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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Have you ever been flirting with someone on here chatting to them and fancying them loads but you just cant imagen for the life of you ever being intimate with them because they are to good looking. Like they are to sexy to even imagen being in bed with???
Is it just me that thinks that? There is one or 2 women on here I chat to regularly and fancy the pants off them but I just cant see imagen it because they are just to sexy  |
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over a year ago
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Oh hell yes! But I'm still going to fuck him when I get the chance even if he is out of my league lmaoooo because what have I got to lose?
If they are into you then don't let your insecurities win and stop you from enjoying something that will be probably be a really good experience! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Oh hell yes! But I'm still going to fuck him when I get the chance even if he is out of my league lmaoooo because what have I got to lose?
If they are into you then don't let your insecurities win and stop you from enjoying something that will be probably be a really good experience! "
it's more just I cant imagen it some people I can visualise it happening but with some they are almost to sexy to even do that get what I mean?? |
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Yep, all the time.
Low self-confidence is a right bastard.
But I've finally got my head in the right place, feeling happier and more confident with than I ever have and I partly have FAB and some of the lovely people on here for helping me get there  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Every guy I’ve been with has been ridiculously good looking. I stare at their faces when they’re asleep like an absolute psychopath. "
annie your a very good looking woman with a great body so I think you probs get your pic of guys anyway. We are not all so fortunate after all I'm no oil painting  |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"Have you ever been flirting with someone on here chatting to them and fancying them loads but you just cant imagen for the life of you ever being intimate with them because they are to good looking. Like they are to sexy to even imagen being in bed with???
Is it just me that thinks that? There is one or 2 women on here I chat to regularly and fancy the pants off them but I just cant see imagen it because they are just to sexy "
Can't see it how? Do they give you the impression they'd never sleep with you and would keep you in the friend zone? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Have you ever been flirting with someone on here chatting to them and fancying them loads but you just cant imagen for the life of you ever being intimate with them because they are to good looking. Like they are to sexy to even imagen being in bed with???
Is it just me that thinks that? There is one or 2 women on here I chat to regularly and fancy the pants off them but I just cant see imagen it because they are just to sexy
Can't see it how? Do they give you the impression they'd never sleep with you and would keep you in the friend zone?"
no wuite the opposite |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"Have you ever been flirting with someone on here chatting to them and fancying them loads but you just cant imagen for the life of you ever being intimate with them because they are to good looking. Like they are to sexy to even imagen being in bed with???
Is it just me that thinks that? There is one or 2 women on here I chat to regularly and fancy the pants off them but I just cant see imagen it because they are just to sexy
Can't see it how? Do they give you the impression they'd never sleep with you and would keep you in the friend zone? no wuite the opposite "
Jesus, then what are you waiting for? A slap upside the head?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yep, all the time.
Low self-confidence is a right bastard.
But I've finally got my head in the right place, feeling happier and more confident with than I ever have and I partly have FAB and some of the lovely people on here for helping me get there "
Well going by your photos,you look great |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Have you ever been flirting with someone on here chatting to them and fancying them loads but you just cant imagen for the life of you ever being intimate with them because they are to good looking. Like they are to sexy to even imagen being in bed with???
Is it just me that thinks that? There is one or 2 women on here I chat to regularly and fancy the pants off them but I just cant see imagen it because they are just to sexy
Can't see it how? Do they give you the impression they'd never sleep with you and would keep you in the friend zone? no wuite the opposite
Jesus, then what are you waiting for? A slap upside the head? "
maybe that's what I need lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Theres a few on here....thankfully those girls dont even chat to me!  we both know that's not true bants
Have a look at Naughtybuttnice6996
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Ffs .... wow |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"Have you ever been flirting with someone on here chatting to them and fancying them loads but you just cant imagen for the life of you ever being intimate with them because they are to good looking. Like they are to sexy to even imagen being in bed with???
Is it just me that thinks that? There is one or 2 women on here I chat to regularly and fancy the pants off them but I just cant see imagen it because they are just to sexy
Can't see it how? Do they give you the impression they'd never sleep with you and would keep you in the friend zone? no wuite the opposite
Jesus, then what are you waiting for? A slap upside the head? maybe that's what I need lol"
A kick the arse too. Have at them  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Every guy I’ve been with has been ridiculously good looking. I stare at their faces when they’re asleep like an absolute psychopath.
Hahaha! Love that image!
Really 
Yep, completely appeals to my twisted humour "
it leads on to the next step then, sucking them off and fingering their arses. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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They’re probably just too sexy to you because you’ve built them up to be more than what they are in your head. By societies standards they’re more than likely just average women.
Don’t put people on pedestals.
We as individuals know deep down what we’re capable of pulling. I never question whether anyone is too good looking for me because I believe I am enough for anyone. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"They’re probably just too sexy to you because you’ve built them up to be more than what they are in your head. By societies standards they’re more than likely just average women.
Don’t put people on pedestals.
We as individuals know deep down what we’re capable of pulling. I never question whether anyone is too good looking for me because I believe I am enough for anyone. "
very wise words annie a new respect for you found there. I think your probably right I do sometimes believe that I'm not good enough for most people yet I still flirt and act all confident or at least try to yet I find myself not believing in myself and not aboe to see that person being intimate with me. I was the same when I first got with my wife it wasnt until it actually happened did I actually believe it. I do miss her so.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes, a few guys have had me thinking that they must need glasses. But on the flip side, I get messages from guys saying they are punching above their weight even imagining I would want them. Like people have said, it's about the sexual chemistry and mental stimulation. Unfortunately for me, I unfriended everybody because my private pics were being shared around the Forums and I didn't exactly know who it was and some people didn't take kindly to that so I blew my chances with a few people I really wanted. But hey, I'll make new, trustworthy sexy friends. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you think someone is too sexy for you or too intelligent or too anything you’ll subconsciously feel inadequate. Fuck that. If someone is obviously flirting with you and asking you questions and seems interested then chances are they are actually interested. If I’m not interested in someone I’ll either flat out ignore them or bluntly tell them not to message me. I wouldn’t waste my time communicating with someone I wasn’t interested in. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"If you think someone is too sexy for you or too intelligent or too anything you’ll subconsciously feel inadequate. Fuck that. If someone is obviously flirting with you and asking you questions and seems interested then chances are they are actually interested. If I’m not interested in someone I’ll either flat out ignore them or bluntly tell them not to message me. I wouldn’t waste my time communicating with someone I wasn’t interested in. "
makes sense although I will talk to people and message people just in a friendly sense also
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Agree with you OP.
However looks is one aspect but attraction is another.
The two are connected but not always.
Always a 50-50% chance OP.
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oh you flirt   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Confidence is a major thing with a lot I myself lack it loads I know I’m no oil painting but I put myself down more than I should but if the convo is flowing and flirting lots that must show some sort of attraction nobody should be to attractive for anyone really |
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I worked for a perfumery and cosmetic firm (I.T.) and there were a lot of good looking women there. However some (not all) of them had a lack of personality and/or bad attitude. This meant I did not find them attractive at all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Have you ever been flirting with someone on here chatting to them and fancying them loads but you just cant imagen for the life of you ever being intimate with them because they are to good looking. Like they are to sexy to even imagen being in bed with???
Is it just me that thinks that? There is one or 2 women on here I chat to regularly and fancy the pants off them but I just cant see imagen it because they are just to sexy "
Yes! I've been chatting to a woman on here who seems so far out of my league, but still seems to be in to me (or at least I think she is).
