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What is it , where are they going wrong?
So many young guys on here looking for “older / mature”. Their words. I’m far too old now of course, but when younger I really liked women of my own age, or younger. In my mid to late forties I dated women in early to mid thirties and they were fantastic!
Are they doing something wrong? Or are men on their own age the problem? |
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over a year ago
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"What is it , where are they going wrong?
So many young guys on here looking for “older / mature”. Their words. I’m far too old now of course, but when younger I really liked women of my own age, or younger. In my mid to late forties I dated women in early to mid thirties and they were fantastic!
Are they doing something wrong? Or are men on their own age the problem? "
Theres alot of influences around. Meaning porn where as when you were younger, your mind wasn't stimulated as much as it is today.
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over a year ago
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The general impression is that younger people being inexperienced are not as good in bed so people want someone older and more experienced for a good time.
Logic is fairly sound but not always true |
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over a year ago
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"Personally speaking I think it’s because when women get to a certain age they not only know what they want/like but they’re also not afraid to get it..."
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"Personally speaking I think it’s because when women get to a certain age they not only know what they want/like but they’re also not afraid to get it..."
And they have seen and heard it all  |
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"What is it , where are they going wrong?
So many young guys on here looking for “older / mature”. Their words. I’m far too old now of course, but when younger I really liked women of my own age, or younger. In my mid to late forties I dated women in early to mid thirties and they were fantastic!
Are they doing something wrong? Or are men on their own age the problem? "
It’s called preference. There is nothing ‘wrong’ with younger women!
Younger women seeing this will not be happy. |
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"Personally speaking I think it’s because when women get to a certain age they not only know what they want/like but they’re also not afraid to get it..."
Yeah it’s pretty much that. A lot of girls my age are very vanilla in bed.
I wouldn’t look to date/marry an older woman as sex isn’t the priority in that but being on here the priority is good connection and good sex |
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In some cases the younger men find women their own age "hard work" this means essentially that they don't want the bother of a relationship and think an older woman can provide good sex, maybe teach them a thing or two and won't be wanting a text the next day or to be taken down the pub to meet their mates. |
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over a year ago
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Is it not that the thrill is going with someone different to their norm and it adds some excitement.
Older women are probably more confident have more experience. I know when I have been with someone younger I feel more confident and I take the lead more than work someone older. It works both ways I am sure some older women like having a toy boy. And there are younger women seeking older men.
It's like single men wanting a married woman you shouldn't have her but you want her.
Also white couples wanting a BBC it's seen as something different and exciting even though the body parts and actions are the same. Just expands who you want to play with. Life would be dull if we didn't mix it up a bit. |
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"Is it not that the thrill is going with someone different to their norm and it adds some excitement.
Older women are probably more confident have more experience. I know when I have been with someone younger I feel more confident and I take the lead more than work someone older. It works both ways I am sure some older women like having a toy boy. And there are younger women seeking older men.
It's like single men wanting a married woman you shouldn't have her but you want her.
Also white couples wanting a BBC it's seen as something different and exciting even though the body parts and actions are the same. Just expands who you want to play with. Life would be dull if we didn't mix it up a bit. "
This is spot on |
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Women younger then myself just don't seem to understand the erotism of anticipation, and that arousal of the mind, this is only in my experience, and obviously every woman is different, this is just speaking from personal experience  |
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"Is it not that the thrill is going with someone different to their norm and it adds some excitement.
Older women are probably more confident have more experience. I know when I have been with someone younger I feel more confident and I take the lead more than work someone older. It works both ways I am sure some older women like having a toy boy. And there are younger women seeking older men.
It's like single men wanting a married woman you shouldn't have her but you want her.
