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Would you be friends with someone you didn’t agree with
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I have friends that I have some differing views with... but we’re adult enough to understand that those differences aren’t making us horrible people.
Obviously it depends on how different the views are of course |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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Depends - if it's something largely irrelevant we differ on like the football team we support, or whether Marmite is good (it isn't!!) or even mildly differing political views then those can be overlooked and/or debated
If it was something I fundamentally believed in that they had radically opposing views about then it may not be so easy to put to one side. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Largely depends on what we disagree on. My good close friends are an acquired bunch and we’re all pretty much on the same wavelength anyway to survive being friends so long.
That being said, I did remove quite a few acquaintances from my Facebook when all the black lives matter stuff was going on. Didn’t know there were so many closet racists around so they were all removed. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It depends.
Politically... no. People like me (mentally ill, physically disabled, poor) we suffer so much more when certain parties are in power. If you know that and you still vote to put those people in power, are you really my friend?
I don't think so. |
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By *ambozaMan
over a year ago
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"Depends what the subject is. If they disagree with me that genocide is wrong, maybe not, if they disagree on the best flavour of instant noodles, probably yes  . "
Has to be those Korean spicy ones |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"Most definitely, it's just an opinion. I don't understand why people get so angry if you don't agree with them.
It would be a very boring world "
It's not *just* an opinion in some cases though is it? To use an extreme example if someone's opinion was that Gary Glitter and Jimmy Savile were decent blokes who had done nothing wrong - could you be friends with someone that truly believed that? Despite it being "just an opinion"? |
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"Most definitely, it's just an opinion. I don't understand why people get so angry if you don't agree with them.
It would be a very boring world
It's not *just* an opinion in some cases though is it? To use an extreme example if someone's opinion was that Gary Glitter and Jimmy Savile were decent blokes who had done nothing wrong - could you be friends with someone that truly believed that? Despite it being "just an opinion"?"
  This It’s normal to have a difference of opinions with friends.I did fall out with a friend of mine that had certain views about same sex marriage .I can’t be friends with someone that thinks 2 people who love each other should hide it from the rest of the world. |
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over a year ago
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I tend to disagree with a lot of people a lot of the time, so I’d never have any relationships if I wouldn’t consider one with some I disagreed with. However I tend to find most people prefer not to relate to me for that reason. On here they make it clear by blocking me others just prefer not to engage with me. That’s fine too. I haven’t really got time for friendships on here really. |
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"I tend to disagree with a lot of people a lot of the time, so I’d never have any relationships if I wouldn’t consider one with some I disagreed with. However I tend to find most people prefer not to relate to me for that reason. On here they make it clear by blocking me others just prefer not to engage with me. That’s fine too. I haven’t really got time for friendships on here really."
We're the same. Mr N more so than me but we won't do the "polite" agreeing for the same of it thing if it's important to us. We will also say if someone is doing something we think is wrong rather than gossip to other people about it. Some people actually value that (as do we) they're the ones we're friends with |
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If someone is already a friend and we disagree, that is natural and most likely won't break the friendship.
However if I have a disagreement with a total stranger, depending on the issue, the chance of becoming friends after that is less likely. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Political believes it’s strange be I have a friend who’s a liberal and he’s stoped talking to his mates because they’ve come out has conservatives and I think it’s just strange "
Depends on if they are racist homophobic sexist Trump supporters. I have people like that who I have to stay on friendly terms with. It's difficult. |
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It’s strange because I’m not a political animal but most of my left leaning liberal friends have called my conservatives pals some offensive stuff and it always seems to be my liberal friends that want to fall out with them and my conservatives pals seem to take it on the chin there not really bothered but I think sitting on the fence when it comes to politics is always best because you can see both sides |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Would you be friends with someone who you don’t agree with "
Yes, thankfully we are all different...if we weren't the World would be a very boring place. I respect others views and hope mine are respected too...variety the spice of life and all that... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes, one of my lifelong bestfriends has completely different life and political views to me, but being able to debate and listen and still be friends is educational. Arguing ang ignoring anyone with a different point of view to you can be ignorant and you won't ever learn about other people that way |
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This might come across as a bit harsh. But really, if you can’t get along with someone coz they have a different problem opinion, one of you needs a look in the mirror.
