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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

For all the ladies that say you should think highly of yourselves. Read my shit show of a thread, the tail end. Proves my point that if you’re vocal about loving yourself you’ll attract negative comments.

Actually it only seems to happen to me. Like other women can say it and it’s fine but as soon as I say it I get all the arrogant comments.

Genuinely don’t understand why it’s okay for other women to say they love themselves but when I do it I get abuse. Why can’t we all love ourselves? Why do some people have to say well actually no you’re wrong to love yourself because of xyz.

I’ll come back to this upon waking.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"For all the ladies that say you should think highly of yourselves. Read my shit show of a thread, the tail end. Proves my point that if you’re vocal about loving yourself you’ll attract negative comments.

Actually it only seems to happen to me. Like other women can say it and it’s fine but as soon as I say it I get all the arrogant comments.

I’ll come back to this upon waking. "

There is a difference between thinking highly of yourself and thinking that the only reason a guy wouldn't approach you is because they were "too intimidated by my looks" If you cannot understand or accept that there can be many other reasons why they don't then you have issues.

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By *nliveneTV/TS over a year ago

Selby

Happy friday everyone

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If people are giving you grief , pay no attention

I always remember someone saying that if a stranger called you a “purple polar bear” you’d be like WTF and pay no bother

That what I always think of when people give you grief, hope that helps

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By *merican HoneyWoman over a year ago

Miami

Actually it only seems to happen to me. Like other women can say it and it’s fine but as soon as I say it I get all the arrogant comments.

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That differs to what you said though

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"People generally know what they’re capable of pulling don’t they?

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By AnnieWilkes OP Find posts by AnnieWilkes Woman 5 hours ago

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I know I’m attractive and I’ve got a good body and nice boobs and a big arse and love how I look. My rule is if you’d be too intimidated by my looks to approach me on a night out then don’t think about trying to approach me on here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Wtf ignore them girl. You have to love yourself first before you can love anyone else... Self respect and all that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm quite self deprecating, the only way is up from there, just a thought ...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ignore the haters. You are stunning.. Gorgeous figure with amazing ink.. We certainly wouldn't be shy in saying hi. If youve got it, flaunt it.. And lady, you have it in bucket loads

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS over a year ago

London

OP, you can't control what others do.

But you can control what you, yourself do - in this issue, what to post and how to accept the comments, both positive and negative.

You can either be angry about it, critical about it or maybe take hint and learn from it or just laugh and ignore it.

Totally up to you.

I've been reading the forum for years, and I notice you through various profile names before and I know and accept your style. Sometimes positive, sometimes not so positive but that's totally ok, that what makes you - you, isn't it?

So, don't worry about it.

(Looking at the bright side, at least you get response. We tv usually get our comments totally skipped

, which may be a good thing.)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I caught a small part of the thread and as soon as I seen it I did think wow someone thinks highly of themselves (rightly so I suppose) but when you name a thread something like “People should know what they are capable of pulling shouldn’t they?” It’s quite judgemental, not everyone judges people by their looks, confidence is equally attractive. And you’re trying to insinuate that people are intimated by looks. There could be a number of reasons why they don’t approach you on a night out.

But again, everyone is entitled to their own opinion and if you wanted to start a thread that might cause some backlash then good on you

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By *andyfloss2000Woman over a year ago

ashford

People should love themselves! All of us xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You have to have respect for the person to be offended by their opinion

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Actually it only seems to happen to me. Like other women can say it and it’s fine but as soon as I say it I get all the arrogant comments.

I’ll come back to this upon waking. "

How can anyone love anyone else if they can’t love themselves first? I love myself mind body and soul and will never stop, coz it took me the scenic route to find this out. Anyone who passes any type of comment hating or slating about self love clearly lack it!! Xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Actually it only seems to happen to me. Like other women can say it and it’s fine but as soon as I say it I get all the arrogant comments.

I’ll come back to this upon waking. "

I appreciate you were just trying to express self love and confidence. That great!

We should all do more of that tbh.

But by naming the thread what you did and mentioning some of the things in your OP about looks etc, you did advocate the concept of "leagues", which is not something I agree with. If someone finds someone else attractive it should be based on their own personal opinion of what they like, not what society tells them to.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Actually it only seems to happen to me. Like other women can say it and it’s fine but as soon as I say it I get all the arrogant comments.

