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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Wondering how many eager men invade your inbox daily? I’m under the presumption that mine get lost in the sea of all the others
It’s not a competition by the way, just intrigued!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Since April I've had in the region of... a dozen messages from people I'm not in pretty consistent communication with. (my filters are set to "no")"
Ah sensible to keep us out lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Often none, but then I'm not looking for men 
Haha you’re lucky then!
I am. It also disproves the theory that men don't read profiles  "
Haha I bet. The question is though, do all these women who ask you to read their profile actually read yours |
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"Since April I've had in the region of... a dozen messages from people I'm not in pretty consistent communication with. (my filters are set to "no")
Ah sensible to keep us out lol"
Saves the agro of "no I'm not meeting during a pandemic" *shrug* |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I waste the day and try to answer messages all day there will still be loads I haven’t got to.
Inbox is currently on 388 but that’s an accumulation over a couple of weeks of the ones I didn’t get to. I’ll do a mass delete soon. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Often none, but then I'm not looking for men
Haha you’re lucky then!
I am. It also disproves the theory that men don't read profiles "
well says you responded 4 months ago to me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Often none, but then I'm not looking for men
Haha you’re lucky then!
I am. It also disproves the theory that men don't read profiles well says you responded 4 months ago to me "
most likely fuck off haha |
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We get fits and starts, but last night as an example, in the time it took to write a reply on forum, 6 FAF messages came through, two from men we'd deleted earlier in the evening. We've just deleted another this afternoon who sent the same FAF message in his workplace for the sixth  time  |
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"Often none, but then I'm not looking for men
Haha you’re lucky then!
I am. It also disproves the theory that men don't read profiles well says you responded 4 months ago to me most likely fuck off haha"
I rarely swear (true) and always respond to messages (eventually) as long as they don't make me  or  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Since April I've had in the region of... a dozen messages from people I'm not in pretty consistent communication with. (my filters are set to "no")
Ah sensible to keep us out lol
Saves the agro of "no I'm not meeting during a pandemic" *shrug*"
Very true! And some people are shocked and think that’s a ridiculous thing to suggest  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If I waste the day and try to answer messages all day there will still be loads I haven’t got to.
Inbox is currently on 388 but that’s an accumulation over a couple of weeks of the ones I didn’t get to. I’ll do a mass delete soon. "
That’s just ridiculous. Probably impossible for you to message people on here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Often none, but then I'm not looking for men
Haha you’re lucky then!
I am. It also disproves the theory that men don't read profiles
Haha I bet. The question is though, do all these women who ask you to read their profile actually read yours "
Depends.
My sequence tends to be:
Receive message.
Read opening line without opening it
Look at profile pic
Ignore if it’s a cock
Stupid name pussy destroyer or such: ignore
If all good so far open profile.
Full of cock. Ignore him.
Interesting pics I’ll then read his bio.
Still good I’ll then read the message. |
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"Often none, but then I'm not looking for men
Haha you’re lucky then!
I am. It also disproves the theory that men don't read profiles
Haha I bet. The question is though, do all these women who ask you to read their profile actually read yours
Depends.
My sequence tends to be:
Receive message.
Read opening line without opening it
Look at profile pic
Ignore if it’s a cock
Stupid name pussy destroyer or such: ignore
If all good so far open profile.
Full of cock. Ignore him.
Interesting pics I’ll then read his bio.
Still good I’ll then read the message. "
We have identical procedures,Rachael |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We get fits and starts, but last night as an example, in the time it took to write a reply on forum, 6 FAF messages came through, two from men we'd deleted earlier in the evening. We've just deleted another this afternoon who sent the same FAF message in his workplace for the sixth time "
Oh dear. He’s persistent, you’ve gotta give him that! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Often none, but then I'm not looking for men
Haha you’re lucky then!
I am. It also disproves the theory that men don't read profiles
Haha I bet. The question is though, do all these women who ask you to read their profile actually read yours
Depends.
My sequence tends to be:
Receive message.