Not going to count my chickens, of course, but I'm glad that I took a risk and messaged her. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Confidence is a major thing with a lot I myself lack it loads I know I’m no oil painting but I put myself down more than I should but if the convo is flowing and flirting lots that must show some sort of attraction nobody should be to attractive for anyone really "
I'm an oil painting. Unfortunately it's one by Jackson Pollack  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Looks and attraction aren’t always the same.
I’m very average looking, it’s not a lack of self worth, I’m just a realist. I’ve slept with some very beautiful men though
I perhaps wouldn’t pursue someone that was ‘too’ good looking, but I’m sure sure as hell not going to turn them down if they show interest just because I would be ‘punching’ (hate that term). |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
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I'm always amazed whenever anyone takes the time to talk to me. I'm basically an insecure, not confident twat wrapped in layers and layers of fat and self consciousness.
I don't agree with the idea of leagues but I do find it hard to believe that the sexy people in my inbox actually want me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm always amazed whenever anyone takes the time to talk to me. I'm basically an insecure, not confident twat wrapped in layers and layers of fat and self consciousness.
I don't agree with the idea of leagues but I do find it hard to believe that the sexy people in my inbox actually want me."
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I do ponder this with the ones I have met in the past and I have also run away in fear of being pig pulled .
You just never know! "
I cant see your profile but from what I can see you do lnt look like a pig to me x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I'm always amazed whenever anyone takes the time to talk to me. I'm basically an insecure, not confident twat wrapped in layers and layers of fat and self consciousness.
I don't agree with the idea of leagues but I do find it hard to believe that the sexy people in my inbox actually want me."
dont be so silly your lovely |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Oh hell yes! But I'm still going to fuck him when I get the chance even if he is out of my league lmaoooo because what have I got to lose?
If they are into you then don't let your insecurities win and stop you from enjoying something that will be probably be a really good experience! "
I don't think anyone's out of your league Miss Buttercream.. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm always amazed whenever anyone takes the time to talk to me. I'm basically an insecure, not confident twat wrapped in layers and layers of fat and self consciousness.
I don't agree with the idea of leagues but I do find it hard to believe that the sexy people in my inbox actually want me."
That’s kinda sad. You have to believe in yourself before anyone else can. You are enough for anyone.
We’ve all got to make the best of what we’ve got. You’re only 41 and if you’re not happy with your body make small steps to change it. Sugar makes you fat, end of. Pick a week where you can do a food shop and try 6 consecutive days where you consume hardly any sugar at all. On the 7th day when you’ve seen how easily you dropped 8 to 10lbs in just 6 days you can have a treat so you don’t feel like you’re restricted and you have something to look forward to. I’d happily give you a full 6 days worth of meals if that’s something you wanted to do. |
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"I'm always amazed whenever anyone takes the time to talk to me. I'm basically an insecure, not confident twat wrapped in layers and layers of fat and self consciousness.
I don't agree with the idea of leagues but I do find it hard to believe that the sexy people in my inbox actually want me."
Why would they contact you if they didn't? |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"I'm always amazed whenever anyone takes the time to talk to me. I'm basically an insecure, not confident twat wrapped in layers and layers of fat and self consciousness.
I don't agree with the idea of leagues but I do find it hard to believe that the sexy people in my inbox actually want me.
That’s kinda sad. You have to believe in yourself before anyone else can. You are enough for anyone.
We’ve all got to make the best of what we’ve got. You’re only 41 and if you’re not happy with your body make small steps to change it. Sugar makes you fat, end of. Pick a week where you can do a food shop and try 6 consecutive days where you consume hardly any sugar at all. On the 7th day when you’ve seen how easily you dropped 8 to 10lbs in just 6 days you can have a treat so you don’t feel like you’re restricted and you have something to look forward to. I’d happily give you a full 6 days worth of meals if that’s something you wanted to do. "
That's really lovely Annie. Thank you for your support |
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I struggle to believe anyone apart from S would want me. I know and see he definitely DOES want me (it's fucking obvious!) but still question why. Why he'd want a woman with a horrible saggy tummy, saggy boobs, one functional leg who needs extra help and until recently, a broken vag (that's all mended now  )
Then it dawns on me. I'm not just some boobs, a tummy, wonky leg and vag. I'm me and he must love me. All of me, even the shit bits. That'll do me.
Basically, it's about the whole package, not just the shiny label on the front - No Frills (anyone remember that from Kwik Save?) was just as good as branded...... |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"I'm always amazed whenever anyone takes the time to talk to me. I'm basically an insecure, not confident twat wrapped in layers and layers of fat and self consciousness.
I don't agree with the idea of leagues but I do find it hard to believe that the sexy people in my inbox actually want me.
Why would they contact you if they didn't? "
This is what I keep telling myself. I'm just not good at listening! |
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"I'm always amazed whenever anyone takes the time to talk to me. I'm basically an insecure, not confident twat wrapped in layers and layers of fat and self consciousness.
I don't agree with the idea of leagues but I do find it hard to believe that the sexy people in my inbox actually want me."
Layers of fat actually attract type of guys I like. I've learned to love my fat for that reason.
Don't be so hard on yourself |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"I'm always amazed whenever anyone takes the time to talk to me. I'm basically an insecure, not confident twat wrapped in layers and layers of fat and self consciousness.
I don't agree with the idea of leagues but I do find it hard to believe that the sexy people in my inbox actually want me.
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"I'm always amazed whenever anyone takes the time to talk to me. I'm basically an insecure, not confident twat wrapped in layers and layers of fat and self consciousness.
I don't agree with the idea of leagues but I do find it hard to believe that the sexy people in my inbox actually want me. dont be so silly your lovely "
Aww thanks |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"I'm always amazed whenever anyone takes the time to talk to me. I'm basically an insecure, not confident twat wrapped in layers and layers of fat and self consciousness.
I don't agree with the idea of leagues but I do find it hard to believe that the sexy people in my inbox actually want me.
Layers of fat actually attract type of guys I like. I've learned to love my fat for that reason.
Don't be so hard on yourself "
Thank you |
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"I'm always amazed whenever anyone takes the time to talk to me. I'm basically an insecure, not confident twat wrapped in layers and layers of fat and self consciousness.
I don't agree with the idea of leagues but I do find it hard to believe that the sexy people in my inbox actually want me.
Why would they contact you if they didn't?
This is what I keep telling myself. I'm just not good at listening!"
You are but you're listening to the things that tell you you aren't good enough. That's why I dislike those flaming "do you feel you're punching threads" they just play into those types of feeling. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm always amazed whenever anyone takes the time to talk to me. I'm basically an insecure, not confident twat wrapped in layers and layers of fat and self consciousness.
I don't agree with the idea of leagues but I do find it hard to believe that the sexy people in my inbox actually want me. dont be so silly your lovely
Aww thanks "
I mean it posh your one of the nicest people I've spoken to on this site your kind caring and a very attractive woman dont ever doubt it for a moment x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm always amazed whenever anyone takes the time to talk to me. I'm basically an insecure, not confident twat wrapped in layers and layers of fat and self consciousness.
I don't agree with the idea of leagues but I do find it hard to believe that the sexy people in my inbox actually want me. dont be so silly your lovely
Aww thanks I mean it posh your one of the nicest people I've spoken to on this site your kind caring and a very attractive woman dont ever doubt it for a moment x"
Agreed |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm always amazed whenever anyone takes the time to talk to me. I'm basically an insecure, not confident twat wrapped in layers and layers of fat and self consciousness.
I don't agree with the idea of leagues but I do find it hard to believe that the sexy people in my inbox actually want me.
That’s kinda sad. You have to believe in yourself before anyone else can. You are enough for anyone.
