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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I know this topic has been discussed many times.
Mindfulness is something that I practice regularly and has been a bit of a game changer and I just wanted what other people's experience of it is. |
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Absolute game changer for me, too, although I did it in conjunction with psychotherapy.
Haven't had a panic attack in over eight years, down from I'd sometimes have four a day.
It can make things worse before they get better when you start, and it doesn't work for everyone, so if anyone is thinking about it, proceed with caution. |
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"What do you do Lorna? Always interested in what works for people"
I do a variety of different types of mindfulness.
Almost everything I do has an element of mindfulness.
I do a lot of one mindfully, So thats about not multitasking and fully Participating in one activity.
So for example if I'm washing up I am fully focused on washing up not planning My Shopping List in my head for example or thinking about something somebody said 3 days ago.
I also do some guided mindfulness practices Which I find extremely helpful and relaxing.
For me it's just about being in the present moment. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I think it's something I just 'do without it being in any kind of structured way "
I'm kind of getting to that point but obviously it does take a lot of practice to get there. |
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"I have let my 'mindfulness' slip recently and I am suffering for it. I need to re establish my meditation routine and 3D sounds to go to sleep to.
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Yeah, I've been lax with it recently, and I need to get back on it. Now more than ever. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I don’t do any formal techniques as such. I just get outside as that works for me. Or I listen to music.
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And it often is just a simple as that. I think often people think mindfulness is about being in some sort of deep Zen like state when actually it is just about Being in the present moment.
So like you said listening to music but actually really listening to it, Or going for a walk and being aware of your surroundings. |
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"I have let my 'mindfulness' slip recently and I am suffering for it. I need to re establish my meditation routine and 3D sounds to go to sleep to.
Ax"
It's very easy to get out of the habit. What sort of meditations do you tend to listen to? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What do you do Lorna? Always interested in what works for people
I do a variety of different types of mindfulness.
Almost everything I do has an element of mindfulness.
I do a lot of one mindfully, So thats about not multitasking and fully Participating in one activity.
So for example if I'm washing up I am fully focused on washing up not planning My Shopping List in my head for example or thinking about something somebody said 3 days ago.
I also do some guided mindfulness practices Which I find extremely helpful and relaxing.
For me it's just about being in the present moment."
Yes being present in the moment is a good one to remind yourself.. I think I've let that slip recently and i can feel myself ruminating more... Especially at night and into dreams, so I'm also struggling to sleep recently too |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I've read about it but Google doesn't seem to give 'real life' examples.
Finding this interesting and useful. "
I have always found that ruby wax explains it brilliantly so that might be worth a look. |
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"I've read about it but Google doesn't seem to give 'real life' examples.
Finding this interesting and useful. "
Look for guided meditations. UCLA have or had a centre for mindfulness (MARC I think) which had good guided meditations last I looked. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"What do you do Lorna? Always interested in what works for people
I do a variety of different types of mindfulness.
Almost everything I do has an element of mindfulness.
I do a lot of one mindfully, So thats about not multitasking and fully Participating in one activity.
So for example if I'm washing up I am fully focused on washing up not planning My Shopping List in my head for example or thinking about something somebody said 3 days ago.
I also do some guided mindfulness practices Which I find extremely helpful and relaxing.
For me it's just about being in the present moment.
Yes being present in the moment is a good one to remind yourself.. I think I've let that slip recently and i can feel myself ruminating more... Especially at night and into dreams, so I'm also struggling to sleep recently too "
There are some really good short sleep mindfulness practices on YouTube. I always look for something that's by calm because they are normally really good. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Actually putting in a chapter on mindfulness and wellbeing in my book so this thread is awesome!
I love Kenneth Soares and listen to a lot of stuff by Jake Woodard, he’s helped with a lot of inner child work for me, addressing childhood abandonment issues. He does a lot about masculine and feminine energies as well. Good pod casts.
When all this virus stuff started kicking off and lockdowns and feeling restricted and kind of repressed I was doing a grounding meditation once a week, outside, barefoot, definitely helps. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Actually putting in a chapter on mindfulness and wellbeing in my book so this thread is awesome!
I love Kenneth Soares and listen to a lot of stuff by Jake Woodard, he’s helped with a lot of inner child work for me, addressing childhood abandonment issues. He does a lot about masculine and feminine energies as well. Good pod casts.