I’ll come back to this upon waking.

I appreciate you were just trying to express self love and confidence. That great!

We should all do more of that tbh.

This I agree with. I dont believe anyone is out of anyone else's (league). Who is anyone to judge that?, society has a lot to answer for, and I've read all of the various threads. We have all posted stupid shit that can easily be misread and misconstrued via the medium of text. Weve all sent texts to people that have been taken totally the wrong way.

We can only be us at the end of the day. Big, small, tall, short, and we all have insecurities. If anyone says they don't, they are either a twat, a liar or both.

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By *uzz And WoodyCouple over a year ago

Maidstone

Everybody is entitled to an opinion. Just like everybody is entitled to avoid narcissists too. Life goes on.

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By *hrista BellendWoman over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Because people only see the outer exterior of you Annie and they judge your words and looks, I know I did until you started to open up more and your personality shone through on the forum, so I looked differently at you

And as you said that side of you is slightly more hidden atm for your reasons

Keep being you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You should love yourself babe. Some people are probably Jealous And self loathing

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By *addyBabygirl2020Couple over a year ago

norwich

Actually it only seems to happen to me. Like other women can say it and it’s fine but as soon as I say it I get all the arrogant comments.

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I saw your thread and actually totally agreed with it. I can see how it wound a lot of peole up as it pokes at their insecurities.

Nothing wrong of thinking highly of yourself and setting high standards.

Although it will alwsys leave you open to being labled as arrogant but others.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If people are giving you grief , pay no attention

I always remember someone saying that if a stranger called you a “purple polar bear” you’d be like WTF and pay no bother

That what I always think of when people give you grief, hope that helps

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By *a LunaWoman over a year ago

South Wales

I’d say it’s because there is an influx of new blood on the forums who don’t know you or your mischievous way of wording a post. They don’t see the twinkle in the eye.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Actually it only seems to happen to me. Like other women can say it and it’s fine but as soon as I say it I get all the arrogant comments.

I’ll come back to this upon waking.

That differs to what you said though

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"People generally know what they’re capable of pulling don’t they?

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By AnnieWilkes OP Find posts by AnnieWilkes Woman 5 hours ago

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I don’t have any problem with those comments - I interpret them as saying you like confident men not a mouse.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It only works if you're a lounge lovey

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You've been here long enough to know that people get their knickers in a twist for all sorts of reasons. You need to have a thick skin. We all do.

You're stating your views but that's just it, they are YOUR views and people may or may not agree. They will excercise the same rights as you to share them.

There are many things I read on here and my thoughts are often "suck it up buttercup" and then I move on. I give it no further thought.

Ultimately we are all mostly just strangers on the internet. You have plenty of things in real life to save your headspace for.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Actual fit women aren’t allowed to show body confidence, that’s just the rules.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Actual fit women aren’t allowed to show body confidence, that’s just the rules. "

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By *ex HolesMan over a year ago

Up North

Don’t worry OP it’s just the green eyed monster from within others that’s appearing.

Their comments are merely a reflection of what that person is really like

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's great to be confident and love yourself.

You don't need to insult others in order to build yourself up tho.

I don't prescribe to the idea that we're in leagues. We find different things attractive. No one person decides who is nice to look at and who's not. And for a lot of people it doesn't matter.

People don't take issue with you loving yourself, they don't have a problem with your confidence. The issue is that you often come across like you think you're better than others because you think you look good.

People love confidence, arrogance is another matter. And it's got fuck all to do with how you actually look.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Actually it only seems to happen to me. Like other women can say it and it’s fine but as soon as I say it I get all the arrogant comments.

I’ll come back to this upon waking. "

It wasnt what you said, it was How you said it.

Something that is hard to get across written down sometimes.

The impression I gained wasnt favourable, it came across to me quite negatively, which is why I questioned it. It came across as a brag, and also a big assumption about who approaches you or doesnt, and why that may be.

You dont endear yourself sometimes and yet you remain the same, I guess this is why you polarise opinion.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There's a fine line between loving yourself and arrogance I guess.