Also white couples wanting a BBC it's seen as something different and exciting even though the body parts and actions are the same. Just expands who you want to play with. Life would be dull if we didn't mix it up a bit. "
Exactly you are so right. |
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"In some cases the younger men find women their own age "hard work" this means essentially that they don't want the bother of a relationship and think an older woman can provide good sex, maybe teach them a thing or two and won't be wanting a text the next day or to be taken down the pub to meet their mates. "
This plus the younger woman I’ve taken out for a drink tend to spend more time using Snapchat and are on their phones to hold conversation   |
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By *ondonerMan
over a year ago
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"Personally speaking I think it’s because when women get to a certain age they not only know what they want/like but they’re also not afraid to get it..."
That was exactly my experiences when I first tried a couple of clubs - that and they were happy to strike up conversation with me, and suggest they were interested, which certainly helped break the nerves of a club newbie! |
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"In some cases the younger men find women their own age "hard work" this means essentially that they don't want the bother of a relationship and think an older woman can provide good sex, maybe teach them a thing or two and won't be wanting a text the next day or to be taken down the pub to meet their mates.
This plus the younger woman I’ve taken out for a drink tend to spend more time using Snapchat and are on their phones to hold conversation "
Really! That's rude. Among our kids friend's they all seem to get along pretty well with their own age group |
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My 2 cents.. instant gratification.. in my experience older women tend to 'play along' more and dont get bored of simple conversation between play time and naughty chats. Seems younger generations want instant satisfaction and instant pleasure rather than putting in the time and effort to get it.
For example.. young girl messages hot guy, young girl wants "youre hot" "i want you" "youre {x} are/is amazing" etc. etc... so in a nut shell the guy doesnt feel wanted for who he is.. rather, what he can provide her. Older woman give more appreciation for the person instead of what they can give them, as the vast majority of men can provide the same basic pleasures, but not all can give the same experience an older woman is wanting |
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"In some cases the younger men find women their own age "hard work" this means essentially that they don't want the bother of a relationship and think an older woman can provide good sex, maybe teach them a thing or two and won't be wanting a text the next day or to be taken down the pub to meet their mates.
This plus the younger woman I’ve taken out for a drink tend to spend more time using Snapchat and are on their phones to hold conversation
Really! That's rude. Among our kids friend's they all seem to get along pretty well with their own age group "
Don’t get me wrong there’s some great girls my age but like you said with my limited experience it could be useful getting a few tips from someone more experienced also the expectation from woman older than me seem to be more realistic   |
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I can't help feeling this is all a bit unfair on younger women. When I'm out and about and even on fab younger women are far more popular than older. I know quite a few younger people via our kids and the job I used to do, they all seem OK to me with the odd exception |
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We are fun and naughty with no drama is what my 29 year old fb said 
But I am very aware that us playing together is stopping him from seeking out a relationship with someone his own age and starting a family, (yes he does want one). So I don't think I'd enter another fb relationship with a young man, a few fling dates but thats all  |
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"In some cases the younger men find women their own age "hard work" this means essentially that they don't want the bother of a relationship and think an older woman can provide good sex, maybe teach them a thing or two and won't be wanting a text the next day or to be taken down the pub to meet their mates.
This plus the younger woman I’ve taken out for a drink tend to spend more time using Snapchat and are on their phones to hold conversation
Really! That's rude. Among our kids friend's they all seem to get along pretty well with their own age group
Don’t get me wrong there’s some great girls my age but like you said with my limited experience it could be useful getting a few tips from someone more experienced also the expectation from woman older than me seem to be more realistic "
The only reason we're more realistic is because we've lived long enough to differentiate between real life and chick lit or porn. . Most (not all) older women do understand that casual sex is just that, they probably won't do anything daft like fall in love or turn up where you work and insist you snog them in front of your mates... probably  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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You're assuming a lot of these guys even have experience with "older women". Many of them will simply be not having much luck with girls their own age and assume it's a quick shortcut to sex to offer themselves up to imaginary horny cougar milfs who will forgoe any flirting/dating/expectations beyond being a young man with a hard cock.