We’ve all got to make the best of what we’ve got. You’re only 41 and if you’re not happy with your body make small steps to change it. Sugar makes you fat, end of. Pick a week where you can do a food shop and try 6 consecutive days where you consume hardly any sugar at all. On the 7th day when you’ve seen how easily you dropped 8 to 10lbs in just 6 days you can have a treat so you don’t feel like you’re restricted and you have something to look forward to. I’d happily give you a full 6 days worth of meals if that’s something you wanted to do.
That's really lovely Annie. Thank you for your support"
Honestly. I struggle with my relationship with food in the sense that I’m an emotional eater. It’s bad food like take aways and chocolate that make me happy (temporarily). I have to be in a good place in my head to even make the effort to want to eat healthy. I have to be in a good place in my head to even want to wash my hair cos sometimes I just think what’s the fucking point. But once I start doing little things like eating well and doing a face mask and even basic hygiene I feel better for it. My saving grace is my omelette maker, I love it, 16 quid in b&m and I have 3 egg whites, 1 whole egg, spinach leaves (they’re tasteless in the omelette) tomatoes, mushrooms and that makes 2 good size omelettes and it’s virtually no sugar, no trans fats and when I smash the omelettes for a week, weight drops off me. Anytime you want knowledge on this kinda stuff let me know. |
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"I'm always amazed whenever anyone takes the time to talk to me. I'm basically an insecure, not confident twat wrapped in layers and layers of fat and self consciousness.
I don't agree with the idea of leagues but I do find it hard to believe that the sexy people in my inbox actually want me."
Posh you're lush, stop listening to your own head. And don't listen to the minority of fucktards who say mean things, why does your brain always remember their words over the overwhelming nice stuff? Anyway I digress you are lush as you are, on your own admittion you have nice people in your inbox. Believe in yourself  |
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No I don't have this, but I have self confidence and trust in my ability to form a good lasting connection not a fly by night meaningless one. I want a good friend first then sex with them is awesome regardless of how pretty they are |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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Exceedingly good looking men make me go all shy and bashful and I can’t even look at them.
And on here I don’t chat to them, I tell them to go away as they make me nervous.
I’m a bit of a weirdo.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Exceedingly good looking men make me go all shy and bashful and I can’t even look at them.
And on here I don’t chat to them, I tell them to go away as they make me nervous.
I’m a bit of a weirdo.
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oh so that's why you never talk to me lol |
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"I'm always amazed whenever anyone takes the time to talk to me. I'm basically an insecure, not confident twat wrapped in layers and layers of fat and self consciousness.
I don't agree with the idea of leagues but I do find it hard to believe that the sexy people in my inbox actually want me.
That’s kinda sad. You have to believe in yourself before anyone else can. You are enough for anyone.
We’ve all got to make the best of what we’ve got. You’re only 41 and if you’re not happy with your body make small steps to change it. Sugar makes you fat, end of. Pick a week where you can do a food shop and try 6 consecutive days where you consume hardly any sugar at all. On the 7th day when you’ve seen how easily you dropped 8 to 10lbs in just 6 days you can have a treat so you don’t feel like you’re restricted and you have something to look forward to. I’d happily give you a full 6 days worth of meals if that’s something you wanted to do.
That's really lovely Annie. Thank you for your support
Honestly. I struggle with my relationship with food in the sense that I’m an emotional eater. It’s bad food like take aways and chocolate that make me happy (temporarily). I have to be in a good place in my head to even make the effort to want to eat healthy. I have to be in a good place in my head to even want to wash my hair cos sometimes I just think what’s the fucking point. But once I start doing little things like eating well and doing a face mask and even basic hygiene I feel better for it. My saving grace is my omelette maker, I love it, 16 quid in b&m and I have 3 egg whites, 1 whole egg, spinach leaves (they’re tasteless in the omelette) tomatoes, mushrooms and that makes 2 good size omelettes and it’s virtually no sugar, no trans fats and when I smash the omelettes for a week, weight drops off me. Anytime you want knowledge on this kinda stuff let me know. "
I never knew you could get omelette maker? I need to purchase one of these |
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over a year ago
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"I'm always amazed whenever anyone takes the time to talk to me. I'm basically an insecure, not confident twat wrapped in layers and layers of fat and self consciousness.
I don't agree with the idea of leagues but I do find it hard to believe that the sexy people in my inbox actually want me."
You my Friend are absolutely Goregous a total 10 !! And you are perfect just the way you are . Looks like just about Everyone sees it but you !! You should take a look in that mirror one more time!! Xo  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm always amazed whenever anyone takes the time to talk to me. I'm basically an insecure, not confident twat wrapped in layers and layers of fat and self consciousness.
I don't agree with the idea of leagues but I do find it hard to believe that the sexy people in my inbox actually want me.
That’s kinda sad. You have to believe in yourself before anyone else can. You are enough for anyone.
We’ve all got to make the best of what we’ve got. You’re only 41 and if you’re not happy with your body make small steps to change it. Sugar makes you fat, end of. Pick a week where you can do a food shop and try 6 consecutive days where you consume hardly any sugar at all. On the 7th day when you’ve seen how easily you dropped 8 to 10lbs in just 6 days you can have a treat so you don’t feel like you’re restricted and you have something to look forward to. I’d happily give you a full 6 days worth of meals if that’s something you wanted to do.
That's really lovely Annie. Thank you for your support
Honestly. I struggle with my relationship with food in the sense that I’m an emotional eater. It’s bad food like take aways and chocolate that make me happy (temporarily). I have to be in a good place in my head to even make the effort to want to eat healthy. I have to be in a good place in my head to even want to wash my hair cos sometimes I just think what’s the fucking point. But once I start doing little things like eating well and doing a face mask and even basic hygiene I feel better for it. My saving grace is my omelette maker, I love it, 16 quid in b&m and I have 3 egg whites, 1 whole egg, spinach leaves (they’re tasteless in the omelette) tomatoes, mushrooms and that makes 2 good size omelettes and it’s virtually no sugar, no trans fats and when I smash the omelettes for a week, weight drops off me. Anytime you want knowledge on this kinda stuff let me know. "
Posh my sweet, you are and would be BEAUTIFUL and worthy of love and adoration at ANY WEIGHT!
You have insecurities, like all of us...bits you don't like...but there is fundamentally nothing WRONG with your insides or outsides...
Sorry, but I hate this response.
Losing weight won't make you confident. And giving someone unsolicited weight loss advice is just a bit shitty imo.
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"Yes, a few guys have had me thinking that they must need glasses. But on the flip side, I get messages from guys saying they are punching above their weight even imagining I would want them. Like people have said, it's about the sexual chemistry and mental stimulation. Unfortunately for me, I unfriended everybody because my private pics were being shared around the Forums and I didn't exactly know who it was and some people didn't take kindly to that so I blew my chances with a few people I really wanted. But hey, I'll make new, trustworthy sexy friends. "
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There is no such thing as leagues... People are either attracted to you or they're not... There are people that fuck others they aren't attracted to but it is fairly easy to figure those out before you get too far... I have met alot of, what I consider to be, beautiful men that felt the same about me, even if I didn't. |
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"I'm always amazed whenever anyone takes the time to talk to me. I'm basically an insecure, not confident twat wrapped in layers and layers of fat and self consciousness.
I don't agree with the idea of leagues but I do find it hard to believe that the sexy people in my inbox actually want me.
That’s kinda sad. You have to believe in yourself before anyone else can. You are enough for anyone.