When all this virus stuff started kicking off and lockdowns and feeling restricted and kind of repressed I was doing a grounding meditation once a week, outside, barefoot, definitely helps. "
Grounding is absolutely brilliant and all most I see is a precursor to mindfulness. The only thing you have to be careful with grounding is that it should really only be used when you are a emotionally 7,8,9 or 10. The reason for that is grounding is meant to just literally do that bring you back down. |
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By *JohnMan
over a year ago
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I did a mindfulness course some years ago, and to be honest didn't get much out of it. I was left with the impression that it would benefit people with a different set of problems to mine.
But more recently I read somewhere that one of the influences on it was Stoicism. I've been practicing some version of that for ages. And now it makes sense.
A key idea in Stoicism is the separation of external events from our internal emotional response. We might not have much or any control over what happens, but we can control how we respond. And in controlling that, we can avoid a lot of the suffering that we cause ourselves.
A lot of the mindfulness exercises that we did seem like good practice for making this separation. I'd be interested in doing that course again knowing this. |
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"I did a mindfulness course some years ago, and to be honest didn't get much out of it. I was left with the impression that it would benefit people with a different set of problems to mine.
But more recently I read somewhere that one of the influences on it was Stoicism. I've been practicing some version of that for ages. And now it makes sense.
A key idea in Stoicism is the separation of external events from our internal emotional response. We might not have much or any control over what happens, but we can control how we respond. And in controlling that, we can avoid a lot of the suffering that we cause ourselves.
A lot of the mindfulness exercises that we did seem like good practice for making this separation. I'd be interested in doing that course again knowing this."
I had a similar set of issues when I was taught "relaxation techniques" as a teenager. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I did a mindfulness course some years ago, and to be honest didn't get much out of it. I was left with the impression that it would benefit people with a different set of problems to mine.
But more recently I read somewhere that one of the influences on it was Stoicism. I've been practicing some version of that for ages. And now it makes sense.
A key idea in Stoicism is the separation of external events from our internal emotional response. We might not have much or any control over what happens, but we can control how we respond. And in controlling that, we can avoid a lot of the suffering that we cause ourselves.
A lot of the mindfulness exercises that we did seem like good practice for making this separation. I'd be interested in doing that course again knowing this."
I inadvertently practice Stoicism.
When I had counseling last year my counselor told me that she thought I have brilliant emotional maturity and that was never a trait I associated with myself. I don't know how to describe it properly, but now I automatically take my emotions out of a situation so I can deal with that situation with a more cool logical head. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Actually putting in a chapter on mindfulness and wellbeing in my book so this thread is awesome!
I love Kenneth Soares and listen to a lot of stuff by Jake Woodard, he’s helped with a lot of inner child work for me, addressing childhood abandonment issues. He does a lot about masculine and feminine energies as well. Good pod casts.
When all this virus stuff started kicking off and lockdowns and feeling restricted and kind of repressed I was doing a grounding meditation once a week, outside, barefoot, definitely helps.
Grounding is absolutely brilliant and all most I see is a precursor to mindfulness. The only thing you have to be careful with grounding is that it should really only be used when you are a emotionally 7,8,9 or 10. The reason for that is grounding is meant to just literally do that bring you back down. "
I’m quite new to it, it’s one of my good friends that introduced me to it back in March. It does help.
I need to learn more though if I’m gonna put a section in the book. It would benefit everyone so I wanna put it in.
My good friend and my sister they’re total different areas of expertise. My friend is VERY spiritual. She talks about the higher self and talks about 3D and 5D stuff and that’s there higher beings than us, it’s stuff I don’t fully understand tbh. Then I have by sister, she’s a clinical psychologist and behavioural analysts so she’s all about the mind.
Some of the stuff they say kind of marry, the spiritual and the psychology side I find they kind of intertwine, but my sisters very matter of fact.
What’s the best way to describe mindfulness to you, like what things do you think people should know about it and can easily incorporate into their own lives?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I wonder if it helps with studying. I need a game changer. "
I'm not sure though I couldn't see why wouldn't. I think it would definitely help to focus the mind and also when you take a break to help you relax. So listen to some music but really hear the words, Have something to eat but really taste it. Hope that helps. |
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"I wonder if it helps with studying. I need a game changer.