Read opening line without opening it
Look at profile pic
Ignore if it’s a cock
Stupid name pussy destroyer or such: ignore
If all good so far open profile.
Full of cock. Ignore him.
Interesting pics I’ll then read his bio.
Still good I’ll then read the message. "
I’ll take note of that and brush up on my messaging skills then!  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Strict filters and not revealing myself results in not many messages "
That’s good though! Means there’s more chance of you finding what you’re looking for!
Where as my filters arent too strict and I still get no messages lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Even with my shit profile and pics.... if I put my profile to 'looking for men' I can get 50 messages in a day. More if I'm online after midnight when all the wives are in bed.
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"Often none, but then I'm not looking for men
Haha you’re lucky then!
I am. It also disproves the theory that men don't read profiles
Haha I bet. The question is though, do all these women who ask you to read their profile actually read yours "
I do. But most men don’t give anything to read. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Even with my shit profile and pics.... if I put my profile to 'looking for men' I can get 50 messages in a day. More if I'm online after midnight when all the wives are in bed.
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That’s crazy haha |
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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago
Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria |
I’d imagine single ladies get a ridiculous amount, even as a couple if we tick the meet single guy box we find it hard to reply to all the massages, soon as you do the guys respond again, sometimes they message again before you have had chance to read the first, think some girls would need a fab pa lol |
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"Since April I've had in the region of... a dozen messages from people I'm not in pretty consistent communication with. (my filters are set to "no")"
Well when even (very lovely) couples (who think you're great) can't message you.., |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Often none, but then I'm not looking for men
Haha you’re lucky then!
I am. It also disproves the theory that men don't read profiles
Haha I bet. The question is though, do all these women who ask you to read their profile actually read yours
I do. But most men don’t give anything to read."
Haha true. To be honest I still don’t really know what should be on my profile lol. I’ve got a few things but nothing exciting  |
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"Wondering how many eager men invade your inbox daily? I’m under the presumption that mine get lost in the sea of all the others
It’s not a competition by the way, just intrigued!
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0 today
0 yesterday
0 the day before
Love the filters |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If I waste the day and try to answer messages all day there will still be loads I haven’t got to.
Inbox is currently on 388 but that’s an accumulation over a couple of weeks of the ones I didn’t get to. I’ll do a mass delete soon. "
This is what I do. Shame really as I probably miss some really nice ones doing that. |
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"Often none, but then I'm not looking for men
Haha you’re lucky then!
I am. It also disproves the theory that men don't read profiles
Haha I bet. The question is though, do all these women who ask you to read their profile actually read yours
I do. But most men don’t give anything to read.
Haha true. To be honest I still don’t really know what should be on my profile lol. I’ve got a few things but nothing exciting "
It doesn’t say “fill in later” or “just ask” so you’re ahead of 80-90% of the male profiles I see. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I’d imagine single ladies get a ridiculous amount, even as a couple if we tick the meet single guy box we find it hard to reply to all the massages, soon as you do the guys respond again, sometimes they message again before you have had chance to read the first, think some girls would need a fab pa lol "
Oh yeah it must be crazy. To be honest I’m looking for work so might advertise myself for that |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Wondering how many eager men invade your inbox daily? I’m under the presumption that mine get lost in the sea of all the others
It’s not a competition by the way, just intrigued!
0 today
0 yesterday
0 the day before
Love the filters "
Lovely |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If I waste the day and try to answer messages all day there will still be loads I haven’t got to.
Inbox is currently on 388 but that’s an accumulation over a couple of weeks of the ones I didn’t get to. I’ll do a mass delete soon.
This is what I do. Shame really as I probably miss some really nice ones doing that. "
There are some half decent men out there (without beards)
Not me though I’m afraid! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Often none, but then I'm not looking for men
Haha you’re lucky then!
I am. It also disproves the theory that men don't read profiles
Haha I bet. The question is though, do all these women who ask you to read their profile actually read yours
I do. But most men don’t give anything to read.