After they've tried that for a bit and gotten noweher they'll just go back to trying and failing to pull women their own age! |
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Also, this is not me fishing for compliments by the way, I honestly don't believe that a guy of say 30 would willingly choose a woman of my age over a woman of his own if they were stood in front of him naked. |
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"In some cases the younger men find women their own age "hard work" this means essentially that they don't want the bother of a relationship and think an older woman can provide good sex, maybe teach them a thing or two and won't be wanting a text the next day or to be taken down the pub to meet their mates. "
Also it's more acceptable now to lust after a MILF or a GILF.
10 years ago it would have been seen as odd for a younger guy to "admit' to fancying older woman, now it doesn't really raise as much of an eyebrow.
That doesnt mean younger women are "doing anything wrong", just that people have different tastes and aren't afraid to express that.
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I think the issue is men are not appealing as much. From what I read and get told on here men over 6ft are like unicorns and most women now prefer a women’s touch to a mans  |
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"I think the issue is men are not appealing as much. From what I read and get told on here men over 6ft are like unicorns and most women now prefer a women’s touch to a mans "
Most women? |
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"In some cases the younger men find women their own age "hard work" this means essentially that they don't want the bother of a relationship and think an older woman can provide good sex, maybe teach them a thing or two and won't be wanting a text the next day or to be taken down the pub to meet their mates.
This plus the younger woman I’ve taken out for a drink tend to spend more time using Snapchat and are on their phones to hold conversation
Really! That's rude. Among our kids friend's they all seem to get along pretty well with their own age group
Don’t get me wrong there’s some great girls my age but like you said with my limited experience it could be useful getting a few tips from someone more experienced also the expectation from woman older than me seem to be more realistic
The only reason we're more realistic is because we've lived long enough to differentiate between real life and chick lit or porn. . Most (not all) older women do understand that casual sex is just that, they probably won't do anything daft like fall in love or turn up where you work and insist you snog them in front of your mates... probably "
Which is exactly what I like  |
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"I think the issue is men are not appealing as much. From what I read and get told on here men over 6ft are like unicorns and most women now prefer a women’s touch to a mans
Most women?"
In my experience of this site yes. |
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"In some cases the younger men find women their own age "hard work" this means essentially that they don't want the bother of a relationship and think an older woman can provide good sex, maybe teach them a thing or two and won't be wanting a text the next day or to be taken down the pub to meet their mates.
This plus the younger woman I’ve taken out for a drink tend to spend more time using Snapchat and are on their phones to hold conversation
Really! That's rude. Among our kids friend's they all seem to get along pretty well with their own age group
Don’t get me wrong there’s some great girls my age but like you said with my limited experience it could be useful getting a few tips from someone more experienced also the expectation from woman older than me seem to be more realistic
The only reason we're more realistic is because we've lived long enough to differentiate between real life and chick lit or porn. . Most (not all) older women do understand that casual sex is just that, they probably won't do anything daft like fall in love or turn up where you work and insist you snog them in front of your mates... probably
Which is exactly what I like "
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"I think the issue is men are not appealing as much. From what I read and get told on here men over 6ft are like unicorns and most women now prefer a women’s touch to a mans "
Not this woman! How can you say ‘most women now prefer a woman’s touch to a man’s’? How do you know this? |
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"I think the issue is men are not appealing as much. From what I read and get told on here men over 6ft are like unicorns and most women now prefer a women’s touch to a mans
Not this woman! How can you say ‘most women now prefer a woman’s touch to a man’s’? How do you know this? "
Read above...That’s my experience of this site. Do you search for women? |
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"What is it , where are they going wrong?
So many young guys on here looking for “older / mature”. Their words. I’m far too old now of course, but when younger I really liked women of my own age, or younger. In my mid to late forties I dated women in early to mid thirties and they were fantastic!