Everyone’s entitled to an opinion. And it’s quite health to have a good old debate about things and discus different veiw points. A skill I feels been lost the last 10 years |
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By *irex92Man
over a year ago
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"Political believes it’s strange be I have a friend who’s a liberal and he’s stoped talking to his mates because they’ve come out has conservatives and I think it’s just strange "
Without getting too political with my reply, it's generally more common for people who identify as liberal to cut off contact with conservatives than visa versa. This is due to the belief of moral superiority, that those they disagree with are cruel, regressive or in some cases even evil. There were some studies done on it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Totally depends on the situation..wether its a personal friend from your everday life who could be giving you very helpful advice but you may not agree with..of course youd still be friends ..but if it was a work situation where a lot of the time we have no choice of who we work with if that person was a condesending arrogant obnoxious pompous prick whos everyday actions and opinions totally stank..no, certainly wouldnt be friends |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I agree with you on this, in the last 5 years politics has become a lot more fractioned than anytime probably since thatcher and I’ve found a lot of the new rise labour are almost fundamentalist, aggressive and completely wayward in their way of thinking, it’s their way of the highway.
I have a lot of friends who have leaned this way but I decided to ignore some of there rhetoric for the sake of long time friendships, others I’ve tossed to side as I simply don’t have the patience for them.
If someone is hell bent on imposing their opinion on you without listening I’d question their integrity as a friend and question what else they bring to the table, |
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Depends on the disagreement.
I can be friends with people who don't like Marmite.
I can't be friends with people whose political views harm others.
I also struggle to be friends who tries to hide behind "It's just a difference of opinion."
Opinions kill people. Fuck off. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Generally speaking, yes.
Having been on the other side of this and having had someone end a long standing friendship over a difference of opinion, I know how upsetting it can be.
Everyone has their own thoughts and opinions and if they didn't then the world would be a very dull place. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As with just about all the posters above (and I suspect everyone) some differences matter, others don't.
Politics has come up a lot on here and indeed there are a number of interesting studies around the links between our politics and other areas of behaviour though the picture is far from clear. What does seem certain is in general all people of all political persuasions are more empathetic to people they identify with so even liberal minded folk are less likely to offer help to a stranger based purely on a perception of their political ideals.
I have always voted either Labour or Lib-Dem, would I be friends with a Conservative? Sure, provided I understood their intentions. We all see things differently, we all give different levels of credence and importance to various topics.
For example Tory policies on austerity have caused huge suffering but does that make people who vote for them cruel and evil? I don't believe it does, I'd rather take the time to understand why they believe what they do - and indeed what exactly it is they believe rather than assuming that by sticking a label of Tory or Liberal on them I already know.
That said, I have little time for my remaining family, I love them because they are my family but I don't like a great deal of what they believe as, despite protesting the contrary, they're racist and homophobic so I avoid spending time with them (easy enough when they're 200+ miles away) and make almost no effort to stay in contact.
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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"It’s strange because I’m not a political animal but most of my left leaning liberal friends have called my conservatives pals some offensive stuff and it always seems to be my liberal friends that want to fall out with them and my conservatives pals seem to take it on the chin there not really bothered but I think sitting on the fence when it comes to politics is always best because you can see both sides "
The difference between “I’m alright Jack” & “I am right Jack”.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This might come across as a bit harsh. But really, if you can’t get along with someone coz they have a different problem opinion, one of you needs a look in the mirror.
Everyone’s entitled to an opinion. And it’s quite health to have a good old debate about things and discus different veiw points. A skill I feels been lost the last 10 years "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If everyone agreed 100% of the time, life would be boring....I’m not saying you have to argue all the time but differing opinions can enlighten you or the other person |
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I actively seek out people with differing opinions to me. Mostly because I think the world would be a really boring echo chamber if I just sat with people who agree with me and hold the same opinions as me.
I take a similar stance with politics. I hold some left leaning and some right leaning views so its interesting to have friends firmly in both camps. Like many other posters though I avoid people who are hard to either side. Mostly because I find them unpleasant, dogmatic, cruel (in different ways) and generally a bit dull to speak to because you can guess what they are going to say. They too often see the world in simple black and white, good and evil. And the truth is as we all know a load of messy, complicated grey.