We’ve all got to make the best of what we’ve got. You’re only 41 and if you’re not happy with your body make small steps to change it. Sugar makes you fat, end of. Pick a week where you can do a food shop and try 6 consecutive days where you consume hardly any sugar at all. On the 7th day when you’ve seen how easily you dropped 8 to 10lbs in just 6 days you can have a treat so you don’t feel like you’re restricted and you have something to look forward to. I’d happily give you a full 6 days worth of meals if that’s something you wanted to do.
That's really lovely Annie. Thank you for your support
Honestly. I struggle with my relationship with food in the sense that I’m an emotional eater. It’s bad food like take aways and chocolate that make me happy (temporarily). I have to be in a good place in my head to even make the effort to want to eat healthy. I have to be in a good place in my head to even want to wash my hair cos sometimes I just think what’s the fucking point. But once I start doing little things like eating well and doing a face mask and even basic hygiene I feel better for it. My saving grace is my omelette maker, I love it, 16 quid in b&m and I have 3 egg whites, 1 whole egg, spinach leaves (they’re tasteless in the omelette) tomatoes, mushrooms and that makes 2 good size omelettes and it’s virtually no sugar, no trans fats and when I smash the omelettes for a week, weight drops off me. Anytime you want knowledge on this kinda stuff let me know.
Posh my sweet, you are and would be BEAUTIFUL and worthy of love and adoration at ANY WEIGHT!
You have insecurities, like all of us...bits you don't like...but there is fundamentally nothing WRONG with your insides or outsides...
Sorry, but I hate this response.
Losing weight won't make you confident. And giving someone unsolicited weight loss advice is just a bit shitty imo.
Lu "
When someone refers to THEMSELVES as “a self conscious, insecure twat wrapped in layers and layers of fat and self consciousness”.
I wouldn’t say I was giving unsolicited weight loss advice. I just saw someone unhappy and wanted to offer help or advice on how to change that. I wouldn’t tell someone yeah you’re perfectly fine as you are if I could see it was causing them to feel shit about themselves.
If I’ve offended her then I will obviously apologise and say now that it was not my intent to offend or upset. |
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"I'm always amazed whenever anyone takes the time to talk to me. I'm basically an insecure, not confident twat wrapped in layers and layers of fat and self consciousness.
I don't agree with the idea of leagues but I do find it hard to believe that the sexy people in my inbox actually want me.
That’s kinda sad. You have to believe in yourself before anyone else can. You are enough for anyone.
We’ve all got to make the best of what we’ve got. You’re only 41 and if you’re not happy with your body make small steps to change it. Sugar makes you fat, end of. Pick a week where you can do a food shop and try 6 consecutive days where you consume hardly any sugar at all. On the 7th day when you’ve seen how easily you dropped 8 to 10lbs in just 6 days you can have a treat so you don’t feel like you’re restricted and you have something to look forward to. I’d happily give you a full 6 days worth of meals if that’s something you wanted to do.
That's really lovely Annie. Thank you for your support
Honestly. I struggle with my relationship with food in the sense that I’m an emotional eater. It’s bad food like take aways and chocolate that make me happy (temporarily). I have to be in a good place in my head to even make the effort to want to eat healthy. I have to be in a good place in my head to even want to wash my hair cos sometimes I just think what’s the fucking point. But once I start doing little things like eating well and doing a face mask and even basic hygiene I feel better for it. My saving grace is my omelette maker, I love it, 16 quid in b&m and I have 3 egg whites, 1 whole egg, spinach leaves (they’re tasteless in the omelette) tomatoes, mushrooms and that makes 2 good size omelettes and it’s virtually no sugar, no trans fats and when I smash the omelettes for a week, weight drops off me. Anytime you want knowledge on this kinda stuff let me know.
Posh my sweet, you are and would be BEAUTIFUL and worthy of love and adoration at ANY WEIGHT!
You have insecurities, like all of us...bits you don't like...but there is fundamentally nothing WRONG with your insides or outsides...
Sorry, but I hate this response.
Losing weight won't make you confident. And giving someone unsolicited weight loss advice is just a bit shitty imo.
Lu
When someone refers to THEMSELVES as “a self conscious, insecure twat wrapped in layers and layers of fat and self consciousness”.
I wouldn’t say I was giving unsolicited weight loss advice. I just saw someone unhappy and wanted to offer help or advice on how to change that. I wouldn’t tell someone yeah you’re perfectly fine as you are if I could see it was causing them to feel shit about themselves.
If I’ve offended her then I will obviously apologise and say now that it was not my intent to offend or upset. "
Calm down...merely sharing an opinion.
If I see someone is unhappy or insecure with themselves, I personally try to help them see that they are wonderful without making changes, support them with the changes they want to make of course but I definitely wouldn't agree that they need to change and confirm their insecurities...
That's just me...
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Posh my sweet, you are and would be BEAUTIFUL and worthy of love and adoration at ANY WEIGHT!
You have insecurities, like all of us...bits you don't like...but there is fundamentally nothing WRONG with your insides or outsides...
Sorry, but I hate this response.
Losing weight won't make you confident. And giving someone unsolicited weight loss advice is just a bit shitty imo.
Lu "
Tbf, she did mention her size in relation to her confidence.
The best way for anyone to improve their confidence is to examine what they feel is at the root of their lack of confidence and work on what they can have control over in relation to that. Most other things are just a temporary sticking plaster |
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Posh my sweet, you are and would be BEAUTIFUL and worthy of love and adoration at ANY WEIGHT!
You have insecurities, like all of us...bits you don't like...but there is fundamentally nothing WRONG with your insides or outsides...
Sorry, but I hate this response.
Losing weight won't make you confident. And giving someone unsolicited weight loss advice is just a bit shitty imo.
Lu
Tbf, she did mention her size in relation to her confidence.
The best way for anyone to improve their confidence is to examine what they feel is at the root of their lack of confidence and work on what they can have control over in relation to that. Most other things are just a temporary sticking plaster "
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Posh my sweet, you are and would be BEAUTIFUL and worthy of love and adoration at ANY WEIGHT!
You have insecurities, like all of us...bits you don't like...but there is fundamentally nothing WRONG with your insides or outsides...
Sorry, but I hate this response.
Losing weight won't make you confident. And giving someone unsolicited weight loss advice is just a bit shitty imo.
Lu
Tbf, she did mention her size in relation to her confidence.
The best way for anyone to improve their confidence is to examine what they feel is at the root of their lack of confidence and work on what they can have control over in relation to that. Most other things are just a temporary sticking plaster
missing my point "
Which is what? |
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Posh my sweet, you are and would be BEAUTIFUL and worthy of love and adoration at ANY WEIGHT!
You have insecurities, like all of us...bits you don't like...but there is fundamentally nothing WRONG with your insides or outsides...
Sorry, but I hate this response.
Losing weight won't make you confident. And giving someone unsolicited weight loss advice is just a bit shitty imo.
Lu
Tbf, she did mention her size in relation to her confidence.
The best way for anyone to improve their confidence is to examine what they feel is at the root of their lack of confidence and work on what they can have control over in relation to that. Most other things are just a temporary sticking plaster
missing my point
Which is what?"
Someone comes to you and says they're insecure and feeling unhappy with themselves...
Why?
Because of their nose...it's too big in their mind...
Do you tell them they need a nose job? "You're right Brenda, your snoz is massive...get it fixed"
PERSONALLY...I think it's healthier, more constructive and far more empowering to help someone see and have the confidence to believe that they are just fine as they are!
I think it's shitty to reinforce someone's insecurities.