Are they doing something wrong? Or are men on their own age the problem? "
Because a lot of younger women like older guys so the younger men are left looking for women either younger than them or older ?
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"I think the issue is men are not appealing as much. From what I read and get told on here men over 6ft are like unicorns and most women now prefer a women’s touch to a mans
Not this woman! How can you say ‘most women now prefer a woman’s touch to a man’s’? How do you know this?
Read above...That’s my experience of this site. Do you search for women?"
I’d say your experience is not the norm... |
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"I think the issue is men are not appealing as much. From what I read and get told on here men over 6ft are like unicorns and most women now prefer a women’s touch to a mans
Not this woman! How can you say ‘most women now prefer a woman’s touch to a man’s’? How do you know this?
Read above...That’s my experience of this site. Do you search for women?"
Read above (my comment). |
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"I think the issue is men are not appealing as much. From what I read and get told on here men over 6ft are like unicorns and most women now prefer a women’s touch to a mans
Not this woman! How can you say ‘most women now prefer a woman’s touch to a man’s’? How do you know this?
Read above...That’s my experience of this site. Do you search for women?
I’d say your experience is not the norm..."
We obviously search for different women. And thank you for your opinion |
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"I think the issue is men are not appealing as much. From what I read and get told on here men over 6ft are like unicorns and most women now prefer a women’s touch to a mans
Not this woman! How can you say ‘most women now prefer a woman’s touch to a man’s’? How do you know this?
Read above...That’s my experience of this site. Do you search for women?
Read above (my comment). "
You wouldn’t come under my search so you wouldn’t be...most women. Is that better for you just because you have a different opinion to mine don’t mean you can look to make drama.  |
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Personally, it's the drama that comes with them. Young women tend to come with unnecessary drama, as mentioned above they also like to be on their phones a lot and think their friends need to see/know everything they do.
Finding someone that's as little drama/hassle as possible is key. Not saying it's impossible for young women either, again it's only my experience. |
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"*Nose piercings
*The massive drawn on eyebrows
*Vans pumps
*Glued to their phones/social media
Thats enough to put me off sub 30 year olds
Blimey I’m 60 and I have 3 of those things "
I'm under 30 and have none |
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"Personally speaking I think it’s because when women get to a certain age they not only know what they want/like but they’re also not afraid to get it..."
Exactly this. Having been with a few older women back in my twenties, I completely agree.
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I’ve always had a preference for women at least
My own age and usually quite a lot older. Even 20 years ago - it’s largely because I found (find...?) women less than 30 to be extremely dull and lacking in either class,
Intellect or sophistication. Or perhaps it is more accurate to say that “older” (than me) women - by comparison - tended to have more Class, intellect and sophistication and so I gravitated Towards them?
That being said, I have nothing against a younger lady, so,
Ya know, if you’re wanting to refer someone this way?!  |
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What classes as older or mature?
I have had messages from men in their twenties saying they are looking for a more mature woman. I’ve never really asked why as generally I prefer older, more experienced (with life, not just sexually) men. I guess the same applies the other way round.
As an aside, the worst sex I’ve ever had was with a 25year old. |
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By *aultsCouple (MM)
over a year ago
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One of the important things is that younger men looking for younger women already have a lot of outlets to find younger women. Just based off that I reckon there's an inherent selection bias in that apps like Tinder tend to have a younger audience, and websites like this one tend to skew further towards more mature people in general. Therefore, if you're a man who prefers the more mature women, you would be more likely to be using this site in the first place.
My personal experience as a younger guy, I have just always preferred women older than myself. Even as a kid I always had crushes on my teachers rather than classmates.
I think for a lot of people it's not about younger ladies doing something "wrong," but more what the more mature are doing right.
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Most younger girls like older guys because they are grown up and have their **it together and are settled, plus most lads their age are so immature and treat them bad. Some Older women like younger guys because it gives them a buzz and they like a guy in shape, younger lads see older women as experienced and know what they want and no hassle. |
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"The general impression is that younger people being inexperienced are not as good in bed so people want someone older and more experienced for a good time.