If you dont like pineapple on pizza I can live with that. We'll just have to get our own pizzas but we can still share the sides.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I come from a family of bigots
I am well used to disagreeing with those closest to me
Would I start a friendship with someone who exhibited different values early on, no
Would I continue a friendship with someone whose opinion differed from mine on certain topics, possibly |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If we only mix with our own sort of people that's when we get division which isn't healthy in society.
I have numerous friends of all ages with different political views, it's no issue for me if they lean to the left, or right.
Nothing in life is one sided and healthy debate should always be encouraged, or we as forever evolving humans can't learn from our previous mistakes. |
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Not really. I get to wound up about things I care about too much to build a friendship despite it. I mean of course when it's not important stuff, but when it's political / moral / scientific stuff I mostly just find I wouldn't meet those people in the first place. |
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Yes I have friends I disagree with on a lot of subjects but what makes us able to be friends is when what we disagree about isn't relevant we don't talk about it.
That said there are some things that if I find out about some one they are done, racist,haemophilia,sexual abuse and child abuse are the top ones |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I tend to disagree with a lot of people a lot of the time, so I’d never have any relationships if I wouldn’t consider one with some I disagreed with. However I tend to find most people prefer not to relate to me for that reason. On here they make it clear by blocking me others just prefer not to engage with me. That’s fine too. I haven’t really got time for friendships on here really.
We're the same. Mr N more so than me but we won't do the "polite" agreeing for the same of it thing if it's important to us. We will also say if someone is doing something we think is wrong rather than gossip to other people about it. Some people actually value that (as do we) they're the ones we're friends with"
Indeed. I have a few very good friends and they are the ones who challenge me, call me out on my blind spots, helping me to grow as well as provide support when needed. I offer the same to my friends. |
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"Yes I have friends I disagree with on a lot of subjects but what makes us able to be friends is when what we disagree about isn't relevant we don't talk about it.
That said there are some things that if I find out about some one they are done, racist,haemophilia,sexual abuse and child abuse are the top ones "
Yep I couldn't possibly be friends with someone who has differing views about the blood clotting deficiencies.  |
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It would be rather a boring world if we all agreed on everything.
I have friends with very different views on many topics,including politics and religion. If someone has particularly outrageous opinions,surely it's better to discuss them and give people the opportunity to try and justify their bullshit. Usually, they can't and you might even find they change their minds in the face of unquestionable logic (as I like to call all of my opinions).
That's got to be a better way than just shutting down a debate,hasn't it? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am already. As long as it's not a fundamental disagreement (it would be quite hard to be friends with a cannibal or a genocidal maniac). Only having friends you agree with makes you boring, and (especially on social media) contributes to divisions in society based on prejudice and bias. |
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"It's probably best to have friends that you don't agree with. Nobody should agree with everything else others do. Just because I disagree with you doesn't mean I hate you. "
My point of view too!
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Actually, I do have a number of super religious friends. But I just try and avoid the subject as I like them. I guess that's likely to be very different to being friends with Tory bigots though, as believing in talking clouds and the likes tends to make you a nicer person in my experience. |
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"Would you be friends with someone who you don’t agree with "
I am friends with people I don’t agree with. If you had the same views on everything with ALL of your friends, that would make for rather dull conversation, wouldn’t it?
However, I don’t mention swinging to my vanilla friends as I know they’re all of the mindset that monogamy is the only way. This makes the friendship more limited now I’m a swinger.
With my swinging friends the only area of contention is often politics - as I have both far left and right leaning friends. I don’t have far right friends, however, as we’d be poles apart! Xx |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"This might come across as a bit harsh. But really, if you can’t get along with someone coz they have a different problem opinion, one of you needs a look in the mirror.
Everyone’s entitled to an opinion. And it’s quite health to have a good old debate about things and discus different veiw points. A skill I feels been lost the last 10 years "
Whilst in principle I agree it very much depends on the opposing opinion and not only how radical it is, but how open they are to debating it themselves (and by debating I mean both listening *and* speaking) and not just seeing a different opinion as an attack.
As pointed out further up I would have no interest in a friend, or even a prospective friend, who holds radical views, nor would I have any interest in a friend that wasn't prepared to debate their views like an adult without seeing offence at every corner.
The best friends are those in life that not only stand by you when the chips are down but also that are prepared to tell you when you are wrong, but tell you in a reasoned way, and listen to your perspective and take it on board where necessary. |
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"Actually, I do have a number of super religious friends. But I just try and avoid the subject as I like them. I guess that's likely to be very different to being friends with Tory bigots though, as believing in talking clouds and the likes tends to make you a nicer person in my experience."
