over a year ago

shits creek

"What is your definition of a timewaster?

Is it all of us that are on the forums when we should be getting on with our work?

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By *viatrixWoman over a year ago

Redhill

I get called a timewaster because I say no to all the “U up for sum fun now hun” messages I get.

So shall I just keep my door open and let all these Neanderthals in and stick it in my vagina so I am not a timewaster? Interesting.

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

"What is your definition of a timewaster?

Is it all of us that are on the forums when we should be getting on with our work?

I feel called out

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I get called a timewaster because I say no to all the “U up for sum fun now hun” messages I get.

So shall I just keep my door open and let all these Neanderthals in and stick it in my vagina so I am not a timewaster? Interesting. "

Perhaps if you're gonna do that you could post your full address up to, it would save us messaging

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By *rincess peachWoman over a year ago

shits creek

'These days' is a clusterfuck. Basically all people have been able to do (or in a lot of cases WANT to do for their own safety) since March..... March. So 9 months, is well, virtual.

Covid will be on people's minds for a very long time and even once the vaccine is out there will be some who won't be confident to get back out there for a good while.

Are they timewasters because they're not gonna be meeting until THEY feel comfortable to do so?

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By *andyfloss2000Woman over a year ago

ashford

"I get called a timewaster because I say no to all the “U up for sum fun now hun” messages I get.

So shall I just keep my door open and let all these Neanderthals in and stick it in my vagina so I am not a timewaster? Interesting. "

This 2! X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What is your definition of a timewaster?

Is it all of us that are on the forums when we should be getting on with our work?

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By *rincess peachWoman over a year ago

shits creek

"I get called a timewaster because I say no to all the “U up for sum fun now hun” messages I get.

So shall I just keep my door open and let all these Neanderthals in and stick it in my vagina so I am not a timewaster? Interesting.

This 2! X"

I get called a timewaster for not reading the messages I clearly state on my profile I ain't gonna read and not to bother sending

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The only time I have had my time truly wasted was when I turned up to a meeting and they didn’t show. Then took the piss out of me for being so naïve as to think that they were going to meet me. It wasn’t on here but it made me more circumspect about meeting anyone. Anything else then you have saved time by not getting to the point of meeting and them not turning up.

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By *viatrixWoman over a year ago

Redhill

"I get called a timewaster because I say no to all the “U up for sum fun now hun” messages I get.

So shall I just keep my door open and let all these Neanderthals in and stick it in my vagina so I am not a timewaster? Interesting.

Perhaps if you're gonna do that you could post your full address up to, it would save us messaging

I have to admit I do indulge in the odd occassion and I do lead them on- reply “Yeah, sure”- next question of course is the address and then comes total silence. Haha

I have to be reaaaally bored for me to do that. But yes, sometimes I am a timewaster.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I reported a guy before for not turning up. We were messaging on here then kik, said he was leaving so I left the same time. Was only going for a drive through Starbucks. He was like are you there and I said yes and he said I’m on my way. I waited, played some candy crush, waited, played more candy crush, waited, messaged him where are you then, he read it and nothing, I said ok I’m leaving he said no I’m almost there. Waited another 10 minutes, got myself an iced mocha and text to say I was leaving. He read it and nothing. Reported him and nothing happened.

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