That's just what I would do...again, sharing an opinion...i don't expect everyone to agree with me |
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"I'm always amazed whenever anyone takes the time to talk to me. I'm basically an insecure, not confident twat wrapped in layers and layers of fat and self consciousness.
I don't agree with the idea of leagues but I do find it hard to believe that the sexy people in my inbox actually want me.
That’s kinda sad. You have to believe in yourself before anyone else can. You are enough for anyone.
We’ve all got to make the best of what we’ve got. You’re only 41 and if you’re not happy with your body make small steps to change it. Sugar makes you fat, end of. Pick a week where you can do a food shop and try 6 consecutive days where you consume hardly any sugar at all. On the 7th day when you’ve seen how easily you dropped 8 to 10lbs in just 6 days you can have a treat so you don’t feel like you’re restricted and you have something to look forward to. I’d happily give you a full 6 days worth of meals if that’s something you wanted to do.
That's really lovely Annie. Thank you for your support
Honestly. I struggle with my relationship with food in the sense that I’m an emotional eater. It’s bad food like take aways and chocolate that make me happy (temporarily). I have to be in a good place in my head to even make the effort to want to eat healthy. I have to be in a good place in my head to even want to wash my hair cos sometimes I just think what’s the fucking point. But once I start doing little things like eating well and doing a face mask and even basic hygiene I feel better for it. My saving grace is my omelette maker, I love it, 16 quid in b&m and I have 3 egg whites, 1 whole egg, spinach leaves (they’re tasteless in the omelette) tomatoes, mushrooms and that makes 2 good size omelettes and it’s virtually no sugar, no trans fats and when I smash the omelettes for a week, weight drops off me. Anytime you want knowledge on this kinda stuff let me know.
Posh my sweet, you are and would be BEAUTIFUL and worthy of love and adoration at ANY WEIGHT!
You have insecurities, like all of us...bits you don't like...but there is fundamentally nothing WRONG with your insides or outsides...
Sorry, but I hate this response.
Losing weight won't make you confident. And giving someone unsolicited weight loss advice is just a bit shitty imo.
Lu
When someone refers to THEMSELVES as “a self conscious, insecure twat wrapped in layers and layers of fat and self consciousness”.
I wouldn’t say I was giving unsolicited weight loss advice. I just saw someone unhappy and wanted to offer help or advice on how to change that. I wouldn’t tell someone yeah you’re perfectly fine as you are if I could see it was causing them to feel shit about themselves.
If I’ve offended her then I will obviously apologise and say now that it was not my intent to offend or upset.
Calm down...merely sharing an opinion.
If I see someone is unhappy or insecure with themselves, I personally try to help them see that they are wonderful without making changes, support them with the changes they want to make of course but I definitely wouldn't agree that they need to change and confirm their insecurities...
That's just me...
"
And it’s just me to be the person who doesn’t lie. If one of my friends asks me if their outfit looks good and I think it looks shit I’ll tell them to change it. If one of my friends moans at me that they’ve put on weight I’ll say yes you have, let’s do this and that and get that weight back off so you feel better about yourself again.
If someone on the forum says that their weight makes them feel self conscious I won’t say okay stay exactly how you are and therefore nothing will change. I’ll try and find out their lifestyle and relationship with food and eating habits and tell them where they can make subtle easy changes that will help them drop fat.
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Yes, I do question why some men want to meet me. I know it’s my confidence in myself that’s the issue but it’s very hard when it’s younger and slimmer ladies that get the attention. X |
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"I'm always amazed whenever anyone takes the time to talk to me. I'm basically an insecure, not confident twat wrapped in layers and layers of fat and self consciousness.
I don't agree with the idea of leagues but I do find it hard to believe that the sexy people in my inbox actually want me.
That’s kinda sad. You have to believe in yourself before anyone else can. You are enough for anyone.
We’ve all got to make the best of what we’ve got. You’re only 41 and if you’re not happy with your body make small steps to change it. Sugar makes you fat, end of. Pick a week where you can do a food shop and try 6 consecutive days where you consume hardly any sugar at all. On the 7th day when you’ve seen how easily you dropped 8 to 10lbs in just 6 days you can have a treat so you don’t feel like you’re restricted and you have something to look forward to. I’d happily give you a full 6 days worth of meals if that’s something you wanted to do.
That's really lovely Annie. Thank you for your support
Honestly. I struggle with my relationship with food in the sense that I’m an emotional eater. It’s bad food like take aways and chocolate that make me happy (temporarily). I have to be in a good place in my head to even make the effort to want to eat healthy. I have to be in a good place in my head to even want to wash my hair cos sometimes I just think what’s the fucking point. But once I start doing little things like eating well and doing a face mask and even basic hygiene I feel better for it. My saving grace is my omelette maker, I love it, 16 quid in b&m and I have 3 egg whites, 1 whole egg, spinach leaves (they’re tasteless in the omelette) tomatoes, mushrooms and that makes 2 good size omelettes and it’s virtually no sugar, no trans fats and when I smash the omelettes for a week, weight drops off me. Anytime you want knowledge on this kinda stuff let me know.
Posh my sweet, you are and would be BEAUTIFUL and worthy of love and adoration at ANY WEIGHT!
You have insecurities, like all of us...bits you don't like...but there is fundamentally nothing WRONG with your insides or outsides...
Sorry, but I hate this response.
Losing weight won't make you confident. And giving someone unsolicited weight loss advice is just a bit shitty imo.
Lu
When someone refers to THEMSELVES as “a self conscious, insecure twat wrapped in layers and layers of fat and self consciousness”.
I wouldn’t say I was giving unsolicited weight loss advice. I just saw someone unhappy and wanted to offer help or advice on how to change that. I wouldn’t tell someone yeah you’re perfectly fine as you are if I could see it was causing them to feel shit about themselves.
If I’ve offended her then I will obviously apologise and say now that it was not my intent to offend or upset.
Calm down...merely sharing an opinion.
If I see someone is unhappy or insecure with themselves, I personally try to help them see that they are wonderful without making changes, support them with the changes they want to make of course but I definitely wouldn't agree that they need to change and confirm their insecurities...
That's just me...
And it’s just me to be the person who doesn’t lie. If one of my friends asks me if their outfit looks good and I think it looks shit I’ll tell them to change it. If one of my friends moans at me that they’ve put on weight I’ll say yes you have, let’s do this and that and get that weight back off so you feel better about yourself again.
If someone on the forum says that their weight makes them feel self conscious I won’t say okay stay exactly how you are and therefore nothing will change. I’ll try and find out their lifestyle and relationship with food and eating habits and tell them where they can make subtle easy changes that will help them drop fat.
"
I never lie if someone asks me an opinion.
I wouldn't tell someone who was fat that they weren't. That's not what I'm doing here...
I simply wouldn't make them think that they need to lose weight in order to be happy or confident. If they want to, great, I'll support them. But I don't think reinforcing people's insecurities is a positive thing to do. As I say, that's just me, I'm not saying you should be the same |
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"I'm always amazed whenever anyone takes the time to talk to me. I'm basically an insecure, not confident twat wrapped in layers and layers of fat and self consciousness.
I don't agree with the idea of leagues but I do find it hard to believe that the sexy people in my inbox actually want me.
That’s kinda sad. You have to believe in yourself before anyone else can. You are enough for anyone.
We’ve all got to make the best of what we’ve got. You’re only 41 and if you’re not happy with your body make small steps to change it. Sugar makes you fat, end of. Pick a week where you can do a food shop and try 6 consecutive days where you consume hardly any sugar at all. On the 7th day when you’ve seen how easily you dropped 8 to 10lbs in just 6 days you can have a treat so you don’t feel like you’re restricted and you have something to look forward to. I’d happily give you a full 6 days worth of meals if that’s something you wanted to do.