I am an atheist but have plenty of friends who aren’t, including some who are devout catholics... I have had friends that I have recently had to give up due to politics, one in particular has gone extremely right wing and trots out the usual anti science, anti media, anti immigrant bull and refuses to have an actual discussion about it... the final straw was when he started attending anti-BLM protests as a “proud veteran”... he was kicked out of the Army after 4 years... |
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"Political believes it’s strange be I have a friend who’s a liberal and he’s stoped talking to his mates because they’ve come out has conservatives and I think it’s just strange
Without getting too political with my reply, it's generally more common for people who identify as liberal to cut off contact with conservatives than visa versa. This is due to the belief of moral superiority, that those they disagree with are cruel, regressive or in some cases even evil. There were some studies done on it. "
Not in my experience its exact opposite x |
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Depends what it is. Favourite food? Opinions on marmite? Moderate differences in political outlook? Sure. Obviously.
But as someone who's transgender, queer/mostly interested in other women my existence is pretty politicised and I'm not going to get on with people who have wildly different opinions on e.g. LGBTQ+ rights.
Also as someone who's grown up poor and seen firsthand what poverty can do to people, I struggle to get on with people who are very Conservative and support the current government policies.. Not going to get into that here.
TLDR yes of course people's viewpoints and ideals affect whether we're likely to be good friends. If someone is ultra right wing they likely want women like me dead or back in the closet. How could I be friends with someone like that? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It would be a bit narrow minded if you couldn’t respect that people disagree it’s ok for people to not share the same beliefs and opinions doesn’t make
Someone wrong if theirs isn’t the same as yours |
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Don't have a problem with friends who have different ideas as long as they are open to discussing them rather than force their opinions on you. I'm sure they feel the same about me and my thoughts.
It's more frustrating when they aren't open to genuine advice and get annoyed when you try to help them. |
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over a year ago
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"Would you be friends with someone who you don’t agree with "
Yes to an extent. I dont care what you think necessarily but what actions you take. Be nice to me and i will be nice back be that left, right or whatever.
The only people I probabaly dislike enough not to be friends with is anyone that is authoritarian and or extremely closed minded or ignorant. For example i met a girl that was happy waving a Soviet flag at a protest but did not know what a gulag was... . As an avid fan of History i found this worrying.
But overall having friends that you disagree with is extremely healthy. Me and my Friends have debates on numerous topics over Discord which can span hours and we dont always agree. But living in an Echo chamber is not a healthy place to be. |
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over a year ago
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All my friends are the total opposite end of the political spectrum to me. I don’t agree with their views at all. I’m still friends with them all though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I come from a family of bigots
I am well used to disagreeing with those closest to me
Would I start a friendship with someone who exhibited different values early on, no
Would I continue a friendship with someone whose opinion differed from mine on certain topics, possibly "
Exactly this. I could be, and am friends with people that have different opinions on certain topics. But would I choose to be friends that were openly racist, homophobic etc? Absolutely no way. However... My dad is pretty damn racist. I challenge him every time and make sure my kid knows it's unacceptable. Even my kid tells him now it's not cool. But he's my dad. Would I ditch him for it? Well no I haven't |
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"Political believes it’s strange be I have a friend who’s a liberal and he’s stoped talking to his mates because they’ve come out has conservatives and I think it’s just strange
Without getting too political with my reply, it's generally more common for people who identify as liberal to cut off contact with conservatives than visa versa. This is due to the belief of moral superiority, that those they disagree with are cruel, regressive or in some cases even evil. There were some studies done on it.
Not in my experience its exact opposite x"
You have only got to read the replies to this thread to see this is the case.
Many people saying they would not be friends with a conservative or right leaning person but not one the other way round 
I see it all the time from people who have gone too far to the left. I’m a centralist always have been and agree with bits of both side, yet I have literally lost 20+ year friends who have screamed (and I mean screamed) that I’m far right wing because I don’t agree with everything they do my right leaning friends are far easier to talk about politics with and will accept we disagree on some subjects. If someone wants to fall out with me because I don’t follow their politics to the tee then I won’t lose sleep over it probably for the best.