Being confident in yourself and how you look is very attractive...being arrogant about it is most definitely not.

Not aimed at anyone...just briefly read the thread.

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By *amissCouple over a year ago

chelmsford

I wouldn't say I love myself, but I'm happy in what I see when I look in the mirror, albeit I have to enhance it with lots of make up, to cover the wrinkles. We have to go with what we are given. Beauty to me is having a beautiful soul and caring about others.Thankfully we are all attracted to different 'looks' otherwise we would all be chasing the same person

Our physical look changes as we get older, I know, so there has to be something left, that people find attractive in you, that is kindness for others...

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

Actually it only seems to happen to me. Like other women can say it and it’s fine but as soon as I say it I get all the arrogant comments.

I’ll come back to this upon waking.

I appreciate you were just trying to express self love and confidence. That great!

We should all do more of that tbh.

We can only be us at the end of the day. Big, small, tall, short, and we all have insecurities. If anyone says they don't, they are either a twat, a liar or both.

Here Here Jeff

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think some mistook your post for arrogance rather than confidence. Those that have been here long enough to see other posts of yours will realise that it’s not arrogance.

You have a great body and every right to be confident about it.

Women are encouraged to ‘flaunt it’ or show off their body how they so wish, I don’t know why your post was treated differently.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You have to have respect for the person to be offended by their opinion "

Sorry but have to 100% disagree with you. It’s all about the words. How you present yourself, your opinions and your questions.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It was a comment in a swinging forum not a thesis to be analysed and critiqued. OP is more than happy with her looks and only wants to be approached by others of equal beauty. So what?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It was a comment in a swinging forum not a thesis to be analysed and critiqued. OP is more than happy with her looks and only wants to be approached by others of equal beauty. So what? "

Equal beauty is impossible to quantify though.

Who can say who is or who isn't as beautiful as her?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Lol, how dare you set yourself standards and be choosy on a swingers site

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By *amissCouple over a year ago

chelmsford

"It was a comment in a swinging forum not a thesis to be analysed and critiqued. OP is more than happy with her looks and only wants to be approached by others of equal beauty. So what?

Equal beauty is impossible to quantify though.

Who can say who is or who isn't as beautiful as her?"

we all have a different perception of beauty

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It was a comment in a swinging forum not a thesis to be analysed and critiqued. OP is more than happy with her looks and only wants to be approached by others of equal beauty. So what?

Equal beauty is impossible to quantify though.

Who can say who is or who isn't as beautiful as her?

we all have a different perception of beauty

Absolutely

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By *amissCouple over a year ago

chelmsford

"It was a comment in a swinging forum not a thesis to be analysed and critiqued. OP is more than happy with her looks and only wants to be approached by others of equal beauty. So what?

Equal beauty is impossible to quantify though.

Who can say who is or who isn't as beautiful as her?

we all have a different perception of beauty

Absolutely

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By *emorefridaCouple over a year ago

La la land

Annie you've got a fit body I can't comment if you are beautiful as I've not seen your face. And I applaud you if you can look in the mirror and be happy, it's something I'm working towards slowly.

But regarding people approaching you it isn't all based on looks. I'll give you my example, my best mate back in the late 90's modelled for storm agency so to put it mildly she is stunning. She walks into a room both men and women turn their heads. Then you've got me all short and dumpy. So using your logic I'd be the approachable one and her not. Which was the complete opposite, she has this magical aura about her that draws people to her. Me back in the day was known as frosty knickers. I gave the air of don't approach me, because I was still hurting with issues after my dad and had low self esteem issues. Humans are complex creatures and attraction is equally as complex

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It was a comment in a swinging forum not a thesis to be analysed and critiqued. OP is more than happy with her looks and only wants to be approached by others of equal beauty. So what?

Equal beauty is impossible to quantify though.

Who can say who is or who isn't as beautiful as her?"

Like I said ... not something to be analysed.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It was a comment in a swinging forum not a thesis to be analysed and critiqued. OP is more than happy with her looks and only wants to be approached by others of equal beauty. So what?

Equal beauty is impossible to quantify though.

Who can say who is or who isn't as beautiful as her?