I'm not sure though I couldn't see why wouldn't. I think it would definitely help to focus the mind and also when you take a break to help you relax. So listen to some music but really hear the words, Have something to eat but really taste it. Hope that helps. "
Will have a go and see. Thanks. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Actually putting in a chapter on mindfulness and wellbeing in my book so this thread is awesome!
I love Kenneth Soares and listen to a lot of stuff by Jake Woodard, he’s helped with a lot of inner child work for me, addressing childhood abandonment issues. He does a lot about masculine and feminine energies as well. Good pod casts.
When all this virus stuff started kicking off and lockdowns and feeling restricted and kind of repressed I was doing a grounding meditation once a week, outside, barefoot, definitely helps.
Grounding is absolutely brilliant and all most I see is a precursor to mindfulness. The only thing you have to be careful with grounding is that it should really only be used when you are a emotionally 7,8,9 or 10. The reason for that is grounding is meant to just literally do that bring you back down.
I’m quite new to it, it’s one of my good friends that introduced me to it back in March. It does help.
I need to learn more though if I’m gonna put a section in the book. It would benefit everyone so I wanna put it in.
My good friend and my sister they’re total different areas of expertise. My friend is VERY spiritual. She talks about the higher self and talks about 3D and 5D stuff and that’s there higher beings than us, it’s stuff I don’t fully understand tbh. Then I have by sister, she’s a clinical psychologist and behavioural analysts so she’s all about the mind.
Some of the stuff they say kind of marry, the spiritual and the psychology side I find they kind of intertwine, but my sisters very matter of fact.
What’s the best way to describe mindfulness to you, like what things do you think people should know about it and can easily incorporate into their own lives?
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Ruby wax explained it in a way that I totally understood.
She said it's the student that is completely stressed out and takes a break and listens to some music but really he is the words and focuses on the moment, It's the busy mum who stops to take a break and has something to eat but really tastes it.
Often we do things without thinking so for example the about of times of walk somewhere a bed thought how did I even get here, and when our Mind wonders it can cause us problems the on necessary at that time. |
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It's one of the keys to happiness, I find.
I used to run mindfulness classes years ago. After an era of multi-tasking being king, I very much welcome this approach to life.
And in a lifestyle sense, it's certainly pleasure enhancing 
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By (user no longer on site)
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I’ll have to check out what Ruby Wax says cos there isn’t really many real examples online. But now you’ve explained I can kind of understand what it means.
I read a lush book the other day called ‘The things you can only see when you slow down’ by Haemin Sunim.
It was a really nice a read. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I’ll have to check out what Ruby Wax says cos there isn’t really many real examples online. But now you’ve explained I can kind of understand what it means.
I read a lush book the other day called ‘The things you can only see when you slow down’ by Haemin Sunim.
It was a really nice a read. "
I highly recommend Ruby wax, Also the rethink website has some really great stuff on it about mindfulness.
All so if anyone is struggling there local mental health service will almost certainly do some form of mindfulness/ coping strategies course. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I feel pretty ignorant when it comes to mindfulness. A little work on myself sure wouldn't go a miss!"
The biggest issue is people over think it and think that it's about meditation and whilst that's part of it, its all about being in the present.
I know I keep banging on about it but I'm a so passionate that it really can be helpful to everyone. X |
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"I’ll have to check out what Ruby Wax says cos there isn’t really many real examples online. But now you’ve explained I can kind of understand what it means.
I read a lush book the other day called ‘The things you can only see when you slow down’ by Haemin Sunim.
It was a really nice a read.
I highly recommend Ruby wax, Also the rethink website has some really great stuff on it about mindfulness.
All so if anyone is struggling there local mental health service will almost certainly do some form of mindfulness/ coping strategies course. "
I've got one of her books. I like Ruby but couldn't get into the book.
Maybe I should give it another go |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I’ll have to check out what Ruby Wax says cos there isn’t really many real examples online. But now you’ve explained I can kind of understand what it means.
I read a lush book the other day called ‘The things you can only see when you slow down’ by Haemin Sunim.
It was a really nice a read.
I highly recommend Ruby wax, Also the rethink website has some really great stuff on it about mindfulness.
