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Personality over appearance

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

For me it's more important that I like a person for who they are than what they look like. Dont get me wrong there has to be some kind of attraction to wanna have sex with someone but honestly that attraction can come from personality as much as looks. Nice people no matter what they look.like will always get my attention because I'd rather like a person than a body with no personality. What do you all think??

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By *hrista BellendWoman over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

No. If I find them attractive then I would have sex with them, if I don't find them attractive I would friend zone them, no matter how much I like their personality

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By *asha86Couple over a year ago

walsall

For us it has to be a mix of both if they are attractive but up themselves then its a turn off ... it has to be a mix of attraction and personality otherwise it just wont flow right

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By *hilloutMan over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

If we're discussing appreciating someone for who they are, absolutely.

If we're talking attraction and sex it doesn't matter how amazing the personality is; if physical attraction isn't there personality can't compensate and nothing sexual will be possible.

I don't find this shallow either.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Our sexual attraction is pretty much set out genetically so whilst I couldn't enjoy someone without mental attraction there has to be a certain amount of physical attraction but it really isn't as important for me. I very much have a body type I'm attracted to and pretty much believe that won't change much now

True sapiophiles are the exception to the physical attraction rule as for them the turn on is solely the other person's intelligence & the brain as looks don't matter at all!

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By *luebell888Woman over a year ago

Glasgowish

I know loads of people i get on very well with but that does not mean i want to get naked with them all. There always needs to be a physical attraction too for me.

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By *oxychicWoman over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

"If we're discussing appreciating someone for who they are, absolutely.

If we're talking attraction and sex it doesn't matter how amazing the personality is; if physical attraction isn't there personality can't compensate and nothing sexual will be possible.

I don't find this shallow either."
this

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By *andyfloss2000Woman over a year ago

ashford

Has to b a bit of both for me x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Both, if one is missing its not going to work for me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Both, if one is missing its not going to work for me

This

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If we're discussing appreciating someone for who they are, absolutely.

If we're talking attraction and sex it doesn't matter how amazing the personality is; if physical attraction isn't there personality can't compensate and nothing sexual will be possible.

I don't find this shallow either."

I agree

Her x

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS over a year ago

London

"If we're discussing appreciating someone for who they are, absolutely.

If we're talking attraction and sex it doesn't matter how amazing the personality is; if physical attraction isn't there personality can't compensate and nothing sexual will be possible.

I don't find this shallow either."

Agree.

Physical attraction might determine the first meet.

Personality will decide if there is a repeat meet and becoming a regular.

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By *rMrsBrightsideCouple over a year ago

Newcastle

Definitely need both. I have found myself becoming more attracted to someone as I get to know them but there has to be something there to start with.

Mrs x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Looks first. I’m shallow as fuck. I’m not here to fuck personalities

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By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"If we're discussing appreciating someone for who they are, absolutely.

If we're talking attraction and sex it doesn't matter how amazing the personality is; if physical attraction isn't there personality can't compensate and nothing sexual will be possible.

I don't find this shallow either."

This about sums it up for me with the slight caveat that personality *can* lead to a physical attraction that may not have been immediate, just as an ugly personality can kill an immediate physical attraction dead in its tracks

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nobody would have sex with John Merrick because they made them laugh.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Definitely need both. I have found myself becoming more attracted to someone as I get to know them but there has to be something there to start with.

Mrs x"
I think this is what I mean maybe at first only a small attraction but after time it builds because of who they are

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Definitely need both. I have found myself becoming more attracted to someone as I get to know them but there has to be something there to start with.

Mrs x"

This I do agree with x

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By *iamondCougarWoman over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"If we're discussing appreciating someone for who they are, absolutely.

If we're talking attraction and sex it doesn't matter how amazing the personality is; if physical attraction isn't there personality can't compensate and nothing sexual will be possible.

I don't find this shallow either."

Perfectly put!