Like I said ... not something to be analysed. "

Pretty sure that's what the thread was for...the OP was asking for opinions.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It was a comment in a swinging forum not a thesis to be analysed and critiqued. OP is more than happy with her looks and only wants to be approached by others of equal beauty. So what?

Equal beauty is impossible to quantify though.

Who can say who is or who isn't as beautiful as her?

Like I said ... not something to be analysed.

Pretty sure that's what the thread was for...the OP was asking for opinions. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think as others have said there is nothing wrong with thinking highly of yourself.

The problem is you are expect people to know your intention, And not everybody does and why would they. If you put out a controversial posts your gonna get controversial comments.

Yes other women have put out self love threads and got a good reaction I think often it all has to do with the wording of the post.

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By *hilloutMan over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

I've scrolled through the past threads for proper context. While i've clashed with the Op before and have been critical in the past, she has a point. There are glaring double standards here. Too many people here take offence at statements not because they're offensive, but because it strikes at their own insecurities.

If you don't like the thread theme, eye roll and ignore. I do it all the time. No need to result to insults.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Actually it only seems to happen to me. Like other women can say it and it’s fine but as soon as I say it I get all the arrogant comments.

I’ll come back to this upon waking. "

I actually sent a nice comment on your other thread

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Actually it only seems to happen to me. Like other women can say it and it’s fine but as soon as I say it I get all the arrogant comments.

I’ll come back to this upon waking. "

So basically, you're asking for opinions on WHY you (or perceive yourself to) get abuse for stating your opinion, if I'm reading this correctly?

Possibly be something to do with the way you word things/ replies and possibly lack a bit of tact and diplomacy sometimes? Words sometimes maybe don't come across how you'd want them to but you can't slate people for giving you their opinion, as you gave yours. There will always be a clash of personalities on sites where you have a group of adults all discussing all manner of subjects! Opinions ... Well, sometimes have to be withheld not only here but in the real world too, so save causing shitstorms

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Actually it only seems to happen to me. Like other women can say it and it’s fine but as soon as I say it I get all the arrogant comments.

I’ll come back to this upon waking.

Hmmm UNLOS typical. What a rude cow.

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By *emorefridaCouple over a year ago

La la land

Actually it only seems to happen to me. Like other women can say it and it’s fine but as soon as I say it I get all the arrogant comments.

I’ll come back to this upon waking.

Hmmm UNLOS typical. What a rude cow. "

Just finished reading the other thread, that was massively uncalled for and beyond rude.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Annie, I think you are like Marmite. Some get you and some don’t. Your posting style and beliefs about yourself will jar with some and trigger others. Just keep doing you and remember that any feedback you get tells you as much about the person giving the feedback, as it does about you. Projection, transference and people acting out of their insecurities are part of life on this forum. When you post exactly what is going on in your own head on forum posts, the likelihood is that the shadowy parts of other forum users will appear at the same time.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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"Don’t worry OP it’s just the green eyed monster from within others that’s appearing.

Actually I don't think it is that, I think a lot of people like to put down confidence, depending on who it is of course.

A bit like the threads that ask to rate their bits, there will always be people who want to put the person down whether they like their bits or not, just because that person is daring to ask

It comes across as nasty rather than jealousy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't think there's anything wrong with thinking highly of yourself, I actually think it's a pretty good thing. But as with most things in a public forum, it's all in the wording.

There's a big difference between saying that you think you're good looking in whatever way, and suggesting that some people might be beneath others based on attractiveness.

I think it's the title of the other thread that may have gotten under people's skin a bit. Even if it was intended as satire, that isn't something that comes across well in text, especially to strangers.

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By *wisted999Man over a year ago

North Bucks

"Actual fit women aren’t allowed to show body confidence, that’s just the rules. "

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By *ools and the brainCouple over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

I wonder if a guy posted a similar thread people would be so supportive?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't think there's anything wrong with thinking highly of yourself, I actually think it's a pretty good thing. But as with most things in a public forum, it's all in the wording.

There's a big difference between saying that you think you're good looking in whatever way, and suggesting that some people might be beneath others based on attractiveness.

I think you are right and while people will always find a way to have a dig it someone, And some of the comments were unpleasant and actually nasty. But I think it's really tricky if you are going to do satire or sarcasm not everybody is gonna get it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I wonder if a guy posted a similar thread people would be so supportive?"