All so if anyone is struggling there local mental health service will almost certainly do some form of mindfulness/ coping strategies course.
I've got one of her books. I like Ruby but couldn't get into the book.
Maybe I should give it another go "
Have a look at some of her stuff on YouTube. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It completely changed my life 
I went from 3 hours broken sleep a night to 5 hours not-as-broken sleep  thats getting better i am glad its helping x i went from some one full of self doubt to the happy go lucky chap i am now "
Yeah biggest thing i took away, was be kind to yourself (imagine you were giving advice to your friend and now replace their name with yours) and forgive yourself
Don't ruminate (for those who do, it's quite a cycle to break) and choose to be happy (sounds crazy... But whether you like the choice or not, there are always choices) |
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"Something my friend says is see my thoughts, don’t become my thoughts.
I forgot now how she explains it, sorry it’s just left my mind  "
I get that. There are specific mindfulness practices that is just about observing. It's not easy and something I still struggle with but very helpful, So the idea is the you observe the thought but you don't label it. It's a tricky one to get your head round but helpful if you can. |
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"Something my friend says is see my thoughts, don’t become my thoughts.
I forgot now how she explains it, sorry it’s just left my mind
I get that. There are specific mindfulness practices that is just about observing. It's not easy and something I still struggle with but very helpful, So the idea is the you observe the thought but you don't label it. It's a tricky one to get your head round but helpful if you can. "
Thoughts are like clouds. Like weather. Just watch them float by. |
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"Something my friend says is see my thoughts, don’t become my thoughts.
I forgot now how she explains it, sorry it’s just left my mind
I get that. There are specific mindfulness practices that is just about observing. It's not easy and something I still struggle with but very helpful, So the idea is the you observe the thought but you don't label it. It's a tricky one to get your head round but helpful if you can.
Thoughts are like clouds. Like weather. Just watch them float by."
That's exactly it. You've worded that brilliantly so thank you. |
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"Something my friend says is see my thoughts, don’t become my thoughts.
I forgot now how she explains it, sorry it’s just left my mind
I get that. There are specific mindfulness practices that is just about observing. It's not easy and something I still struggle with but very helpful, So the idea is the you observe the thought but you don't label it. It's a tricky one to get your head round but helpful if you can.
Thoughts are like clouds. Like weather. Just watch them float by.
That's exactly it. You've worded that brilliantly so thank you. "
Paraphrase of Jon Kabat Zinn |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Something my friend says is see my thoughts, don’t become my thoughts.
I forgot now how she explains it, sorry it’s just left my mind
I get that. There are specific mindfulness practices that is just about observing. It's not easy and something I still struggle with but very helpful, So the idea is the you observe the thought but you don't label it. It's a tricky one to get your head round but helpful if you can. "
Yep. She says observing.
She also believes that everybody we come into contact with is meant to teach us something. Like the last guy I had dealings with she says you asked for that, your higher self did. He was meant to do what he did and for things to play out as they did so you could learn a lesson from it.
I dunno how much truth is around that, what do you think?
It has done stuff to me though. Like I’ve been fucked around countless times by guys but this one though, he seems to have been the straw that broke this camels back. I think it’s because in the past guys I’ve had dealings with have been off here or dating sites so basically guys I’ve sought out myself and they were typically all my type, the talk the Willy’s the good looks blah blah blah. But the most recent guy was someone from the real world. I didn’t go looking for him. I was happy. I wasn’t messaging anyone. He wasn’t typically my type but cute, shorter than what I normally go for but so funny and appeared to be kind, so when he turned out to mess me around too I took it badly and it’s made me reevaluate everything. There’s loads of things now I can see that I myself did, I can’t be too harsh on myself and take all the blame but I’d say it was tipped more towards me so 60% blame. He really made me upset more than I’ve ever been. So when she said my higher self asked for him and for it to happen, do you think there’s truth in that?
Is it something I should be telling other people? |
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My mindfulness is walking in heels. I focus on the sound of the steps and then irritations seem to drift away. Another of my favourites is to walk up the common and lie and look at clouds, don't know why it's always worked since I was little |
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"Something my friend says is see my thoughts, don’t become my thoughts.