Haha true. To be honest I still don’t really know what should be on my profile lol. I’ve got a few things but nothing exciting
It doesn’t say “fill in later” or “just ask” so you’re ahead of 80-90% of the male profiles I see."
Thats good I guess lol |
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"Wondering how many eager men invade your inbox daily? I’m under the presumption that mine get lost in the sea of all the others
It’s not a competition by the way, just intrigued!
0 today
0 yesterday
0 the day before
Love the filters "
The only reason I don't set all the filters on NO is because of playing games in the forum...
Id love to though |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"How many do guys get? I'd say 1 a week! Unless I'm on the forums lots and then a few more. "
I don’t get many. Probably had 3 people ever message me first and generally maybe 1 or 2 replies a week if I’m lucky |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Often none, but then I'm not looking for men
Haha you’re lucky then!
I am. It also disproves the theory that men don't read profiles
Haha I bet. The question is though, do all these women who ask you to read their profile actually read yours
Depends.
My sequence tends to be:
Receive message.
Read opening line without opening it
Look at profile pic
Ignore if it’s a cock
Stupid name pussy destroyer or such: ignore
If all good so far open profile.
Full of cock. Ignore him.
Interesting pics I’ll then read his bio.
Still good I’ll then read the message.
I’ll take note of that and brush up on my messaging skills then! "
The message is the final bit to worry about. Make sure your profile looks it’s best first x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If I waste the day and try to answer messages all day there will still be loads I haven’t got to.
Inbox is currently on 388 but that’s an accumulation over a couple of weeks of the ones I didn’t get to. I’ll do a mass delete soon.
This is what I do. Shame really as I probably miss some really nice ones doing that.
There are some half decent men out there (without beards)
Not me though I’m afraid!"
Haha. If you see any could you point them my way please? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Often none, but then I'm not looking for men
Haha you’re lucky then!
I am. It also disproves the theory that men don't read profiles
Haha I bet. The question is though, do all these women who ask you to read their profile actually read yours
Depends.
My sequence tends to be:
Receive message.
Read opening line without opening it
Look at profile pic
Ignore if it’s a cock
Stupid name pussy destroyer or such: ignore
If all good so far open profile.
Full of cock. Ignore him.
Interesting pics I’ll then read his bio.
Still good I’ll then read the message.
I’ll take note of that and brush up on my messaging skills then!
The message is the final bit to worry about. Make sure your profile looks it’s best first x"
I’ll try and sharpen that up a bit first then lol! I know it’s not the best haha x |
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By *edrickWoman
over a year ago
nottingham |
I've only just made my profile visable again after I was getting absolutely inundated. I had over 800 unread messages! People still dont read profiles if they did I'm sure they wouldnt bother messaging! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If I waste the day and try to answer messages all day there will still be loads I haven’t got to.
Inbox is currently on 388 but that’s an accumulation over a couple of weeks of the ones I didn’t get to. I’ll do a mass delete soon.
This is what I do. Shame really as I probably miss some really nice ones doing that.
There are some half decent men out there (without beards)
Not me though I’m afraid!
Haha. If you see any could you point them my way please? "
Can’t say I’m looking out for them but if I stumble across one I’ll send them over lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"With single guys filtered, 15 on a quiet day 50 on a busy. With single guys open, 50 is a quiet day and 200-300 is a busy day. Xx"
Keep them filtered lol. Far more simple |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've only just made my profile visable again after I was getting absolutely inundated. I had over 800 unread messages! People still dont read profiles if they did I'm sure they wouldnt bother messaging!"
Haha 800 is just madness! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Can I add on a question then - how many do you reckon are just cut and paste jobs that they are clearly sending to lots of people?"
Yeah I’m keen to know too! |
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"Can I add on a question then - how many do you reckon are just cut and paste jobs that they are clearly sending to lots of people?
Yeah I’m keen to know too! "
Isn't a cut n paste wayyy better than a "wanna fuk"? |
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By *edrickWoman
over a year ago
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"Can I add on a question then - how many do you reckon are just cut and paste jobs that they are clearly sending to lots of people?