I can’t see that happening get shut down pretty quickly

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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"I wonder if a guy posted a similar thread people would be so supportive?"

I am not sure a lot where supportive on these threads to be fair

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I actually did a post about this a bit back and I got told to shut up and just deal with it that was my advice

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't think there's anything wrong with thinking highly of yourself, I actually think it's a pretty good thing. But as with most things in a public forum, it's all in the wording.

There's a big difference between saying that you think you're good looking in whatever way, and suggesting that some people might be beneath others based on attractiveness.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Don’t worry OP it’s just the green eyed monster from within others that’s appearing.

Actually I don't think it is that, I think a lot of people like to put down confidence, depending on who it is of course.

A bit like the threads that ask to rate their bits, there will always be people who want to put the person down whether they like their bits or not, just because that person is daring to ask

It comes across as nasty rather than jealousy"

Do you honestly think that's what it is?

See I think, generally speaking, if you're confident and kind, building up others aswell as yourself people will usually respond positively. Whereas if you're confident and at the same time implying that you're better than others due to your looks, or anything else for that matter, people don't tend to like it so much.

As I said before, confidence is great! But there's no need to knock others to love yourself. I think that's where the other thread went tits up. Regardless of intent, it came across to many as the OP was suggesting she's better than others based on the fact that she considers herself attractive. That's what rubbed people up the wrong way...not the fact that she's confident.

Just how it seems to me...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think loving yourself is a good thing and I do encourage it. But there does come a point where some people go too far and it all becomes quite vain and arrogant.

I've not read the other thread so I can not comment too much but there is a fine line with loving yourself. And when you think you deserve special treatment because of how you look or you put other people down in the process "I'm not fat and I've got a nice body!" then I understand why people think badly of that kind of self love, because it is unattractive and comes across like you are full of yourself.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I haven't read all of the thread(s)

And I don't normally indulge your constant need for attention Annie

But in all honesty why do you care?

You've been here long enough to know better.

You're hot and you know it x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I’d say it’s because there is an influx of new blood on the forums who don’t know you or your mischievous way of wording a post. They don’t see the twinkle in the eye.

It was a bit naughty but I had to try and make it seem like a genuine thread cos Meli had said on the other one if someone did a parody thread people would be less inclined to rip into the Op.

I can use some of this for my book, how women can be nasty to each other sometimes when we should all be supporting each other.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"Don’t worry OP it’s just the green eyed monster from within others that’s appearing.

Actually I don't think it is that, I think a lot of people like to put down confidence, depending on who it is of course.

A bit like the threads that ask to rate their bits, there will always be people who want to put the person down whether they like their bits or not, just because that person is daring to ask

It comes across as nasty rather than jealousy

Do you honestly think that's what it is?

Just how it seems to me...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’d say it’s because there is an influx of new blood on the forums who don’t know you or your mischievous way of wording a post. They don’t see the twinkle in the eye.

It was a bit naughty but I had to try and make it seem like a genuine thread cos Meli had said on the other one if someone did a parody thread people would be less inclined to rip into the Op.

I can use some of this for my book, how women can be nasty to each other sometimes when we should all be supporting each other. "

Do you not think your mars bar comment yesterday was pretty nasty?

Why's it ok for you but not others?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’d say it’s because there is an influx of new blood on the forums who don’t know you or your mischievous way of wording a post. They don’t see the twinkle in the eye.

It was a bit naughty but I had to try and make it seem like a genuine thread cos Meli had said on the other one if someone did a parody thread people would be less inclined to rip into the Op.

I can use some of this for my book, how women can be nasty to each other sometimes when we should all be supporting each other. "

I could be misreading this but it feels like your goading people to get a reaction to write a book.

Whilst I agree some people where nasty, It now feels like that's the reaction you were hoping for so that you could say women don't support each other.

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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To the OP, it isn't just you it happens to, lots of threads are spoilt because people would rather put someone down rather than support them. The mens threads asking about size are normally the nastiest

I think it also depends on who it is that starts the thread as to what answers you will get and as someone else has said, you are a bit like marmite so you won't be getting 100% supportive messages.