I forgot now how she explains it, sorry it’s just left my mind
I get that. There are specific mindfulness practices that is just about observing. It's not easy and something I still struggle with but very helpful, So the idea is the you observe the thought but you don't label it. It's a tricky one to get your head round but helpful if you can.
Yep. She says observing.
She also believes that everybody we come into contact with is meant to teach us something. Like the last guy I had dealings with she says you asked for that, your higher self did. He was meant to do what he did and for things to play out as they did so you could learn a lesson from it.
I dunno how much truth is around that, what do you think?
It has done stuff to me though. Like I’ve been fucked around countless times by guys but this one though, he seems to have been the straw that broke this camels back. I think it’s because in the past guys I’ve had dealings with have been off here or dating sites so basically guys I’ve sought out myself and they were typically all my type, the talk the Willy’s the good looks blah blah blah. But the most recent guy was someone from the real world. I didn’t go looking for him. I was happy. I wasn’t messaging anyone. He wasn’t typically my type but cute, shorter than what I normally go for but so funny and appeared to be kind, so when he turned out to mess me around too I took it badly and it’s made me reevaluate everything. There’s loads of things now I can see that I myself did, I can’t be too harsh on myself and take all the blame but I’d say it was tipped more towards me so 60% blame. He really made me upset more than I’ve ever been. So when she said my higher self asked for him and for it to happen, do you think there’s truth in that?
Is it something I should be telling other people? "
I'm not sure to be honest and that isn't something that I necessarily believe.
I would also say that isn't mindfulness.
I definitely believe that we can learn from every situation good or bad.
We can only be responsible for our own thoughts, feelings and actions and I think that mindfulness can help us to realise this. I also think that sometimes bad things happen even when you're being the most skilful a emotionally that you can.
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"My mindfulness is walking in heels. I focus on the sound of the steps and then irritations seem to drift away. Another of my favourites is to walk up the common and lie and look at clouds, don't know why it's always worked since I was little "
They are fantastic examples, thank you.
It really can be the smallest things and they can make the biggest difference. |
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Yeah goes on about stuff I don’t understand like Ascension and 6D and 7D stuff.
But yeah I think I’ll put in something about learning things from all people we meet, something along those lines. |
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"My mindfulness is walking in heels. I focus on the sound of the steps and then irritations seem to drift away. Another of my favourites is to walk up the common and lie and look at clouds, don't know why it's always worked since I was little
They are fantastic examples, thank you.
It really can be the smallest things and they can make the biggest difference. "
That's the thing I've learnt, sometimes we get too embroiled in complicated things I'm massively guilty of this. I have a mate who is a mindfulness coach and she said to me try to do things that fit into your life easily, else you end up feeling guilty of not doing your mindfulness which is counterproductive. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've read about it but Google doesn't seem to give 'real life' examples.
Finding this interesting and useful.
I have always found that ruby wax explains it brilliantly so that might be worth a look."
Thank you, her book looks really good. I've bookmarked her website too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Something my friend says is see my thoughts, don’t become my thoughts.
I forgot now how she explains it, sorry it’s just left my mind
I get that. There are specific mindfulness practices that is just about observing. It's not easy and something I still struggle with but very helpful, So the idea is the you observe the thought but you don't label it. It's a tricky one to get your head round but helpful if you can.
Yep. She says observing.
She also believes that everybody we come into contact with is meant to teach us something. Like the last guy I had dealings with she says you asked for that, your higher self did. He was meant to do what he did and for things to play out as they did so you could learn a lesson from it.
I dunno how much truth is around that, what do you think?
It has done stuff to me though. Like I’ve been fucked around countless times by guys but this one though, he seems to have been the straw that broke this camels back. I think it’s because in the past guys I’ve had dealings with have been off here or dating sites so basically guys I’ve sought out myself and they were typically all my type, the talk the Willy’s the good looks blah blah blah. But the most recent guy was someone from the real world. I didn’t go looking for him. I was happy. I wasn’t messaging anyone. He wasn’t typically my type but cute, shorter than what I normally go for but so funny and appeared to be kind, so when he turned out to mess me around too I took it badly and it’s made me reevaluate everything. There’s loads of things now I can see that I myself did, I can’t be too harsh on myself and take all the blame but I’d say it was tipped more towards me so 60% blame. He really made me upset more than I’ve ever been. So when she said my higher self asked for him and for it to happen, do you think there’s truth in that?
