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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Does anyone else find flirting with formites alotnl easier than flirting with local people that dont use the forums I have loads of friends on the forums and people I flirt with and even go as far as say have a mutual sexual attraction to. But when It comes to talking to locals it's very difficult to start a conversation or even get a response from anyone. D9ea anyone else find this to be the case |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Of course it's easier to flirt with "forumites"! You can't exactly mail someone local for the first time and start with 'Hey, you balding slappy-nuts, how's yer ass for lovebites?' ... You'd find out what it looks like on their block list! ?if you didn't do it to "forumites", you'd get blocked for not being proper!!  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Of course it's easier to flirt with "forumites"! You can't exactly mail someone local for the first time and start with 'Hey, you balding slappy-nuts, how's yer ass for lovebites?' ... You'd find out what it looks like on their block list! ?if you didn't do it to "forumites", you'd get blocked for not being proper!! "
hahaha so true but it's like flirting with you if I lived 2 miles from you and messaged you i bet you wouldnt have responded but as you live miles away and had seen me in the forums your happy to flirt with me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Of course it's easier to flirt with "forumites"! You can't exactly mail someone local for the first time and start with 'Hey, you balding slappy-nuts, how's yer ass for lovebites?' ... You'd find out what it looks like on their block list! ?if you didn't do it to "forumites", you'd get blocked for not being proper!! hahaha so true but it's like flirting with you if I lived 2 miles from you and messaged you i bet you wouldnt have responded but as you live miles away and had seen me in the forums your happy to flirt with me "
Do I reply to that in public? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It feels more 'natural' to flirt with a forumite. You can message someone off of the back of a post (or they might message you  ) and you can 'see' their personality through their postings.
Whereas someone local you have to start from scratch with a reasonable first message which you hope will ignite their interest.
It's akin to flirting within a group of people you hang out with or approaching someone in a club/pub who you've never met before. |
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For me - I’m shit at flirting. I’m far too direct. I’m interested or I’m not.
I’d write the world’s worst romance novel.
They met - they chatted - they giggled - they fucked (a LOT) - they argued - they broke up - they got back in touch - fucked again (and again) - lived happily ever after!
Hardly a best seller. X |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"For me - I’m shit at flirting. I’m far too direct. I’m interested or I’m not.
I’d write the world’s worst romance novel.
They met - they chatted - they giggled - they fucked (a LOT) - they argued - they broke up - they got back in touch - fucked again (and again) - lived happily ever after!
Hardly a best seller. X"
I'd buy that book if your profile picture was on the cover lol  |
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I guess I flirt on the forums a fair bit.
I'd say 50 percent is just for daft giggles, 25 percent I'm serious and actually do fancy
and the other 25 percent I've probably touched their bottoms already  
(Not that you asked for a breakdown ) |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don’t flirt with forumites really. I only privately chat to a few forumites as well and that’s about random stuff, I don’t throw my fanny at them.
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such a shame Luna |
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"For me - I’m shit at flirting. I’m far too direct. I’m interested or I’m not.
I’d write the world’s worst romance novel.
They met - they chatted - they giggled - they fucked (a LOT) - they argued - they broke up - they got back in touch - fucked again (and again) - lived happily ever after!
Hardly a best seller. X I'd buy that book if your profile picture was on the cover lol "
Ooooh - see? I can’t flirt like that. I’m rubbish! Xx |
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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago
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"I respond to people who message me from the forums generally but not randoms who message me"
Same but most of the time it’s not flirting it’s more friendly so basically I flirt with no one  |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"I don’t flirt with forumites really. I only privately chat to a few forumites as well and that’s about random stuff, I don’t throw my fanny at them.
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Same. I think there's one woman on here who I sometimes jokingly flirt with because we're as platonic as can be. There's a man as well but that's more best bum chums teasing each other safe in our camaraderie.
I think because the forum is a relatively small pool it becomes a bit mucky . And I don't really like diving into that, I've seen it go sour a few too many times.
I have views on forumites who flirt buuuut I really need to stop with long posts. |
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If I ever appear to be flirting in public on the forums it's usually just me being either friendly or bored. I keep actual flirting private because I can't be arsed with all the melodramatics it can cause  And I rarely respond to messages from people outside the forums (local or not) because I'm not really interested in meeting anyone new |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don’t flirt with forumites really. I only privately chat to a few forumites as well and that’s about random stuff, I don’t throw my fanny at them.
Same. I think there's one woman on here who I sometimes jokingly flirt with because we're as platonic as can be. There's a man as well but that's more best bum chums teasing each other safe in our camaraderie.
I think because the forum is a relatively small pool it becomes a bit mucky . And I don't really like diving into that, I've seen it go sour a few too many times.
I have views on forumites who flirt buuuut I really need to stop with long posts. "
But wouldn't there be a difference between 'private' flirting through PMs (which doesn't become 'public') with a forumite and 'public' (with or without PMs) flirting on the forum?
If you message someone local that will always be 'private' flirting. |
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"I am a rubbish, awkward flirt whether with forumites or not  "
Yeah, me too. I think I can manage it subconsciously, but if I actively try to flirt I come across as creepy or desperate, or probably both |
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"For me - I’m shit at flirting. I’m far too direct. I’m interested or I’m not.
I’d write the world’s worst romance novel.
They met - they chatted - they giggled - they fucked (a LOT) - they argued - they broke up - they got back in touch - fucked again (and again) - lived happily ever after!