I also think sometimes it is the way things are said, if a person alienates others to show their confidence it puts people on the defensive so you should expect answers to suit

Me, I think confidence is a great thing and should be celebrated, but there is a fine line between confidence and arrogance so it is getting the right balance.

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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"Don’t worry OP it’s just the green eyed monster from within others that’s appearing.

Actually I don't think it is that, I think a lot of people like to put down confidence, depending on who it is of course.

A bit like the threads that ask to rate their bits, there will always be people who want to put the person down whether they like their bits or not, just because that person is daring to ask

It comes across as nasty rather than jealousy

Do you honestly think that's what it is?

Just how it seems to me...

I was writing a big long post about this thread that sort of says the same thing as you. My previous post was a general post about many other threads

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Don’t worry OP it’s just the green eyed monster from within others that’s appearing.

Actually I don't think it is that, I think a lot of people like to put down confidence, depending on who it is of course.

A bit like the threads that ask to rate their bits, there will always be people who want to put the person down whether they like their bits or not, just because that person is daring to ask

It comes across as nasty rather than jealousy

Do you honestly think that's what it is?

Just how it seems to me...

I think this is important in understanding some of the responses, but there is more to it. Annie tends to trigger a lot of un conscious stuff in others and ends up a mirror for projection. She posts what appears to me, as an unfiltered stream of consciousness at times and that can bring up all sorts of murky stuff.

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By *ex HolesMan over a year ago

Up North

"Don’t worry OP it’s just the green eyed monster from within others that’s appearing.

Actually I don't think it is that, I think a lot of people like to put down confidence, depending on who it is of course.

A bit like the threads that ask to rate their bits, there will always be people who want to put the person down whether they like their bits or not, just because that person is daring to ask

It comes across as nasty rather than jealousy"

That’s all down to the readers interpretation. The beauty of a public forum is that it can be read in various ways.

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By *emorefridaCouple over a year ago

La la land

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"To the OP, it isn't just you it happens to, lots of threads are spoilt because people would rather put someone down rather than support them. The mens threads asking about size are normally the nastiest

I think it also depends on who it is that starts the thread as to what answers you will get and as someone else has said, you are a bit like marmite so you won't be getting 100% supportive messages.

I also think sometimes it is the way things are said, if a person alienates others to show their confidence it puts people on the defensive so you should expect answers to suit

Me, I think confidence is a great thing and should be celebrated, but there is a fine line between confidence and arrogance so it is getting the right balance."

Totally agree with this

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Don’t worry OP it’s just the green eyed monster from within others that’s appearing.

Actually I don't think it is that, I think a lot of people like to put down confidence, depending on who it is of course.

A bit like the threads that ask to rate their bits, there will always be people who want to put the person down whether they like their bits or not, just because that person is daring to ask

It comes across as nasty rather than jealousy

Do you honestly think that's what it is?

Just how it seems to me...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It came across as...

Just how it seems...

These words could be applied to the comments made by the poster lacking in confidence that started the ball rolling in this epic production

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By *hagTonightMan over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

Not good. I think cos there are alot of jealousy going on.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think it also depends on who it is that starts the thread as to what answers you will get and as someone else has said, you are a bit like marmite so you won't be getting 100% supportive messages.

I also think sometimes it is the way things are said, if a person alienates others to show their confidence it puts people on the defensive so you should expect answers to suit

Me, I think confidence is a great thing and should be celebrated, but there is a fine line between confidence and arrogance so it is getting the right balance."

I agree Ruggers

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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I only came back to this thread to make a jokey comment on your comment and now you've removed it. My joke is ruined

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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"Don’t worry OP it’s just the green eyed monster from within others that’s appearing.

Actually I don't think it is that, I think a lot of people like to put down confidence, depending on who it is of course.

A bit like the threads that ask to rate their bits, there will always be people who want to put the person down whether they like their bits or not, just because that person is daring to ask

It comes across as nasty rather than jealousy

That’s all down to the readers interpretation. The beauty of a public forum is that it can be read in various ways. "

So you actually think that when a man for example posts about his cock and asks people to rate it or does anyone want it that the ( mainly ) women are jealous of his cock so they say things like no chance, it is too small, it is too thin, no because it is connected to you ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It came across as...