Is it something I should be telling other people? "
Why is it your fault if he was a dick to you?
I don't like that she's saying you asked for it to happen before you even met him.
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I did this yesterday. It was cold and miserable (like me!) but I thought about this thread and forced myself to go out.
It turned out really good. I warmed up after walking and paid attention to the scrunchy leaves and the birds tweeting. I got a couple of hours of peace.
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I find mindfulness really helps my mental health. I use an app called insight timer if anyone is looking for some ideas. I generally do a meditation before I go to bed at night.
Outside of the app my go to things are doing puzzles and colouring. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I did this yesterday. It was cold and miserable (like me!) but I thought about this thread and forced myself to go out.
It turned out really good. I warmed up after walking and paid attention to the scrunchy leaves and the birds tweeting. I got a couple of hours of peace.
Hope people have a good Sunday. "
This is brilliant to read. And that is exactly what mindfulness is, Just noticing and feeling in control and calm. |
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"I find mindfulness really helps my mental health. I use an app called insight timer if anyone is looking for some ideas. I generally do a meditation before I go to bed at night.
Outside of the app my go to things are doing puzzles and colouring. "
Ohh iv not heard of that one so will check it out.
I've never really got into mindfull colouring but I know loads of people that find it really helpful. |
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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago
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I’ve found this thread really interesting and inspiring - thank you, L.
I’ve dabbled wirh mindfulness and kinda do practice it in an unfocused way. I’m going to go deeper into it, though.
I know the pandemic has been terrible in many ways, but one thing I did like was I had less things to think about. It helped me see how thoughts are continually bombarding me and distracting me from being in the moment ansld giving anything my full attention.
I do feel that’s become a real problem, particularly under pressure. It needs work |
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"As a person who understands the Tao amongst other philosophical concepts I've been practicing for over 25 years
Observe and understand what is without judgment including ones self x "
Absolutely and even sporadic practice can be very beneficial. |
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"I’ve found this thread really interesting and inspiring - thank you, L.
I’ve dabbled wirh mindfulness and kinda do practice it in an unfocused way. I’m going to go deeper into it, though.
I know the pandemic has been terrible in many ways, but one thing I did like was I had less things to think about. It helped me see how thoughts are continually bombarding me and distracting me from being in the moment ansld giving anything my full attention.
I do feel that’s become a real problem, particularly under pressure. It needs work "
All my gig nurse it is so helpful for focusing attention and being aware of your thoughts and doesn't necessarily change anything, How ever just being aware of your thoughts gives you that little element of control over them. There are some fantastic apps available and guided YouTube videos that might be worth a look.
I hope you find it helpful and let us know how you get on. X |
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By *JohnMan
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"I did this yesterday. It was cold and miserable (like me!) but I thought about this thread and forced myself to go out.
It turned out really good. I warmed up after walking and paid attention to the scrunchy leaves and the birds tweeting. I got a couple of hours of peace.
Hope people have a good Sunday. "
Absolutely! The cold and rain is only miserable because we think it is. Once we decide that it is beautiful, we can see its beauty. |
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"I did this yesterday. It was cold and miserable (like me!) but I thought about this thread and forced myself to go out.
It turned out really good. I warmed up after walking and paid attention to the scrunchy leaves and the birds tweeting. I got a couple of hours of peace.
Hope people have a good Sunday.
Absolutely! The cold and rain is only miserable because we think it is. Once we decide that it is beautiful, we can see its beauty."
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"I have let my 'mindfulness' slip recently and I am suffering for it. I need to re establish my meditation routine and 3D sounds to go to sleep to.
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It's very easy to get out of the habit. What sort of meditations do you tend to listen to?"
I have the headspace app which is brilliant and I would highly recommend it. |
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As someone who was taught transcendental meditation from 11 and then went on to being a practising Buddhist I find I’m either in the zone or not.
I try every night to at least listen to some relaxing sleep music or meditate.
My issue is once I’m down I drop all my coping tools and then I scuttle around in the dark trying to find them.
The way I am right now isn’t working for me but I feel utterly stuck, and full of self loathing because I don’t have the strength to just pick myself up and shake myself this time.
I’m facing a big operation in January, I’m about to move house, and I’m coping with nothing.