Yeah I’m keen to know too! "
I'd say at least 50% are cut and paste. When they "quote" something from your profile that you've never written it's an isnt block from me! If you cant take a moment to read a profile there's no way they'll be the kind of person i want to meet! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Even with my shit profile and pics.... if I put my profile to 'looking for men' I can get 50 messages in a day. More if I'm online after midnight when all the wives are in bed.
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Exactly- don’t tick looking for men on your account and it reduces messages so much.
There are so many ways to reduce the number of messages received, that anyone moaning about receiving too many is just an attention seeker or stupid |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Can I add on a question then - how many do you reckon are just cut and paste jobs that they are clearly sending to lots of people?
Yeah I’m keen to know too!
Isn't a cut n paste wayyy better than a "wanna fuk"? "
Do people really just say that |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Can I add on a question then - how many do you reckon are just cut and paste jobs that they are clearly sending to lots of people?
Yeah I’m keen to know too!
I'd say at least 50% are cut and paste. When they "quote" something from your profile that you've never written it's an isnt block from me! If you cant take a moment to read a profile there's no way they'll be the kind of person i want to meet!"
Very true haha |
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"Can I add on a question then - how many do you reckon are just cut and paste jobs that they are clearly sending to lots of people?
Yeah I’m keen to know too!
Isn't a cut n paste wayyy better than a "wanna fuk"?
Do people really just say that "
Yes. Men say it. Couples say it. Women say it. Men get a terrible (and not exactly unfair) reputation but a good percentage of every single account type is garbage... |
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"Can I add on a question then - how many do you reckon are just cut and paste jobs that they are clearly sending to lots of people?"
Most of the ones that are longer than “hi” are copy and paste. I especially love the ones that start “hi both” or otherwise make it obvious it was meant for a couple. |
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"Often none, but then I'm not looking for men
Haha you’re lucky then!
I am. It also disproves the theory that men don't read profiles
Haha I bet. The question is though, do all these women who ask you to read their profile actually read yours
Depends.
My sequence tends to be:
Receive message.
Read opening line without opening it
Look at profile pic
Ignore if it’s a cock
Stupid name pussy destroyer or such: ignore
If all good so far open profile.
Full of cock. Ignore him.
Interesting pics I’ll then read his bio.
Still good I’ll then read the message. "
Same here Rachel although I don’t bulk delete the 100 or so messages that drop in my inbox daily |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Really depends on the time of the day and if I've been online much but probably about 20, if I upload a picture it can go up. I either ignore my inbox for weeks on end or I delete them as soon as they come through, there's rarely an inbetween. |
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"I have strict filters and a fairly niche profile
I love your sense of humour! You think most men read the profile?! Classic! "
I feel foolish now for reading profiles - this is clearly where I have been going wrong!! |
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"Can I add on a question then - how many do you reckon are just cut and paste jobs that they are clearly sending to lots of people?
Most of the ones that are longer than “hi” are copy and paste. I especially love the ones that start “hi both” or otherwise make it obvious it was meant for a couple."
That would be a give away!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have strict filters and a fairly niche profile
I love your sense of humour! You think most men read the profile?! Classic! "
I know they do because the opening message on 80% of messages is "I don't know what SSC or RACK are...but perhaps you can teach me... "
Block, delete, move on sigh  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have a fwb who I have persuaded to join fab just to see what it’s like and get a feel for it. She doesn’t have a profile pic or any info detailing what’s wanted. Within a day she got 80+ messages. |
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"I have strict filters and a fairly niche profile
I love your sense of humour! You think most men read the profile?! Classic!
I know they do because the opening message on 80% of messages is "I don't know what SSC or RACK are...but perhaps you can teach me... "
Block, delete, move on sigh "
What a load of PRICKs! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have strict filters and a fairly niche profile
I love your sense of humour! You think most men read the profile?! Classic!
I know they do because the opening message on 80% of messages is "I don't know what SSC or RACK are...but perhaps you can teach me... "
Block, delete, move on sigh
What a load of PRICKs! "
I see what you did there |
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