Just how it seems...

These words could be applied to the comments made by the poster lacking in confidence that started the ball rolling in this epic production "

They absolutely could!

Difference is, that person wasn't asking for opinions...the OP is.

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By *emorefridaCouple over a year ago

La la land

Are we going to keep on peddling tired old cliches. Where that women will pull down the pretty ones, and that's all we want is a man? How old fashioned and quaint.

I celebrate women in all shapes and forms and I encourage then do the best in their lives, it's part of my job and my drive. I'm more than my looks or the man I happen to shag. I got myself a good education, a job that pays well and own my own house. I can stand on my own two feet without the need of a man (though it improves my life). I don't pull the ladder from under me so other females can't achieve or do better than me, I support them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It came across as...

Just how it seems...

These words could be applied to the comments made by the poster lacking in confidence that started the ball rolling in this epic production "

There really any need to drag NSP in to any of this??? She hasn't posted on this thread or many of the other subsequent threads started by the OP so really doesn't deserve to be dragged in to the shit storm.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It came across as...

Just how it seems...

These words could be applied to the comments made by the poster lacking in confidence that started the ball rolling in this epic production

They absolutely could!

Difference is, that person wasn't asking for opinions...the OP is.

Opinions/productive support

It's all about interpretation

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Are we going to keep on peddling tired old cliches. Where that women will pull down the pretty ones, and that's all we want is a man? How old fashioned and quaint.

full of wise words as always gorgeous!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Are we going to keep on peddling tired old cliches. Where that women will pull down the pretty ones, and that's all we want is a man? How old fashioned and quaint.

Spot on!!!! As usual I agree with everything you've said here!

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By *oncupiscence73Woman over a year ago

South

Actually it only seems to happen to me. Like other women can say it and it’s fine but as soon as I say it I get all the arrogant comments.

I’ll come back to this upon waking. "

I don’t think it’s about loving yourself ... I think it’s about how you express that. Almost like ‘protesting too much’ ...... I have no issues with my looks, body, and life - I don’t need to tell anyone that it just is fact. A bit like couples on social media posting how wonderful they are .... just a bit cringe tbh.

Just be... don’t try and justify who that is.

Ps I’ve not read the other thread btw.

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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I am guessing I am missing something , can someone point me in the right direction please

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By *oncupiscence73Woman over a year ago

South

"I am guessing I am missing something , can someone point me in the right direction please"

Think I’ve missed the point too lol.

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By *ex HolesMan over a year ago

Up North

"Don’t worry OP it’s just the green eyed monster from within others that’s appearing.

Actually I don't think it is that, I think a lot of people like to put down confidence, depending on who it is of course.

A bit like the threads that ask to rate their bits, there will always be people who want to put the person down whether they like their bits or not, just because that person is daring to ask

It comes across as nasty rather than jealousy

That’s all down to the readers interpretation. The beauty of a public forum is that it can be read in various ways.

No, what I’m saying is in the case of the OP she has stated that she is slated more than other women when she mentions her appearance. I’m my option from what I’ve seen and read it’s mainly other women who reply negatively and to me that seems very ‘green eyed’.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It came across as...

Just how it seems...

These words could be applied to the comments made by the poster lacking in confidence that started the ball rolling in this epic production

They absolutely could!

Difference is, that person wasn't asking for opinions...the OP is.

Opinions/productive support

It's all about interpretation "

It's also about intent.

That person didn't ask for any of what followed. She answered a question.

Not sure why you feel the need to keep bringing them into this on going saga tbh...its quite odd.

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By *emorefridaCouple over a year ago

La la land

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I am guessing I am missing something , can someone point me in the right direction please"

The thread Almost to good looking is where all this stemmed from.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It came across as...

Just how it seems...

These words could be applied to the comments made by the poster lacking in confidence that started the ball rolling in this epic production

They absolutely could!

Difference is, that person wasn't asking for opinions...the OP is.

Opinions/productive support

It's all about interpretation

It's also about intent.

That person didn't ask for any of what followed. She answered a question.

Not sure why you feel the need to keep bringing them into this on going saga tbh...its quite odd."

