Hey, we are new to this site (been on for a few months) but struggling to find exactly what we came on for- to find another female to join us.
It’s really difficult because we’re also very private and need to be discreet because of our jobs but so many people want to see faces straight away.
Any tips/advise would be much appreciated.
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Maybe search away from your local area. Its a common concern for people entering the lifestyle and we have all been through it. Maybe arrange a hotel meet (when permitted) and you can double it up as a shopping or relaxing city break, with the bonus of maybe getting your MFF. If they don't show you will be disappointed but have a new city to explore, if they do and you play then bonus. |
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"Hey, we are new to this site (been on for a few months) but struggling to find exactly what we came on for- to find another female to join us.
It’s really difficult because we’re also very private and need to be discreet because of our jobs but so many people want to see faces straight away.
Any tips/advise would be much appreciated.
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My usual advice would be to go to a club. But obviously that can't happen right now. So I'd say just focus on getting to know people via fab for now, before we're allowed to meet again.
Many people aren't meeting right now anyway, so it could be a while until this happens for you. |
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"Hey, we are new to this site (been on for a few months) but struggling to find exactly what we came on for- to find another female to join us.
It’s really difficult because we’re also very private and need to be discreet because of our jobs but so many people want to see faces straight away.
Any tips/advise would be much appreciated.
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Get some classy pics up on your public site so that you generate some interest. Don’t use overly graphic ones - find some profiles with good pics and create your own versions - look at the hotlist for some inspiration!
Be patient. And laid back.
Go to a club when that is again possible. |
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I like to see pictures of the female AND male. Especially ones together: take a normal photo together and just crop the heads off. It gives a different vibe of a couple I want to get in the middle of  |
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What works for us is to concentrate on the person and not the fantasy. Get to know people because you like them, not because you hope they do something for you. Most women want to feel valued as a person not as a sex toy.
The more a woman feels you want her because of who she is, the more likely she is to want to go in an intimate direction with you. The more she feels like you only know her because you want something from her, the more less likely she is to be interested.
Anybody has to feel there is something in it for them. Do you get messages from guys saying they want to get with you and don't give any indication that they have any interest in what's in it for you? Couples can make women feel like that too.
We have found it pretty easy to build relationships with people who are potentially interested in a threesome with us, and that's because we are not goal-orientated. We just want to meet lovely people. We are happy to see where things lead. You would be surprised at how many opportunities open up without even trying. |
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"What works for us is to concentrate on the person and not the fantasy. Get to know people because you like them, not because you hope they do something for you. Most women want to feel valued as a person not as a sex toy.
The more a woman feels you want her because of who she is, the more likely she is to want to go in an intimate direction with you. The more she feels like you only know her because you want something from her, the more less likely she is to be interested.
Anybody has to feel there is something in it for them. Do you get messages from guys saying they want to get with you and don't give any indication that they have any interest in what's in it for you? Couples can make women feel like that too.
We have found it pretty easy to build relationships with people who are potentially interested in a threesome with us, and that's because we are not goal-orientated. We just want to meet lovely people. We are happy to see where things lead. You would be surprised at how many opportunities open up without even trying. "
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"What works for us is to concentrate on the person and not the fantasy. Get to know people because you like them, not because you hope they do something for you. Most women want to feel valued as a person not as a sex toy.
The more a woman feels you want her because of who she is, the more likely she is to want to go in an intimate direction with you. The more she feels like you only know her because you want something from her, the more less likely she is to be interested.
Anybody has to feel there is something in it for them. Do you get messages from guys saying they want to get with you and don't give any indication that they have any interest in what's in it for you? Couples can make women feel like that too.
We have found it pretty easy to build relationships with people who are potentially interested in a threesome with us, and that's because we are not goal-orientated. We just want to meet lovely people. We are happy to see where things lead. You would be surprised at how many opportunities open up without even trying. "
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Hey all thank you so much for all of your advise & tips. Ya we are looking to get to know someone virtually during this period & then when it’s safe to do so, meet up!
Thanks again we really do appreciate it
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"What works for us is to concentrate on the person and not the fantasy. Get to know people because you like them, not because you hope they do something for you. Most women want to feel valued as a person not as a sex toy.
The more a woman feels you want her because of who she is, the more likely she is to want to go in an intimate direction with you. The more she feels like you only know her because you want something from her, the more less likely she is to be interested.
Anybody has to feel there is something in it for them. Do you get messages from guys saying they want to get with you and don't give any indication that they have any interest in what's in it for you? Couples can make women feel like that too.
We have found it pretty easy to build relationships with people who are potentially interested in a threesome with us, and that's because we are not goal-orientated. We just want to meet lovely people. We are happy to see where things lead. You would be surprised at how many opportunities open up without even trying. "
Thank you so much for this reply. It makes perfect sense. X |
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"What works for us is to concentrate on the person and not the fantasy. Get to know people because you like them, not because you hope they do something for you. Most women want to feel valued as a person not as a sex toy.
The more a woman feels you want her because of who she is, the more likely she is to want to go in an intimate direction with you. The more she feels like you only know her because you want something from her, the more less likely she is to be interested.
Anybody has to feel there is something in it for them. Do you get messages from guys saying they want to get with you and don't give any indication that they have any interest in what's in it for you? Couples can make women feel like that too.
We have found it pretty easy to build relationships with people who are potentially interested in a threesome with us, and that's because we are not goal-orientated. We just want to meet lovely people. We are happy to see where things lead. You would be surprised at how many opportunities open up without even trying. "
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"I like to see pictures of the female AND male. Especially ones together: take a normal photo together and just crop the heads off. It gives a different vibe of a couple I want to get in the middle of "
Thank you so your response. We will definitely use your advise x |
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"Most people find this very difficult. Extremely difficult.
During a pandemic when such meetings are somewhere between a bad idea and illegal will make it harder again."
Hey yes unfortunately this is the case. We’re just looking to get to know people virtually atm & then when it’s safe to do so, meet up.
Thanks for your response
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"Maybe search away from your local area. Its a common concern for people entering the lifestyle and we have all been through it. Maybe arrange a hotel meet (when permitted) and you can double it up as a shopping or relaxing city break, with the bonus of maybe getting your MFF. If they don't show you will be disappointed but have a new city to explore, if they do and you play then bonus."
Thank you for your message. Great idea, we will use your advise for the future X |
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"Hey, we are new to this site (been on for a few months) but struggling to find exactly what we came on for- to find another female to join us.
It’s really difficult because we’re also very private and need to be discreet because of our jobs but so many people want to see faces straight away.
Any tips/advise would be much appreciated.
Hey, yes we’ve heard a lot about attending clubs. We will look into this once they reopen and it’s safe to finally meet up with people again.
Thanks for your comment x
My usual advice would be to go to a club. But obviously that can't happen right now. So I'd say just focus on getting to know people via fab for now, before we're allowed to meet again.
Many people aren't meeting right now anyway, so it could be a while until this happens for you. "
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