Pffff
I hear myself snd think woman get a bloody grip.
I hate my woe is me attitude.
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I find when I'm not in a good place my coping mechanisms the 1st thing to go too but obviously not helpful.
It's worth a go even if it's just eating something and really tasting it. Xx |
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"I find when I'm not in a good place my coping mechanisms the 1st thing to go too but obviously not helpful.
It's worth a go even if it's just eating something and really tasting it. Xx"
I will certainly try x |
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Mindfulness done correctly - can be good for most. Not for me.
Mindfulness done by your employer - is mostly done incorrectly and is just plain shit that just causes more issues. But it’s ok, because it means they can write on the website that they promote mindfulness. |
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"Mindfulness done correctly - can be good for most. Not for me.
Mindfulness done by your employer - is mostly done incorrectly and is just plain shit that just causes more issues. But it’s ok, because it means they can write on the website that they promote mindfulness. "
I'm not sure what you mean to be honest because mindfulness is not the same as meditation.
Mindfulness is simply being in the present moment. |
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If there's a pretty sunset, or the sun feels nice on my face, or there's a rainbow or something I make it a point to stop for a moment and really appreciate it. It's too easy to just carry on being busy and not pay any attention to the good things so I make sure that I acknowledge them and drink it in. |
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"If there's a pretty sunset, or the sun feels nice on my face, or there's a rainbow or something I make it a point to stop for a moment and really appreciate it. It's too easy to just carry on being busy and not pay any attention to the good things so I make sure that I acknowledge them and drink it in."
Your name made me smile. |
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"If there's a pretty sunset, or the sun feels nice on my face, or there's a rainbow or something I make it a point to stop for a moment and really appreciate it. It's too easy to just carry on being busy and not pay any attention to the good things so I make sure that I acknowledge them and drink it in."
That sounds really lovely and you are absolutely right that often we just breeze through life not noticing anything. |
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"If there's a pretty sunset, or the sun feels nice on my face, or there's a rainbow or something I make it a point to stop for a moment and really appreciate it. It's too easy to just carry on being busy and not pay any attention to the good things so I make sure that I acknowledge them and drink it in."
Yes, I sometimes sit and watch the birds high up flying free. It brings me joy, I’ve no idea why it just does.
I usually realise I’m smiling imagining how flying free must be. |
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"I know this topic has been discussed many times.
Mindfulness is something that I practice regularly and has been a bit of a game changer and I just wanted what other people's experience of it is. "
What us it? |
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"I know this topic has been discussed many times.
Mindfulness is something that I practice regularly and has been a bit of a game changer and I just wanted what other people's experience of it is.
What us it?"
That is a big question but I will answer it as simply as possible.
It's about being in the present moment.
It was explained to me once as having something to eat but really tasting it, Listening to music but really listen to the words.
Alot of what we do is on auto Pilot and the mind wonders.
There are some fantastic YouTube clips that explain it better than I can.
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"I know this topic has been discussed many times.
Mindfulness is something that I practice regularly and has been a bit of a game changer and I just wanted what other people's experience of it is. "
I was introduced to this a few years ago, although the prescribed version was not that helpful, it helped me recognise that some of what I was already doing was. It continues to be |
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got into practicing mindfulness in my early to mid twenties, as part of meditation and breath work. I don't meditate anywhere near as much as I'd like or should. I'm very much an over thinker, and can easily send myself into a dark hole, mindfulness has taught me to be more aware of this and managing thoughts better. |
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"got into practicing mindfulness in my early to mid twenties, as part of meditation and breath work. I don't meditate anywhere near as much as I'd like or should. I'm very much an over thinker, and can easily send myself into a dark hole, mindfulness has taught me to be more aware of this and managing thoughts better. "
Have a look on YouTube for mindfulness of thoughts practice. Really good. |
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"got into practicing mindfulness in my early to mid twenties, as part of meditation and breath work. I don't meditate anywhere near as much as I'd like or should. I'm very much an over thinker, and can easily send myself into a dark hole, mindfulness has taught me to be more aware of this and managing thoughts better.
Have a look on YouTube for mindfulness of thoughts practice. Really good. "
Yes, there are some very good ones on YouTube, also good ones for guided meditations if anyones interested in that side of things |
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