What she said!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's for context

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's for context "

Not relevant. Don't drag innocent parties in to things that aren't about them.

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By *alkdirty2meCouple over a year ago

20 miles south of Edinburgh

And the bitching from those who think they’re better than others, disguised as an women’s lib and feminism cal to arms continues

And wouldn’t you know it

Started by a woman, against other women

Ffs

Get a grip people, if you think you’re better looking, sexier, wealthier, fitter, younger etc etc than another woman, just leave it, no need to be a cunt about it

I promise you

In less than a week, you’ll be old news cos someone will have used a porn stars photos to make a fake profile and they’ll be hotter than you

Worse than being in a fucking play ground

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's for context "

This is a totally seperate discussion. No need to refer to that one comment someone made 3 threads ago.

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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"Don’t worry OP it’s just the green eyed monster from within others that’s appearing.

Actually I don't think it is that, I think a lot of people like to put down confidence, depending on who it is of course.

A bit like the threads that ask to rate their bits, there will always be people who want to put the person down whether they like their bits or not, just because that person is daring to ask

It comes across as nasty rather than jealousy

That’s all down to the readers interpretation. The beauty of a public forum is that it can be read in various ways.

I know some women ( and men ) can be bitchy but I think that is an insult to women who have an opinion. We can have an opinion based on what we think without it having anything to do with what someone looks like

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By *oncupiscence73Woman over a year ago

South

"Don’t worry OP it’s just the green eyed monster from within others that’s appearing.

Actually I don't think it is that, I think a lot of people like to put down confidence, depending on who it is of course.

A bit like the threads that ask to rate their bits, there will always be people who want to put the person down whether they like their bits or not, just because that person is daring to ask

It comes across as nasty rather than jealousy

That’s all down to the readers interpretation. The beauty of a public forum is that it can be read in various ways.

So any woman that has an opposing opinion to an attractive woman is jealous? Wow misogyny at its finest. The fact that this is all about external looks is a bit cringe in itself.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Don’t worry OP it’s just the green eyed monster from within others that’s appearing.

Actually I don't think it is that, I think a lot of people like to put down confidence, depending on who it is of course.

A bit like the threads that ask to rate their bits, there will always be people who want to put the person down whether they like their bits or not, just because that person is daring to ask

It comes across as nasty rather than jealousy

That’s all down to the readers interpretation. The beauty of a public forum is that it can be read in various ways.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Don’t worry OP it’s just the green eyed monster from within others that’s appearing.

Actually I don't think it is that, I think a lot of people like to put down confidence, depending on who it is of course.

A bit like the threads that ask to rate their bits, there will always be people who want to put the person down whether they like their bits or not, just because that person is daring to ask

It comes across as nasty rather than jealousy

That’s all down to the readers interpretation. The beauty of a public forum is that it can be read in various ways.

So any woman that has an opposing opinion to an attractive woman is jealous? Wow misogyny at its finest. The fact that this is all about external looks is a bit cringe in itself. "

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By *oncupiscence73Woman over a year ago

South

"Don’t worry OP it’s just the green eyed monster from within others that’s appearing.

Actually I don't think it is that, I think a lot of people like to put down confidence, depending on who it is of course.

A bit like the threads that ask to rate their bits, there will always be people who want to put the person down whether they like their bits or not, just because that person is daring to ask

It comes across as nasty rather than jealousy

That’s all down to the readers interpretation. The beauty of a public forum is that it can be read in various ways.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Don’t worry OP it’s just the green eyed monster from within others that’s appearing.

Actually I don't think it is that, I think a lot of people like to put down confidence, depending on who it is of course.

A bit like the threads that ask to rate their bits, there will always be people who want to put the person down whether they like their bits or not, just because that person is daring to ask

It comes across as nasty rather than jealousy

That’s all down to the readers interpretation. The beauty of a public forum is that it can be read in various ways.

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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Ok lets put this to bed now

It seems this was all carried on from other threads and is now carrying over to this one...so lets drop it now please

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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OK I looked at what stated this all off. If the people who are objecting to the first post the OP said to another woman it was a supportive post and the person who she was talking to thanked her for the supportive post so I am not sure why anyone else is objecting to it.

Please don't bring it onto any other threads now

Thanks

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