In recent years I see a trend with politics especially on the left/far left that if you don’t agree with them on pretty much everything you are the enemy  No one is the enemy and behaving like they are does nothing but get people to dig their heels in further and cause division. Just because someone leans to conservatism does not automatically mean they are a far right, anti gay, racist or are evil bigot this is the main reason Labour have done so badly in elections because they (Their followers) have gone so extreme with this view, you see it all the time even in this thread with comments like “Tory scum or Tory Bigot” etc etc and in reality they know nothing about them other than they may have voted conservatives and they don’t even know that just that the person might disagree with them on a subject.
Thats why they lost a lot of the working class and older generation by alienating them with labels with no basis to it other than they politically disagree on some subjects, it’s all getting a bit facist and more than anyone they claim to be anti that 
This is just my opinion and observations, I’m sure many will disagree with me but hey that’s what this thread is about right and I’m always open to discussing
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"Would you be friends with someone who you don’t agree with "
I think it would be immature / narrow minded to dislike someone just because you have different views; For example I may disagree with a lot of mr friends stance / opinion on religion or politics however that doesn’t stop them from being a good person (unless you are a supporter of dictatorship).
However they are a few major things that I am just not able to dismiss as I believe they are things that defines a persons character; for example racism & how someone treats a person.
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By * Plus ECouple
over a year ago
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M says one of the best things that used to come out of universities was the ability to debate and hold an opposing view, although he's not sure that's so true these days.
So much so his blue friends think he's red, his red friends think he's blue. 
Personally I think he's just an argumentative so and so.
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"Political believes it’s strange be I have a friend who’s a liberal and he’s stoped talking to his mates because they’ve come out has conservatives and I think it’s just strange
Without getting too political with my reply, it's generally more common for people who identify as liberal to cut off contact with conservatives than visa versa. This is due to the belief of moral superiority, that those they disagree with are cruel, regressive or in some cases even evil. There were some studies done on it.
Not in my experience its exact opposite x
You have only got to read the replies to this thread to see this is the case.
Many people saying they would not be friends with a conservative or right leaning person but not one the other way round
I see it all the time from people who have gone too far to the left. I’m a centralist always have been and agree with bits of both side, yet I have literally lost 20+ year friends who have screamed (and I mean screamed) that I’m far right wing because I don’t agree with everything they do my right leaning friends are far easier to talk about politics with and will accept we disagree on some subjects. If someone wants to fall out with me because I don’t follow their politics to the tee then I won’t lose sleep over it probably for the best.
In recent years I see a trend with politics especially on the left/far left that if you don’t agree with them on pretty much everything you are the enemy No one is the enemy and behaving like they are does nothing but get people to dig their heels in further and cause division. Just because someone leans to conservatism does not automatically mean they are a far right, anti gay, racist or are evil bigot this is the main reason Labour have done so badly in elections because they (Their followers) have gone so extreme with this view, you see it all the time even in this thread with comments like “Tory scum or Tory Bigot” etc etc and in reality they know nothing about them other than they may have voted conservatives and they don’t even know that just that the person might disagree with them on a subject.
Thats why they lost a lot of the working class and older generation by alienating them with labels with no basis to it other than they politically disagree on some subjects, it’s all getting a bit facist and more than anyone they claim to be anti that
This is just my opinion and observations, I’m sure many will disagree with me but hey that’s what this thread is about right and I’m always open to discussing
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Good point about the extreme beliefs right/ left.
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"Political believes it’s strange be I have a friend who’s a liberal and he’s stoped talking to his mates because they’ve come out has conservatives and I think it’s just strange
Without getting too political with my reply, it's generally more common for people who identify as liberal to cut off contact with conservatives than visa versa. This is due to the belief of moral superiority, that those they disagree with are cruel, regressive or in some cases even evil. There were some studies done on it.
Not in my experience its exact opposite x
You have only got to read the replies to this thread to see this is the case.
Many people saying they would not be friends with a conservative or right leaning person but not one the other way round
I see it all the time from people who have gone too far to the left. I’m a centralist always have been and agree with bits of both side, yet I have literally lost 20+ year friends who have screamed (and I mean screamed) that I’m far right wing because I don’t agree with everything they do my right leaning friends are far easier to talk about politics with and will accept we disagree on some subjects. If someone wants to fall out with me because I don’t follow their politics to the tee then I won’t lose sleep over it probably for the best.