That's really lovely Annie. Thank you for your support
Honestly. I struggle with my relationship with food in the sense that I’m an emotional eater. It’s bad food like take aways and chocolate that make me happy (temporarily). I have to be in a good place in my head to even make the effort to want to eat healthy. I have to be in a good place in my head to even want to wash my hair cos sometimes I just think what’s the fucking point. But once I start doing little things like eating well and doing a face mask and even basic hygiene I feel better for it. My saving grace is my omelette maker, I love it, 16 quid in b&m and I have 3 egg whites, 1 whole egg, spinach leaves (they’re tasteless in the omelette) tomatoes, mushrooms and that makes 2 good size omelettes and it’s virtually no sugar, no trans fats and when I smash the omelettes for a week, weight drops off me. Anytime you want knowledge on this kinda stuff let me know.
Posh my sweet, you are and would be BEAUTIFUL and worthy of love and adoration at ANY WEIGHT!
You have insecurities, like all of us...bits you don't like...but there is fundamentally nothing WRONG with your insides or outsides...
Sorry, but I hate this response.
Losing weight won't make you confident. And giving someone unsolicited weight loss advice is just a bit shitty imo.
Lu
When someone refers to THEMSELVES as “a self conscious, insecure twat wrapped in layers and layers of fat and self consciousness”.
I wouldn’t say I was giving unsolicited weight loss advice. I just saw someone unhappy and wanted to offer help or advice on how to change that. I wouldn’t tell someone yeah you’re perfectly fine as you are if I could see it was causing them to feel shit about themselves.
If I’ve offended her then I will obviously apologise and say now that it was not my intent to offend or upset.
Calm down...merely sharing an opinion.
If I see someone is unhappy or insecure with themselves, I personally try to help them see that they are wonderful without making changes, support them with the changes they want to make of course but I definitely wouldn't agree that they need to change and confirm their insecurities...
That's just me...
And it’s just me to be the person who doesn’t lie. If one of my friends asks me if their outfit looks good and I think it looks shit I’ll tell them to change it. If one of my friends moans at me that they’ve put on weight I’ll say yes you have, let’s do this and that and get that weight back off so you feel better about yourself again.
If someone on the forum says that their weight makes them feel self conscious I won’t say okay stay exactly how you are and therefore nothing will change. I’ll try and find out their lifestyle and relationship with food and eating habits and tell them where they can make subtle easy changes that will help them drop fat.
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I punch myself daily...after 5 years I still dunno how he's mine
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Self assassination is the worst thing on fab or in fact anywhere.
I could easily say;
Too old,
Too fat,
Too hairy,
Too bald,
Too married.
Be easy to just walk away but then WD, someone out there wants a furry teddy bear to keep the cold winter nights at a distance and is equally happy to converse as much as play! (One hopes anyway, lol)
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I never lie if someone asks me an opinion.
I wouldn't tell someone who was fat that they weren't. That's not what I'm doing here...
I simply wouldn't make them think that they need to lose weight in order to be happy or confident. If they want to, great, I'll support them. But I don't think reinforcing people's insecurities is a positive thing to do. As I say, that's just me, I'm not saying you should be the same "
But you did say you hated my response and that it was shitty to offer unsolicited weight loss advice
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I never lie if someone asks me an opinion.
I wouldn't tell someone who was fat that they weren't. That's not what I'm doing here...
I simply wouldn't make them think that they need to lose weight in order to be happy or confident. If they want to, great, I'll support them. But I don't think reinforcing people's insecurities is a positive thing to do. As I say, that's just me, I'm not saying you should be the same
But you did say you hated my response and that it was shitty to offer unsolicited weight loss advice
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Absolutely!
I still hate it.
Still think it's shitty.
I'm not telling you not to say it tho...merely explaining why I wouldn't.
I don't need to agree with you, you don't need to agree with me, we're both allowed opinions and different ways of doing things.
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"I'm always amazed whenever anyone takes the time to talk to me. I'm basically an insecure, not confident twat wrapped in layers and layers of fat and self consciousness.
I don't agree with the idea of leagues but I do find it hard to believe that the sexy people in my inbox actually want me.
That’s kinda sad. You have to believe in yourself before anyone else can. You are enough for anyone.
We’ve all got to make the best of what we’ve got. You’re only 41 and if you’re not happy with your body make small steps to change it. Sugar makes you fat, end of. Pick a week where you can do a food shop and try 6 consecutive days where you consume hardly any sugar at all. On the 7th day when you’ve seen how easily you dropped 8 to 10lbs in just 6 days you can have a treat so you don’t feel like you’re restricted and you have something to look forward to. I’d happily give you a full 6 days worth of meals if that’s something you wanted to do.
That's really lovely Annie. Thank you for your support
Honestly. I struggle with my relationship with food in the sense that I’m an emotional eater. It’s bad food like take aways and chocolate that make me happy (temporarily). I have to be in a good place in my head to even make the effort to want to eat healthy. I have to be in a good place in my head to even want to wash my hair cos sometimes I just think what’s the fucking point. But once I start doing little things like eating well and doing a face mask and even basic hygiene I feel better for it. My saving grace is my omelette maker, I love it, 16 quid in b&m and I have 3 egg whites, 1 whole egg, spinach leaves (they’re tasteless in the omelette) tomatoes, mushrooms and that makes 2 good size omelettes and it’s virtually no sugar, no trans fats and when I smash the omelettes for a week, weight drops off me. Anytime you want knowledge on this kinda stuff let me know.
Posh my sweet, you are and would be BEAUTIFUL and worthy of love and adoration at ANY WEIGHT!
You have insecurities, like all of us...bits you don't like...but there is fundamentally nothing WRONG with your insides or outsides...
Sorry, but I hate this response.
Losing weight won't make you confident. And giving someone unsolicited weight loss advice is just a bit shitty imo.
Lu
When someone refers to THEMSELVES as “a self conscious, insecure twat wrapped in layers and layers of fat and self consciousness”.
I wouldn’t say I was giving unsolicited weight loss advice. I just saw someone unhappy and wanted to offer help or advice on how to change that. I wouldn’t tell someone yeah you’re perfectly fine as you are if I could see it was causing them to feel shit about themselves.
If I’ve offended her then I will obviously apologise and say now that it was not my intent to offend or upset.
Calm down...merely sharing an opinion.
If I see someone is unhappy or insecure with themselves, I personally try to help them see that they are wonderful without making changes, support them with the changes they want to make of course but I definitely wouldn't agree that they need to change and confirm their insecurities...
That's just me...
And it’s just me to be the person who doesn’t lie. If one of my friends asks me if their outfit looks good and I think it looks shit I’ll tell them to change it. If one of my friends moans at me that they’ve put on weight I’ll say yes you have, let’s do this and that and get that weight back off so you feel better about yourself again.
If someone on the forum says that their weight makes them feel self conscious I won’t say okay stay exactly how you are and therefore nothing will change. I’ll try and find out their lifestyle and relationship with food and eating habits and tell them where they can make subtle easy changes that will help them drop fat.
Also...have to say, I'm strughlinh to see where you tried to find out about their lifestyle/diet before you offered weight loss advice "
I was waiting to see if she wanted the help in the first place. I was telling her my own relationship with food and how I struggle to get in the headspace to want to eat well cos it’s not just about instantly changing your diet, that’s hard to do if you’ve got things going on in your mind. I was giving a bit of personal information about myself first to see if that made her comfortable sharing some information about herself.