Logic is fairly sound but not always true"
Men from my experience are similar in bed regardless of age. So it comes down to the individual, I had inexperienced men in their 30s and experienced men in their early 20s |
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"Most younger girls like older guys because they are grown up and have their **it together and are settled, plus most lads their age are so immature and treat them bad. Some Older women like younger guys because it gives them a buzz and they like a guy in shape, younger lads see older women as experienced and know what they want and no hassle. "
It's definitely younger men's immaturity outside the bedroom puts me right off. But in bed, it's older men's lack of enthusiasm and stamina |
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Older women are perceived as easy targets and desperate, grateful for any attention. Younger women are perceived as getting lots of attention in social settings, therefore harder to attract.
Just my thoughts  |
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"Older women are perceived as easy targets and desperate, grateful for any attention. Younger women are perceived as getting lots of attention in social settings, therefore harder to attract.
Just my thoughts "
I'll back you up on that because that was going to me my next post.
Granted some men are attracted to older women but the majority of younger men here begin to contact older women when they aren't getting anywhere with women their own age....... stay here long enough and they are soon contacting other blokes  |
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"Older women are perceived as easy targets and desperate, grateful for any attention. Younger women are perceived as getting lots of attention in social settings, therefore harder to attract.
Just my thoughts
I'll back you up on that because that was going to me my next post.
Granted some men are attracted to older women but the majority of younger men here begin to contact older women when they aren't getting anywhere with women their own age....... stay here long enough and they are soon contacting other blokes "
I’m waiting for the younger women to see me as easy prey.... my ships gonna come in then oh boy!! |
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"Older women are perceived as easy targets and desperate, grateful for any attention. Younger women are perceived as getting lots of attention in social settings, therefore harder to attract.
Just my thoughts "
Not sure about this one, I guess it's situational, don't older men think young girls are easier? Due to the fact a lot of you women go for older men, don't think it's always the case but you'd have to be pretty simple to think older women are just plain easier.
Everyone is different but people are people, nothing is 'wrong' with anyone.
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"Older women are perceived as easy targets and desperate, grateful for any attention. Younger women are perceived as getting lots of attention in social settings, therefore harder to attract.
Just my thoughts "
I'm an older woman and uber fussy as you learn through experiences that it's quality over quantity. Any self respecting woman knows that and wouldn't just "pop her cherry" for any Tom, Dick or Harry. The amount of ill thought messages I get on a daily basis from online sites prove to me definitely need to value my self worth and not go for anyone who just askes, otherwise I have to give up my job and become full time serial dater |
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"*Nose piercings
*The massive drawn on eyebrows
*Vans pumps
*Glued to their phones/social media
Thats enough to put me off sub 30 year olds
Blimey I’m 60 and I have 3 of those things "
I duno even know what a van pump is, does that make me too old? lol I'm pretty tired of men, regardless of their age, in general. Just continually get self centred behaviour from men that makes me understand why some women don't bother trying anymore or turn into a lesbians. I feel like standards of courting eachother has drastically slipped down over last few years. It's like people are treated more so as disposable objects than ever before  |
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"I'd say mobile phones, too many fish lip selfies and all thinking they are or trying to emulate minor celebrities "
Mobile phones in general mixed with this social media obsession is an issue .
So many people living a faux life online and forgetting to live their genuine one. Imo .
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"What is it , where are they going wrong?
So many young guys on here looking for “older / mature”. Their words. I’m far too old now of course, but when younger I really liked women of my own age, or younger. In my mid to late forties I dated women in early to mid thirties and they were fantastic!
Are they doing something wrong? Or are men on their own age the problem? "
To be fair they only want older women for casual sex they still want younger for ‘real’ ... there are many many younger men on here who suffer from
The Madonna vs whore syndrome.
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