In recent years I see a trend with politics especially on the left/far left that if you don’t agree with them on pretty much everything you are the enemy No one is the enemy and behaving like they are does nothing but get people to dig their heels in further and cause division. Just because someone leans to conservatism does not automatically mean they are a far right, anti gay, racist or are evil bigot this is the main reason Labour have done so badly in elections because they (Their followers) have gone so extreme with this view, you see it all the time even in this thread with comments like “Tory scum or Tory Bigot” etc etc and in reality they know nothing about them other than they may have voted conservatives and they don’t even know that just that the person might disagree with them on a subject.
Thats why they lost a lot of the working class and older generation by alienating them with labels with no basis to it other than they politically disagree on some subjects, it’s all getting a bit facist and more than anyone they claim to be anti that
This is just my opinion and observations, I’m sure many will disagree with me but hey that’s what this thread is about right and I’m always open to discussing
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I can only speak for myself a far far leftie! And the verbal abuse I've received from my right "friends" I say loosely is phenomenal! That said I do and allways will stand my ground on my views allways politely I must add! Even close family! But would never fall out with them ! X |
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over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
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This is just my opinion and observations, I’m sure many will disagree with me but hey that’s what this thread is about right and I’m always open to discussing
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I agree that those on the "far" side whichever way you go are those that tend to distance themselves from those who hold opposing views but I don't think it's the sole domain of those on the left - in fact "typical lefty" and worse are often used by those on the right as a put down, and in a lot of cases the closing comment to an argument rather than debating a point.
I'm very much to the left in my thinking but recognise that those to the right actually have very similar views/aims/ideals to me but just see them differently with different solutions.
As ever it's the radicals that fail to see that middle ground whichever side of the fence they sit |
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"Political believes it’s strange be I have a friend who’s a liberal and he’s stoped talking to his mates because they’ve come out has conservatives and I think it’s just strange
Without getting too political with my reply, it's generally more common for people who identify as liberal to cut off contact with conservatives than visa versa. This is due to the belief of moral superiority, that those they disagree with are cruel, regressive or in some cases even evil. There were some studies done on it.
Not in my experience its exact opposite x
You have only got to read the replies to this thread to see this is the case.
Many people saying they would not be friends with a conservative or right leaning person but not one the other way round
I see it all the time from people who have gone too far to the left. I’m a centralist always have been and agree with bits of both side, yet I have literally lost 20+ year friends who have screamed (and I mean screamed) that I’m far right wing because I don’t agree with everything they do my right leaning friends are far easier to talk about politics with and will accept we disagree on some subjects. If someone wants to fall out with me because I don’t follow their politics to the tee then I won’t lose sleep over it probably for the best.
In recent years I see a trend with politics especially on the left/far left that if you don’t agree with them on pretty much everything you are the enemy No one is the enemy and behaving like they are does nothing but get people to dig their heels in further and cause division. Just because someone leans to conservatism does not automatically mean they are a far right, anti gay, racist or are evil bigot this is the main reason Labour have done so badly in elections because they (Their followers) have gone so extreme with this view, you see it all the time even in this thread with comments like “Tory scum or Tory Bigot” etc etc and in reality they know nothing about them other than they may have voted conservatives and they don’t even know that just that the person might disagree with them on a subject.
Thats why they lost a lot of the working class and older generation by alienating them with labels with no basis to it other than they politically disagree on some subjects, it’s all getting a bit facist and more than anyone they claim to be anti that
This is just my opinion and observations, I’m sure many will disagree with me but hey that’s what this thread is about right and I’m always open to discussing
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You see it on Tinder alot to i have noticed. girls will have 'No Tories' 'Tory Scum' ect on there profile and i have never seen it the other way round. If that to you is the most important part of a person, i know they are not worth my time. |
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"You see it on Tinder alot to i have noticed. girls will have 'No Tories' 'Tory Scum' ect on there profile and i have never seen it the other way round."
I have. Direct quote: "If you are a liberal, leftist socialist, don't bother. Social justice warriors, please don't. Soy Boys need not apply. UKIP Member."
Sic throughout. |
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"You see it on Tinder alot to i have noticed. girls will have 'No Tories' 'Tory Scum' ect on there profile and i have never seen it the other way round.
I have. Direct quote: "If you are a liberal, leftist socialist, don't bother. Social justice warriors, please don't. Soy Boys need not apply. UKIP Member."