You’ve kinda fucked the whole thing up now anyway by drawing attention to something that shouldn’t have even been a problem in the first place. I don’t believe posh would want this much discussion around a comment she made so I ain’t saying anymore other than if she wants any help or advice I am around. |
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"I'm always amazed whenever anyone takes the time to talk to me. I'm basically an insecure, not confident twat wrapped in layers and layers of fat and self consciousness.
I don't agree with the idea of leagues but I do find it hard to believe that the sexy people in my inbox actually want me.
That’s kinda sad. You have to believe in yourself before anyone else can. You are enough for anyone.
We’ve all got to make the best of what we’ve got. You’re only 41 and if you’re not happy with your body make small steps to change it. Sugar makes you fat, end of. Pick a week where you can do a food shop and try 6 consecutive days where you consume hardly any sugar at all. On the 7th day when you’ve seen how easily you dropped 8 to 10lbs in just 6 days you can have a treat so you don’t feel like you’re restricted and you have something to look forward to. I’d happily give you a full 6 days worth of meals if that’s something you wanted to do.
That's really lovely Annie. Thank you for your support
Honestly. I struggle with my relationship with food in the sense that I’m an emotional eater. It’s bad food like take aways and chocolate that make me happy (temporarily). I have to be in a good place in my head to even make the effort to want to eat healthy. I have to be in a good place in my head to even want to wash my hair cos sometimes I just think what’s the fucking point. But once I start doing little things like eating well and doing a face mask and even basic hygiene I feel better for it. My saving grace is my omelette maker, I love it, 16 quid in b&m and I have 3 egg whites, 1 whole egg, spinach leaves (they’re tasteless in the omelette) tomatoes, mushrooms and that makes 2 good size omelettes and it’s virtually no sugar, no trans fats and when I smash the omelettes for a week, weight drops off me. Anytime you want knowledge on this kinda stuff let me know.
Posh my sweet, you are and would be BEAUTIFUL and worthy of love and adoration at ANY WEIGHT!
You have insecurities, like all of us...bits you don't like...but there is fundamentally nothing WRONG with your insides or outsides...
Sorry, but I hate this response.
Losing weight won't make you confident. And giving someone unsolicited weight loss advice is just a bit shitty imo.
Lu
When someone refers to THEMSELVES as “a self conscious, insecure twat wrapped in layers and layers of fat and self consciousness”.
I wouldn’t say I was giving unsolicited weight loss advice. I just saw someone unhappy and wanted to offer help or advice on how to change that. I wouldn’t tell someone yeah you’re perfectly fine as you are if I could see it was causing them to feel shit about themselves.
If I’ve offended her then I will obviously apologise and say now that it was not my intent to offend or upset.
Calm down...merely sharing an opinion.
If I see someone is unhappy or insecure with themselves, I personally try to help them see that they are wonderful without making changes, support them with the changes they want to make of course but I definitely wouldn't agree that they need to change and confirm their insecurities...
That's just me...
And it’s just me to be the person who doesn’t lie. If one of my friends asks me if their outfit looks good and I think it looks shit I’ll tell them to change it. If one of my friends moans at me that they’ve put on weight I’ll say yes you have, let’s do this and that and get that weight back off so you feel better about yourself again.
If someone on the forum says that their weight makes them feel self conscious I won’t say okay stay exactly how you are and therefore nothing will change. I’ll try and find out their lifestyle and relationship with food and eating habits and tell them where they can make subtle easy changes that will help them drop fat.
Also...have to say, I'm strughlinh to see where you tried to find out about their lifestyle/diet before you offered weight loss advice
I was waiting to see if she wanted the help in the first place. I was telling her my own relationship with food and how I struggle to get in the headspace to want to eat well cos it’s not just about instantly changing your diet, that’s hard to do if you’ve got things going on in your mind. I was giving a bit of personal information about myself first to see if that made her comfortable sharing some information about herself.
You’ve kinda fucked the whole thing up now anyway by drawing attention to something that shouldn’t have even been a problem in the first place. I don’t believe posh would want this much discussion around a comment she made so I ain’t saying anymore other than if she wants any help or advice I am around. "
I'm ok with that...
I've been in constant communication with her...shes not upset by anything I've said here
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"I've never flirted with anyone on here. Says it all really.
Waaahhhh. I thought we talked about shagging on an alley behind the pub once. Don't tell me you were just leading me on "
I waited ages....  |
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"Yep, all the time.
Low self-confidence is a right bastard.
But I've finally got my head in the right place, feeling happier and more confident with than I ever have and I partly have FAB and some of the lovely people on here for helping me get there
Well going by your photos,you look great"
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"Have you ever been flirting with someone on here chatting to them and fancying them loads but you just cant imagen for the life of you ever being intimate with them because they are to good looking. Like they are to sexy to even imagen being in bed with???
Is it just me that thinks that? There is one or 2 women on here I chat to regularly and fancy the pants off them but I just cant see imagen it because they are just to sexy "
Cant say I experience such paralysis
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"I've never flirted with anyone on here. Says it all really.
Waaahhhh. I thought we talked about shagging on an alley behind the pub once. Don't tell me you were just leading me on
I waited ages.... "
Oh they all say that |
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"I'm always amazed whenever anyone takes the time to talk to me. I'm basically an insecure, not confident twat wrapped in layers and layers of fat and self consciousness.
I don't agree with the idea of leagues but I do find it hard to believe that the sexy people in my inbox actually want me."
I do ..You knkw that |
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"I'm always amazed whenever anyone takes the time to talk to me. I'm basically an insecure, not confident twat wrapped in layers and layers of fat and self consciousness.
I don't agree with the idea of leagues but I do find it hard to believe that the sexy people in my inbox actually want me.
I do ..You knkw that "
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"I'm always amazed whenever anyone takes the time to talk to me. I'm basically an insecure, not confident twat wrapped in layers and layers of fat and self consciousness.
I don't agree with the idea of leagues but I do find it hard to believe that the sexy people in my inbox actually want me.
I do ..You knkw that
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"I'm always amazed whenever anyone takes the time to talk to me. I'm basically an insecure, not confident twat wrapped in layers and layers of fat and self consciousness.
I don't agree with the idea of leagues but I do find it hard to believe that the sexy people in my inbox actually want me.
I do ..You knkw that "
it must be love love love dada |
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And no OP, I don't think like that. I've read all sorts over my years on here - from people saying they rate people out of 10, to them being "out of their league" etc. It's kind of sad in my opinion. Sometimes I do think it's said in an I want some positive affirmations but others they genuinely believe it. If someone is interested in you, accept it for what it is. |
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"And no OP, I don't think like that. I've read all sorts over my years on here - from people saying they rate people out of 10, to them being "out of their league" etc. It's kind of sad in my opinion. Sometimes I do think it's said in an I want some positive affirmations but others they genuinely believe it. If someone is interested in you, accept it for what it is. "
wise words _eli
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You tell all the boys no
Makes you feel good yeah
I know you are out of my league
But that won't scare away oh no
You've carried on so long
You couldn't stop if you tried
You've built your wall so high
That no one could climb it
But I'm gonna try
Would you let me see beneath your beautiful
Would you let me see beneath your perfect
Take it off now girl, take it off now girl
I wanna see inside
Would you let me see beneath your beautiful tonight
You let all the girls go
Make you feel good don't it?