Hardly a best seller. X"
Is it a realistic story, though? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am a rubbish, awkward flirt whether with forumites or not
Yeah, me too. I think I can manage it subconsciously, but if I actively try to flirt I come across as creepy or desperate, or probably both "
If I attempt flirting on the forum and then I read back what I wrote at a later date I myself and just think 'desperate' |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"I don’t flirt with forumites really. I only privately chat to a few forumites as well and that’s about random stuff, I don’t throw my fanny at them.
Same. I think there's one woman on here who I sometimes jokingly flirt with because we're as platonic as can be. There's a man as well but that's more best bum chums teasing each other safe in our camaraderie.
I think because the forum is a relatively small pool it becomes a bit mucky . And I don't really like diving into that, I've seen it go sour a few too many times.
I have views on forumites who flirt buuuut I really need to stop with long posts.
But wouldn't there be a difference between 'private' flirting through PMs (which doesn't become 'public') with a forumite and 'public' (with or without PMs) flirting on the forum?
If you message someone local that will always be 'private' flirting."
Yes there is a marked difference between the two - I was referencing public. In general though, I do tend to stay away from flirting with forum users in public or private. In the past, I would flirt with a few women but I don't really do that now because... experience? Changing views? Lots of different whys. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I find flirting on threads a bit cringe if I’m honest. I’ve done it because nobody can message me unless I message them first but when it comes to it being too much in a thread like writing something, the other person writes back, you write some more and then before you know it the thread is full of shit that’s useless to anyone other than the two individuals that are flirting.
With regards to being able to talk to someone who uses the forum rather than someone that doesn’t, you have to consider that people may feel obligated to respond so they don’t like rude. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don’t flirt with forumites really. I only privately chat to a few forumites as well and that’s about random stuff, I don’t throw my fanny at them.
Same. I think there's one woman on here who I sometimes jokingly flirt with because we're as platonic as can be. There's a man as well but that's more best bum chums teasing each other safe in our camaraderie.
I think because the forum is a relatively small pool it becomes a bit mucky . And I don't really like diving into that, I've seen it go sour a few too many times.
I have views on forumites who flirt buuuut I really need to stop with long posts.
But wouldn't there be a difference between 'private' flirting through PMs (which doesn't become 'public') with a forumite and 'public' (with or without PMs) flirting on the forum?
If you message someone local that will always be 'private' flirting.
Yes there is a marked difference between the two - I was referencing public. In general though, I do tend to stay away from flirting with forum users in public or private. In the past, I would flirt with a few women but I don't really do that now because... experience? Changing views? Lots of different whys."
And if someone posts a reply to something I've posted and it appears to be flirtatious I find it raises more questions - is it genuine? Just a bit of fun? Do I respond flirtatiously? A minefield. |
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I know that I am just a TV/CD and thus I strictly don't and won't flirt in the forum as it might offend many.
I even try not to quote-reply from random M posters as it might be mis-interpreted as me trying to flirt with them .
(Unless the comment is offensive, then, I might quote-reply and it definitely won't be a flirt) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I know that I am just a TV/CD and thus I strictly don't and won't flirt in the forum as it might offend many.
I even try not to quote-reply from random M posters as it might be mis-interpreted as me trying to flirt with them .
(Unless the comment is offensive, then, I might quote-reply and it definitely won't be a flirt)"
You’re not just anything, you are you. Get amongst it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You’re not just anything, you are you. Get amongst it
Thanks Annie..why do I feel I am getting back some of my own medicine .
But I'm still not flirting in the forum. "
I don’t tend to flirt much on the forums unless there’s some new good looking blood and then I’m naturally curious about what his penis and arse hole look like so I’ll test the waters!
But don’t ever feel like you can’t get involved or quote people. Do what you like. I especially enjoy writing in threads where I know the people don’t like me naughty! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I've always found a little lighthearted flirting in the forums can be fun as long as both parties are comfortable with it. But I've definitely seen some cringeworthy flirting in the past making people in the thread feel a little uncomfortable when the flirting has become a bit too descriptive etc. The Forums are used for a bit of fun/chat/banter so why not flirt in certain threads?
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
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"I've always found a little lighthearted flirting in the forums can be fun as long as both parties are comfortable with it. But I've definitely seen some cringeworthy flirting in the past making people in the thread feel a little uncomfortable when the flirting has become a bit too descriptive etc. The Forums are used for a bit of fun/chat/banter so why not flirt in certain threads?
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Sorry, I'll get me coat. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For me - I’m shit at flirting. I’m far too direct. I’m interested or I’m not.
I’d write the world’s worst romance novel.
They met - they chatted - they giggled - they fucked (a LOT) - they argued - they broke up - they got back in touch - fucked again (and again) - lived happily ever after!
Hardly a best seller. X"
It works for me |
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I love flirting on the forums. It makes me happy, and if it makes the receiver happy, why not? We all need a bit extra love these days, so long may it continue!
For those of you who don't like to see it, surely you can just avoid those threads? It's easy to see which will become flirty and which won't.
With private messaging, I'll always reply to polite messages, but will only flirt if I'm interested in that person. |
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It’s very rare I flirt on the forums, the odd occasion I have it’s been friendly banter with someone I already know or a quick test of the water.
In the past the real flirting goes on in PM, one because I’m a private person; and two it is too easy for people to misunderstand friendly banter for more than it is and I wish to make no one feel bad as they’ve took more from my words than was intended. |
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real life I’m an awkward giggler which makes people think I’m flirting with then 