Sic throughout. "
I am only speaking from my own personal experience and from what i have seen. Maybe anecdotal, but i have used tinder for like 4 years
Maybe there is one like you have posted, but for every one of those there is 5 on the left |
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"You see it on Tinder alot to i have noticed. girls will have 'No Tories' 'Tory Scum' ect on there profile and i have never seen it the other way round.
I have. Direct quote: "If you are a liberal, leftist socialist, don't bother. Social justice warriors, please don't. Soy Boys need not apply. UKIP Member."
Sic throughout.
I am only speaking from my own personal experience and from what i have seen. Maybe anecdotal, but i have used tinder for like 4 years
Maybe there is one like you have posted, but for every one of those there is 5 on the left"
I have been using Tinder for over five years now.
I have a screen cap of the one I posted.
I also have a screen cap of the one that said "I am not keen on wasps, egg, liars or feminists."
And of the one that had a big red cross next to the words "Vege,femi,lefty-nazis". Again, sic.
And of the one that says "If you're wearing a mask on one of your pictures then I won't be swiping right."
Right-wing crackpots use Tinder too, folks.
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I see this is as another preference thing.
I find certain people more or less pleasant to spend time with, for a variety of reasons. Like sexual attraction, I have an absolute right to decide who I invest in as a person, what that brings me, what I might bring them.
Preference is sacrosanct. |
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"You see it on Tinder alot to i have noticed. girls will have 'No Tories' 'Tory Scum' ect on there profile and i have never seen it the other way round.
I have. Direct quote: "If you are a liberal, leftist socialist, don't bother. Social justice warriors, please don't. Soy Boys need not apply. UKIP Member."
Sic throughout.
I am only speaking from my own personal experience and from what i have seen. Maybe anecdotal, but i have used tinder for like 4 years
Maybe there is one like you have posted, but for every one of those there is 5 on the left
I have been using Tinder for over five years now.
I have a screen cap of the one I posted.
I also have a screen cap of the one that said "I am not keen on wasps, egg, liars or feminists."
And of the one that had a big red cross next to the words "Vege,femi,lefty-nazis". Again, sic.
And of the one that says "If you're wearing a mask on one of your pictures then I won't be swiping right."
Right-wing crackpots use Tinder too, folks.
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Fair enough, as i said it was just what i noticed. Possible that it maybe location based? A higher concentration of left leaning people in my area maybe i dont know, or just the algorithm at work possiblly.
Dont think the mask thing is particularly partisan necessarily. A French think tank did a survey of a 1000 anti maskers in france and found only 29% are on the right.
Either way, i would still also swipe left on your examples while rolling my eyes |
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"Would you be friends with someone who you don’t agree with
Yes to an extent. I dont care what you think necessarily but what actions you take. Be nice to me and i will be nice back be that left, right or whatever.
The only people I probabaly dislike enough not to be friends with is anyone that is authoritarian and or extremely closed minded or ignorant. For example i met a girl that was happy waving a Soviet flag at a protest but did not know what a gulag was... . As an avid fan of History i found this worrying.
But overall having friends that you disagree with is extremely healthy. Me and my Friends have debates on numerous topics over Discord which can span hours and we dont always agree. But living in an Echo chamber is not a healthy place to be."
that’s scary that she flies a soviet flag but doesn’t know what a Gulag is. Like I say I’m not really political but I know my history and I think the soviet flag and the Swastika flag should be band |
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"Would you be friends with someone who you don’t agree with
Yes to an extent. I dont care what you think necessarily but what actions you take. Be nice to me and i will be nice back be that left, right or whatever.
The only people I probabaly dislike enough not to be friends with is anyone that is authoritarian and or extremely closed minded or ignorant. For example i met a girl that was happy waving a Soviet flag at a protest but did not know what a gulag was... . As an avid fan of History i found this worrying.
But overall having friends that you disagree with is extremely healthy. Me and my Friends have debates on numerous topics over Discord which can span hours and we dont always agree. But living in an Echo chamber is not a healthy place to be. that’s scary that she flies a soviet flag but doesn’t know what a Gulag is. Like I say I’m not really political but I know my history and I think the soviet flag and the Swastika flag should be band "
She also did not know who Stalin was or people like Lavrentiy Beria, what the Holodomor was or what the Nazino affair was.
But she knew capitilism was facist |
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