Behind your Broadway show
I heard a voice say please don't hurt me
You've carried on so long
You couldn't stop if you tried it
You've build your wall so high
That no one could climb it
But i'm gonna try
Would you let me see beneath your beautiful
Would you let me see beneath your perfect
Take it off now boy,take it off now boy
I wanna see inside
Would you let me see beneath your beautiful tonight
Oh, tonight
See beneath ,see beneath
|Tonight|
You gonna climb on top your ivory tower
I'll hold your hand and than we'll jump right out
We'll be failing,failing
But that's ok
Cause i will be right here
I just wanna know
Would you let me see beneath your beautiful
Would you let me see beneath your perfect
Take it off now girl, take it off now girl
Cause i wanna see you say
Would you let me see beneath your beautiful tonight
Tonight see beneath your beautiful
Oh tonight, we ain't perfect, we ain't perfect
Would you let me see beneath you beautiful tonight
You no more no less than anyone
We always be atracted to someone and someone always will be atracted to us
There's no right maths there's no wrong numbers when there's conection an chemestry
PS don't build your walls to high .
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"You tell all the boys no
Makes you feel good yeah
I know you are out of my league
But that won't scare away oh no
You've carried on so long
You couldn't stop if you tried
You've built your wall so high
That no one could climb it
But I'm gonna try
Would you let me see beneath your beautiful
Would you let me see beneath your perfect
Take it off now girl, take it off now girl
I wanna see inside
Would you let me see beneath your beautiful tonight
You let all the girls go
Make you feel good don't it?
Behind your Broadway show
I heard a voice say please don't hurt me
You've carried on so long
You couldn't stop if you tried it
You've build your wall so high
That no one could climb it
But i'm gonna try
Would you let me see beneath your beautiful
Would you let me see beneath your perfect
Take it off now boy,take it off now boy
I wanna see inside
Would you let me see beneath your beautiful tonight
Oh, tonight
See beneath ,see beneath
|Tonight|
You gonna climb on top your ivory tower
I'll hold your hand and than we'll jump right out
We'll be failing,failing
But that's ok
Cause i will be right here
I just wanna know
Would you let me see beneath your beautiful
Would you let me see beneath your perfect
Take it off now girl, take it off now girl
Cause i wanna see you say
Would you let me see beneath your beautiful tonight
Tonight see beneath your beautiful
Oh tonight, we ain't perfect, we ain't perfect
Would you let me see beneath you beautiful tonight
You no more no less than anyone
We always be atracted to someone and someone always will be atracted to us
There's no right maths there's no wrong numbers when there's conection an chemestry
PS don't build your walls to high .
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"You tell all the boys no
Makes you feel good yeah
I know you are out of my league
But that won't scare away oh no
You've carried on so long
You couldn't stop if you tried
You've built your wall so high
That no one could climb it
But I'm gonna try
Would you let me see beneath your beautiful
Would you let me see beneath your perfect
Take it off now girl, take it off now girl
I wanna see inside
Would you let me see beneath your beautiful tonight
You let all the girls go
Make you feel good don't it?
Behind your Broadway show
I heard a voice say please don't hurt me
You've carried on so long
You couldn't stop if you tried it
You've build your wall so high
That no one could climb it
But i'm gonna try
Would you let me see beneath your beautiful
Would you let me see beneath your perfect
Take it off now boy,take it off now boy
I wanna see inside
Would you let me see beneath your beautiful tonight
Oh, tonight
See beneath ,see beneath
|Tonight|
You gonna climb on top your ivory tower
I'll hold your hand and than we'll jump right out
We'll be failing,failing
But that's ok
Cause i will be right here
I just wanna know
Would you let me see beneath your beautiful
Would you let me see beneath your perfect
Take it off now girl, take it off now girl
Cause i wanna see you say
Would you let me see beneath your beautiful tonight
Tonight see beneath your beautiful
Oh tonight, we ain't perfect, we ain't perfect
Would you let me see beneath you beautiful tonight
You no more no less than anyone
We always be atracted to someone and someone always will be atracted to us
There's no right maths there's no wrong numbers when there's conection an chemestry
PS don't build your walls to high .
nice of you to sing to me "
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absolutly not. Ive never felt anyone on here is too goodlooking. What even does that mean. If someone contacts me i assume they are interested. Ive been with all types of guys and never thought it for one minute.
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Nope I don’t think of anyone as too good looking. They are human I’m a human. My ex on here I would say in my eyes was absolutely beautiful but that’s because he was my type. |
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"Have you ever been flirting with someone on here chatting to them and fancying them loads but you just cant imagen for the life of you ever being intimate with them because they are to good looking. Like they are to sexy to even imagen being in bed with???
Is it just me that thinks that? There is one or 2 women on here I chat to regularly and fancy the pants off them but I just cant see imagen it because they are just to sexy "
I have zero self confidence and self worth.
If it wasn't for the fact that I have been extremely lucky to have married the most beautiful woman, I would almost certainly be very single and probably celibate.
I'm not fishing for compliments I'm just saying it like it is.
As a guy getting older is every bit as hard as being female ( menopause aside) going bald, putting on weight that is almost impossible to lose, eyesight, taking fucking ages to get hard. Add a below average penis size and an growing list of medical conditions.
I find it very difficult to understand why or how anyone would find me attractive let alone want to shag me, and on the rare occasion someone does show interest my stupid body let's me down.
But I am blessed to have an understanding and fantastic wife.
So you see us men suffer from lack of confidence, difference being guys are less likely to get compliments from other guy's and support.
As a hairy arsed builder I'm not supposed to be sensitive and have feelings. |
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"Have you ever been flirting with someone on here chatting to them and fancying them loads but you just cant imagen for the life of you ever being intimate with them because they are to good looking. Like they are to sexy to even imagen being in bed with???
Is it just me that thinks that? There is one or 2 women on here I chat to regularly and fancy the pants off them but I just cant see imagen it because they are just to sexy
I have zero self confidence and self worth.
If it wasn't for the fact that I have been extremely lucky to have married the most beautiful woman, I would almost certainly be very single and probably celibate.
I'm not fishing for compliments I'm just saying it like it is.
As a guy getting older is every bit as hard as being female ( menopause aside) going bald, putting on weight that is almost impossible to lose, eyesight, taking fucking ages to get hard. Add a below average penis size and an growing list of medical conditions.
I find it very difficult to understand why or how anyone would find me attractive let alone want to shag me, and on the rare occasion someone does show interest my stupid body let's me down.
But I am blessed to have an understanding and fantastic wife.
So you see us men suffer from lack of confidence, difference being guys are less likely to get compliments from other guy's and support.
As a hairy arsed builder I'm not supposed to be sensitive and have feelings."
Men are humans too.
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"Have you ever been flirting with someone on here chatting to them and fancying them loads but you just cant imagen for the life of you ever being intimate with them because they are to good looking. Like they are to sexy to even imagen being in bed with???
Is it just me that thinks that? There is one or 2 women on here I chat to regularly and fancy the pants off them but I just cant see imagen it because they are just to sexy
I have zero self confidence and self worth.
If it wasn't for the fact that I have been extremely lucky to have married the most beautiful woman, I would almost certainly be very single and probably celibate.
I'm not fishing for compliments I'm just saying it like it is.
As a guy getting older is every bit as hard as being female ( menopause aside) going bald, putting on weight that is almost impossible to lose, eyesight, taking fucking ages to get hard. Add a below average penis size and an growing list of medical conditions.
I find it very difficult to understand why or how anyone would find me attractive let alone want to shag me, and on the rare occasion someone does show interest my stupid body let's me down.
But I am blessed to have an understanding and fantastic wife.
So you see us men suffer from lack of confidence, difference being guys are less likely to get compliments from other guy's and support.
As a hairy arsed builder I'm not supposed to be sensitive and have feelings."
Well said this is very similar to myself |
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