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By *ily WhiteWoman over a year ago

I'm firmly in the "needs physical attraction to get jiggy" camp.

I don't think many people have "bad" personalities anyway, it's usually just incompatibility with your own personality that makes them unappealing to you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Judging by the replies I (don’t) receive I am inclined to believe that more of you go for looks than you admit. I bet the guy with the ripped body gets more replies than dad bod me. How can personality be judged if not given the chance?

Just sayin lol x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Judging by the replies I (don’t) receive I am inclined to believe that more of you go for looks than you admit. I bet the guy with the ripped body gets more replies than dad bod me. How can personality be judged if not given the chance?

Just sayin lol x"
well indeed your pain but I have a dad bod I'm hairy and I'm not the best looking guy either but I've made a few good friends on here and also had a couple of meet and if certain people didnt live so far away in sure more meets would have happened by now also.

I think some people just get lucky

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By *rHotNottsMan over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

They don’t need to be ‘nice’ but I have to like them and want them as a person, and then they become gorgeous

Have you never gotten to know someone, become besotted, then wondered how the hell you never found them sexy when you first met?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've always said that there has to be an attraction now you can't just based on personality iqos for me I prefer someone that can understand my banter. Noticed a few people on here can't understand my banter that's why they blocked me hahaha

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

On a dating site obviously a good personality would matter yes but not so much a swingers site.

It totally depends what you're seeking on here though. I will chat with anyone on here but will only ever play with a select few.

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By *elshkinkyMan over a year ago

south wales

I’ve never wanted to rip clothes off someone with a good personality or someone attractive. If they have both then I’m sorry the clothes aren’t going to last long (consent allowing obviously)

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By *hrista BellendWoman over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Just sayin lol x"

That is true but on face pic first sites, its purely on looks as to what makes you open that profile, on here its bodies and words for the majority of profiles, I know if I saw some of the guys I chat too had face pics up first, I would have swiped left, and missed out on a good friend

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By *2000ManMan over a year ago

Worthing

Men will like women on personality...women won't, such is fab and life in general! Probably the reason some women will correspond with a man in prison no matter what the crime.

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By * and R cple4Couple over a year ago

swansea

"If we're discussing appreciating someone for who they are, absolutely.

If we're talking attraction and sex it doesn't matter how amazing the personality is; if physical attraction isn't there personality can't compensate and nothing sexual will be possible.

I don't find this shallow either.

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By *hunky GentMan over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Having a nice personality will do many things to improve a friendship on here, but in most cases you have to find them physically attractive too.

Im not saying you have to be a super model, but having blue underwear helps.

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By *etite_delightWoman over a year ago

BunnyLand

Considering all good at heart, I guess it depends on what I’m looking for. I don’t mind whether our personalities match or not while swinging in a club. Our common ground and the initial attraction wins over

However, if I want more regular meets, personality can be as important as the attraction. They go hand in hand to keep the passion going.

Personality can enhance or kill the mood in that respect. So, on its own, doesn’t really do much for me

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By *ed VoluptaWoman over a year ago

Wirral.

Just sayin lol x"

Yes, physical attraction plays a huge part but it's more in the face and eyes for me. Difficult on this site, as most people don't show their face. But you certainly don't have to have a ripped body in my opinion. And I've found that having a laugh on the forums is a great signpost too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"For me it's more important that I like a person for who they are than what they look like. Dont get me wrong there has to be some kind of attraction to wanna have sex with someone but honestly that attraction can come from personality as much as looks. Nice people no matter what they look.like will always get my attention because I'd rather like a person than a body with no personality. What do you all think??"

Personality over looks every time for me. Oh and a big cock - Kate

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If we're discussing appreciating someone for who they are, absolutely.

If we're talking attraction and sex it doesn't matter how amazing the personality is; if physical attraction isn't there personality can't compensate and nothing sexual will be possible.

I don't find this shallow either."

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